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Chloe
May 19, 2017 at 9:23 am
This is not so much an ex bf but a close guy friend that has blocked me on facebook since December last year and again for a second time on whatsapp. I am aware that things have been tough for him at work of late but I had only asked him if he’d mind coming to a building store with me cause I was looking for wood to make picture frames. I went to bed not being blocked but when I awoke the next morning, he had blocked me? I’m so confused as he a month ago had told me not to worry about him, he’s going nowhere and then this. I’m hurt as we are very close, he’s spoken to me about his family, his work issues, finance issues and friend issues! It’s been about two weeks now since he blocked me, I feel so incredibly disposable in this tech day n age. I don’t know what to do, not even sure if it’ll be worth contacting him after some time or if he ever will again. I feel gutted and down, he’s important to me and has helped me so, I honestly wouldn’t want to lose him
EBR Team Member: Amor
May 19, 2017 at 10:50 pm
you can still try the advice above even if he’s not your ex..
Charley
May 7, 2017 at 11:22 pm
Hi,
My ex boyfriend has done a full block out on me. I have always been honest and loyal to him, he looked through some messages between me and a boy friend and didn’t like the way that my friend sometimes spoke to me in a “flirty” manner. He kicked off, even when I said that my friend new all about him as i always spoke about my boyfriend to my mate. May I add that I have never responded to the flirty messages and simply ignored them but my ex believes there is more to it when there is absolutely not. However, after blocking me on everything but messages, and then asking me to get out of his house, I later called him to speak about everything and he carried on to say that I was disgusting and he couldn’t believe that the girl he could see his future with would do this. He then when on to say that the girl who he had been speaking to frequently, who I had doubts about, was his ex, despite him saying he never spoke to any ex’s because they had cheated on him, and then said he had “no guilt” about getting with her behind my back. I am completely in love with him despite everything, and i really cannot see myself with anyone but him but he has blocked me now on everything, only email is available. I don’t know what to do, he was adamant when he said he never wants to talk to me again and after calling me a slut, disgusting, just like his ex’s and saying he felt sick looking at me, i really don’t know what to do. I just him to eventually unblock me because i can’t imagine my life without him
Mona
May 27, 2017 at 7:00 am
Thank you Amor
I did and he is now online on skype but before he wasn’t and I am invisible. Do you think he is curious ?
I want him back. So when I should take your Ebook Ex Boyfriend Recovery PRO ?now or after complete my NC?
EBR Team Member: Amor
May 29, 2017 at 3:34 pm
now..so you would know what to do before it ends..honestly,it’s hard to day he misses you just because he’s online
EBR Team Member: Amor
May 10, 2017 at 5:34 pm
Hi Charley,
do you want to try the advice above? aside from that check this too:
How To Get Your Ex Boyfriend Back If He Thinks You Cheated But You Didn’t
Allie
May 4, 2017 at 12:43 pm
Hey! I have a question. I have posted on here before. My ex have been in an on and off relationship for three years but just broke up again about three weeks ago. The first year we argued a lot because of timing. We were both figuring out our careers. Then I had to move away for two years. We have argued a lot and they always explode into huge fights.We act very immature and say very hurtful things to each other. After a few weeks of one of these fights a week it always culminates in a situation where he is fed up and ends things. Then a month later he comes crawling back saying he cant live without me. It also complicates things because his mother does not like me because he always tells her when we have big fights. (He is in his 30’s.) Well this time I think he is done for good. He has blocked my number and has blocked me on instagram and snapchat. He hasn’t blocked me Whatsapp or on Facebook but probably not on FB because he doesn’t use it very often and probably not on Whatsapp because I am assuming he deleted my number and hasnt thought that I can contact him there. I did two weeks of NC and have successfully done a month each time but this time I am dealing with a very serious family issue and broke down and called him. The call ended up with getting angry with me and him saying he went on a date with a woman and really liked her and he wanted me to get over him and we had a horrible relationship and he wouldnt be there for me during this troubling time. He said he didnt want to talk to me until we are over each other because we had such a bad relationship. I started to cry a bit towards the end and he hung up and then blocked the number. I am wondering if this is like the scenario Chris said where he refused to talk to the ex ever again because they were very bad for each other. I don’t think we are so bad for each other I just think timing and location played a big part into what happened and I also think we should have used a medium timeline to getting back together instead of a short one because of built up resentment from previous experiences. Is there anything I can do to remedy the situation? After the last call I have not reached out at all. Should I just try to move on? For some reason there is a feeling deep down we are meant to be together. I am working on myself and becoming stronger every day. Please let me know what I should do.
EBR Team Member: Amor
May 4, 2017 at 3:41 pm
Hi Allie,
Check this one first:
How To Get An On Again/Off Again Boyfriend Back
Bubu
May 3, 2017 at 9:40 am
Hi Chris,we dated for a year and I travelled out of town and ever since I travelled he has been behaving strange, he stops calling regularly, he finds fault in any lil thing I say,in fact things were not going well for us,he has broken up with me twice n he would beg me to take him back which I did,but unfortunately three weeks ago I found out he has been cheating on me for the past three months with a new girl and when I asked him on d phone he denied it then I brought out evidences, the next thing he did was he blocked me on Facebook, deleted all my pics I sent to him,stopped calling n couldn’t explain or admit it that he cheated. Now he clearly comments on the new girl post on Facebook with sweet words n he is officially dating this girl . The painful part is he left without apologizing or admitting the truth. Even when I tried calling him when I found out he blocked me on Facebook he ignored my calls n since then av been all alone without contacting him again.
EBR Team Member: Amor
May 3, 2017 at 7:55 pm
Hi bubu,
are you going to do the advice above?
Vee
April 29, 2017 at 4:50 pm
Thanks Chris, he broke up with me, and he was stalking me on social media for almost 2 weeks. After this period I posted a picture with my neighbor and his sister, he literally deleted me from every single social media except Facebook. He stopped seeing my instagram stories and he unfollowed me on instagram.
He also unfollowed me on Snapchat.
He even went through my pictures this week and disliked them ALL, I don’t get it, he took time to do it, why? The only place he still kept me is on Facebook. Anyway, I haven’t unfollowed him on instagram and won’t. I don’t check his stuff and honestly don’t care about it. It’s been 2 weeks since he decided to unfollow me and dislike my pictures, I haven’t talk to him since the break up. It will be a month of our break up this week. What should I do?
EBR Team Member: Amor
April 30, 2017 at 12:19 pm
it looks like you did nc because you’re posting, but you didn’t say you are improving yourself. Anyways, if you’re not really blocked then you can initiate contact..
Kale
April 24, 2017 at 2:17 am
He blocked me on Valentine’s Day, and you were right in your response to me. All of these fake requests started a week later. But he keeps me blocked on his real profile. How to proceed? Story below:
I broke up with him six months ago- it was pretty nasty because he got third parties involved. He has messed around with my door wreath and Christmas decorations, and also sent a friend of his to do it (witness saw them). He would call from strange phone numbers til he heard I got a second phone to trap him. I changed my number. He tried to hack my various social media accounts. I tried to start conversation with him on Facebook about it but he ignored me. He did tons of other stuff I won t list here- basically staking me. He d be arrested if police in our town actually did their job.
Then, on Valentines Day, he blocked me. A week later, I get fake friend requests. I know they are him- won t go into how I know. I get these fake requests every week to ten days. The longest he went without doing it was three weeks, when I had a profile pic up of me and another guy. I took it down though, because I broke up with the other guy. I think he’s been dating someone too, very casually, although she is the aggressor because she wants citizenship. In these three weeks, I left a Facebook singles group we were both in. He was still in it. Less than a week later, I noticed he had left too.
Anyway, me and the ex’s anniversary was last week and I got a fake request, then another today. A few days before anniversary I got fake request and I just wrote it as if it was him. I said I know what he s up to and that I m not mad about the past and for him to email me when he s ready. I sent him a photo of us and commented on how happy he looked. So I ve ignored the two requests since then. What does he want from me? Why is he doing this? Think he wants me back? I’m pretty sure he does, but don’t know what to do. Please help.
EBR Team Member: Amor
April 29, 2017 at 8:08 pm
stick to at least 30 days of nc.. be active in posting.. he has to think you’re really moving on..
What to do
April 16, 2017 at 1:42 pm
This guy and I had been seeing each other for a few months. In the beginning everything was great and he was attentive and caring. We really clicked and it looked like things were heading in the right direction. He then began to withdraw, which obviously made me paranoid and upset but I stayed the course and we eventually talked it out. He said he felt pressured to be something he wasn’t sure he could be, so we cooled off a bit. He began to take hours to reply to texts, or not follow up with plans made and I would be upset but didn’t want to act as if I was, so I blocked him on FB and decided to not be in contact with him (I guess I know now I was mostly doing it to teach him a lesson). He tried contacting me soon after he realized I blocked him, asking if I was upset with him and asking if I blocked him, to which I never replied. Then after a few weeks of NC I reached out and told him I hoped he was doing well and sent him a photo I had taken of him in the beginning of our relationship. Later that evening, he asked if I’d ever want to see him, and I told him I’d like that. He expressed he missed me and I thought we were headed back to being together. Then in the middle of the conversation, obviously hurt by me blocking him, he said he might block me, for no real reason than just to make it even. I explained to him that my intent was never to hurt him but he still seemed upset by the whole ordeal so I apologized and we ended the conversation. The next day I found out he had asked a mutual friend about why I had previously blocked him. Good sign right? Well after our initial contact after NC, he went back to being distant though I tried to make plans with him, he always said he was tired. A few days after all of this, I was hanging out with the mutual friend he had asked about me to and we both noticed he tried to contact her at 1 in the morning. The same night I tried to make plans with him but he told me he was tired. So I confronted him and he was cold with responses. I was angry and said mean things, some I meant, some I didn’t. He would respond with “anything else” and “noted” and then at the end he told me he was going to block me so he wanted to make sure I got out all I wanted to say. Then he wrote me a whole paragraph about me not having to be “this upset” and his hesitation with being with me was because of this moment. He then blocked me, and our mutual friend on his phone (I still had him blocked on FB so he couldn’t try to block me on the site). What was the point in contacting me during our NC if he wasn’t ready to be in a relationship? Is he blocking me to teach me a lesson or was it all a setup so he’d have a reason to block me?
EBR Team Member: Amor
April 16, 2017 at 5:10 pm
It’s probably just to get even.. But if you want to build rapport and attraction, you can’t get angry. you have to be indifferent, calm and composed better if you’re a little cheeky or humorous..
Nisha
April 16, 2017 at 7:25 am
Hi..
My ex broke up with me almost 5 months ago. He told me that I was very possessive n controlling .so he left me. And also blocked me on what’s app . Then immediately I went for no contact. Then after 3 months he unblocked me. I recently started talking with him. He was very friendly though. But he told me that he has moved on. And I told I haven’t. N I also did a huge mistake…I told him that..” I know I was never important in your life” … N he got angry and told me not to contact him anymore n blocked me on what’s app n fb. So..I m helpless now. I really love him n I want him back. I don’t kno wat to do… can you please help me??
EBR Team Member: Amor
April 16, 2017 at 3:01 pm
you have no other choice for now but to go back in nc and let time pass and not repeat rushing
Chelle
April 15, 2017 at 3:21 pm
My ex and I just broken up recently. We had bigger issues/more serious arguments that leads to a break up but whenever I go to his house, we would end up okay always. He has many problems right now that includes finance and family and I want to be there for him in his worst. He is always sweet to me especially when we are together so I know he loves me too. This time, the reason for our fight wasn’t even major but he blocked me on Facebook and Twitter. I managed to text him if he really want to break up and he said that he wants to. I know he’s being immature right now but is that what he really wants? To break up with me?
EBR Team Member: Amor
April 16, 2017 at 1:27 pm
I can’t speak for your boyfriend, but if he’s immature then he might be just emotional.
Nisha
April 14, 2017 at 5:37 am
14.4.17
My ex boyfriend broke up with me almost 5 months ago and we were together for 1 n a half months. After breaking up he suddenly blocked me on what’s app. And it was my fault. I was very possesive n controlling. And then I went on no contact . And he unblocked me. Recently I started talking with him. But again i made a huge mistake. I told some hurtful things about the break up and he again blocked me on both whatsapp and facebook. I just don’t kno what to do.I really want my ex back. I really love him. Please tell me what to do??
EBR Team Member: Amor
April 16, 2017 at 8:15 am
restart the no contact rule and do at least 45 days.. make it seem like you’ve accepted everything and you’re moving on.
Blocked on everything
April 12, 2017 at 2:34 pm
I’m guessing the ball is in his court now considering I’ve been blocked on everything. So If he reaches out great if not move on?? Should I put a time frame on the amount of time he would reach out before I close the book? 7 years is a long time.
Blocked on everything
April 13, 2017 at 7:40 pm
I’ve blocked him for 6Months while doing NC. So I’m worried 3months may not be long enough.
EBR Team Member: Amor
April 13, 2017 at 8:18 pm
ok, if 6 months is what makes you feel comfortable, go for it.
EBR Team Member: Amor
April 13, 2017 at 6:25 pm
let’s say wait for 3 months, and use that time to be active too.. if he doesn’t unblock during 3 months, move on.
Kristen
April 11, 2017 at 8:38 pm
Hi Chris. I’m really hoping you can help me. I have been blocked by my ex through social media as well as through phone. I knew about to social media but not about the phone block until I attempted to contact him after the NC period. I have just finished 30+ days of NC and want to try and get in touch with him. I don’t know what to do or how to go about it. I definitely made mistakes before I went through with the NC i.e. Begging, professing my love, trying to get him back. Obviously non of that worked. I moved 1000 miles away after the breakup so there is no way of running into him. I don’t know what to do and I really want this person back in my life. I haven’t seen him in 5 months and we have had no communication in 30+ days. Please help. I’ve listened to all of your podcasts and watched your videos. Worked on myself, improved my thoughts and views on life and have been having a nice time. Now what. I don’t think he ever wants to talk to me again.
EBR Team Member: Amor
April 12, 2017 at 7:11 pm
even if you’re blocked, did ypu post in social media?
Maggie
April 10, 2017 at 3:07 am
My partner and I were together for about 2 years. For the last several months our fights had gotten out of control. Our relationship was very toxic, but we continued to try our hardest to make it work because of our love for one another. After the last fight we had, I packed all of my things and moved out of his house. I told him I wanted to take some time away. I thought our relationship would improve if we took some time apart and if we didn’t live together anymore. He began acting very cruel towards me. Even though our interactions were minimal at that point, every interaction we did have turned into mud slinging filled with hurtful remarks. We told each other that we were hurting but we could not stop the fighting.
I had been initiating all of the interactions. He told me many times that he needed space and I did not respect that. He finally told me he was going to block me my calls and texts but that he would respond to my emails. A week went by and he did not respond to my emails. I did the worst thing I could’ve done and I sent him emails on a daily basis and went to his house and his work to speak with him. I only made the situation worse. It has been about 3 weeks since I moved out of his house and just yesterday (before reading this article) I went to his work looking for answers that he was refusing to give me. This only pushed him away even further and saw that I wasn’t respecting him. He told me that he hated me, I was a nightmare, and that he never wanted to see me again. He also said that he was very hurt and that he wanted time to forgive and move on.
After reading this article I’ve realized that I did the worst thing I could’ve done. I wish I would have found this article sooner rather than just allowing my emotions to lead me. I have decided to work on myself because I know how much I need it. I’ve set up some sessions with a therapist and I am taking a 3 month trip to Europe this summer so that I can have time away. I’ve promised myself to stop reaching out to him in any way, but I am wondering if it would be a good idea to reach out to him when I return from my trip to Europe in 4 months or if I should wait until he contacts me. If he never contacts me, then I suppose I’ll know he really meant the things he said. I just really don’t want to pressure him any more than I already have.
EBR Team Member: Amor
April 10, 2017 at 8:36 pm
it’s ok to initiate.. as long as you’ll be the one to end the conversation at high point too.
Anika
April 6, 2017 at 10:48 pm
I broke up with my ex four days ago and I had dated him for roughly two months and prior to that I had known him for two months. He broke up because he told me he couldn’t handle long distance (he’s in the US air force and he’s getting deployed for a little while to Africa and then in 9 months he’s leaving the UK to go back home for good) and we didn’t end on bad terms, though we did have a no contact period for three weeks before we broke up because he went back home for a holiday, and he ignored my messages and would reply after a few days.
This morning he blocked me on snapchat and facebook and I also think my phone number too, but I don’t understand why. I know we’d never get back together but I was surprised to see that he blocked me even though we had a really good relationship while we dated, and we didn’t have a single fight. He still has some of his belongings at my place that he still needs to pick up so I’m really confused.
Did he block me because he’s trying to get over me or is there another reason?
EBR Team Member: Amor
April 9, 2017 at 3:49 pm
can be that he’s trying to get over you or to let you move on
Blocked on everything
April 5, 2017 at 9:16 pm
Long story short me and my ex have been together since 08. But off and on the last year. Long story short since October he said I’ve been taking him for granted and that I’m too busy for him etc. I have been because I’ve been busy with school moving to another apartment and out of town with family and on spring break but that’s still no excuse. So we’ve been broken up since oct of 2016 officially. To fastward he met this girl as his job assistant manager to be exact and they have been dating since feb. we had a huge argument bc I didn’t know he had a gf. He told me To leave him and his gf alone bc I hurt him and I’m way to busy for him etc there’s so much more but I’m limited with typing space. I took him for granted I should’ve spent more time with him. So basically he blocked my number my Facebook my snap chat etc. I’m currently doing 6months and I’ll be 2 weeks NC. I think it’s a rebound bc even though we’ve been broken up since oct. I see him maybe every week at least once bc I am very busy and we have been intimate as well. Do you think I should reach out again in 6 months. I love him and I messed up. He already told her he loves her and he wants to move in with her I think I’m doomed. Everyone says it’s bc he’s hurt and bc he’s trying to rush things with her. But soon the infacuaction will wear off.
Blocked on everything
April 9, 2017 at 2:21 am
Since I’m blocked on everything I was thinking maybe 6 months would be enough time for both of use to think logically instead of emotionally and hopefully even if him and his new gf are still together maybe he won’t be as mad for me telling her everything. Since I’m blocked do you think 6 months is okay?? I’m not sure if he’ll ever reach out now
EBR Team Member: Amor
April 10, 2017 at 6:53 pm
I think that’s too long and it would be better to come from a stand point that he will not reach out.. Think of it as a restart. If he will not reach out, how would you approach things? if he had moved on and just wants you to move on, how would approach things?
Blocked on everything
April 5, 2017 at 9:19 pm
Meant to clarify I haven’t seen him or talked to him in 2 weeks but prior to that we were hanging out and I thought we were doing better bc we were talking daily but he did mention I’m still to busy and he misses and loves me and feels like I’m acting distant.
EBR Team Member: Amor
April 7, 2017 at 6:41 pm
don’t sleep with him again.. yes, she can be rebound.So, for now keep improving yourself and posting even if you’re blocked.. what did you mean by 6 months?
Confused on what's going on
April 5, 2017 at 8:39 am
He broke up with me after 4months of dating when he found me smoking a cigarette which happened to be the one day that I smoked since one year ago after he said something hurtful to me and instead of telling him how it made me feel, I went outside and smoked a cigarette, he had no idea about it. I told him that I had felt alittle sad and overwhelmed. Therefore he broke up 2days after the incident, sighting that he feels that he doesn’t know enough about me and I had not revealed all my secrets to him, which makes him feel insecure and he can’t be in another insecure relationship.
I have been on no NC for 19 days however on the 17th day I noticed that I had been blocked on Facebook, because I noticed that I could not see his profile anymore, we have mutual friends. he’s not my friend on Facebook because I unfriended him immediately after the break up. Reason being that he likes to post his relationship memes on his wall based on his current emotions. His wall is Private hence I couldn’t see his status. So for my peace of mind I unfriended him.On the second day of the break up he blocked me on WhatsApp. He’d tried to contact me for close to fourty eight hours, then I sent him a text explaining that I was not in a position to respond him as at that moment because I just didn’t know how to. After that text he blocked me on WhatsApp. He also tried to contact my brother after six days of my NC and him blocking me but my brother missed the call and never bothered calling him back. I don’t know if I’m blocked on his phone because I haven’t tried to call him since I initiated NC. What do you think is going on now? Why block me after 17days?
EBR Team Member: Amor
April 5, 2017 at 6:46 pm
if you were active in posting, that’s probably to prevent himself from looking at your posts because it hurts him.
Gail
April 1, 2017 at 4:10 am
My ex-boyfriend and I were together for 4 years and it has been a yeah and a half since we have broken up (November 2015). During the breakup he had been casually asking to get back together but I refused because he did not show much effort. He recently told me that up until October 2016 he was still open to us getting back together, but (maybe) due to peer pressure he moved on because his friends told him he had been wallowing for too long. The following month he has started going out with a new girl. We had open communication ever since and I even told him I wanted to get back together on February 2017. However he rejected me because he said that he did not want to seem like a player by dropping the new girl, that he did not want to hurt the new girl, and that he was in-love and happy with the new girl and that everything was going easy (although he hasnt told his family about this girl). We had been talking daily up until the last week of March 2017 because the new girl’s friend saw that he was communicating with me. So he has now stopped all forms of communication so he would not hurt the girl and so that he made it clear that he is still angry and hurting from the things I have done to him.
Im about 3 days into the NC, should I continue NC even if already has blocked me and has not been replying prior to the NC? What should I do?
Just want my friend back
March 30, 2017 at 6:45 am
So, my situation is somewhat different. Basically, me and this guy… we were 100% the most perfect people for each other at the most impossible time. Things never really got ‘ugly’ in the end, but there was a lot of hurt feelings, and we got into a pretty terrible situation because he’s about to start college and I just graduated among other things. I think I put way too much pressure on him because I felt our connection so strongly and he did too, but he had everything pounding down on him from all angles. Well… initially I tried a no contact rule with him by telling him I wanted to take some time away from him to get over him- he shot back about how basically he was told he can’t hang out with me anymore because it would ruin his future, and that he was terribly sorry. That ended in a pretty terrible argument because he had been lied to by some friends he’d made very recently. We were only together for about 3 months total but, I don’t want back into that relationship. Because if it ever in a hypothetical universe COULD work… I know now that it cannot be at this time in our lives. He should see the world first, and I deserve someone who wants to be with me the way he wasn’t ready to be. But a few months after that, I found out from a mutual friend who it was that had told him these terrible things about me that he cited as the reason for severing ties with me. While I don’t believe that was the reason, I think they were excuses for the truth that he couldn’t make me accept, he and I at that time still had a somewhat working friendship so I wound up telling him that I had figured out who told him those things and sort of stood up for myself and my version of events and told him I had blocked the mutual friend who had run behind my back and told him these things. He told me that he honestly wasn’t involved and didn’t remember anything that this mutual friend had said, but the next day he blocked ME from all social media (mostly fb and snapchat, I blocked HIS Instagram) and didn’t answer my texts. I don’t know if I’m blocked from his email or his phone, but I prefer a more sure-fire way to contact him if possible. Far as no contact goes, we’ve already been through a very prolonged period of that. I don’t think blocking me had anything to do with him hating me or anything like that, I think he ran when he realized I had the missing piece of a puzzle that had really hurt my feelings. I know somewhere in my gut that everything I felt for this person was reciprocated completely, even if all the pieces were never going to fit together.
That was around 6 or so months ago. I have since spoken with the person who sort of ruined things between us and it went very well. I don’t think that person was truly trying to harm me so much as he was looking out for HIS friend. And it’s a very sticky situation, I get that even if I think it could have been handled better. However, I’m still blocked from the ex’s social media in every way. And, I DON’T want a romantic relationship back in any way. But… I do miss my friend. And I do think that love works in more than one fashion, and if we can’t BE together, there’s no reason I can’t still love this person and put him into the role of a friend. We were friends before we got together, and I was hurt deeply when I realized that I don’t think it even occurred to him to keep our friendship as a priority when everything went to hell.
So, I had deleted my old snapchat anyway because it wouldn’t let me verify my current phone and email address, so I created a new one. With the old one, we both sort of played the ‘block/unblock’ game. He blocked my fb so I blocked his snapchat. Then I unblocked him later but never contacted him, I searched his name later and saw he’d blocked me. It was a big mess of fear and ridiculousness, but it never seemed to be that he was avoiding me because I was hated or annoying him or anything like that. I work very hard to not make those mistakes with him because I did make them in prior relationships and I was smarter when I met him. But there’s a show that Netflix was releasing this month that he was excited about, so upon adding everyone else to my new snapchat I sent him two snaps, one that said ‘I have a question’ and the other one I asked what he thought of the show. Very playful, very fun and light.
He hasn’t opened them yet… and it’s been all night- but he doesn’t really use social media that much anyway, and he’s busy in his life as well I know. I guess I’m just curious if I’m expending effort for a broken cause or not. I want my friend back, and I want us to go to the grave being at the very lease very deeply connected friends, but I also don’t want to fall into a waste of time trap I suppose.
EBR Team Member: Amor
March 30, 2017 at 7:09 pm
You already reached out and tried to open the door, that’s good.. if he doesn’t respond, let him be and let go.. at least you know you tried..
Opal Paris
March 28, 2017 at 3:06 pm
I just broke up with my ex last Friday night . We stay together but that night we planned to find the solutions to fix the problems about I always talked bad about the past while I was drunk to him. So during a week before we still loved each other but that Friday 24 march everything changing completely. I planned to talk nice with him I organized to make nice dinner together and discuss quietly for find solutions but after he came back from works. He start to say that he really want to Iive alone and i start emotional crying like crazy. Afterward he can’t patients for this he started pack all my stuffs and called his friends called my friend to pick up my stuff. I don’t understand then he took my room keys out and took me to my friend car put al my stuffs. After he full out blocked me even we said we still love each other . Well what should I do I still loved him a lot I can’t contact him anyway. We were stayed together for 9 months
EBR Team Member: Amor
March 29, 2017 at 11:30 am
Hi Opal,
Find new place to stay and start a no contact rule of at least 45 days.
Samantha
March 25, 2017 at 9:29 pm
I called him 14 times while I didnt know he was hanging with his friend. He said he would block me so I went over to his place unannounced. He was super mad and called me crazy. He full out blocked me. Did I ruin my chances of him ever thinking im not crazy, or him ever unblocking me, or ever talking to me again, or of also with getting him back?
EBR Team Member: Amor
March 26, 2017 at 2:14 pm
Hi Samantha,
its not yet too late to change and improve in no contact period..