What To Do If Your Ex Boyfriend Blocks You On (The Phone, Facebook, WhatsApp, Etc)

2,564 thoughts on “What To Do If Your Ex Boyfriend Blocks You”

tanisha

November 25, 2018 at 4:30 am

Hi Chris, I reconnected with an old flame after 10 years. My sister’s husband best friend. Everything was going good. After only 2 weeks he took to long to respond to a text. I flipped out really bad. Called him names,sent him pictures of another dude penis. After a week no contact, he asked me if i was done acting retarded? I snapped again. Now he’s blocked me. I tried contacting him from about 50 other numbers leaving text. I threatened to send his daughter a text. but i mever did. ive been no contact for 2 weeks now. Any hope for me?

Chris Seiter

November 25, 2018 at 7:27 pm

Hi Tanisha! We can all get upset and make mistakes post breakup. What matters is having a plan going forward, so you have come to the right place! Tap into my Program and all the other resources I have at this website!
Chris Seiter

November 25, 2018 at 7:27 pm

Hi Tanisha! We can all get upset and make mistakes post breakup. What matters is having a plan going forward, so you have come to the right place! Tap into my Program and all the other resources I have at this website!

Zhai

November 21, 2018 at 1:19 pm

Hi chris, the father of my child blocked me because of an argument. He forgot my birthday twice, i sent him hurtful messages because I wasn’t able to contain my anger at that time. Then he suddenly blocked me on everything. I’m now confuse what to do. We were in ldr. I’ve waited for him for almost 3 years but he was hesitate talking about our future together.
kenna

November 16, 2018 at 8:34 pm

hi, me and my ex bf was on a long distance relationship and dated for 5 months he was my first love…i dont know for him but he told me he never felt this way before and he love me alot and i was the greatest thing that ever happened to his life…he is a very jealous type of a person..he would constantly break up with me but we still get back togther after a couple of hours and i let him promised to never brought up breakups when we are fighting…well he was doing great and really held on with the promise until one night he broke up with me and i got infuriated for breaking his promise again and so i fought with him and blocked him but realizes i love him so i went to talk with him after a day and he doesnt wanna get back anymore and then he blocks me…after a couple of days he unblocks me and we decided to stay friends..and i ruined it cox i was begging him to come back and he was ignoring my msges so i got angry with him and blocked him and he blocked me as well and its now almost 2months sinz we broke up and its almost 3 weeks sinz he blocked me….does that mean he finally moved on? and doesnt want me to be in his life anymore?
Linda

November 12, 2018 at 3:41 am

My boyfriend and I dated for 10 months and recently broke up because he is going through a lot in life and stated that I was adding to it with pointless arguments and being crazy. We broke up one month ago yet he continued to go back and forth for the whole month with “I miss you and talking to you is hard” and “I want to just let you go and move on”. He went on vacation this week and I saw he hungout with friends and girls. I flipped out on him and talked to another guy out of anger. He then blocked me on absolutely EVERYTHING and I have no way of contacting him at all whatsoever. Before he blocked me, he told me that he wants to disappear from my life and his decision is made up. I obviously have to not contact him because I have no way of contacting him anyways… but what do you think? Do you think he really is going to disappear on me forever? (He is extremely stubborn).

Chris Seiter

November 12, 2018 at 4:59 am

Hi Linda!

He probably won’t disspaear. Just pull back and consider the benefits of implementing No Contact and turn the focus on your own healing and being the best “you”. Guys will sometimes act vindictive and immaturely. You find your on happy space and don’t worry so much about everything negative he is doing.

XOXOGOSSIPGIRL

November 11, 2018 at 2:03 pm

Hi Chris,
Me and my long distance boyfriend of 1 year recently broke up and I’m having a really difficult time dealing with this. We both go to different colleges but as thanksgiving break is approaching, I know he is going to be right down the block (we are neighbors). We got into a similar break up senario right before our 1 year anniversary back in October and tried to fix things. But after things exploded again, he told me he was done with me. He blocked me immediately on everything and then decided to unblock me only on the phone. I then deactivated all social media. However, we contacted each other throughout the week via texting and calling (which I now know was stupid). I called him one night when he was drunk (which I didn’t know he was) and the conversation got nowhere. The very next night he blew up my phone while he was at the bar, started off nice like “they’re playing our favorite song remixed” to “you were the worst girlfriend ever go torture some other guy” (I believe he was getting so angry because I wasn’t answering since it was midnight!) The next day I told him it was too hard for me to talk to him on the phone and that I would rather talk in person during thanksgiving break. He apologized for saying those things and then I told him I was driving and I couldn’t get upset so I had to go. We said goodbye and I just realized he blocked my phone number again. I know I have to focus on myself right now, I haven’t been eating or sleeping well but I’m afraid for the future. We had so many things planned and now I’m afraid he’s really done. I mean after all he did block me. I guess I’m just wondering what’s going on, I feel as if this is a mind game to him and guess what… he’s winning right now because I’m reading into his every move and I’m just standing still. Thanks for reading and I appreciate any advice!

Chris Seiter

November 11, 2018 at 7:19 pm

Hi there!

You are right. The focus should be on your healing and recovery. You must get your sleep and eat normally!! Also, best to have a sensible ex recovery plan. I have lots of books, videos, and resources of all kinds that can help you with that!

Crystal

November 8, 2018 at 2:43 am

My ex bf broke up with me almost 6 weeks ago. We have a lot of problems. I started to beg n he blocked me on phone, but not Facebook. I can still message him on fb but it went to ignore list (where u can read it but u have to actually go to that “filter message” folder, n fb will never show that he read my msg). 2 weeks after the break up I tested by calling him n he unblocked me. But he never called back. Another 2 weeks passed by, I texted him, no reply. I then told him I’ll fly up to see him (we r long distant) and he said “we’re over” then blocked me again on phone. Then a few hrs later unblocked me. Another week passed by (which was 5 weeks of break up) n that was last week, I flew to his house n met him n found out he blocked me again. He told me we r over, there’s too many problems n I’ll never change. I hugged him but he didn’t hug back. He kept telling me to leave n he will call me. But he never did. He seemed cold n quiet n kinda angry cuz I came.
Now it’s been 3 days after the time I met him. He still blocked me on phone but not fb. Does this sound like he really determined to break up? He broke up with me 5 times befure, I didn’t contact him at all n after 1-3 weeks he would call back n we got back. But this time is the longest m seems like there’s no hope.

Chris Seiter

November 8, 2018 at 2:56 am

Hi Crystal….best to have an ex recovery plan. Take a look at my home page where I talk about tools and resources!

Maria

November 7, 2018 at 8:11 am

Hello Chris!

I have LDR boyfriend weve been talking a lot before. This September we even talk but only once after that he told me to talk to him october 28 but he never talk to me but he reads my text.
After he reads my text i tried texting him again if what was wrong whAt happened why he did not respond but he block me and i tried contacting him using my friends number same he block me. I will try my best for the NC i hope this will work out.

Chris Seiter

November 8, 2018 at 3:12 am

Hi Maria!

Best of luck to you with your NC. If you need special help, pick up one of my eBooks!

Samantha

November 6, 2018 at 7:07 pm

Hi Chris!

What happens if NC Did not work (it’s been almost three months), and the new girl he’s seeing looks a lot like me? Everyone has been telling me that. Same hair, same eyes and general appearance.

Do guys date girls similar to what their ex looks like if they aren’t fully over it , and are maybe not even aware that that’s why they’re dating the new girl?

Thank you!
Samantha

Chris Seiter

November 6, 2018 at 10:30 pm

Hi Samantha!

Well, the truth is there is only 1 you. No other girl can replace your unique and special qualities. And if he gets blinded, for however long, well its his loss for allowing that to happen. Yeah…there is probably a psychological thing going on with that.

Lisa

October 25, 2018 at 4:03 pm

Hi Chris,

I know you’ve covered that usually the ex will unblock you after a certain amount of time into NC..but what if he doesn’t reach out after unblocking you? (it was a full block out). I’m not sure if my number or Snapchat is unblocked but my other social media is. What would be the reason for that?

If an ex really didn’t want to speak to you again or doesn’t want you messaging them (what some individuals say during an angry breakup), why on earth would they unblock you a couple weeks later? A lot of people say it means “nothing” but I believe there’s always a reason behind what a person does, especially when it has to do with getting back at an ex or trying to punish them.

Thank you for the advice!

Chris Seiter

October 25, 2018 at 8:12 pm

Hi Lisa!

That’s right, guys will often unblock as they can’t help themselves to track you. Yes, there is usually a reason for why people do this sort of thing, but it is not always rationale. OFten emotions push people to do this sort of thing. The bigger question is do you have an ex recovery plan, such that you know how to best optimize your chances to get him back.

Avril

October 23, 2018 at 8:48 pm

Hi Chris,

Me and a close friend of two years became friends with benefits and since the first time we had sexual intercourse a year ago, our friendship had gotten so confusing. I admit I would get a little sensitive over things that didn’t really matter because I was developing feelings for him. We talked almost everyday, he was there for me when I needed it, and we didn’t have sex every time we saw eachother either.

We ended up getting into a huge argument where he blocked me off of everything in May and didn’t contact me until the end of June. I did deserve it. He was going through something and at that point our friendship was weakening and he told me he is sick of being loyal to someone who keeps second guessing everything he does.

So he apologized and the first thing he did when he saw me was kiss me and he explained what was going on with him and seemed really upset that I was acting uncomfortable with him.

Fast forward to August. He found out I was seeing another guy. When we hung out, I told him that during those two months he blocked me for, I moved on. I had asked him out plenty of times and he always rejected me because he didn’t want a relationship with anybody (a lot of personal reasons I don’t want to write). And I think he was also seeing someone too but he wasn’t intimate with her and didn’t seem interested. He told me that hanging out with her wasn’t the same as seeing me. He said although she is attractive, he didnt feel the same as he did with me. He said although we have our fights, I’m a great person and he loves spending time with me. But the more he was finding about this guy, the more angry he got even tho he was asking me the questions. He said that he’s a very possessive kind of person and he apologized but he can’t help being extremely jealous. He then told me that he obviously can’t trust me and he thought we were suppose to be good friends. (I guess his ego was just bruised that I wasn’t his property anymore)

At the end of August he texted me and everything was fine. We talked like we usually did. But a couple days later I had truly enough of him and everything that was going on. I told him how I felt. Maybe not in the best way but I told him I didn’t like how angry he got with me when he found out I was sleeping with someone else. He sent me a huge paragraph about how he does not care about me anymore because apparently I don’t care about him, to please not message him again, that he never said he liked me that night and he doesn’t care at all that I’m seeing another guy (although his actions the day we hung out proved the complete opposite). He then blocked me off everything again.

A month ago he had unblocked me, looked at my story highlights on Instagram but never said a word or added me quickly like he did the previous time.

A couple of days ago he had a huge event in his life happen that I remember him telling me about in August. So I thought maybe I should be the mature and respectful one and at least acknowledge it. So today I decided to tell him congratulations for winning in his fight. He said “thank you :)” and I told him to have a good day and he said the same to me.

Then I decided to tell him that although we may not have the same relationship ever again, that I hope there is no tension or anger between us and I wish him nothing but the best.

He saw the message and never answered me. I am heartbroken. I just wanted to reconcile but it looks like he wants nothing to do with me even though he unblocked me a month ago? What could be the reasons why he replied to everything but that? I miss him so much and still care about him. Has he completely forgotten about me along with not caring? Maybe he’s still mad at me?

I really need your advice..thank you
Avril

Chris Seiter

October 24, 2018 at 3:25 am

Hi Arvil!

So there is a lot going on here and I see that you have been thru a lot. Have you considered any of my ex recovery materials as they can do much more justice in responding to you situation than I can here in my limited time. Its important though to first focus on “you” and your healing. If you are not right in the mind, you are going to get in your own way and not make good decisions.

broken

October 18, 2018 at 12:00 am

we had been in a very happy ldr for 2 1/2 years, altho friends for the first yr. we both fell in love the sec we met, but didnt admit it. he has a history of depressive episodes, but is in denial about them. id not been ok since xmas, turns out i was messed up cos of my thyroid. he started going low around april. i didnt really see how bad, cos of my issues. he was under a ton of pressue. we never saw eachother at night anymore as a “friend” had taken to being there everynight when he came home from work. i felt needy, and not wanted. we never had fun anymore. he said he loved me with all his heart, but wasnt ok and was changing. then later he snapped and said theres no love for nothing or no one. end of june. i realised it was all his depression, destroyed myself trying to help him for 6 1/2 wks, 10 wks ago he left. just hung up. i didnt contact him for 7 wks, as i was scared to hurt him, but ive been so so low, i had to try and get a voice. i have a counsellor. he replied hes sorry he hurt me, what he did wasnt right, he never deserved me, it hurts him everyday etc. 2 days before he left id seen him in game all over another girl. i asked him if there was anyone before he left, he said no. hes with the girl now, another ldr. shes posted their relationship everywhere. last wk i msgd asking for the truth. anyway, he wouldnt answer about the pics. i kept asking, so he blocked me on phone and whats app. i still havent had a voice. sun he blocked me on xbox, even tho i wasnt gonna msg him there. its where we met. it really really hurts. i wrote a long letter thats my voice. i wanna send it, but dont wanna be crazy ex. im not asking for him back in it, just saying what happened. him and the girl are deeply in love, altho he wanted to marry me. i dont wanna hurt either of them, hes the one, but idk what to do anymore. im just broken. ty for any advice.

Chris Seiter

October 18, 2018 at 11:25 pm

Hi there Fixed!

Notice now you are no longer “Broken”. You see, that is the key. Healing and becoming the best “you” is the most important thing in all of this. The pragmatic thing to do is to focus on “you”, not them. If you comes back into your life in the future, fine, you can deal with that then. But its your present and future that matters most and you can choose among many paths that lead to a better place.

Kelsey

October 16, 2018 at 2:26 pm

Hi. So my ex had reached out to me a month ago. We’ve been speaking for a month until a few nights ago he phones me and tells me he has feelings for me and he loves me. He said he made a big mistake in leaving me and he knows I’m the one for him and he wants to spend the rest of his life with me. However, he also told me that its just wrong timing because he doesn’t want a committed relationship right now. I ended up telling him that i have feelings for him too. However, yesterday we met up and we were cuddling and kissing and it felt normal and we both enjoyed each others company. But after that speaking to him a few hour later he is acting different and says like he currently prefer to have me as a friend and we are made to be good friends. He also says like its either we end up together or remain goods friends, noting is certain. And he says like i mustn’t try to be close to him and its just friends. Im so confused with what he is saying and he is contradicting everything he said a few nights before. I don’t want to be left hurt again and he is just confusing me now because we both had agreed we had feelings for each other even though we not that ready for a relationship. Even cuddling with him and everything and the way he was speaking afterwards i feel used even though it was mutual consent. What must i do because i want us to work out. I don’t have money to buy any products as I’m still a student. What should i do.

Chris Seiter

October 17, 2018 at 1:05 am

Hi Kelsey!

Sometimes guys learn the hard way. That leave, then realize just how great you really are. I would encourage you to tap into all my articles, podcasts, and videos as I talk a lot about how to deal with various breakup situations.

Boo

October 15, 2018 at 3:40 pm

Thought the name would be festive for the month lol. But I agree. We’ve broken up three times now and this time he’s texted me every 2 weeks to wish me well or to accuse me of “hooking up” with guys I’ve never even met lol and now he’s blocked me even though we weren’t even friends on any social media site. I haven’t tried texting him to see if he blocked my number because I don’t care. And this third breakup I haven’t given in to him. He’s definitely blocked me before the last times we’ve broken up and I was wondering what that meant from a guys perspective? Is it a way to get attention as some sort of game??

Chris Seiter

October 16, 2018 at 3:04 am

It is a seasonal name for sure! Some guys get a bit paranoid. His brain is rattling around with all kinds of thoughts and so his behavior will be kind of all over the place.

Boo

October 13, 2018 at 3:31 am

So I’ve done no contact. My ex texted me 3 weeks ago and I only replied “thanks” then redid no contact and haven’t spoken to him since. He randomly blocked me on Facebook and Instagram even though I’ve done nothing…. I don’t get it?

Chris Seiter

October 14, 2018 at 9:56 pm

Hi Boo!

Love your name. Some guys can be immature and vindictive. I guess he thinks you should be at his beckon call. But if you follow my program, you will learn why you want to be is the Ungettable Girl which is the kind of woman every guy dreams of.

alex

October 6, 2018 at 12:56 am

Hi Chris,
Can you please help me with an advice? I can’t seem to understand why my ex blocked me after 3 months of break-up. I told him in the first week after the break-up that we can both make it work, he told me that he doesn’t feel like we’re on the same page and we didn’t talk after that, with few exceptions – my therapist advised me that it is ok to let him know that I forgive him and seek forgiveness as well (to which he replied kindly), and I got a job in the city where he lives now, and I considered it mature to make him aware of that. He offered to help me move, without me asking him, and also sent me hints about rent prices/best areas etc (all on messenger). I will be moving there next weekend. Meanwhile, I did my best to focus on myself and on my well-being (i also deleted the photos with us from Fb, and lately started chatting with other men). And now, while I was scrolling through my profile, I’ve noticed that all his ‘likes’ dissappeared, this being the way I found out that he blocked me. And I don’t understand why. I feel sad a bit, because deep down there was some hope that, maybe, one day we can make things work again. If it helps, we’re both 30.

Chris Seiter

October 7, 2018 at 3:42 am

Hi Alex!

So it does not seem you guys are too far apart. Who knows whats in his head. Maybe he was expecting something different from you. Maybe he doesn’t trust himself and so is trying to avoid social media. Have you tried No Contact in the way I teach it? It allows you to continue to focus on your own personal recovery, but also build some attraction along the way.

Rachel Hawkins

October 5, 2018 at 12:15 am

Hi Chris,
Great article! Would appreciate your advice.
Had a nearly 8yr relationship, we watched each others kids grow up and very much a step relationship to which degree I hope now his kids are more independent to remain in contact if they wish (as still want to be there for them) purely to hear how their lives are progressing.
More complicated with my daughter. A few years ago I moved to be nearer to him, with hopes of having a closer future but didn’t pan out. My daughter has special needs, difficulties got so bad we lost quality time together, which although I didn’t realise over times led to me becoming very depressed, in trying to protect and ease things for my daughter, I isolated myself from not only him but everyone close to me.
Since break up, I have started to address difficulties as if sadly break up was needed to lift the fog and making good changes, reaching out to friends again and now can see ways of involvement with him and having a future. Feeling positive and finding myself, the person he met, finding myself again! He felt he’d lost himself too near the end of the relationship.
But there is another woman. They started dating straight away and seems very rushed, already huge plans for the future.
We have bumped into each other a few times, I was so positive about life as I genuinely feel more positive, he all initiated physical contact. And before he was honest about other woman, we had sex (straight after he told me and how serious their plans were) but he also told me staying in touch hard as he knew he couldn’t trust himself around me. Surely given excitement and it’s meant to be the honeymoon period of a new relationship this is odd? Certainly wasn’t like that when we met and he believed i was the love of his life, the one which now he doesn’t believe in. He adores my daughter, still has photos up of her yet now no interest in her progress. I know he would have been so proud of her.
He did say he is angry at me for not progressing our relationship and implied I’ve wasted a large period of his life 🙁 and a couple of times when bumped into him he has been so angry, wouldn’t even look at me.
I am so confused. But genuinely whatever happens would like to stay in touch with him as I want him to be happy with or without me.. as equally i want to find happiness too in my own life. But as I said sadly now I can see so many ways I could have made changes so he would have been a major part of life and would have liked the opportunity to build a new and positive relationship.
Apologies for essay but advice would be great.

Chris Seiter

October 5, 2018 at 2:12 am

8 years bodes well for couples trying to get it back together. He is wrong to blame you for everything…not progressing the relationship. It take two to do that.

Sammi

September 27, 2018 at 4:34 pm

Hi, I was recently broken up with about a month ago and I’ve been doing NC ever since. We were in a happy, healthy relationship for about 5 months and the breakup came out of no where. We had recently had a fight (a week before the breakup) and he claimed that “things felt different after”, but literally the day before the breakup he was telling me how in love with me he was and how excited he was to see me (I’d recently gone to college and live 2 hours away). He claimed that he talked to his friend and his friend told him he needs to focus on work and school. I was really hurt and upset with what he said, he was crying harder than ever as he was breaking up with me and after he broke up with me (over the phone) I blocked him on Snapchat and he blocked me on Facebook and Instagram. I don’t know if my number is blocked on his phone and I’m too scared to try. Does he want nothing to do with me? Is he just hurt? Should I give it time or just give up? Should I unblock him? Thank you for all of your help!

Chris Seiter

September 28, 2018 at 2:57 am

Hi Sammi!

Better to keep the social media lines of communication open as you will see with my Program, creating attraction is partly about indirect communications. You should take a look at picking up one of my books so you have a better sense how all this comes together!

Coraline

September 24, 2018 at 3:03 am

Hi Chris!
So my ex broke up with me after 6 years of relationship about almost 2 months ago, cause he didnt feel the same for me (he left me for a another girl), I start NC 10 days after the break up, he never contact me in that period, so I text him a week ago he did replied to me nicely and after that I start to use social media again, change my profile picture, so that he’d be able to Watch Im good and Im not a needy girl.
And I just figure out he block me on Facebook but not entirely, im just not able to Watch his status or the old pictures of both, he stop following me on instagram…
So I wonder if the post applies to me too?
I believe he block me cause this new girl, what can i do to get him back?

Chris Seiter

September 25, 2018 at 3:11 am

Hi Caroline!

So first, you already have an edge because 6 years is not easily swept away. So you got a nice reply and that is good, but be sure to follow my suggestions for how to get the most out of NC. Have you picked up my eBook? Its probably the best advice I can point you too as an ex recovery plan is very involved and near impossible to cover it all here!

Fatima

September 22, 2018 at 1:36 pm

Hey,basically i had a fight with my bf because of jealousy and is said things that he feels i don’t appreciate what he is doing,he literally blocked me everywhere after 3 days he texted me to move on on my life and that he gave me many chances and i blow up everything, I tried to call him , send flowers but he keeps ignoring me! His friend told me not to waste my time waiting for him his not coming back! What should i do!?help please i am 1 week break up we supposed to get married by next month

Chris Seiter

September 23, 2018 at 4:43 pm

Hi Fatima!

Yes…jealousy can cause all kinds of strife. He is being a bit immature right now. I think a brief NC period would be good. I have a lot of info about it here on the site. You can start on my home page to find all kinds of resources.

Amy

September 22, 2018 at 10:04 am

Hi Chris,
Me and my fwb/ good friend got into an argument almost a month ago. He has done this before where he resorts to blocking as his solution because he’s a very sensitive person but also somewhat toxic. But last time he did not contact me for a couple of months as he was going through something that I had already known about and our fight made him even more stressed out.

This time before he blocked me, he sent me a huge novel reply saying that he doesn’t care about me anymore because I don’t care about him (yeah alright ) and to not message him, and then blocked me off everything.

On Monday (exactly 3 weeks after our argument) I was on Instagram looking through my archived stories to find something and obviously because he blocked me his name wasn’t in my story views anymore. Then hours later I went back on to save a story, his name reappeared everywhere. He had unblocked me that night. Would that mean I was on his mind? Could he be missing me? What makes me nervous is that people usually say when they unblock you that’s when they DONT care anymore..but it’s only been a little more than 3 weeks since we’ve talked? Could he really have stopped caring that fast?

Unlike the last time, he has not refollowed me or contacted me..which worries me because I feel like maybe he really did unblock me because he doesn’t care about me anymore…he did look through all my new story highlights because his name popped up as a view but I don’t think that means anything.

I still care about him a lot and I am scared that he won’t contact me ever again. What would be some possible reasons why he’d unblock me so soon after a fight if he told me he didn’t want me to message him? Wouldn’t he be sure to keep me blocked if he really didn’t want any future contact with me? (I will obviously not contact him though. He blocked me so I know My boundaries.)

Thank you for your help

Chris Seiter

September 23, 2018 at 4:49 pm

Hi Amy!

Blocking often leads to unblocking. He was previously blowing off steam and holding some resentments. Take some space for yourself and reflect on whether him being “toxic” at times is really something you should tolerate. No contact could be a solution.

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