Exactly How To Use Text Messages To Get Your Ex Boyfriend Back

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VL

August 8, 2013 at 3:13 pm

Hi Chris:
I have a very complicated story and would love some advice. My ex (bf? not sure if ex is really what I would describe each other as) and I were together for 1 yr and 9 mths. He has three children from previous relationships, all of whom I fell madly in love with. Back in December of last year he decided that he needed space, so I moved out. He has a habit of being extremely stressed about money, and in turn takes things out on our relationship, which to me is a cop-out but that’s besides the point. We were perfect together, similar interests, both artists, both very spiritual, everything seemed to be so great. He said he had never felt someone loved him so much as I did. I felt the same. We went all through christmas holidays without any contact, then end of Christmas he contacted me, said he wanted me to come up for a visit, so I did. We went back into the relationship, although I was still living in my hometown, travelling back and forth. Well about two mths ago, I found text messages on his phone from his ex (the youngest’s mother), they were very flirty, and crossed a huge line in my opinion, I brought it up to him, we had a huge blow up, but he ended up contacting me again after a week, we sat down and talked about it and he admitted there was nothing more to it then just flirting and being friends (his ex is quite the piece of work let me tell you, it would take page upon page of writing to fully explain how manipulative this woman is.) Then out of the blue again, he says he needs space, wants to let go of some things so he can think. Dosen’t want to talk everyday, still loves me and misses me but things just aren’t working right now, because of our last big fight (umm duh!! not my fault you decided to flirt with your ex and got caught)..anyways, I had NC with him up until Monday. A friend of mine had told me he deleted everything off his facebook that had to do with me, including pictures of me with the youngest boy. And that he had friended his ex. I was then texted from an anonymous person saying that him and his ex were back together and he was with her right at that very moment of the texting, that he was at her house having drinks with her (no big deal, so was the little boy, they’ve hung out before, I never cared, I trusted him that much.) I kept my cool though and didn’t talk to him. He texted me Monday a.m to say that he missed me and wanted to call me and has been talking to me ever since (still hasn’t physically called me though..grrrrrr ).. Last night he started showing signs of backing off again, retreating from the convo a litte, drops off the face of the earth at night, only to text again this morning. What should my next course of action be?

admin

August 9, 2013 at 4:30 am

Man, that is like a drama saga!

Some anonoymous person texts you. Am I the only one that finds that creepy? Hahaha

So yes, if this ex is as manipulative as you say she may have quite a hold over him. Manipulative women can control men like nobodies business. Honestly, I think you should go a full NC for a month and really work on evolving during that time. It should be more about YOU than him.

Megan

August 8, 2013 at 4:11 am

Hi, im 16 and have been dating the sweetest guy. We were together for exactly one year and 9 days. He was my first love. But suddently out of the blue he dumped me. I took it really hard as most people do and i never had contach with him for 2 and a half months. Then ended up hanging out on my birthday day and he kept hugging me and picking me up and talking to me and talking about the past and began showing me alot of songs that are about missing girls and missing their relationships with the girls and i couldnt take it. I Cried and he asked me why i was crying. I told him the truth that i still had very strong feelings for him. He told me that i should move on. But he continues to hug me and pretend to kiss me and shows me love songs and all of that. He has even asked me if i wanted to sleepover so i did and he watched all the movies i wanted to see and let me sleep in his room on his floor. (im not into sex so nothing happened) Ive asked my friends advice and they say that he still likes me but im very unsure of whether to stay and try to work things out or to leave and try to painstakingly move on. I need professionaladvice. Does he still love me or not? Should i try to win him back? (ive already done the no contact rule and ive gave myself a makeover.)help?

admin

August 9, 2013 at 4:06 am

Well, at that age guys can be a little silly. They aren’t emotionally all there yet. So, just try not to get too upset if the ship rocks back and forth with him.

You say youve tried NC. Well, that is really good but what have you done to get him to chase you? You need to control conversations with him more.

Kelsey

August 8, 2013 at 2:19 am

Me and Rob met at lakeside casino in Nov 2012 he wanted me but I keep turning him down but then I develop feelings for him but I didn’t want to ruin our friendship but the feelings got worse. We dated for 2 months then he started havin troubles with his house and he text me that he might lose his house and he just wanted to be friends. Then I kept bugging him becuz I wanted to make sure he was ok but he ignore me so my mom got his number from my phone and text him behind my back and I over reacted becuz I never got that close to a guy and i been texting him to try to make it work out but he kept saying I have other problems right now and I was trying to b nice but stop texting me. He thinks when I text him its all about me and its not all i said was I never got that close to a guy before and he’s said I’m talking about me he told dont text me anymore. I just want us to be friends again. I just over reacted becuz my female emotions took over me. But my mom been texting him behind my back and that didn’t help. Plz help me he’s my only friend. Plz help me I’m crying. He told me not to text him anymore. He lost his house so I don’t know where he is and he won’t answer my calls just my texts. He quit his job 1 month ago and we were still dating at the time he quit. We broke up on July 19th and last time I texted him was July 28th. He unfriend me from Facebook. Rob helped me a lot with my self esteem by calling me beautiful all the time even we were friends he called me that. He told me he has more important things to worry about and not concern about my feelings right now. He told me its over and to leave him alone. He’s still lives with his parents and they’re losing so I know he’s under a lot of stress. He promised me to always stay by my side no matter what and he told me he’s a man of word.
Do not say he’s not gonna talk to u so stop trying.
I don’t care what it says. Just give me a text. I want to show him a text on how much I care for him and how sorry I He fought to be my friend I want to fight to be his friend again. I’ll do anything to be his friend again. When we dated we didn’t have sex just played around with each other. I’m 21 and he’s 24. I been at the bar every night drinking to eases the pain but nothing workin I have no other friends. So p,z help me. :'( I been texting him but he was being rude to me and I was being nice now I’m being rude too now.
So plz help I want this to work out so he can b my friend again. I texted him 2day and try to work it out but he was mean to me I was being nice then I started being mean. Then I texted him that I was done with him but now I regretted textin him that. What should I do I just want him back as my friend.

I want to text him how much I care about him.
What can I text him to show how much I care about him

PLZ HELP ME!!!!! He’s my only friend 🙁

admin

August 8, 2013 at 2:38 am

Kelsey,

I can tell you exactly what you are doing wrong.

You reek of desperation. I am not saying this to be rude or mean. I am saying it to advise you on the fact that desperation is a scary turnoff for men.

If you text him in the state you are in now you won’t get him back. But if you wait till the dust settles and then text him you might have a chance.
Kelsey

August 8, 2013 at 2:40 am

What should I do
admin

August 8, 2013 at 2:44 am

Have you read this page: https://www.exboyfriendrecovery.com/how-get-your-ex-boyfriend-back/

Doing the things outlined there (no matter how hard they are) will improve your chances of getting him back.
Kelsey

August 8, 2013 at 2:55 am

I mean I wanted tell him I’m Sorry that I said I’m done with u
Kelsey

August 8, 2013 at 2:46 am

I’m sorry I just missed him. I want to tell him that I said I’m done with you.

cori

August 7, 2013 at 6:16 am

Him my bf broke up with me 2days ago we were together a year Andaman half… I think he just didt fancy enough any more.. The break up was bad as we lived together so this meant me clearing out all stuff… Now was wonderingwe took a weekbreak before broke up should tat count or we i start the 30days again… Just add he completely deleted me from his life deleted all photos Any thing tat ever reminds him of me.. I feel so hurt being cut out like never existed… This a sign i won’t get him back?… Oh also i not to do it for 30days but when do send the first message what if they don’t reply like …and then you send the next message etc and they don’t reply when to just stop… Please help

admin

August 8, 2013 at 2:01 am

I am a little confused with your comment here…

But, I guess I would say do a 30 day no contact rule.
cori

August 12, 2013 at 4:25 pm

sorry just meant we went on a week break before we broke up just wondering is tat included in the 30 days Of no contact? or do i just start again? also can no contact work if u think they might be seeing sum1 else?
admin

August 13, 2013 at 3:01 am

I would say the initial breakup date is when you should start NC. So, the “break” I would not count.
cori

August 12, 2013 at 5:05 pm

oh and just need to ask what if your ex is dropping something back to you.. i havt texted him since reading this but what if he texts me asking if ill Der to take it off him do i break the nc or just ignore it?
admin

August 13, 2013 at 3:04 am

You can break NC if you need to exchange your things.

Brianna

August 6, 2013 at 8:59 pm

Hi. I just broke up with my boyfriend of 9 months because of his anger issues. Recently he was treating me awfully when I came to his house for a picnic date, made him pancakes from scratch, and put on this really nice dress to go with the food I made. But he was in a bad mood the whole day, I tried treating him nicely, and making his day better, but he just says to me, I don’t think that you have been working out. Ouch. He kept on being angry, for two days and then when I couldn’t take it anymore I broke up with him. This was yesterday. I feel like it is a bad decision. I even called him today and told him that I wanted him back. He told me “I understand that you still love me, but I need to figure out if I still want you.” I’m so hurt, I want to be with him still and help him through his anger. Do I still have a chance with this method?

admin

August 7, 2013 at 3:17 am

Yes, but it is really really important that you hit the NC rule first.

That comment about “working out” was really mean. It should make you mad. However, to me I just hear that he isn’t attracted to the way you look right now as compared to when you first started dating. I would make him regret those words and literally have HIM begging to get you back.

Use his idiotic comment to fuel you to become so sexy he won’t be able to think straight.

Dhalia

August 6, 2013 at 4:32 pm

Hi Chris!
I am a girl from Sweden and I found this website, I think it is great and I would like to get you opinion 🙂

So I met my ex seven years ago. He is my first love and I am his. Our bond is so strong, even when we are not together and just being friends. As we grew up together i went through some identity crisis for a period of one year. I was confused about certain path in my life and unfortunately while I was going through this is tore him away from me.
I know the “game” so well. The NC, how to text and how to set up a meeting with him and how he comes back to me and wants to get back together. Keep this in mind, he is not your average guy you refer to on your page. Yes he has some of the qualities but he is very emotional and caring. He is extremely attracted to me, he always says that he could not believe he got me as a girlfriend (He is actually one of those extremely handsome men that is down to earth).
I have tried the get your ex back now I think 3 times and every time it worked. But I admit I should have worked on how to keep him afterwards. Sometimes I get scared and sometime him to fall into the dark hole again. But when he gets scared he breaks up with me.
This time I was planing to get him back again, but in a different way. I would try the “game” again and right before the end I was going to be the one to ask him to come back. I wanted the back and forth to be over and start new.
I planed a grand gesture. I had the whole bedroom in candles, I bought sexy underwear and I wrote him a love letter and downloaded his favorite songs to the bedroom.
So I played “get your ex back game” again and he was just about to kiss me after we were cuddling for a while and telling me how irresistible I am. But he stopped, he told me he had met someone. I was in chock. How have you been with me like that and you have another girl. I took it well and not over reacted so I would not scare him off.
This time it is different, keep still in mind they he is a sensitive guy and a rebound is not maybe his thing.
I could see that I still have a hold on him but it is not working anymore. So I reveled to him that I did had a grand gesture planed out and that I loved him. He was so touched and started crying, but still he did not come back to me.
So I told him that I will back off, that I love him and choose what makes you happy.
Do you think it is over, because this time it is different? He is at that age he wants to settle and I seem to risky maybe?
By the way, she changed her Facebook profile picture of them together. But he sais he is happy with her but she did the facebook thing too soon.

admin

August 7, 2013 at 3:04 am

Your ex doesn’t seem like that great of a guy to me, no offense. He was doing that stuff with you while he was with this other girl? That is a mean thing to do to her and you.

I would go NC on him. Like serious NC.

Cara

August 5, 2013 at 1:35 am

I really threatened a guy I had a crush on, and I want to get him back. It was not like he did not like me, but I was seeing his girlfriend and me during different periods of time. I know that I will have to forget him, and this sounds stupid. But if I want to get him in the future, do I have to apologize first, and just do NC? Or do NC without apologies?

admin

August 5, 2013 at 3:46 am

NC without apologies
Cara

August 9, 2013 at 1:17 am

Thank you so much for your reply. He texted me 6 days after the big break up. I think I read from somewhere that I should not reply him even if he texted me during NC.
Is this correct? I will appreciate your help.
admin

August 9, 2013 at 4:44 am

Yea, you are not supposed to message him during this time. You wait until the 30 days are up before you text him.
Cara

August 9, 2013 at 1:33 am

I think you will say do NC w/o a response. BTW, I made a typo in my original writing.

“I really threatened a guy I had a crush on, and I want to get him back. It was not like he did not like me, but HE was seeing his girlfriend and me during different periods of time. I know that I will have to forget him, and this sounds stupid. But if I want to get him in the future, do I have to apologize first, and just do NC? Or do NC without apologies?”

If you can help me out by giving more comments, I will truly appreciate it.:)
admin

August 9, 2013 at 4:46 am

Do NC without apologies

Sorry, I am a little confused at what you were asking again. It is really late here and I am a little burned out but stick with me!

faran

August 4, 2013 at 11:08 am

hi!me and my boyfriend are in long distance relationship for 2 years..5 months ago he cheated on me just 3 days before i arrived to his place for his birthday. after i realized he was with another girl i packed everything to leave his house but he started begging me,crying and asked me for a chance.after a week i accepted.for 2 months he did everything,he became an ideal man ive ever desire!but suddenly he tired of my behaviour becuase i had become so pessimestic..2 weeks ago he went on a trip and told me its for his job,but from his twitter i found out its not just about work!and he is dating with another girl..i was so angry,i asked him to explain but he deny..i want him back and i told him i know my bad behaviour in last 3 months but he is not like previous time!he told me i’ll think but i need time and my feelings depends on you..what should i do now?

admin

August 5, 2013 at 3:20 am

no contact that fools butt!
faran

August 5, 2013 at 5:25 am

do u think he will be back again? he also told me that thesedays im just tired and i dont want or i cant be in relation , im tired of answering question or checking by others everyday ! is it jus a reaction to my bad behaviour after first time?and what about that girl? he is still on vacation with her …i feel im a loser..maybe he loves that girl?!
admin

August 6, 2013 at 2:58 am

I can’t guarantee you that he will be back with you at all that is something that is impossible for anyone to promise. I think the best course of action to you is not worry so much about the other girl and just focus on YOU.

ashley

August 3, 2013 at 11:03 pm

long story short my boyfriend and I have been together 6 years, in these 6 years we have broken up 3 major times and every time he has a rebound girl then ends up realizing he misses me and wants me back and we get back together. I want to be with him and I know exactly how to get him back… thanks to you, but what I really need help with is that im afraid at this point he doesn’t miss me or feel were done cause I am always right here when hes ready. I know the no contact rule will help but once we do start talking again how do I get him back without him thinking that im always going to be around after?

admin

August 4, 2013 at 3:26 am

Do you mean how can you get back with him without him “running back” to you after a rebound?

dne

August 3, 2013 at 11:36 am

hi,
what if i tried to ignore his text or calls. and then he might think that i have moved on? and then he’ll move on? my ex and I were at the same school and I will often see him. If he noticed that i was ignoring him,will he think that I moved on? and lose interest? what if he ignores me back?

admin

August 4, 2013 at 2:49 am

If you see him in person it is ok to be friendly. But you are just pressing the pause button for only a month and the picking up again. He will get mad for sure but trust me when I say that just means he has strong feelings for you still.

Christine Servin

August 3, 2013 at 4:16 am

Hi Chris, my name is Christine and I’d like your advice on my situation please. I’m a mentor for a religious program and that’s where I met my ex boyfriend since he’s a mentor as well. We were friends at first but we became really close and pretty soon we were in a relationship. It was absolutely wonderful but after two months he talked toe saying that his work life was taking up a lot of his time. He didn’t have time for family which is something important to him. He then said he needed time and said he loves me but he needs time for himself but he wants to be friends. I was fine since we still talked and I saw him at the religios program. However I felt him ignoring me for a while but now the program is over for now so I’m starting the no contact rule since I won’t see him at all. However, I don’t know if I should continue because I’m not sure if he still loves me as much as he did when we were together

admin

August 4, 2013 at 2:28 am

Hi Christine,

(Awesome name 😉 .)

Absolutely you should try the NC rule! Even if he lost some feelings you can use the NC rule to reignite them!

dara

August 3, 2013 at 3:37 am

hi chris,,thank you for doing this site,,,
i read all the love problems here and i can say that it helps a lot,,and i can say im not alone…haha..kidding..
my story goes like this i have a boyfriend for just half a year,we live together for almost 2mos.. in the first 3mos hes like a possessive boyfriend he called me almost every hour to check on me,he always say iloveyou whenever he wanted to,he always makes me feel that he loves me,he always get jealous of other people around me thinking that i ignore him,,and he told me that i was his inspiration..but i felt that time that im suffocated by all the attention he was given me, in short i took him for granted,,he felt that i dont love him and did not appreciate him…i always tell him that we should break up.but he always refuses telling me he loves me so much.we almost fight everyday.yesteday he got exhausted of my attitude he told me that we need space,he broke up with me.. i told him that i am sorry for what i did, but he never listens. i think he became stone-hearted..i begged him for another chance but he never listens he told me that he can no longer continue,,what would i do..this time i realized all he did for me,i know its such a short period of time but i love him what should i do??

admin

August 3, 2013 at 3:46 am

Well, right off the bat you should begin a NC rule.
dara

August 3, 2013 at 3:55 am

do you think he will contact me or he will totally forget about me?b/c i think he became a stone hearted person…i feel like he doesn’t care at all…sorry, im just frustrated right now. =-(
admin

August 4, 2013 at 2:21 am

Don’t apologize, I understand what you are feeling exactly.

I don’t think he will forget you at all. Sure, he may be angry but if he is that just means he cares and that isn’t a horrible thing.
dara

August 5, 2013 at 12:25 pm

i hope he’s the same as the other who can forget everything that i’ve done wrong,,,can i court him after nc period?nahhh,,how stupid of me… haha,,,i dont know if nc will help or will make him slip away…but ill take the risk anyway,,,super thanks… 😉
please..help me through prayers…haha,,,
admin

August 6, 2013 at 3:18 am

Will do Dara!
dara

August 4, 2013 at 7:28 am

is it true that when a guy told you its over,is it really over??that you can never change his mind??bc that was he told me before….when i remember what he said i loose hope,really,,,
admin

August 5, 2013 at 3:11 am

I think in some cases it is true. However, I have helped a lot of women whose exes have said that and didn’t mean it.
dara

August 3, 2013 at 4:35 am

and one more thing he deleted our picture and even unfriend me on social networking site,,,i think really wanted to get rid of me and move on,,haaay,,so problematic right now,,

chynah

August 3, 2013 at 2:26 am

Hi me & my boyfriend had been together for 8 months, we had to break up because my ex bf hit him & his parents didn’t want him with me right now. But that was 2 months ago, we talk everyday & we even go places with my family still but i want a relationship again, where we claim eachother. What dp i do ? We are still in love btw

But we do everything like in a relationship, sex and everything
want us to be together again. But i feel like im the only one trying to get us really back together. I want him to prove he wants me and only me & get us back together. Any thoughts or suggestions

admin

August 3, 2013 at 3:32 am

Sorry, I am a little confused by this comment. Your ex boyfriend hit who?
chynah

August 3, 2013 at 1:59 pm

The boyfriend that i was just with got hit by a ex boyfriend from my past.
chynah

August 4, 2013 at 2:56 am

Yes
admin

August 4, 2013 at 3:28 am

Wow, that is messed up.

Is that particular ex in jail?
admin

August 4, 2013 at 2:55 am

Like an ex boyfriend of yours assualted him?

Singtoh

August 2, 2013 at 6:54 pm

I broke up with my boyfriend of 7years two weeks ago for his constant habit of cheating, since then I didnot contact him, I unfriend him on my social network page. I saw his 3 missed calls two days ago, I called him back, he told me he wants to talk to me and that i should make out time to see him. I told him that if he can’t tell me whatever it is on phone he should leave it, that I’m not seeing him.
I dont know how else to reply his future calls, if he did call me again. I want him back but after readingg your article I want to start the no contact period.
How do I go about it?

admin

August 3, 2013 at 3:09 am

Are you sure you want him back. If he has a habit of cheating then I can pretty much say it WILL happen again.

Gina

August 2, 2013 at 2:49 pm

Hello Chris,
I was in a relationship with my ex for 3 years. He broke up with me exactly a year ago because he wasn’t ready for the next step.. yaddi yadda.. whatever! But I did the no contact rule with him for a few months because he wanted to continue communicating with me but it just killed me. Well after about 4 months I gave in talked to him and eventually we started seeing each other again, occasionally going on dates and sleeping together again. I know it was a big mistake on my part because he made it clear he didn’t want to get back together and I just couldn’t help it, well about a month ago I pulled a jealousy text because ( I know this is really stupid) but I saw that he was interacting with another girl via snap chat. Yes I know.. but it’s the fact of the matter and I texted him saying “oh I have competition hu?! and his reply was “Yeahhh,, she’s outsnapping you, you better get on it”. I mean I know.. what did I expect right? were not “together” and he’s free to talk to whoever but it just made me realize that knowing he has interests in other girls kills me and probably always will until I’m over him. Well needless to say I never wrote him back to his witty text and he has yet to text again either.. it’s been a month. I don’t even know what I would say at this point I feel a bit silly for getting that jealous but I mean I care about him so much and don’t want to be just his friend, yet it’s killing me not to talk to him at all and you know what they say.. “out of sight out of mind” Am I’m giving him the opportunity to really get over me completely by not talking to him? while I’m still so hurt by our breakup 🙁 Help please!

admin

August 3, 2013 at 3:05 am

I think you can contact him again for sure but make your next text really interesting. Nothing like “hey, whats up.”

joanne

August 2, 2013 at 2:10 am

hi, i follow the no contact rule, and after 1 and half month.. he really contact me back! he is asking me how i am doing? i still don know what to reply?

admin

August 2, 2013 at 2:14 am

If you are still in NC don’t reply.

However, I would say don’t reply anyways. He reached out now tomorrow you can reach out to him via the text message on this page.
joanne

August 2, 2013 at 10:38 am

omg… i reply on the second day,saying “doing fine” just two words..i still nervous and don know what to do? any idea????
admin

August 3, 2013 at 3:00 am

You used two words? I specifically say NOT to do stuff like that on this page hahahaha. It’s ok though. Just read and read this page and formulate your strategy.
joanne

August 3, 2013 at 6:52 am

anywhr, i really don really understand about man psycho.well, he lost his mum when baby, and is a guy who miss mum always.heis so handsome and always feel alone. he should be a nice guy like what i see with my own eyes.but can u tell me why he always change girls and hv lots of sim card numbers in the past? why guy play anywhr?he reply me and state that i am a nice girl and asking me miss him or nt?i don really knw what he is thinking.. what a guy think?
admin

August 4, 2013 at 2:37 am

….. not to sound mean but the spelling is so horrible in this comment I can’t make sense of it.

Lorna

July 31, 2013 at 6:57 pm

Hey Chris,
I really need help. I’m so hurt and in shock. I’ve been with the same man for 5yrs. We were to get married two weeks ago but had to postpone due to is job. He’s on the road working 7 days a wk. He works 21 days straight then off for a week. Just 4 wks ago we got to see each other and went to visit his family, we were like newlyweds. We’ve not been fighting Nothing! He’s on been on the road for 2 mths. We even told his parents our plans for moving down there to be close to his family, everything was great! He really wanted me to be with him on the road but unable to due to a wk comp. case I have going on here. Well just this past Fri. he started acting different on the phone,i knew something wasn’t right. When asking him he would get mad and say everythings ok. Well Sunday when this happen he cut our conversation short saying he would call me later. Well after hanging up he didn’t know he pocket dialed me and i hear him go up to his room and had a woman waiting for him, I hear their whole conversation,unti she seen he dail me and hung up. I’m numb and so much pain. He still has not contacted me all all even after i left voice mail and text him. The voice mail and text wasn’t even mean. All it said was I know hear everything “why?, please call me, after 5 yrs. you least owe me an explanation. Please be a man and an adult at this moment and call me. You know i know about your affair. If I ever meant anything to you please call and lets talk. I’m sure your new girlfrie nd will understand she knows about me. I heard it all please call i at leasr deserve That” His family was in shock and very upset with him. They had no ideal! They told me he always talked about his love for me, and never seen him happier. This is my story, Can’t express the pain i’m truly in! Your my last hope. Thanks for the leandig ear.

admin

August 1, 2013 at 5:23 am

Wow, that is like straight from a movie. No, I mean you just can’t make that up.

He does owe you an explanation. But I think above that you need to sort out what you want. Do you really want him back or do you want to just move on and have a hell of a life?

Laura

July 31, 2013 at 2:26 pm

Chris
I need your help. My ex and I broke up yesterday after a year and a half of being together. It was a long distance relationship that we had. There were situtations that I just couldn’t see him when he wanted me too. We have had a lot of trouble lately and our text and phone calls have been next to nothing over the last month. Yesterday he told me to never contact him again that he wanted nothing to do with me that my love was a lie and I’m a lie. I didn’t contact him after he sent that but I want to get him back and prove to him I’m not a lie and my love was real. I’m in the same state as he is now but he doesn’t want me to talk to him. What do I do? He is the love of my life and I want to get him back so bad.

admin

August 1, 2013 at 5:14 am

First off, before you do anything I would like you to read this page: https://www.exboyfriendrecovery.com/what-to-do-if-your-ex-boyfriend-tells-you-he-never-loved-you/

Catherine

July 30, 2013 at 9:50 pm

Hi,

I dated my ex for a couple of months only. I had to leave the country and when I came back he was with someone already. We remained friends but when I saw that his relationship with the other woman was getting serious, I cut contact without telling him. I deleted him from my FaceBook because when he started tagging HER and including her in everything just broke my heart. I had NC for about 1 year.

I sent him a “Hey” message on FB and he said “What’s up” right after. I didn’t respond for 4 days and requested his friendship on FB when I didn’t see him accept within 12hrs, I cancelled the request. Now he is asking me what my story is and that he doesn’t know why he is talking to me as I have a “habit of disappearing”. My last message to him went something like this:

“I’m your Ursula that’s why I don’t think you can get rid of me lol. You’re busy with your own thing, didn’t think you’d notice”

That was yesterday. I haven’t heard from him.. Was that too much? BTW: Ursula is his pet name for me..the witch from the Little Mermaid (when she became pretty)..

What should I do?? I’d really appreciate some advice right now. Thanks!

Catherine

August 4, 2013 at 2:06 am

Hi Chris, sorry me again.. It’s been day 3 of NC. It is so very tough.

I don’t understand. I haven’t had contact with my ex for almost 1 year and after a couple of light banter with each other on FB messages he decides to ignore my last replies to him. Was it something I said? I don’t understand. Is he still angry because I disappeared and froze him out of my life (unfriended him on FB and left the country) with out telling him?

Can you tell me from a guy’s perspective? Do you think this is a lost cause and he will never talk to me again? Thanks.
admin

August 4, 2013 at 3:20 am

From my perspective, it seems like you caught him on a day where he wasn’t in the mood to talk.

that doesn’t mean he won’t ever talk again.
Catherine

August 4, 2013 at 12:45 pm

Thanks! But how can I make him chase me again and go a little crazy like I am now with this NC business? Waiting for him to respond is tiring.
admin

August 5, 2013 at 3:20 am

Perhaps a bit of jealousy?
admin

July 31, 2013 at 2:31 am

I think you should have texted him. Also, you shouldn’t have sent the friend request and then retracted it. Now he knows that and it gives him confidence like “oh yea, she wants me.”
Catherine

July 31, 2013 at 2:57 am

Ok, too late all done. How can I make this situation better for me going forward? Just not make contact until he does?
admin

August 1, 2013 at 5:00 am

I think after a month you can contact him no matter what.
Catherine

August 1, 2013 at 8:54 pm

Thanks. Unfortunately, I sent him another FB message after 2 days that went something like this:

“Anyways, my story is very long and I just wanted to see how your life is going”

I still haven’t heard from him and am going to start the NC today. What do I do if HE contacts me during NC?
admin

August 2, 2013 at 2:25 am

Hahaha you don’t contact him back.

Pretty tough huh?

Marilyn

July 27, 2013 at 11:03 am

Hi Chris. I went into NC for nearly 2 months with my ex. He recently called me but I did not pick up. I text him “In a meeting. Anything?”. He text back asking me to check whether he had left his driving license in my car. He needs it to renew his license, failing which he has to do a report. I didn’t respond to the text. The next day I text him saying that I checked my car n it’s not there. He said thanks n apologize for “burdening” me. I did not text back.

Why did he call me? FYI, he already has someone else. What should I have said? And what should I do next?

admin

July 28, 2013 at 4:17 am

It sounds to me like he called you b/c he wanted to know if his drivers liscense was in your car. It could have been a way to extend a hand and see how you were doing.
Marilyn

July 28, 2013 at 12:10 pm

But he did not ask me how i am. do u think he will call again? Meaning he did not have any other intentions other than asking about the
license?
admin

July 29, 2013 at 3:16 am

Hmm.. it is tough to say. You might wait it out a bit to see if he calls again. But in the end you can eventually contact him you do realize this right?

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