What To Do If Your Ex Boyfriend Blocks You On (The Phone, Facebook, WhatsApp, Etc)

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Anonymous

October 28, 2021 at 7:30 am

We were in a textationship for a year over Covid. Two months ago I put my cards on the table to see where we were at because I wanted to start dating again and felt I had developed feelings for him. If he didn’t feel that way, then now would be a good time to move on without hurting too much.

He didn’t even acknowledge my message and gave me silent treatment for 4 weeks! Just two weeks before he was planning taking me for lunch for the first time. I then discovered innocently from a common acquaintance that he had another woman. I politely told him I am up to speed with the gossip and he suddenly replied saying he doesn’t know what I mean but also he doesn’t feel the same way and didn’t think he led me on. I thanked him for letting me know but also that I will not comment on the rest. If he didn’t have any feelings for me or was just being friends for a year, he could have responded to my texts on the same day saying he has met someone else or he is not interested! I felt betrayed, disrespect and lied to.

24 hours later I politely told him that his behaviour was not acceptable, he could have communicated he was seeing someone else instead of going silent and defensive and he can do better. This made him angry, more defensive and he said things to hurt me. I didn’t want to fight or argue on facts or hurt him and valued my peace. I said I will leave it here. Deleted. I got blocked. He staged his first accidental bumping into me the next morning at the gym with her and was clearly upset. I decided to ignore. It’s week 4 of NC. During this period he has staged accidentally bumping into me quite a few times but has not approached me to speak to me. Just staring from distance. I have ignored him.

I have been focussing on me. I am sad and there has been a lot of crying but I know I deserve better. I have my closure and I don’t feel the need to speak with him. Just need to move past the feeling of grief and betrayal. I don’t know if I can trust him ever again.
marcia

September 12, 2021 at 11:18 pm

Dear_Chris,_Dear_Shaunna,

I_hope_you_will_excuse_my_lack_of_spaces_on_my_broken_pc…!

I_am_fully_unblocked_for_many_months_now.
Ocassionally,_every_3_months_I_suddenly_send_him_a_message,
asking_him_random,_neutral_things.
He_replies_soon_in_a_casual_manner,_then_drops_off.
Do_you_think_he_has_forgotten_all_our_romantic_moments_from_3_years_ago?!

EBR Team Member: Shaunna

September 13, 2021 at 7:36 pm

Hi Marcia, I wouldn’t say he has forgotten however if you drop in every few months then you are not in touch enough to work on building rapport with him. I suggest that you keep reaching out and building up conversation quality

Maddy

September 2, 2021 at 2:57 am

My boyfriend and I had gotten engaged and planned to move for his job and had the world, rarely fought and were very happy. One week later on a date we had a small confrontation about him making plans during time he committed ro me. He went silent then said “I know you’re the one deep down, but it isn’t working, this is me officially breaking it off, don’t contact me and I won’t contact you.” And just left me in shambles. Haven’t heard from him since, he blocked me on everything. His parents are very involved and persuasive with him, however I have no clue where I went from his future wife to someone he never wants to speak with again. Mentally I’ve accepted it but physically I cannot eat, get rid of my tremor, or sit in silence. I’m truly struggling. I still see him as the man I want to marry, not quite now, but I don’t see anyone else coming close to him as an individual and the amazing dynamic we had. What does this all mean and what do I do next?
Sara

August 7, 2021 at 1:06 pm

I was involved with a guy for several years. The last seven months of it he had blocked his Facebook posts to me. So he didnt block me on Facebook, so I could still see the things he got tagged in or if he changed his profile picture and his story but I couldn’t see his Facebook posts. I did say to him why cant I see your Facebook posts? But he made up excuses until July came and I realised its cos he had blocked his posts from me. I could still contact him on his phone and I saw him everyday….

So whist we were involved he had done this, blocked his Facebook posts…he had said in dec or January that I was obsessed with him so maybe that is why he did it. Or he might have been angry about an argument…I dont know the reason. Those are my best guesses. It really hurt me.
Nancy

August 2, 2021 at 5:28 am

I’d like to ask. How if you ex blocks you off his number but before he blocks you he gives you a new number and tells you he is not using the number anymore. Then you find out he still using it but just blocked you and now keeps contact with you on the new number? My first taught is that he has some other woman and she probably giving him an ultimatum.
Jahruly

July 9, 2021 at 3:02 am

Hey I had my first boyfriend and it was our first-month anniversary and thing went a little downhill when I would text him and the tone of the text is not how it used to be so I stopped texting him letting him cool and he was still reaching out so I ended up texting him, it was okay for a few then the energy I would get from him made me stopped texting him so he said ¨its crazy how we don’t talk nomore¨ little did he know I wanted to text him so badly but I let him be him for a few then he just blocked me on snap which we use to communicate and it been 2 almost 3 months with the NC rule but I just started back reaching out to his best friend
Deek

June 28, 2021 at 7:31 am

I had a relationship of 8 years. Recently my boyfriend broke up with me for another girl. From last 3-4 months I was constantly asking him if U are in any other relationship…Is there any other girl…he constantly said no…two months ago he asked me to tell my mother that I have a boyfriend and we want to marry…but suddenly few days back he said I want to break up…I have someone else in my life and I cheated on you….I tried to convince him not to break up…we can sort things out….I know that mistake his from his side…but I love him so much that I can’t affird to lose him…Our relationship was long distance….we were tigether for 8 years…now he blocked me from every place possible except from one place…He had 2 mobile phones…he blocked me from one but not from another….I dont know why I am not able to hate him after what he did to me…I just want him back in my life….I love him so much….I am tired of crying now…if will ne like this only…i am sure i will get in depression soon….I am shattered right now…not knowing what to do…Please help me get him back if possible…
Sally

May 10, 2021 at 10:20 pm

My ex blocked me on anything – full block. Its been 3 months since we broke up and I went full crazy and gnatted and begged for 3 months so he blocked me 2 weeks ago. But he explained to my best friend that he only did it because it hurts to much to be tempted to talk to me and see me on social media beacause his feelings are not lost and he is trying to move on, he will unblock me when he feels better about this breakup. And he did not do it to hurt me and that he finds it super hard to block me but the best thing to do for borh of us. So do my situation look terrible or do I have a chance to get him back?

EBR Team Member: Shaunna

May 23, 2021 at 8:07 pm

Hi Sally, it is super important now that you do not ask your best friend to speak to him about you the break up or getting back together again. You need to make sure that you stick with a NC for at least 45 days, even if he unblocks you. Work on yourself in that time as he needs to get the impression that you are moving on with your life.

Carmelita

April 27, 2021 at 7:05 am

Good stuff. This blocking stuff is the worst. I’m 50 so stuff like this wasn’t around back in my day after a breakup. You just sulked and sucked it up and hoped you eventos would get a call. My pride was always too high to test drive it and call first, unless I was madly in love. But I gotta hand it to you, a lot of what you wrote about has so much truth to it. I was completely blocked and within 24 hours he unblocked and texted me. I went to drop off his belongings, he wouldn’t answer the door so I left. Hours later he texted and said to not show up at his door, stop texting or calling (which was strange cause I was blocked so how did he know I was calling or texting)? Nevertheless, he called and I answered and said dude I was just trying to return your stuff. Some of it was expensive and I thought you’d want it back. His comments went from throw it away, to come over right now I want to see you!!! I almost went but chickened out! The breakup was harsh and my little heart was wounded. Needless to say, you are spot on about the make species, their logic is replaced with anger, rage, sucked up egos, and nasty hurtful words. When in reality he probably does love me but can’t express it thru his raging fits of immaturity. So there is lots of truth in this article. I’m glad I read. Although i read most it and I just now finished it and feel like an idiot on the part where you wrote about Don’t confront him lmao! Oops I should of finished reading the entire article before I went to his place. Luckily he didn’t answer!!! Long story short we really are wired differently men and women. When I go to heaven I will ask God why in a very loving polite way! Thank you for being so brutally honest, great with your examples and stories and mostly for taking the time to educate us women on understanding you men!!! We have a lot of work ahead of us before we get it completely lol. Best regards, Carmelita
Xanthia White

April 25, 2021 at 4:19 pm

My ex boyfriend has just randomly blocked me on Facebook & WhatsApp. We had a long distance relationship for 3 years and really split up due to his lack of communication and I felt he didn’t love me. I never stopped loving him but just got on with my own life. After a couple of months later we were amicable and remained friends often checking up on each other every 2-3 months. The last time we messaged was over 5 days. The lead up to the new year and both wished each other a Happy New Year at 12am on the night. We had lovely conversations

I haven’t contacted him since, only because I don’t want to give myself false hope and I thought if he still cared he would make the effort. I put a nice comment on a new profile picture a couple of months ago and he responded with a lovely comment.

Last night I went to message him to see how he was doing as I hadn’t heard for over 4 months and I’ve discovered he’s blocked me completely.

Why would he do that all of a sudden without any explanation? I feel so hurt and sad.
Puja

April 22, 2021 at 12:55 pm

Helloooo, my boyfriend and I have been together for a year and a half now. We’ve been broken up previously and gotten back together. He is so angry at me for what I have done. During our break(in Jan), I approached his ex best friend to see he can talk to him about me and I said some things, where he thought I tried to break his friendship with his friends, but that was not the case at all. He has been angry at me for a week and a half now. He has blocked me on whatsapp, texting and calling, but unblocked on Facebook, instagram and iMessage. I have tried to talk to him regarding the situation and where he is claiming that what I did is worse than what he did(slept with another girl, during the break). He keeps saying that we will never get back together and can never trust me again. What is my next step?

EBR Team Member: Shaunna

April 22, 2021 at 4:47 pm

Hi Puja so your first step is completing a 45 day no contact.

Safa

April 9, 2021 at 10:49 pm

If he won’t unblock me after 2 months of NC, then what should I do (we have mutual friends )

EBR Team Member: Shaunna

April 10, 2021 at 5:15 pm

Hi Safa, then you have to continue to work on yourself and know that the better you are doing the more likely your mutual friends are going to mention the positives to your ex.

Anonymous

April 9, 2021 at 10:42 pm

Hi, i met this guy at work and liked each other. But couldn’t be in relation. It has been a year and it was on and off but not a relationship. So last time 3 months ago i wished him good luck and told him i will be seeing a guy to which he asked if we could be friends but i said no but conversation ended well. He moved to another country and when i checked his whatsapp he was deleted(he is already not on social media except he uses messenger) so after a month he texted me on messenger. I couldn’t talk that time so decided to reply later. But i was blocked when i tried to reply. I dont have his new number since he never shared or texted before leaving the country and im blocked on messenger aswell. This is very confusing since i have no clue what is going on is his mind and what should i do about it.
Tabitha

April 1, 2021 at 12:44 pm

He blocked me on WhatsApp and Instagram 2 days after our row. 9 days later he unblocked me on Instagram (I didn’t reach out and neither did he) but he set his profile to public immediately after he unblocked me.. 4 days after he unblocked me I was having drinks with a mutual friend who put me on her story fooling around dancing (as normal) and he replied to her story saying “you two crack me up ”… he watched all of her stories that night immediately after she posted them.

I still remain blocked on WhatsApp. I decided that I didn’t think it was okay/right for him to have access to me on Instagram as my profile is always public due to work and I didn’t understand why not only did he unblock me, but he also made his profile public and then replied to one of my best friends stories featuring me.. so I blocked him on Instagram.. I’ve not unblocked him yet and I don’t think I will. He still has me blocked on WhatsApp.

What should I do? Maintain NC? I will have to physically see him soon due to work, what should I do there?

EBR Team Member: Shaunna

April 21, 2021 at 9:19 pm

Hi Tabitha so we do not recommend blocking them if you want them back – but of course it is your choice to do so. In work you need to follow the limited no contact rules where you would only speak to him during working hours when you NEED to and that should only be business topics too. So if he is the person who you have to speak to then speak politely and calmly, but if you can avoid it. Do so.

Rose Gordon

March 31, 2021 at 11:43 am

Brilliant
Livvy

March 30, 2021 at 4:04 pm

Me and my boyfriend have just broken up two days ago. The fight started because I asked him if I wasn’t being attentive enough in our relationship ( I’m a Lpn working a full time job and I’m also finishing up a college degree to become a registered nurse). I was trying to open up dialogue between us to see if he was still happy in our relationship. When we finally spoke on the phone he experienced being furious with me for always needing reassurance that I wanted to be with him. He then preceded to tell me about all the things I’ve don’t wrong in the relationship like not always showing up on time hang out at his house, he also said that I don’t tell him my daily schedule until the day of and that he doesn’t really trust me because sometimes my energy changes or is off. He explained how he tells me every detail of his day and I don’t always give every detail of my day so therefore his trust is rocky with me. He’s also has expressed a lot of trust issues he’s had from previous ex’s cheating on him. I’ve never stepped out of our relationship, I tell him everything I do In a day and is always honest with him. He expressed how hard he’s trying to deal with me and how hard I’m making it for him to love me ( which hurt a lot because this isn’t the first time he’s made me feel really difficult to deal with). By the end of the night he could tell I was upset with the conversation we had earlier in the day and ask “ do you wanna break up? Yes or no. It’s a yes or no question. I bet you think your too stressful to my life and think you’d be better off on your own”. ( it was weird that he said that, almost like he heard it before). Now I had been thinking about it because again this wasn’t the first time I tried being vulnerable and open with him about my feelings and got awful backlash for it. It’d be times where he would make a hurtful joke where I would get offended. I would tell him that really hurt my feelings and he would then turn around and get mad at me for being upset about what he said. So when he asked I said I wasn’t sure. To which he replied yes you do, you are sure! He called me and said it again but in a very pushy and angry way. I was so upset and i hung up on him. At that point i sent him a break up text. he responded with wow that was so easy for you, I thought you’d be different. And then blocked me on my phone and Instagram. I’m not sure if I even want him back. He really made me feel untrustworthy and difficult and like a constant fuck up but I just want some closure since I know I more than likely won’t get it from him. Please help
Alexia

March 19, 2021 at 5:29 pm

Hi ,my boyfriend broke up with me ,it all started the 13/2 just before Valentine’s Day he got upset and then I got angry but on the 14/2 he posted me and wrote lovely status but I was still angry I didn’t post him ,things that made him upset and he said I embarrassed his love,he kept silent for a week I was used to that each time we got into an argument,so I thought it’s the same situation it was later on when he said he knew I was in contact with my ex ,so he tought I was cheating on him ,I did apologize for everything but he said he can no longer be in polygamy relationship that he broke up with me and it’s over,while asking for he isn’t forgiveness he mentioned that just because I was his first love he could still be normal friend with me,but I insisted and that annoyed him it got him blocked me, after that i tried to reach out trough his friend,and I even asked my brother to talk to him but he ignored him .and he said he is in a relationship with his soulmate now.what do I do?

EBR Team Member: Shaunna

April 8, 2021 at 9:31 pm

Hi Alexia, so you need to start your NC for 45 days as you got blocked. Start working on yourself in that time and reach out after 45 days with a text that Chris suggests in his articles and videos.

mya

March 18, 2021 at 5:04 pm

i broke up with my ex a week ago and it is our 4th time of breaking up. he said that we won’t get back with each other this time and eventhough I’ve heard that word a couple times before during our previous breakups, im still scared that this will be our last relationship. you see, i never left him. each time he left is was never my fault. it’ll be either he wanted to enjoy his young life / he’s tired of relationships / he this and that. and i know very well that this man loves me very much as this is his first serious relationship. I know that he has broken my heart a lot of times but I don’t know why I still think that he’s the one for me. I still know that he can change. maybe it’s my fault that I let him be too comfortable in our relationship which means everytime he left, ill be the one who will chase him like crazy. but this time, I’m tired. i don’t have the energy to that again and again each time we break up. I’m now doing the nc rule and idk if it will work out. I love him very much and I really want him to see my value. I want him to never leave me again but I don’t know what to do
Melissa

March 12, 2021 at 6:11 am

Going great with a guy, talked 4 hours on the phone planned the next days date, even messaged at 3am saying he couldnt sleep he was thinking about me. 7am i get a message saying he is sorry, he isnt ready, he will leave my alone i replied but he had already blocked me. Ehat did i do that was so wrong?

EBR Team Member: Shaunna

April 3, 2021 at 7:58 pm

Hi Melissa it doesn’t sound as if you did anything wrong, I would suggest that you just take it on the chin and move on.

Sazzy

February 1, 2021 at 1:38 pm

We broke up a week before Christmas and have had no contact since..he blocked me on WhatsApp 12 days ago…i reached out to my ex after 40 days no contact. It was totally the wrong message..it was an emotional message about missing him and wishing the was here..due to my dad being in hospital with covid. I got a txt back saying he would be here in the back ground for them tho.and the break up my fault..he unblocked me on WhatsApp ( which is our main thing we use) but said If I talk about the past he would remove me .Now I’m not sure what to do..do I go into no contact again as I got such a negative response?

EBR Team Member: Shaunna

February 4, 2021 at 5:32 pm

So as you broke the reach out type text, you need to re do the no contact, this time make sure that you stick with the program

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