What To Do If Your Ex Boyfriend Blocks You On (The Phone, Facebook, WhatsApp, Etc)

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Deek

June 28, 2021 at 7:31 am

I had a relationship of 8 years. Recently my boyfriend broke up with me for another girl. From last 3-4 months I was constantly asking him if U are in any other relationship…Is there any other girl…he constantly said no…two months ago he asked me to tell my mother that I have a boyfriend and we want to marry…but suddenly few days back he said I want to break up…I have someone else in my life and I cheated on you….I tried to convince him not to break up…we can sort things out….I know that mistake his from his side…but I love him so much that I can’t affird to lose him…Our relationship was long distance….we were tigether for 8 years…now he blocked me from every place possible except from one place…He had 2 mobile phones…he blocked me from one but not from another….I dont know why I am not able to hate him after what he did to me…I just want him back in my life….I love him so much….I am tired of crying now…if will ne like this only…i am sure i will get in depression soon….I am shattered right now…not knowing what to do…Please help me get him back if possible…
Sally

May 10, 2021 at 10:20 pm

My ex blocked me on anything – full block. Its been 3 months since we broke up and I went full crazy and gnatted and begged for 3 months so he blocked me 2 weeks ago. But he explained to my best friend that he only did it because it hurts to much to be tempted to talk to me and see me on social media beacause his feelings are not lost and he is trying to move on, he will unblock me when he feels better about this breakup. And he did not do it to hurt me and that he finds it super hard to block me but the best thing to do for borh of us. So do my situation look terrible or do I have a chance to get him back?

EBR Team Member: Shaunna

May 23, 2021 at 8:07 pm

Hi Sally, it is super important now that you do not ask your best friend to speak to him about you the break up or getting back together again. You need to make sure that you stick with a NC for at least 45 days, even if he unblocks you. Work on yourself in that time as he needs to get the impression that you are moving on with your life.

Carmelita

April 27, 2021 at 7:05 am

Good stuff. This blocking stuff is the worst. I’m 50 so stuff like this wasn’t around back in my day after a breakup. You just sulked and sucked it up and hoped you eventos would get a call. My pride was always too high to test drive it and call first, unless I was madly in love. But I gotta hand it to you, a lot of what you wrote about has so much truth to it. I was completely blocked and within 24 hours he unblocked and texted me. I went to drop off his belongings, he wouldn’t answer the door so I left. Hours later he texted and said to not show up at his door, stop texting or calling (which was strange cause I was blocked so how did he know I was calling or texting)? Nevertheless, he called and I answered and said dude I was just trying to return your stuff. Some of it was expensive and I thought you’d want it back. His comments went from throw it away, to come over right now I want to see you!!! I almost went but chickened out! The breakup was harsh and my little heart was wounded. Needless to say, you are spot on about the make species, their logic is replaced with anger, rage, sucked up egos, and nasty hurtful words. When in reality he probably does love me but can’t express it thru his raging fits of immaturity. So there is lots of truth in this article. I’m glad I read. Although i read most it and I just now finished it and feel like an idiot on the part where you wrote about Don’t confront him lmao! Oops I should of finished reading the entire article before I went to his place. Luckily he didn’t answer!!! Long story short we really are wired differently men and women. When I go to heaven I will ask God why in a very loving polite way! Thank you for being so brutally honest, great with your examples and stories and mostly for taking the time to educate us women on understanding you men!!! We have a lot of work ahead of us before we get it completely lol. Best regards, Carmelita
Xanthia White

April 25, 2021 at 4:19 pm

My ex boyfriend has just randomly blocked me on Facebook & WhatsApp. We had a long distance relationship for 3 years and really split up due to his lack of communication and I felt he didn’t love me. I never stopped loving him but just got on with my own life. After a couple of months later we were amicable and remained friends often checking up on each other every 2-3 months. The last time we messaged was over 5 days. The lead up to the new year and both wished each other a Happy New Year at 12am on the night. We had lovely conversations

I haven’t contacted him since, only because I don’t want to give myself false hope and I thought if he still cared he would make the effort. I put a nice comment on a new profile picture a couple of months ago and he responded with a lovely comment.

Last night I went to message him to see how he was doing as I hadn’t heard for over 4 months and I’ve discovered he’s blocked me completely.

Why would he do that all of a sudden without any explanation? I feel so hurt and sad.
Puja

April 22, 2021 at 12:55 pm

Helloooo, my boyfriend and I have been together for a year and a half now. We’ve been broken up previously and gotten back together. He is so angry at me for what I have done. During our break(in Jan), I approached his ex best friend to see he can talk to him about me and I said some things, where he thought I tried to break his friendship with his friends, but that was not the case at all. He has been angry at me for a week and a half now. He has blocked me on whatsapp, texting and calling, but unblocked on Facebook, instagram and iMessage. I have tried to talk to him regarding the situation and where he is claiming that what I did is worse than what he did(slept with another girl, during the break). He keeps saying that we will never get back together and can never trust me again. What is my next step?

EBR Team Member: Shaunna

April 22, 2021 at 4:47 pm

Hi Puja so your first step is completing a 45 day no contact.

Safa

April 9, 2021 at 10:49 pm

If he won’t unblock me after 2 months of NC, then what should I do (we have mutual friends )

EBR Team Member: Shaunna

April 10, 2021 at 5:15 pm

Hi Safa, then you have to continue to work on yourself and know that the better you are doing the more likely your mutual friends are going to mention the positives to your ex.

Anonymous

April 9, 2021 at 10:42 pm

Hi, i met this guy at work and liked each other. But couldn’t be in relation. It has been a year and it was on and off but not a relationship. So last time 3 months ago i wished him good luck and told him i will be seeing a guy to which he asked if we could be friends but i said no but conversation ended well. He moved to another country and when i checked his whatsapp he was deleted(he is already not on social media except he uses messenger) so after a month he texted me on messenger. I couldn’t talk that time so decided to reply later. But i was blocked when i tried to reply. I dont have his new number since he never shared or texted before leaving the country and im blocked on messenger aswell. This is very confusing since i have no clue what is going on is his mind and what should i do about it.
Tabitha

April 1, 2021 at 12:44 pm

He blocked me on WhatsApp and Instagram 2 days after our row. 9 days later he unblocked me on Instagram (I didn’t reach out and neither did he) but he set his profile to public immediately after he unblocked me.. 4 days after he unblocked me I was having drinks with a mutual friend who put me on her story fooling around dancing (as normal) and he replied to her story saying “you two crack me up ”… he watched all of her stories that night immediately after she posted them.

I still remain blocked on WhatsApp. I decided that I didn’t think it was okay/right for him to have access to me on Instagram as my profile is always public due to work and I didn’t understand why not only did he unblock me, but he also made his profile public and then replied to one of my best friends stories featuring me.. so I blocked him on Instagram.. I’ve not unblocked him yet and I don’t think I will. He still has me blocked on WhatsApp.

What should I do? Maintain NC? I will have to physically see him soon due to work, what should I do there?

EBR Team Member: Shaunna

April 21, 2021 at 9:19 pm

Hi Tabitha so we do not recommend blocking them if you want them back – but of course it is your choice to do so. In work you need to follow the limited no contact rules where you would only speak to him during working hours when you NEED to and that should only be business topics too. So if he is the person who you have to speak to then speak politely and calmly, but if you can avoid it. Do so.

Rose Gordon

March 31, 2021 at 11:43 am

Brilliant
Livvy

March 30, 2021 at 4:04 pm

Me and my boyfriend have just broken up two days ago. The fight started because I asked him if I wasn’t being attentive enough in our relationship ( I’m a Lpn working a full time job and I’m also finishing up a college degree to become a registered nurse). I was trying to open up dialogue between us to see if he was still happy in our relationship. When we finally spoke on the phone he experienced being furious with me for always needing reassurance that I wanted to be with him. He then preceded to tell me about all the things I’ve don’t wrong in the relationship like not always showing up on time hang out at his house, he also said that I don’t tell him my daily schedule until the day of and that he doesn’t really trust me because sometimes my energy changes or is off. He explained how he tells me every detail of his day and I don’t always give every detail of my day so therefore his trust is rocky with me. He’s also has expressed a lot of trust issues he’s had from previous ex’s cheating on him. I’ve never stepped out of our relationship, I tell him everything I do In a day and is always honest with him. He expressed how hard he’s trying to deal with me and how hard I’m making it for him to love me ( which hurt a lot because this isn’t the first time he’s made me feel really difficult to deal with). By the end of the night he could tell I was upset with the conversation we had earlier in the day and ask “ do you wanna break up? Yes or no. It’s a yes or no question. I bet you think your too stressful to my life and think you’d be better off on your own”. ( it was weird that he said that, almost like he heard it before). Now I had been thinking about it because again this wasn’t the first time I tried being vulnerable and open with him about my feelings and got awful backlash for it. It’d be times where he would make a hurtful joke where I would get offended. I would tell him that really hurt my feelings and he would then turn around and get mad at me for being upset about what he said. So when he asked I said I wasn’t sure. To which he replied yes you do, you are sure! He called me and said it again but in a very pushy and angry way. I was so upset and i hung up on him. At that point i sent him a break up text. he responded with wow that was so easy for you, I thought you’d be different. And then blocked me on my phone and Instagram. I’m not sure if I even want him back. He really made me feel untrustworthy and difficult and like a constant fuck up but I just want some closure since I know I more than likely won’t get it from him. Please help
Alexia

March 19, 2021 at 5:29 pm

Hi ,my boyfriend broke up with me ,it all started the 13/2 just before Valentine’s Day he got upset and then I got angry but on the 14/2 he posted me and wrote lovely status but I was still angry I didn’t post him ,things that made him upset and he said I embarrassed his love,he kept silent for a week I was used to that each time we got into an argument,so I thought it’s the same situation it was later on when he said he knew I was in contact with my ex ,so he tought I was cheating on him ,I did apologize for everything but he said he can no longer be in polygamy relationship that he broke up with me and it’s over,while asking for he isn’t forgiveness he mentioned that just because I was his first love he could still be normal friend with me,but I insisted and that annoyed him it got him blocked me, after that i tried to reach out trough his friend,and I even asked my brother to talk to him but he ignored him .and he said he is in a relationship with his soulmate now.what do I do?

EBR Team Member: Shaunna

April 8, 2021 at 9:31 pm

Hi Alexia, so you need to start your NC for 45 days as you got blocked. Start working on yourself in that time and reach out after 45 days with a text that Chris suggests in his articles and videos.

mya

March 18, 2021 at 5:04 pm

i broke up with my ex a week ago and it is our 4th time of breaking up. he said that we won’t get back with each other this time and eventhough I’ve heard that word a couple times before during our previous breakups, im still scared that this will be our last relationship. you see, i never left him. each time he left is was never my fault. it’ll be either he wanted to enjoy his young life / he’s tired of relationships / he this and that. and i know very well that this man loves me very much as this is his first serious relationship. I know that he has broken my heart a lot of times but I don’t know why I still think that he’s the one for me. I still know that he can change. maybe it’s my fault that I let him be too comfortable in our relationship which means everytime he left, ill be the one who will chase him like crazy. but this time, I’m tired. i don’t have the energy to that again and again each time we break up. I’m now doing the nc rule and idk if it will work out. I love him very much and I really want him to see my value. I want him to never leave me again but I don’t know what to do
Melissa

March 12, 2021 at 6:11 am

Going great with a guy, talked 4 hours on the phone planned the next days date, even messaged at 3am saying he couldnt sleep he was thinking about me. 7am i get a message saying he is sorry, he isnt ready, he will leave my alone i replied but he had already blocked me. Ehat did i do that was so wrong?

EBR Team Member: Shaunna

April 3, 2021 at 7:58 pm

Hi Melissa it doesn’t sound as if you did anything wrong, I would suggest that you just take it on the chin and move on.

Sazzy

February 1, 2021 at 1:38 pm

We broke up a week before Christmas and have had no contact since..he blocked me on WhatsApp 12 days ago…i reached out to my ex after 40 days no contact. It was totally the wrong message..it was an emotional message about missing him and wishing the was here..due to my dad being in hospital with covid. I got a txt back saying he would be here in the back ground for them tho.and the break up my fault..he unblocked me on WhatsApp ( which is our main thing we use) but said If I talk about the past he would remove me .Now I’m not sure what to do..do I go into no contact again as I got such a negative response?

EBR Team Member: Shaunna

February 4, 2021 at 5:32 pm

So as you broke the reach out type text, you need to re do the no contact, this time make sure that you stick with the program

Erika

January 17, 2021 at 10:36 am

Hello,
I met a guy like 3 months ago. He was obsessed with me, but not to much. He worked a lot to get my attention and my heart. I felt really good because i had a lot of relationships which ended so fast, it didn’t take long like 2-3 weeks…
We were so good in the relationship, both of us taught that this will last long. But that sad true is that this love started to fade away, because of quarantine. We didn’t saw each other for 2 months and that broke both of us. But now the school starts again, and we have chance to be together again. But the problem is that bot of us argued a lot, we were jealous a little bit, i taught this is normal. I was like “im gonna stay patient, we will met again and everything will be fine”. He blocked me. We were talking on the Instagram, and he blocked both of mine accounts, but before that happened, he was very upset on me, he said he is depressed and wanted me to stop talking to him. This broke me into million pieces. This happened 2 days ago. I was very sad because the one who i love the most was very broken, lost…

The truth is why I belive we should be together is because both of us helped each other in some way. I was depressed, i smoked a lot, but he tried to make me feel better, and told me to stop smoking bcz I have many health problems. I felt really special, and stopped smoking and being depressed.

I really want to make things work again, and Im fully ready to do anything what I can. I don’t want to lose this love.

EBR Team Member: Shaunna

January 18, 2021 at 9:50 pm

Hi Erika, I think when you get to go back to school showing him how great you are doing and when he gets to have his social life back again that there may be a chance to work things out, for not follow the no contact rule for 45 days and keep focusing on yourself.

Sars

January 16, 2021 at 7:37 am

My boyfriend of 9 years spilt a week before Christmas.The argument was totally my fault,I’ve been under a lot of pressure as my mum is very sick and blew up and took it out on him.I apologized and asked him not to let it ruine Christmas..but he told me he was out of the relationship and leave him alone. I went straight into NC ..we have split up before and got back together and I have been blocked before and unblocked. I am now on day 26 of NC. I feel we had both been WhatsApp stalking each other this week- this is our main way to communicate. I wasn’t on WhatsApp last night at all. This morning I am blocked…I wonder if it’s to get a reaction of of me or he has decided we will never get back together? I see he has accessed my Sky account to watch TV last night too. He knows blocking me on WhatsApp will hurt me. Now I do not know what to do as I was going to finish my NC next week. But I feel now this is too soon as he obv blocked me in an emotional state.Do I go to 45 days? Or start again? Thanks

EBR Team Member: Shaunna

February 4, 2021 at 7:10 pm

Hi Sars, extend your No Contact to 45 days, keep working on yourself in this time.

marcia

January 14, 2021 at 2:29 am

Dear Chris, dear Shaunna, Happy and Healthy New Year!! And finally covid-free for the world, let’s hope !!!

3 months ago my ex unblocked me, but I did NC, and never messaged him. Then, I saw something on the web which would interest him. So I messaged him with an amusing question. I wasn’t expecting a reply, as my message was (as usual) sent, but not delivered. So I guessed, he still has me on ”message-ignore”, like always, for the last 2 years or so.

Suddenly, he replies next day, which proves, he could read ALL my messages, despite having them ”ignored”. So we started an easy-going conversation, which HE kept going for over an hour! I didn’t ask him anything important (nor did he). It was just light chit-chat. He stopped replying after an hour, and while I was also quite bored to keep our talk going. No romantic feelings emerged whatsoever, within the hour. Obviously, he knows that I know that I was blocked. But nobody dared to mention that subject….

Now I plan to do again NC for at least a month or two! Like you so wisely said, they only come alive if you decide you don’t need them! I know this is no great success. However I feel I won a tiny victory. I was surprised he replied and kept talking. After an outrageously rude interval of 8 months having me blocked, and never replying to anything.

Now what next? Since he doesn’t move any faster than a turtle, I don’t expect any progress. I guess a harmless way would be to contact him again in 2 months with another friendly message, just to test the waters 🙂
Amy

January 10, 2021 at 3:34 pm

Met a guy years ago in college. He treated me like what I’d consider a boyfriend (i.e., ran errands for me, always hugged, kissed my forehead and cheek, hold my waist, get jealous of other guys around me, compliment me, tell me things he didn’t tell others about his anxieties and insecurities like his dad cheating on his mom, etc).He then said that’s what a good friend does when I told him I liked him. I told him we should no longer be friends he said he didn’t think it was so serious we couldn’t stay friends.

Whenever I would message him sometimes he’d respond and seem so excited and keep the convo going. But then other times he’d ignore me and not read my messages. When this kept happening I deleted him from my FB. He was upset with me and said I should not do it again. When the cycle continued I did it again and told him good friends don’t ignore each other. I tried adding him again later but he ignored my requests.

I got therapy for my issues. Thinking all was well, years later, I apologized to him, thinking I really hurt him and wanted to right my wrongs. He never acknowledged my apology but marked it as read so I know he saw it.

After some time, I added him again and he accepted my request. We had brief interactions before he once again stopped responding even though he looked at my messages right away.

Not wanting to repeat past behavior I sent this n he blocked: “I noticed communication has ended, but I know life gets busy/stressful and that not everyone is looking to stay in touch with past friends. I’m okay with that and I’m not upset; sometimes things don’t work out. I just want you to know I think really highly of you and appreciated our brief interactions. I just want to wish you all the best and hope we can leave our interaction remaining on good terms. Have a safe and happy New Year!” Did I do something wrong?

EBR Team Member: Shaunna

January 11, 2021 at 6:25 pm

Hi Amy, while I know you meant well with your message, I think he would have been reminded of the past of you getting upset when he did not answer you etc, and instead of thinking that you have grown he now sees that you are still emotional and needy. You need to avoid contacting this person again, unless you are trying to get a relationship from him, which you need to follow the no contact period for 45 days and then attempt to reach out.

verge

January 6, 2021 at 2:30 pm

My first BF left me, I found him dishonest, I was not able to celebrate with him our first monthsary, I thought as what he said he was busy with his business to find out he had a girlfriend already, I was too mad, sending him harsh and threating words that if he will not see me in person, I can do something against him..then he said yes and at the end he still blocked me, he blocked me in messenger but friends in FB, still there is a chance he will gonna see me in person as what he promised? Thanks

EBR Team Member: Shaunna

January 6, 2021 at 8:24 pm

Hi Verge, honestly I would suggest that you move on, this is not healthy or good relationship and you mention it being a month? It really isnt worth your time when he was already in a relationship with someone else.

ZR

January 3, 2021 at 4:55 pm

Hello,

I was dating my bf for a few months and he broke up with me, two weeks later he came back and we met only once. It was November lockdown so we kept in touch but I felt like I was putting in alot of effort, he always had excuses on why he would go silent. Anyways, yesterday I asked why he is always hot and cold with me, then he messaged me another excuse and before I could respond he blocked me on WhatsApp and his phone. I messaged him from my mums phone and he said ‘ please stop’ so I did. But 20 minutes later he message my phone and said I’ll call you tomorrow xx. Then I responded but he didnt call me and tbh I dont know why he messaged me with hope. So weird.

EBR Team Member: Shaunna

January 15, 2021 at 10:43 pm

Hi ZR, I would say that you are being too available for him to be able to contact (not letting him chase you) I know this is hard when there are lockdowns etc going on but you need to find a way to make him think you are too busy for him. I would suggest that you do not reach out to him for at least 45 days now, and only on your own phone do not use your mothers phone again.

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