The Fastest Way To Get Your Ex Boyfriend Back

203 thoughts on “What Is The Fastest Way To Get My Ex Boyfriend Back?”

Alice

November 18, 2016 at 1:08 am

hi its shannon again you had,asked why we broke up it was a year ago and he left me for another woman. They are still together
so shouldn’t the answer to his question should be yes then at least I got a shot of him being jealous or do you disagree and have different advice for me ?? either I just need instruction on what to do oh and his question to me is was gotcha a man yet ??

EBR Team Member: Amor

November 20, 2016 at 2:51 pm

Oh..sorry.. Sometimes it really takes time for your comment to be answered because I answer all of your comments but it will always be answered.

If they are still together, then that means you would be his girl on the side if he is going to pursue you..

his questions about your relationship status is more likely just from his ego or possessiveness.. Answer it with honesty.. Yeah, he will probably get jealous but the reality is, he’s still with the girl he left you for..if you are going to talk to him, convey that you have standards. Dont sound like you’re just making him jealous. Sound like you have moved on. Be respectful, casual, calm. Because if he wants you back and you’re still very flirty, then it would look like what he did was ok. Be angry and it would look like he made the right choice of leaving you.

You can still try doing the no contact rule. Improve, yourself, heal and reflect. But I think you need to do 45 days..If he is serious with you, he has to show it. He has to be more respectful and if he ever he wants you back, of course they have to break up first..

Eli

November 17, 2016 at 4:43 pm

We broke up 6 weeks ago. As I told first three weeks we were trying to act like nothing happened, I was writing to him every day, I think I became texting gnat but he was too polite to tell it to me, he knew I was in pain and tried to make it easier for me. However, his behavior changes, once he kinda ignores me, then he talks to me normally, then I can see he wants to talk to me more and searches for eye contact with me. Now I’m 3 weeks in my no contact version. I don’t write, I don’t start a conversation with him but when he does I answer politely and shortly. The fact is that both him and our friends know that I felt terrible after breakup but now I’m doing my best to look confident and like I don’t care about him. I’m worried that it’s been so much time since breakup, and I had this ‘begging to come back’ phase and now, when I look like I’m okay and moving on, he can think that I am really over him so he doesn’t have to worry about me anymore. I don’t want him to think ‘she was so depressed but now she’s okay and I’m glad about it’. Did he even notice that I’m not acting as usual?
I’ll add here shortly how our relationship looked like and why he broke up. We were first very good friends for half a year then he kissed me and we became a couple. We were both really happy, it was perfect pretty much all the time. Once during holidays when we didn’t see each other for a month he was weird and wondering if our relationship makes sense but when he came back to our country he admitted that it was because of depressing weather and a lot of work. And everything was perfect again. Then he broke up saying that his love is not as strong as it was. He claimed it’s not the same situation as during holidays. I asked if there’s a chance for us to be together after short ‘break’ and what he told was that surely chances are higher if we give us time and space than if we would stay together for a month maybe two months more just to wait until what was left in his heart will completely burn out.
I’m aware what was wrong in our relationship- too much of us in each other lives. Sitting in school together, after school visiting each other and spending a whole day together, after getting home we were writing until going to sleep. Despite this I’m pretty sure nothing else was wrong.
How are my chances to get him back in the case where he just got bored with me and I don’t even have how to give him the space he needed?
P.S. My friend told me today that he has a girl. She didn’t want to tell me any details to not depress me more but from what she told me it’s a pretty serious thing ( I don’t know if to trust her, how can she know what a ‘serious’ thing could be in his case?- I know him better than she). How to know if it’s just a rebound relationship or something more? Should I stay in NC with awareness that when I finish it he can date this girl officially? Would it be okay of me to still try to win him back when he will have new girlfriend?
Everyone makes me feel like I should give up but how could I give up knowing that the only thing which destroyed my life (too much time together) was so easy to fix?
I will be glad to hear Your opinion

EBR Team Member: Amor

November 18, 2016 at 10:48 pm

Actually the higher chance of fixing that, is risking to lose him. Because you need to look like you’re moving on and improving and having your own life. He wouldnt miss you if he knows you’re just there waiting. Check this one:
The Ungettable Girl

Chris

November 17, 2016 at 3:31 pm

Hi There,

Don’t you think it’s extremely hard to get an ex back fast? Yes, I agree that you shouldn’t rush this process but won’t it lower your overall chances? Also, what if you and your ex are long distance? How do you deal with that? There is no specific information on that at all.

EBR Team Member: Amor

November 18, 2016 at 2:57 pm

Hi Chris,

it cant be applied for all.. If you’re long distance, check this one:
The Complete Guide To Getting An Ex Boyfriend Back In A Long Distance Relationship

Alice

November 15, 2016 at 10:50 pm

So hey my ex and I have had not best vibes for quite sometime. Well about week ago he called me I watched my phone ring helplessly I could not even answer even though I wanted to I could just not do it. so then he started sending me texts like why you contacting me at work. I said wait you contacted me I said your not even at work are you lol, he replied no I did not and yes I am at work. So I sent him the screenshot of my missed call from him. Then he sent me outlandish text saying either someone was fucking with me or I had gone completely nuts and that there was no way he could of contacted me because he did not have my number saved. So later in the day feeling sad I sent a another text saying sorry about the confusion and said we should visit sometime. He said I will pass and said I was getting creepy I saiud but I really did not contact you this morning that is why I sent screen shot of the missed call from you. Then he sent a text saying that he thought it was I don’t even have a boyfriend and that I’m doing nothing with my life. Well after hearing this I was like wow da nerve of him so I did not even reply but I did take action. I set up date with a guy and posted a status on fb about it luckily the guy who was my date did quite a bit of commenting himself . Two weeks later as of yesterday my ex contacted me in a new light he knows I’m currently looking for work so he sent me a text letting me know his work was hiring real soon. I did not reply immediately then few hours lately I got another text asking me if I had received his message I replied yes and thanks for the heads ups. Then he replied no problem. Then he texted and asked how things were going I replied things were good then I asked him the same he oh things aren’t to bad. Then he popped the question gotcha a man yet?? I have yet to reply I’m unsure how to reply please help me I have done this several times since yesterday I’m going crazy with no help or advice I just need a reply . I care so much about this man noone will ever know how much this man means to me . Is silence the best reply , or should say yes there is someone or what please someone help me ??

EBR Team Member: Amor

November 15, 2016 at 11:10 pm

Hi Alice,

You’re the other alice that is not getting a reply? I do reply to your comments. I don’t know why you don’t see it.So, I hope you’re going to see this one. But in one of my replies, I said you should tell the truth that you don’t have a man. My bad, I assumed you didn’t and that he was just checking.

So, you didn’t actually do the no contact rule. It just so happened that you stopped talking and then you started dating but, did you start improving yourself? And you didn’t say why you broke up

Bridget

November 15, 2016 at 10:12 pm

Hi guys! I have a very difficult situation. My boyfriend just broke up with me 2 days ago. I’m very nervous this are completely over, at least that’s how they seem. We have to live together for 5 more months and he said he didn’t mind if we finished out the lease together. He came to check on me yesterday in my new room to see if I was okay. I tried to ask him if we could be completely open with one another and he said “idk what’s going to happen. I’m taking this one day at a time.” Would the no contact even work under the same roof?

EBR Team Member: Amor

November 15, 2016 at 10:43 pm

Hi Bridget,

You need to check this one:
EBR 027: What To Do If You Live With Your Ex Boyfriend

alice

November 15, 2016 at 9:44 pm

no one will reply i have done this like several times this sux im tired of typing it over and over i just need to know how to reply to my ex he asked if i got another man how should i reply not reply saaay heck yeaa this was yesterday could someone reply geesh im dying here

EBR Team Member: Amor

November 15, 2016 at 10:56 pm

HI Alice,

I don’t know why you don’t see my replies 🙁 . Your previous comments were replied. I do hope you see this. If you do, go back to your previous comments. If you can’t see my replies, I’ll reply them here.

Bridget

November 15, 2016 at 7:34 pm

Hi! My boyfriend just broke up with me 2 days ago and we live together…. we have 5 more months on the lease and he said I’m more than welcomed to stay until our lease is over. I expressed I was scared to see him move on and he said he couldn’t do that to me while we were under the same roof. He came into my new room yesterday to check on me and see if I was okay. I did text him saying I might get transferred from my work and he seemed okay with it. It feels so over… but everyone is saying who knows what’s gonna happen, he even told me “I don’t know what’s gonna happen. I’m taking this day by day.” I’m confused… do I go and ask him. Do I try the no contact under the same roof?

EBR Team Member: Amor

November 15, 2016 at 10:43 pm

Hi Bridget,

You need to check this one:
EBR 027: What To Do If You Live With Your Ex Boyfriend

Eli

November 15, 2016 at 6:35 pm

Hi,
I have a question about no contact rule as I think my case is a little bit different than those already described by You on this page. I’m in the same class as my ex but important thing to add here is that I live in a different country than USA (by the way sorry for mistakes, English is not my native language) and here we have constant classes for the whole high school period, which means that me and my ex meet every day and spend about 7 hours together. What’s more, we sit at the same desk, as we used to be a couple and now, after a breakup, decided to still be friends.
Getting to my point, how should no contact rule look like in my case? It’s pretty obvious that I’m allowed to alter it but how exactly? I already stopped writing to him, which was about three weeks after a break up (during those weeks I pretended to act normally but was writing to him- he told me we can write as friends and I can tell him everything I want, even about how I feel about our breakup) but we still sit together and I’m scared that if I stopped sitting with him now, out of nowhere, it could affect our present relations in a negative way. Also we are in one ‘group of friends’ and I don’t want to seem rude by starting to totally ignore him.
I hope the fact that we are in the same class doesn’t lower my chances of getting him back?
Thanks for the time You want to put into helping me, I’m waiting for Your opinion on my case.

EBR Team Member: Amor

November 15, 2016 at 10:26 pm

Hi Eli,

when did you break up? Talk to him and your friends. Be honest but kind. Tell them you’re going to need time and space to heal. If you can switch seats do so. Explain that sometimes, you won’t be able to join group hangouts outside school because you recently joined something else.

Cristine

November 15, 2016 at 12:17 pm

Hi,
I met him in January and it was instant attraction. We couldn’t take our hands from each other. I’m 31, he’s 39 years old. Although we are very different, I think one ends up balancing the other well. Everyone always said that we were a perfect couple, we never fought, we understood each other very well. I trust him, let him go out alone despite him always inviting me, I know all his friends and part of the family. The problem is that we had personal problems, I had with my house and he with his health, which ended up making us negative people. In August, after 28 days in a row together he asked me for a break and broke up with me. I was very sick, I cried, I begged, I couldn’t eat and sleep. He said we rationally didn’t work. After almost 1 week we started going out again and he still did not want to go back. So when I started to not to care, 1 week after I was moving from home, he gave me a kiss and we came back.
These two months were magical, full of plans, spending 4 days of the week together, meeting other friends, having sex, with a good connection. Then on November 1st he decided to ask for a time again and he broke up with me 3 days later. I cried, went to his house, tried to understand. He said it looks like we do not make each other happy. I said we have to be motivated alone, because I feel that he doesn’t feel motivated, but in this 2 months we improved a lot, and we still need to work. He told me that I have many ups and downs, that sometimes things do not seem natural, that I’m always talking about the future … Anyway, I argued with everything saying that if he communicated with me we could make this work. And he said he rationally does not believe in the relationship. That he needs to feel, and that he needs some time to feel his heart.
Saturday I went to his house without announce, anyway he left me enter. I cried, I was desperate, he kissed me, hugged me, it was super tender with me … On Sunday I came back to his house, he left me enter again, and then I realize that he was a little stressed out. Still, he hugged me, it was affectionate. I told him that this was a good signal, he told me that I’m such a wonderful person that I don’t deserve to be mistreated. He says one thing, but his actions are different. So I try to not to listen to what he says, and I focus on his actions, which are always very tender to me.
I decided to travel on Monday to give him some time. I called on Wednesday (after 3 days without speak), in the middle of my trip and he treated me very well, asked lots of questions. I asked if we could see each other over the weekend and he said he was going to be at home. When I came back on Friday I called him and he said it was not a good idea (I have to say that when he broke up with me the second time I said that it was going to be the same as the first one and that we were going to go back and he is a bit proud). Then after a while, he said ok for me to go to his home. I went to his house, we played playstation, we had dinner, talked, stayed together for 5 hours. He still has my toothbrush, my house keys, and my food in the refrigerator.
Still, he said he understood that I was trying to rationalise, but that he needs to feel the emotions. And the more I squeeze, the worse it will be. He hugged me, held my hand, worried if I was going to get cold, let me steal two kisses and laugh every time that I did …. I found out he is traveling alone next week, for the trip we had planned for months. He is going to stay one week alone. It broke my heart, but I feel like he is trying to escape from the situation.
He told me he was going to call me before he went to say goodbye. I have not spoken to him for three days and I avoid going to his house, since we live close by.
I just do not know what to do, I’m not eating or sleeping. I do not understand why he still has my stuff, I do not understand what went wrong if two days before we were having sex and going to the movies. I’m super confused, and all I want is him back. I’m holding back from calling him.
I invited him to dinner with me on Friday when he broke up with me, the Saturday after and this last Friday. He said no to the 3 times (I know it was not a good idea, since it was recent). I’m lost. Deep inside me I know he will come back with me, but then I’m afraid of his pride, of him meeting someone… I’m an anxious person, and he knows, sometimes I feel like he is playing with me. Also it’s important to say that he had 6 girlfriends and broke up with all due to some flaw in their character. I told him we could work this, that if there is love the rest we could work. That there was no cheating, no respect, no nothing … It is just that he is a really rational guy… I’m trying not to call him today.

EBR Team Member: Amor

November 15, 2016 at 8:54 pm

Hi Cristine,

it looks like he thinks you’re needy. If you keep pushing, you’ll look more like you’re chasing him

Ace

November 15, 2016 at 4:47 am

So let’s just say after no contact then texting I am sure my ex wants me back but I have been acting like I don’t want him back just to like play hard. Will this discourage him? Should I continue doing that and hopefully he will put in more work to let me see he really wants me back? Also could i like drop some hints and if yes what may these hints be?
We’ve been texting a little over 2 weeks on and off haven’t called or saw each other yet.

Ace

November 24, 2016 at 2:27 pm

Ok thanks
Ace

November 21, 2016 at 6:09 pm

I don’t think you really answered the question Amor…I got him back however thanks for your input throughout this time. He asked for me back but we haven’t really seen each other except for like video calls, should I ask to see him? He hasn’t really asked me out or anything yet I feel like that’s the next thing I need help with.
EBR Team Member: Amor

November 23, 2016 at 2:10 am

Oh sorry! If he already asked for you back.. Just ask to see him.. Raise it casually, like in the middle of a conversation..
EBR Team Member: Amor

November 15, 2016 at 7:32 am

if you didnt tell him the reason why you dont want to get back together yet, then he may have felt you still need time on your own to decide or you just cant say directly to him that you dont want to get back together. so,.now he just stopped talking to you..

Judith

November 14, 2016 at 8:27 pm

Hi Chris,

I own almost all of your books but I did an idiot move.

Ex and I broke up after 1.5 years in July. No Contact since August. I was on a dating website (since I need to date other people during the NC period) last week and saw his profile and I stupidly sent him a message through the dating website. He did not respond. I assume I should go NC for another 30 days but I hope I can salvage what I screwed up. Any advice?

Judith

November 15, 2016 at 8:01 pm

His profile said that he was was in Singapore currently for work (which I did NOT know he was going there) so I said:

“I was just thinking about you! Are you in Singapore? That is so cool! I heard that it is a beautiful city!”
EBR Team Member: Amor

November 15, 2016 at 10:48 pm

Oh.. well, just don’t do it again. Try resting for two weeks or yes, 30 days, and then initiate again in a different messaging app.
EBR Team Member: Amor

November 15, 2016 at 6:41 pm

Hi Judith,

what did you send?

cammi

November 14, 2016 at 4:21 pm

Hi, so I messaged but it did not come up and no one replied? I saw other people get their messages answered.. so recap quickly.. we are not together.. he has a lot of fear about hurting me again and confusion about what to do. Half of him wants to stay because he loves me and the other half he thinks it’s easier option for the both of us? He said it’s not because of any other girl.. but I’m worried? We have been having lots of fights.. so he is very negative and has doubts. Keep in mind this is a time of EXAMS and end of semester.. we are both 21. And the reason why he thinks we have no future is because of his mother disliking me because of the lie i said when I was 16. He is very honest and says there are lots of problems? When we broke up 3 years ago he used the same reason and then when we got close last year he said “it was an excuse, it was more him not wanting to deal with anything, the negative fights, being fed up, stress!” He talked to the other girl because she was care free and problem free. I know we have a chance since he says “i love you and care for you, that’s why I’m still here and trying to see what is wrong with me” I am going to go couple counselling because everytime we have a fight he blames himself saying “I don’t know why I did that… I just didn’t think about it being bad”

And he feels that he doesn’t deserve me, or my mums love.. “were too nice” he says? He is punishing himself because he thinks I deserve better and i TOLD HIM that’s my choice? If he loved me enough he wouldn’t be scared to stay.. could it be the girl? (i doubt it, he told me it’s not, its been happening before her) or could it be that he is just too stressed.. the funny thing is we aren’t even together! We technically are together just not exclusive and no label…

What do you think?!

EBR Team Member: Amor

November 14, 2016 at 10:59 pm

Hi Cammi,

Realistically, if he can’t stand for you, then there’s nothing you can do. And I think he can’t do it because he’s still young. So, right now, you have to move on because it’s not the right time yet.

Jessica

November 13, 2016 at 9:23 pm

Me and my ex have been dating for a while now (around 3 months). Things are going great and i’m genuinely happy with my life 🙂 However he seems to be holding onto the past between us…..
We’re meant to be going to a sports event together with a few of his friends after i finish work. I let it slip that i’d been before on my own so i know my way round the place. He asked how? He really pushed and insisted on an answer, asking if it was a date, when i went, who i watched etc.
Now he’s being extremely moody with me because i went alone to see a match without him. He said he’s worried about the same things happening as what happened before in the past i.e. us arguing at these events. I’m confused as to why he’s even invited me along if that’s the case? He was excited to have me there before he insisted on me telling him why i went before without him.
I also said (before all of the above went down) how sweet it was for my female best friend to buy me lunch and do xyz for me. He said; “I’ve done that for you many times too though.” It’s like he’s even trying to compete with my friends.
I was in a great mood and genuinely excited to talk to him after a long day, but this happens and he doesn’t take responsibility for being in the wrong.
What am i meant to do? :/
Any advice would be great!

EBR Team Member: Amor

November 15, 2016 at 4:58 pm

HI Jessica,

just talk calmly. How old are you both?

fred

November 13, 2016 at 4:49 pm

Thanks for the incisive tips on how to get things moving a lot faster on the ex recovery angle.

Chris Seiter

November 14, 2016 at 3:29 pm

Haha…

You are welcome “Fred.”

Didou

November 12, 2016 at 8:42 pm

hi I m tired I did everything and I ruin it again. I can’t be positive if I text him and ask him to contact me and he just ignore me. I feel like if all my body is broken… I just can’t Breath.. he told me that he love me but he did nothing to prove that.. And he is upset because he wont be at the situation that he is wrong and must prove his love. I have to know that he loves me..this is too bad after 13 month of pain

EBR Team Member: Amor

November 15, 2016 at 8:12 am

yeah, I think it’s time, you should move on…

Jennifer

November 12, 2016 at 8:39 pm

I did the 30 day no contact rule (he didn’t contact me during that time). but After reading your blog, i have been following ur rules for texting an ex) I have texted him a few times, and he replied positively. On day 4 I ran into him and initiated a convo. Kept it light, catching up and stuff. he said it was good catching me and he opened his arms for a hug. I gave him a light hug like an acquaintance and left it at that (I didn’t want to allude to a relationship so early). I didn’t contact the next day, but sent him 2 Snaps referencing our convo for 2 days before. The ni sent him a message saying it was nice talking to him last time, and if he wanted to play table tennis that night. Then I did the stupid thing and called him that night ugh…. I was clingy in the relationship and lack self confidence. I think I lost myself in the relationship, but I have caught sight of that. how do I get him to text me, he still has his fb chat deactivated for me 🙁

Jennifer

November 15, 2016 at 2:20 am

He hasn’t replied and its been 2 days. How long should I wait to initiate contact?
When will he initiate?
EBR Team Member: Amor

November 15, 2016 at 11:17 am

wait 3-5 days before trying again.
Jennifer

November 12, 2016 at 8:57 pm

Is it a good idea to send a thank you text. Saying taking a break from the relationship helped me see that I had lost myself in the relationship. Now being a able to focus on myself has helped me becoming more confident try and accomplish my goals.

I can start off with I’d like to thank you. and then lead off into a phone call so I can tell him about my progress. But this is after waiting a bit of time before texting him again.
Chris Seiter

November 14, 2016 at 3:34 pm

Honestly I don’t think it will help you much at all so I am going to say no.

At the same time I doubt it hurts you.

cammi

November 12, 2016 at 6:14 am

Okay so my ex and I have been on and off for about 2 years but he still loves me and says he does, vice versa. The major issue we have is his mum… he is conflicted because family means a lot to him and he doesn’t want his mother disowning him since she is ver stubborn and her way is the only way.

WE are both 21 turning 22 in about a week, so yes still young!

Background info: We dated for 2 years and a half then we broke up in september 2013. He is from Hong Kong and I am Middle eastern. The race is not an issue, the issue is a lie I told when I was 16… and the mother has disliked me since. SO she obviously has a problem with me but I don’t know how to tell him that’ll be okay… My mother says if he loves me enough he won’t be scared of his mother.. because he says it’s not as simple as “just don’t listen to her” his older brother doesn’t talk to his family anymore… he does not want to be in that place.

I love him and he cares for me deeply.. asking my friend how I am in the space of a break.. but he has been asking everyone for advise. He is confused and is scared if we proceed down this road that the future will hurt us more if his mum doesn’t approve.

He gave her an example last time: “If I was to be gay and brought home a guy what would do, would you accept it?”
she said she never would, “don’t pever bring him home, don’t try and force me to accept something I wont” and he applied this theory to me and that his mum won’t change her mind???

He is just scared to either fully commit or let go… but WHAT do you all think? Does couple counselling help him realise… he told me himself when we broke up he missed me and wish we didn’t break up.

deep down he says he should move on and not hurt us anymore but “he can’t seem to end it, or want to close the book”

HELP!!

EBR Team Member: Amor

November 14, 2016 at 10:59 pm

Hi Cammi,

Realistically, if he can’t stand for you, then there’s nothing you can do. And I think he can’t do it because he’s still young. So, right now, you have to move on because it’s not the right time yet.

Alice

November 11, 2016 at 2:47 am

Regarding the part where you have phone calls with your ex, I’m not a person that likes to have phone calls.On the contrary, I hate talking on the phone and find myself often with nothing to say.I’m not much of a talker,so to me it probably would kill the attraction.Do you have other suggestions?

Chris Seiter

November 14, 2016 at 3:34 pm

Hmm… Are you fan of skyping or doing things of that nature?

I suppose you could skip the phone calls and go into the dating phase but it’s risky.

Marji

November 11, 2016 at 1:09 am

Hey Chris I am an avid reader of EBR. It’s now a week ago after our break up. He broke up with me telling me he don’t love me anymore and he said he loves someone else. Before we got broke we have a huge fight over his workmate who flirts and texts him. She knows that I am his girlfriend but she keeps on flirting with him. When we were on a fight I have discovered that he leans in to that girl to get comfort. Now since our break up I implemented NC and until now he doesn’t even text me or check up on me. We were together for 1 year and 7 months. Though we have a lot of fights there is also a lot of time that he’s happy being with me. How could he tell that he’s in love with that girl when he just met that girl for just half a month. Is it true that he doesn’t love me anymore and he just became suddenly In love with her? Why it’s so easy for him to dump our 19 month relationship? What’s going on in his mind. What should I do?Please help me. I want him back..

Marji

January 4, 2017 at 11:07 pm

Hi Amor. I did it , I continue posting on FB. I don’t know why my comments here gets disappeared anyways my ex dated me this new year. He texted me that he wants to meet me. I’m not prepared that time but when I was walking in the streets I just saw him and suddenly we had a date. He acted so sweet and caring about me that time and he told me not to go out with other guys. I’m also wearing a sexy outfit that day. He said I look nice but he said he doesn’t want me to go out wearing outfits like that cause he doesn’t want other guys to saw me the way he sees me. I stole a pic of him cause he doesn’t want to take selfies with me. He said his rebound girlight get mad of us. I don’t know why he wants to date me and meet me while he’s with that girl. Then his rebound started stalking me on FB again. I posted everything about my ex’s date I even posted his pics during our date. She used my ex’s FB and messaged me pretending that she’s my ex. So I played with her I acted like I didn’t know that she’s the one using my ex’s FB. I replied to her message and I talked about our date. She didn’t replied. Then she posted something on FB saying that we won’t believe me she believes my ex more. She said my ex loves her and she believes that he will never meet me. She said she will always believe in my ex. I don’t know if she’s using reverse psychology to me. But I hope she gets annoyed with what I’ve posted haha. My ex is telling lies to her and she believes in it. Cause the truth is my ex was still texting me and going on several dates with me and keeps on flirting me.
EBR Team Member: Amor

January 7, 2017 at 4:04 am

That’s good and bad because if he’s lying to her, more likely he’s lying to you too. So, that he can keep the both of you.
Marji

December 21, 2016 at 11:11 pm

We did meet. We swap SIM cards. I can say I transformed my looks and everyone who saw me that day can’t take their eyes off of me haha. At first he looked at me from my head to my feet. Then he can’t look at me in the eyes But when I was looking away He keeps on taking a glance at me. After our meet up his rebound girlfriend was using his Facebook account to stalk me. It seems she gets annoyed with my posts that I’m happy. I also posted in a subtle way that I meet my ex and she seems insulted cause every time I post something she will also post something in reaction of what I’ve posted and a lot of times she’s posting that she’s so irritated. She posted a lot of things using my ex’s Facebook and trying to insult me that he loves her better than me. My ex doesn’t text me after our meet up. Any advice please on what should I do to get him back and how can I deal with that stalker.
EBR Team Member: Amor

December 26, 2016 at 1:55 pm

that’s good..let her stalk.. it means she’s jealous, the more she’s like that, the more your ex will be annoyed of her
Marji

December 10, 2016 at 11:46 pm

Hi there Amor! It’s been a long time. I was focusing on moving on but still there is a part of me that wants him back. Remember he said he doesn’t want me to text him and talk to him anymore? Now he’s texting me. He’s in a relationship now with the girl he dumped me for but he’s still texting me and begging me to have a meet up or a date with him. He’s sending me thoughtful texts while being on a rebound relationship what does this mean?
EBR Team Member: Amor

December 13, 2016 at 4:24 pm

It looks like it’s starting to become a pattern. He texts and then gets annoyed and then when you ignore he texts you again, probably because he misses you because it’s normal that he will but I hope you didn’t reply to that text because it’s going to feed that cycle.
Marji

December 4, 2016 at 2:40 am

I don’t know what to do now how can I get him back? It’s been 1 month since our break up. I want him back.
EBR Team Member: Amor

December 4, 2016 at 11:18 pm

For me, you really have to think about his actions too.. If he has a gf now and yet he doesn’t want you to date others, that’s being selfish. I’m not saying you should just continue dating others, but dont let him control you that way too.. Let him cool down by not reacting to him.. Just continue living life, being the ungettable girl.. Because he has to think that him being angry about that is out of place and it’s not going to stop you from being happy..
Marji

December 3, 2016 at 2:41 am

I think we can’t see each other anymore now 🙁 everything went wrong. He knew I was going out and having a date with a guy friend, maybe he saw my pics in Facebook. He texted me last night he said he doesn’t want me to text him anymore. I ignore that. Then he texted me again this morning he’s so mad at me he said I have a new boyfriend right now. But I don’t have a new boyfriend, I just go out with my guy friend one time. He said a lot of hurtful things to me. It hurts and I can’t understand why is he acting that way. He dumped me for another girl and now that he knew I’m going out with someone he’s getting mad at me. I don’t think if I still can have a chance to get him back 🙁
EBR Team Member: Amor

December 3, 2016 at 3:44 pm

I hope you didn’t answer to that lastb
text.. It’s unfair but he’s probably used to you being affected by him and chasing him.. So, maybe unconsciously he tries to control you through anger
Marji

November 29, 2016 at 11:01 pm

What can I do now to get him back? He’s courting that girl. Is it a rebound since it’s just less than a month after our break up? What should I do?
EBR Team Member: Amor

November 30, 2016 at 6:54 pm

She’s probably a rebound.. I think you have to restart the no contact rule.. and do a full 30 days.. Because you’re more likely to be friendzoned now and you have to really improve yourself. So, that if he compares you to your old you and to the other girl, he would regret leaving you.
Marji

November 28, 2016 at 2:23 pm

Hi Amor. We’re planning to exchange phones this Sunday December 4. But today I knew he dated that girl last Sunday 🙁 ouch for me. I think he’s courting that girl. But why does he text me like he still cares? It hurts. Is he just playing games with me? What should I do now? This is the last week of my NC. I know I’ve changed my looks and not to be arrogant I look better than the girl he’s with but looks isn’t enough. I thought I’m already ok but now that I knew he’s courting that girl I’m totally hurt. Please help me.
EBR Team Member: Amor

November 29, 2016 at 1:34 pm

Oh, the nc is already broken when you updated him about yourself because it was not just about your things.. It was already about you, you’re whereabouts and the people around you.. He probably just kept asking out of ego, being possessive..
Marji

November 26, 2016 at 6:07 am

Thanks Amor. I’m not sure if he’s still with the girl he dumped me for. But I did improving myself so I can apply the Yin Yang Theory. I’ve been busy improving and I’m now enjoying my life being single. I take down notes of everything I have learn here in EBR and I want to thank you EBR team. He texted me last Tuesday. He now keeps on texting me and checking up on me. Did you remember I told you we swap phones before he broke up with me and now he wants his phone back? Guess what, someone who’s my guy friend who likes me texted me on my own mobile number (which was being used now by my ex since we swap phones) my ex got irritated and he texted me about that. He said he doesn’t want some other guys to pursue me. Since then he keeps on checking up on me and reminding me not to go home late, tell him my whereabouts, eat meals on time. I give him late replies and I’m trying to make him want for more. And oh my guy friend messaged me on FB about his conversation with my ex and he said that my ex boyfriend said this “are you missing my baby? Sorry man she’s mine”
does that mean he still loves me??
EBR Team Member: Amor

November 27, 2016 at 8:16 pm

That’s a very good sign but you have to be careful, that it will just stay like that. Because it can be just him being possessive but not wanting to commit. So, later on you have to talk. When are you going to exchange phones back again? Where is this all going? Because if you’re not getting back together, of course you have to move on.
Marji

November 21, 2016 at 1:53 am

I got my hair cut and hair color, I also did shopping new clothes and I engage myself in Zumba everyday. Even though I’m not fat I just want to work out using Zumba. I feel good about myself right now and I’m more confident than before. Thanks to the EBR team. But still I want to try getting him back. Is it ok if I would go and meet him right after the NC? Since the last time he texted me he said he wants his phone back and he will give me mine (we swap our phones before we broke up). Will it be ok? Or should I wait for another week after NC?
EBR Team Member: Amor

November 22, 2016 at 11:01 pm

If he really needs it, that’s ok but if it’s just a way to see him, build rapport first
Marji

November 18, 2016 at 3:26 am

Thanks for your reply. What should I do now? I’m on the NC period. Do you think I still have a chance to get him back even if he’s too busy in his work? He texted me last Monday he wants to meet me. But I did not replied.
EBR Team Member: Amor

November 20, 2016 at 4:30 pm

See, now he’s texting you..that’s good that you didnt reply. Continue being in no contact and being active in improving yourself. Increase your chances that way. Make him regret leaving you by being your best self
Chris Seiter

November 14, 2016 at 3:33 pm

Thanks for being an avid reader!

He is on the rebound. And probably in that honeymoon period phase.

Confused

November 11, 2016 at 12:35 am

Hi, I love this post btw. Anyways Chris, I started working with Brad Browning and I’m trying to merge what I learn from him and you. I followed your steps the first 30 days after my breakup and then I started texting. When I got to the transition text (day 11) I stopped and revaluated how my ex was responding (which was mostly positive with some neturals here and there) but I still felt like he needed more time idk why but I just did. Anyways I chose to go back into no contact and then I listened to your podcast with Brad.

Long story short, I signed up for his one on one coaching and he agreed with my decision of no contact for another 30 days. Well on day 14 my ex finally texted me first since our break up at the end of Aug. But I ignored it and kept with no contact. The day before the no contact rule ended I ran into my ex in person (there were no negative feelings at all and we both seemed genuinely happy to see each other – the spark was there. I felt our old connection. At that moment I knew he was really what I wanted and I know he felt it too.

The only problem is that we are both very stubborn in our own right and his is very prideful. So just like I’m withholding from telling him how I feel he is doing the same. But I’ve been confused about how to go back it and then you posted this!! Thank you. I’m going to try it because it’s going on 3 months in a week and we haven’t really had a real convo yet. I haven’t mentioned the relationship and neither has he. I know feelings are still there, we were together for 4 years and didn’t have any major problems but we are 23 & 24 (he bday was the day NC ended). I still love him and I miss him I just don’t know exactly how to open up that communication to see where his head is at… maybe we just needed space idk but we never had the convo about what really happened and I want to.

Chris Seiter

November 14, 2016 at 3:30 pm

Brad is a great guy.

I am going to do a video with him in December.

Really zone in on the first contact text message. Take a look at my live coaching with whitney. We talk exclusively about making contact with an ex.

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