What To Do If Your Ex Boyfriend Blocks You On (The Phone, Facebook, WhatsApp, Etc)

Valerie

September 3, 2019 at 1:35 am

Dear Chris,
Hi my ex just blocked me again today after my friend had lent me her fake Snapchat to text him. We had sort of roasted one another, but I had just been trying to apologize. During our roast sesh beginning he had tried to start a video call with me on Snapchat. Before that he had unblocked one of my insta accounts, aka my poetry account. However he ended up blocking it, and still hasn’t unblocked it. Yet now I know he must’ve memorized the username or something. Either way it’s a very long story as to why we broke up in the first place, but he did something really messed up to me. That’s besides the point know, because I know we’re eachothers soulmates, and he knows so as well. I mean he literally wrote like four different things into my poetry book. However he keeps lying, and denying the fact he even did. Which is why he keeps blocking me I guess. I just really could use your help, if you think there’s anyway to ever get him back. Then please help me because I must admit I kind of miss him, and I know deep down that he does too. We’re just too stubborn and will never cave first.

Tejaswini

August 23, 2019 at 3:01 pm

Hi I dated my ex for 2 years but I cheated on him horribly I regret doing that I miss him alot i cry everyday I even call him from different numbers which makes me embarrassed n guilty he has humiliated me in front of his friends too n he has blocked me from all the possible places I see him every Sunday during church he ignores me I want to get back to him what do I do? Will the NC work should I stop going to church?

Marcia

August 16, 2019 at 5:22 pm

Hi! All in all, I was 2 months blocked, then 3 months ghosted (messages ignored). That sums up to 5 months! I wonder which book he is reading it from. Apparently from the book of “how to lose a woman real fast” 🙂

Well but I am reading from “Chris Seiter” the best! And I have totally recovered, not needing my ex. I didn’t message him, not even for fun. He did good to me: I was settling for so little: ghosting, blocking, bread crumbing, benching…that misery of modern dating. He made me raise the bar high. If any other man may turn up ever, he needs to be perfect this time. Otherwise it is much happier to be alone. After all, not all people in the world are meant to be coupled or married 🙂

NS

August 15, 2019 at 5:28 am

Hi Chris,

I guess i have posted a comment last year as well when my ex boyfriend blocked me. The previous time i begged and begged (i shouldnt have done that) for two months straight but nothing happened and finally i cut contacts and he came back after two weeks. After that our relationship has flourished into a really good relationship. We talked about future, gettingg married having kids and all the building future bit. We have been together for five years and thinking about our future together was only natural. The previous time the fight was about a stupid “I need more time from you” a plea from every girlfriend i guess. This time it was the same. I know I did irritate him to a point that he thought of breaking up but it was all anger. I know he is totally in love with me because our relations was great a week back the breakup. The sudden anger could have been from our stupid fights over the time issue and me making him irritated over it. I probably made him feel that he had no personal space and I am sorry for that but if he had told me about him affecting this much over it that he would breakup i wouldnt have bothered him so much. I believe in communication. So when he blocked me immediately after breakup i texted him the next day over instagram thinking he would be calm now. I asked are you sure you want this? He just blocked me. Two days after as i was confused that what was so wrong that he could not resolve through communicating, he kept up with blaming me and sort of showing his anger. He also tried to make me feel jealous saying, these past few days have been the best and i had great fun. I know that was anger. I an sure he would have had a good time having his space but i’m sure that was more to show off. Now i am letting it all be since i am blocked from calls, whatsapp and instagram where we usually talk. I am not going to beg. I am not going to message. But i am wondering everyday when would he block me and come back. Because ik he loves me. And i am very confused and devastated if this is going to be permanent. I am focussing on myself, trying to get myself happy working out. But i need to know if this “break” is permanent.

I need help cz this thought is driving me crazy! I know he loves me but is love enough to conquer the anger, irritation from my few stupid actions and frustration of not getting his space. I would have listened for sure if he would have once let me know this but he did not. I probably should have known while doing stuff and between those fights but i never expected him to breakup cz the last time he did breakup and came back i made him promise not to do it again and talk out our problems. He did the opposite. I am angry at him too but i want him back. Please suggest something. I am in NC since a week.

Beulah

August 12, 2019 at 6:22 pm

Hi, when I read your article tears came from my eyes ,but thanks for your article. 20 years back my love story started when we were in college but suddenly he stopped talking to me in my college days only,he just ignored me, I tried a lot but no use. After our college education he went to his home town and I didn’t know where he was from, and those days no mobile phones we had.I cried and cried but finally I put my efforts and time in education and I did well. But I never forgot him. Now iam 35 years old woman ,mother of two kids.One day that means nearly after 19 years of breakup through fb messanger he sent me messages and said sorry for what he did in that time. He also married and father of two kids. He gave his contact number and said will be friends. But when I called him only once he spoke to me and he said I will call later. One week I waited for his call but he never, then I called him but he disconnected my call and he blocked me in all the way. It hurted me like anything, he only wanted to talk with me and he blocked me. Still I don’t know why he did like this and don’t know what was my mistake. But you know this time I am totally broken, continuously tears coming from my eyes, I know he will never unblock me but still my heart loving him, I don’t know why I am not able to hate him or forget him. It’s my sad story. Thank you so much.

Lucianna

August 12, 2019 at 11:24 am

I don’t care if he wants me anymore. If he wants me he is going to have to fight for me from all the other candidates now because I am inevitably moving on with life. Yes I feel I treated him absolutely horribly, I could have done better, due to the simple fact of my inexperience, to the point where I now cannot feel good about myself. My Birthday is coming up one month from now, perfect for No Contact, Sooo.. for me to be able to have peace again and show to him I keep my values despite a hard day I had after much stress (like any human being has of course) Nothing of “partner” or “friend”, just human respect, I am going to call him from another phone just to let him know it is my birthday and I never meant to hurt him. Thats it. I never meant to hurt him. I hope that makes him think a bit.
I deserve to be happy on my birthday. How could he deny me that?

Sarah

August 5, 2019 at 7:13 pm

Hi was with a guy 6 months we got a long well but now he said he needs time and to be good what does this mean

Marcia

August 3, 2019 at 8:53 pm

Dear Chris, hello and have a great summer! I am feeling good and patiently waiting for my luck to change! I am tempted to send another text to my ex (who unblocked me but he is still ghosting me for 3 months and never replies). I feel entertained to send him a silly joke, i.e. something I heard today in the news, that the dangerous Nile mosquitos have appeared in the area he lives, plus in my area too! And what a coincidence! I know this is a silly text, but we do need humor in our lives, plus I will warn him about the lethal mosquitos haha! So I wonder if I send it, will it mean that:

A. I am over him, obviously
B. I don’t mind his ghosting, as I still keep sending off random things
C. I don’t need a reply, since I am not asking anything
D. I am doing this in order to remind him, we are over and I don’t mind

In my silly head, I would answer YES in all, but does it work the same way in a man’s mind? 🙂

Joanna

August 1, 2019 at 11:11 am

Hi!

I’m not sure if my previous message got through so excuse me if this is a double post.

I’m blocked on WhatsApp and removed from fb friends. I was wondering if I should do no contact since it’s possible that he leaves the country sometime soon. He would disappear on me completely, since he’s the kind of person to drop off the grid.

I’d mainly like to mend our previous friendship since I don’t think our relationship would work. I went a little gnat on him during the breakup so I understand why he blocked me. I probably would’ve done the same.

Thanks!

Jo

August 1, 2019 at 6:22 am

Hi Chris!
I’ve been blocked on WhatsApp and removed from his friends on Facebook due to me being a tad emotional after the breakup.

There’s a chance that he’ll leave the country for good and I don’t know when. Should I still maintain no contact and risk him being gone for good? He’s the loner type to go off the radar completely so I doubt I’d ever see or hear from him again.

I don’t really want him back romantically, but I’d like to mend the friendship we had before all this happened. But he seems to resent me now and I understand why. I was a nuisance.

Thanks so much for your advice!

Sarah B

July 31, 2019 at 4:16 pm

ok so I had been dating a guy for a good 6 months on and off…he was always dating someone else, but I felt the most connection with him. He ended up with another girl and wanted to continue dating me and I said I wanted to be in a committed relationship and I wished him the best. He did this 2times. So this last time I took a month and didn’t contact him, but he contacted me at least several times a week. Hes’ still with her. Now he comments on every intagram I have, lurking in my snapchat, sending me good morning and good night texts but calling me bff!!! Literally telling me he wants to be friends and doesn’t understand why I don’t. Hello?! Cause I love you and wanted to be the one you chose! Anyway, it was too frequent and began to feel mean so I blocked him on every platform. I feel bad and I really wanted him…I just don’t think I could ever let him now…and I don’t know where to go from here…

ND

July 29, 2019 at 1:48 pm

He isn’t my ex but we are friends and I have not fallen for him, he was same at the start but has backed off and been honest about it and I have been honest about my feelings, we have had loads of arguments where he has said he will block me but never has and we have always ended up speaking, but this time I started to say he was seeing someone and he said he wasn’t, I started accusing him and he just blocked me. What shall I do? Do u think he will unblock me?

Marcia

July 17, 2019 at 9:32 pm

Dear Chris,

I quess I am stuck with my ex boyfriend, ex blocker. His unblocking, finally meant nothing… He never reached out to me, never read my messages since, and never had the common courtesy to reply. But he had no problem sharing a bed with me for 2 years. It seems that as soon as I cut the sex, he cut all contact with me. I can only understand it, if he was a wolf in a sheep’s skin 🙂

Marcia

July 8, 2019 at 11:19 pm

Dear Chris,

Just to share my results: my (silly own) idea to block back my ex, didn’t work. I blocked him for 2 weeks, and still there was no reaction from him. So, I unblocked him and sent a cool message, just asking ”how are you, you disappeared, but I hope you are in good health” mentioning nothing about the relationship, or the message ignoring. He hasn’t posted at all on Instagram for 2 months, so I don’t know why. I guess he is either too sad to speak, or he is too happy marrying someone else. This message I just sent, is too ignored. Maybe he will keep me in his ignore list for ever 🙂

I then posted a cute photo of my activities, and in a few days I will post a potential dynamite (!) one photo with a cute and handsome man… for whom I am thinking whether to show interest, in case it leads to dating, if I decide that I want a boyfriend for summer. Because I am so busy with my carreer, that I can’t have the luxury of space/time/energy for a boyfriend for the rest of the year, so not sure it is worth the trouble of getting one…

kathleen

July 2, 2019 at 10:59 pm

He ended things with me so I blocked him on social media, he then blocked my number & now his mates keep adding me on social media. What the hell is going on he was the one that ended it with me?

Ananomous

June 27, 2019 at 11:39 am

Hi Chris,
I’ve been blocked by by ex-boyfriend every where he deleted my number on his phone. He is currently dating someone else in the mean time. He started dating as soon as we broke up just like 2 days after our breakup.
I miss him terribly. Please help!

Marcia

June 26, 2019 at 10:34 pm

Dear Chris,

Finally I pressed “ignore” my ex too, so now he can’t message me on fb. Which is exactly what he did to me for 3 months. So I will “give him a taste of his own medecine”. I wonder what effect this tactic has on men! Even if he has decided to move on! It worked perfectly whenever he applied it on me, so l hope it works vice versa 🙂

Kathleen

June 24, 2019 at 6:04 pm

I was dating a guy
And he then all of a sudden went abit depressed & down
I tried to cheer him up with things like I’ll be there for you stuff like that. On his birthday I surprised him with a gift weekend away I allowed a few days till I asked if he received a gift at all from me and he blanked me for 2 days. I said that was rather rude and uncalled for and that his acting a dick when all I wanted to do was help bring him up again. And he said to me were over your behaviour is ridiculous. Was like what! He wouldn’t speak to me face to face or on the phone. And he then blocked my number then unblocked my number. I left it 2 days – I asked if he was all ok and how come he unblocked my number did you wanna talk. He then blocked my number again. :-/ not really sure what to do from here.
Shale I just leave him?
I don’t wanna message him on Instagram or anything incase it pushes him away further. Shale I leave him alone and see what happens? Is that the best option. Advice would be appreciated. Thank you

Marcia

June 22, 2019 at 9:14 pm

Dear Chris,

finally after NC I messaged my ex. I thought, he unblocked me a month ago, so let’s test the waters, on level 1, small talk. I was playing with my sister’s baby at that moment, so I sent him a cute photo of the baby’s toys! Tiny bears and cats! Not sexy, I know, but I am original 🙂 Here is to my surprise:

Photo sent yesterday but still not delivered, although he is online. That means I am on “ignore messages”, just like I was before he blocked me, and then unblocked me!

Why would an ex unblock me on messenger but pressed ” ignore messages”? To tempt me to message him and then humiliate me further?

Would a man bother to use such game playing for a girl he wasn’t even in love with?! My mind feels paralyzed after this experience.

sarah

June 17, 2019 at 6:02 am

i’d say my situation is different than most, we have been broken up for about 9 months and dated other people. recently we had a very nice conversation in which he apologized for how he treated me post breakup and asked how I was doing. about a week later I find out he is dating one of my close friends. this was some serious betrayal (for the most part by her as she knew how I felt about the situation and him but he also could’ve been respected and looked elsewhere besides one of my friends). well come to realize the mutual friends this girl and I have tell me the two of them met by him badmouthing me at a party to them. both of these situations clearly hurt me as it’s been a long time since the breakup so i’m not sure why he would go up to my friends and start bad mouthing me (he left me and i’ve been doing much better than him). but also because immediately after that he starts dating one of my friends. and this whole story sounds as bad as it can get already but no. just the other night while i’m out with my friends at the club a girl grabs me, starts asking me very personal questions about myself and him. it’s his ex girlfriend. the one he dated after me. she starts looking through my phone and sees that I had a conversation with him in which he said he was glad they broke up because she was by his words “mean and petty”. of course I felt bad for this girl because for all I know she could be wonderful and he’s just bitter. but then she calls him, she starts screaming at him and texting him profusely. my friends and I leave the situation and try to forget about it. but by the next day i’m over the top anxious by everything he seems to be causing in my life and I text him. along the lines of I don’t know what to do anymore your decisions keep making my life worse you talk shit about me then date my friend and now i’m being forcefully interrogated by one of your exes. it may have been harsh but I said that I shouldn’t be relevant in any of this and I shouldn’t be dragged through this crap when i’ve done nothing for the last 9 months but just living my life without him. he apologized for her behaviour and said it wasn’t right of her to do. I said that I understand you’re not directly doing anything but you’ve caused a drama filled situation in my friend group (all of my mutual friends with this girl hate her for dating my ex, which I did not ask them to they just don’t think it’s okay) and now I feel targeted by a girl i’ve never met before who is somehow angry at me for dating you before her. I respectfully said i’m not trying to attack you in anyway I am just very tired of being put through this stuff and I don’t know what to do anymore. did he read the last part? i’m not sure and now i’m blocked by him. honestly it doesn’t really make a difference I didn’t follow him in the first place and I certainly do not want to be with someone who would have such little respect for me.
ps. my (now ex) friend’s last boyfriend started hitting on me after they broke up and I ignored it because I could never do that to a friend knowing what they went through. and my ex’s best friend also started hitting on me after our breakup and I politely declined since he was my ex’s friend.

Leave a Reply Cancel reply

2,564 thoughts on “What To Do If Your Ex Boyfriend Blocks You”