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Ana
September 29, 2017 at 2:22 am
My ex bf and I have been back and forth (Over a year) but recently he tried to get with me and I found out he had a GF. He didn’t want to tell me but when I mention it he would always deny it!!! But I was (still am ) in love with him I was staying to hopefully for him to choose me or for him to be honest to me. When I confront him on Snapchat he left my message on read and never replied, but everytime I post selfies or quotes he always watches my snap and I mean EVERY snap!! although he was still with his GF. He has been watching every snap for the past 3 weeks an now today since I dressed up and did my makeup and hung out with my girls, he BLOCKED me on Snapchat and unfriend me on Instagram( although he barely be on there or post I should say) I was confused! I was like why did you block me now and not before. Could it be his GF?!? because he never done this before until she came along. Please help
EBR Team Member: Amor
September 30, 2017 at 8:55 am
Hi Ana,
If he had a gf alredy, that means he was not serious.. Are you going to do no contact rule?
Hurt
September 28, 2017 at 12:58 pm
Hi. I have been in a realationship voor 8 years. Broke up 5 times but always got back togethrer fast. Within a week or 2. Last year he broke up white me because he was confused and did not know what he wanted in live. We had soms fights prior to that about working. We where living togeter then for almost 2 years. We where togetherthe last year. But not officialy but spend every day together. We talked about our situation and where we wanted things to go. Both wanted to go for the realationship and make it work. Talked about living together again and it was a nice day. At nigt we fought about a girl he knows. Who was feeling ill. I did not want him to go there. He stayed whit me. But told me in te morning he was done whit me. And blocked me anywhere possible. Following 2 weeks. Talked on and of. But now he has blocked me for 3 weeks. And avoids any contact. Is stil want him back. But i am afraid he doesnt want anything to do whit me any more
EBR Team Member: Amor
September 29, 2017 at 12:38 am
HI Hurt,
are you going to try the advice above?
C
September 25, 2017 at 7:23 pm
Hi, my ex and I broke up about 2 weeks ago. I spent the first week trying to change his mind (not texting constantly, but more like very neutral and calm conversations, about 3-4 messages a day only). He told me he needed space and time to heal / recover as I hurt him a lot in our relationship, and that when he’s ready he would reach out. So to respect his decision, I went full NC about 10 days ago.
Last night I discovered he suddenly blocked me on Whatsapp, Facebook, and Instagram. I have not been uploading anything controversial, except a picture of myself and a girlfriend at dinner. I’m a bit confused as to why he suddenly blocked me, when we were cordial and neutral towards the end and I haven’t done anything to provoke this kind of reaction. I know the way to move forward is to keep up with NC, but I’m really hoping I could understand what prompted him to suddenly block me when I haven’t harassed him or begged him. What’s going on in his mind and why is he suddenly acting out?
Thank you,
C
EBR Team Member: Amor
September 28, 2017 at 8:42 pm
Hi C,
check his this one:
EBR 048: My Ex Boyfriend Unfriended Me On Facebook…. What Does It Mean?
myfault
September 24, 2017 at 12:45 pm
Hi,
I had been in a relationship with a guy since 9 month’s of which 5 month’s were very well going on between us but it was mostly online as we were in far distanced relationship, at first 5 months he came to meet me over my country and things went well., later my emotions & feelings went stronger and I used to text him alot and rarely got replies but he used to still call and prefer more talking rather than texting.
1 month back all of sudden he blocked me all social apps except snapchat and as getting to know this I went emotionally drained & kept long texts asking him you could tell me i would leave myself for your happiness.
So he kept checking me on snapchat & then called one time, and we spoke normal then again all of sudden he started showing attitudes of I Don’t Care for you and asked me to live my life and leave him. It’s not going to work between us following some argument then later he blocked me from snapchat too. He didn’t say I love you nor did he say I hate you but just leave.
Now it’s 1 week and I didnt contact him at all.
I want to know what shall I do? Would he ever return? Or shall I just text him & say good bye.
EBR Team Member: Amor
September 28, 2017 at 7:50 pm
HI,
why is your name myfault? Do you think it’s your fault? Because for me it’s not.. It looks like, he’s sort of ghosting you. You don’t him that well.. You don’t know who he really is and what he does in his time and place away from you.. For me, you should move on.
Lisa
September 23, 2017 at 2:43 pm
Hi,
I have a somewhat weird question.
Instead of blocking me my ex has been viewing my things on social media, preferable Snapchats almost everyday for months now, I can’t get over him seeing his name all the time and over thinking things.
At the same time I don’t want to be ruining any chances of him ever coming back in case he’s thinking about it, which I have no clue about since we don’t talk, he doesn’t reach out to me.
I don’t really know what to do I feel like I’m stuck..
Lisa
September 25, 2017 at 10:21 am
I thought so at first, but it’s like this for 6 months already.. he was in university saying he couldnt afford a relationship anymore and he found me annoying after the bu.
There have been a lot of changes already and I like to travel too, so i obviously did that a lot. He did mention at that time that he still felt attracted sexually, but didnt have the same feelings.
It’s confusing me, it must mean something if you keep looking so much. I barely ever look at my other exes.
EBR Team Member: Amor
September 24, 2017 at 7:46 pm
that’s good because your posts are your indirect way of showing him your improvements
confused
September 21, 2017 at 12:02 pm
My ex boyfriend blocked me today.after we broke up I left and went to stay at a place 7hrs away.I didn’t contact him. he would ask me why I don’t talk to him..then. Will tell him I have been busy but ma main reason is that I loved him a lot and I didn’t want to continue talking to him because he keep s hurting me.he never stays a week without calling me and its hard for me to avoid him.after talking to me he will go a few days without talking to me but I won’t call him either.he will tell me that he misses me and wants me to come back when he does get in contact.his behavior confuses me.we share a child.today we were talking about how to coparent..on Facebook.I started the conversation.told him..we have to make a plan when it comes to our baby because I only intend to visit the town where he and ma baby are but I no longer want to stay.he then started attacking me.we started fighting as usual saying mean things to each other..then he told me he is going to take his baby.I shouldn’t ask where the baby is..told him I don’t wanna fight anymore…I just want us to have a normal conversation about coparenting.he then said how can we have a normal conversation when you act abnormal.then the fight escalated and he is told me he’s blocking me from fb then I said go ahead and he did…..I am really confused by his behavior.what is going on??..its not that I wanted it to be entirely over..I just needed space and time to myself because a lot has happened btwn us.I felt like the relationship is toxic…
EBR Team Member: Amor
September 26, 2017 at 7:37 pm
Hi Confused,
Sounds like it is.. Tell him the truth with your reasons without getting angry even if he does
Piglet
September 18, 2017 at 6:14 pm
Hi,
My boyfriend of 4 years blocked me 3 days ago after a trip with his friends during which we didn’t speak. The day before he left, he told me he loved me and that things would be fine once he came back, and that we’d talk things over but during the trip, he changed his mind.
(We’ve been having some trouble prior. He was having issues I didn’t know about and he told me about them too late.)
I spent the week trying to improve myself so I could make sure he doesn’t feel neglected when he comes back, but he blocked me -everywhere- he possibly could’ve.
Today, he unblocked me on Skype to talk to me. He told me that he loves me but also that he can’t do it anymore, that he doesn’t believe that I’ve changed (even though I didn’t get a chance to show him) and that he doesn’t want to talk to me again because the negativity will start over.
Is there any hope left? Should I just wait it out and see what happens? Could it be that it’s his emotions talking?
Piglet
September 24, 2017 at 6:49 pm
I get what you mean, so I’ve spent the last days focusing more on changing myself for myself and for my own benefit. Strangely enough, 3 days ago, he messaged me again. He said that “I’m sorry. I’m so sorry.” and we got off to talking. He said that it’s really hard for him to move on, that he “had to delete all our photos,” adding that “Jesus, that hurt.”
He also said that “I don’t know if we’ll ever talk again. I intended to leave and never come back.” –Speaking in the past tense about it makes me feel like he’s doubting his decision..
He said that he’s been thinking about us a lot, and that there’s something on his mind that he’s not ready to talk about to anyone yet.
It was only when he started to panic and freak out that he started saying that he has to go, that we shouldn’t be talking, etc. He still told me he loves me, though.
Advice?
x
EBR Team Member: Amor
September 28, 2017 at 7:54 pm
YOu mean talk personally or in text? What did you say to him?
EBR Team Member: Amor
September 20, 2017 at 11:15 am
HI Piglet,
I’m sorry I don’t understand when you said, you improved yourself for him not to feel neglected? Because from what he said, it looked like you’re clingy because he said the negativity will start over.. Improve yourself for yourself not for chasing a guy..
very confused
September 17, 2017 at 8:11 pm
My ex and I broke up about 2 weeks ago and I started NC and it’s been 18 days since I’ve talked to him. Background on our relationship: we’ve broken up once before after we’d dated for 6 months and that lasted for about 5 months before we both decided we didn’t want to be apart. This time we dated for 9 months before he randomly called it off. I didn’t understand because all we would talk about is getting married and having kids. He unfollowed me on instagram the day we broke up because it was too hard to see my face and yesterday randomly blocked me on snapchat after watching all of my stories of me having a good time out with friends. I don’t want to text him and not get response, so I’m wondering what should I do?
EBR Team Member: Amor
September 20, 2017 at 11:02 am
Hi Very confused,
That’s just how it is.. The only way to find out if you can build rapport or move on is to initiate contact.
Confused
September 13, 2017 at 1:39 pm
My ex split up with me 18 days ago out of the blue.
We had a small disagreement about my family one night, went to bed as normal and then he ended it over text the next day.
Everything had been going great and he hadn’t distanced himself at all.
We had been together for 6 months and had a very intense relationship, spending roughly 5 nights a week together, been on holiday several times and spent a lot of time with family and friends, we even had future holidays booked and talked about moving in with each other.
I initiated NC immediately after the break up, because I didn’t want to beg if he didn’t want me anymore and have been working on myself a lot.
I started posting to social media things I’ve been doing, then all of a sudden he has deleted me from everything, Facebook, Instagram, snapchat and even my number, but I knew he had been looking. It feels like I’ve been dumped all over again and I have no idea why he would do that.
I still haven’t contacted him or unfollowed him as I don’t want to be petty. But I felt like I was really making progress with myself and this has just stopped me in my tracks. Help!
EBR Team Member: Amor
September 15, 2017 at 4:02 pm
Hi Confused,
Just continue on in nc..Check this one:
Why Did My Ex Boyfriend Unfollow Me On Social Media?
Jada Belle
September 12, 2017 at 4:15 pm
So my ex which i was not officially dating ended it after ai asked him if he wanted me to leave him alone and yes he was correct when he said i developed feelings for him and that that is the reason he wants me to leave him. He did not want a relationship. Problem was always denied it. When we did’nt speak to each other he was always the one coming back with nothing new to offer other then a situationship. Which i was clearly not happy with. Thing is i never bothered him he always contacted me first. Anyway now he has blocked me on his phone and whatsapp. He is not on fb. Which makes it really hard to get in contact with him. We do work together but refuse to contact him at work. But i really cant understand why he blocked me. I never contacted or bother him. Which is really hurting me. Was he really just using me?
EBR Team Member: Amor
September 14, 2017 at 9:07 pm
Hi Jada,
If he was clear that he didn’t want a relationship, but you still stayed or continued to talk to him, then yes, he is using you..
Sunita
September 4, 2017 at 1:00 am
I went into no contact after the guy i liked said he liked someone else & i shouldnt contact him anymore. 24days into nc, the guy suddenly blocked me on fb & whatsapp.
I have no idea why.
Could it be because i talked to his cousin ?
There was a boxing match 2 weeks ago and his cousin kept mentioning the guy and whr he was going.
Im really not sure whats going on right now. Im almost done with mt nc and i cant contact him.
What shoukd I do now ?
EBR Team Member: Amor
September 7, 2017 at 7:01 pm
what did you mean with mt nc? did you mean minimal contact? If you’re actively improving yourself and you’re active in posting, it can mean he wants to stop himself from checking your posts.
Emily
September 3, 2017 at 9:30 am
So my ex split up with me about 2 months ago. After the break up we tried to be friends but then I tried to get him back and he said that we shouldn’t speak anymore and that I need to move on. I didn’t reply to this and did 30 days of no contact. After the 30days were up I sent him a text as some mutual friends asked me to tell him they were asking about him, he didn’t reply so then I messaged him on Facebook a few days later asking him a question about fishing and he blocked me on Facebook. Yesterday he unfollowed me on instgram but didn’t block me. What should I do? Is there any chance of getting him back or should I move on??
EBR Team Member: Amor
September 4, 2017 at 7:50 pm
HI Emily,
That means you have to let two weeks before trying again for one last time.
feeling apology to him
August 30, 2017 at 4:21 am
August 30, 2017
i have been with him for about 1 and half years, we were in the long distance relationship. i just spent 3 months for living together. but last week he found out i slept with other guys before so he said he didn’t trust me anymore. he told me if there is no trust, then no love, and doesn’t want to see me again. he said it will be a good lesson for me to learn about life. and later he full block me out, and also unfriend my faceboook but didn’t block it.
i just read your text and i am thinking i will be the 40% that i never get back my boyfriend, so disappointed and regret right now, i really want to get him back, what should i do? i have started my NC for few days…
EBR Team Member: Amor
August 31, 2017 at 2:11 pm
Hi,
Check this one:
Fix Your Relationship If You Cheated On Your Ex Boyfriend Before Its Too Late (Video)
NM
August 19, 2017 at 4:00 pm
I wrote an email to your support asking for clarification re the read signs on whatsapp, whether it was ok to let him see that i had read his messages etc.
I wrote 14th Aug which was day6 of my NC
I kept waiting to hear from you guys .
Yesterday for the first time i did not open the app waiting in vain to hear from you all.
Till day before he could see i was reading his messages he sent every other day. .
Yesterday he sent a burst of half-liners, that whats was my problem, i should tell him, he would never disturb me again.
When i didnt open my app to let him see i read the messages, cos i was just Sure i would get a reply from you yesterday, and when i finally gave up and di open the app , he had already blocked me.
He has a very short fuse, if i log in and dont read his message or switch off the read receipts he gets very very mad and accuses meof cheating.
What do i do Now?
This isn’t a usual argument, where he tends to block me right off every time he blows up n unblocks me couple of hours later.
This is serious,he is being forced to marry as per his parents wishes in an arranged marriage which is ususal in India, and he is emotionally blackmailed by his mother who threatened to commit suicide if he didn’t marry where she wants him to.
He is/ was trying to fight it and i decided to do NC to make him realise what i mean to him and if i had only heard from you all this might not have happened
EBR Team Member: Amor
August 22, 2017 at 6:45 pm
Hi NM,
sorry about that. Leia, handles a lot of emails and she only does it on her own. Regarding your bf, did you mean if you didn’t look at it he wouldn’t block you? I’m pretty sure he would still block you whether you looked at it or not.. The bottomline is, if he really wants you, he’ll make a way to make it work with his parents. And he would take responsiblity of it instead of blaming other people or circumstances.
Alexis
August 14, 2017 at 3:15 am
My ex blocked me before I went into NC because I was kept calling and texting him , so once my NC period is over and I decide I want to reach out to him . I know it’s best to do it there text , but what if I’m still blocked so he doesn’t see my text . Is it ok to call first to make sure I’m not blocked ? Or how would I go about doing contacting him ? He deactived all his social media , before we broke up .
calleen
October 18, 2017 at 5:27 pm
But after that there’s nothing I can do though I mean except just let it ride out
EBR Team Member: Amor
October 22, 2017 at 6:50 pm
after your set time limit, you have to move.. You can’t keep waiting because you have your own life..
EBR Team Member: Amor
August 14, 2017 at 8:51 pm
Check this one too:
EBR 002: What To Do If You Have No Way Of Talking To Your Ex
calleen
August 12, 2017 at 7:41 pm
I’ve have been trying to get ahold or you and your team Chris I’ve been watching you videos and need some more advice to getting my boyfriend back its a long story would really like the help. Please I’ve been reading all you blogs. Would really like to talk to you more please I really want him back I’ve done some things and I need your advice on if I messed up bad enough.
calleen
October 17, 2017 at 2:37 pm
After 2 weeks if he doesn’t reply or is negative, and I move on does that mean there isn’t any other chance for us ?
EBR Team Member: Amor
October 17, 2017 at 10:04 pm
It’s not a never..
calleen
October 16, 2017 at 5:39 pm
I texted him sat I said ” have a good day its beautiful out” he said who is this, I said” calleen he said ok. I said is that okay, how is hunting going? I heard you got a buck that’s awesome!! I’ve been looking at some bows so I can start next year and he never replied. And don’t start rapport why not ? What should I do ??
EBR Team Member: Amor
October 17, 2017 at 12:19 am
Because you’re still emotional.. Anger and hurt gets in the way.. Rest for two weeks…if he doesn’t reply or it’s negative, that mans you have to move on..
calleen
October 15, 2017 at 5:06 pm
Slowly building rapport like over the next couple weeks or how do you mean for that? Please help I don’t want to push to making this to the point where I can’t get it back
EBR Team Member: Amor
October 15, 2017 at 8:14 pm
How did you know he deleted your number? If you’re that emotional, don’t start building rapport..
calleen
October 14, 2017 at 5:25 pm
Hes deleted my number amor I tried to text him today he just said OK after I put my name. Is there even hope
calleen
October 14, 2017 at 2:42 am
Amor, I need your help I got a bill in the mail this is the third one We see each other once a month for bill thought he’s calmed down he has but still is mad. I had his best friends girlfriend tell me he switched the bill into his name called they never said anything to me. Not sure what to do haven’t got dishes back how can I handle this and what can I do I still love him should I give him more time I thought things were getting a little better and him calming down more but what does that mean? If he gives dishes back what will this mean will I even have a chance to get him again or is he so mad that his mind won’t be changed for a couple more months.?? Help please amor
EBR Team Member: Amor
October 14, 2017 at 12:01 pm
If you’re done with nc, you should slowly start building rapport
calleen
September 28, 2017 at 2:38 am
He loves hunting, cooking, family I really don’t know how to start it off I guess I mean I’ve read what the blogs said I just don’t know if I’m doing it right or if it’ll push him away more if I text him about it. I don’t want to say the wrong thing thru text and have him push farther away
EBR Team Member: Amor
September 29, 2017 at 12:34 am
there’s no other better move than what you’ll choose because you’re the one who knows him.. if it doesn’t work after 3 tries, you have to move on.
calleen
September 23, 2017 at 12:52 am
Amor, will give more advice on what I can do I got ahold of him about bill again he hasn’t changed anything and I’ve been giving him space And I have another week until NC is over I’ve tried to think of a subject to talk about but nothing I can relate to. Please help
EBR Team Member: Amor
September 27, 2017 at 4:36 pm
List his interests, and use that as topic.. Things that he always loves talking about.
calleen
September 18, 2017 at 1:27 am
I feel like I’ve improved in the last month I’ve finally gave him space and understood what I was doing, and staying positive and giving him the time to calm down
calleen
September 15, 2017 at 5:15 pm
Improving is a big thing I know I needed to work on what I’ve done and give him space, what other things should I be focusing on so I can improve more?
EBR Team Member: Amor
September 17, 2017 at 7:09 pm
if you’re improving the wealth, health and relationships aspects of your life, just keep doing it and enjoy!
calleen
September 14, 2017 at 3:32 pm
He still has my dishes and the power bill is still in both our names haven’t heard anything I’d think that if you wanted to be done, those would be back also right amor?
EBR Team Member: Amor
September 15, 2017 at 4:20 pm
There is a chance but don’t base it just on those things..
calleen
September 13, 2017 at 11:31 pm
Yes amor the first message. But I do have hope on getting this back with what’s happening and how things are going I have a lot more advantage over this right?
calleen
September 8, 2017 at 4:16 pm
Thank you amor, I’ll keep improving and just putting it to the side and stay positive. What if he doesn’t say anything back though when its time to try?
EBR Team Member: Amor
September 13, 2017 at 11:41 am
You mean the first contact message? We only recommend 3 tries.. First contact, if he doesn’t reply wait a week before sending the sevond first contact message..if he still doesn’t reply again, initiate for the last time after two weeks
calleen
September 6, 2017 at 4:51 pm
Amor I have a couple more weeks until my 45 days are up will you give me some advice on what I should do to get to sending a message and building up to talking to him. I don’t want to say the wrong thing and make things worse
EBR Team Member: Amor
September 7, 2017 at 7:50 pm
focus in yourself for now.. after that nc, check this one:
How To Properly Start A Conversation With Your Ex After No Contact
calleen
September 4, 2017 at 5:10 pm
Like me running and riding horses I dont do it because of the attention I do both those because I like how I feel I feel better I’m stronger and my self esteem is higher. Running isn’t something I use to do but riding is just never took the time and now I am .
calleen
September 3, 2017 at 4:31 am
I’ve been doing a little bit of what the blog had talked about not a lot but some and I’m still being strong about NC. I haven’t talked to him and haven’t seen him, have just been improving me. Please keep pushing me to working this out and giving me steps its really helpful amor.
EBR Team Member: Amor
September 3, 2017 at 8:57 pm
do new things that improve your skills and stick to it even after nc.
calleen
August 30, 2017 at 4:41 am
Amor, am I doing things right I mean can you give me maybe steps to helping me get thru NC
EBR Team Member: Amor
August 31, 2017 at 7:02 pm
Yup you’re doing it right in being active..Check this ones:
EBR 060: “Dating Yourself” During No Contact With Veronica Grant
How To Make It Through No Contact Period
Calleen
August 28, 2017 at 2:47 pm
I’ve started wlking and running to improve me and its been great I do it everyday! My mind set has changed since I turned to you and the team and since I’ve started working out. I still am holding on to hope I know we can make it thru this we’ve made it thru every other fight but we always got thru it we do need to work on communication, that’s why we would fight.
calleen
August 27, 2017 at 2:52 pm
Like do things like running or walking and working out a little I started doing something you’ve never done and it seems to be helping me a lot its helping me see that i can achieve anything I put my mind to and I think thats why I haven’t gave up on this with Alex. But the past is the past right if I want this to work I need to look past that and put it behind me I can’t change it but I’m glad there’s still a chance I haven’t texted him at all. I’m glad there’s still a chance you’ll help me with the steps to improve and get this back! You’ve been helping me greatly
EBR Team Member: Amor
August 28, 2017 at 1:26 pm
Yup, that’s the right mindset
calleen
August 25, 2017 at 3:03 pm
Amor its been 3 months without taking space, I mean there is still a way right with NC give space now and take it easy and be the ungettable girl. Some people do take more time then others right?
EBR Team Member: Amor
August 26, 2017 at 12:08 pm
not really pretend to move on but really, genuinely start to move on. Prepare your life, your new routine in a way that if you don’t get him back it’s alright. It will hurt but you will carry on. Yeah, there’s still a chance, the more important thing is you stick to nc now and be really active improving yourself even after nc while slowly rebuilding rapport.
Calleen
August 25, 2017 at 12:14 am
Ungettable girl and make it seem like I’m moving on (pretend) but be happy and just show I’m doing better and moved on right?
calleen
August 24, 2017 at 10:06 pm
So don’t push anymore then I have and just be nice and look pretty and just space. Should I do do or say anything else amor?
EBR Team Member: Amor
August 24, 2017 at 11:35 pm
Just calm down and don’t over think. Move on without totally moving on and keep in mind in being the ungettable girl.
calleen
August 23, 2017 at 1:36 am
Will I have to start my NC over again amor? Is there anything I should do to try to say I’m making me a better person smile, be nice? Anything I should say correct to not say the wrong thing ?
EBR Team Member: Amor
August 24, 2017 at 9:51 pm
No need to restart if you’re talking about the thing you’re going to exchange. No feelings nor relationship talk. Don’t say nor explain that you’re improving yourself. Just be civil and look your best.
calleen
August 22, 2017 at 9:20 pm
I’ll do 45 only because he’s very upset with me and I did I just talked to him about that and he seemed okay to me after he sent back okay I quit texting him. He is coming to get it from me on Friday from work and just say have a good day and walk with a smile but is that okay to do or should I leave my car unlocked and just tell h to get it? I don’t want to push him anymore
EBR Team Member: Amor
August 22, 2017 at 10:30 pm
it’s ok to meet him, just make it short and only about that.
calleen
August 21, 2017 at 4:25 pm
Amor I got the our power bill sent to me if I text him about it will I have to start my NC over again since he’s mad I don’t want him to think I’m trying to be in his space I just was going to text him and tell him about bill and see what he says and let it go and not text back I just don’t want to make a mistake
EBR Team Member: Amor
August 22, 2017 at 9:06 pm
you can do 30 days, it’s ok to extend to 45 days if you feel you need to and yes, it’s good that he didn’t block you. And yes, it’s ok to talk to him about the bill, just only make it about it.
calleen
August 20, 2017 at 8:06 am
Him not blocking my number is good right ?! I mean its not completely done and never getting back together?! I know he’s said things out of anger I believe he did, he’s very upset with me but I’ve been sticking with him and trying to show him that I do care.
calleen
August 20, 2017 at 8:02 am
Thank you amor! I will log back into Facebook and start posting pictures and being happy but still work on me should I focus on 45 days instead of 30 for NC ?! And that sounds great I hope to hear from him thank you!
calleen
August 19, 2017 at 1:18 am
Should I start posting pictures on Facebook at this moment I am logged out of Facebook because he blocked me on that and Snapchat. But hasn’t blocked my number that’s good right ? Thank you for sending my email I really would like a coaching call so he can talk to me more about it!
EBR Team Member: Amor
August 19, 2017 at 8:56 pm
Yep, that’s good..Keep posting in Facebook even if you’re blocked, just make them public.. Ok, I’ll update Chris that you haven’t received an email yet..
calleen
August 19, 2017 at 1:14 am
Thank you amor, working on keeping busy and my.mind off it everything. And no I didn’t get an email I can’t find it
EBR Team Member: Amor
August 18, 2017 at 6:39 pm
Chris said he had just sent an email to you regarding the coaching call, please confirm if you did or did not receive it in the email you used in this comment.
calleen
August 18, 2017 at 4:11 pm
Best advice would just keep busy and try to when I do think about it just go and keep busy?! And yes same email thank you!!
EBR Team Member: Amor
August 18, 2017 at 5:48 pm
yes, because you can only control yourself. That’s why you need to be active in posting because that’s your indirect way of showing you’re moving on, doesn’t care and getting better than ever.. 🙂 ok, I’ll double check your email with Chris. Thank you! He’ll get in touch with you in that email.
calleen
August 18, 2017 at 2:22 pm
I sent my email amor, I would really like to get more advice on what I can do to fix this please help! Thank you
EBR Team Member: Amor
August 18, 2017 at 3:12 pm
Sadness will not really be gone when you’re improving yourself.. You just have to continue it no matter what you feel.. Is this the same email address you used in the email?
calleen
August 17, 2017 at 5:33 pm
Amor I did send the email! Thank you for helping me please help me get this back!
calleen
August 17, 2017 at 4:05 pm
I have been everyday I’ll get days where I want to cry, but I’ve reached out for counseling and being put on anixety meds. It has been working some days are better then others. Is there any advice that might help for putting it off to the side and improving in myself I find that a part is still holding on when I put it to the side to improve?!! And yes please I’d love to talk to him it would be wonderful to have more advice on this I would like more steps and see if I’m doing something wrong thank you amor!!
calleen
August 16, 2017 at 2:35 pm
Anything that will help amor, I would really like more advice about what I can do to get this back he means a lot to me. I have been on NC for 3 weeks almost 4 and I am giving him spave . we have been split up for 3 months and never took space for those 3 months. We were together for a 1 year and 2 months. I really would like to talk my stories long and not sure if its easier to email anyway.
EBR Team Member: Amor
August 17, 2017 at 3:19 pm
Be active ib improving yourself. I’ll forward your email to Chris if you want to avail the coaching call..
EBR Team Member: Amor
August 13, 2017 at 7:23 pm
Hi Calleen,
I’m not sure if you saw my reply to your previous post but do you mean you want a coaching call with Chris?
Mari
August 6, 2017 at 9:36 pm
I was dating this guy for just about 4 years (Nov is our anniversary) he was not just my ex bf he was my ex fiancĂ© because he had proposed to me about 5 months of being together and 1 year of knowing each other. The first 2 1/2 years were great and then in 2016 he went through my phone because he tried to break up with me and he thought I seemed okay with it because I seemed not to care but I only acted that way because I was angry. He saw my conversation with a friend(male) who I have known for 10 years + . After that things between him and I got rough and trust issues came about. The thing is, I can be an oblivious person and failed to realized that although he was texting me inappropriately, I didn’t see it that way because he was my friend and I always disregarded what he said. (Present me talking: I realized that I hurt him in ways because I put myself in his shoes and told myself I wouldn’t of liked it either) although my conversations with him were just friendly on my behalf, my loyalty for this man was 110%. In June he was accepted to join the Police academy, which meant his focus was strictly on his career. I helped him throughout the whole process, from the moment it started to the moment it ended. I did things not many women would not do for anyone in todays world because they were all selfless acts I gave him my support, ran errands, cooked, cleaned his room etc.. Yes I did want to go out with I’m but he couldn’t or chose not to so eventually id go out with friends, besides it was summer. He then began to have issues about my going out with guys/girls and by Nov we broke up. I was devastated didn’t know how to feel, my emotions were everything ( I suffer from anxiety and that has lead me to a very emotional state in my life where I felt depressed and didn’t care to live, I know sounds very depressing. Build up from growing up has made me this way, family issues, losing my father, etc.) He knew this! We kept in touch, I focused on myself, college, working two jobs, my friends and family. Eventually he saw that and we managed to work things out that time. We were sort of together again in January and things seemed fine and back to normal. Keep in mind we did argue a little but nothing out of this world. I still felt that he didn’t trust me completely. In June he went to my graduation and then a week from there I got us a two night stay at the Harrah’s Resort in AC, paid by me. We had such a good time but on our last day he felt as if I didn’t care about his needs, he wanted to leave early so he can get a haircut, mind you he was off the next day, I simply wanted to enjoy every minute of it since his job seems to complicate vacations. That day we argued and he picked the fight, he even blamed me for the GPS re routing me and when we got home we didn’t really speak. I decided to go get taco bells and he asked with who and I told him just me. On my way there I called a friend to make my walk feel less and she said hey I want taco bells too so lets meet up, we can take it to eat at my house and I waited for her. She finally came and I got in her car and we went through the drive thru and I’m getting ready to call him but he calls me first instead. We fight, he calls me a liar the whole day was bad after that. Then late June came and things felt weird so I decided to have a serious conversation with him and he took the way out and basically dumped me. He said he didn’t want kids anymore or saw a future with me and I Just couldn’t understand how? We had just made a list of our big plans for the summer and have been planning to move out and also take a trip to Mexico in October. If you love me so much and you tell me all the time then how is this possible??? He told me he was tired, tired of the relationship scene. I couldn’t understand the actual reason because there were so many excuses or rather say, reasons being thrown at me. I just could not process correctly because of my emotions. After the break up I stood over the whole week ( I practically lived with him and his mom ) until my trip to Maryland came. I was happy seeing him all those days even though we weren’t together. I told him all about my plans and how I was going to hit the gym hard this summer and he said why is it that you wanna do this now that were not together and I said I tried doing the gym with you like we used to before but something always came up. Anyways I was just throwing that out there. When I came back from Maryland on the 4th of July I was sad all of a sudden. Him and I shared locations on our iPhone My friend app so when I saw that he was out by the water, I got upset because for the past 3 years he never wanted to do anything and now he has his car I was confused and bothered. (He always told me wait until I get my car and we will do so much) but now what? Anyways I tried the NC but failed because I was venting my understanding of the relationship and what I was going to miss in one of my notes that I shared with him but didn’t think he would even read it. He did, he never text me about it. One day at work I was having some true anxiety where I didn’t want to feel this pain of such heartbreak and all my thoughts were so negative I wanted to be out of this world. My boss (a man) said just text him what’s the worse he can say ( I regret listening because all my girls said don’t contact him) I he said some horrible things about how has happy and doing really well, he also said he doesn’t mean to sound selfish but he didnt throw anything away he only walked out of what was causing him unhappiness and that I need to stop writing in the notes its only causing me pain, he’s tired of repeating himself because hearing it again is only going to cause me more pain, what don’t I understand that he doesn’t want to talk to me again because it will always be the same thing! He said all of this when all I simply texted was a hi and asked was how are you? I didn’t bother to reply to last two messages, but prior to his first respond about him being happy I told him that I miss him and I’m miserable and how could he throw it all away. A week later I went out with my girl and her and I saw him with another girl holding hands by the movies he even kissed her. I was in my fav restaurant sitting in the bench deciding what I was going to do and they both walked him and he looked at me and I starred at him right in the eyes and no words were exchanged. I was ANGRY!! but I held my composure in the most mature way possible. How can you do that after 4 years? Engaged? I cant even picture being with another man or even kissing anyone still. I had already removed him from my Instagram the day I went to get my things from his house(which was a few days after I came back from MD) thinking id get closure but I really didn’t because after seeing with that girl I needed to know more. I told my friend tell him I have things in his house I want and he told her he would let her know the following when he was off but he never did. Yes I have been creeping on IG and I Know who the girl is and I saw him take her our again. I know what I am doing is not healthy but I don’t have any closure. He has me blocked on IG and X box(that I got for him) My FB is deactivated so there’s nothing going on there. I don’t understand any of his actions, I have spoken to male friends, mutual friends. I have good days and bad days but I’m disappointed in him, he says I’m stuck and to move on with my life and be happy and that we went as far as we could and he went as far as he could go. During the break up he said it was about him moving forward not moving on, so why is he investing time on this girl? Instead of investing it on himself to be better? I hate that she’s in his life enjoying everything with him after I made an impact in his life, in his career. EVERYONE knows how I feel for him, what I did for him and that he broke my heart and he left a stain in it too. How can he be so cold when he told me once before in October in this sincerely heart felt letter that he’s madly in love with me??? We just needed work. But he’s clearly giving up, I made changes and noticed them so why is he giving up on us when we have so much potential to be great and grow? He said this was a new chapter and he looks forward to growing. Is he confused or hurt or not ready to commit? No one is perfect and maybe he’s seeking that in someone else to fill the void… I hate all of this and I wish I could track back time to fix my mistakes but all I can do is move forward and work on myself to be better.
De
August 2, 2017 at 8:16 pm
Hi .i have no contact with my ex bf for a month 2weeks ago he blocked me from one of his number and a faw days ago he block me on whatsapp.and just he check my last time with one of his number…i dont know text him or not…i wanna say i know thats easy for u to forget me…and something like this but i dont know should i or not
De
July 31, 2017 at 8:53 am
My ex block me while no contact rule.i didnt talk with him 4weeks
One week ago he block me in telegram
And yesterday he block me on whatsapp
But he has onther number to check my last seen
What should i do inshoulfld wait him to unblock me or text him other number?
De
August 2, 2017 at 8:20 pm
I change my pic in whatsapp and he blocked me..
EBR Team Member: Amor
August 5, 2017 at 6:52 pm
Nope..dont say that..even if you’re blocked, how active were you in postinf in facebook and instagram?
EBR Team Member: Amor
July 31, 2017 at 5:00 pm
First, even if you’re blocked, how active were you in improving yourself and in posting?
Tina
July 24, 2017 at 11:03 pm
Hi, my situation is rather strange and I have never been blocked before so I’m quite stunned. I developed an inappropriate crush and me and my married boss became very close. I’ve never cheated and doubt I ever would but I trusted him and over 1 year and a half I fall for him. I don’t even know how it became so intense I think maybe because my mum became ill and he was a great support to me. I told him I wanted to leave my job and he talked me out of it and then things went pear shaped. I found myself obsessing over him and getting jealous of his wife not in a weird way but he noticed that it bothered me. I would come off and on social media to avoid seeing pictures and I would get upset that I couldn’t progress in any way. I felt trapped in my career and personal life. One day he blocked my messages on FB but didn’t unfriend me and I was heartbroken that he did this. I immediately blocked him from my FB and sent him an email asking why. He gave me the reasons that was at home and didn’t want to discuss work as he was stressed at work. At the time I was so upset I cut him off. Nothing was the same after that and I left my job a few months later. I was heartbroken about the whole thing and probably still am. Luckily I left for a big job opportunity and am doing amazingly well in my new job. I had spoken to him a few times but just came across as vulnerable and he asked me what I was paranoid about recently I said that you will cut me off completely. A mutal friend was experiencing problems at home and I told her to meet with him they did met and he asked about me etc and I ended some of my stuff from him. As a courtesy I thanked him for giving my work stuff to our mutal friend and the response was quite shocking. He blocked me from Twitter this was our only private messaging site left and I was so angry and upset. I emailed him and instead of acting angry or upset I stated that I was aware I had been blocked and that it was fine but that I hope I hadn’t offended him as that wasn’t my intention. I got a reply saying basically that he hopes I’m well and thank you for the present however he can’t except it and that he thinks I should concentrate on my relationship and move on. I did the unexpected and didn’t reply. That was a month ago. We are both managers and owners, I have no doubt our paths will cross again but a part of me if deeply embarrassed and ashamed of what he might think of me. We talked all the time early morning till late at night and it was Clear we had feelings for each other however he said he had never cheated and he wouldn’t feel great if he did. All the staff commented on us at the Christmas do and I had fallen for him so much. He always seemed like he cared and generally interested in my life, I told him everything. His wife just recently had a baby and I think I was a phase. The whole cross boundaries makes me feel disappointed in myself , a part of me feels used and stupid I don’t know if he ever really felt the same. The fact that I feel he doesn’t ever want to see or speak to me again is my worse fear and he knows that, what do I do that was so bad?.. I was nothing but honest and leaving the company because of my feelings and the position it could put him in was the best thing to do. I would never have done anything to harm him. I just don’t understand why? I have no intention of contacting him but my friend who works with him has also distant herself from me and said today that he has asked about me and how I am etc?.. Why would he do that.
Tina
July 28, 2017 at 7:51 pm
What do I do if I see him again?
EBR Team Member: Amor
July 30, 2017 at 7:56 pm
Just be civil with him..
EBR Team Member: Amor
July 25, 2017 at 6:14 pm
Hi Tina
if he do has feelings for you and he doesn’t want to ruin his marriage, he’s doing the right thing of cutting contact with you but that doesn’t mean he lost feelings that’s why he got curious and asked about you.