What To Do If Your Ex Boyfriend Blocks You On (The Phone, Facebook, WhatsApp, Etc)

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Lola

August 20, 2015 at 8:17 pm

Hi Chris,
My boyfriend blocked me on facebook around 5 months ago and recently unfollowed me on instagram aswell. We broke up a year ago. I had to leave him, because things weren’t working out and I wanted more, than he was able to give me. I am older than him, also this was his first serious relationship. We were together for 3 years. After our break up we still spent few nights together, it all completely ended around 6 months ago, when he was really mean and said thing he should have never said. It was very hurtful. He was talking about the girl he went on a date with and they are taking it slowly, as he doesn’t want it to end up the way it did with us. He said that I was way to easy for him. Oh and didn’t forget to show me her picture aswell, she was really pretty. Few days later he blocked me. I went away for the summer and he contacted me shortly after I left. I told him I have had an amazing time and sent him some photos. He completely turned around after that and became so cold again. He made me feel as if I was annoying him and said that I was stupid in our conversation on whatsapp. After I came back home I met him only couple of times, as we have lots friends in common. But again, he is trying to embarrass me, making jokes about some private moments that happened when we were still together. At this point I truly believe he hates me. The break up was very painful for both of us. He didn’t want it and tried to get back with me a few times, but I just couldn’t go back, because I didn’t believe anything would change. He promised so many times he would change while we were still together, and he never did. I have made big changes in my life since our relationship ended. I left my job and traveled abroad for the summer, which helped me a lot. I am in college and started passing my exams (all exams that I failed when we were freshly broken up) I recently got a new job. I have completely changed my career. He is doing his usual, drinking and working….I was really happy up until last night when I met him in a bar and he embarrassed me in front of our friends. I was so disgusted, that I never even told him I got a new job. He doesn’t look good at all. Now I am very upset again and I don’t know how long is this going to last for? I am still blocked on facebook and he only recently unfollowed me on instagram. When he sees me he tries to act normal, but later or next day he either say or do something to upset me.
Sydney

August 15, 2015 at 7:00 pm

Hi Chris,

Recently saw that my ex unfollowed me on Instagram and Twitter. Both my accounts are private, so he won’t be able to see anything else unless he follows me again. I did the same to him, though I regret it and felt like I gave him the upper hand. We are still friends on Facebook. I am on day 19 of no contact.
Another thing to note, we had been dating for a year, then broke up and got back together, then he broke up with me once, and came back to me and broke up with me now. He did not unfollow me when he first broke up with me, however.
I’m so confused, why would he unfollow me on these social medias this time around? I was hoping for some insight.

Thanks!

Jessica

August 19, 2015 at 7:31 pm

I am in a similar situation, except this is our first breakup. He unfollowed me on Instagram and deleted me from Snapchat, but we are still friends on Facebook. He uses Facebook the least often out of all, but he still gets on a few times throughout the day. Why would he keep me on his Facebook? I’m on day 4 of no contact.
Chris Seiter

August 17, 2015 at 10:42 pm

He might be afraid of what he will see, ex. you with another guy. Don’t worry just keep doing what your doing with no contact.

michelle

August 14, 2015 at 5:45 pm

Hi Chris..i have a question..Ive posted it here before but havent gotten a response..and the situation has gotten a little worse. Basically my ex and i didnt speak for 7 months..our relationship was very intense and we broke up due to family issues. We have not been fb friends for roughly a year..mostly we texted as we are long distance as we.. He contacted me recently though thru fb as a lot of my feed is public i had stated i broke my phone so im assuming thats why..he read it? Anyway.. we spoke a few times about our family struggles and i said that i had missed him..and thats when things got weird and he stopped responding. I actually thought we could be friends again and so i fb messaged a friend request to which he reponded by blocking me!!! I thought he had deleted his page and texted saying ” i hope u r ok! “..he did responded nicely actually..Then 5 days later i noticed i was unblocked!! In the meantime..i made my page private..thinking that was sort of like no contact..but now i dont know what to do..i guess im wondering why he blocked me..my feelings are very hurt.feeling he hates me..does he want to be left alone? but i thought also the break up was hard on him because he was in hiding for the whole 7 months..not a peep on Fb or Twitter! Confused ? Please help 🙂

Chris Seiter

September 1, 2015 at 9:05 pm

It sounds like he might be dating someone. He could also still be hurt. Go into no contact for a week and try again.

Melissa

August 14, 2015 at 10:44 am

Ok, so my thing is, I initially did a complete block out with him. I sent him a letter after breaking up and he replied with a pretty cold email. It was like I fell off the planet. I blocked him out completely for 2 weeks. I then unblocked him. A day or two later, I discover that he blocked ME on Facebook. Would you consider that a “revenge” scenario, or a “he never wants to talk to me again” scenario?

Chris Seiter

August 25, 2015 at 3:49 pm

Revenge most likely. You prob bruised his ego and he’s trying to hurt you back. Read the post on no contact. That’s what you should try.

yellow

August 8, 2015 at 8:32 pm

I told my ex to block my phone number idk if he blocked me but I was tired of holding on and just being friends with him. Don’t get me wrong I was sending multiple texts just expressing how I feel and told him to block me but he never respond. He always told me we couldn’t be together because I block out on him and he thinks im crazy. I really love him would I every get him back?

Curious

November 27, 2015 at 11:53 pm

Hi Yellow. What ended up happening in your situation? I am in a similar boat. Did your ex end up unblocking you? Did NC help?
yellow

August 14, 2015 at 12:29 pm

Thank you hopefully me and him will talk again
yellow

August 13, 2015 at 9:24 pm

He says I snap on him for no reason. I will be honest I do gnat texts
Chris Seiter

August 14, 2015 at 4:33 am

Ok perfect time to do the opposite then! 🙂 Make sure when you start talking again you are taking it slow.
Chris Seiter

August 13, 2015 at 12:39 pm

Why does he think you are crazy?

kate

July 31, 2015 at 9:34 pm

my boyfriend is 3 years younger to me , and we were having commitment issues when his grandfather died and he was behaving very weirdly so I contacted his best friend and to ask about him and then his best friend texted me and we shared hell lot about each other and I asked him about his commitment issues and vented out my anger about my boyfriend, now his best friend had a crush on me and showed it to my bf and he accused me of cheating and we broke up and then I sent him goodbye sms and went into no contact , he messaged me after 10 days asking for someone’s number , so I explained what happened and he listened for first time but then I asked for space and went onto no contact again but he messaged me again after ten days to ask about setting of a machine but I became so angry that he didn’t even had the decency to say hi but just texted me , can u tell whats the setting , so I controlled for few days but lost my cool after 8 days and wrote angry text messages about how stupid and immature he was not to even hear my side even once before breaking up and that wrote sarcastic version of our breakup around lots of messages I think 500 but he didn’t read them all and I even told him not to disrepesct me by not even saying hi , and stop treating me like errand girl and have the decency to atleast say a hi first, I msged him again next day (10 sms ), he didn’t reply ,again I msged him that he needs to grow and stop asking me dumb, immature ,questions about the machine especially when he can call the professional and ask instead of asking me as we are broken up and that he needs to grow up as he didn’t reply so I wrote this break up is the best thing that ever happened to us and don’t disturb me for useless, trivial things and he should give me my space coz I have to make some important decisions in life , so he blocked me on his whatsapp on one number only though he rarely checks the other number like once in two months . Chris have I ruined it forever now ?? he didn’t block me till 2 months of our breakup though I tried to contact him for 4 days but I went into no contact at that time, but I broke it twice on and second time I said really hurtful and sarcastic things so he blocked me on whattsapp . is there any hope or is it ruined forever
Jen

July 22, 2015 at 2:03 pm

Hi Chris ,
Me and my boyfriend were together for 2 years .No cheating involved. He still loves me but he is actually frustrated of the fights and doesn’t have the power to try to make things better anymore. I was quite calm after the break up strictly stuck to NC and kept posting pictures of me having fun on Facebook. The breakup doesn’t actually bother me that much .
But I am startled as to why he blocked me off suddenly on Facebook and just deleted my number (didn’t block me elsewhere) .
Anyway we DON’T HAVE ANY MUTUAL FRIENDS that I can get in touch with.
So tell me what should I do !
P.S. He still has me on insta but isn’t a religious follower. He doesn’t operate snapchat and instagram that much.
and it has been 5 days since the breakup
Fran

July 21, 2015 at 1:30 am

Hi Chris
I hope you will be able to answer my comment but I understand how busy you are. Love this website by the way..it is seriously helping me out right now!
My ex and I (I’m 27 he’s just turned 26) broke up 2 months ago after 5 years together, long distance for the last 2 years and I was just weeks away from moving back to be with him, something we’d been looking forward to for a long time. About a month before the breakup he’d been acting distant and blatantly ignored me on some occasions so I just gave him space and didn’t contact him much either hoping he just needed space. When I came home for a visit I told him we needed to meet up and I knew we were going to break up and I agreed with the breakup at the time, telling him that ignoring me was disrespectful and I deserved better. He said he just didn’t want to be with me anymore and I said I didn’t want to be with someone who didn’t respect me anymore and we left it on good terms. I still wanted him back but I didn’t want him to see me as weak so I didn’t even try to convince him otherwise. I went straight into NC and during this time I was on my final hospital placement in another country, and used the time to better myself going to the gym, going on dates etc. After 3 weeks he text me a normal message just telling me about a new phone he’d bought etc…i ignored it. When 30 days were up I text him using your I have a confession text and he responded very positively with lots of interest and I ended the conversation after a few texts. Going by your book I sent him another text a few days later to which he responded positively but with like 5 hours in between each message so after two messages I just didn’t respond and decided to go into NC again. Another 2 weeks later and he text me and asked me how my neck was as I’d been in a minor car accident at the very end of our relationship and he didn’t even ask if I was ok at the time so I didn’t reply to this message because it angered me that it took him that long to ask if I was ok! I really regret not replying to that message now because I feel as though it really annoyed him. About 3 weeks later I snap chatted him to which he replied on whatsapp and started a conversation with me. The content of the messages was quite positive..lengthy and lots of questions but he was taking way too long to reply, so long that i felt as though I wasn’t in control of the situation anymore and I felt like the needy one. That was 2 weeks ago and I was going to whatsapp him yesterday to try and arrange to meet up because I am now back in the country living with my family for the past few weeks and will be in his hometown on friday doing some volunteer work so thought it might be a good opportunity to meet up and get my things back off him. However I tried to send him a funny meme and a “hope things are good with you” message to start a conversation a few days back and I’ve noticed he’s blocked me from whatsapp!!! I think he’s angry that I haven’t been responding to some of his messages and cutting off conversations but I’m worried i’ve totally blown it and pushed him further away now! but surely this still means that he cares about me. I mean 5 years is a long time, we had planned a life together, he was in the room with me and my family when my dad died last september and that was a huge deal to share that with someone and it bonded us. I feel like I should’ve responded to his texts because every time he was late responding he did say sorry and he works long hours as a police officer. I am not sure if I’ve been blocked from his phone yet but I am planning on sending him a message to check tomorrow. what should I do? Do you think there is any way we can come back from this or have i pushed him too far? sorry for the really long message but I just really want to know if its worth trying anymore or should I just move on with my life. I feel like the whole reason he wanted to break up was because suddenly I was about to move home and he freaked out because finally the day that we’d been waiting for had come and he’s now just running away from commitment!
Thanks, Fran
Carol

July 21, 2015 at 12:44 am

Hi Chris,
My ex and I broke up because my family threatened their relationship with me because they didn’t like the color of his skin. I didn’t tell him that was the reason but I think he kind of expected. We ended up getting back together and dating for three more months in secret because it would have been really bad if my family found out but it got to be too much for him and he said he couldn’t sneak around anymore because it wasn’t fair and i completely understand but then I went home and fought with my family a week later and convinced them to let us be together and when I told my ex he said he didn’t feel the same anymore. I was so mad because I felt like I had risked so much and he lied to me about the real reason he ended it. So I said hurtful things to him that I regretted everything and he wasn’t worth anything I gave him and I thought he would talk to me about it but he never did so I reached out to him and he just told me he really did love me but his feelings changed and I hurt him and he was talking to someone else so he wasn’t going to come back to me but he really did want to be friends and he would be fine with it as long as I was. So my internship for the summer is about five minutes from his house so I decided to try the friend thing. We had a couple conversations but they just felt unnatural and he told me we couldn’t be friends anymore or ever talk because it upsets his new girl. I went kind of crazy texting him out of the blue these long texts and he just said he couldn’t take it anymore. Finally I feel like I had time to realize he’s not someone I actually want to be with but I think it just makes me mad we never got a chance. We got to a point where were were on good terms but every time we talked it just felt forced. Then a couple weekends ago I asked him to come over and stay the night with me. I’m not stupid enough to think nothing was going to happen, I was expecting something to happen but I told him we didn’t have to read into it because we don’t want to be together anymore. He kepis saying how it was a bad idea and it was too complicated and after 3 days I finally convinced him to come. It just felt normal and in the morning we kissed and then all of a sudden he stopped and told me it was wrong and he was talking to someone else now. I said I didn’t want it to effect our friendship and I didn’t want to go back to him not talking to me but he said it would. So then I went a little crazy with the texting because I didn’t think it was fair for him to shut me out at that point and he basically was saying how I would send him texts out of no where and I just needed to move on and it was easy for him to hate me because he was talking to someone else. The thing is I really don’t want to be with him. With my family situation it would be hard anyway.. but he meant a lot to me and I don’t want him to hate me like he is saying he does. I think he doesn’t believe me when I tell him a friendship is seriously all I want. He told me if I kept it up he was going to block me because I was stressing him out and he tried to be nice but it was out of hand. So a couple days later I sent him one final text saying he’s not who I thought he was and I didn’t think it was wrong of me for trying to be his friend and he was just burning bridges and he texted me back saying he was done and maybe he wasn’t ever the person i thought he was and that he was blocking me because he didn’t think it was something I was ever going to get over and he really did block me from everything. I’m shit out of luck aren’t I?
Blue

July 17, 2015 at 2:16 am

Chris,
My situation is different from all the rest on this website and I really need someone to listen. Please. My five year realtionship with the love of my life ended three months ago in the most terrible way. I hit him in a figth and he told me he never wanted to talk to me ever again.( We did not have an abusive relationship). Now I believe he has met another woman he is falling hard for. Please Chris I’m deperate. I’ve done the no contact rule. And nothing. No communication. I followed up with a text a month later. Nothing. Help!!!! Please. I can’t eat. I can’t sleep. He has not contacted me at all.
Bri

July 15, 2015 at 3:50 am

A lot of this was true. He blocked me on fb and stopped talking to me abruptly because I “hurt his feelings” and “disrespected him”. He wanted to hurt me and apologized for not ha selling the situation better. We are talking again but he won’t unblock me. smh

Bri

July 15, 2015 at 3:52 am

Oh and he was the one to reach out to me first after three weeks of no contact.

Ali

July 5, 2015 at 9:35 pm

Hi! So my ex and I broke up about 3 months ago. We were trying to be friends then he was sending me pictures of his body on Facebook. That caused an argument. I deleted him as a friend and now he has blocked me. What does that mean?
Vanessa

July 3, 2015 at 8:43 am

Chris please email me I would like some advise from you Im in a very sticky situation.

Chris Seiter

July 9, 2015 at 12:10 am

Hi Vanessa,

Thanks for the comment.

Unfortunately I am no longer doing free email consultations.

I will be releasing coaching in the future though.

Awesome

July 2, 2015 at 11:48 am

Chris-

Nice work buddy, you nailed it. Said it way better than I could, listen to him Ladies, he knows what’s up

Chris Seiter

July 9, 2015 at 12:18 am

Thanks… Your… AWESOME 😉

Lis

July 1, 2015 at 5:27 pm

Hi Chris, I need your help. I have been blocked by my ex in every way possible, and I don’t know what to do. Let me explain. I meet him 20 years ago I was just 17 and we fell in love, he was 20. We wanted to get married and everything was perfect till my father told me that my ex didn’t wanted to marry me, I was upset and decide to let him go. 3 weeks later he moved away and I never saw him again till 2012 when I found him on Facebook. We became friends but by then we had our own life, I loved him 20 years ago and I love him now. He has been the love of my life. Well in May I send him a message thru Whatsup and he responded, we stared talking and one thing let to the other and we decided we still love each other but there was a little problem, we were both with someone else. We both wanted to leave our partners and be together, he assure me that I was the love of his life. We talked everyday and message every minute, I live in the States he lives in Italy. To make story short, Saturday I had to take my mom to the ER she was really sick and I was super worried, he called me that night and told me that he would call me the next morning because his gf was not going to be there, Well doctors told me Sunday morning that my mom may have Cancer and I was in shock, I was felling desperate. I massage him on Facebook and I ask him if we could talk, he say Sorry love I won’t be able to speak to you today she is home.. We had 3 fights before because of the same thing, and he keep telling me that we would come here and leave her but I was not sure anymore.. That Sunday morning I made a mistake of sending him a message saying that it was over that he didn’t love me and for him to stay with her. He didn’t replay and that got me angrier, I believe I was not myself that day, I needed him to just understand that I was acting like this out of fear, anyways, I send him more messages each one of them more mean and rude, I am not proud of that, then around 5 pm I realized that he has block me, from everywhere. Me and all of our friends we had in common. I try everything, I went crazy and I do believe that I was that Psycho Girlfriend you mention here, Honestly I didn’t know what to do, I even though of doing something crazy to myself because I couldn’t take it.., Anyways I change numbers and decided to let him go.. with my new number I have a new whatsup and he was in it of course I send him a final good bye message and I even ask him to blocked me when he was done reading it, He didn’t all day yesterday , but this morning again I saw he blocked me. I apologize to him yesterday for the things I say and did but he did not replay. Now I know he will never talk to me again.. and I don’t know what to do. Can you please HELP Me!!!!!
Shanice

June 19, 2015 at 6:33 pm

Hi Chris
Sorry to bug you, but I would just like to clarify that I’m on the right track. Me and my boyfriend broke up, clearly and instead of begging (which I think he was expecting) I done NC, after day 8 I now noticed that he has unfriended me on facebook.. is this worse?
I’m guessing the reasoning for this is to is the ones you’ve mentioned above such as anger/hurt ect, however since I wasn’t unfriended right away I feel that maybe I am now in a worse position than what I was 8 days ago? could he be more angry/emtional then he was then? or I am completely wrong and NC is working…
anyway thanks for all your lovely help, I hope this works on British boys too haha
Shanice
Shawn

June 13, 2015 at 4:05 am

Chris, I really messed up! In fact I have been fully blocked out and I thought I would get a google number to try to reach him when this website came up and I started reading it, I thank you so much!
My ex has a new girlfriend and as much as it hurt to think that him and I were really over and to see all there cute pictures on FB it is killing me even more being totally blocked and not a part of his life at all! I don’t want to be that phyco ex GF but am scared I might have all ready earned that label. I regret what I did and I would give anything if I could go back into time and take it back!!! I just don’t want to be completely blocked from his life, it kills me that after 5 years I am not apart of him!
Asap

June 12, 2015 at 8:09 pm

What would be helpful is a section on initiating contact over Facebook. Its a little different then txting because the person might not see it right away, and there is also a different attitude in terms of responding to Facebook messages rather than txt messages. Facebook is my only option right now. Please help.
Harley babe

June 12, 2015 at 3:12 pm

Hi, i wish I had found this article sooner. I caught my bank cheating. I wanted to hurry him so I rwrites his things i also returned gifts and things that i wouldnt have had to return because i knew that would hurt him. I also send a rather mean text that huey his feelins bad. He blocked me. I panicked and sent the letter. Is the one letter really going to hurt me if I start the NC now and focus on myself. Which i have already begun. I truthfully dont even know if i want him back but, i am not ready for him to be out of my life. I at least wanted the chance to talk. Seriously confused!

Harley babe

June 18, 2015 at 2:37 pm

Yoy dont need to respond to my question. He unblocks me to tell me things and then blocks me again. I know he will unblock me at some point. The problem is I am not going to play these silly games and I dont care anymore. My advice to your readers is be careful how far you push someone away they might like it there. In some cases removing yourself from the situation gives you clarity to see what was a toxic relationship.
Harley babe

June 12, 2015 at 6:33 pm

Wow I see a lot of auto corrects in here. Let me correct them. I caught my boyfriend cheating. I wanted to hurt him so I returned his things, gifts and all. I also sent a rather mean text that hurt his feelings.

Amy

June 10, 2015 at 1:30 am

Hey Chris! I am hoping you can help me! I was seeing this guy that I met online and things were going good. We were getting along great. We had decided to do a long distance relationship because he had taken a new job. Well Sunday he tells me that he really likes me but I’m too guarded, due to my past, and that his feelings were hurt that I wasn’t more open and felt I needed to protect myself from him. This started an argument. The argument became a break up. He first said I was too guarded and then he said he wasn’t ready for a relationship and he was done. I of course messed up and became the clingy needy girl, which drove him to being mean and angry and saying he never wanted to see me again and blocking me on his phone. He is no longer on the dating site where we met and has no Facebook. So which is true, he isn’t ready for a relationship or I was too guarded? Also is there hope for us to get back together?

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