What To Do If Your Ex Boyfriend Blocks You On (The Phone, Facebook, WhatsApp, Etc)

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Millie

September 26, 2015 at 7:28 am

My ex boyfriend blocked me on facebook only. I haven’t text him for a while, but last I knew he hadn’t blocked my number. I feel like one day he will eventually unblock me but is that just hopeful thinking? I am hardly even active on the site. Maybe I should become more that way and perhaps his friends will mention something if they see me putting up photos and the like? I doubt it though. I just think he will eventually unblock me in a few years when it is easier for us both to see each other?? I don’t know though and I don’t want to get my hopes up that much. If he never unblocks me then I guess we’ll never be together. I was going to try and get in contact with him via text in a couple of years. He may have changed number and everything by then, but I doubt it. If that is the case, I might try and ask someone to get him to unblock me – is that a good idea? Or will it still seem desperate even if I’m completely over him?
pranali

September 21, 2015 at 2:17 pm

i n my bf was in 10 months of relation. we had a fight n he broke up.. den he blocked me frm everywhere i literally gone mad n i begged he left me so i deleted everything watsapp hike insta everything… he unblocked me on fb after few days wen his frnd advised him to talk to me.. i m undergoing nc rule..he says his frnd dat he dnt wants to b in a relation coz it will hurt me.. as i hav brain problms n get attacks… will he return back…??? i truly need him back plzz chris.. help me dear
Ivy

September 21, 2015 at 2:32 am

Hi Chris,
First, I want to say thank you for giving us such an awesome website, it helps me going through the saddest days in my break up. Even though I still got some questions after reading your site, me and my ex have only been broke up for 4 days, and he is a little different from what you mentioned earlier, firstly he does not have a Facebook, but he does have Snapchat, and I believe he deletes me instead blocking me. Secondly, he and I contacted with his email a lot, so if he really blocks my email address is that still a big deal? Or it just seem as he is blocking me from his another “phone”? Thirdly, the reason I am sure that he blocks me on his mobile is because my brother says he can still contact him till the day that I asked him to go knock on my ex’s door, so I am not sure that is he just blocking me because he is still mad and want to punish me or he really means that he does not want to talk to me ever again? And I just started my second day of NC, but I am just wondering if it’s too late for me to do it? Cause I was being a “psycho ex” when he broke up with me(I didn’t know about NC then) I knocked on his door for like an hour, texting and emailing him a lot and telling him how sorry I am and I learnt from he lesson this time, pleas forgive me. ( when we were dating, I love yelling at him all the time even sometimes I wasn’t really mad, because then he will come comfort me, and I know because he loves me a lot, so I just keeping doing that to kinda “test” how much he loves me, till one day he finally can’t stands it anymore and say he is going to break up with me, and saying he doesn’t like me anymore, even though he just said he loves me couple hours ago before I started to bitching again… I don’t understand did he really mean it when he says he doesn’t like me anymore? even he just said he loves me couple hours before) So is it too late to start NC? (since he does not have any social media accounts lol)
lesley

September 11, 2015 at 9:21 am

me and my ex have been talking for about 2 months and last week he completely stopped responding to my msgs. hes been saying he misses me and would see me once both of us had stopped travelling. he got back in the country Wednesday. he reads my msgs but doesn’t reply but still watches snapchat. why the sudden freeze out?

lesley

September 22, 2015 at 1:11 pm

he txt after a week sayin that he found out id been checking upwhether he was in the country or not on social media and he found out. not heard since

Mia

September 10, 2015 at 8:23 pm

Hi,
my bf was my highschool sweetheart and we were headed towards marriage. just like the rest of his family(they all married their highschool sweethearts. When suddenly he just waant interested anhmore and cut off communications with me we would talk at work but not much outside. He eventually quit work and from there i started the NC July 27 I only have snapchat so thats our only communication. During NC he looked at my published stories and i looked at a few of his. Being that it’s september i decided it was time to initiate communication, only to find out ive been blocked by him.. I’m not sure what to do??? I didnt speak to him once during NC
Janet

September 9, 2015 at 2:12 pm

After breaking up with my boyfriend, he unfriended me on facebook and i was really bitter. So i contacted him on SMS and the quarrel ended when he told me, “So long, have a good life!” And i angry and bitter as i was, i told him “Don’t ever contact me again”! As if the drama was not hot enough, i allowed my mind to wonder about and i kinda knew, he’d continue stalking my facebook profile to see my latest developments. Angry as i was, i decided to hit the “block button” on him.
So he unfriended me, and i blocked him.

He hasn’t spoken to me since then. ( <-3 Weeks) I know the NC rule is good, but I miss him like crazy! Sometimes i am tempted to SMS him and apologise about those nasty things i said because i was too angry. However, i am too proud to write him and tell him i didn't mean any of that. I do not want him to think i am needy at all even though i am the one who told him to stay away from me. I know i acted quite dramatic, but we were best friends before we became lovers, and now, it's come down to HATE! -I feel like i am loosing my sanity!
Laura

September 9, 2015 at 11:16 am

Hey Chris,

Firstly – thank you for creating this site. It is very insightful and several of the articles have made me laugh, because they are so true and explained in a comical way.

If you have the chance I would like your perspective.. since well of course I am here for the same reason everyone else is: I am still hopelessly stuck on my ex boyfriend.

I met and fell hard for a physical therapist at my gym a little less than a year ago. We dated for six months and I have never been happier, however we never formally committed to each other. I guess I thought it was implied and I was taking it slow because I was getting over my previous boyfriend (all his coworkers knew we were dating and his family met me). I didn’t any doubts to his affections till the last month when I felt an affirmation game and brought it up and his communication kept getting worse. I also have to bring up that he is 21 and I am 25 which makes things challenging. I eventually called him out on it and he didn’t respond well. He ignored me for a week and hid in his office every time I came to the gym. I apologized fear stricken of losing him (even though I didn’t feel I was at fault) and he then apologized and agreed to meet up. He never followed through. I waited a week..then I did what I wasn’t supposed to do and deluged him with messages until I was so upset I cut him out completely – blocked everything and switched gyms because it hurt too much to see him. Ending it was the last thing I wanted to do, but I felt like he wasn’t making choices or communicating, and stringing me along.

This was four months ago. I have been dating other people and trying to let it go, but I am still absolutely crazy about him and would love to re connect. I read all of your no contact articles and how to make the first message interesting. I tried it yesterday, but no luck. I can’t tell if he has blocked me. I haven’t tried calling or seen him in person. I am unsure of my next step and don’t want to screw it up.

Any insights you might have would be a God send.

Sincerely,
Laura

Laura

September 9, 2015 at 11:19 am

Oops correction – I meant “I felt an affirmation gap”

Denise

September 7, 2015 at 1:33 pm

Hi Chris, I read your article twice. The first time i was in a confident state, now I am in an uneasy fearful state. I have been blocked from Facebook and possibly his iPhone. He stated that we were never getting back together but then later said in the same txt that we were never an item. How can we get back together if we were never an item? He also said that it was never about sleeping with me and now he says it was strictly about sleeping with me. I was under the impression we were dating because of the way he was treating me., so I bought him a shirt and cap. I am tempted to call him and ask for him to mail these items to me. Should I? Reading your article made me realize I probably might have 0 chance of being with him. He is seeing someone and I would sure hate for him to be wearing my shirt out with her. The only real thing I have going good is we live in neighboring cities 15 minutes apart. He is also going to attend my city’s university starting in January for 4 years. We have one mutual friend but she does not like to get involved. What can I do?
D

September 6, 2015 at 10:51 pm

Hey Chris this guy chased me for a year. He cut kept contacting me on fb to talk and we would talk all the time. We met up a few weeks back and we kissed and had an amazing date. After that he asked me to go to his, I couldn’t straight away as I was working I explained that to him. He then ignored me for a week. He phoned me I missed his call phoned him back no answer messaged him no answer. He appeared to be ignoring me. He messaged me I messaged him back got no response. I was recently up where he lived he messaged me and I messaged him back got no response. He has blocked me on fb but has not blocked me on what’s app or snap chat I wondered if you could explain why he would do this after he ignores me first.
Sel

September 5, 2015 at 9:06 pm

Hi Chris, my situation is pretty different and this might be long. Me and my ex boyfriend are both high school seniors and we go to the same school. I Heard it all, I’m still “growing and this is not a big deal” or “you have your whole life ahead of you” all that stuff due to the fact I’m a young adult. But I would just love for you to hear me out. Well me and him met the ending of our junior year in high school, so May, and started dating June. He was someone who didn’t care much about looks and he liked for things to happen naturally his motto was always “go with the flow”. He loved how we started our relationship because in his words we “never forced anything” and happened naturally. He was the type of guy that didn’t care if you looked like Beyoncé or Megan Fox it was more on the inside he cared about. And it was all so new to me (I’m trying my best not to sound like some cocky superficial teen bimbo girl) but it was usually very easy for me to get any guy I liked because of my looks. So when I saw he didn’t show much interest (in the beginning) I was so confused, it was until he realized I was a really fun, positive “always keep your head up girl” that made him fall for me. Anyways we dated for the summer and he was always a good, loving, and considerate boyfriend. But we broke up middle of August (August 14th) which was also the month starting school (August 27th). He said it was because he lost feelings (love) for me but would keep telling me it was for no reason. I’m guessing it was because the person he fell in love with was a very happy positive girl and throughout our relationship I went from this “positive vibes” girl to depressed angry girl (I was going through stuff with my dad, and it’s still going on) I Had a pretty short temper and tended to get angry over small stupid things. I think it made him lose attraction and I want him back to show him we really are meant to be with each other because there was a point when we DID really love each other and was happy with each other, and I am still that happy positive girl he fell in love with the first place. He was head over heels for me. I can probably write a whole essay on things he would do for me that really showed he loved me but things happen and it’s so hard for me to deal with this. I forgot to mention a couple days into our relationship my father found out I was dating somebody (the ex) and tried kicking me out of the house. I called my ex just to ask for a place to stay and he picked me up knowing the risks that my dad could’ve hurt him. When I spent the night at his house he told me his missed me and was about to text me that night. We then got along very well that night (bringing up our inside jokes, laughing) and I remember he just blurted out “you know you’re pretty awesome when you’re not a bitch” (I’m guessing he was trying to tell me he broke up with me because I was too crazy and angry over dumb things and we fought over stupid stuff) while all this was happening though my dad kept texting my ex boyfriend’s phone that the cops are gunna get us and I better come home. (They didn’t.) We were both were pretty scared and my ex seemed pretty concerned about me. He ended up caressing my face and he kissed me and we both slept together that night peacefully. Now obviously it would make me think we are back together again and all I have to worry about is my dad but the next morning he told me I need to take of myself first and we need to stay broken up, then he said last night happened because he didn’t know if it was “going to me the last time he saw me” I started crying and he kissed my head and told me I’ll be okay. I thought this was important to inform you so I can know what your opinion on this was to see if you think he really wanted to help me out that night or just wanted a hook up. Back to the point He didn’t really block me from his social media, but he deleted his Facebook, Instagram, snapchat, and Twitter and made a new Facebook and Instagram. I don’t know about Twitter or snapchat. He didn’t bother to add me or request me and it’s starting to get me worried. One theory I have on why he did this was because I became even more active on Instagram and snapchat (trying to make it look like things are going well for me) I don’t know if he realized I made it too obvious, or he couldn’t handle it. We also go to school and I always see him but I pretend I don’t see him and I would be very smiley around my friends and other guys hoping he’d see. We both have a lot of mutual friends but sometimes I get hesitant to talk to them about my ex because I’m scared they will tell him and make me look like I’m some miserable desperate ex girlfriend. Maybe two weeks into the breakup he told one of our friends I was “needy and he’s done with me” my heart dropped and I honestly got the worst anxiety. I’m guessing he said that because two days after that incident with my dad I asked him a couple times if he wanted to hangout but he kept blowing it off. It’s been around a week since I started no contact and it sucks so much because I can barely sleep, my appetite is off, and He’s constantly on my mind. What do you think I should do to get him back and do you think I even have a shot? I know I’m only in high school but I’ve been in relationships before but I’ve never been in one like this where I’ve fallen so hard for a guy I wouldn’t even take anybody who’s more good looking, smart, or rich. It doesn’t matter. But all I know is I still love him and it’s not to the point where I’m letting it affect my studies but it is very hard for me to truly be happy. I just want him back and I’m honestly willing to do anything to get him back. I saw so much for us and I don’t think it’s worth it for him to give up that easily.
Suzanna

September 5, 2015 at 6:32 pm

My ex and I were engaged. He proposed to me with a $10k ring from Tiffany & Co. He was more excited to get married than I was and I was pretty excited! We are both over 40 and would be a second marriage for both. We were to sign our wedding contract with the venue that week. When his parents asked if they should arrange travel now or wait he said to book travel, that “nothing would change”. We were in a LDR but saw each other for 8 full days/nights per month in person, sometimes more like a full week at a time. When we did not see each other we texted multiple times per day and talked on the phone 2 hours each night. I was making arrangements to move there at the end of the summer (now).

We never so much has had a minor argument before. There were no red flags. We were so happy and got along so well. Our happiness radiated that even strangers would comment on how much in love we looked. The night before I was sitting on his lap looking online at houses in his area that we might be interested in for an hour. He kept telling me how much he loved me and could not wait to start our journey as a married couple.

The following day we had an argument about some finances. It should have just been a discussion point but quickly escalated. We never spoke again. He texted me a few times for a couple of weeks ,very vague. Asking for space and “time to process”. I did not give him his space as I was panicked. I kept texting asking if we could talk etc Perhaps if I did things would have been different. Then he broke our engagement via email with little explanation except that we are “incompatible” where he always went on about how “in sync” we were….soul mates etc. That our relationship was “tumultuous” we had one single fight!!! He said he was not going to change his mind and “please do not contact me again”.

Immediately he blocked my number, when I tried FB messaging him, he deleted my as a Facebook friend AND blocked me. So now if I comment on a mutual friend’s post or they tag me in a photo he won’t see it. The only options to me are snail mail and email. I have been emailing him to no avail I know now from reading your site, that I did all the things you are NOT supposed to such as trying to contact him; begging and pleading for him to forgive me and take me back.

I wish I found our site earlier and learned about the NC rule. It might have really helped me. It has been 2 months since the breakup and he is in a “rebound relationship”. He is the love of my life and I am so heartbroken by this turn of events. I have a chance of seeing him at an in person event in 2 months. I am thinking the mid-term NC rule applies to me, the 45 days instead of 30? That will be 2 weeks before the event. Should I initiate NC now and try to contact him prior to the event after NC? Or just wait and see him at the event and see what happens? Do you think we have a chance in heck of working things out? I would love to hear your thoughts.

Thanks!
Don't knos

September 5, 2015 at 2:03 am

I asked you for your advise however I know you are busy. Why is it confusing
Cosmos karmic

September 3, 2015 at 10:48 am

Hi Chris
I read your stuff twice this same post 🙂
It’s been almost two months my ex blocked me, he has been married(arrangedmarriage) we were doing good till two months ago from last year, many a times and oft I told him I felt guilty as he is married but he knew I was an emotional person and said that I shouldn’t feel guilty if I love him. And I fell trap to his love how stupid of me.
I never took his calls but only Whatsapp and I said no I’d never call him or receive his calls. He has blocked me on Whatsapp and I wouldn’t call and he wants me to call. Rather he must be intriguing me to call. I was angered and hurt and I blocked him back on Whatsapp but then I said no why should I cos he wouldn’t come to me he just wanted to enjoy both sides of the world. So I unblocked him on Whatsapp as I want to move on but still there hasn’t been a single day that has passed by when I don’t think of him. My friend said unblock him on Facebook and happy stuff there. However my thing is why should he convince me if he blocked me but I agree we used to have fights everyday over Whatsapp. He has been the only man I loved. It’s a long story.
I make myself say forgive and forget and move on but why is he on my mind. I don’t check.my Whatsapp to see if he unblocked me, I deleted his no everytime after checking and he wouldn’t have unblocked me, its been over ten days I haven’t checked by adding his no if he has unblocked me on Whatsapp.
I’m sick as in health and I know had he loved me he would have found a way as my friends say but I know I said a lot to him and the exchange of words were not pleasant at all. There is a part of me that expects his msg but if he hasn’t sent.me one since the past two months. Green signal move on . it’s funny I know I have to yet his memory gold.SME to.him.and officially dated him persontoperson only for a month. And I was crying during these times cos guy mages said he is using you cos he had proposed me during uni days and I said nonand he tried and I said no and my best guy mate said he got back to you when you fell for him cos he targeted you on your simplicity and then when you are all for him satisfying his ego. I don’t think he is like that but then when he promised me he’d msg or meet on his own will and didn’t I got hurt I expected a sorry msg but he never did. Msgd casually like as if nothing happened. My girlmmates think he is a moron of degree one cos he initiated this extra shit .
Your post has motivated me in a good way!/
My guy mates said he knows he sucks at the looks dept and you rocked and he wants you and they said trust us we are a man like that a## I miss him.but I hope someday he msgs me and I can say sorry for what I said in anger . but then no I wouldn’t want to be at the mercy of him. I know my worth now after reading this post. Thank Chris.
Amy

August 31, 2015 at 3:58 pm

Hi Chris,
My situation is that My ex bf has unfriended me on facebook. we met up 3 weeks after the break up and he wanted to get back with me but the next day he changed his mind. I told him I could not be friends as he wanted and he got angry and the phone call ended. 5 days later he unfriended me on facebook. I have been doing NC since the phonecall which has now been 22 days. What should I do now? Am I at an advantage or not as I have not been blocked just deleted?

Chris Seiter

September 2, 2015 at 3:33 am

I look at it just like blocking. He can always add you back. It’s just Facebook, right?

Dionne

August 31, 2015 at 9:06 am

Hi Chris,

I’ve had kind of a strange experience, and was hoping to get your feedback. I’ve asked the perspective of a few friends, but you’re website is really excellent, and I figured I would ask you, too. Just for some background, about 4 months ago, I left a pretty toxic relationship after trying most everything, and determined that that person was not emotionally capable of being involved with anyone. I am now a single mom, but have lots of support and am in a much better place.

I started an online dating profile on a whim, and was incredibly upfront about my wants, needs, career, goals, and single motherhood. My profile actually went kind of viral, and as of right now, I just hit 2000 “likes” on my page. (It’s been up for about a month and a half.)

Anyhow, after going on a few dates, I hadn’t really felt like I clicked with anyone. Eventually, I came across one guy that happened to have around 40 mutual friends with me on Facebook. We decided to meet, and we instantly hit it off. For the next week and a half, he was texting me at all hours of the day, from the time we went to sleep until the time he woke up. We never really spoke on the phone, but we hung out in person maybe 7 times during that week and a half. (Though this was mostly his idea, I was all about it). It was brilliant, and he told me he hadn’t felt this way in years. I was beside myself, since he was just so much nicer than my ex, and seemed like more of a stable person. It was like a breath of fresh air. I tried to play it cool at first, but I couldn’t help feeling like he might be the right guy for me. He even suggested that we hang out with my son, and told me that he had no problem with me being a single mom. (His sister is also a single mom, and his mother had remarried once before.)

Even though we spent a lot of time together, I wanted to take things slowly as far as intimacy goes, just as a precaution, and he was totally fine with that. We flirted, made out, texted, and I even crashed at his place one night just to test the waters. It was lovely, and we cuddled the whole time, and hung out the next day. Everything felt very comfortable.

He knew my birthday was coming up this week, and since I hadn’t made any plans (due to work obligations), he offered to take me anywhere I wanted the night before my birthday. I made reservations at a nice restaurant. Then, two days before the birthday dinner reservation was scheduled, somewhat out of the blue, he texted me and told me that he didn’t think we should pursue things, that we might have different personality types, etc.. I asked him if i had done or said something wrong, or if it was too much too soon, and he admitted that moving too fast might have been part of it. I told him that we could slow things down if he wanted to, but he said sorry, he didn’t think it would work out. I said I was sorry too. Then, though I had never called him before, I decided to call, and discovered that he had blocked my number. This has never happened to me before. It stung a bit.

We’re still friends on Facebook, and I sent him one last message, apologizing and saying that if we could start fresh, we could just try to take it moment by moment. No response, but that was 6 days ago.

Looking from his perspective, I may have jumped the gun and tried to plan too much too soon, but he was doing the same, and he had told me he wished I lived closer so that we could see even more of each other. I was mostly just going off of what he was telling me, and trying to allow myself to be available.

I’m not sure it the No Contact rule would apply here, since we barely were dating, but I really like this guy a lot, and think that maybe the timing was just off. What’s your take on it? Is it worth a shot? I haven’t experienced this kind of chemistry with someone for a long time, but it blows my mind that he would block my number so quickly and without warning.

Cheers, and keep up the good work! Your cause is a noble one.

Dionne

November 18, 2015 at 11:41 am

Hi Murthy,

Sorry, I just saw that you replied too! Very sorry to hear about your situation.

After speaking with mutual friends about the guy I was interested in, it turns out that this was kind of a pattern of his, and that he had been single for two years, which he had told me, but I was unaware of how deep it ran. Back when this guy and I were briefly courting, he had mentioned to me that he had some really terrible relationship experiences with dating narcissists in the past, which I could relate with going through as well, but unfortunately, it seems as though he had not yet healed. (These things can take years, if not a lifetime, to heal from.)

After the shortened No Contact period, I tried a few Facebook messages, but no reply. He read them, unread them, read them again, and then unread them once more. I did make the possible mistake of sending one long note telling him that what he did hurt me, but that I valued the time that we spent together. I mostly did this for myself, and felt that if he was a decent human being, maybe it would help him down the road to hear that that kind of behavior can hurt people.

A couple months later, I got up the nerve to text him from my new phone number, which went well, but as soon as he asked who it was and I told him, he disappeared again. I noticed him at an event with a bunch of mutual friends not too long ago, and when I waved at him and smiled, he literally ran out the door when he saw me. Hopefully, he’ll find his path (so to speak).

In the meantime, I’ve been keeping my own personal NC blog (not online, just for moi 😉 and it’s been really cathartic. I tried a minimum of two rounds of NC (plus a few mini no contact periods) before finding out that this dude is just not in a place to be dating seriously (through outside sources), is having trouble with intimacy, or we’re just not right for each other. (Plus, I have a kid, so that can probably throw in a little more pressure from the bachelor’s perspective.)

Long story short, although while we were seeing each other, he indicated that he was starting to develop feelings for me, once I showed reciprocation, he ran for the hills.

I can’t lie, I still like him, but I don’t like what he did. I’ll probably always cherish the fond memories he and I shared, and try to use those experiences to guide me towards the next positive relationship I have. Who knows, he may come around one day, but if he waits too long, he’ll probably miss his chance. 🙂

On the bright side, I’ve gotten myself some new shoes, new glasses (to give my face a fresh look and my eyeballs a break from contacts), and I’m working on a new outlook, as well. I’ve learned a lot about myself, and have a coffee date with a new suitor this upcoming Sunday. Fingers crossed!

As far as your situation goes, Chris’s advice may apply to you as well. Maybe your ex has something else going on that he hasn’t mentioned. How long were you two seeing each other? Did you break up on amicable terms, or did he block you without warning?

Good luck Murthy, I know you’ll come out even better on the other side. I know it can be difficult at first, but it does get better.

Hugs and cheers! 🙂
Dionne

November 18, 2015 at 11:32 am

Hi Chris,

Congratulations on becoming a new dad! It’s pretty life changing, isn’t it? The craziest, most difficult, and most beautiful moments are now yours, 24/7. Best of luck!

Thanks so much for replying! Yes, you were right, there was some other stuff going on with him. He and I are probably in different life stages right now, as well. Though I am 28 and he is 30, he’s still living the young professional millennial dream of sowing his wild oats while he can, and that’s fine with me. I’ve already done that, and I’ve got a toddler son to boot. If this guy comes around, then cool, but if not, I can live with that.

After several goes at the No Contact (shortened), and zero responses from him (I know he read and unread my Facebook messages several times, and we texted through my new number, though he dipped out two texts in when I told him it was me, oops), the one thing I haven’t yet tried is the “Talking to a Mutual Friend” thing, which I might attempt before completely moving on. Any further advice from there? A friend of mine who knows him told me this guy just happens to be judgmental and a tool, so I’m not sure how much more I’m going to put into it.

In the meantime, I’ve set up a date with another dude who seems to be a lot nicer and more mature. If nothing else, I’ll hopefully at least gain a new friend.

One column that might be helpful is advice for single parents who are dating. That tends to be a tricky one. Let me know if you need a columnist/correspondent! I’m testing the battlefield as we speak, haha. Kudos on your website design, too! 🙂

Thanks again!
Murthy

September 10, 2015 at 10:00 am

Hi DIONNE,

I’m going through a same kinda situation right now. There was a guy whom I met a couple of months back and things were really well among us. All of a sudden i realise that the guy has blocked me. I tried calling him once. He total we would meet up and then he would explain me the things. But never got back to me.

I really like him and want him back for sure. I really wanna know what went wrong. Could you please help me out if you have figured it out. And contacted him back or if made him contact you. I’m sorry if i’m offending you by asking this. It’s just i want him back and would wanna lead my life with him. Those few days with him was memorable. We had a great connection. It’s indeed a lot of pain. (I’m 26 and he is 30 fYI)
Chris Seiter

September 2, 2015 at 3:39 am

Sounds like the guy is a commitment phobe a bit.

You did move fast BUT sometimes guys love that.

I think there is something else he isn’t not telling you.

Not sure the NC would work great here. However, if you do want to try it I would use the 21 day one.

Elise

August 28, 2015 at 8:15 pm

Hi Chris,

So this Friday morning I told my ex that I no longer wish to have him contact on social media because he broke the promise of getting back to pof dating site account. Worst scenario is that he took it as ok and went on pof. I tried to talk to him on the same day at different time and regretted breaking up with him and told him I want him back. He pretty much blocked me from snapchat, instagram, email address, and probably texting. I had no choice but to delete my pof account for no purposes on stalking him. I seriously regret making that choice but I don’t know if I’ll ever get back with him….

We were almost a year together but broke up in February 2015 because he had to move back to Iowa for family issues. We were talking like friends but he told me the real reason we broke up is the fact he wasn’t ready to be in a relationship and needed more time to stabilize. This lead me to a total depression but of course I did the no contact rule and for my surprise he finally talk to me persuading me to get back with him. We got back together but this time our connection was fading a little bit because he made some excuses for not talking to me like work or horrible connection which this lead me no choice but ton get back on pof. I caught many times online and of course he had to lie about it. This time we both agree to stop going on pof and communicate more. There are times we talked on facetime but again he disappeared not speaking to me for a month and thats when I found out he was on pof.

So I really don’t know how I’ll get him back or win his trust again….. Is there another way I can get him back?
krissy

August 28, 2015 at 4:54 pm

So, I’m the girl who had the feelings but we had slept together a few times, his actions were not that of a casual encounter which confused me and didn’t help with the feelings. completely honest i did go crazy, i did harass and fight and push but he kept me around for a year and half after we stopped sleeping together and would actually lead me on but wouldn’t date me. So, i do believe i brought nothing but negativity to his life, i finally came to a point where i told him to block me or ignore me but he wouldn’t. It was completely toxic. And yet of course i still want him, even though he never made time for me or cared for me. Now, he has a gf and now he has blocked me. Of course it hurts and i don’t like it but in my human girlness i want him to come back, i know it stupid and I’m sure i know your response but does that out me i the 40%? Are there any chances?

krissy

August 28, 2015 at 5:37 pm

And i would ask him why he would continue with me and what he got out of this he would always say he doesn’t know and yet wouldn’t stop either.

Charlotte

August 28, 2015 at 6:22 am

Hi Chris,

Me and my ex boyfriend had a terrible row and he said some terrible things and I just got angry because he was showing like he didn’t care and told me that he knew he was being a d*ck! He always puts his guard up and is very stubborn!! In the argument I told him to drop dead you horrible b*start and I shouldn’t of I have never said anything like that before I was just so angry and hurt, I shouldn’t of said it as his brother had tried to kill himself the week before and had been in a coma for a day!! I love him so much and he knows i never meant it and would do anything for him but straight at that moment he said I will never forgive you for what you said and blocked me off everything and told me to move on my life as he can’t go back after what I said 🙁 I’m completely devastated; he has blocked me before after arguments caus he knows it hurts me!! He knows how sorry I am; do u think he will come round eventually?
D

August 27, 2015 at 11:56 pm

My ex has blocked me on his phone so I can’t call him and on what’s app so there is no communication at all. I do not have any social media accounts. He is usually one to unblock me when he’s calmed down a few days/weeks after but this time feels different. As he keeps doing it I feel he may be doing it to ‘teach me a lesson’ I don’t think it’s because he doesn’t want to speak to me again but then I don’t know. What do I do now?
NC will make him move on faster

August 23, 2015 at 10:55 am

does any of this even make sense if my ex doesn’t even want to talk to me? he seems to have completely disengaged emotionally. since the break up we spoke like 3 times…only cause i initiate it…he had me blocked for a few days unblocked me cause i begged him to.

now he just reads everything i write on whats app but doesn’t respond and has been doing so for 2 days.

no i haven’t gone NC….but it is really hard doing so when your ex goes cold/indifferent as a way of breaking up…I didn’t even really do anything to him..he just said I didn’t listen to him and that everything built up…He doesn’t want to see me, talk to me, anything & nothing even happened to cause it, it was abrupt… He says he is over the situation & i dont even know what that means i asked “so you are over me?” he says “i said the situation” so i ask so like the relationship?” him: “i just said the situation” what does that even mean? he keeps saying i didn’t listen so he has nothing to say to me.

he says he wants me to just move on and he’ll say w.e it takes for me to do so & that i should just flip it around on him and be mad at him…sounds as if Me going NC will just make it easier for him to do what he is already doing.

MsE

August 28, 2015 at 7:52 am

Hi Chris,

I was engaging with a man for around 6 months – we emailed regularly and would see each other weekly . It was a friendship that was becoming romantic however as a result of external factors happening in my life (unbeknown to him) I became a little erratic emotionally for a couple of days. Not negative or mean, it could have seemed slightly needy at worst. but he sent me an email (nice emai saying he’d enjoyed our time together but couldn’t give me what I wanted so since it wouldn’t end well, he’d rather end things) and then proceeded to block me immediately. To my detriment, I did try to contact him through his work number at least 5 times &left 2 msgs in one day to which he never answered – up until then, I’d maybe called him 3 times in the 6 months as he would initiate our contact and reply to me almost immediately if I texted. He’s totally blocked me as far as I can tell. After one week, I called from a private number and left a dignified msg explaining why I went loopy and apologised and have since made no contact. I’m not sure why he blocked me immediately though, like I said – no arguments, no meanness, I was just a little erratic and no talk of relationships had ever taken place. I don’t understand why he would throw away a completely good friendship. Could you shed any light here as I’m at a loss as to the severity of his actions.
Chris Seiter

August 24, 2015 at 6:17 pm

Ah I know it’s hard but what are your other options at this point? You can also use facebook to stir things up if he’s a friend on fb.

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