What To Do If Your Ex Boyfriend Blocks You On (The Phone, Facebook, WhatsApp, Etc)

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Jess

July 9, 2014 at 7:46 pm

Hi Chris,

A few weeks ago received a Full Block Out (phone, apps, facebook, skype, you name it)
His status: super angry and resentful, probably hateful too.
Made the mistake of trying to contact = failure & more blocking.
Will employ the NC for 30 days (or more, will use that time to work on myself and my own goals)
While I do not anticipate being unblocked, the only way for me to contact him after the NC period is email.This isn’t as instant as a text message and it is harder to initiate positive interaction.

Do you have any specifics for what to write in an email, considering the natural delay of emails (not everyone checks them regularly).

I can use a program that allows me to get read notifications which will tell me if he has opened the mail, but again the content of this email will have to somehow engage a willingness to unblock me, for me to eventually be able to text, call or initiate any other form of instant communication.

Any ideas ?

admin

July 10, 2014 at 2:24 pm

Mostly just be friendly, sweet and apologetic for anything that you really did do wrong.
Jess

July 11, 2014 at 10:08 pm

Hi again,

I was not unfaithful, the only thing I did wrong was continue to call and text after he told me he was no longer interested, which got me blocked as it really angered him. (bad break up + long distance does not help matters)
What if he does not respond to the initial message after 3 months, how long should you wait to try again and how long should you keep trying in general ?
admin

July 14, 2014 at 2:55 pm

Hav eyou tried contacting him other than the initial message 3 months ago?
Jess

July 21, 2014 at 5:11 pm

Thank you for responding btw!

sorry typo I meant 30 days (not 3 months)

Status: in NC zone right now.

I am blocked everywhere.

He even changed his phone number. But I found his new number only because the joint bank account that is now closed sends me email updates, it sent me an phone number change update on our profile.

I am afraid of using this new number to reach out to him even after NC… he could get upset or freaked (stalker!?) which will only further justify his decision to end things.

Thoughts ?
admin

July 22, 2014 at 2:15 pm

Ya don’t use the new number to reach out to him. He will think you are a stalker.

Umm… What about Facebook?
Jess

July 24, 2014 at 8:27 pm

Facebook is blocked also…

Complete and total block…

This might be a good new blog subject if a solution can be found ?

Ideas ?
admin

July 25, 2014 at 2:15 pm

Thats kind of why I wrote this post. haha.

gautmi

July 8, 2014 at 11:37 am

Hi chris,
My boyfriend has a tendency of disrespecting me. He says and do things which hurts me and he knws it. Frm last 3yrs, i m accepting dis though i m hurt deeply. I keep telling him that his behaviour towards me is very rude and insulting. But he dont want to change i think. He nvr tells me what he is doing or where he is going. From last 1 yr, he keeps blocking me. He unblocks me whn he wants den blocks me again.
I got so frustrated that i decided not to respond. But den he started contacting me 10 times a day. I ignored him for 5 days but den he sent me a msg saying dat he cant live widout me and is sorry abt his behaviour. He promised to change his behaviour towards me. i accepted his apology just 3 days back. He met me yesterday, everything was fine. I told him yesterday dat i want to meet him today as we hv met after 20 days and i really want to spend time wid him today. He agreed. I cooked for him and waiting but den he msged me dat he is not coming as he is going somewhere. I kept calling and msgng him that it was already decided and i cooked for him. It is not d first time he cancelled on me. He said he is busy and cant talk. But i was trying and by miatake my call got accepted. I hear some noises and figured out that he can talk but not talking to me. Den he found out that my call got accepted By mistake by him, he immediately disconnected. Den blcoked me agn so there would b no mistake.
He was attending every call, it was showing call waiting but it was only me he was ignoring.

However i kept trying his phn, After 5 hours, he sent me a very insulting msg dat “go and fuck ur dad and dont call me”. I cried so badly. He comes to me when he plans it. He ALWAYS cancels my every single plan and dis is really frustrating. Den abv all, he blocks me and talk to everyone except me.

Just 3-4 days back he apologised and today he again did all dis. I am planning to go NC after reading ur guidelines. Please any advice would be helpful.
Loyola

July 4, 2014 at 5:36 pm

Would contacting my ex come across the wrong way?
He had unblocked me for about a week now and has said nothing?
Yes he has, he did so yesterday ! His profile picture is of him alone not with his girl. That’s if they are still together. To be honest I have no idea. On another app which he thought I didn’t know about he had pictures up with her and they were very intimate pictures, not very appropriate as a profile picture.
He had returned before but told me he was not ready, but when he sent me a message a couple of weeks later to congratulate me on passing an exam, I decided not to answer, as he seemed to be playing games and he had thrown himself into a relationship with the other girl. That was when he decided to block me. It’s been 1.5months since he blocked me .

admin

July 7, 2014 at 5:50 pm

It depends on what you say when you contact them.
Loyola

July 10, 2014 at 9:05 pm

Ok so is it better to wait for him to talk to me? What is it I should do?

Em

July 3, 2014 at 2:12 pm

is this the same as he may unfollow you but not block you?

admin

July 7, 2014 at 5:38 pm

I think a lot of the stuff applies still.
Em

July 8, 2014 at 2:47 am

thank you chris!
since he unfollowed me after such a long break up period (nine months) does that mean he doesn’t want to see the stuff i post? i posted a picture on twitter and few moments after he unfollowed.
Em

July 3, 2014 at 2:46 pm

Also if he unfollows me do you i unfollow him or do i leave it and act as if it didn’t happen and have it not bother me
admin

July 7, 2014 at 5:38 pm

Leave it and act as if it didn’t happen.

Loyola

June 29, 2014 at 10:45 pm

Hi Chris!
What should you do once your ex unblocks you? Should I wait for him to contact me as he was supposedly seeing another girl. I don’t know if they are still together. He got with her only a couple of months after we broke up, and we were together for 2.5 years long distance.

admin

June 30, 2014 at 2:41 pm

Has he unblocked you yet?
Loyola

June 30, 2014 at 11:13 pm

Yes he has, he did so yesterday ! His profile picture is of him alone not with his girl. That’s if they are still together. To be honest I have no idea. On another app which he thought I didn’t know about he had pictures up with her and they were very intimate pictures, not very appropriate as a profile picture.
He had returned before but told me he was not ready, but when he sent me a message a couple of weeks later to congratulate me on passing an exam, I decided not to answer, as he seemed to be playing games and he had thrown himself into a relationship with the other girl. That was when he decided to block me. It’s been 1.5months since he blocked me .
kris

October 9, 2014 at 1:43 pm

Me and my ex had a few bad fights in the summer, one in June he blocked me on Facebook, the next month after the big fight he blocked my number. My ex can call me and we can text. I’ve asked him a few times about unblocking me from the phone cause I feel guiltry . he said he doesn’t know what the future and I was pushing him. He pushed me to tell him what was bothering me. Do you think he will unblock me on his phone!

Confused

June 26, 2014 at 1:57 pm

Thanks, Chris for replying ! In response to this:
“1. I gave you a lot throughout this article…”
I know you did give many reasons and thank you for writing such a helpful guide. However, I do not know which is the most likely scenario for me when someone unfaithful blocks you and cuts you off: a) Is it that they are justifying their actions and trying to punish me (he knows he’ll get a reaction for me if he cuts me off since he knows I am a sensitive person) or rationalize their actions by getting annoyed thoughts about me?
b) Does he feels so guilty that he can’t talk to me so he decides it is easier to cut me off?
c) Does he want nothing do with me because he truly never cared for me and it was all in act so that’s why he cut me off?
d) Or a combination of a)-c)?
**Chris, which case do you think is most likely with him? Keep in mind, this guy was vulnerable, emotional, and sensitive with me most of the time in the relationship until his recent lover came into the picture and then he left me :(***

Confused

June 27, 2014 at 5:39 pm

Heya ! Please reply Chris:)
admin

June 29, 2014 at 4:59 pm

Sorry what was it you needed help with?
Confused

June 29, 2014 at 9:45 pm

It’s Okay, Chris. This is what I typed earlier:
I know you did give many reasons and thank you for writing such a helpful guide. However, I do not know which is the most likely scenario for me when someone unfaithful blocks you and cuts you off:
a) Is it that they are justifying their actions and trying to punish me (he knows he’ll get a reaction for me if he cuts me off since he knows I am a sensitive person) or rationalize their actions by getting annoyed thoughts about me?
b) Does he feels so guilty that he can’t talk to me so he decides it is easier to cut me off?
c) Does he want nothing do with me because he truly never cared for me and it was all in act so that’s why he cut me off?
d) Or a combination of a)-c)?
**Chris, which case do you think is most likely with him? Keep in mind, this guy was vulnerable, emotional, and sensitive with me most of the time in the relationship until his recent lover came into the picture and then he left me :(***
admin

June 30, 2014 at 2:41 pm

I would tend to say that its a combination of all of them.
Confused

June 30, 2014 at 5:21 pm

Thanks, Chris for replying! Ouch to one of the answer options c) that I had posted:(
admin

July 3, 2014 at 12:39 am

Why ouch?
Confused

July 4, 2014 at 8:49 pm

Ouch because it would suck that our relationship meant nothing to him 🙁 and he did mean something to me…and he was just playing around or killing time…

What are the chances he might miss the time we spent together?
admin

July 7, 2014 at 5:53 pm

He probably will miss the time you spend together if he really had feelings for you. How long were you together?
Confused

July 10, 2014 at 9:27 am

Chris, did you get a chance to read my previous comment that I posted?
Confused

July 9, 2014 at 4:01 am

From what I know, his family didn’t know about the previous lover except for one family member. With me, he introduced me to his parents, sisters, brothers, etc. His parents didn’t even know that his previous lover existed.

Would that make a difference?
Confused

July 8, 2014 at 2:34 am

Thanks for the reply, Chris:) I sure hope so he had some feelings for me…he had introduced me to his fam…and was planning to marry me.
admin

July 8, 2014 at 2:35 pm

Does he usually introduce women to his family? Or is that a big deal for him?
Confused

July 8, 2014 at 2:32 am

8 months..before his ex came back into the picture.

Amy

June 25, 2014 at 7:24 am

He sends me a message, I reply to him, but he doesn’t reply to me. He did this 3x times. Why would it be?

admin

June 25, 2014 at 5:21 pm

What are your message responses like?

alexarae

June 25, 2014 at 1:02 am

Hello. Your guide is very helpful but I still have one question. I am on day 3 of NC and I honestly think my ex is trying to get a reaction from me one by one. At first he changed his Facebook password so I wouldn’t go in, this is highly understandable so I just dealt with it. But then he posted a picture drinking with his friend inviting people to hang with them. Obviously this hurt but I stood my point and didn’t message him. Then the next day he blocked me from Facebook, however I checked from my mom’s Facebook and he never deleted or blocked her. Also his friends that he is always with still have me on facebook. Do you think he is trying to just get a reaction out of me so he can see I still care? If not,then why would he still have my mom on facebook? Do you think he still cares?

admin

June 25, 2014 at 5:16 pm

Well, he is definitely trying to get a reaction from you.
alexarae

June 25, 2014 at 6:30 pm

He just unblocked me again and wrote a status saying “got to do what I got to do to be happy” so idk if it worked. Thank you so much!

ana

June 24, 2014 at 10:38 pm

Hi Chris

How will the NC rule work if he has blocked me?

He said some hurtful things to me. He was really angry, it felt like he really hates me.

admin

June 25, 2014 at 5:15 pm

It can yes!

Selin

June 24, 2014 at 8:01 pm

Hi chris,
This guy and i met and he immediately liked me. I happened to like him in a friendly way since i had a bf back then. After some time passed he got a girlfriend and i broke up with my boyfriend. One day i got drunk and kissed him and realized i had feelings for him that aren’t just friendly feelings. He talked to me and said that he really wanted to kiss me too. After that i felt guilt y because he was in a rs and turned down all his meeting offers with me . Then he got angry and blocked me . Later , he apolagized and said he had no choice and his girlfriend loves him so much. (She still doesn’t know). I let go.. Then, i saw him and said hi in the school dormitory and he texted me when i went to my room saying that he wanted to come over. I gave him my room number and he kissed me . I sait it wasn’t the right thing because he had a gf and he said it was a bad thing but he HAD to do it. Anyways. 1 month later i outted on some Sincere photos with our mutual friend (a guy). And he tezted me saying that be conggragulated us for our rs. I didnt answer. But that night me and my friends drunk dialed him and they told horrible things to him and they said how could he wouldnt love me with that ugly face etc. (i know we screwed up) . He wrote me a day after that saying he is ignoring what happened because he didn’t believe that’s the girl i am.. I apologized and we started talking on the phone, laughing and suddenly we have met. We agreed on drinking smth outside so o said yes. But due to the weather he took us home.. As you could imagine we kissed and he tried to take things a little further. at that moment i suddenly had very intense emotions and started to cry. He hugged me and asked the reason, i just said that he knows whats the reason is. Then i saw a text from his gf and realized he is talking to her RIGHT IN FRONTOF ME . I got mad and asked ”who do you love”’ he answered by asking me questions like what do you mean, it’s complicated etc. i said he was out of line this time and i wouldnt waste anymore time on him and i left him. Now i am blocked. I know i am immature, selfish and stupid because he ibs a big d bag and couldnt be trusted. But i love him and want to be with him

admin

June 25, 2014 at 5:03 pm

Whats your reasoning for wanting him back? Sounds like he is kind of an idiot to me…

Mae

June 24, 2014 at 12:55 am

Why My ex boyfriend blocked me on facebook after i decided to unblocked him. I first blocked him on fb..instagram and everything about 3 days ago.

admin

June 24, 2014 at 6:54 pm

Payback probably..

ana

June 23, 2014 at 10:08 pm

I haven’t really started the N/C with him. I tried for a week but I keep on breaking it. But He has blocked me so I don’t know if it will work.

Do you think it will since he has blocked me?

Pls advice

Thank you Chris

admin

June 24, 2014 at 6:51 pm

Well STOP BREAKING IT!!!

Confused

June 23, 2014 at 3:19 pm

Okay, Chris: here are my question that you wanted me to ask again:
1) What could be the reason(s) why a guy would block/delete you and change their number (when you didn’t even contact them continuously after sending only one text when NC was over) so coldly after dumping you and leaving your for someone else and act as if I didn’t exist?

admin

June 24, 2014 at 6:32 pm

1. I gave you a lot throughout this article…

ana

June 22, 2014 at 11:51 pm

Hi Chris

In response to your question: He said that I was annoying him. I was sending him messages, saying that I need to see him and I am sorry. He got so angry told he doesn’t care about me. I think he is an emotional abuser. He told me that I am crazy and no guy will ever luv me. One minute he says he needs me then the next minute he ignores me.

I am stuck on him and addicted to him. Now he has just blocked me and rubbed in my face that he has a girlfriend now. He said all those horrible things and he has just walked off into the sun set without any care in the world. It just hurts. Sometimes I think he is right about me being crazy and no one ever loving me. He just blocked me fb.It feels like he raped my mind and emotions. My self has reduced drastically.

Facebook was the only contact I had with him. I have his numbers but he ignores my text as well.

Pls advice me Chris, will he ever unblock me?

Thank you Chris.

admin

June 23, 2014 at 2:22 pm

How long have you been in NC for?

ana

June 22, 2014 at 4:40 pm

Hi Chris

In response to your question. He said that I was annoying him.

Please advise me Chris.

admin

June 23, 2014 at 2:05 pm

But how? Can you give me specifics?

Dima

June 21, 2014 at 12:48 am

My ex blocked me today for the first time in our four years relationship, he said he cant afford long distance relationship (1 year) almost 5 months left for him to get back here, he said that” i cant be with you if I dont see you for months” Then I was like ” i think you dont really love me, you gave up just because of distance” then he stopped replying and blocked me. Why?!!
Confused

June 20, 2014 at 10:34 am

Hello Chris:
I dated a guy for 8 months (LDR serious relationship) and after he dumped (left me for someone else but lied about it), he blocked and deleted me off Skype and G-mail chat a month after we broke up. I had read your guide in the past and followed NC for 60 days and eventually reached out to him through text. I asked him why he did something so drastic after telling me he loves me. I received no response. I did not want him back but just wanted to know why he went all Jerkyll and Hyde on me suddenly especially when he had proposed to me after 6 months of our relationship and we didn’t have any major fights or problems. So I went into No Contact again for another 30 days. I found out he changed his number. I want to know as to why he would act like this after dumping me when I did not even cheat on him and was very loyal and committed through out our relationship. I did not even contact his now girl friend or even him except for that single text that I sent to him. Is there any chance for me to contact him to understand his reasoning or do you think it is a lost cause? What could be the reason(s) why a guy would block/delete you so coldly after dumping you and leaving your for someone else? Please respond!
ana

June 19, 2014 at 3:31 pm

Dear Mr Chris

My ex boyfriend has blocked me from fb, He told me that I annoy him and I should leave him alone and he doesn’t care about me.

We broke up about three weeks ago and he already has a girlfriend. He told me that I am always mean to him, that I always accuse him of cheating on me and he can’t cope with me anymore (I suffer from depression btw ).

I found out that he has a girlfriend.(which at first he made up because his girlfriends has different names and he used the story to get back at me.) He told me it is non of my business and that I should p*** off. He said that he going to block me from his fb.

I don’t know what to do???!!! My heart hurts. About three weeks ago before the blocking, he told me that he has strong feelings for me and he needs me,that he wants to hurt me emotionally so that I don’t talk to him anymore, but he couldn’t do it to me. He has been angry with me for the past two weeks. I know he still has feelings for me I know it. This is all my fault because I hurt him really badly by insulting him and making up a story (that I have met some else last yr) I wanted to hurt him because he doesn’t pay attention to me.

We have been in a long distance relationship for 2-3 yrs because of being in different universities from each other. About 4weeks earlier before the break up, we were planning to go to Venice but once again I accused him and this time he was being sarcastic and tried to stir me up. I lost it with him and told him “we are nothing” he got angry and broke it off with me.

Btw I have deleted him four times and blocked before this all started. I know I messed up but we luv each other. I did something really stupid as well I insulted a female friend of his on fb (he told me, he was sleeping with her and she means nothing to him) now he is saying that is his girlfriend now.

Help me Mr Chris I am so lost in my heart. My ex is loving every minute of it.

Thank U (sorry for my long story but I really need ur help )

admin

June 21, 2014 at 7:18 pm

Well, were you annoying him on Faceobok or something?

First Snow

June 19, 2014 at 6:07 am

My exes blocked me when they had already moved on with someone. It’s more often the case and I think your article has made it sound too positive. NC or not I think when you get blocked the chances of getting back together is much lower than you described. Guys do move on faster than girls in general. It surely is more comforting to think there’s hope but I would suggest moving on without looking back.

admin

June 20, 2014 at 7:46 pm

Well, the article is meant to teach people the best way to get their exes to unblock them. I did say multiple times that there is no guarantees.

Confused

June 18, 2014 at 4:36 pm

Hello Chris:
I dated a guy for 8 months (LDR serious relationship) and after he dumped (left me for someone else but lied about it), he blocked and deleted me off Skype and G-mail chat a month after we broke up. I had read your guide in the past and followed NC for 60 days and eventually reached out to him through text. I asked him why he did something so drastic after telling me he loves me. I received no response. I did not want him back but just wanted to know why he went all Jerkyll and Hyde on me suddenly especially when he had proposed to me after 6 months of our relationship and we didn’t have any major fights or problems. So I went into No Contact again for another 30 days. I found out he changed his number. I want to know as to why he would act like this after dumping me when I did not even cheat on him and was very loyal and committed through out our relationship. I did not even contact his now girl friend or even him except for that single text that I sent to him. Is there any chance for me to contact him to understand his reasoning or do you think it is a lost cause? What could be the reason(s) why a guy would block/delete you so coldly after dumping you and leaving your for someone else? Please respond!

admin

June 20, 2014 at 7:06 pm

Why would he think you cheated? Where did that come from?
Confused

June 21, 2014 at 3:49 am

I never emotionally, mentally or physically cheated on him. It would make more sense if a guy blocks you and cuts you off so coldly if you had caused him some pain like cheating on him. That’s where that thinking was coming from. Why would someone act like I didn’t exist right away when in fact they are the one who were unfaithful?
Confused

June 22, 2014 at 4:02 pm

Please reply Chris to my last question!
admin

June 23, 2014 at 1:54 pm

Could you ask it again?

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