What To Do If You Get The Dreaded "No Response" After No Contact

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Carrie

August 31, 2016 at 6:33 pm

Hi! So the person I was dating broke things off with me about a month ago because of busy work schedules, big changes in his life, and distance. It wasn’t a bad breakup at all, and in the end we agreed to be friends. I have not contacted him in about 27 days, and I was wondering how I should go about trying to get him back. Things are just complicated because I’m still in school and he’s not anymore, and we’ll be running in different social circles. Plus, he moved out of the neighborhood. What should I do when I complete the 30 day rule, but he still doesn’t say anything?

EBR Team Member: Amor

September 1, 2016 at 12:02 pm

Hi Carrie,

have you been actively improving yourself? If you get a no response, just follow what’s advised here but first, think about what topic to use as a first contact text..

Love

August 31, 2016 at 1:28 am

Hi,
Me and my boyfriend lastly for 3months only.and I think and & feel that we don’t have yet enough memories to remember in.we are in LDR relationship and we only see each other once a month.you think the NC is still applies on us? I broke up with him, the reason are I didn’t get enaf attention or effort from him.i am into texting time to time every day.but I only rcv few from him.he give me space, then I try to reach out again and asked him if he’s free to talk to and his answer is if I am going to take back my breakup words on him? What I a m waiting and expecting from him is same mind set that we need to talk abt this situation first before getting back together.but seems he don’t have plan to initiate it.he said to me, all he knew is he loves me, he have nothing to explain, because he haven’t done anything wrong. Really puzzled to my mind??? If he really loves me or he is worthit to keep? After getting this types of replies from him. Btw, I am very moody and hot headed person.complain to me why I am always like this.

EBR Team Member: Amor

August 31, 2016 at 2:40 pm

Hi Love,

We don’t guarantee that nc will work but if you are going to do it, I think you should do 21 days

Love

August 31, 2016 at 1:16 am

Hi
Penguin

August 28, 2016 at 2:53 pm

Hi,

My boyfriend had a misunderstanding last time and it’s been 3 weeks now that he didnt contacted me and the same thing with me, i haven’t contacted him either. I heard from his one of siblings that we are taking a break…which I’ve really thought because he mentioned it the last time we had a fight…I wasn’t said okay with it. He unfriended me in social media and my siblings as well.
I don’t want to contact him since this is our second break up already…the first break up I was the one who always contacted him until we got back together but this time I want to find out what is he really thinks of our relationship as he mentioned before that we have lots of incompatibility.
What do you think? Shall I moved on since nobody wants to give in?

EBR Team Member: Amor

August 30, 2016 at 5:32 pm

Hi Penguin,

That’s hard to answer because if you really want to move on, we can’t advise you to keep trying right? Let’s just say you should stay in nc until you’re clear with what you really want..

Virginia

August 25, 2016 at 12:31 am

Hi! I need a little help if I get a no response after about two weeks of mostly positive responses. It is a LDR, he somewhat goasted and I turned into a GNAT but then ended rather well when I broke up with him. After that he was starting to flirt and call again before I started my NC. I did a 21 day NC perfect (he only texted once about one of my interests) and got a very good positive response the first text and as I said above had get responses for a little under two weeks…. But he hasn’t reached out to me…. After a fantastic texting positive day with a memory text and compliment…. I gave him two days of space to think about me and wonder what I was up to….but now no response to a decent message. I guess my question is how many days or time do I wait to text again and what kind of message? I am starting to think that he is getting angry that I am not as constant as before. I am a little bummed out I was going to try the transition text today. Thanks for everything. The texting bible and ex boyfriend recovery books are just fantastic!

EBR Team Member: Amor

August 29, 2016 at 12:55 am

Hi Virginia,

it’s normal that it would be “boring” or let’s say the conversations would be more normal over time.. you just have to let it rest and focus again on your activities and being active in posting in social media dor a few days.. if he texts, transition to calls in high point and end it there

Muga

August 23, 2016 at 12:24 am

r/relationship_advice
He doesn’t want any emotional attachment.
u/Muga_mainali4d, 22h
F(19) M(23) So let me start from the begining. I met this guy about in July.(its been about a couple of months). We met online and instantly had a connection when we first started talking and started going out soon after our first date. Everything was great. We really enjoyed each others company. Although there was this thing i didnt like about him and it was him being really unexpressive about things. It was always me who made the first move and it sometimes annoyed the hell out of me. But otherwise he was a really nice lad. I mean he introduced me to his parents and brother. Wanted us to meet his friends and all. Although the thing was that he was recently out of a long-term (alost about 6 years) relationship which ended partly because she cheated on him. (And mostly because she probably thought the same thing that i did about him not being upfront about his feelings) He told me they used to have fights every single day.he was sick and tire of it.

It was about a week ago, we had a big fight about him not being passionate. This totally messed things up.

He broke up with me with the classic “its not you, its me” saying things like “you deserve better” “im not healed from my past relationship
Although when I told him if we could still be friends (which I obviously dont want to) but since it seemed likethe only way I could keep him in my life. He was completely okay with it.
I was totally devastated after this. Although weird thing is that when I texted him later that day to tell him that I was even ready to wait for him. He replied that to “thanks for offering but you dont have to. And I think you’re right. I need some time. But at this point all want is a break”
He hasn’t talked to me after that. Im thinking of going nc on him.
I dont want to fuck this up.

I dont know how to take it from here though. Pleasseee help.. please.

EBR Team Member: Amor

August 26, 2016 at 4:04 pm

Hi Muga,

did you met this years July? how are you now?

Andrea

August 22, 2016 at 7:13 pm

Thanks for your advice and this is the best NC rule website around! I wish I woukd have read this before I made my two attempts. I really need your help.

I left my ex about in January because I thought he was cheating. It is a ling distance relationship and we dated for about 15 months. The first 4 months was amazing because we stayed in the same city but I had to move to another country. Fast forward…we both lost trust! He has a daughter who loooves me…she is 23. She keeps telling me to call him and him to call me.

Well we broke up in January but NC started in April. His daughter texted him and told him to call me. She did the same with me! He responded, why? She said because she wants you! He said no she doesnt! And this is the part that I think messed things up! She said…she had been telling me every single day that she wants you back!! She screen shot this and sent it to me. He asked…why should I give her me? Is it the same ol bs? And then she asked me what to say. I responded with he should leave the past in the past like I did.

Well…I felt like he was thinking that I NEEDED him and want him! But thats not true..I care tho. I wrote him an email and said…His daughter was playing match maker and I didnt tell her I wanted to get back but I did tell her how I think about him at times. I then brought up a positive part of our past and asked him if he remembered. He responded two days later and said…hey, I hope youre doing good. Yes I remember. And that was it!! I wrote back aski g how he was doing and its been a day…no response!

I think I messed up! I never got the chance to suprise him! I want to try one last time but maybe restart the NCR? Or…send that shocker text! Is it too late? What should I do? Thanks!!!

Andrea

August 24, 2016 at 11:51 am

He wrote back another one liner. I wish that I didnt care…its been about 8 months since we broke up but since April with the NC. Im in another country and I am thinking about this man. I just want to move forward… but its really hard. 🙁
Andrea

August 24, 2016 at 2:47 am

Hi Amor!

Thanks for replying! Just on snapchat. I havent mentioned her dad we just comment on funny snaps. He still hasnt replied yet. I am sure that its because he thinks im desperate and waiting on him. She made me seem like it. I am not dating and then she told him that I tell her everyday that I want him back. I feel like that messed up any chance so I tried to fix it by bringing light to the situation and remind him of something positive.
EBR Team Member: Amor

August 23, 2016 at 5:08 pm

Hi Andrea,

are you still talking to daughter?

Namiho

July 23, 2016 at 2:30 pm

Hi Amor!
He went silent after 1 fight. After 2 weeks of no contact, I phoned him to ask for a clear end. He gave me it, but after hearing his voice, although it was cold and distant, I knew at once I don’t want to lose him. After that, he deleted his fb messenger app (we were LDR, so it was our main means of convo), he also deleted the YouTube playlist he made for me as well. Does it mean he really wants to cut me out of his life for good or do I still have a chance? FYI we were madly in love (up until the fight), and I’m in NC now.
Thanks!

EBR Team Member: Amor

July 23, 2016 at 2:54 pm

Hi Namiho

give him time.. maybe he was mad after that talk

Next Step?

July 23, 2016 at 9:14 am

Hi,

I messaged my ex for the second time the other day congratulating him on something. It was after the first reach out message after the NC period which resulted in my last message getting ignored. We agreed to be friends after the breakup and its been about 2 months since the breakup and I got a little a bit of a conversation going the other day but my last message I sent was ignored and did not get any response. I thought he was ready to have a little conversation judging on the few messages I got. I think he has made it clear he doesn’t care anymore since he ignored my last message. I am not sure what to do next, do I just leave it and not bother contacting him again? Thanks

Next Step

July 24, 2016 at 6:55 am

Hi Amor

The last message was about me being on study break, maybe it did not need a response. But I am still confused on what to do since I think he doesn’t care anymore.
EBR Team Member: Amor

July 26, 2016 at 5:06 pm

the topics has to be interesting for him, those that he always talks about..and at first it would really be like that because it’s awkward for him.. that’s why you’re slowly building rapport..
Next Step

July 24, 2016 at 12:16 am

Hi Amor,
No the last message was just about me on holidays, maybe it did not need a reply but I’m still confused on what to do
EBR Team Member: Amor

July 23, 2016 at 2:11 pm

hi Next step,

was the last message the congratulations message?

Enigma

July 22, 2016 at 10:04 pm

I tried NC for 30 days. My ex-boyfriend didn’t reach out to me during NC. I finally gathered courage to text him as guided after NC and indeed got a positive response. I sent a second text after 2 days and he responded with a question asking what I wanted to share. After my response he didn’t get back to me. I waited a week and then sent another casual text. He hasn’t responded to that one either. I am wondering if his first text was a pity text and if he doesn’t want any further communication. Is there any chance of us getting back together? I am loosing all the hope.

EBR Team Member: Amor

July 23, 2016 at 10:37 am

Hi Enigma,

it depends on the reason why you broke up, how much you’ve improved and what topics you used

Lost and Confused

July 12, 2016 at 3:54 pm

Hello there, well my ex of 3 years broke up with me a week ago. we did not end on good terms the last thing he said to me was to never contact him again. I made the mistake of begging for him back for 2 day, then finally stopped contacting him. Its been 5 days. Usually after a fight where he says were over he usually texts me by now. Ive never gone this long without hearing from him. Is it really over?

Lost and Confused

July 13, 2016 at 3:54 pm

hello again Amor.
He sent me an email yesterday saying that he missed me and still loved me. What should i do?
EBR Team Member: Amor

July 13, 2016 at 6:33 pm

wait further if he says he wants to get back with you.. most of the time if you replied to that, he will then say that he’s still not ready to get back yet
Lost and Confused

July 12, 2016 at 8:11 pm

Hi Amor,
Lost and Confused again. Would NC still apply if we were in a LDR? We havent spkoe in a week and I can’t help but feel like we already seem like strangers. Im afraid he will forget about me or worse case senerio move on. Does he miss me? Is he thinking of me? These are the questions running through my head. Our anniversary is coming up this week and I had planned a trip to see him before the breakup it was going to be a surprise. Im not sure if I should still go, everything is already paid for.
EBR Team Member: Amor

July 13, 2016 at 3:50 pm

one of nc’s purpose is to make him miss you..so.if that’s the concern it will help you with that..given that you are active with yourself and in social media
EBR Team Member: Amor

July 12, 2016 at 7:06 pm

Hi Lost and confused,

you said it didn’t end in good terms, he’s probabky still hurt about that.. better if you start active nc instead

Tania

July 11, 2016 at 10:51 am

Hi, Amor, it’s me again (context: Joseph stoped picking up and talking to stranger girls for me but he said he was starting to feel the urge to do it again when we broke up).

I’m three and a half weeks into NC by now. He hasn’t contacted me either, and I’m pretty sure he won’t (his best friend – Andrew – is a mutual friend and into picking up too; we don’t talk about Joseph, but I know if he ever were to miss me, Andrew would tell him to go chase another girl because that’s what he’d do).

I’m afraid if I try and reach out after NC, Joseph won’t respond because he hasn’t said a peep in over 20 days and he may have gone out with other girls already. I don’t know if he’s being stubborn (since he initiated both the break up and NC) or if he fears I might hate him (because I used to reach out for him more often than he did for me).

My vacation trip is going to keep me away one more week AFTER 30 days-NC is over, and after that, we have a meeting at collage. It’s not mandatory, but I really want to participate; however, I’m afraid if he doesn’t respond or if he finds out I’m going, he will back off and miss the meeting. Even though it’s not why I want to go, that was a pro of that meeting for me, and I don’t want him to avoid me.

My questions are: Is he too stubborn to contact me by now, or is he just afraid because I haven’t called him? What kind of text can I use to contact him and avoid being ignored? Or should I just wait until the college meeting to talk to him?

EBR Team Member: Amor

July 12, 2016 at 12:36 pm

Hi Tania

Truth is, it looks like it’s just easy for him not to talk with you because of how he is.. if he likes picking up girls, that means he’s not faithful. if he is, he should have avoided that while you’ve broken up..it’s better if you just initiate at the meeting

SOS

July 10, 2016 at 11:01 pm

Hi I was wondering if it was a good idea to send ex a message congratulating him on something like sports or results. I only reached out once since NC and it didn’t turn out very well as I only got 2 responses very late.

EBR Team Member: Amor

July 12, 2016 at 8:04 am

Hi Sos,
if that’s during nc..you can’t.. any form of contact (unless really necessary like children or returning of important things) is not allowed..

Mare-Bear

July 8, 2016 at 6:34 am

So im just starting the NC, i think im 5 days into it now. My problem is i deleted him from all social media. Im worried after the NC he’s still not going to talk to me even if i try these text tactics because i’ve deleted him from everything? Does it matter?

EBR Team Member: Amor

July 8, 2016 at 3:37 pm

Hi Mare bear,

not that much..as long as you’ve kept your profile public…and that won’t stop him from missing you if he does

Confused

July 7, 2016 at 12:56 am

Hi I still have not send a message to my ex since he did not respond to my last one 2 weeks ago. Not sure if I should send another message to him, since i have the fear he may not respond again. He recently liked a photo of me too so I’m confused why he would do that and ignore my previous message/s. Any suggestions for a texting style i could try?

EBR Team Member: Amor

July 7, 2016 at 4:17 pm

Hi COnfused,

Try this articles:
USING TEXT MESSAGES TO GET YOUR EX BOYFRIEND BACK
HOW TO TEXT YOUR EX BOYFRIE

Jenny

July 6, 2016 at 6:13 pm

Amor, I think I blew it. I did not listen to you but rather to my girlfriends when sending him a text today after 31 days… I wanted to send him a witty text that something reminded me of him in a positive way, but my girlfriends were shocked at me that I would still be so friendly to him after he ghosted me out of nowhere (he even met my parents and sent me a love song one day before he ghosted). It was a LDR. So that got me thinking… I sent him a polite and quite neutral text where I wrote that I was serious when we promised each other to always be honest and upfront about anything, then I basically asked him why he suddenly disappeared.. Of course he has seen the text just like the last one and left it unanswered… I guess it’s over now and I do have to say it is a bit of a relief because the last thirty days have been like hell to me although I still tried to live life to the fullest.

I guess I still want him back, but now I am way too proud to send yet another text because he obviously does not care about me and that would make me look incredibly needy. Anway, the no contact rule was an interesting experience, but it probably does only work with someone who had genuine feelings. I’m not even sure he ever cared…

Jenny

July 6, 2016 at 8:45 pm

Well he did answer… just saying he was fine, asked me whether I was fine and that he currently is busy solving different problems. So he did NOT answer my question why he suddenly disappeared. What could I reply? I’m afraid if I keep pressing him, he will disappear again… which would not be such a great loss as it seems when seen objectively.. 🙁
EBR Team Member: Amor

July 7, 2016 at 3:06 pm

yes if you jeep asking that ,he will stop talking to you..

TJ

June 2, 2016 at 1:35 pm

Hi Chris!
Was in a serious relationship, 1+ year together, that ended over a month ago but only recently started NC. My NC period ends the week before I know we’ll be in vacation in the same place (planned separately). The romantic side of me thinks meeting and having experiences together across the world would be a nice way of reuniting, and seeing if there’s still something there. I was thinking I’d text him the week before, try to start a conversation, and mention it to see how he feels about it. Is this a good idea?

EBR Team Member: Amor

June 12, 2016 at 5:42 am

Hi Jt,

sorry for the late reply.. First the vacation, it’s better if you text him first and test the waters if you can build rapport before telling him about being in the same place.. and is the event with your friends over? if you’re unsure how you would react, it’s better to avoid the event for now or arrive late so you can go home quickly.

SJ

May 28, 2016 at 1:50 pm

Hey Chris,
I sent a first contact and received a positive response/neutral “I’m doing well, hope the same
for you ” then followed up asking about an injury he recently had, he responded, then I said sorry it’s been hurting you still so much. He never responded and I know I should of been the one to end the conversation. I should of ended it immediately after the positive response. I thought I would just politely ask how he was doing. It was only about 4 texts exchange, I expected him to respond. How long should I wait to contact him again?

EBR Team Member: Amor

May 30, 2016 at 1:23 pm

Hi Sj,

try again aftet 2-3 days 🙂

Anu

May 22, 2016 at 4:36 pm

I texted him after 33 days of no contact. I tested him, that “I went to a restaurant you showed me that day when you took me to there, and it was really nice. It reminded me of you. Hope you doing well.”, He didn’t reply anything. What I should do?, I am really worried, please help me.

EBR Team Member: Amor

May 26, 2016 at 11:10 am

Hi Anu,

it’s a text that doesn’t need a reply.. Try a topic that ge loves talking about

EBR Team Member: Amor

May 19, 2016 at 8:08 am

Pick what’s current at that time that he’s interested with, you can use that texting style if you want.

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