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Rachel
October 6, 2014 at 3:55 pm
It’s been over a month and I’m still blocked on his phone and I’m not on facebook nor do we have mutual friends. The last thing I want is to make him think I’m pathetic by contacting him via email. And I wouldn’t even know what to say without looking foolish. Obviously If I’m still blocked it means he could care less and never wants to hear from me again. Correct?
admin
October 7, 2014 at 1:33 pm
Well, I would wait a little while and then maybe try the email route.
Rachel
October 8, 2014 at 2:37 am
It’s been over a month though…longer than the no contact benchmark. He either has kept me blocked intentionally or cares so little that he’s forgotten I’m blocked (that I exist). How much longer is “a little”? And what would I even say without appearing ridiculous based on one of the two reasons I’m still blocked? Seems impossible š
Rachel
October 8, 2014 at 9:56 pm
Anyone?
admin
October 9, 2014 at 1:40 pm
? Whats up?
Rachel
October 10, 2014 at 3:09 am
Itās been over a month thoughā¦longer than the no contact benchmark. He either has kept me blocked intentionally or cares so little that heās forgotten Iām blocked (that I exist). How much longer is āa littleā? And what would I even say without appearing ridiculous based on one of the two reasons Iām still blocked? Seems impossible š
Kathryn
October 5, 2014 at 5:19 pm
Chris,
What if your ex blocks you because he still has feelings for you but doesn’t want to anymore and wants to move on? I think that might be my situation.
admin
October 6, 2014 at 12:02 pm
What makes you say that?
Kathryn
October 6, 2014 at 3:53 pm
Because we had a really meaningful relationship and we’ve been broken up for a year but have never really been out of each other’s lives. We had an amicable break up but during the summer he started trying to make me jealous of another girl and then when I saw him a few months later, he seemed miserable that I was there and then he blocked me on an iPhone application but not on Facebook. Unless he actually hates me, why would he do that after a year of being broken up when he broke up with me in the first place? I haven’t been the begging, sad ex girlfriend or done anything to annoy him, I don’t think. We hadn’t been texting, Facebook messaging or snap chatting either. As you said, blocking is an emotional response and that it’s because I annoy him in some way. I figured that if he blocked me after not really talking that much in first place, he has to feel something. What do you think about it?
admin
October 7, 2014 at 1:32 pm
You hit it right on the head, if he blocks you like that he has to be feeling something.
Kathryn
October 8, 2014 at 12:34 am
It’s been over 30 days since he blocked me and we have not been in contact. Do you think I should just wait out the block or is it overall a lost cause and I should give up on it?
jiya
October 1, 2014 at 7:07 pm
Juss sent u an emailll . Plz check
admin
October 3, 2014 at 2:17 pm
Ok!
Magnolia
September 30, 2014 at 10:10 am
Hi Chris!
My ex blocked me full block 8 days ago, for a reason I find extremely exagerated, just for me doing something with a friend of mine he dislikes. He gets angry everytime I do something he does not “approve” and makes things to punish me although he does not recognize it this way. He has blocked me on the whatsapp 4 or 5 times before, and once he blocked me full too, but all these times he unblocked me when several days passed. And he never blocked me for the sms before. In all the previous occasions I begged him to please unblock, and since I felt that he somehow liked that, I always went out of my ways to beg him to unblock me and he always did so.
But this last time he has blocked me on whatssap, phone and sms (and maybe even email).
We have been in a relationship for 2 years, but it was a kind of a power game and at the beginning I had the strong part, but since he required from me to give in about things and I gave in for quite a lot of them, and on the other hand, I lied to him for some trifles (not cheating on him, just lying about things I wanted to do but knew he would disaprove and have a row about, and I didn’t feel like this), so the relation got more and more unequal and at the end I was almost always just trying to please him in anyway, and he every time exacted more and gave less.
So I started NC two days after he blocked me (6 days now), and well, what do you think? Will it work in my case?
Thanks!
Jeni
September 17, 2014 at 6:03 pm
Hi Chris! Thank you for this great page! I wanna ask you, about my story – I have open relationship 3 years. At first time he says: “only for sex”, but I have feelings and tell him that I`m in love. He realize that and then he left me and blocked me everywhere.. I can`t understand how can he do this. Is it possible that he don`t have feelings?
admin
September 18, 2014 at 4:23 pm
Was he the one who wanted the open relationship?
Jeni
September 18, 2014 at 4:35 pm
First we both wanted this kind of relationship, after all I realize that I`m fall in love..
Jeni
September 19, 2014 at 1:26 pm
Please, Chris. Tell me, I`m at NC from 2 weeks. Can I do something, or stay things happend.
Ely Liscano
September 16, 2014 at 9:25 pm
Hello Chris,
I could not help myself to read your article about exes blocking you from their phones and social media. Funny story, i am going through something pretty similar. I’ve been dating this guy for 5 months, our first 3 months were amazing, he was sweet and caring and would tell me how much he loved me, he would come out of no where with this feelings and i loved that. He was the guy that you would think was the one, the way he treated me and cared for me, he gave me a promise ring for my birthday (which i found a little too much at first) he made promises to me and would tell me that i meant the world to him, that we would last a really long time, that we were genuine and that that he was afraid to lose me, and that he wouldn’t let anyone get between us no matter what. Well we started to have fights lately, all very stupid, regarding communication, and how he was being very distant and would text less, he started saying instead of “Baby good morning have a greta day love you” to “good morning” and when we would text it would be plain, i asked him about it and he said that everything was fined and that i had to chill, he was just busy doing a lot of stuff. he pulled the busy card and I had no choice but believed him. we took a holiday together 2 weeks ago for a week, we had such an amazing time, it was as if everything had disappeared, however during this trip i wanted to talk about us, he totally ignored me and my feelings and said he didnt like to talk about his feelings. he just said that we were still cool and that nothing had changed, after that things were looking a little better. we got back, and he got back to his routine and stop texting for like 2 days in a row. After our amazing trip i thought he would be more caring but nothing. After the 2 days he texted me saying I love you. I was happy to hear that, however something unexpected happened, one of my friend created a fake intagram account and started talking to him on my behalf to find out if he was just not interested anymore. Well everything backfired on me but i had nothing to do with it, I get it i lost his trust but i still dont think is fair since it wasnt my fault. After that he didnt even let me explain and wouldnt pick up my calls or reply to my messages, and when he did he would take a really long time. I was freaking out since i didint know what to do and i really love him. i tried getting help from his friend since they are very close and he is my friend too. But he wasnt helping very much it was as if he wanted us to break up, (i always thought he had a thing for me) so now i dont know what he is being telling him behind my back, but one day his friend send me a picture of a conversation he was having with my boyfriend, where he said to block me and that i wasnt his responsibility. I was so hurt that i started to say how immature he was and how stupid he was for giving up on our relationship, without even letting me explain or him explaining himself about what he wanted to do, he had me waiting for a week, then he texted me saying “whats up” i replied with “i’ve already said what i had to say” he then said “chill” i didnt say anything for like 5 hours then he send me another tex saying “everything will be alright” he obviously didint know that his friend had send me that picture. I didnt know what to do, he kept ignoring my calls and would take very long to text me back. his friend wasnt much of a help he kept telling me to move on, he wouldnt even defend his friend at all. I am so lost because my boyfriend didnt even had the nerve to break up with me or tell me to my face, he just started ignoring me, told his friend to block me (which i still don’t understand why, i mean for all i knew he didint even know he was texting me) after that i find out that he blocked me on instagram and unfriend me on facebook (but he hardly uses facebook) i dont know why he went thought all the trouble of blocking me everywhere, when i didint even do anything and i was just trying to get answers and try to get him to just break up with me face to face. Why do men do this, they show you all this emotion they get you going and show you that they love you, and all of a sudden they are just as cold as a rock, like if they didnt have any feelings at all. I know he was acting immature about the whole situation because he just wouldnt let me explain. also blocking me was a little too much since i wasnt harassing him. Now i know we had a lot of good memories and i think back to how much effort his put into the relationship, why invest so much in a relationship, so much time, money and effort if you gonna throw it all in a blink of an eye? i am still confuse, i love him very much and i want him back i do. Or i least want an explanation to his behaviour and why he broke up with me? what should i do? i really dont know what to do. After he blocked me on instagram and facebook i just assumed he blocked me on his phone too, i havent tried to call him or text him either. how can a guy tell you that he loves you and then ignore you, then after all the fighting tell you that everything is gonna be alright, then ignore you more avoiding my questions and not answering or just solving the problem, then block me, and tell his friend to block me too, even tho he is my friend too and i didnt do anything to him.
admin
September 17, 2014 at 4:53 pm
He just went cold as a rock like overnight???
Ely Liscano
September 18, 2014 at 4:22 pm
yes. he just went cold as a rock on me overnight, without a warning or anything. I was so confused, he wouldnt give me any answers or address my questions. I had so many questions. and the fact that he didnt even break up with me like face to face. It was as if he wanted me to noticed that he was mad. He kept telling his friend to block me but he kept replying to me, like why didnt he block me straight away. I remember asking his friend why he wouldnt just come to me and tell me straight and then block me. I really dont know what to do. I feel like i am in limbo still wondering what happened. I actually dont have a break up story to tell lol
Ely Liscano
September 20, 2014 at 10:03 am
I have another question, do you think that me talking to his friend is not gonna help the no contact rule? he told me he doesnt talk to him about me, and i told him not to tell him anything about me or how im doing. But i dont know if he is telling him stuff. Apparently he told him that the only reason he was still talking to me was because of my other friend, which is a lie.
Cailtin
September 16, 2014 at 3:44 pm
A year ago, my ex broke up with me because he believed that I wasn’t the one. We kept in contact over the school year, maybe a conversation every two weeks or so and we snap chatted all the time. He’s big into Snap Chat. We kind of stopped talking over the summer minus some sporadic conversations. I went up to campus on the weekend of our 1-year anniversary break up (it was our alumni weekend) and he avoided me, moped around, didn’t speak to me, ignored me in public except to give me a hug before I left and then blocked me on Snap Chat the day after, but not Facebook. How is it that he could resent me still after a year? Or that thoughts of me could still annoy him after a full year? I haven’t done anything to upset him.
Cailtin
September 22, 2014 at 10:04 pm
Not recently. The last time we texted was early in August when he needed to borrow something of mine and we hadn’t communicated since. Everything was fine then. I could tell he was uncomfortable when he saw me, like he had feelings for me that he didn’t want to have, if that makes sense. I acted like I was fine. When I saw him a few weeks ago, at the alumni event, I acted like I was having a really good time and he clearly wasn’t. I guess I don’t see why he would block me since he broke up with me in the first place, we hadn’t been talking and I don’t think I did anything outright to upset him. I was wondering if you had any insight.
Cailtin
September 24, 2014 at 9:20 pm
The last time I blocked him on Snap Chat was to try to get over him but I caved after two weeks of having him blocked. So far, he has had me blocked for three weeks now but not on Facebook still.
admin
September 17, 2014 at 4:06 pm
Did you two ever text message back and forth?
Priya
September 6, 2014 at 7:30 pm
Hey Chris,
So I have been following your ‘no contact’ rule for 43 days and he hasn’t messaged me or called me yet. I was in a seven year long distance relationship with this guy and we broke up due to his family reasons. He didn’t block me anywhere during the no contact period but he has been active on instagram. I am guessing he was checking my profile too because he added a pic that was taken by me and had a caption “worst person took this pic (which was me)”. Anyways, but I noticed he blocked me on instagram yesterday which was weird to me. I am not sure why he did that but he didn’t block me in Facebook. And he did not block me in other applications which I think its because he deleted my number! I am so curious to find out whats going on in his mind!
admin
September 15, 2014 at 2:59 pm
SEVEN YEARS LDR??? OMG
What was his reason for the breakup?
Priya
September 16, 2014 at 3:35 am
He wants me to convert in order to marry him and my family never agreed. He told me he tried to convince his parents to accept me but it never worked. But I feel he never fought for me in the first place while I was always pretty strong with my decision to marry him regardless of his religion. I tried to make him understand about my situation but he kept on forcing me to convert. I felt too much pressure and called him, told him not to contact me unless you can accept me as who I am just like how I accepted you .. And he never called me since that day… He actually started to hate me as I can see with all this comments and actions … so I am deeply hurt by all this and I am not even sure what will happen! š
Priya
September 7, 2014 at 1:34 am
Oh yea… after blocking me on instagram …he puts a pic of another girl and gives a caption “I want a girl like this ..I can’t believe i was with an ugly girl all this time” … wits the point of doing this if i can’t see the pic? his intention was to hurt me i believe.
P.S. my friend came across that pic and told me about it š
Priya
September 7, 2014 at 4:56 am
Also do you think I should message him? Because everyone is telling me to just message him and get it over with :/
nonys
September 6, 2014 at 3:56 am
Blocked my ex after a bad fight on whatsapp and after 2 days I see that he blocked me back. He said some really mean and degrading things right before I blocked him so I didn’t take it and talked back to him and broke things off and it just made me sick having to deal with him being suspicious over what I think are little things when Im not doing anything (such as using my words in a way where he’ll think i let something slip or me not picking up the phone or me not receiving a txt from him) he has not been perfectly faithful throughout the time we were together, yet he would also put me through hell over things when it came to me. I know that in the long run this relationship wouldnt be a strong happy relationship after the continuous struggles we’ve had. I used to be so depressed and pine after him whenever things happened between us, but now Im just disturbed and kind of oddly confused (I dont know if I should use the word confused or spazzed, but basically just kind of like an electric shock had just hit you and you’re kind of just in a very odd weird what state). i think it just feels weird having a bridge so badly burned in my life because im usually a friendly person that just gets along with friends and i dont like the feeling of drama and negative endings that last. It’s also like Im not with him but Im still paranoid about certain things as if we are. we also share mutual friends and have mutual acquaintances which just makes things even more complicated to deal with (of course people are going to eventually notice).
admin
September 15, 2014 at 2:44 pm
What do you mean by not being perfectly faithful? What did he do?
Merry
September 4, 2014 at 2:12 pm
We had a difficult 3 years relationship and many times used NC and it works for me. But yesterday I was admitted that I love him and want to deepen relations, he rejected me and told me that he doesn’t love me and will doing me a favor by blocking me. And he do it on Facebook and wish me luck.
I am powerless to do anything because I really love him and wanna fight for this love or just give up.
admin
September 5, 2014 at 11:58 am
Do you still have his number.
Merry
September 5, 2014 at 12:06 pm
Yes, I have his phone number. But what is the matter, if he don`t want to see me. Maybe he feels me like a crazy girl, obsessed about him :/
admin
September 15, 2014 at 2:19 pm
B/c you aren’t fully blocked by him if he hasn’t blocked your number.
Rose
September 4, 2014 at 3:38 am
My ex is weird as heck. We went from him saying he wanted our relationship to be his last relationship, wanting to buy a condo together, spending christmas with his family, going to baby showers and weddings together to just walking away like nothing happened. He claimed I was too defensive and he always seemed to be pushing my buttons. About 3 months of no contact after our breakup I passed by to drop off something he left in my apartment. I just dropped it off and left. That weekend I asked if he wanted to meet up so we could talk because the breakup left me with more questions than answers. He said, “if this is about us, I should let you know I am seeing someone”. Then a week later we came face to face in the subway and he walked past me like he never knew me. 2 months later he messages me to tell me it was never his intent to disrespect me and hes sorry and if there are any other questions I have I should just ask. So he answers a couple questions and I realized that I should probably apologize for my side of things. I apologized, he didn’t respond. I thought maybe my one-sentence apology was “too little too late” so I wrote him an email explaining my behaviour in the past and apologizing again and I said I’d respect his need for space, but if he ever wanted to talk I’m here to listen, and that hopefully one day we can at least be friends. He deleted me off of Google+ and a few days later off of Facebook. I don’t get how my apology provoked him to delete me off of everything. I thought I was doing something positive by taking responsibility for my actions…
admin
September 4, 2014 at 12:28 pm
Possibly reminded him of how much he is hurt and him being hurt
Rose
September 4, 2014 at 3:41 am
Correction: He deleted me from his circles on Google+ then blocked me on Facebook a few days later.*
Linda
August 22, 2014 at 7:03 am
Hey, Chris. Very informative article, depressing but I prefer the truth and you were indeed truthful. My situation seems to be a little different from the usual. My ex and I have broken up a total of four times but this time I have been blocked from all his social sites and phone. We have had very good conversations and when things are good between us they are really good. I’ve always been a determined girl so I’ve always been the type to fight for the things I want. We are very similar and like, the only major difference is our beliefs. He has always been skeptical about pursuing a relationship with me. The first three times we tried dating, what we wanted or expected from each other weren’t clear but in the fourth try we decided to go all in, no restrictions. Despite our difference in beliefs we were very alike. What I don’t understand is why was I always giving up more and fighting more to make things work. I even considered converting. He knew my parents wouldn’t except but I didnt care because I knew if he was all I had, I’d been content. Anyway, our last break up he urged me to move on and find someone else to love because he didnt want to be with me because it hurt so much. I’m hurt too, but I never rejected him as much as he did me. He said he will always love me but talking to me was always too painful. He blocked me and deleted his accounts and a few days later called my phone (maybe attempting to block) and when I called back I was blocked. Will he come back or is he really done! He said this was the last time We would talk and believes that our numerous of breakups for a sign. He said he will never love again, which I find it hard to believe because he was really sensitive and talked a lot but would always go back on his words and feelings. but this one feels different. He said he cried every time he thinks of me, and that he just wanted a relationship that wasn’t complicated. I don’t think no relationship is uncomplicated, all require work and communication and patience. I don’t have his number anymore. Do you think I should move on?
admin
August 25, 2014 at 12:03 pm
Probably because he loved the fact that a girl loved him so much she was willing to convert or do things like that.
blake
September 1, 2014 at 3:53 pm
Hey chris, So i was living together for one year and 6 months with my boyfriend of 2years and half. we started off long distance and it didnt work out, to make it work, when we got back together we moved to my city, transferred college and left his family. This one year and half has been amazingly exciting and happy, despite all the arguments we have about stupid things. I know we are both too young, we are still trying to figure out lives out and in the process of learning how to treat the one you love. I left the country for 1 month and half, and he as well went back to visit his family in another state. 10 days before my flight coming home, he texted me that he needed a break, and he refused to have a phone conversation with me, so the break up texts turn into a texts war. In the end he said do not contact him, he wants to be friends with me from a distance, and he will find me when he is ready. I havent called, when i arrived home i saw that he took all of his stuff and left me a mess, based on what he told my friends, he is angry at me tho i dont know what the hell he could be angry about. 2 weeks later i texted and asked “what is the password to the….” and he blocked me. it has been 21 days, i havent really reach out because i feel very disappointed and hurt of course. I am doing this no contact thing. but i feel like he is even going to block my phone number if i try to reach out at the end of my 30 days period. One fact that i know, he loves me to death and he would want to have another chance with me in the future, but of course, He is a IDIOT! to handle thing in this ridiculous way! Do i still reach out? or do i wait infinitely until this idiot realize that he fucked up big time? And if i do reach out, would i be too much that i just fly there and go talk to his stupid ass?
admin
September 2, 2014 at 1:27 pm
I say wait until he realizes what he lost š
Linda
August 22, 2014 at 7:18 am
A little extra info, we’ve only known each other for approximately 4 months! All of this happened in a 4 month time frame.
msnikki
August 17, 2014 at 7:10 am
my bf broke up with me last aug 10th, i kinda provoke him by making him jealous. and i feel bad about it and i know it is not a smart thing to do. but he said he is done with our fighting.after he broke up with me, he unfriend me on facebook but didnt block me, he just blocked me on instagram, i can still see his profile because its on public and he is still friends with my friends, and he havent deleted the pictures that we had, not sure if he blocked me on his phone, i havent tried calling him, the last day we texted was sunday after that he didnt text anymore, i texted him again on wed then again on friday, then today saturday. i just told him i didnt go out with the guy hes being jealous of.. he didnt reply any of these messages, im not gonna text him tomorrow till next week, the whole week, its his finals i dont want to distract him and its my finals too, im still friends with him on snap chat but the 3 pictures that i sent he havent open it yet, and im still friends with him on skype, i can see hes online.
,, so im not sure if hes doing this for revenge and give me a lesson, this is the longeat time were fighting. 1wk and longest time he ignored him, before we broke up and we didnt talk for 5 days, but he never blocked me like this before. is it a bad idea to got to hia place next week? and after no contact? i wiil talk to him to work it out but if not i just want my stuffs back and ill return the things he gave to me, because i dont want any memory of him while im
moving on. so im 50/50 on this, im still hoping we’ll get back together but idk if he will.. š they say he will come back he just needs space so his anger will settle down but idk
sam
August 14, 2014 at 1:22 pm
hi there , well my boyfriend block me but he just recently unblock me from facebook , I been block for only three weeks and I find out about it cus the picture I was tag start appering in my profile and I check his profile after that and it looks he have all our pics together in all his facebook , what is the meaning of that , should I contact him or wait a little more to see if he reach me , and my no contact rule finish the 17 of this month plz help
admin
August 15, 2014 at 2:31 pm
Wait, he blocked you and then unblocked you?
Rayann
August 13, 2014 at 7:25 pm
I’ve been blocked on Facebook and WhatsApp, and I’m pretty sure he blocked my phone too. My ex and I had a really good relationship, but he recently made the decisions to move quite far away. He said he has been trying to come and see me, but he’s just too busy with everything that has been going on in his life, so I gave him plenty of space and time. I felt like I was being super supportive. Anyways, I decided to show up at his house after 6 weeks of no being able to get together to see him. That’s when he told me that he just can’t see anyone right now because his life is upside down. He said he would come and have lunch with me the next day. When he didn’t show I asked what happened and he through a hissy fit, saying that showing up at his house was disrespectful. I think he is playing the victim, like I hurt him by forcing him to break up with me. The next morning he blocked me, although I hadn’t tried to get in touch with him, I thought it was best to let him cool off. He moves in 2 weeks, and I’m not sure if I’m ever going to see him again, but because everything was good in our relationship I was hoping we could remain friends. Was planning on going no contact anyways, but I’m wondering if once he gets settled in his new location if he will eventually unblock me. I guess I just have to wait and see if he ever gets in touch.
Rayann
August 14, 2014 at 4:09 pm
I guess my question is, do some men choose to block their ex-gfs in the No Contact Rules Phase in order to prevent even indirect contact, such as checking out their facebook profiles? I think he may have done this with an ex-gf before and they are now friends again (even though she cheated on him). Once his anger settled, he got back in touch with her.
admin
August 15, 2014 at 2:35 pm
I don’t think its out of the realm of possibility
Rayann
August 19, 2014 at 11:19 pm
Update: He has unblocked me on his phone and on Whats App (if he had indeed blocked me on those at all, I never actually tried contacting him on them as I am maintaining no contact). The block on facebook still remains, to my current knowledge. It’s only been a week. I am confident he will unblock me once his move is complete and he has settled in. I think this measure is just for himself, so he can maintain focus. He has so much going on right now.
anne
August 13, 2014 at 3:44 am
Hi chris,
My ex blocked me in whatsapp and other txt msging apps for a week now. His been lying to me the whole entire time of our relationship I can consider him a slimeball liar. He lied to make himself look good. Ok i will tell u lil bit about myself I have a degree, have my own lil business and stable.. his in the Navy so we kinda have long distance relationship but most of the time I was the one who always adjusting time to see him. I found out recently that his been friends with random woman on Facebook and when i asked him about it he said it’s not a big deal but then he refused to add me for some dumb reason but since i love him so i kinda brushed it off but I have instinct that his been cheating on me with bar girls or strippers every time he was going somewhere on his deployment/training but I have no evidence to prove but my instinct was bugging me that he was doing something behind my back. Every time I say something about my instinct he always telling me I’m dillusional, crazy and Paranoid. I told one of my friend about this (we have no common friends)… and she helped me to find the truth so we waited a month to adding people in his contact that way it won’t look suspicious..so after a month we add my ex bf and bcuz my friend was so cute and they have mutual friends now so he didn’t refused to accept it.then my friend found bunch of pics of him w a girl getting cozy and sitting on his lap and etc …my friend checked the date of when and where the girl posted the pics and found some evidence..
I message him on when and where his been on that date and he said on training (he was in Thailand that time ) the training suppose to be in Guam like he said… so i was mad and sent him all the info i got from that girl Facebook and right away he blocked me on whatsapp and all text apps and never say a word and he contacted the girl to delete those pics on facebook so it was gone now but I saved it for evidence… he hide all his stuff like pics and friend list..he made it too private that only his friendlist can see but he didn’t blocked me on his Facebook but he blocked my friend.
Right now his always offline on whatsapp (cuz i changed the number that he blocked ; so i get a new number and I can see his offline all the time ) he never go offline his always chatting… I don’t know what his thinking now… before this incident happen we were planning on trip together to Macau this month. . I feel like I’m his number 1 b_tch bcuz I’m classy and educated while those girls he can replaced right away.
is he devastated and ashamed of himself so much now that he deleted all of his apps and only keep whatsapp but he rarely go online now. for some reason i am worried because i do not want this to affect his training or school. I am not depress it was actually a relief for me to find out the truth just worried about him that’s it.
admin
August 13, 2014 at 2:22 pm
I don’t think your crazy or paranoid at all.
It’s weird that he won’t add you on Facebook and you are dating…. no, that’s UNHEARD of.
anne
August 14, 2014 at 1:15 pm
The main reason he won’t add me on Facebook because I know he has bunch of random girls and he said his friendly and I’m not. But when I caught his pictures from other girls facebook he hide his profile right away and blocked me on what’s app and other text apps. And when i changed my number he still in my contacts and he him online once in a while that’s it. He always chatting and why after he got caught he avoided people already. Just weird ! Is he hurt and ashamed or he just don’t care?
Athulya Babu
August 13, 2014 at 3:14 am
Hi,
I’m confused I broke up with my bf recently and after the breakup we had a bad fight and now he has blocked me on watsapp but put me on restriction in FB. I couldn’t take it. I deactivated my fb account..I haven’t spoken to him aince. And he said he doesn’t give a damn what I do because he feels I moved. On too fast. All I did was flirt around a little and met a guy too for coffee. But after the fight he keeps enquiring with my friend how I’m doing. Why so? Its not like I want him back as my boy friend. But at least talking terms. What do you suggest? I Dont want to run behind him because it just pushes him away. Should I just keep quiet for a few weeks and see what’s going to happen? Its actually killing me ……..
admin
August 13, 2014 at 2:21 pm
He probably regrets how he handled things after the breakup..
Athulya Babu
August 13, 2014 at 4:09 pm
So what should I do? Ignore him….I so badly want to talk to him…
admin
August 14, 2014 at 11:52 am
Right now… yes.
Cessily
August 8, 2014 at 5:54 pm
Hey Chris , so me and my ex dated for about a year and a half. He broke up with me because he says I’m needy and clingy. I was a texting gnat , always wanted be around him the whole nine. We would have fights and he would ignore me but would come around again.So we broke up 3months ago but we still talked everyday and acted like a couple. After time progressed we got back together , I still was the same person still texting him a millions times when he didn’t respond in 5 mins so he broke up with me again less then a week ago but this time he said he was ready to move on and that he couldn’t have something
New in his life happen if he was holding on to the past. So I said ok, 2 days later he called me and I didn’t answer. When I called him back he said ” oh nevermind I didn’t mean to call you” I said ok again and hung up. After that I did the dumbest thing and texted him and told him I missed him , he said yea it’s crazy he misses me to be it will get better and to trust him. After that I replied and he stop responding so I blew him up saying anything to make him answer. He soon blocked me from ever way to communicate with him. I have been blocked for 3 days now , I know that’s not long but it unusual for him.
So what should I do ? It there still a chance for him to miss me or want me back ? Will he maybe unblock me ? He hasn’t tweeted anything since the day we broke up … Does that mean anything ? Should I just do the no contact , and maybe give him time to miss me.
admin
August 11, 2014 at 11:32 am
I think you should do the NC and just give it a bit of time ok š
April
August 5, 2014 at 9:52 pm
My ex and I have been broken up for about a month, he’s blocked and unblocked me many times in this time frame and I have obviously made the mistake most girls have – being clingy, begging etc.
This time was different. I was unblocked on facebook (we weren’t friends though) and I had been doing NC for a couple of days, but I woke up that morning to two texts from him saying
“I think I’ve really f*cked up my life”
and another an hour later saying
“Ignore that.”
I woke up an hour after I received the last message
I was basically half asleep and the NC rule wasn’t even in my head so I instantly replied saying that he can talk to me if he needs to and is he okay. Majority of the day went through and he hadn’t replied and I was honestly worried sick and pissed that I broke NC so I was in a ‘f*ck it’ mood and messaged him on facebook saying “I understand if you regret sending that text, it was a moment of weakness but can I just atleast know if your okay?”. He replied instantly saying yeah hes fine and then he started talking about how he took a lot of drugs, and it’s mucking him up.
When we were dating he smoked weed (which is illegal here) and took illegal drugs quite a lot. I was a little worried but I trusted him as it didn’t seem like an addiction to me and he didn’t act different at all. But we did argue about it sometimes when we were together since I’m against drugs and weed but I still let him smoke/take them.
He was basically saying he was mentally unstable, he hasnt been home in 3 days, and kept saying he has issues (When we were together he wasn’t like this at all, he was carefree and always making a joke of things). So I tried to give him advice on getting help but he gave the whole “nobody can help me” speech. And I guess my advice was pissing him off so he told me to leave him alone, and that point I was already sucked back in and couldn’t leave him alone. I was worried. And I kept talking to him when he kept saying he wanted to be left alone. I didn’t mean to, I just got so worried and I wanted him to be okay.. And I ended up making myself upset and cried a lot and stupidly mentioned that I miss him. This made him really mad and we ended up arguing. I felt like he hated me or something so I was being needy and I have had a past with self harming and suicidal thoughts and that all came to me. I’m not sure why they came to me, but it did. I’m not the type to be suicidal over a boy leaving me. He knew about this past and I guess it was kinda obvious I had hit rock bottom when talking to him. And I just asked him if we could say something nice to eachother then never talk again and I was sorry for pressuring him to talk about the drugs etc. He ended up saying mean stuff then blocking me everywhere, including my number. I tried calling him loads with no caller ID but he would either ignore it or answer then hang up straight away.
This isn’t really a “How do I get him back”. It’s more of a… Should I even try. I love him a lot and of course we had good times, so many of them. But we also had a lot of bad times and we both have a lot of issues. But I’m at that stage where I feel like I wont find anyone like him. And that I just want him..
I guess, I know this isn’t really your area but I guess I’m just looking for reassurance that I can move on? and I’ll find someone better suited to me?
Sorry if this is a waste of your time
admin
August 6, 2014 at 2:40 pm
The drugs is troubling… Are you sure you want him back?
Jo
August 6, 2014 at 9:12 pm
I am so sorry April and I feel for you. I am in a very similar situation. My ex is confusing me. He blocked me on FB in late June. He had depressed and binging on cocaine and heroin. He ignored my occasional texts to check up on him (I should have left him alone but during girl time I was highly emotional). I did totally leave him alone for awhile and he ended up calling me after a month and a half. He was obviously drunk at very least. He was calling me hon in one breath and swearing at me in the next. He said the last time he was happy was the last time he saw me. We talked for about an hour and he told me several times “text me”, but he has continued to ignore me. He told me he blocked me bc I was needy on my periods and overwhelmed him. But he also overwhelmed me with his suicidal depression and drug use. I want to talk to him again and I don’t want to lose him to another girl…i know he has A LOT of issues and I was only clingy when I was on my period…I really want to fix this…he used to tell me he wanted me to have his baby and marry him someday…I am crushed :/
nat
August 5, 2014 at 6:32 pm
Hi Chris
Me and my 1.5 year bf just broke up last week. It came out of the blue. We were in a long distance for about 9 months. We always texted each other and tried to make skype call everyday.
2 days before the break up he felt lost and sad about he doesn’t know what he wants in his life. He said he’s confused. I’m there to support him on skype and he said he wants to discussed it with his mum.
The conversation was normal apart from hes still confused about his life and he still reassure me that we will work on the relationship together.
He talked to his mum on skype while I was waiting to support him after the talk. But that has never happened he started to blocked me on everything. I tried to call him but I can’t get a hold of him. He blocked me everyway! even on snapchat or google plus that we rarely use. blocked all my friends that he was friend with. and also asked his friends to block me.
Then his mum called me to tell me that he wanted to brake up with me and he’s just very emotional right now and he wished not to speak to me.
I decided to fly back to get to talk to him as I think I deserve an explanation and I know him that he wouldn’t do anything to hurt me. We were like best friends and partners.
I waited for him at his work and we’ve got a sit down and a talk. He seems really painful. It physically hurt him when I asked him what happened. He shaken and cried, which is unexpected he’s never cried. While we saw each other hes the one who can’t connect to his emotions and now it’s just so overwhelming for him.
He told me in the past year he has been trying to make me happy make sure that I’m happy because it hurts him to see me upset and crying when we had an arguments. When went out with his friends he always worry if I’m going to be upset and be home late to skype with me.
I know that it my fault to make him think like that. But for over a year I’ve changed I trusted him more and I actually want him to go out with his friends. But he said he’s too worry anyways he knows that I was fine but he can’t get the picture of me crying and upsetting, they haunted him evrytime he knows that something could make me unhappy.
He told me that he wasn’t confident enough to be himself and tell me about the problem because whatever problems we had we always discuss them together. And this is his problem that he feel not so confident to be true to himself.
he’s not ready to hangout with me and when I asked him the question he started to shake and cry that I needed to hold him and tell him everything is ok which normally he’s the one who does that.
we met a couple times after that talk we had a great time just like when we were together. I gave him the letter tell him how I feel. saying that I actually love him too much so i’ve to let him go that I want him to find himself and actually finding things that actually make him happy.So I’ll just leave that for a while for him to be himself and find his confident again and be that person that he wants to be.
He couldn’t say thank you out loud because his emotions were choking up and he almost cried. We held hand after that for the whole night, we teased each other like normal. at the end of the nigh we hugged and kissed and I cried and he told me thanks for everything. and he glad that i came back and we got to spend time together and it made him so happy.and gave him the great memories that he will never forget
He said he will unblock me in a few months. But he will email me to update his life.
Now I flew back and it feels like it’s over and it kinda hurts me. he said that he will write me a letter that tell me about his feelings and everything for me and will post it to me
What should I do now??
admin
August 6, 2014 at 2:39 pm
How long of long distance?
nat
August 6, 2014 at 2:55 pm
it started last september, then we even started to get closer to each other then i flew back to see my family and him last april for a month so i guess it’s around 10 months.