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Tama
January 27, 2019 at 1:08 pm
Hi Chris ! I’ve been dumped 17 days ago. He was very angry as I was behaving immaturely and blocked me on WhatsApp and on phone , but messages were being delivered. His facebook was deactivated . After some pleading and begging i went on to NC for last 12 days. Now some days back i saw he reactivated his fb and didn’t block or unfriended me. He didn’t talk to me during breakup, only told one of my mutual friend that he’ll never gonna talk to me again and blocked me straight away without talking to me. Now what is my present situation? Is there really any hope?
Kay S
January 25, 2019 at 3:26 am
My ex and I broke up 3 months ago and I haven’t contacted him in more than a month. He just blocked me on Facebook. I was upset and cried to my friend. I immediately wanted to call him but I didn’t. I will stay strong and wait for him to reach out to me. This guide helped me understand he’s not being logical and is emotional about me right now. I hope this makes him miss me more.
Josipps
January 18, 2019 at 2:56 pm
I use the term ‘ex’ loosely. I’ll explain.
This ex and I have been friends with benefits for roughly 3 years. We’ve experienced and supported each other through a lot over the past 3 years, like good friends would and should. We have always been honest and open with each other to the point where we’ve upset or angered one another but always worked it out. Sexually, we’re crazy for each other, just never given a ‘relationship’ the chance to bloom.
Recently he started asking us to be more ‘formal’ (term he used), asking me to promise to visit more often and not to see each other casually anymore.
Again, being honest with each other, he told me he had been in contact with a girl from his past and had arranged to meet up. This, I accepted because I too had dated people here and there and didn’t feel I could be a hypocrite.
I saw their picture together and told him this hurt me. We then discussed our mutual feelings for each other, however he also explained he was still emotional attached to this girl so nothing could happen for us in the immediate until he ‘worked out what was going on with her’. I think he means they’re attempting to date.
We’ve talked this out several times in the past week, including engaging in sexual activity until we agreed we needed to break contact for a while.
I realised I’ve been blocked from what-apps and Instagram. Obviously I’m devistated, but I know it’s whats best for my feelings for contact to be cut and I intend to get on with my life as best I can.
What I want to know is if I should be waiting for him to make a decision, giving him space to make decisions and expect contact again at a later date. Or if being blocked is the decision he’s made.
Chris Seiter
January 18, 2019 at 3:47 pm
Hi Josipps…looks like you would benefit from a change of strategy…take a look at my Program! You are right, no contact can be of help, but in more ways than you realize. My Program calls for you to reach out at the end of your NC period, but much more to it
Angel
January 14, 2019 at 8:04 am
My ex bf of 9 yrs recently blocked me on facebook. I think it would be because he just got in a new relationship. He was dating this girl for more than a month, which is posted almost all over facebook, and they just got official recently. A day after he blocked me, he texted me telling me that someone just logged in to his fb acct using the same phone model that I’m using and asked if I tried to logged in to his fb account. I don’t know if I should just ignore it, he might think I’m guilty if I did. How should I respond? Is it better if I talk to him personally? I really am not comfortable with his accusations.
Chris Seiter
January 15, 2019 at 4:35 am
Hi Angel…so I am wondering if he is just making this up as an excuse to connect with you. But, i think its best to largely ignore his accusations. In time, they will wither away.
Maria Inez
January 13, 2019 at 6:37 pm
My ex broke up with me and locked me on WhatsApp (he’s currently deployed) after a fight. This is our second break up and first time he’s blocked me. I have already broke. Some rules i popped off a couple angry messages on fb and WhatsApp. I also at the encouragement of a mutual friend sent him a final care package and short letter. What’s the best damage control? I’m at a loss
Chris Seiter
January 13, 2019 at 11:01 pm
Hi Maria! Time for no contact. Two breakups is not a good trend so a having an ex recovery plan is important. Tap into my home page to learn more about tools and resources to get you moving in the right direction.
Elise
January 13, 2019 at 4:29 am
Hi Chris,
So my ex and I haven’t spoken in about 4 and a half months (technically 2 and a half since I reached out to him and it didn’t go how I wanted it too). So he has a girlfriend and I just noticed yesterday that he viewed my Instagram stories. Is this meaningless or could this mean that he misses me? I thought by now he would’ve gotten about me.
Lisa
January 12, 2019 at 6:02 am
Hello need some advise
My ex broke up with me 5days ago after a four year relationship. We had planned on moving into our first home when eight before we were signing I decided now was not a good time because of family and work commitments. We have been thru so much together and the day before we broke up he told me how much he loved me and couldn’t wait to spend his life with me I am now blocked on everything I tried to contact him privately but again told me he doesn’t hate me he’s just realised he doesn’t love me or trust me enough. I now regret my decision and would do anything to go back but he really doesn’t want me back he even went as far to say go and be happy and find someone new. I’m just heart broken and know it was my fault
Laura Lander
January 4, 2019 at 7:47 pm
Hi, I recently broke up with my ex fiancé about 5 weeks ago we’ve been on off messaging he tells me he loves me one minute and the. Just wants to be friend around New Year’s Eve I told him that all contact had to stop because it was messing with my head and it was just making me miserable, today he contacted me, wasn’t the nicest of messages either and same goes to me I replied not very nice things, he told me three days ago he still loved me and now today he said he no longer loves me he’s now blocked me on everything and I have no idea what to make of it, for someone who wanted to spend the rest of there life with me to 5 weeks not loving me is just confusing… I deleted his number the day we split so I wouldn’t contact him I think that’s the only thing I won’t be blocked on (number) I’m so fed up and just looking for advice.. he goes out and has fun and I stay at home with my little girl he obviously knows he got one up on me
Just looking for advice
Thanks
Vic
January 2, 2019 at 5:46 am
Hi Chris!!
My ex fiancé left me for another woman (but never told me about her until 3 months later) he was telling me that if I backed off and gave him space then he’ll consider thinking about things. But he was already seeing another woman; he eventually told me about her. But I’ll be honest I did act crazy after the breakup!!
But only because one minute he was telling me to back off to let him breathe and he’ll think about considering getting back with me the next he would be like no we’re not getting back together. He was giving me mixed signals for months!!
We have a son as well and I feel as if I’ve been messed around. Especially when he was saying things like “if things go wrong with my new girlfriend then your not here to give me a shoulder to cry on” and “our son is the best opportunity of winning me back than anything else”.
He also admitted to cheating on me as well but it took him over 3-4 years to tell me.
He’s blocked me on WhatsApp, phone, Instagram and Twitter, but unfriended me on Facebook. We only talk by email and that’s for our son only.
Our relationship was toxic but I loved him.
Some advice on how to handle the situation would be helpful.
Thank you!!!!
Vic
January 2, 2019 at 5:33 am
Hi Chris!!
My ex fiancé left me for another woman (but never told me about her until 3 months later) he was telling me that if I backed off and gave him space then he’ll consider thinking about things. But he was already seeing another woman; he eventually told me about her. But I’ll be honest I did act crazy after the breakup!!
We have a son as well and I feel as if I’ve been messed around. Especially when he was saying things like “if things go wrong with my new girlfriend then your not here to give me a shoulder to cry on” because I wanted to relocate back to my home town.
He’s blocked me on WhatsApp, phone, Instagram and Twitter, but unfriended me on Facebook. And we email each other but only for our son.
I love him but he has cheated on me and we were together for 6 years. The relationship was toxic as well.
Some advice would really be helpful.
Chris Seiter
January 5, 2019 at 4:21 am
Hi Vic!
I know that hurts and it he may come to learn what he did was very foolish and irresponsible and selfish. I would recommend going into No Contact (with some limited contact for topics around your son, finances, matters like that). Zero tolerance for toxic behavior is a good rule. Time now to focus on your health and recovery. Sorry it took a while to respond to you.
Jen
December 29, 2018 at 6:27 pm
My ex blocked me after telling me he is in love with someone else he just met. While knowing me 4 years. And I’m afraid he won’t be back to me ever again. I am kind of a type of both those girls you spoke about (The girlfriend and the Friend) You spoke about. (But still I love the man.)
I read all you’ve wrote here ,and even a bit of ‘Using Texts To Get Him Back’.
He doesn’t have Facebook, he just don’t use it, so he delated it. He has Kik, but he probably uninstalled it by now, because he not answering for long months already.
Other Media he has is IMVU ,it’s a 3D chat platform and a dating site. But he blocked me there, which is more important to me.
All we did is came to each other to this IMVU site because we both can’t see seach other real life, since we both live in a different countries. I live in Israel, he lives in Russia. And we both can’t go each other countries, in a lot of reasons.
So, the main question is; If he blocked me everywhere ,then how after 45 days of not talking to him. (I have no friends who can i talk to about or tell anyone.) – How I can message him, if I am still BLOCKED?
S
December 29, 2018 at 3:17 pm
I need advice, 7 yr friendship- 3 yr relationship. When we fight we fight dirty and hard. This year has been horrible; job loss, moving, the financial stress has been hurting him deep. We had an issue over communication and we spoke and the next day silence. For 3 weeks no contact on his part; I lost my friend, my person. I went overboard with texting; no response! Last night I text him again; he blocked me! So I sent the angry do not ever contact me email! But 9 years in each other life and he gets to go no silent with no explanation?! I’m dying. I’m hurt and sad.
Sad
December 22, 2018 at 1:40 am
Hi Chris,
I have been talking to this guy for 4 months and things seemed to be going well until he got relocated to another state for work. He was eventually going to come back to his home state after about 5 months so i figured a tenporary long distance relationship would be tolerable. He recently flew me out to him. When i got back home i could tell he was becoming distant- taking hours and then days to respond to text. Eventually it was over a week since i had seen him and had barely spoken to him. When i called him out on it he responded with “im bad with texting” yet he wasn’t bad with texting at one point…. i decided to try calling him and he did not answer. I then found out the next day i was blocked on his phone as my texts were not going through.. I immediately messages him on facebook asking what i did wrong.. he read but did not respond. I then sent him a few more messages and he read all and did not respond… i was so hurt. I did not contact him for a week after that and then messaged him again… he read it and did not respond. I tried texting his phone and still they were not going through. Why is he reading my messages online?? Why doesnt he just block me on social media as well? I told him how much this hurts and its killing me and he has just ignored everything…
Chris Seiter
December 23, 2018 at 4:22 am
Hi Sad…..so we need to work on you being happy! You should probably consider implementing No Contact no just for the ex recovery angle, but primarily to begin your own healing process. Once you can stand on your own without feeling emotionally tied to him, you will be in a better position to assess all the facts and decide if you still wish to invest any more time in him. I have a lot of books, videos, podcasts available to you so please take advantage!
Sam
December 19, 2018 at 9:32 pm
Thank you Chris. I will continue NC and follow the programme.
I have done a lot of self improvement since the break up including therapy to deal with some of my problems and also the break up with him.
I changed my Instagram profile pic about a month ago and 5 days later he changed his. He hasn’t changed that in at least 2 years. He also only unfollowed our mutual friends on Instagram, they can still follow him. It seems like he has taken a step back to try and forget about me. He has had a couple of really bad relationships in the past so he can put an emotional barrier up and he can be quite stubborn. I keep overanalysing a lot of it.
Chris Seiter
December 20, 2018 at 2:48 am
thanks for the update Sam….you should be very proud of your progress on all fronts. We all over analyze these things (after a breakup) because our minds are racing a million miles a second. But you recovery/healing efforts will help you a lot in that department. You will have less anxiety and other paths for you will open up
Sam
December 18, 2018 at 12:34 am
Hi.
My boyfriend broke up with me 5 months ago. We were together for only 4 months but good friends for a year prior. Broke up because he has depression/anxiety and he spiralled. We were about to move in together. I was good about it all. I continued to look after his dog for 5 weeks after the break up (I was looking after it for a few months). We spoke for a few weeks after and then he picked his dog up and distanced himself. I went into no contact and he contacted me a couple of times to ask for favours. 2 months after the break up I asked him about a text message I saw him send to someone that was just of a love heart and kiss emoji. He saw me see it and told me what it was about. I later also saw pictures he created that said I love you. He told me it was nothing and just his godfathers daughter going through a tough time. So he lied to me. I actually don’t think anything happened with the 2 of them as they live a 3 hour flight away from each other and he spent every weekend with me etc. there was no sign of cheating at all. 5 days later I got blocked on Instagram. A week later on Facebook. A month after he unfriended a mutual friend and unblocked me (my account was deactivated after he blocked me but you can still unblock someone). I never reacted. Stayed no contact. I contacted him at the beginning of November and he responded immediately. Recently I updated my employment on LinkedIn and he removed me as a connection. I am just finding it all very bizarre. I know he isn’t mentally well but surely breaking up with me was hurtful enough. I only asked him about the text I saw as I was going insane thinking about it and had a right to know. I am still in no contact. I feel like he is punishing me when i feel like I have been respectful when I could have gone crazy on his ass lol.
Chris Seiter
December 19, 2018 at 2:39 am
Hi Sam!
Yes…a lot of inconsistent behavior. You have handled your end well. I would continue with your NC and follow the Program as I outline it!
Diana
December 17, 2018 at 5:16 am
Hi Chris, my ex bf had me fully blocked out on facebook whats app instargram wechat and the worst is our mutual friends between us isnt talking to me at all or even when i text them how do i get him back ?
Chris Seiter
December 17, 2018 at 10:46 pm
Hi Diana…so blocking is sometimes used as a tool of anger or resentment. But when things simmer down, one can later find themselves unblocked. It really depends on the relationship situation. You should pick up a copy of my 485 page eBook, “Ex Boyfriend Recovery Pro” as it will walk you through a sensible ex recovery plan.
Tommy
December 2, 2018 at 11:49 am
Hey Chris can I get my ex back if we broke up last year, then this year we have been on and off and having casual sex? He said he doesn’t want to have a relationship with me, so I blocked him told him and told him I’m moving on so he blocked me too afterwards… Do I have a chance bcz its been long.
Chris Seiter
December 2, 2018 at 5:03 pm
Hi Tommy….seems like you should take a look at implementing no contact. Check out my Program called “Ex Boyfriend Recovery Pro”!
Jen
December 1, 2018 at 1:58 pm
I met a guy over the summer who had a girlfriend of 5 years. He met me, and decided he wanted to break up with his girlfriend to pursue me. I refused because I did not want to be a rebound. After some time, he ended up seeing another girl, but still wanted to persue me. After some thought, we ended up getting together, after weeks of going back and forth. After summer ended, we did long distance for about 2 months when things started to go sour. His flight to come visit me got canceled, and he wasn’t able to book another. He began getting depressed, and has recently started taking depression medication. After things not going well, and me really trying to make the relationship work, it ended. About 5 days after it ended, he sent me message saying, how am I supposed to not talk to you. I ignored this message, and 5 days later he blocked me on social media. This isn’t even something he did for his gf of 5 years, who was overly obsessive when the relationship ended. I was not overly obsessive at all. I’m just confused. What do you think about my situation?
Chris Seiter
December 2, 2018 at 2:37 am
Jen!
You might want to get started with a sensible ex recovery plan as your ex seems confused, but is also pushing you away. I think No contact may be in order here.
Js
November 30, 2018 at 5:14 pm
Hi chris
6 years together in a LDR. My ex broke up with me 8mths ago. I begged pleaded whatever it took. He said our relationship was not going anywhere coz of the distance. Then finally i calmed down and excepted being his friend ( as this was better than no contact at all ) i was broken. And still am.
My ex told me he was going throu a bad time. This made me hope i cud have a chance getting back with him gradually. As my ex told me he wasnt in the mood to meet anybody else.
Well he did meet someone else! Another LDR With another women. ( It hurts me so bad. )
Anyway… i found out throu social media. All There new photos together. ( talk about sticking the knife in and twisting it. Was a horrible feeling. Such a cruel thing to do.
So i messaged my ex.. and asked if this is true. He said yes she is my new girl friend we are getting married. It hurt like hell to hear this from him. Especially as he broke up with me coz of the situation of LDR. But he is doing the same thing over again with his new girlfriend. (LDR)
ANYWAY.. after a 20 min cold coversation with him. He asked me to leave him alone and to not bother him. I messaged back..( im not )
The next day.. He blocked me from facebook / whatsapp and I dont know about phone.
But i have not had NC with him since that day he blocked me. 3 weeks ago
Its totally broke my heart. I love him so much. I just didnt think it was ever impossible for him to hurt me this way.
Everyday i think about my ex..and wish he wud unblock me. And i hope oneday we could get back together again.
Iv read all your page today chris. THANK YOU it really helped me to understand a bit better.
I would love some more advice and help from you chris ? And how to get my ex back.
Chris Seiter
December 1, 2018 at 12:21 am
Hi JS!
I know you heart hurts, but you are going to rise from all this and be even stronger, wiser, and empowered. Just use my site to come up with your ex recovery plan. You’ve got this. I know you can come thru this, no matter what happens.
Michelle
November 27, 2018 at 5:50 am
Hi Chris,
My ex and I dated for 6.5 months. He got laid off a month ago and ever since then things have been off with him and us. He has been really depressed lately and is debating whether he should move back to Australia or not (he lives in and is from New York). Over the past 2 weeks he has been trying to break up with me. I didn’t talk to him for a couple of days two weeks ago and he wanted to get back together after 2 days. He has used every excuse in the book such as he lost feelings for me, he just sees me as a friend, and that something is missing. Five days ago things seemed fine. He was like I really want to give this another chance, please help me out of this funk. A couple days later he thinks I’m controlling and needy. As of yesterday we are broken up. I did a fair amount of begging. He did say he still cares about me. I sent a text yesterday saying that the best thing to do for now is to break up because he is not into this and even though I still care about him I need space. He said thank you that means a lot to me and same to you. I then noticed today that he blocked me on instagram out of nowhere. What does that even mean? I’m so confused because I thought we ended things amicably. I felt like I had a chance before if I gave him space, but now I feel like it is all hopeless.