What To Do If Your Ex Boyfriend Blocks You On (The Phone, Facebook, WhatsApp, Etc)

2,565 thoughts on “What To Do If Your Ex Boyfriend Blocks You”

Angie

November 8, 2017 at 3:29 pm

My ex wanted a break I became a text and call gnat . So he said he’s done for good. He even changed his number … it’s been two weeks since then . I was doing fine until I ran into him . He didn’t see me but I seen him now I feel as if I want to contact him but do not have his number . He has NO social media but has that WhatsApp . Would it be a bad idea to create one and contact him ?

EBR Team Member: Amor

November 8, 2017 at 10:19 pm

Yup.. That’s chasing..

Wanderlust

November 8, 2017 at 2:10 am

My ex and i broke up almost 2 months now. It was a good breakup though coz we’ve talked about things and we’ve laid down our cards about our relationship and he said that it’s really hard for him to do LDR (right after my visit in his place all his expense). For I am from the other side of the earth. He did mention the same thing (when i was there the first time we dated and first met) but then came back to me telling me that we need to get to know more and that’s when he requested me to go to his place/country instead. Things were okay despite some misunderstandings/miscommunications but we’ve settled things out our way from our differences (culture and traditions). But after that trip and I came home, I realized i need to ask him about our status (what’s next). He didn’t reply… Until the next day saying… He doesn’t think that dating and having a relationship with someone from another country is something that he’ll be able to continue (for the 3rd time). He said he likes me but he’s not ready to take that step and that he realized his personality is not set up to that as it’s his very first time to date someone from another country. And it’s very expensive to date one from afar. And that he’s more cautious now after going through a divorce and that he’d wanted to get to know someone slower and that i had different expectations for him… That being said, it truly hurts but I did understand… Part of me really wanted to hold on so i tried but i believe I can’t force him nor I can’t force myself to him if he’d made up his mind already. And i respected that. We agreed to be still friends. But it’s totally different now. I have my pride and self-respect. So from then on, i went NC with him after trying to message him if we could work things out. The good thing is he replied after telling him that in chat but then again he said he has moved on and wish me well. So that was it, I stopped. Then went NC again. I don’t go online that much in Viber and just from time to time if i got messages from friends (but none from him which i hoped for). After few days not going online and then i went online, I checked on him and was online still and he was always online ever until that next time I realized his status was not visible as online. None that i could see. So I thought he blocked me… 🙁 I never tried to figure it out though if he really blocked me or he just turned off his online status as visible. I just assumed he blocked me. I’m curious what went wrong? I never bothered him with messages for him to get annoyed and do that. What do you think went wrong? Is he mad at me? Will there be any chance for us to get back on each other? Please advise. Thank you

EBR Team Member: Amor

November 8, 2017 at 7:17 pm

Hi Wanderlust,

We’re not sure if he blocked you, so don’t over think.. but how active are you in improving yourself and in posting?

Maya

November 1, 2017 at 5:55 am

No I never actually directly talked about it.. but I once ( about 1.5-2 months ago) sent him something and didn’t realize I was blocked.. then a few days later I sent him asking if he’s okay.. then he replied blah blah blah and asked why did I think he wasn’t okay.. I said I texted you but you didn’t reply.. he said did you get the double check mark? ( which means he received the text ) I said I dont remember.. he said I never received your text.. I subtly said then you did something that made it not come through and hinted that he blocked me and he said nooooo why would I ever do that with crying emojis
Anyways.. we’ve had so much flirting and positive interactions after that..
and I forgot to say that it’s midterm weeks.. he could be studying and is afraid I would distract him? quite sometimes before the block he told me that he has to study.. so yah…
should I continue the no contact even if I was unblocked and he texted me? Or should I sound casual about it and be like yeah it was a rough 2 weeks studying hard..

EBR Team Member: Amor

November 1, 2017 at 9:35 pm

Hi Maya,

If you’re unblocked have a serious but calm talk about it.. And then observe of he will change..

Sara

October 30, 2017 at 12:15 pm

Is it ever a good idea to message his second number?
It’s been about a week since I was blocked…

EBR Team Member: Amor

November 1, 2017 at 3:39 pm

If that’s your last resort after waiting tp be unblocked, then it’s either you try it, wait further or move on

Ray

October 30, 2017 at 1:43 am

Hi Amor,
No, we’re not anymore. I read that article too, but the problem is that we don’t have mutual friends either so I pretty much just have facebook and we’re not friends there. I did make my profile public though. What would be the game plan in this case after no contact in terms of reaching?

EBR Team Member: Amor

November 1, 2017 at 3:15 pm

If you dont have his phone number,yes, add him as a friend..

Maya

October 28, 2017 at 6:41 am

My ex has a history of blocking me when he’s studying for college or something for a day or less then unblocking me.. this time though.. it’s been 5 days.. but the thing is he blocked me after I texted him freaking out about something and needed support.. he didn’t answer though he was online and blocked me about 12 hours later…he only blocked me on WhatsApp on his main number.. he didn’t block me on his second number.. do you think it’s best to complete a 30 days no contact and contact him on his second number? And what do I do if he unblocks me soon.. should I continue my no contact? And if he apologized for not answering what should I say?

EBR Team Member: Amor

October 31, 2017 at 6:59 pm

Hi Maya,

Have you talked to him about this?

Quiz

October 27, 2017 at 9:41 am

Hi. I am in situation “never want to talk again”. He blocked me on phone and whatsapp. He doesn’t have fb.
He always told me he wasn’t interested in having me as his girl but went to bed with me every weekend for almost 2 years plus saying he cared about me and that he felt happy with me but still not wanting a relationship. I told hin way before I loved him and he kept fuc..ing and then asking to go somewhere together just for stooding me up at last minute or leaving me waiting and no show up.. for 2 years. So he screwed up big time with me overtime because he was very mixed with me : happy/but no ..care/but don’t care etc etc.
So one day I lost it and gave him a little slap (I swear very tiny) then I cried desperately and after 2 yrs giving him everything and he screwing up with my mind..I am the one ended up BLOCKED!! He was the one deserving that for playing with me And also I am not a chaser at all. I have a full happy life (or at least I act as if, most of the time). I keep hang of myself. I am mature 99percent of the time. Stated that he is the “wrong” one and instead of choosing to mature he just keeps trying humiliating me with this blocks. No friends in common. I am not going to go at his place ever. No letters. No drama . I am not a drama girl. Now it has been 2 months. So he really wants to dive and die in his shit.. as the slap is really nothing as it came suddenly and from years of shit treatment . For real he doesn’t know that he treated me shit??! And if he knows ..why he doesn’t make it better since he said he was happy when he was spending time with me??! This just doesn’t make sense. I am starting thinking he is really mentally ill..

EBR Team Member: Amor

October 30, 2017 at 8:21 pm

Hi Quiz,

Well, he did mention he didn’t want to be in a relationship with you but he slept with you and you allowed it even if you know he doesn’t want a relationship.. So, you agreed being friends with benefits..

Lisa

October 27, 2017 at 8:18 am

Hi,

I reached out to you a month ago, about my exboyfriend keep watching all Snapchats everyday gor months but not reaching out..

Well it was his birthday so I congratulate him, he answered but didn’t initiate any conversation or ask questions about me.
He has been and still is watching all of what I am doing.

It annoys me a little since I don’t understand what his thoughts are behind this.. could it be that he’s indifferent and it’s easy to watch for him everyday.

Even though I can’t be THAT interesting, but I don’t know why you would keep looking so much but not keep conversation when you get the chance.

I’ve been looking for answers, but I see that most guys say he’s prob. Missing you, maybe wants to get back, or hating you (negative feelings) and then there’s some that say it’s nothing or they could be 1000% over you. But would you be looking at someone daily when you’re that much over them and careless about their lives?

I’m Sorry, but I sort of need a second opinion..

EBR Team Member: Amor

October 30, 2017 at 8:16 pm

Hi lisa,

Yes and no.. He may be missing you but it doesn’t mean he wants to get back together because it’s human nature to miss what we used to have

Ray

October 26, 2017 at 4:19 am

Hi Amor,

After no contact, how do I send a message if we’re not even facebook friends? Should I friend request him and send a message too at the end of no contact?

EBR Team Member: Amor

October 29, 2017 at 10:56 am

HI Ray,

are they any form of communication, like texts? or other social media apps you’re still connected in? If not, check this one:
EBR 002: What To Do If You Have No Way Of Talking To Your Ex

Amber

October 25, 2017 at 8:42 am

Hey ex blocked me on everything because he found out that I slept with his best friend but he also slept with my best friend too I just finally got pay back and before I knew I was telling him about me sleeping with he’s best friend and he got pissed but after that he said he was tlkin to someone else and I’m not gunna mess it up this time so he blocked me on everything…. we have been on n off for 5 years and this isn’t he’s frist time blocking me either

EBR Team Member: Amor

October 28, 2017 at 7:25 pm

Hi Amber,
Check this one:
Do You Have The Same Values As Your Ex? (With Chase Kosterlitz)

Ray

October 24, 2017 at 2:55 pm

Not an ex, but he said he needed a little space for a bit because work was very overwhelming and stressing him out a lot and he was going through personal stuff (this was something he mentioned early on). I said okay, but then got anxious and asked him where we stood a day later- did he want to see each other when things calmed down or cut ties? He didn’t reply and I thought this meant he didn’t want to continue talking, so I got upset and angry and sent him a text a few days later saying how he had hurt me, led me on and that I’m glad he at least showed me what I don’t deserve. I got upset and unfollowed him on instagram and deleted him from my followers. He blocked me from snapchat after I sent that text. I felt guilty a week later and tried to apologize via instagram messanger, and re followed him, but he didn’t read the message even though he let me follow him on instagram, so out of desperation I had a friend send him that apology on my behalf from her account another week later. He blocked both of us off of instagram. I feel dumb because I let my emotions take over me and I really miss him. He asked for space late September, I last reached out to him on insta last Tuesday. I don’t know what to do because all I have now is facebook, but we’re not even friends on there. Please help.

EBR Team Member: Amor

October 24, 2017 at 6:26 pm

Hi Ray,

Restart nc and just make your posts public

Amber

October 21, 2017 at 2:35 pm

Hello, I just completed my NC. My first text went out I thought he messaged me back right away. I left it as I’m just going into the gym talk to you later. Then nothing from him. He just would like every single picture I would post with in seconds. Then out of nowhere without talking since the first couple messages he blocked me. Where did I go wrong ?

EBR Team Member: Amor

October 24, 2017 at 1:18 pm

Hi Amber,

Sorry, I’m confused..you sent a first message, he didn’t reply.. Did you mean you sent more and then he blocked you?

Sofie

October 20, 2017 at 10:47 pm

Hi Amor
First of I loved this article, it helped making a little sense of the situation.

I met this guy on tinder, and I must say he was exactly the man I’m looking for as a future husband.
He was really into me, his first message was “we would look perfect together” and I had to agree.
He said things like I want to marry you, and our babies would look perfect and things like that.
Even though it’s a bit too much, I really fell for it.
But then he started to annoy me a bit, I felt like he was pushing me to do things I wasn’t ready for, I told him no or it’s too soon or too much for me.

So I began to care less, and sometimes it took me hours before I replied, and he replied within 2 min every time, and with a lot of “love” emojis, called me babe in every text. (I never did any of that)

I was quite cold and told him that it was too much for me because o didn’t know good enough.

He suggested that we should FaceTime, I was really tired and said no without giving him a reason, he kept on suggesting that we could do it the next day, but I kept on rejecting (mostly because I was insecure about not being perfect enough)

So at the end he said that if I didn’t even have 5 min to FaceTime with him then he would use his time on someone else and not talk to me anymore.

And one minute later he had blocked me on instagram, and deleted me on tinder, and i think on the phone as well. (So a full blocking, on the medias that we had contact)
I panicked when I got that last text, and texted him that I felt like “it was his way or no way at all”, and I would like to get to know him, if he could only let me explain myself.

But maybe he already blocked me at point.

He live in the states and I live in Europe, he is coming to my city next month. And he expressed that he wanted me to come and visit him afterwards.

This all happend two days ago, and I feel like I lost my chance on the only guy I have ever seen full potential in, he really lived up to all my criterias for a man (and that have never happened before)

So I’m kind of desperate in getting him back.

Is there anything I can do, or any hope for him to come back?

I found him on Facebook, but have not texted him or anything, he also gave me his Snapchat but I never added him.

The best regards
Sofie

EBR Team Member: Amor

October 24, 2017 at 12:22 pm

Hi Sofie,
When did you start talking to him?

Shea

October 14, 2017 at 2:34 am

Hi, my ex and I were inseparable for 7 months. We had a bad breakup, I begged for him back. He put me on full block from everything. NC for 30 days is not hard to do if I can’t even contact him, which is what I’m wondering. After 30 day NC if I’m still blocked, how do I reach out to him? We do not have mutual friends as he hasn’t lived in our city very long and my friends are girls that didn’t hang out around him. All social media has been blocked, everything. After 30 days nc and if I’m still blocked all I can do is wait and hope?

EBR Team Member: Amor

October 14, 2017 at 11:58 am

Hi Shea,

Check this one:
EBR 002: What To Do If You Have No Way Of Talking To Your Ex

Sohurt90

October 7, 2017 at 1:07 am

Hi Amour did you get my post?

EBR Team Member: Amor

October 8, 2017 at 8:49 pm

Hi,

Yes, I did 🙂 Maybe he’s having problems with his current relationship or he’s hearing from others that you are changing..actually, he’s having a common reaction like other exes.. When the ex moves on, the other ex gets curious

Sohurt90

October 6, 2017 at 5:46 am

Hey Amour!

It’s been 10 months after my break up. I change my life completely and I’m in a much better place. I taken all the steps to moving on with my life and not looking back after me and my gotten in a huge arguement via text( my first attempt at no contact/ and text him on his birthday. He really was on some dumb shit and decided once and for all to block him out. So, I blocked his number, delete all our pictures together from my devices and threw away all things that was his. I’m not going to lie, I really going through a depression and almost crying everyday it especially I found he was speaking to another girl. Some how Igot through the storm and I’m in a much better place.

Here’s my problem, after having me on a full block for 10 months , he unblocks me two days ago. At first I didnt think to over- analyzed it, until I wrote a status saying ” you could’ve kept me block and he blocks me again. Then, he unblocks me yesterday and I wrote a status saying I made my peace with everything that happen an, now he throwing subtles message at me…. What does this mean and how to deal with it because to honest it really starting to get to me…. Mind you, I didn’t do anything to him… I was just minding my business lol

Sotrue90

October 9, 2017 at 3:58 am

I figure, but why would he write stuble posts about me like I did something to him( Again I was minding my business and trying to move on) ? Why would he want to know what am doing… especially if he broke up with me and not the other way around. A very small part of me want to speak to him, but the way I look at it if he want to talk he should be the one to initiate contact. I mean I went this long without contacting him, a like I said I wanted to move on and not look back. It’s it safe to say he miss me lol?

SN: Not only he unblock me, but he unblock all our mutual friends. He even send friend requests to some them.
EBR Team Member: Amor

October 10, 2017 at 2:11 pm

Let’s say he does..still a common reaction from an ex when he sees the other one improving.. Because you used to be the person who chased him..
EBR Team Member: Amor

October 8, 2017 at 8:49 pm

Hi,

Yes, I did 🙂 Maybe he’s having problems with his current relationship or he’s hearing from others that you are changing..actually, he’s having a common reaction like other exes.. When the ex moves on, the other ex gets curious

Maria

October 5, 2017 at 8:46 am

Hey there,
So, I had this thing going for this guy. We have known each other for 5 weeks by now. Everything went super well, until he came one Saturday and we kissed for the first time. I was quite steamy and as I am, when we walked out the house I made a joke saying “How can I open a Bible after this, ahahahaha”.. everything seemed fine. He went his way and I went camping with a friend of mine at the beach where we found some old(childhood) friends(male) and then we partied and posted photos on facebook. He, this guy for some reason started to keep quiet. The next morning he blocked me from Instagram and Facebook. When I asked him about it he told me it was about the comment I made after he kissed me?? I told him I am sorry and explained that it was a joke. Later that week he called me and asked if we could go for coffee because I wanted to talk things through. That bieng said, we talked about everything and he said it is fine, but after another week it seems like he still did’n t take down the block. Then I decided I am going to block him on the last platform possible, Whatsapp. Eventually my heart softened and decided to take the block down. Now I find a message from him asking me why I blocked him? seeing that the no contact rule is actually what I should be implementing… what should I DO?

EBR Team Member: Amor

October 6, 2017 at 8:50 pm

HI Maria,

if you’re in the no contact rule, don’t reply to him anymore. Start being active in improving yourself and in posting.

daisy

October 3, 2017 at 5:28 pm

Hi Amor , I have had some great advice from this site last year my LDR boyfriend blocked me after an argument and I went crazy ,calling text from every number then he blocked me and over the course of 9 months after following your advice , I improved myself ,we starting talking and my LDR boyfriend and I got back together ,he says he loves me , wants children ,we will marry. He was living in a different county to his home and decided to move back for a while to be with family and take some time out from his very busy work life,he messaged every day ( he is Muslim ,I am not but he says this is no matter we can be together) ,we FaceTime and make plans for the future ,now I find that 6 months later I am in the same situation ,3 days ago we did not argue we were being loving and I asked if I was still a secret from his family and he blocked me straight away . I left it a day before whatsapping from another number that could we talk I didn’t mean to offend him and he messaged and said that he did not think he would be coming back to Europe but would live for good in Africa ( we had this same conversation last year but overcame it) I said I want to be with you where ever you are and he just said but I don’t come to Europe . He didn’t block me so the next day said I missed him and could we talk , he read the message and then blocked me. I have done nothing since even though everything in me wants to go crazy . What should I do ? I would go to Africa to be with him if this is the problem ,the blocking came from nowhere ? I write to you so that I don’t do any further damage trying to contact him .Please advise ?

Daisy

October 4, 2017 at 5:11 am

Hi Amor

Many thanks for answering so quickly ,it’s very difficult not going into panic mode. Yes he told his brother about me but not his parents , he said as he was Muslim he would only tell his parents when the time was right for us to marry . I met all of his friends when I visit him though. He had asked me to go to Africa before to live and meet his family but I wasn’t sure that Africa was the right place for me so he said he would leave me to think about it . How do I get him talking to me so that we can discuss it further , should I do no contact again like last year ? Only last week we were face timing talking about the future ? .
EBR Team Member: Amor

October 4, 2017 at 6:37 pm

Frankly, if he really is serious, he would be the one to tell you to go there or he would accompany you to go there but it looks like that’s what he’s avoiding.. For me you should move on..
EBR Team Member: Amor

October 3, 2017 at 10:12 pm

Hi Daisy,

He never introduced you nor mentioned you to hia family? If he didn’t, then distance is not a problem..that means he just not serious..

Tainted love

September 30, 2017 at 2:59 pm

My boyfriend and I of almost 2 years just broke up about almost a month ago. This was not our first break up. We split for a time before but always kept in contact and hung out. This boyfriend had/has insecurities and blocked me from Facebook during one fight and then unfollowed me on Instagram. But I was still following him. When I realized this happened weeks later I asked him why and he said because he didn’t want to see comments made by other males, mostly from 3 said male individuals who are pretty much my bff. One of them is an ex to be fair but he knew this from the start that we kept in contact. Seemed childish and slightly untrue but I accepted it. And the unblocking and not following never froze over. Now our final argument…… I said some things that were harsh while pretty much drunk. My emotions were high on some issues I had with him and so word vomit came out. Next actions taken were him telling me to never contact him again and not to concern myself with anything to do with him. He also then blocked me from following him on Instagram. I let a day go by before I contacted him. He responded with saying it was obviously not working out and he didn’t want to continue with us any longer. I said I understood but I needed to still talk to him in person. See i couldn’t remember everything said during our fight but I remembered enough to know I fucked up and had to explain and say sorry. He agreed to meet me. We talked, mentioned staying friends and we didn’t talk for about a little over 2 weeks. I messaged him. His brother’s wedding was coming up. For varies reasons, the particular one being that I hate being a flake, I wanted to still go to the wedding. He said he thought it was best he go alone but after some discussion he said ok as long as I left earlier than him since he didn’t want too much mingling to occur. The only ones who knew at that wedding we had broken up had been his brother and now wife and his best friend that went. The whole night the rest of the family introduced me as the gf. Talked to me as the unofficial sister in law. Mean while the ex and I had minimal contact with each other during the whole thing. Wedding ended early and I ended up staying the entire time. When I was leaving he walked me to my car and we talked about the wedding for about 5 mins or so. First thing that was off to me that after basically barely talking to me all night he still walked me to my car. Then it took him 3 different hugs to actually walk away and say bye. Best man duties had him frustrated and so I sent him a short message reminding him it was almost over and to just be proud of all he did. Said thanks and to let him know when I got home. Literally wrote to him “just got home” when I did and he started a small convo. Not really sure what to make of it I replied briefly to it. He responded and then said anywho thanks for coming it was nice seeing you. I didn’t respond. Then his bday came up a couple days later. Sent him a vm around midnight saying hppy bday (I was still up doing work stuff and hadn’t even realized the time). Told him he wasn’t my boyfriend anymore but he was still my boy friend so I wished him the best. Also sent him gif through fb messenger. He responded in the morning saying thank you and that it meant a lot and he really appreciated it and that he was sorry for not answering but he was asleep. (Um yeah kind of figured). Anywho that’s been our contact since the break. What do you make of this and what do you advise me to do?

EBR Team Member: Amor

September 30, 2017 at 10:23 pm

Hi tainted love,
Check this one:
EBR 052: Insecure Ex Boyfriends And How To Handle Them

Molly

September 29, 2017 at 4:24 am

I had been with my boyfriend for seven months when, mid-conversation, he broke up with me. Actually, he asked for his sweater back. It took three and a half more days for him to text that he was really sorry, loved me, but didn’t think things could work out long term. A few days before, he’d brought up moving in together, asked if I could ever see myself living in the city where he grew up, told me my bolognese was the best thing he’d eaten in years. Oh, and the sex was really good. So I was understandably blindsided.

I reacted angrily to the breakup text, and asked what in Hades had happened. Two days later, I texted again, more calmly asking for what on earth had gone wrong (long-term incompatibility, while a valid cause, doesn’t address the fact that we kind of adored each other, he’d said the week before that he felt like he was meeting me for the first time all over again, the prior weekend, or the abruptness of the breakup). Anyway, the point of this is that my calmer text never got a read receipt. I think he blocked my number. This doesn’t really seem to match the tenor of most breakups– my psychologist straight-up said about the whole breakup, ‘That’s really, really weird’– but do you think there’s a best way to convince him that this was a terrible mistake?

If all else fails, I was hoping to email him after 26 days without contact and ask if he wants his things back, since 1) I don’t feel right keeping them, and 2) I refused to give them back initially because I didn’t particularly care to go to his place and humiliate myself by sobbing on the train home. In 30 days I’ll be leaving for a trip, and by the time I get back he’ll be back at work.

I’m pretty sure he broke up because he has been stressed about his career, btw– our relationship wasn’t 100% free from disagreement, but we really didn’t fight, our fundamental values were very closely aligned, and we both enjoyed spending time together.

Is my logic sound on cutting away the 30 days to email right before I leave? Or should I hope he unblocks me on his phone, which tbh I don’t think will happen, and try to get in touch via text?

EBR Team Member: Amor

September 30, 2017 at 11:25 am

Hi Molly,

He ghosted you.. Act lik you accepted the break up..so, it would be better to stick to at least 30 days.. If he unblocks you good but finish 30 days before initiating. If not, extend to 45 days and then send the email after

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