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Julia
February 8, 2015 at 7:55 pm
Hey Christ, thank you for your articles, they are the most helping i’ve ever red so far
I’m in the middle of NC periode, actually my boyfriend was giving me the silence treatement before it so we didn’t actually have a “break up”, I am allready doing positive changes in my life and reconnecting with my old friends (males and females)
My question is should I be posting on Social networks my activities and pictures during this periode, or should I be discret about my life in order to get him wonder and not get overly jalous ?
admin
February 9, 2015 at 4:44 pm
Thanks!
Glad you are enjoying the articles.
Yes, you should read my facebook post where I cover this,
https://www.exboyfriendrecovery.com/the-definitive-guide-to-using-facebook-to-get-your-ex-boyfriend-back/
Julia
February 9, 2015 at 5:57 pm
It answeres almost all questions I had, Thank you so much š
admin
February 10, 2015 at 3:25 pm
Sweet!
Anything else you need Julia!
Julia
February 11, 2015 at 4:55 pm
actually a small question, since i didn’t work on my self in the first 2 weeks of NC periode, should i extend it a little ? thank you Chris š
Alexandria93
February 8, 2015 at 9:52 am
Hey Chris. Been reading most of your posts. However, I feel that my ex boyfriend is extremely hard to get through. I’ve tried being confident and casual when asking him out for coffee but all I kept getting was “Nah, maybe some other time.” Or, “We’ll see how it goes. No promises.” Worst, he said this “Look I don’t want to give you any hope. There’s no hope here.”
Does this mean that I really have no chances of getting him back? It seems like he really doesn’t want me anymore. But he did mention that there’s nothing wrong in meeting up and talking but its confusing because, he’ll come up with so many excuses to not meet me and when I text him, he ignores/replies real late. Is there really no hope in my case?
admin
February 9, 2015 at 4:25 pm
What are you saying to him specifically for him to react that way?
Alexandria93
February 10, 2015 at 12:35 am
Literally just asked for dinner and coffee. Also asked what he’s up to. Pretty normal stuff.. He probably find the whole dinner/coffee idea as a means for me to try to convince him to come back. I’ve tried to make it ever so effortlessly. Just not sure what went wrong. What do you think might have went wrong? Any other approaches to go around this?
Sarah-Anne
February 8, 2015 at 3:23 am
Hi Chris,
I dated a guy for a year and a half. I am a pretty laid back, logical and fun girl and I believed that we needed to give each other space and time to live our own lives to have a great relationship. Sometimes it bothered me that he was so involved with his career and his friends – that we only spent 2 or 3 days a week together. It also bothered me that he seemed to have no emotions at all.
About 4 weeks ago, I hit my breaking point and told him that I wanted to end it because I deserved better. He agreed and said that he would try harder. I gave him a small list of things that would help and he said I was being completely reasonable.
Then a week went by and I could tell something was wrong. He broke down and all his emotions came out. He said something changed and that he couldnāt be the man I needed. He had a really difficult time letting me go and went on about all the things heās going to miss about me. I told him to leave and he said, āIāll text you in a month to see how you are.ā
Itās now been a couple weeks and Iāve been working on myself and have not contacted him. However, I feel like Iām going crazy thinking out him so much. (Your pages have really helped me during this time) Iām worried that after 30 days, if I contact him he will want to put me in the āfriend zoneā. What do you think? How do I avoid this?
admin
February 9, 2015 at 4:17 pm
You can shorten it to 21 days if you are really worried about it BUT that’s the lowest you can go.
Witchy
February 8, 2015 at 12:51 am
Hey, first of all, thank you for your wonderful blog.
I met this guy two years ago when I was living abroad. We started off as friends (I was seeing someone at the time) but became a couple a few months later (I had to ask him on a date because he is quite shy -he is Japanese-, but from that point on he was really open with his feelings for me). Long story short, we dated for 5 months, after which my visa expired and I was shipped back home. He told me before I left that he wanted us to get married in the future and not to worry and saw me off in tears. After 8 months of long distance, I went to visit him again for another 10 days. He was cold the first two days (physically and emotionally), but when I confronted him about it, he had a huge breakdown and told me he wasn’t ready to get married, even if he knew that was the only way i could come live with him in Japan. I told him it was fine and I would wait and he turned back into a super loving boyfriend for the remainder of my stay. He promised me he would come visit me next in Canada. When I asked him if he could come by the summer, he hesitated and told me he would try (which in Japanese culture basically means no). Fast forward exactly two months later, he broke up with me, 2 days into the New Year. He said he has been thinking and he says he loves me so much but he can’t make me happy right now, he doesn’t have money to come visit (and won’t let me help pay anymore), he is busy with his projects (he is a musician) and that he’s wasting my life and repeated how he’s not ready to get married. Nothing I told him would change his mind. He said things would have been different had I been in Japan and when I got a little nasty at him, he said he didn’t intend to tell me this but that he was thinking of coming to get me when and if he ever gets his peace of mind and his s**t together. I thought that was so incredibly selfish, to give me a bit of hope when he was the one dumping me. We talked calmly for a few more days and I initiated NC (he was the last one to message me). I lasted 3 weeks, after which I drunk messaged him about some girl (jealousy) and he got really angry at me for not trusting him, told me he didn’t need this kind of shit (he was heading out to band practice) and he blocked me everywhere. I then emailed to apologize the day after, and he emailed me back with a cold thank you. We haven’t talked at all since. That was 2 weeks ago and I intend to do another full 2 weeks of NC, at least.
Do you think there is any chance for us? We were together a year and a half but I have never loved someone so much (and I am out of an 8 year relationship). I am going back to school to get a uni degree so I will be able to live in Japan in 2 years (I want to do that regardless of him). The problem with rekindling now is that the situation wouldn’t change for now, I think… He told me that before meeting me he didn’t want a lover and especially not a wife (he had been single for 2 years prior to me and isn’t a player either, I have seen him turn down many girls before we dated). How does the NC usually affect LDRs?
Sorry, I wrote a novel.
admin
February 9, 2015 at 4:15 pm
Thanks for reading!
Defintiely do another two weeks.
NC is effective even in LDR cases so try not to worry too much about it.
Anya
February 6, 2015 at 10:27 pm
Does it happen, that the ex boyfriend doesn’t respond to the first text after the nc period? Then what do you do?
Ivy
February 6, 2015 at 4:04 am
We were together for four months. I’m quitting school and lied/avoided talking about it. He couldn’t believe I lied and told me I lost his trust and dumped me. I’ve called, explained, apologized, and asked for a second chance. We met up and I once again asked for another chance. He told me his mind is set and can’t go back to dating me. But he also said he still loves me, cares about me too much, considered if I was the one, had the most fun with me and it was the happiest time of his life. We met up and unfortunately got intimate yesterday. I told him I can’t be his FWB and need some time alone, but no hard feelings. He said “Do what you need to.” If I do a 30 days NC, considering how short our relationship was, will he still miss me?
admin
February 6, 2015 at 2:29 pm
You are quitting school?
He broke up with you because of that?
Ivy
February 6, 2015 at 10:00 pm
No, he broke up with me because I didn’t tell him I’d stopped going and that I was quitting. And when he asked, I lied and told him I was still going or that I was at school when I wasn’t. School was the touchiest of subjects for me and I wasn’t open about it. Mostly I didn’t talk about it, which bothered him. But by lying, I lost his trust.
Julie
February 6, 2015 at 3:40 am
What if he hasn’t really contacted me in the 8months of NC. He also has a new girlfriend which he got with during NC
admin
February 6, 2015 at 2:26 pm
When did he get the girlfriend?
How fast after the breakup?
Julie
February 7, 2015 at 10:53 pm
He got with her alil over a month after I started NC
Rashi
February 4, 2015 at 8:42 pm
What if I ranged up to my ex by mistake in the middle of the NC period? Did the whole session get wasted?
admin
February 5, 2015 at 3:21 pm
No, did you have any contact with him when you ran into him?
Rashi
February 10, 2015 at 9:15 pm
No.
Angela
February 4, 2015 at 9:29 am
We were dating For a month it gradually became worse and, but I think that is because we spent way too much time together (days at a time) and eventually he told me I was asking for too much and asked me to be friends first, that scared me and 2 more times that we did hang out it was alright but he seemed distant. I came back home on Sunday txted him that I’m home and got a reply. After that silence. I’m on day 3 and restored my pof account (one I met him from ) and I saw him online already, I have no idea if he saw me, but I’m awfully confused will NC work?? We only been dating and haven’t been by and gf officially.. And if he is back online what does that mean
admin
February 4, 2015 at 2:30 pm
It will definitely raise your chances!
Ashley
February 4, 2015 at 7:08 am
So i was dating this guy for two years and just recently four weeks ago he broke up with me. I moved to Texas when we were 1 year and 9 months and we both agreed to stay in a relationship because i was planning to move back to chicago in a year anyways. During 5 months of being apart, our relationship had changed drastically. It changed drastically to the point where i always found myself arguing with him for stupid reasons. Ive always been jealous but it had gotten worse since i moved. We fought almst everyday, So we had made an agreement that if we still argued the same in person when he comes to visit me for xmas,we would break up but if we didnt argue like crazy we would stay together. Unfortunately when he was here , it was hell. Again, i found myself always nagging him for stupid reasons. I would nag when he wouldnt give me affection all the time.or when we wouldnt cuddle and be together wen i wanted to. I was being too needy basically. I had even gotten physical with him while he was here and just the entire two weeks while he was with me was bad :/ and do i regret it? Yes! Because when he got back home he broke up with me. Did i act like i didnt know the reason why without him telling me? Nope :/ He told me He broke up with me because of how much i put him through while he was here and he said because he didnt feel the same way about me anymore. He said he loves me he just isnt IN LOVE with me. I was devastated. He said he just wanted to focus on himself now and that nothing i could do or say was going to change his mind. I pleaded to him that i was wrong and that i was completely sorry and if there was anything that i can do to make it work to give me a chance and ill be better to him. But he wouldnt. I know its not the smartest thing to do but i begged and cried to him for a week straight after he broke up with me and still nothing changed. Then one night i went on snapchat and saw a snap of him in a car with another girl. She was holding his phone recording the two of them together listening to music. Let me just say that this man never used to let me touch his phone. In the beginning of our relationship yes but after a while he just stopped bcus he would never ask me for mines anyways. He would never let me snapchat the two of us together on his phone. I asked him a couple times when he was here nd he always told me no. Right away that made me feel like he was hiding something. So when i saw that she was doing something i couldnt, i right away just broke. I immidiately felt replaced. I started to think, was she the reason why he would never take pictures of us on his snapchat bcus he was hiding me frm her? Who knows. So that night, I called him and he didnt answer so i texted him and asked him about it nd he said she was just a friend nd that she just gave him a ride to the train. So i lashed out bcus that had nothing to do with why he didnt answer my phone call while he was with her. He told me i was being over dramatic and that just because he was with her doesnt mean anything nd that i need to control my jealously issues. he said he could be friends with whoever he wants even if its a girl. (Through out our relationship i never really been a fan of him having girls as friends)
I started to call him nd txt him so many things begging him once again to take me back. i acted jealous bcus number 1, i am still inlove with this man of two years. Seeing him with another girl now that hes single completely tore me apart bcus i know nothing i could say or do is going to make a difference to him. So when he got home i cried on the phone with him and begged him to take me back and he wouldnt but said we could still be friends. (He said this the first time he told me we were done nd i refused but i still kept on talking to him anyways bcus i jus didnt wanna lose him at all)
After he realized how much i was crying he said i could txt him the next day if i wanted to so i said okay, but i knew if i kept on with the communication with him i was only going to keep hurting myself, so i knew that was going to be the last time i talk to him. We got off the phone nd i didnt text him at all the next day nd niether did he.
Our last words said to eachother was pretty emotional for me so i guess u can say we ended things on a pretty bad note. So far Its been three weeks since we’ve talked. I deleted him on facebook 6 days after no contact but i only find myself missing him more and more. I check his fb here and there and i notice he still has our pictures up. Today he unfollowed me on twitter but our pictures are still up there too. Does this mean he still cares? Like u mentioned in your article is he just being too stubborn to tlk to me? Or does he even miss me to begin with. Let me mention that if we didnt tlk for a day two he would occasionally be the one to make the first move and talk to me first but majority of the time it was always me making the first move after an argument. We didnt tlk once for 3 days when i lived in chicago but other than that we never went a day without tlking to eachother, so all of this just shocks me that he hasnt tried to call me or anything. It hurts me.
Is he probably not talking to me bcus i havent yet and hes jus waiting on me to? He might be used to me always doing it.nd im not okay with that bcus id love to see his effort too. We were madly in love so i feel like my move out of state is my fault we broke up cuz everything jus took a turn for the worse frm that point on.. Or maybe if i wouldve just handled things differently (like my insecurity and trust issues) we still would be together. Its been three weeks of no contact, nd honestly i didnt think i could do it but im proud of myself. i still think about him every day , sometimes i cry myself to sleep. I work so i do a couple things to get him off my mind but i love him dearly and i would very much like for him to miss me back and take me back. Should i message him after the NC is over even tho he was the one that broke up with me and hasnt contacted me. Im confused bcus i dont know what would be right and im done coming off as weak to him anymore. I hope these three weeks of NC is really showing him.
Thank you chris, id really appreciate your help(:
admin
February 4, 2015 at 2:30 pm
You should message him. That is what I recommend!
Ash
February 11, 2015 at 4:00 am
I finally contacted him today about a tv show nd i got a positive response in returrn. I responded once more nd ended the conversation after that. should i wait for him to txt me the second time we Tlk now?
admin
February 11, 2015 at 2:10 pm
Which TV show?
Better Call Saul?
Hahaha I like that show.
Ash
February 11, 2015 at 3:43 pm
The walkingg dead! That was our thing when he came to visit lol
admin
February 16, 2015 at 9:41 pm
Love that show!
Ash
February 13, 2015 at 6:20 am
I really feel like talking to him again. Should i message him yet or is it too soon?
Fuego
February 2, 2015 at 9:20 pm
What if i was the one who wana bid him goodbye cause im so hurt? I wrote him an email saying bout what i feel, everything, and then told him that, that was gonna be my last email to him. After i hit send, I texted him on bbm saying that he should read my email. Then i uninstalled my bbm as i wana cut off contact with him. After 5 mins or so he called me but i didnt pick up. Then he texted me asking did i delete my bbm thing but not bout my email. I knew he had read em cause i went into his email w/o him knowing. (He forgot that he gave me his password before) I didnt reply to him still. Its been 10 days now. Hes quiet since then. Even me. after reading that email? Only few days ago i came across this NC thing on here. So im tryin to include this moment to the NC thing. Is it still possible for me now? But do you think he would contact me then? Even after reading that email? If he really loves me he would contact me right..? I dont know what to do now..
admin
February 3, 2015 at 1:11 pm
Yes, but you need to hit the ground running with it and have no slip ups.
Antonia
February 2, 2015 at 1:21 am
Hi Chris, I left my defacto partner of 12 years 6 weeks ago. He works away and is only home for 1 week in every 5 weeks. He spends all his time home with 1 certain male friend and never takes me anywhere. This has been going on for 3 years. I finally had enough. He never came near me or contacted me the first 10 days then delivered all my furniture to my new house. I only saw him 3 times in the second week. Each time he cried and said he didn’t do anything wrong. I explained a few things to him that were unacceptable in a relationship and I could see he then understood a bit of what I was going through. He then went to a solicitor who told him to have no contact with me at all until a settlement is decided. I’ve heard nothing now for 3 and a half weeks. I have made no attempt at contacting him and miss him dearly but know that when he returns from work tonight, he will be straight back with his male friend drinking and do the “Boy” stuff. Should I just let him go.
admin
February 2, 2015 at 2:35 pm
Why did you leave him?
Rebekah
January 31, 2015 at 3:21 pm
I am currently on day five of no contact. My situation is a lot different than most iI suppose. The guy I am trying to win back has left me for his ex three times basically (we talk, hang out, do “adult” things and then he runs back to her). Yes, I know you’re wondering why I want him back. I have reached out to her and told her what was going on (she lives out of state and had no idea he was even “friends” with me still). Well, this past time I guess it made him mad enough where he said “I want to be friends. I really care about you but, I don’t think it’s a good idea if we talk. I can’t work it out with her if we keep talking.” But, he keeps making the comment “cause I know you’ll tell her again.” I’m just very confused. Does he or did he even care? Will no contact even make him reach out to me?
admin
February 2, 2015 at 1:40 pm
Has he come back each of those three times?
NC can really help I think.
Anna
January 30, 2015 at 12:57 pm
Thanks a lot Chris for a great site! I was with this guy fro 6 months and we broke up last week because he kissed another woman in front of me at a party. He’s 32, I’m 27. He had been married before (divorced 4 years ago) and hasn’t been able to make a relationship work since – well, he had only been seeing girls in their early 20s since. After the kissing another incident I of course confronted him and said the only way I could go on was if I could trust him = no other women. He said I was the first woman he had loved since the divorce and that he feels I really understand him but he wanted a break to sort out his head. He had nightmares of drinking household detergent thinking maybe this won’t kill me, maybe I will live through. He interpreted that as him really considering committing seriously to me but in the end he just wasn’t ready. He also asked me if I thought we would live happily ever after til death do us part. I said I can’t promise that at 6 months but I think the potential is there. Anyhow, since he couldn’t commit 100% when we talked last week, I broke it off. He sees this as break and wants to reconsider “some time in the future” (no set deadline). Now he’s listening to the most depressing breakup songs ever on Spotify. We haven’t been in contact for 8 days BUT we see each other a couple of times a week for professional reasons and he barely says hi. I feel NC is impossible to do because of the professional relationship. What do you recommend? Thank you in advance!
admin
January 30, 2015 at 4:52 pm
He sounds like a jerk…
Kissing another girl in front of you?
That is horrible.
You are going to have to modify the NC rule a bit because of the nature of your professional relationship but you can do it technically. I wrote an article about how to handle every situation during NC and this was one of them.
Anna
January 30, 2015 at 12:59 pm
I mean _complete_ NC is impossible because we are physically present in the same space, although for a short period of time, a couple of times a week. Otherwise I’m not reaching out to him and neither is he to me.
T
January 27, 2015 at 7:34 pm
Hi Chris!
My ex broke things off a week before Xmas. He’s 52, I’m 47. He refused to change our relationship status on FB. I gave him until after the new year to work things out. (we were in a committed monogamous relationship, but he didn’t want to put enough effort into it-he loves his freedom).
I changed our FB status and told him I was moving on in early Jan. He was angry and unfriended me (mature I know).
I know how he feels everyday about the split-he has a local talk radio show M-F. He’s a mess about it–but he hasn’t contacted me since 1/13. He is stubborn-but I know he loves me. However, everything is like a football game analogy to him….and he told me when I asked for more time that “I don’t get the ball, or call the shots”? He’s a good man-and I love him……but is he worth all of this? (He still has our pics on his page–refuses to untag them)
Thanks,
T
admin
January 28, 2015 at 3:20 pm
Really, I actually wrote an article on facebook status’ and why men don’t want to change them.
I say jump right into NC.
You are doing it correct?
T
January 28, 2015 at 6:05 pm
Thanks for replying, Chris!
I have started NC. However, I think listening to his show everyday is probably breaking NC on my end. My family thinks he might be a still be single at 52 because he chooses to be. I will read the article your wrote about fb statuses.
T
January 28, 2015 at 6:31 pm
I didn’t see my problem addressed in the article on fb statuses. He insisted on the “in a relationship w/-” after 2 weeks of dating. AND HE REFUSED TO CHANGE IT AFTER HE BROKE IT OFF. When I changed it myself–he got mad and unfriended me. He has reversed the whole breakup-like I dumped him! That’s what he tells his listeners and friends…your thoughts about this? He still has our good time pics tagged on fb, too….
admin
January 29, 2015 at 2:27 pm
Oh, so he wouldn’t change it after the breakup back to single?
T.
February 2, 2015 at 9:13 pm
No. He would not change it back to single. When I did, he went on his radio show that day very sad telling his listeners what happened and how sad he was about it. I don’t understand. He refused to work on our relationship–yet he acts like the victim. 3 weeks NC. He still has our “couple” pics tagged.
vibha
January 25, 2015 at 11:41 pm
Hey..I met this guy throughour mutual friends. he started liking me .soon after few meetings even I developed feelings for him.we came into a relationship. After somedays he broke up with me saying he loved his single life.and doesnt want any sort of commitment.we met 10 days after our breakup. And his gesture showed up as he was also affected by the breakup.since after that I havent met him..nor called him up.nor he did.i hav deleted his no. But I really miss him very badly.i am suffering from slepless nights.i miss him badly and I guess he doesnt eveb has a single idea about it .it has been 12 days since I have initiated no contact.will he ever reach out to me. :'(
anye
January 25, 2015 at 5:41 pm
Hi Chris,
Anye here, turkish gal with german guy. We splitted 1.5 months ago after 2 years relationship. I broke up with him rather I said I want to break up but just out of anger, I really didn’t mean it, I was angry and acted immature. I went on NC for 1 month and he didn’t contact at all. However, when I messaged him he replied politely. Then I called him, he spoke really nicely about future but had said he has not forgiven me yet. Then few days back I called again and he said he wants time to think if we can be back. And I totally appreciate this and he also said that he is still very angry. What should I do to enhances my chances of bring together. I really love him.
best,
Anye
admin
January 26, 2015 at 3:52 pm
Well, you definitely didn’t do enough to win him back. You didn’t build enough rapport or do enough priming fo rhim to want to come back to you.
Ita
January 24, 2015 at 2:40 pm
Hey Chris! Quick question, does the no contact rule work with friends with benefits? I moved here a while back and there’s this guy and we had a friends with benefits going on. six months in after a drunk night he said he loved me and I didn’t say it back because we were so drunk. After asking him he said it only came out because we were drunk. We sort of ended things for a few weeks and then started again after we ran into each other a few weeks later. After that I grew feelings for him and told him so. All that happened around four months back. A few days back he said he wanted to ended things because even though I am “truly amazing he hated how we couldnt work things because of him” and that he’s been talking to a girl he met during the weeks we were apart before and would like to give that a chance. I gracefully said I wish him happiness. Would the no contact rule work here?
admin
January 26, 2015 at 3:21 pm
Hmm… Yes it can BUT you need to stop sleeping with him or even kissing him.
Ita
January 25, 2015 at 5:48 pm
Oh by the way, he’s six years younger than me. I’m 28 and we are both grad students. we had our thing going for a year, even went travelling together, etc.
admin
January 26, 2015 at 3:51 pm
So, he is a bit more immature.
Shelbiei
January 24, 2015 at 12:59 am
Hey Chris, I’m Shelbie. I am on day 27 of no contact and he has not tried to contact me at all. We had a good relationship but he thinks I cheated on him again and I didn’t. I hung out with a friend of mine that was a guy and he thinks I cheated because I have in the past and I lied about it. No matter how much I told him that I didn’t and that I love him, he didn’t wanna hear it and t’d me that was done. I know when to walk away and move on but Something is telling me to not give up on him though. He told me about a month a half ago that I needed to “learn how to walk away and savage what’s left before there is nothing left to be saved.” I finally backed off after a couple weeks after he told me that. I’m hoping by me backing off and giving him his space will help but it’s almost the end of the 30 days and I haven’t heard from his at all. I’m just worried… I don’t know if I should continue nc after the 30 days or text him. I really want him to put in effort at least once. I feel like I fix everything everytime something goes wrong. He needs to try to but I know I messed up this time so I don’t know what to do. He is very stubborn and prideful and I really don’t know if he’ll ever contact me anytime soon. I just want to talk to him so bad and I miss him like crazy.
admin
January 26, 2015 at 2:44 pm
Dont let it get to you shelbie. Just because he hasn’t contacted yet doesn’t mean its working.
Shelbiei
January 24, 2015 at 11:55 pm
& He’s posting negative things about me online. No directly towards me but I know that they are about me. It’s stuff that he knows gets under my skin and he knows that I have trouble butting my tongue and not speaking my mind. I really think he’s just trying to get to and to get me to talk to him because he can’t pick up the phone. I’m going to continue not contacting him though. Just can’t believe he’s doing this.
Zandria
January 23, 2015 at 11:45 pm
Hi, so basically me and my ex had broke up a lot when we were together. The last time he broke up with me stating that he doesnt trust me anymore and that he is hurt. At that point I begged (didnt have your guidance yet). After the begging I sent him an email talking about the relationship but not trying to reconcile. The next three days we talked over skype like nothing happened, he thanked me for the letter saying it was polite and he even did a lot of effort to send me prescriptions telling me he hopes Im ok ens ens. But then a week after the saterday he met a new friend and told me about how they are going on a day trip together. He made it sound like a date. And after seeing me misunderstand and having me tell him that he should just tell me to move on he didnt reply at all. I broke the silence the monday having to hear how awesome weekend he had. Thats when I found your site. I initiated the no contact on day 12 of the break up. I feel I might have lost my window, its been a week, he hasnt tried contacting me and Im not panicking yet. He hasnt deleted out photos from facebook and knowing that I have his passwords he didnt change that either. He even put the email from me in his important email folder. So now Im wondering, did I miss my window of opertunity with the nc rule?
admin
January 26, 2015 at 2:38 pm
What made him say that he doesn’t trust you?