What To Do If Your Ex Doesn't Contact You During No Contact- How To Make Him Talk

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Kels

March 5, 2015 at 11:48 pm

So I dated this guy for almost two years, we were inseparable, we did everything together, he broke up with me less than two weeks ago and I haven’t heard a thing from him since. Except when we had to cancel plans to hangout because it was “too soon” I ran into him yesterday and we both smiled but didn’t say anything, he looked super happy to see me. I still have his stuff including a key to his car, and he still has some of my stuff including a house key. He hasn’t even asked for it back, he hasn’t deleted me off of facebook, when it ended he said he just couldn’t do it anymore, but he still loves me as a person and finds me attractive, he said he needed time. Is this something NC could fix? Or am I hopeless?

admin

March 7, 2015 at 5:44 pm

It will take more than NC to fix that BUT it can definitely help.

YNM

March 5, 2015 at 3:27 am

What if your relationship only lasted two months? But during that two months you bonded like you’ve never bonded with anyone else and he told me he loved me first and would pour out his heart to me everyday and tell me how special I was and was way more serious about us being an us than I was at first. The day he broke up with me we planned a date for the upcoming weekend and then I messed up and made a joke about how I couldn’t be with a cat hater and he said okay and I took it so literal like he was actually okay with me ending it so I said okay and he broke up with me right then. He said it was because he didn’t feel the same way anymore and that he was tired of hiding it from his mom (she’s not okay with interracial relationships and I’m black and he’s white so she wouldn’t approve and he’d get in a lot of trouble if she’d find out) but what’s funny is that he would talk about marrying me and saying he’d break it to his family and if the fallout was bad he wouldn’t care because he had me. I didn’t take it seriously but why build me up kentally to think that and repetitively tell me that and then use that as a reason to break up? He also said he didn’t feel the same way but the night before he sent me a goodnight text telling me how excited he was to see what the future hold and how much he loves me… So I’m confused. I haven’t talked to him since we broke up and I’ve been going strong for a week now but I keep feeling like I’m going to break down and give in. I just want to know what he’s thinking and saying about me and if he misses me. I want to ask his friends and tell people and get their opinion on what to do but I know it would get back to him and I don’t want him to think I’m obsessed with him. We go to school together and today as I was driving out of the parking lot I drove past him as he was walking to his car and I looked back in my side view mirror and saw that he was watching me drive away. Do you think that could mean he misses me or is it just me overthinking things? He was probably just looking around and I took it as more than what it was. Ugh this NC rule is hard but I hope that by the end of the 30 days he’ll contact me. Any advice/insight?

admin

March 7, 2015 at 5:33 pm

Did he feel the bonding as well thoug?
cecilia

March 11, 2015 at 6:04 pm

YNM has a similar story to mine, two months, the guy talking about marriage in the beginning (“I will love you all my life, trust me!”), and after only a month or so, fade and get colder. Stop calling, answering email with two words, etc Not sending Valentine’s card, only I did. I posted Three romantic pic on Facebook, he didn’t (and he is a very frequent facebooker). Etc

It sounds to me like our cases are typical examples of huge sexual attraction in the beginning. Guys with a strong will. And then not being able to back it (the manifestations) all up with feelings.

Sounds pretty expected though, that this happens within many men. Many forefathers to inherit these instincts from.
This behaviour produced many kids. Simple as that, I think. But very unpleasant of course, to get dumped like this.

NC feels good for me. Not too hard since it was a long distance relationship, we only met 4 times. But I miss him like heck. Hope he doesn’t unfriend me on Facebook, getting tired of my silence. But I’ll have to cope with that too if it happens.

Sam

March 4, 2015 at 9:29 pm

I was in a long distance relationship for 6 months. I had everything that he was looking for but towards the end of the relationship, he got overwhelmed with work, the distance, and his family’s disapproval that he wasn’t feeling it anymore (but still said he loves me). I was so upset that he wouldn’t fight for me so I told him to take all the space and time he needs because I’ll be moving on. If I told him that I’m only focused on moving on, will NC still work? He might not even try to get me back if he thinks I’m not looking back, even though I really want us to work out.

admin

March 7, 2015 at 5:25 pm

Yes, I think it will.

jennifer

March 4, 2015 at 9:20 pm

My ex have been on an off for 2 years. We’ve been mostly off for the last 6 months. Recently he contacted me after we’ve been apart for 4 months. We saw each other which went well. But I don’t trust him and am paranoid since learning he cheated on me 6 months ago. So I after our meeting I went onto his Facebook page and found out some girl has been posting to his page. I went to her page and she has been out spending time with him. We got into a huge fight and he told me “quit texting me your annoying” then I called him some names which I regret. He then unfriended me on Facebook which he has never done before. Neither has he said “your annoying” or anything before. So I’m wondering if he’s just mad or if that’s his way of saying he’s official done.

I feel bad about the things I have said and not trusting him. Should I wait until no contact is over to apologize, wait a week? or should I apologize for my end of the demise right away and then go into no contact?

admin

March 7, 2015 at 5:24 pm

No, apologize when he is in a good mood to hear it. Wait till you prime him before you do that.

Flower

March 4, 2015 at 7:17 pm

Hi PLEASE READ 🙂 I really would like if you could please reply to this as you haven’t seen my previous posts. I am going out of my mind because it’s been so long since a proper conversation with my ex and I feel he has just moved on.
-We went out for a year
-He broke up with me because he said he loves and cares about me but not in love with me enough. Feels we like different things. Said that something wasn’t right. Thought we should give it some time…still wanted to be friends. I said no. He broke up with me by text and then apologised a couple days later saying he was a a*hole for doing it this way. He hadn’t planned it – his breakup was a response to me saying he didnt make effort.
-My reaction to the breakup was upset at first but i never became a text gnat. I then turned it around and said i’ve got loads of things ahead of me and its his loss if he wants to end things. I have bigger and better things ahead.
-I then went No contact for 2 weeks. He sent me a $70 donation about 3 days after starting NC for this charity event im doing which i briefly said thanks too. He replied positively.
-I then gave in after 2 weeks of NC and did one of those ‘rememeber when’ texts and he said ‘loads of positive memories, thanks for a lovely year.’ I then made a joke about my new online football team name, he replied asking who came up with the name but i just left it there to make him wonder whether ive been chatting with another guy who helped me come up with it. (Ex knows i know nothing about football).
-In the second 2 weeks of NC he went on holiday, He’s been looking at my snapchats and has been liking posts on my instagram and facebook every now and then. He’s also sent me snapchat pics/videos of his holiday. He also liked a picture quote saying ‘i have a 100% track record of making it through rough days so im good’.
– Day 30 of NC he sent a picture on snapchat to me saying that his dog says hi and hopes im cool. It wasnt a question so I didn’t reply. <–No idea why he sent me this statement.

I know these are all really petty goings on but is there hope for me? I've been really strong so far but he still hasn't texted me first, apart from the snapchat of his dog. Technically I broke no contact but it's now been a month since the break up and im slowly losing hope. What do you think I should do next? Contact him? Or spend another 2 weeks no contact to complete the full 30 days? Is the dog snapchat a good sign? Your insight would be greatly appreciated – Dont want to mess this up. Thank you for your time

admin

March 7, 2015 at 5:24 pm

Stay in NC so you can complete the 30 days.

Also, make sure you have a good text prepared for a reach out.
Flower

March 9, 2015 at 6:46 pm

Okay thanks, you’re the best!

Do you think there is a chance to fix this relationship? I really would appreciate your truthful opinion.
admin

March 13, 2015 at 4:13 pm

Your welcome.

Is there a chance?

Hmm… there is always a chance BUT it won’t be easy. Too many women think its going to be easy.
Flower

March 13, 2015 at 10:21 pm

Funnily enough he text me a couple days ago…23 days into no contact. I ignored. Genuinely felt great… the power is back in my hands 😉 Will let you know how it goes once i finish the NC rule!
admin

March 15, 2015 at 4:22 pm

Good for you!

So happy to hear this.
Flower

March 18, 2015 at 10:28 pm

He sent the following: ‘Good luck with your run at the end of the month, *my name* (my full name – he only says this when he’s serious). Im sure you’ll smash it! Your new knit trainers look sick btw (sunglasses smiley).

He’s also been looking at my snapchat story as usual. It’s the 30 day mark of No Contact today (my medals in the post i hope 😉 ) but I think i’m going to leave it 7 more days then reach out. He seems quite slow in the response to No Contact.
Do you think the text message is good or just a general catch up on your ex message?
Flower

March 23, 2015 at 2:28 pm

What do you think about his text message? 🙂 Thanks Chris
Flower

March 26, 2015 at 9:34 am

Okay so this page doesn’t really match my problem now but I thought i’d keep it on this thread so you remember who I am.
I AM SO CONFUSED?? I text him after being in NC for 37 days.

Quick disclaimer, when we went out i had a thing for scratch cards and he always used to make fun of me in a nice way..

Me: Guess what?! X

Him: What’s that?! X (he replied as soon as my message delivered)

Me: I won a fiver! (show pic of scratch card) I was so close to winning a 100 grand though 😉 Hahah x (10 mins later)

Him: Haha remember when you thought you hadn’t won and you had!!? You left the card with me and I checked it to find was a $3 winner! X (exactly one hour later)

Me: Haha I thought you had to line them up or something 😛 I’m going to buy 5 more scratch cards! I’ll let you ride my yacht if you’re nice haha X (30 mins later).

Then he just didn’t reply.

First off, he was checking his phone throughout the night and purposely delayed his reply because I could see he was online. I’d understand he wasn’t interested by the time delays but the responses seem positive. The time delays/not replying to me are bothering me because we always spoke quite quickly when going out. Like minutes.

Is this some sort of power battle now? Shall I just wait for him to initiate now? Honest thoughts?

Really appreciate it Chris 🙂 x

Angel1014

March 4, 2015 at 8:06 am

How can I contact him after my NC when he blocked me on fb, viber, whatsapp, skype, text and calls? Should I use another number? Or should I contact him on twitter since he didnt block me there? Or should I write him a hand written letter?

admin

March 5, 2015 at 8:39 pm

Ah I got just the thing for you,

https://www.exboyfriendrecovery.com/what-to-do-if-your-ex-boyfriend-blocks-you/

Cc

March 3, 2015 at 1:53 am

What if he broke up with me because I hung up on him and he got mad and called me chiledish and said it was done what dose that mean when he said h didn’t signed up for this?

admin

March 3, 2015 at 9:51 pm

Then he definitely has some growing up to do and I think NC is right up your ally.

cecilia

March 2, 2015 at 3:00 pm

Hm.

What if he’ll get tired of my silence and unfriends me on facebook?

(We’re facebook friends, long distance (400 miles apart) relationship, we have met 4 times;
he broke up with me yesterday.)

admin

March 2, 2015 at 10:11 pm

So what?

He will certainly friend you again when you two are official right?

cecilia

March 1, 2015 at 9:49 pm

Yeah, cool post. Googling got me here.
He broke up with me today by email.

He says he did not like that I did not accept him as he is.
I had explained mildly that I was a bit afraid of his body language when we were making out, asked him to be a bit more gentle
+ that he never uses the phone.
Now I’ve just been through a really rough divorce, abuse for many years, and almost three weeks ago my father died.
I said I would have appreciated a short phone call now and then from this boyfriend, not having to be the one who picks up the phone to call exactly every time.
He always texts, chats me, many times a day.
but after my very mild toned critique yesterday when we met, he broke up.

Gonna try and give him a total silent treatment. I have not even commented his breakup-email.

Although I’m not sure why i really want him back.
maybe the fun/wits/smartness/him having said, just a month ago, that he will love me all his life, til the last day.
I mean, if he is not ready to just be a bitsy more tender in body language … very stubborn …then that will only hurt me, and I might not dare to meet him again anyways.

Well, I’ll see what happens,
probably nothing,
and get back to this comments field and report
I will not say anything to him för 30 days. No chat word, not one sms word, no smiley/emoticon, no telephone word. I promise.
(We can today check each other’s facebook walls. We have not yet unfriended on facebook. i will not write anything at all on my FB wall which is in any remote way directed to him.)

admin

March 2, 2015 at 9:27 pm

Through email?

Really?

Definitely do the 30 days of NC.
cecilia

March 3, 2015 at 6:35 am

I get your point 🙂
cecilia

March 7, 2015 at 12:09 pm

After this first week of NC, I see how it helps most of us dumpees: It takes us thourgh the initial phase, the _denial_ phase.
NC gives us hope, at the same time as our dignity in front of the Ex, is kept.

I mean, I have to realize that this guy and I might not have any future. But this realization came at, like, day 5 or so, not before. Id est, I might not get him back. C’est la vie. And as a job searching unemplyed single mom of three little kids (and I just lost my dad, and going through stuff after abusive marriage of 10 yrs), I have no choice but to get to realization-phase. I need to mend myself mentally, pdq.
NC (i think 35-40 days for me) is my only option.

I understand more and more that this relationsship was a classic case of huge sexual attraction, which made him promise to love me ‘until the last day’ of his life. On chat. Three days after I had signed divorce papers (christmas a few months ago). (we been chatting and sometimes phoned, as friends, since 2013, every day, he helped a lot with legal advice, etc, etc, cute heart smilies, very intense, through the nights and some days) When we finally met (New year’s day) he even put up a love locker for us.
This is the potential part of my memories from the relationship, which I see.

I also remember now that NC is what I had already employed for a few days two weeks ago, after tips on the web “Make him stop texting and start phoning: After explaining to him how much it means to you: stop answering his texts, only answer phone calls”
but unfortunately I had to break this NC for a couple of days, for an already booked trip to meet him for two days. After I came home again he dumped me through mail. (the evening before my dad’s funeral.)

What has he done during this first NC week, after dumping? Well, on day two (the day after the dumping email) he sent me another letter, I have not read it. Probably something about guilt feelings, for my situation, idk, have not even opened it.
He has commented on my facebook posts, i have not answered. He has liked some out of guilt I think, the ones with flower pics from the funeral + the post about my thrill over kindergarten start for my kids. + liked the new hot profile pic i posted yesterday.

As for health/wealth/realtionships. The health stuff, I mean, I’m already both thin and curvy and got ‘golden brown/blonde’ hair + i’m on the job search case since a few months back. My relationships in life is what I need to work on. Find more friends, meet the ones I already have, etc. To get that together.
Cecilia

March 8, 2015 at 9:53 pm

I still keep wondering what a 35 day NC will do for a relationship, intense as it was, which only lasted two months. Began around christmas (a few days after my divorce), and ended a week ago. With his feelings fading already in the month of February (did not want me to meet his friends/his kids/his mom: ‘In the future some time’, did not call/pick up the phone, not even when my dad had died). Hm.
35 days is not much shorter time than the entire relationship. And we met only four times in total.

On the other hand, we had been chatting almost every single day since the summer of 2013.

I have also, during this past week, thought of the importance of me not looking at his facebook wall, no matter how much he keeps commenting and liking on mine.
Hot and cute profile pic and arty/mecchano-cool cover pic, inserted too.
I’ll have to let those pics work for me. Don’t have time to write many fb posts now

anna

March 1, 2015 at 10:14 am

Me and my ex had a relation of 5 years.
during this period he ditched me many times for other girls and came back after some time and was like I love you I am sorry. And I was so mad for him that I always gaved him a chance.
I always waited for him like anything.
But this time when he came back I talked to him about this and He told me that we can be just good friends but not more. I told him that I love him but he was like with his excuses and wanted me to stay as a friend. but this time was a limit he always do like this. I didnt begged neither I cried. All I did was called him up and told him everything about my feelings I told him how much I love him and I can do anything for him to make him happy. and he should learn to take a stand in his life. I told him that I cant stay as a friend If ever he feels like he loves me and he can marry me than he can contact me I’ll wait for him until I can and all he said was “see you around” I asked him when? he said If life gaved us a chance.
I told him If you wont give your life a chance than your life wont.
He said I am speechless now.
And than I left. after 5 days he txted me complimenting my picture but I didnt replied.
And now its the 30th day but he havent reached out to me since than.

I just want to know will he ever realize my love? will he come to me ever?
Should I talk to him again?
emm

February 28, 2015 at 2:21 am

my bf and i broke up. I cheated. But i realized how much i love him. He broke up with me. after that he still calls and txt me. What should i do?
Jennie

February 27, 2015 at 3:15 pm

I just want opinions please, Had a fight with this guy, just over 3 weeks ago.The Next day after the fight he had blocked me on facebook,so I installed whatsapp,after installing I noticed his last seen status was a week earlier,so he hadn’t been on for a week, I sent him a photo on whatsapp of a present that I had bought for him for Valentine’s day was going to give him when I saw him he lives overseas, before thatI had sent him a message everyday for a week by text. I only just installed whatsapp, but before he got my messages it said his last seen status was a week earlier, He sent me message after the photo saying I don’t care, I don’t want anything from you, you give me space and peace. After that I haven’t texted him since, since sending him the photo after the message he sent he came on a further two times that night, the next day, on the Monday 6 times, and everyday lots of times. Yesterday I changed my profile photo, and then he changed here’s, and wrote a status. He only stays upto two mins online, sometimes seconds, so can’t really be doing anything on there, Was he trying to get my attention, does he want to speak to me, he hasn’t blocked me on whatsapp, but after the fight we had, he blocked me on Facebook, but has kept me on here, and wasn;t a frequent user of whatsapp, till I installed it.He’s been on everyday ever since it will be 2 weeks on Saturday since I have sent him anything,do you think he’s coming on for me,when he comes on he only stay sometimes 1 minute,sometimes just a few minute,never on long,but keeps coming on lots of times,everyday,I know he chats to his friends on facebook,always has done,but now he’s frequently using whatsapp,but I noticed when I looked at my mums facebook she’s not friends with him,but I could see he had commented on some of his friends photos,so he’s still going on there,he also used to put credit in his phone,for making calls and texting.It doesn’t seem to make sense that eversince he’s been on lots,and before that used it rarely.What do you think?
Lisa

February 26, 2015 at 1:40 pm

Text him first? This is the second time he dumped me. Said we had no future. I asked him to give us another chance and he said ok only to go totally quiet on me 3 days later. I texted asking how he was, he said he was fine but didn’t ask me anything about me. After 3 attempts I gave up. It’s been almost 4 weeks. I don’t think I should be texting him again.

admin

March 1, 2015 at 6:18 pm

Man you are a stubborn one…

Well, I am saying text him from a position of power and strength not weakness.

Flower

February 26, 2015 at 12:23 pm

My ex boyfriend broke up with me after a year because he said he didn’t make enough effort and I deserve someone better and that he isnt in love with me enough even though he said he loved me and cared about me loads. He hasn’t initiated contact apart from liking my fb status and instagram as if everything is ok. He’s been sending me random snapchats and has been looking at my snapchat story but still hasn’t contacted me. I’ve been in NC apart from one day of about 3 texts back and forth where i ended the convo (week moment). texts were just happy texts, nothing about relationship. Do you think hes moved on? Maybe i’m reading too much into it but the fact he’s checking out my social media is a good thing right?

Flower

February 26, 2015 at 12:54 pm

forgot to say we broke up about 3 weeks ago

Michelle

February 26, 2015 at 11:49 am

What happens if it is someone you were only dating but things were fantastic and then he went weird for no reason whatsoever and said he had just switched and couldnt explain it? Does the rules still apply considering he might not have made any emotional attachment to me?

admin

March 1, 2015 at 6:16 pm

Well I would first like to know what his reasons were.

Somewhere in his brain he rationalized it.
Michelle

March 2, 2015 at 10:11 am

This was all I got:
Apologies, it shouldn’t have ended as abruptly or as awkward as that. Not sure what got into me. You’re a very nice young lady and I had a great time with you. I just switched and not sure why.
Apologies again.
Michelle

March 2, 2015 at 12:09 pm

Further to that I just wanted to add the following as this might help:
It was about a day or two after I had been to his for the first time that he went weird. I couldn’t put my finger on it. Just something wasn’t right with the text messages. I called him on it (in a nice and light way) and he basically said words to the effect: I just think would end up just seeing each other once a week and the wouldn’t be good for either of us (this hardly makes sense to me because firstly, it’s an hour’s train journey. I had done the journeys myself because I was happier to come to him because he lives in a lovely city and where I live there is nothing to do. He had offered to come out my way but I was more than happy with coming to him. When he went weird on me I was about to invite him over to mine for the weekend, which he wasn’t aware of. Secondly, I had just bought a travel card which meant I could travel to and from his place as much as I wanted for a small fee per month. He was aware of this and thought it a great idea)
When he told me this I reminded him on the travel card and that it meant I could come down more than once a week but If that’s how he felt then ok. I added that I did feel really disappointed and a little used but at least I knew now. He responded: “I’m sorry you feel that way. We tried” I added “yeah, well I guess I thought you were better than that” he didn’t reply to this. I didn’t like the ending to that, especially as I thought he was so smitten with me and he was the one making plans for us well ahead of things etc so the next day I sent him the following message:
Hey. I don’t want to leave things on bad terms as I don’t like bad feeling and to be honest I thought we got on too well for that.
Yesterday I was a little hurt and I’m completely baffled as to what happened. One moment I thought things were getting exciting and I thought I’d definitely met a great friend, if nothing else and then all of a sudden it goes to the other extreme. I thought I’d got whiplash
Michelle

March 2, 2015 at 12:12 pm

I do remember you saying you never get past the third date so maybe that’s just your thing especially as nothing had changed for me after Thursday. I was looking forward to many more dates with you and like I said I had paid out for that travel card in order to come down as often as we liked. I know you mentioned us meeting again on the weekend just gone and I was willing to hop on the train, grab a change of clothing and come back down again for Sat or Sun. Personally I thought it was far too early to make assumptions that we would only meet up once a week, I just wanted to see how things went and then it all got serious all of a sudden. But hey, we are all different and I’m not asking for any explanation etc I just wanted to clear the air from last night, that’s all.
I did think you were better than that, and I honestly still do think you are better than that deep down so I really hope you so I do hope you find whatever it is you are looking for. ☺️
I had a great laugh with you and I’m pleased I met you, if only briefly. I wish you all the best!
That is when he sent the message about not knowing what got into him
Michelle

March 5, 2015 at 12:12 pm

So should I bother with NC in my case and if I do should it be shorter because of the lack of time spent together? I am on day 10 so far
Michelle

February 26, 2015 at 12:13 pm

Also he has blocked me on Instagram despite the fact I haven’t said or done anything to warrant that but he hasnt deleted me on whatsapp which was how we talked to each other on a daily basis, normally from morning to the early hours. Some have said its to prevent him seeing my photos but I don’t know. He blocked me a few hours after it went weird but not before I’d managed to put up some happy pics of me .I’ve checked his account from another account and he hasn’t put anything on there that he would need to hide. He has been single for four years and on the dating site we met on for a year. He said that he never got past a few dates before things got weird. A few days before he went weird on me, he opened up to me that he had been adopted and when he tracked his real mum down she didn’t want to know. He stated he felt doubly rejected. Is it worth me completing the process from someone who appears to be a serial dater but states he wants a relationship. He is 39yrs if that helps

jane

February 26, 2015 at 5:56 am

I dont know what happened to my post but basically my question was…finished nc past 30 days (1 month and 2 weeks to be exact) and I havent contacted my ex because I feel like I still want to work on myself some more like lose more weight and build more confidence in myself and explore more. Are my chances lowered of getting him back if I prolong the time before I contact him?

admin

March 1, 2015 at 6:12 pm

They will lower over time but I don’t see the harm in waiting a week or so.

Jane

February 25, 2015 at 7:51 pm

What if it’s been over the 30 days (1 month and 2 weeks) and he hasn’t contacted me and I am not ready to contact him yet? I feel like I am not done working on myself. I still have more weight I want to lose and things to explore. Does that lower my chances since I am prolonging the time of me contacting him?

admin

March 1, 2015 at 5:49 pm

I would say don’t contact him until you have digested all the first text information I have to offer on this site.

lolo

February 25, 2015 at 11:45 am

Day 15 no contact, he is dating someone he found on tinder. Will he call back?

admin

February 25, 2015 at 9:45 pm

Ugh, can someone describe this tinder thing for me?

Is it just some sort of hookup app or something?

Jennifer

February 24, 2015 at 2:45 pm

What do you do if he contacts you (you were married, living in two separate countries due to work) and wants to work things out. Do you ignore him and continue with no contact or do you wait a couple days and then break the no contact or what?
Tami

February 24, 2015 at 5:10 am

Hi Im on day 10 of No Contact. We live 2 1/2 hours away from each other and were engaged for 4 years. We purchased all the wedding stuff .. Ring …bridesmaid dresses were bought, my wedding dress was bought .. i had a bridal shower … Plane ticket were bought but every time we would get close to our date he would make some Crazy excuse up to either hinder, postpone or completely put to a halt us getting married. Last year he wanted me to sign a prenuptial agreement 3 months before the wedding. In 4 years he had never said anything about it and believe me you wouldn’t think this guy had any money. I don’t care about his money so told him he could get a trust if he wanted or put it in a separate bank account for himself if it was that much of a concern.. but I wouldn’t sign anything based on my strong belief and commitment to marriage. This year he tells me he believes his father who passed away 10 years ago showed him a sign that Im not the one. He was 95% convinced… so on valentines day we ended it. He says out of confusion he went on a dating site the next day to see Who the one is?? if Im ” not the one ” . He said he was confused .. personally I still believe it was a lame excuse to start seeing other women… I have poured 4 years of my life, money , sacrifice into this relationship and Love him with all my heart but Don’t know what the h*## to do now. The ” Obvious ” is that he doesn’t want to Marry Me right? Im humiliated, embarrassed, angry, hurt, sad, confused … So I began reading your blogs and completely stopped all forms of communication the day after we broke up. That night he contacted me.. he called but I wouldn’t awnser so he texted saying he wanted me to call him & that he loved me… I replied with ” I have nothing to say to you” and told him he really hurt me this time. From that night on Its been 10 days of no contact. I haven’t contacted him and he hasn’t attempted any contact with me. I then went through my Facebook as you advised and trashed all the bad pictures and posted some really nice professional looking photos of myself. The new pictures received over 100 positive comments from my friends so he left a comment on each photo telling me how Beautiful I looked. I made it appoint to ” not ” respond directly to him and instead replied to the entire group with ” Thank you everyone so much for your sweet comments “. I know this is a strange situation … I should just dump this dude and move on .. but I have invested so much and Truly Love him.. If it doesn’t work out then it doesn’t work out but I don’t want to look back on my life and regret not using all my resources on a Man I considered to be ” the one “. I want to give this everything I can before I walk away. So I need your professional opinion and Insight. Do you think this is a lost cause or based on his few attempts at contacting me do you feel this is at all salvageable ? Im going to continue NC for 30 days .. if anything with the roller coaster of emotions that flood your heart after a breakup it has helped me take a step back, given me clarity and has really helped me use logic instead of emotion. Thank you 🙂

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February 24, 2015 at 9:43 pm

I think its worth continuing!

NC for 30 days for sure!

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