What To Do If Your Ex Boyfriend Blocks You On (The Phone, Facebook, WhatsApp, Etc)

2,564 thoughts on “What To Do If Your Ex Boyfriend Blocks You”

Grace

December 16, 2014 at 2:12 am

Hi Chris,
Me and my ex boyfriend dating for 3 years. It’s a week after we broke up. I made a mistake that he can not handle anymore, he said he tired of me. Few days ago, I asked him to give me some times to me for changed my behavior and when I finally can handle myself I want to get beack with him, but he said no. He wont be with me anymore in a polite way, he said that he is very tired with me. He blocked me on facebook and twitter, he said that he didnt want to check up on me anymore. He said that he still loves me but he is trying not to. I really messed up the situation. Is that any way that I can do to get him back?

Thank you 🙂
Maria

December 15, 2014 at 11:48 pm

I just finished my LDR after 4 months just recently its been a week and it was him who told me that.He said that he will unfriend me at Facebook but its more about him So After 5 days i just realised that he blocked me and i was shocked. Outside of the blue i notice that i Can see him Online at Skype and Available at Whats app.We dont text each other at all.

P.s i really want to email Chris my story you will find it interesting (asking for some sanity too because i am having a hard moment)
sammy

November 25, 2014 at 1:44 am

I am separated from my fiance 5 months ago and its a long distance. I was successful in making contact with him but suddenly he ignores me and now he has changed the number also. I am really confused exactly what to do because there is only one option of email for me to contact him. I dont want to look desparate and ask his friends for his number. But should I contact him through email? I would be glad if you give me some advice in this situation. I feel very miserable without him.

admin

November 25, 2014 at 3:06 pm

What caused the breakup with your fiance?

HopelessLover

November 1, 2014 at 4:41 pm

what if your blocked from facebook but was in long distance relationship(different continents USA and Germany) so the only other way of communications is email and skype
Olivia

October 30, 2014 at 7:08 pm

He unblocked me, but doesn`t text me. What to do?

admin

November 3, 2014 at 3:20 pm

Have you tried initiating the texts?
Olivia

November 3, 2014 at 3:24 pm

No, but what can I say – Hey, you are unblocked me! Thank you 😀 or stay waiting for some reaction from him? 🙂

Evea

October 29, 2014 at 2:46 am

My relationship

I’ve know him since college 2 years ago been seeing each other for a year, we have had many arguments about some stupidly little things but we have never had a proper breakup, I told him something bad about his meant to be”best friend” he then got really angry at me and said don’t talk bad about him. We been arguing about it for a month or so, I said sorry to him for making him angry and “I just want to friends” he didn’t answer my message, he was reading them but mostly ignoring them, I brought up the thing about his friend again and he then said “don’t bother messaging me again” he didn’t block me but then I heard he was talking about me with my friend asking if I was okay. She also said he seemed to miss me, I tried messaging him again 2 times asking about it and he then blocked me. I’m also his first so he’s rather immature, he’s blocked me off Facebook but not sure about anything else, we always talk on FB because he never has credit

Thank you

admin

October 29, 2014 at 3:51 pm

He hasn’t blocked your number?
Evea

October 29, 2014 at 7:21 pm

I’m not sure yet, I did text him being angry at him, I lost my temper we both have kinda sort tempers, I I didn’t get anything back from him but didn’t get an eorror message either

Kelly

October 29, 2014 at 1:38 am

What if he still has you blocked completely after the 30 day contact !
Or maybe he’s still angry and not replying ? This ones conffusinh
And no he didn’t contact me. At all during the 30days this made me wanna go longer

admin

October 29, 2014 at 3:49 pm

Your on full out block like with everything?

elba

October 21, 2014 at 2:32 am

My Relationship
Length: 7 yrs…8 next week…hopefully
My problem: trust, passive, can’t let go, a bit insecure, “too many feelings”
His problem: believes my feelings= an argument or a problems, avoidance, 3 jobs, no time for me
Our problems: lack of compromising and communication, pride, trust, friends

Recently, I’ve been feeling angry and upset and would just like to talk to him but about the relationship. He says he has no time for it and does not want to argue. I ask do you want to be with me because you’re not acting like it. No answer. I believed it was over. I called the next day…no success in conversation as I wanted to fix the relationship. I kept on being dismissed by being cut off when I speak and cursed at for no reason. I said look “where you’re at and look where I’m at” pertaining to goals in life and I have not heard from him since and have been blocked by phone for about 5 days. How long should I be patient?. I’ll be meeting with his sister to get an outsiders perspective in how I should understand him better. Is that a good idea when he does not know about this?
Anonymous

October 15, 2014 at 12:44 am

Chris,
My ex and I dated for almost 2 years and I was his first girlfriend. We broke up because he believed I wasn’t the one. I had graduated college and he still had two more years so I guess it makes sense. We were still on good terms until the summer then he started getting mean and trying to make me jealous of another girl who he claimed to really like but she rejected him months prior. When I saw him, I made sure I looked good and followed some of your suggestions in getting a healthier lifestyle. However, when he/my ex saw me, he moped around all weekend, avoided me, then partially blocked me (only SnapChat) the day after I left. I have since then completed the 30 day NC rule and he has not unblocked me or tried to contact me. It has been over a month since he blocked me on Snapchat. I know it’s only an application block but Snapchat is more personal than Facebook I think. The decision of whether or not to talk to him is driving me crazy especially since it’s been over a month of no contact and even though he’s single, I feel like time is running out. I guess my question is, do you believe that there is there any hope to me trying to talk to him or get him back or should I just leave him alone and let him be mad/emotional at me and move on?

admin

October 27, 2014 at 2:35 pm

Leave him be for right now.

Like you said, you are only blocked through snapchat so its no big deal.

kary

October 13, 2014 at 4:33 am

So I found out that my ex wrote about me online so I broke my 30 day rule. And I text him and told him it hurt me that he did that. He responded with he was hurt by me breaking up with him and that he needs space from me. Which is fine. But does the fact that responded to me show me anything? Or am I just over thinking. Also he took down his post that he wrote about me.
andrea

October 8, 2014 at 11:04 pm

What if he blocks you right after he broke up with you? I think he blocked me right at the moment when we were face to face because he did something on his phone. Like, i didn’t even beg or plead, obviously i did right after two days which is bad. I called him from another number and asked if we could talk later, he said yes but i called and called and he never answered me. We were together for a year and 4 months..we had a lot of firsts in our relationship, it was really serious but by the end it got rocky.
either way,
I’ve stopped begging and pleading to get some closure because hes not giving me any, hes not giving me answers.
He broke up with me because said he lost a connection but i think he was just confused about his feelings. Or maybe he thought we would keep on fighting, He would tell me he wants to be with me just to tell me 30 min later he doesnt think its fair to be with me when he doesnt feel the same?
so many things he said i dont even know.
I just started NC but i really get the need to talk to him.

admin

October 9, 2014 at 1:44 pm

Hes just reacting to the emotions that go along with the breakup most likely.

Mac

October 8, 2014 at 10:12 pm

Hi Chris,

I am still in shock because my boyfriend broke up with me without reasson. The day before he was confirming our assistance to a wedding in 3 months and telling me how happy he was… he even gave me flowers! Next day he exploted for something really stupid and brough up some discussions we had (he said before he was over of those issues and everything was perfect). I didn’t understand all that anger… was out of this world. He blocked me in everyway. What do I suppose to do? I just don’t understand anything. Do I have to wait for a call? I think this is a very particular case… I even think that maybe he is bipolar or something. So confusing. .. thanks

admin

October 9, 2014 at 1:42 pm

Your going to have to give me more.

I dont think he is over those issues quite yet…

Anon

October 8, 2014 at 3:57 am

Hello!

My ex unfollowed me on Instagram and after some time he texted me but after that conversation he blocked me on Instagram. Then I ran into him at an event last weekend that he knows I go to every year and we hugged and talked a bit…but he cut the convo short. That same night he blocked me on Facebook which we aren’t friends on. He hasn’t blocked my number. Is he trying to get a reaction from me? Should I still continue no contact?

admin

October 8, 2014 at 1:12 pm

Definitely seems to be trying to get a reaction.

Kary

October 8, 2014 at 2:25 am

Hi Chris, I broke up with my ex a little over a month ago. And for a while we still had contact but we got into a huge fight over 3 weeks ago and he eventually blocked me out completely. I found contact with him recently and he let me talk for 5 minutes but then he mumbled something and hung up on me. I haven’t contacted him since. Should I just leave this all alone and move on? Or just wait for him to contact me again?

admin

October 8, 2014 at 1:08 pm

I think you are pushing too much too soon. Give him time to calm down a bit first.

What was your huge fight over?
kary

October 8, 2014 at 11:53 pm

The fight was over things from the past. When we initially broke up he didn’t say much. It almost felt as if he exploded all over the place. He let out everything he hasn’t let out before. How long should I wait to try to talk to him again? I am trying the 30 day no contact rule right now.
admin

October 9, 2014 at 1:44 pm

30 days!

Tom

October 7, 2014 at 7:09 pm

Hi Chris

My ex-boyfriend dumped me without giving me a good reason. We had promised that we will give each other a valid reason when we end the relationship. It lasted for 9 months. Out of these months, we were physically together for 5. He was all loving and caring but suddenly his attitude started changing after a row between him and I.

Anyways, later on I found out that he never loved me and was playing games. He was after his selfish sexual (and financial) interests. When he saw that he is not getting neither from me, he decided to move on and Boy did he move on? That lucky bastard had been cheating with me throughout our relationship while I (like an idiot) kept adoring him and remain monogamous. He easily found dozens of men he liked (his type is such) while I still struggle to find one decent man even as just a friend.

I didn’t handle this nicely. I pleaded, acted needy, desperate, was willing to take extreme measures, cried, cussed him and continuously contacted him (excessively) begging for his lost love and attention [all the while giving him confidence boost]. I felt jealous of the thought of him loving so many other men. I have suffered huge amount of pain and suffering from him in the last couple of months. Everything turned a 180 degrees turn. He just wasn’t the same person. He acted like a selfish jerk who only looked after his interest and never did a single thing to assuage my pain. However, he wanted to be a friend but he has never officially apologized.

Many times I have cussed him and withdrawn from him for few days. Only to be the first one to break that “no contact”. He knows my weakness. He knows he is gorgeous and knows many stupid idiots like me are at his finger tips.

A week ago, he sort of “came back” to me with my persistence and offered something of a deal. It wasn’t a relationship or love but an offer for a loose relationship where he promised to try to curb his cheating inclinations and try to rediscover the “love” that he has lost for me. After we agreed, the next day he didn’t say anything about the terms and condition and said, instead, to go with the flow. I asked him if he wanted me to be monogamous and then he said “who am I to stop you from dating other guys”. I said if this is a relationship, you should stop me and I stop you. Then there were other indications that this offer was just a scam. I get infuriated and told him off a couple of days later. He took that as an insult and decided to end everything and threatened me to block me from all apps and never to contact him ever.

I realized my mistake but couldn’t say much to him. As I pushed him away from me further. I remained quiet and not tried to contact him. 3 days later, I texted him a genuine apology. The day he received it, he thanked me for realizing my mistakes and decided that he can’t be a friend either to me and that he was blocking me from viber/whatsapp/email/sms/phone and even from his heart. He said that he hated me. That was quite a big slap in my face. Knowing that he was never truthful about any dealings with me and never communicated his true feelings for me. And has hurt me 10 times more than he has [it is a long story].

So my question is that is he playing games? Playing hard to get? He didn’t block me from facebook and skype. Two days ago, I contacted him via skype chat. He acted like he doesn’t know who I was and when I told him my name. He said “oh, i am going to block you now”. I pleaded (I hate myself for that) again not to and reminded me to read my facebook message. In this message, I attempted to put things in the right perspective by telling him exactly how and where he has hurt me, used me and basically shown him how bad he has been. So he knows that the hurt that I have given him is so miniscule in comparison to what damage he has done to me (Yes he had done a great damage. Topic for another blog). On my insistence, he sent me the greetings on the festival because I had sent him one as well.

Do you think it is the lost case? Would things change if I follow no-contact? I don’t know why I don’t want to get over him although there are clear indications that he is not a good man and just a user/player.

admin

October 8, 2014 at 12:56 pm

Well, history is not on your side since he initially played games at the beginning.

Tell me, has he given you a good reason to think he has changed?
Tom

October 9, 2014 at 1:12 am

Since the last post, I couldn’t keep myself from contacting him. Few days ago he blocked me from all apps, hurting me deeply. Ever since then, I had lost my inner peace. That rejection is affecting my attitude towards my loved ones. I have had mixed feelings of love, hatred, jealousy and revenge. I was very disturbed. He was adding to that frustration by constantly rejecting my approaches for reconciliation. I also used this time to think about all the reasons he is not good fit for me but still I can’t get over him. Yesterday I sent him a message that we should talk and try to remove any misunderstandings and either continue or end it amicably so none of us have any grudges against each other.

Today I called him and surprisingly, he picked up my phone and was willing to talk to me on Skype but was also a little reluctant. Eventually we talked and talked for 3 hours. I tried to maintain my calm and cool. He did the same thing. I said sorry. We first did a lovely chat as we used to do and then slowly I came to the point. His complain was that I don’t trust him and I told him the reasons why. I reminded him that I had always been right about my gut feelings and you had not been honest. We both exchanged our concerns. I told him to be a friend, you should at least be comfortable enough with me to share the truth. I would appreciate his honesty even if he has cheated. He shared a lot of stuff about him. About the guy who swept him off his feet, about his other gay friends and lot of stuff came to the surface this time. It was really good. I really enjoyed talking to him. The only sad part was the guy. He was dating this guy while he was still in relationship with me and I didn’t not know. Had he not been rejected by that guy, he would have dumped me and I would have been devastated probably would have become an atheist since I had prayed to God to only gift me with one man (who was my type 120%) who also loved me. I guess my prayers were answered partially.

Upto the last fight, I was hoping that I strike some sort of relationship with him (with some degree of openness) try to be in the same city with him so that our bond increases. But now with the realization of this 3rd guy, I am confused. My ex is really swept off by this guy. This 3rd guy has dumped my ex and found himself a boyfriend.

It is a painful realization. My “ex” at this point doesn’t see m as his date/boyfriend. He wants to be an internet buddy but he did make a reference that he did have my picture in his mobile phone which he would look. I don’t know what he meant by that.

I have at least made him realize that playing with others feelings is not good. That he should be honest about his motivations from the start. If he wants only sex, then let it be known to them. He says he is curbing his homosexual side and is only having sex when he can’t control it any more. He is bisexual.

He also made a confession that he had an old boyfriend which he occasionally goes for sex. Now that I am thinking about he, I have a feeling that he used me as a rebound relationship to feel good about him. His boyfriend had dumped him.

Vow today’s meeting was a quite a revelation!!! Man I have been so dumb and stupid. This was my very first experience at a “relationship”. I have been used thru and thru.

I am lost for words. I need advice. I need support. I am really sad and crying at my fate. Please email me at [email protected]

I am not attractive to many people. I have been rejected for various reasons: not young enough, not muscular enough, no bear enough, not macho enough, too fat, too thin, not-an-asian, not-a-white. The last one is interested on super-fat guys. So now I am not fat enough. I have approached many people, but nothing comes of that. I have been sexless and loveless for a very long time. I don’t have many suitors to choose from. That is why I am being so clingy to him cause I will not find anyone better than him. In fact, he is the best I got. He is really handsome.
admin

October 9, 2014 at 1:45 pm

I have to say, you definitely need to find some more confidence in yourself. How are others going to see you as confident if you don’t even think that about yourself?

Christie

October 7, 2014 at 2:56 pm

Hi Chris,

First of all I would like to say thanks for writing such an insightful article from a man’s point of view. So long story short, I had a really bad breakup. We were not meeting up for a couple of months and a text message prompting a breakup came to me out of the blue (fyi we did not even had any argument prior to leaving each other). his reasons being he just can’t accept that we’ve got different religion, culture, and principle. the relationship lasted more than two years. you can’t imagine how angry I am, he knew all those differences right off the bat and suddenly got fanatic about his beliefs and chickened out? You just don’t do that and end things as you please, no discussions, no nothing. (he wasn’t religious back then, suddenly religion is all he’s ever talked about and back then I didn’t even complained or disagree about it, in fact it’s good that someone that you care is in pursue of spirituality which is imo not a bad thing).

He did a full block out on me and since we’re both stationed in different cities, i really have limited options to get back at him. what’s even more infuriating is that even his mom blocked me on social media. what joke. and to think that his parents knew what their son could do to a woman just makes me feel angrier (we were pretty close to the point that we’re both comfortable with each other’s family). I really don’t feel fair that someone could end an relationship so unceremoniously like that and still have the guts to block me and all. I’m still so pissed not only at him but also at myself every time I think of it.

So, instead of asking you how I can get together with him again, I want to ask if there’s any possibilities I could get myself a little revenge at all (I’m childish, mean and petty like that). ps- may have a possibility to meet him in some conference next year + I still talk and meet our mutual friend that still keep in touch with him (which is just 1 person), the rest of the mutual friends he knew through me I just realized. and none of them keep in contact with him.

admin

October 8, 2014 at 12:42 pm

Maybe he got scared of a deper commitment.

Why would you want revenge?

Hahaha Live well.. thats the best revenge.

Rachel

October 6, 2014 at 3:55 pm

It’s been over a month and I’m still blocked on his phone and I’m not on facebook nor do we have mutual friends. The last thing I want is to make him think I’m pathetic by contacting him via email. And I wouldn’t even know what to say without looking foolish. Obviously If I’m still blocked it means he could care less and never wants to hear from me again. Correct?

admin

October 7, 2014 at 1:33 pm

Well, I would wait a little while and then maybe try the email route.
Rachel

October 8, 2014 at 2:37 am

It’s been over a month though…longer than the no contact benchmark. He either has kept me blocked intentionally or cares so little that he’s forgotten I’m blocked (that I exist). How much longer is “a little”? And what would I even say without appearing ridiculous based on one of the two reasons I’m still blocked? Seems impossible 🙁
Rachel

October 8, 2014 at 9:56 pm

Anyone?
admin

October 9, 2014 at 1:40 pm

? Whats up?
Rachel

October 10, 2014 at 3:09 am

It’s been over a month though…longer than the no contact benchmark. He either has kept me blocked intentionally or cares so little that he’s forgotten I’m blocked (that I exist). How much longer is “a little”? And what would I even say without appearing ridiculous based on one of the two reasons I’m still blocked? Seems impossible 🙁

Kathryn

October 5, 2014 at 5:19 pm

Chris,
What if your ex blocks you because he still has feelings for you but doesn’t want to anymore and wants to move on? I think that might be my situation.

admin

October 6, 2014 at 12:02 pm

What makes you say that?
Kathryn

October 6, 2014 at 3:53 pm

Because we had a really meaningful relationship and we’ve been broken up for a year but have never really been out of each other’s lives. We had an amicable break up but during the summer he started trying to make me jealous of another girl and then when I saw him a few months later, he seemed miserable that I was there and then he blocked me on an iPhone application but not on Facebook. Unless he actually hates me, why would he do that after a year of being broken up when he broke up with me in the first place? I haven’t been the begging, sad ex girlfriend or done anything to annoy him, I don’t think. We hadn’t been texting, Facebook messaging or snap chatting either. As you said, blocking is an emotional response and that it’s because I annoy him in some way. I figured that if he blocked me after not really talking that much in first place, he has to feel something. What do you think about it?
admin

October 7, 2014 at 1:32 pm

You hit it right on the head, if he blocks you like that he has to be feeling something.
Kathryn

October 8, 2014 at 12:34 am

It’s been over 30 days since he blocked me and we have not been in contact. Do you think I should just wait out the block or is it overall a lost cause and I should give up on it?

jiya

October 1, 2014 at 7:07 pm

Juss sent u an emailll . Plz check

admin

October 3, 2014 at 2:17 pm

Ok!

Magnolia

September 30, 2014 at 10:10 am

Hi Chris!

My ex blocked me full block 8 days ago, for a reason I find extremely exagerated, just for me doing something with a friend of mine he dislikes. He gets angry everytime I do something he does not “approve” and makes things to punish me although he does not recognize it this way. He has blocked me on the whatsapp 4 or 5 times before, and once he blocked me full too, but all these times he unblocked me when several days passed. And he never blocked me for the sms before. In all the previous occasions I begged him to please unblock, and since I felt that he somehow liked that, I always went out of my ways to beg him to unblock me and he always did so.

But this last time he has blocked me on whatssap, phone and sms (and maybe even email).

We have been in a relationship for 2 years, but it was a kind of a power game and at the beginning I had the strong part, but since he required from me to give in about things and I gave in for quite a lot of them, and on the other hand, I lied to him for some trifles (not cheating on him, just lying about things I wanted to do but knew he would disaprove and have a row about, and I didn’t feel like this), so the relation got more and more unequal and at the end I was almost always just trying to please him in anyway, and he every time exacted more and gave less.

So I started NC two days after he blocked me (6 days now), and well, what do you think? Will it work in my case?

Thanks!

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