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Susan
March 17, 2015 at 1:09 am
Hi. My bf and I were together 2 years, lived together, then he asked for a break where we actually never went more than 2 weeks without spending time together. This ambiguous period lasted a little over a year. We have spent the last nine months reconciling and falling in love in a whole new way. Last week he stated he wants us to live together again and spend the rest if our lives together. Yesterday out of nowhere he said we are done because he doesn’t think it will ever work out because there are too many things about me that annoy him. What? I’m so confused. Is he crazy? Coldest? Should I lose him forever or just give him space. He’s been super depressed and I think he is treating me poorly and now just wants to give up. I seriously love this guy but I am exhausted with trying to get us back. P.s. We are in our fifties, no children. Any advice appreciated
Mary
March 27, 2015 at 5:39 am
My situation is almost the exact same. We were together 2 years, lived together and then one day, he just decided he couldn’t do it anymore. Actually, his children decided for him. He has two teenage daughters and an ex (actually, she is still his wife, but they were separated long before I ever came into the picture). His daughters and I were very close, although, obviously not as close as I thought. We literally were best friends. We genuinely enjoyed spending time together, but he could never muster up the courage to tell his daughters that he and his ex weren’t getting back together. He is afraid that if he gets a divorce, his kids will want nothing to do with him. I feel like I lost my best friend, two girls that I grew to love and the life I thought I was going to have. He still tells me that he loves me and wants to be with me, but that it’s too complicated for his family right now. The hardest part is understanding it all, understanding why he chooses unhappiness, why I wasn’t worth it to fight and stand up for our relationship. I miss every single thing about him. I even converted religions in order for us to marry one day. A week from now, I will officially become Catholic and he won’t even be there. I feel like I gave up everything and I wasn’t worth anything to him.
admin
March 18, 2015 at 8:41 pm
Do you still live together?
Susan
March 19, 2015 at 5:34 am
No after I moved out of his place I finally bought a place of my own right around when he decided to come back on a regular basis. We have had a great time making new memories here and he has been staying here about half the time. When I suggested we start spending time at his place again he was reluctant but then had a key made for me on a Valentines Day. He recently had some health issues and I took care of him for 3 weeks. The day he got home he said he wanted us together under one roof for the rest of our lives. I was hesitant but very happy. Then one week later on his birthday we went to his house, he got all weird and said I should go. I gave him a few days and never heard from him. When I called him he said he was done and proceeded to give me crazy reasons like I take to long to answer my phone. I leave dishes in the sink, I was 5 minutes late to go out. Things like that. I’m beyond devastated after coming so far myself and how we have come together to heal our relationship. I think he maybe bipolar but I keep thinking it’s me because I make him mad no matter I do. Then sometimes he’s so sweet. To finally make the commitment and do a 180, I’m stunned and hurt. Should I give up?
Ally
March 16, 2015 at 2:56 am
Hi Chris, advice please! I did NC for 3 weeks after we broke up and then saw him when I went to pick up the rest of my stuff from his place. We had a good time just hanging out but also he got quite upset when we talked about the break up. He said he’s been thinking ‘what if I made a mistake’ but never actually said he wanted to try and get back together he just asked if we could be friends. Does this mean he’s still confused and hasn’t quite worked out if he wants to get back together? Should I go back to NC?
Thanks
admin
March 18, 2015 at 7:00 pm
Maybe you can friend zone him and get him to fall for you that one.
That has been effective for some of my clients.
Brittany
March 15, 2015 at 5:12 pm
My ex boyfriend broke up with me in September 2014..I warn you it’s a long story for you to understand what happened.. In August sadly I came My ex boyfriend broke up with me in September 2014..I warn you it’s a long story for you to understand what happened.. In August sadly I came to the decision to have an abortion as I want ready. He left me with no excuse accept he needs time to himself and now he just needs to make himself happy because he isn’t with himself.. Weeks went by and I was contacting him but getting ignored until he agreed to go to the movies.. That one night to the movies turned into our routines of seeing eachtoher in the weekends.. Because in the back of my mind I knew we weren’t together there was tension.. I had lashed out a few times asking whata going on and every time it was the same answer as he cant have the responsibility of a relationship right now.. We have dated for 2 years and I loved him so I was willing to hold onto the little bit that I could.. I agreed we could be friends being on the same page focusing on our selfs as I support him… We spent the Christmas holidays together.. He got me a card and wrote ‘another year spent spent with the one love’ we had still had ups and downs.. Months went by and nothing had changed… I got frustrated with anger and said things that were hurtful.. I felt like after my abortion my life had crashed… I felt like this is why he left me … It’s a horrible feeling to live with… Well.. It’s now March 2015… I asked again if we were on the same page as I see him go clubbing with his sister and her friend of course he didn’t tell me.. It just hurt because I had a bond with his sis and I didn’t get invited so I wanted to clear the air.. I told him I wouldn’t be supportive to a liar.. Well he message back and said he couldn’t do this anymore and how it was over a long time ago.. Plain cold… I was apologizing.. And he was saying no im done here… It was so heartbreaking because just a week ago I had asked if he was keeping me around because he stil had feelings and his response was ‘do I have feelings, yes!’ And now this.. Right after he sent the message saying he didn’t want IT, he comments in a girls instagram pic she said ‘about to flood your newsfeed with pics of me’ and he goes ‘bring it in missy;)’ like 3 hour after everything.. I don’t understand.. Is he talking to her.. He never comments on pics.. And when he does it’s never like that… She post another recently and he comments again ‘beautiful’ im torn….. I have a feeling.. I could be wrong but I can’t see him commenting like that to a random…. They have eachtoher as well on fb…..well a day went by with no contact (which I’m horrible with) scared he will only lose more feelings for me and I disappointed myself and messages him.. Asking if he hated me.. He said he didn’t and goodnight.. Very rude.. I told him I can’t lose my best friend.. Went on about how he brings happiness in my life and his response was ‘we can be friends maybe one day but right now we need time apart anyways im going to bed have a goodnight.’ And I asked straight is there somebody else? And he goes ‘omg no goodnight’ I was hurt he was so cold..he never use to be like this… So I left it at that.. I need help because I Lost who I am… I can’t thjnk straight.. I miss him.. I feel like I lost him forget and the damage is done… I desperately ask for help …..to the decision to have an abortion as I want ready. He left me with no excuse accept he needs time to himself and now he just needs to make himself happy because he isn’t with himself.. Weeks went by and I was contacting him but getting ignored until he agreed to go to the movies.. That one night to the movies turned into our routines of seeing eachtoher in the weekends.. Because in the back of my mind I knew we weren’t together there was tension.. I had lashed out a few times asking whata going on and every time it was the same answer as he cant have the responsibility of a relationship right now.. We have dated for 2 years and I loved him so I was willing to hold onto the little bit that I could.. I agreed we could be friends being on the same page focusing on our selfs as I support him… We spent the Christmas holidays together.. He got me a card and wrote ‘another year spent spent with the one love’ we had still had ups and downs.. Months went by and nothing had changed… I got frustrated with anger and said things that were hurtful.. I felt like after my abortion my life had crashed… I felt like this is why he left me … It’s a horrible feeling to live with… Well.. It’s now March 2015… I asked again if we were on the same page as I see him go clubbing with his sister and her friend of course he didn’t tell me.. It just hurt because I had a bond with his sis and I didn’t get invited so I wanted to clear the air.. I told him I wouldn’t be supportive to a liar.. Well he message back and said he couldn’t do this anymore and how it was over a long time ago.. Plain cold… I was apologizing.. And he was saying no im done here… It was so heartbreaking because just a week ago I had asked if he was keeping me around because he stil had feelings and his response was ‘do I have feelings, yes!’ And now this.. Right after he sent the message saying he didn’t want IT, he comments in a girls instagram pic she said ‘about to flood your newsfeed with pics of me’ and he goes ‘bring it in missy;)’ like 3 hour after everything.. I don’t understand.. Is he talking to her.. He never comments on pics.. And when he does it’s never like that… She post another recently and he comments again ‘beautiful’ im torn….. I have a feeling.. I could be wrong but I can’t see him commenting like that to a random…. They have eachtoher as well on fb…..well a day went by with no contact (which I’m horrible with) scared he will only lose more feelings for me and I disappointed myself and messages him.. Asking if he hated me.. He said he didn’t and goodnight.. Very rude.. I told him I can’t lose my best friend.. Went on about how he brings happiness in my life and his response was ‘we can be friends maybe one day but right now we need time apart anyways im going to bed have a goodnight.’ And I asked straight is there somebody else? And he goes ‘omg no goodnight’ I was hurt he was so cold..he never use to be like this… So I left it at that.. I need help because I Lost who I am… I can’t thjnk straight.. I miss him.. I feel like I lost him forget and the damage is done… I desperately ask for help …..
admin
March 18, 2015 at 6:27 pm
I think you are focusing on the wrong things.
You are literally facebook stalking him.
Would the ungettable girl facebook stalk an ex?
Brittany
March 15, 2015 at 5:17 pm
Sorry I had this typed out on my notepad and for some reason I guess I pressed paste more then once lol.. I just need help determining if the NC rule will work.. I feel like it’s to late 🙁
Anna
March 15, 2015 at 1:59 am
I need advice!! My boyfriend just broke up with me. He says I lied to him. I never lied to him. Not once. I always,open and honest. We shared everything. Everything was perfect until he started staying at my place. He hadn’t completely moved,in yet, but pretty much lived with me. It all sstarted with a snapchat picture u got from a male friend. He was being silly. Of course I told my ex about it. He got so upset over it. Then two weeks later we went to a concert and,I gave him my phone to hold. He had been in a bad mood all day, I don’t know why. He Saud he just didn’t feel good. When we got,home I laud down for a few minutes to let him cool off and get happy and I accidentally fell asleep. The next day he’s super upset. I had got another snap hat from a different person, male,of course. From someone I had not spoken to in I don’t know how long. I didn’t even look at the snapchat he sent. I just deleted it. He got mad at me because I didn’t tell him I got a snapchat from this person. And he left me. We ended p back together two days later. Everything had been great. R we getting along so good and just having fun being in love. The three days ago He saw a picture on Facebook that I uploaded of my new hair. An old co worker, male, that lives 20 hours away from us, concerned on it saying I had pretty eyes. Well he flipped out. He started back saying I lied to him. That all I have done is lie. Said he can’t trust me. I never lied. I had just seen the comment about 15 mins before he brought it up. I told him I saw no harm in a compliment. That it is from someone who I have no interest in and who has no interest in me. He didn’t like that answer and just kept saying I lied. As he was packing his things, I was just so mad I told him too make sure he got everything because he wasn’t coming back. He said this is the last time, it’s over. Before I left, he told me He loves me and that I make him feel like no one else ever could. He said I make him feel human. He gave me a long tight hugand that was it. Its been three days. I’m so heart broken and confused and devastated. I am at a loss d what to do. He contacted me the next day post breakup saying he forgot his headphones. I said I’d leave them for him. He responded with how he sacrificed so much And I never appreciated it. Crazy thing, he sacrificed nothing, I did. And I told him that. Later that night my friend saw him on a dating website. I confronted him about it. He said he was going to do everything like I did. I never once even had a single thought of another man. I told him that vi told him t made me physically sick to think of dating anyone but him. And then I exploded on him. I was so mad at him. Iv told him to leave me alone, to never speak too Me again. He responded saying no problem at all. How can he go from me being everything he wanted, saying he wanted to spend the rest of his life with me, That no one else compared, to just walking away. Do I try to get him back, do I walk away? I do love him. I just don’t know how or what to do.
admin
March 15, 2015 at 5:23 pm
What made him think you were a liar?
Was there one specific incident that occurred where he formed this opinion.
Anna
March 16, 2015 at 11:16 am
He said by not telling him about the second snapchat I received, I was lying to him. I saw how mad thirst one mad him. So I didn’t announce the second,one,I got. Nor,did I even look at it. And in our final fight, before he left me, He said not telling him about the comment on the Facebook picture I was lying to him. I didn’t lie. I didn’t tell him about the snapchat bc I didn’t even acknowledge it. And about the picture, I had just seen the comment Shortly before he said anything about it.
C.
March 13, 2015 at 3:13 pm
It has been 4 months since my ex boyfriend contacted me.When he suddenly pulled back I made the mistake to become clingy.He read them but didn’t respond.Last message i sent was in december saying that I’m sorry to put pressure on him and that he should concentrate on his work and if things calmed down I’d like to go for coffee together.His facebook status says that he is still in a relationship though i suspect him to have a new gf otherwise he would have changed it already.He rarely posts but i find myself checkingup on his Profile and pictures way too often and can’t stop thinking about the time with him together eventhough we hadn’t dated for more than 2 months.It was short but it felt perfect because he was trying so hard at the beginning.
Since I’m not really able to move on when i keep checking up on his Fb at all I decited to delete him yesterday.I was in a really bad mood yesterday because i kept thinking about him too mich again when i saw he had uploaded a new photo which I assume he took on a date I pressed the unfriend button.I was planning to keep him on my List to make him see what he misses out on or to keep a connection between us but it makes it impossible for me to not think about him.
By deleting him from my Fb I Five myself the Chance to get over him and heal on the other hand I’m worried ,whether I closed the door for him completely.
Do you think men would still contact their exgf when they miss them?Will he stop thinking about me(in case he still does..lol)now that i defriended him?
JaniceD
March 9, 2015 at 6:32 pm
hey Chris. I’ve read and listened all your articles podcasts about Long Distance RElationship but I have a question. What if you go no contact and after one day he sends links of his new song like nothing happened? days passed by and he says ‘heeey’ on chat, he is acting like nothing changed between us even though I said clearly that we can’t be just friends and told him to contact me when he change his mind. I ignored his msgs but now I’m panicking because maybe he will give up 🙁 it’s been 7days and he already quit writing but I see him online. My story: I was ‘cyberdating’ someone for 5months, everything was doing well but few days after we got very close, skyping all the time he break the news that he wants to be ‘just friends FOR NOW’, because there is another girl from another country who bought a ticket and is going to visit him in March and he promised her to be serious. Lmao I had no clue it was some sort of contest that I should hurry up to grab him lol, I rather him have found girl in his country instead of this bs, he even told me before that he sucks at LDR so I’m not sure why he wants to meet her if she aint going to move to his country. He said that he accepted her visit because I didn’t make any plans of visiting him (I’m old school and thought that if he really liked me he would come visit me first). He said he is tired of being alone and he doesn’t know if me or her is the love of his life so he gave her a chance. This is all so messed up, my selfsteem is gone now, tbh I feel worthless, not enough because he chose someone else 🙁 He said he didn’t chose her, but she chose him first before me. I was shocked, I didn’t know women are supposed to do the hunting and take charge, pay a ticket to meet a stranger abroad?? I like him so I told him that we crossed the lines of friendship and going back will be awkward, I can’t be friends with someone I’m attracted to in a romantic manner . He said that he feels the same way about me and he falls in temptation talking to me and don’t want to lead on both girls but he likes me very much and wants to be friends for now. The other woman basically demanded him to be exclusive and he agreed. He asked me to have a break, I told him that I can’t be just friends and that if he change his mind and want things the way it were that he knows where to find me. I didn’t do any drama, no begging, no textgnat, just went straight to no contact. But the odd thing is that he kept messaging me on fb like nothing happened, I was so shocked that I logged off and quit fb for 3 days. When I got back there weren’t any msgs but he was online. I don’t understand why he still wants to talk to me as friends, no sex if he already found someone. Want me in the backburner just in case it doesn’t work out with the new girl? I can’t talk to him anymore if we aint going to have anything romantic or sexual and there is no hope for nothing more. Anyway my question is, should I keep no contact or should I have replied to him? 🙁 I know I’m an idiot but this whole thing is destroying me, I’m feeling worthless and not enough, no guy ever treated me this way. Do you think he will change his mind and get back to normal with me with no contact? or I lost him forever? my mom said that he and the other girl won’t work out and he will look for me after she is gone. I seriously need help cause I’m already losing weight and hair because of this stress, is not even about him is more because this rejection make me feel worthless, I never pursued any guy in my life so I’m dumbfounded that I lost the game for some ugly chick from another country who bought a ticket to visit him. Lmaoo Sorry for the long msg, please reply to me Chris!!!!
admin
March 13, 2015 at 4:14 pm
Thanks for listening to the podcasts!
What do you mean he sends links?
Seems to me like he is trying to get your attention.
JaniceD
March 14, 2015 at 6:27 pm
I read your article talking about what to do when blocked but none of the reasons for the block seem to apply to my case??? why block me, he could have unfriended me instead. Blocking is so extreme. I feel hated but his reason for blocking is that he can’t resist me lol I never contact him he was the one after me. And why block me and give me his email address, that’s crazy like hell.
JaniceD
March 14, 2015 at 5:58 pm
wow Chris thanks for your reply! you’re the man!!! He sent me links to his new songs that was aired in a radio show, he is a musician and sound engineer. He wanted my opinion, he always does that because I used to play in bands and write review in metal pages too. I replied him cold, just said the song was good. So I broke no contact after 8 days. Then he asked for new pictures of me, I said that I wouldn’t send him any ad that he should ask for new pics and music opinion to the chick who is going to visit him in his country this month. He got so mad and said that if he wanted a lecture he would be at school. The days passed and I was back to no contact but he kept msg me everyday again with more song links and saying hi. I ignored him. Then he said he was sorry for being fcked up and that he doesn’t know what is wrong with him and that is hard for him to not talk to me because he likes me very much. I end up replying him that he should figure out why he wants still talk to me if he already have plans with someone else. He said he thinks he has some mental problem lol because he needs to feel wanted and needed. I told him that I won’t play shrink for him for free that he should talk about those things with the other woman. Anyway the day after I woke up to find out that he blocked me on facebook with the excuse that he needs to stop being aware that I’m online because he always wants to talk to me whenever he sees me online and is difficult for him to not see new pics of me. He wrote that he is not blocking me but he is blocking himself and that if he changes his mind he will unblock me and he left his email address saying that I should write to him in case I really want to reach him.
I was an idiot, I was so surprised that I emailed him a short msg saying that it was a bit extreme to block me but I understand and I reinforced that I don’t want to be just friends and if we can’t be back to normal that I will move on and I wished him good luck. He replied my email right away saying that but he really needs to stop seeing me online because he can’t control himself and will end up msg me and he said that if things change he will let me know.
Sorry for this being so long. It’s been 3 days since he blocked me, it feels like forever, I’m so confused Chris 🙁 Do you think he will ever unblock me again? I miss him so much, I know I’m stupid and I should find someone else. it was better when I had no contact and he kept msg me plus now I cant see his fb updates and pics. It’s like he is dead and I will never see him again.
Tell me what I should do. I havent contacted him since his last email.
admin
March 15, 2015 at 5:07 pm
Well, if you want to know more about my thoughts on his blocking go here,
https://www.exboyfriendrecovery.com/what-to-do-if-your-ex-boyfriend-blocks-you/
JaniceD
March 15, 2015 at 9:19 pm
Yes I read that article yesterday!! but none of the reasons for the block seem to apply to my case? What I find weird is why block me because he can’t control himself and then give me his email address to get in touch to him? that’s so crazy, he is lucky I’m not some crazy text gnat.
I’ve also noticed that he stopped posting daily updates on his 4music/band pages and I wasn’t blocked there.
Chris, what should I do next? I’m scared that if i keep no contact he won’t get in touch anymore 🙁 I feel tempted to write an email saying that I miss him but I know that’s pathetic. I know this is a ridiculous situation but I like him and want things like they used to be.
Thank you for your patience and all your help
admin
March 18, 2015 at 6:44 pm
I am not a fan of the emails because I think it approaches an ex from a position of weakness.
Katie
March 8, 2015 at 1:01 am
Hi Chris,
The guy I was “seeing” whom I met online broke up with me this weekend and I am beyond heartbroken – probably because this is only the second time I have been on the recieving end of being dumped.
We met on Tinder in Sept. He was in town for a conference so we “matched” and starting chatting. He only lives about 4.5 hours (drive) away but this was obviously still long distance. We took our chatting from Tinder to text (his idea). He was texting me quite often and I stopped repyling and finally told him “look, I don’t see the point of this given that we don’t live in the same city.” He responded “Ok, but before we break up, I think we owe it to ourselves to give it a chance.” The fact that he was willing to fight for me and try to make it work, was attractive to me, and I was willing to do just that – give it a chance.
We would text every couple of day, if not every day, and he would constantly ask me to come visit him. I didn’t know what to do – what, was I going to fly up to his town, to meet a guy I met online and stay with him?!” Only crazy people do that. Well, December rolls around and we have been talking as though we were together – I had obviously started feeling pretty strong feelings for this guy. We had asked each other what we were doing for NYE. He wanted me to come up. I thought about it, and on Boxing Day, I texted him that I wanted to spend it with him and would be a flight. He was so excited. He got home later that evening to check his schedule, texted me to book it, and called me at 11pm to make sure I was actually doing it. Done. I was about to see him in 4 days.
As I was driving to the airport, I was obviously nervous because I didn’t know what I was getting myself into – what if we had no real physical attraction once we met?! But that 45 minute flight, I was calm as could be and was just so excited to finally be with him!
He was standing at the gate when I arrived with a big smile on his face. He gave me the biggest/tightest hug, and right then, I knew it was going to be a good two days. We drove an hour to his house – he was giving me the play by play of all the small towns we drove through. He was amazing. I was starting to fall right then and there.
We get to his house, he gives me the tour, I’m standing in his living room, he comes over, gives me a big hug, picks me up and takes me up stairs – I felt like it was right out of a movie. We obviously hooked up and it was amazing. Later that night, we went for dinner, and then watched Netflix in bed. I just felt so comfortable with this guy. He felt like “home.”
The next day was NYE. He had to work for an hour in the morning so I just hung out and watched tv. He later joined me on the couch, lying his head on my lap, holding my hand – it was so natural. I felt like we were bf/gf. We later met up with his friend who asked how we met. He told him, and was like, “Tinder actually worked!” That made me so happy to hear. His friend was then telling him where he should later take me in my hometown etc.
That evening we went out for dinner with about 20 of his good friends. He kissed me at the table and everything felt so good. Got home before midnight, got into our sweats, cuddled on the couch, and kissed at midnight. Went up to bed, slept together and he held me so tight all night.
He drove me to the airport the next morning, playing love songs on our drive. I didn’t want to start “soooo what are we” as it felt so obvious. I just wanted to enjoy being in his presence.
I already had a text from him when I got off the plane. We had pretty much texted every day since then, chatted on the phone, he would send me photos of what he was up to, out with his neice, ripping up his carpet (things I don’t even send my friends!). He even invited me to visit his best friend in another town but I was unable to drive up that weekend. I was waiting until Feb until I would see him again, as he mentioned he may be in town for a conference. Two days before Valentines Day, after texting with him for hours, I told him I was falling for him. He didn’t really respond to that as it was kind of after we said our goodnights. *Sidenote – we would always say “sweet dreams” before bed.
I sent him a note that said “be mine” on vday and he later responded Happy Valentines Day. I was now the one who would text him first, ask him what he’s up to etc. He told me that he was coming to the conference in a week and did want to see me – I was stoked!
The day of the conference came, and I still hadn’t heard from him, so I texted him at 6:30 and was like “so I’m assuming we’re not hanging out tonight?” He said it wasn’t over until 9. So I texted back “do you want me to come over after?” No response. At 9, I texted “if you don’t want me to come, I”m going to bed.” He responded at 11:30pm “I know it’s late but I’m done now.” I didn’t respond. The next day he had to go to meetings and visit a friend in another town. I didn’t want to bug him so I waited until I knew he was back at home and asked him how the conference went. His response was pretty vague. I obviously knew somethingw as up, so on Saturday I texted him that I needed to talk to him – he said ok, and called me when he got home. I basically said, “look you were here and I didn’t get to see you, I feel like you’ve checked out.” And he was like, “yeah, you were right about the long distance… etc. I told him I was planning on visiting him within a few weeks. So he told me he would check his schedule the next day.” I didn’t hear from him on Sunday but didn’t want to push him so I left it. Monday rolled around, and I was beyond frustrated and started to freak out that I was loosing him so I sent him a REALLY long text basically letting him know that he wouldn’t let me give up on long distance, so I was asking him to do the same. I told him that I had completely fallen for him and that I was willing to do whatever it takes to make this work. But I also said, look, if the feelings just aren’t there or if you’ve met someone else, please just tell me. I ended it with “I want to be with you – do you want to be with me? You’re breaking my heart.” It was everything that I was feeling and at this point, I had nothing left to loose.
He didn’t respond that night, which I wasn’t expecting him to, but Tuesday rolled around and still nothing. I called him that night and he answered. He was like “so you’re pretty messed up hey? The thing is, I’m not. I’m so busy I haven’t even had a chance to think about. I’m not looking for a girlfriend and I don’t have those strong feelings.” At this point, I was at a loss for words and was like “Ok, forget just forget about.” He joked that I “broke up with him” twice before and now he was breaking up with me. I said, “yeah, but how can we break up if we were never anything to begin with apparently?” He said, he was just trying to make me laugh. I said, “it was nice knowing you” and then said goodbye. That was it. What the hell happened – within two weeks it went from amazing, I’m going to marry this guy, to, omg he just dumped me and broke my heart. I immedialy deleted him off of facebook.
Here is when I know/knew I should have just left it… but I didn’t. I had just found this guy and I was going to fight for him. I texted him that I knew I was clearly coming off as a nut bar, which is a new look for me apparently, but that I was still left confused (given everything that he had done before) and that I needed to talk to him one last time. I told him I was going to call him at 8pm. I did… and he put me straight to voicemail. Omg did he just do that to me?! I hung up and called him again. Same thing. I was shocked! I hung up. I needed to leave a message… so yes, I called a third time (I’m well aware this is pyscho) but I needed for him to hear my voice. I left a message telling him that “wow, I can’t believe you put me through to vm, but that I am still left really confused, I need to talk to you, please give me that.” Nothing. Fuck him.
Now, I am just really angry, along with over the top hurt. How could this guy go from basically chasing me and I felt like he was more into me this whole time, to completely ignorming me. I needed to explain to him why I felt like this so this was my final text:
“ok fine. I get that you’re done with me. What I don’t get is how you can ask me to come visit you, sleep with me, text every day, send me photos of what you’re up to, ask me to send you intimate photos, ask me to go with you to meet your best friend, and now you’re surprised I have feelings for you! I though I knew you but you’re obviously not the person I thought you were. I’m sorry for all of the texts/calls. I promise I’m done too.”
That was on Wednesday. It is now Saturday. The first couple of days were super rough. Couldn’t sleep, lost my appetite. But talking with family and friends have made me feel a whole lot better.
I know the way it ended, I did not come out looking great. But I know I’m somebody who he would be lucky to have. My thoughts are that, when I had told him that I was falling for him in Feb, he freaked out because he obviously wasn’t there yet, and realized the reality of our situation and the long distance wasn’t helping, and I know how busy he is with work. However. If he really wanted to be with me, he would make the time, and not make excuses. Of course, I have urges to contact him again but I really am not a crazy person and it’s not something I’m going to do. My last text was everything I needed to say to him so he would get why I am left so confused.
Chris, can you please help me figure out what went wrong… and if you think there is ever a chance he would regret letting me go and want me back? I know he was attracted to me and had feelings…
Thanks!
JaniceD
March 9, 2015 at 8:20 am
honey, what went wrong is that you never let him pursue you and earn to be with you, you weren’t a challenge at all. LDR never work when the girl travels to meet the guy at his place, he didn’t lift a finger and got laid when you both barely knew each other. There are a ton of guys who do this, they even send an private jet to pick a woman just because they are not invested in the relationship. The way you behaved is almost as you had a neon sign in your head saying ‘we deliver”!!! You should read Chris book also “why men love b1tches” and “the rules”. It’s all there. Sorry to say this but this guy probably did this to others so you are just another notch in his belt. Be happy that you found out who he is before you invest more, I know a girl from Spain who actually spent her savings buying a ticket to Sweden just to meet a guy online who behaved worse than yours. Be strong and please read those books so you will learn from your mistakes.
Katie
March 15, 2015 at 2:40 am
Janice – I let him pursue me for three months! …until NYE rolled around and I wanted to spend it with him. He took me out with all of his best friends. If he was just in it to get laid, I don’t think he would have gone all out and treated me the way he did. I can’t explain it. I know it my gut it was more than just a hook up. Trust me. Thanks for your insight though 🙂
admin
March 8, 2015 at 3:05 pm
So, you sent him one of those long explanation texts explaining why you need him in your life?
Katie
March 8, 2015 at 5:41 pm
I suppose. I basically said, look you were the one who told me to give us a chance and wasn’t going to let me go and now that I have, and I’ve fallen for you, I’m asking you to do the same. I told him I was willing to do whatever it takes to make it work (if it really is the distance). I gave him the out to tell me if his feelings are no longer there of if he had met someone else. I KNOW he had feelings for me. He wouldn’t have continued to pursue and give me so much attention for 5 months if he didn’t!
I just checked on Tinder… he is back on. Is there anything I can do or say? Do you think he will end up missing me?
I’m 34 and he’s 36 so you would think we would be beyond games…
admin
March 13, 2015 at 3:31 pm
Ok, can someone explain this tinder thing to me.
I hear its just used for sex.
Can you explain it to me Katie?
Katie
March 15, 2015 at 2:36 am
I’m not going to lie – I’m super relieved you think I have a shot at getting him back. Today is day 11… almost half way there! I think I have a lot of going in favor of me… however, distance is something that I know will be a constant factor for him… now anyway.
Ok, so I heard Tinder was known for people who just wanted to hook up but I went on it looking to meet someone. It allows you to see which Facebook friends you have in common (which helps) and it enables you to have legit conversations with people if that is what you’re interested in. Chad took our Tinder to text within a week, and added me to Facebook not long after… It was just another outlet to meet someone. Having said that, I’m sure the majority of people go on there just to hook up, but I ended up meeting someone I completely fell for… so you never know 🙂
admin
March 15, 2015 at 5:26 pm
haha this Tinder thing sounds gross if its used just for sex.
So, you met him on Tinder.
(Just want to make sure I have this right.)
Katie
March 16, 2015 at 3:41 am
Yes, we met on Tinder. I think a lot of people do use it just for sex but I know a lot of people that are actually on it to meet someone. If he was only interested in sleeping with me, he wouldn’t have pursued me for three months and created an emotional bond like we did.
Chris, I miss him so much. I feel like when we were breaking up, he was actually considering making it work, but I pushed him away by scaring him. How can I make him consider being with me if long distance was the main factor in our breakup? I know he’s extremely busy as well… but still. Do you think it is just the physical aspect of it? Help! I am devastated. Although… this NC thing is making me realize what an idiot he is for letting me go 😉
Katie
March 11, 2015 at 8:08 pm
I’m on day 7 of NC… do you think I have a shot at getting him back? I almost broke down and texted him yesterday. Called a friend to not let me do it! I didn’t realize how hard this would really be!
admin
March 13, 2015 at 7:39 pm
I think you have a shot.
Ummm.. just remember that day 7 of NC is still very early in this process
Chanel
March 6, 2015 at 6:08 pm
My boyfriend (now ex) and I had been on and off the past month, we dated for almost 9 months. Last night we sat down and had a talk for about an hour and a half. Everyone around us always said we were a match made in heaven. Even his family and his sister always said that he would light up whenever I sent him a letter while traveling or when I would come to his work. Anyway, last night he said that he just didn’t feel it anymore and that he wasn’t sure he ever did because we started dating shortly after his ex and him broke up after 4 years. She constantly dated someone while she was with him and cheated on him and he was broken when I met him and neither of us wanted a relationship but we decided to give it a shot because we liked being around each other. He said that he thinks so highly of me and that he still wants to go out and hang out because we always had a great time together but that he just felt like he was numb to any emotion and that he didn’t feel much of anything anymore. He said that he thinks about the future a lot and that he just didn’t see us together and I just responded by saying “Does anyone though?” and he said I guess. He said that he felt like he couldn’t provide what I needed and that I deserve a guy who is emotionally there for me and giving me things I want even though all I wanted was our friendship to continue and he also stated that we are too similar… I don’t know if that scared him that we had so much in common and that we just got along really well. I asked him if it’s okay to still go out to his place of work because we’d always go out there even before I met him and he said yes and then I asked if I should be with other guys and he said he didn’t know but if that’s what I wanted then I should do it but not to make him jealous. He said he wasn’t planning on talking or being with another woman and that if he was he would tell me about it in advance. He has always been honest with me and will not lie because we based our relationship off of honesty so I know there was not another woman. Before I was leaving I said that I guess this means we can’t kiss or do anything anymore and giggled and he said we can still kiss and when we said our goodbyes he kissed me on the lips and when I was turning away he whispered “I love you”. He had just told me a few minutes before that he thinks he didn’t ever really love anyone and that he didn’t know what love exactly meant but that he did know that he really cares about me. We’re both 24 and I just feel like I lost my soulmate even though he still wants to be a part of my life. Do you think there is hope for us in the future and that his depression and the the experience with his ex is making him think this way? He’s my best friend and losing him really hurts but I know he’s still hurting from his ex and this is what he needs. Where do I go from here? I really need help.
Chanel
March 8, 2015 at 3:22 pm
Hi, if you could get back to me I’d really appreciate it.
admin
March 13, 2015 at 3:19 pm
Hi there, how can I help (sorry for the delayed response.)
Jessica
March 5, 2015 at 6:33 pm
Hi Brad,
I newly subscribed your channel on Youtube. I am in a big mess now and really want your advices. I have dated my guy for 2 years. I always considered by boyfriend the best guy in the world for me and believed our relationship is going somewhere. He took care everything for me. Gradually, I became greedy and want more. He yelled a lot when I pushed him too hard. I acted the same way back. I said a lot a lot things that I did not mean it. Eventually, these became physical hurts to each other. This situation lasted for about 2 months or so. On last Sunday, after a big and ugly fight, he insisted on breaking up and told everyone in his family about how bad I am (This fact is important because he cared about his brothers way more than me and now his brothers hate me. They even suggested my boyfriend to call the police when I stopped by after his work to say sorry). I know that i did not do well in No Contact. He cut all my contact. The only one email that he forgot to block, I emailed him like 100 times in two days. He replied like 10 times in total and it was all very straightforward answer “I will NEVER EVER going back with you. I am completely done. move on. I told all my family numbers so there is 0% chance I will be with you again. I am your past now and I wish all happiness in your life”. Some emails included “Give me space for two weeks, I would be a friend for you in the future but going back with you 0% chance” When I dropped by after his work, I really saw he looked at me in such a different way even though just two days past. He told me “He do not like me anymore even for a little and he really really do not want me anymore”. Since he brought up “2 weeks space”, I haven’t contacted him yesterday and today and all these words are killing me.
Yesterday, he texted one of my close friend who takes care me after the break up about if I started to eat properly. He told her that he will never ever came back with me. Nothing will change his mind. But he will always care about me and miss me because i am his first girlfriend in his life and he really wish I can get a great guy and move on with my life.
I would like to ask you if you think this will be an hopeless case or hopes are still there. Please help me. Thank you.
Adrianna Smithers
March 5, 2015 at 8:07 am
Hi Chris. I need a mans point of view. Im in my mid 40’s. Hes in his mid to late 30s. We dated 5 years. he lives up the block. Addictions involved. Weve had this on and off again for so many years. I never initated the go bacl maybe but a few times. He always came back. The fight we had almost a week ago was because I didn’t hear his call. Mind you weve already in the midst of an argument. He was SOO mean to me via drunkard text messages. I haven’t heard from him at all, been really quiet more than usual. he texted last night, can I give him a ride, imagine. I said no. He continued to be mean. Why is he not being nice and trying to fix this? Thanks.
admin
March 7, 2015 at 5:36 pm
Well, I guess you are not doing NC then huh?
E
March 5, 2015 at 5:34 am
Hi,
I started dating this guy I met online and we were long distance. He had only come down to visit twice as we had only dated for maybe two months. He changed his work schedule for me to 15 working days and 6 off (Where he would come to see me). He was so into me from the very beginning, texting me and face timing for hours every night. The texts got less frequent once we were officially dating and I took that as he was not that into me (even though I now realize it wasn’t) and I had a few talks with him about how he had to text me more or it wasn’t going to work. I had one of those talks the day before he left the second time he came down – he took it so well and said that I wasn’t asking for much and that everything I said was right and that he would do better. I also asked him if anything bothered him about me and he said nothing did. After he leaves he contacts me everyday, and then one day he didn’t and I sent him a “miss me babe?” text, and when I didn’t hear back overnight, in the morning I wrote “guess not”. He wrote back a day later saying he was working in no reception for 36 hours and had to sleep in his truck (this would all be true as he works up north in the oil an gas industry). I ignore him for 2 days after that text where he proceeds to text me for those 2 days saying “still working”. Finally I reply with “yah I think I got it. When you have reception can you facetime me.” ..he didnt reply so a few hours later I sent a bit more saying I was very frustrated with the way he communicated with me and we needed to facetime. I didn’t want him to think I was breaking up with him. He replied the next morning explaining that he had just gotten back into civilalization and his work had been crazy and he was awake for over 50 hours. Then he asked about my weekend and said he would like to hear about it after work.
I replied almost immediately saying how those are crazy hours and he must be exhausted, and asked him if he was in his home town again.
That is the last thing I ever heard from him. 2 days after that was Valentines and he did not contact me. I contacted him leaving a message saying I hadnt heard from him in 2 days and that I thought I would at least hear from him today and that it really hurt my feelings. I said if I didnt hear from him soon I didnt know what I could do.
I got no response .. I waited a whole week until I sent a really funny message with a bunch of different options he could choose for why he was ignoring me (including breaking up) but he didnt reply. The message implied that if he said nothing we would be broken up.
I don’t know what happened – the last thing he said was “how was your weekend?” this is the very first negative texts Ive ever sent him. I have been completely blindsided by this. He just never responded again and its been 3 weeks. He never told me anything bothered him ever, and he had just introduced me to his family.
I feel like everything he said to me was a lie. I am so confused and I want him back so badly. I now realize that I think I must have annoyed him with the asking for texts, but I didn’t think I had done anything enough to break us up.
Since he is completely ignoring me and never officially broke up with me, what can I do? I don’t even know if he will answer. I started no contact for a few weeks now.
Thank you so much for your help!! Im devastated that I ruined it for no good reason
JaniceD
March 9, 2015 at 5:20 pm
the problem is that you were pestering him begging for more contact. I’m sorry but being so needy is not attractive at all and only makes a man pull away especially when he has a demanding job and is busy. He probably thought ‘hey we are not even married yet and she is already acting desperate and can’t be on her own and give me space, this will never gonna work!”,. Chris talked about being needy several times in this website and his book, you should re-read his articles
admin
March 7, 2015 at 5:36 pm
I would confront him about your relationship.
The NC is meant to be used after a breakup not before one.
Natalie cook
March 2, 2015 at 3:16 am
My ex and I broke up 6 months ago. It was a whirl wind relation ship. He broke up with me. I saw his mom today out of the blue. My ex and I have no contact. But his mom asked if I had a boyfriend? ?? What is up with that???
admin
March 2, 2015 at 9:39 pm
Shes a spy!!!!
Nah, she is probably just curious.
Emma
February 26, 2015 at 1:28 am
Hey Chris,
With your example of the high school sweethearts and how it was actually the mother’s idea, I’m confused because you really didn’t explain to us what to do and how to influence him to think it was his idea. It will help if you could generally tell us how to go about doing that without being in contact or coming off as clingy.
Thank you!
Katie
February 25, 2015 at 7:11 am
Hello Chris,
My exboyfriend and I broke up over the summer (about 6 months now). The reason we broke up because he had to move away and didn’t want to deal with long distance relationship. However, about 4-5 months before we broke up, I had a feeling that I didn’t get all the attentions that I wanted. During that time, sometimes he told me that he felt tied down in a relationship and he knew it was his fault for not giving me the attentions that I needed. Also, he was lost with his life. He just turned 25 and didn’t know what to do with his life. And being in a relationship made him more stressed. I did try all my best to cheer him up during that 4-5 months such as cook for him, take him to surprised picnic, support with him about his future plans. At the end, we still broke up, in a good term though. We both sometimes texted each other to update about our lives as friends (mostly he texted me first). However, I’m not over him (he’s my first love). I still think about him every sing day. Everything still reminds me of him. I really want to visit him but I know everything is not the same anymore. Deep inside, I still care for him a lot. Today, I checked his instagram and saw that he deleted all the pictures of us. However, he still have our pictures together on his profile album on facebook (I blocked him on facebook but I used my friend’s facebook to stalk him). I feel sad a little because I think he already moves on by deleting all the pictures on us. What should I do?
-Thanks
April
February 25, 2015 at 4:06 am
Hi, sorry this long my story is this, my ex and I were together 10 years ago and had a short relationship which resulted in us having a son together, this relationship happened really really quick from start to finish it lasted a year before we went our seprate ways. We had no contact at all even though we had a child together this was by his choice.
6 years later my ex re-entered our lives and we decided to try our relationship again but took things a lot slower this time. We ended out being together for 3 years when the stresses of life etc got the better of my ex who become depressed and decided to end our relationship, however he wanted to stay friends I know I should have done the no contact but it was hard having a son and knowing my ex was depressed I couldn’t do it but chose to respond to his attempts to contact me.
He contacted me for the first 3 weeks on a weekly basis then asked if he could catch up in person we have been seeing each other on a weekly basis for about 3 weeks now, the part I am struggling with is he will emotionally open up to me and pull me in close to him etc and then he will disappear again for a few days but never longer then a week, why would he do this?
He has also made a comment that he is keeping to himself and is needing some headspace I am not sure what he means by that but will allow him to contact me when he is ready.
Why does he say he is having time to himself yet will still talk to his mates?
Is it a good sign that he has previously said he misses us and wants to make new memories with me, is still emotionally opening up to me etc but then just as quickly back peddles? And why is he needing some headspace?
How should I handle this?
Thank you for your help, I am sure like everyone on here I love my ex and want my ex back.
admin
February 25, 2015 at 9:37 pm
Have you done any NC?
Yes it is a good sign he said that.
April
February 26, 2015 at 3:42 am
The longest NC last is roughly a week or 10 days at most before he contacts me and I always respond.
I recently contacted his best mate in regards to a total different matter and was pleasantly surprised to find that his mate was being polite and was asking how I have been.
Again is this another good sign we have a chance?
What does it mean when he says he needs some headspace? I have never been told that before
sherri
February 20, 2015 at 6:14 am
Hi Chris, Sorry this may be alittle long.. My question is I went 3 weeks on NC and was doing very well but actually ran into my ex of 3yrs we broke up 1.5 months ago. I saw him at the park. A friend who is interested in me invited me I did not realize they were friends as well. Apperently my ex when he found out told this other guy Thats my ex gf of 3yrs and kinda gave the attitude of thats a no enter territory. (respect bro code, dont think about it) Anyways that night the same guy went out with some friends and I and we ran into my ex again. And My ex made a stink almost wanting to fight the park guy ~his friend. Park guy took off saying Im not dealing with this. Left my friend and I with his friends. My ex said come eat with us and was very flirty he had been drinking that night. I decide to go eat and while we are ordering food my ex is like “babe this and babe that if I order this will you eat some” I didnt really correct him I just nodded and said yes. Then the entire night he was like wow your stunning and you look real good. Then he goes on to ask about this guy and I said hes just a friend im getting to know. He said well come over to my house after we eat and I said no Im sorry I cant. And he kept pushing the issue. I said I dont feel comfortable knowing you have a gf and he pratically laughed in my face and said “GF” I dont have a gf a girl who lives 1500 miles away is not my gf. And I said well regardless I cant come over, I dont do that. He asked me to go to lunch the next day and said Id like to talk to you when we aren around all our friends. He got my friend and I a cab and said have a good night. Enjoyed seeing you. The next day I texted saying you wanna meet up still. I know I know I prob shouldnt have. Because he said I think I drank to much lastnight I feel like crap. Lets meet this week. We texted alittle back and forth and then today I asked for a favor from him I was actually desperate with my car. He picked me up and then out of know where just started to vent to me about this girl hes talking to you. Saying how he hates how all she does is talks about her ex’s and so on and so on. I didnt say much cuz I didnt really want to hear about it. I literally couldnt get a word in. Hes a taurus so opening up about things is kinda foreign. I texted when I got home and said Im proud of you. Thank you again. And he said Proud of what. And I said you just seem like your getting to be a better man everytime Ive been around you. Seems like you have your head on straight. And he said not gunna lie if I didnt respect you so much I would have kissed you. and I said well honestly as long as this girls in the picture I just cant do that with you and he said I know I understand. who knows how long she will be in the picture. LOL He said I have way to much on my mind with everything I told you about this girl. So… with that said my mind is torn. I have a tendency to run so Im wondering would it be smart to go back into NC for a while this time? Have I been moved into the friend zone(talking about relationships) I really dont know what to think right now. We have been having so much fun everytime we see each other. But knowing him and this girl will see each other in 2 weeks makes me sick and I feel like all I want to do is disappear. What should I do?
Sherri
February 19, 2015 at 7:47 am
Hi Chris, Sorry this may be alittle long.. My question is I went 3 weeks on NC and was doing very well but actually ran into my ex of 3yrs and broke up for 1.5 months at the park. A friend who is interested in me invited me I did not realize they were friends as well. Apperently my ex when he found out told this other guy Thats my ex gf of 3yrs and kinda gave the attitude of thats a no enter territory. (respect bro code, dont think about it) Anyways that night the same guy went out with some friends and I and we ran into my ex again. And My ex made a stink almost wanting to fight the park guy ~his friend. Park guy took off saying Im not dealing with this. Left my friend and I with his friends. My ex said come eat with us and was very flirty he had been drinking alot. I decide to go eat and while we are ordering food my ex is like “babe if I order this and this will you eat some” I didnt really correct him I just nodded and said yes. Then the entire night he was like wow your stunning and you look real good. Then he goes on to ask about this guy and I said hes just a friend im getting to know. He said well come over to my house after we eat and I said no Im sorry I cant. And he kept pushing the issue. I said I dont feel comfortable knowing you have a gf and he pratically laughed in my face and said “GF” I dont have a gf a girl who lives 1500 miles away is not my gf. And I said well regardless I cant come over, I dont do that. He asked me to go to lunch the next day and said Id like to talk to you when we aren around all our friends. He got my friend and I a cab and said have a good night. Enjoyed seeing you. The next day I texted saying you wanna meet up still. I know I know I prob shouldnt have. Because he said I think I drank to much lastnight I feel like crap. Lets meet this week. We texted alittle back and forth and then today I asked for a favor from him I was actually desperate with my car. He picked me up and then out of know where just started to vent to me about this girl hes talking to you. Saying how he hates how all she does is talks about her ex’s and so on and so on. I didnt say much cuz I didnt really want to hear about it. I literally couldnt get a word in. Hes a taurus so opening up about things is kinda foreign. I texted when I got home and said Im proud of you. Thank you again. And he said Proud of what. And I said you just seem like your getting to be a better man everytime Ive been around you. Seems like you have your head on straight. And he said not gunna lie if I didnt respect you so much I would have kissed you. and I said well honestly as long as this girls in the picture I just cant do that with you and he said I know I understand. who knows how long she will be in the picture. LOL He said I have way to much on my mind with everything I told you about this girl. So… with that said my mind is torn. I have a tendency to run so Im wondering would it be smart to go back into NC for a while this time? Have I been moved into the friend zone(talking about relationships) I really dont know what to think right now. We have been having so much fun everytime we see each other. But knowing him and this girl will see each other in 2 weeks makes me sick and I feel like all I want to do is disappear. What should I do?
admin
February 20, 2015 at 11:17 pm
Well, it could be worse… They could be seeing each other every day.
Sherri
February 21, 2015 at 3:22 pm
Would you go back into no contact? Or just take it slow and continue with text messaging every now and then?
admin
February 22, 2015 at 4:55 pm
Take it slow at this point.
Elize
February 18, 2015 at 8:27 pm
Hi Chris It’s me again, a while back I asked how I can respond to his messages if he expects me to go silent. Long story short, yesterday he sent me a Facebook message, invited me again, called me two hours later and then sent two whatsup’s. I have not even replied to the first message when the second one came through(being at work). It was like when we met. I answered his call and he wished me happy birthday. My question is we chatted last night on and I try to wait abit between messages, sofar I recognised that each time he is sending the longer messages and more than me, as in the beginning of our relationship (old). I really really want him back, it’s just I don’t want things to move too quickly in two or three days or even a week, we have both been hurt and will need to build a new relationship with a new foundation of trust. How can I talk to him and keep his interest while stretching time just for a week or so and us not getting too much of each other if that makes any sense?
Sarah
February 18, 2015 at 7:31 pm
Hello. I just got broken up with, would have been 5 years March 27. We met on Match.com and had a wonderful honeymoon stage for about 1 1/2 years. After that, we moved in together and eventually bought a house together almost 2 years ago. Our issues are my irresponsible attitude towards cleaning (I’m not a Pig-I just don’t want to jump in to cleaning 2hen I get home), needs a romantic relationship that is too much like the movies, disinterest in knowing when all the bills are due (none are ever late, I just don’t memorize due dates). His son has basically accepted my family as his, my dad is called Granddaddy by him. He does not know yet, he will come for the weekend is 3 days. My ex has said many times over this break up is for both of us, we weren’t happy, we’re too different, we fought too much over the same thjngs. He still says sorry for hurting me, he states it’s hard for him too, emotionally and financially. I am 35, and he’s my first real adult boyfriend. My first love. I can’t shake wanting him back to work things out. It has been exactly 7 days. What can I do? Is it too late?
anna
February 17, 2015 at 3:57 pm
Can i still get my ex back, if he broke up with me 6 month ago because i was too jealous and his family wasn’t in favor of this relationship? When i don’t contact him for a week or two , he starts to contact me again. He ‘s always really happy to see me, and we always have soo much fun together, and he s always trying to hold me in his arms, like he can’t stay away from me. Yet, he says he has no feelings for me and that he just started dating another girl? And when i start talking about other guys it makes him really jealous. What should i do?
admin
February 18, 2015 at 9:22 pm
He must still have feelings for you if he is getting jealous when you talk to other guys…