What To Do If Your Ex Boyfriend Blocks You On (The Phone, Facebook, WhatsApp, Etc)

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Isabel

June 7, 2014 at 4:30 am

Hey Chris,

Thank you for taking the time to write such a well-written, developed article! I’m going to try to make this as short as possible. My ex and I dated for about 6 months. He was one year younger than me, and I broke up with him shortly (a week or two) after I left for my first year of college.

Post breakup I still wanted to remain friends, but he was very cold and either gave me one worded responses or none at all. Additionally, he almost immediately got close with one of his girl friends and made this very public on Facebook (unfortunately making me jealous). At college a close friend confessed his feelings to me, and I became emotionally torn. At this point I was jealous of my ex and wanted him back, but also wanted to move on. During this time my ex and I blocked each other numerous times on Facebook, only to end up unblocking.

In short, I flew back for Thanksgiving (3 months after break up), we saw each other, and he confessed he still had feelings for me (amongst other confessions). I went back to school and we maintained a good friendship, but he became very cold again; I let it go. When I flew home for winter break, I realized I still had feelings for him and saw him a few times. He was very on and off during this time, and I became incredibly frustrated. I can admit during this time I was borderline crazy (bad academics, family/friend relationships etc.) and eventually made the poor decision to seek a final act of “revenge” on him before going back to school.

The last I spoke to him was 6 months ago; he told me I was a terrible person for what I did and blocked me on Facebook. He hasn’t unblocked me since. On my end, I deleted everything (emails, texts, photos) and successfully moved on; I haven’t made any effort to contact/stalk my ex in any way. I accidently ran into him a couple of weeks ago; he looked at me for a split second and turned around and walked away. I was very surprised at his reaction, and realize now that I regret how badly we ended. At this point, I would love to reconcile and make amends; I just don’t know how or where to start. (He has an outdated phone that he hardly uses, most contact was through facebook/skype; don’t think he uses skype anymore.) I’m also embarrassed by my “crazy” actions post breakup and don’t want to suddenly come on too strong by sending him an email out of nowhere etc.

He was honestly a great boyfriend and we had a great relationship; I was his first girlfriend, first love, he was very genuine and innocent. His rude/cold actions definitely took me by surprise. Any advice would be appreciated!

admin

June 7, 2014 at 4:51 pm

How old are the two of you.
Isabel

June 7, 2014 at 5:04 pm

He’s 18 right now and I’m 19. any suggestions on how to handle the situation? :/ or should I not attempt at all

L

June 5, 2014 at 9:08 pm

Hi Chris. I have a huge problem. My ex broke up with me more than a month ago thru text he said he was so tired of me and stressed and getting crazy so he decided to break up with me. I got tired of him too as he’s not the only one who got too stressed so I agreed to his decision . Few days after, i found out he blocked me on facebook and other social media. I lost my phone so I couldnt get in touch with him so I had no choice. I tried contacting him through a friend I borrowed my friend’s phone and texted him after a week. He said that he’s doing absolutely fine without me and saying that he feels appreciated now ( he really feels I don’t appreciate him even if i do which I couldnt change ) so I decided to not contact him anymore. 3 weeks after I found out he’s already dating another girl from a mutual friend. It crashed me as i burst into tears I started drinking alone and think about it. Why so fast? all of a sudden he sent me a message on facebook (he unblocked me then blocked again) saying that he’s now happy with his new gf and he hopes I move on then he said goodbye. Maybe our mutual friend told him that i asked about him so he decided to send me a message. Now, I don’t know what to do. I’m starting to lose hope since there’s no way to contact him anymore. I’m so down and depressed. :'( I want to talk to him but just a thought of him being with someone else makes me lose my guts. I’m afraid to be rejected if I talk to him. But I miss him so much. I’ve been trying to avoid dating other men these days and doing my best to make it myself. I still don’t know what to do. I want him back. Should I still talk to him? I want to move on.. But there are things that are still unclear to me. I can’t open up to my friends anymore. I regret letting him go. Is there still hope for us? :'(

admin

June 6, 2014 at 5:33 pm

Have you attempted the no contact rule yet?

Lauretta

June 3, 2014 at 4:48 am

Hi Chris
Basically I made all the mistakes we’re not suppose to after he broke up with me. I cried, I begged and when he didn’t respond the way I wanted him to I hurled insults his way. Needless to say he ended up changing his number and e-mail, unfriended me on facebook and all other social networks. It has been 2 weeks since we last interacted and my question is how will he even know that I’m ignoring him during the NC if he’s blocked me in every way possible. Is the situation redeemable?

admin

June 5, 2014 at 5:19 pm

Of course it is! It may take a little time though.

Roxy

June 2, 2014 at 2:24 pm

Even though my ex blocked last week on Whatsapp, he sent me a friend request on BBM last night. I have 7 days left to complete NC! My questions are:

1. Do I accept his request on BBM during my NC period?
2. Am I seeing progress or what?! 😀 haha
Roxy

May 26, 2014 at 4:54 pm

Hey Chris, I’m on day 17 of my NC. My ex boyfriend sent me a Whatsapp 2 weeks ago (while I was in NC), so I did not respond. Today, he’s blocked me on Whatsapp.

1. Is that a good sign?
2. Should I reduce my NC to 21 days?

admin

May 27, 2014 at 2:37 pm

1. Neutral id say.
2. No stay in 30.
Roxy

May 27, 2014 at 3:28 pm

I don’t understand what you mean by neutral. If he made the effort to block me then it must be an emotional trigger, right?

Vanessa

May 24, 2014 at 3:13 am

I guess broke up with me thru text no definitive I don’t wanna b with u. He did it thru text saying I can’t stand making u unhappy anymore.ur always mad at me for shit. I never complained. I just voiced disappointment with how i wished hed let me know he was off early when I went to his job to surprise him but he said he was coming to see me after he saw his dad. I asked how long bc i had seen him barely a fee hours that week he said an hour hopefully. I said ok and he took it like my tone was mad. He refused to answer my calls.I always told him how much I loved him and tried so hard to be supportive. That week before he tolf me know muxh he missed and lived me.When I ever said anything small it was always mw being negative when I barely asked for him to let me know someoen else needed him so I wasn’t waiting hours not knowing.he took it like I was mad like he always does. I get how busy he is and accepted.i told him if it was really over please leave my key under my mat which was 5 days ago.i told him how much I loved him and that I wasn’t mad never am just disappointed. No key. But he unfriended me at first on fb and posted how great his day 3 days later and the unfriended me. When he unfriended me i called and he was drunk as b*tter and I asked by unfriending me does that mean it’s over and he held out the phone ans I could tell he was at a bar and hung up a min later. I don’t know what to think.after unfriending me he blocked me .His mom is still friends with me ans I never ever voiced anything negative about him or what happened.i feel like all this hurt me who’s clueless more than him. I just Don’t know if he’ll cool down and talk to me or if it’s completely donw. No communication no nothing. Please help
abbi

May 22, 2014 at 3:29 pm

19 days no contact.
Nearly slipped today so I’ve decided to type here instead 😀
His whatsapp is still deleted but it doesn’t look like I’ve been blocked on anything

Does that suggest he LIKES the feeling/ego stroke of being contacted?
Almost back in my arms

May 22, 2014 at 1:53 am

After my last sad post where confessed that I spilled my guts in a FB message, Chris sent me an e-mail reminding me that I was acting desperate. Well, I will say that I felt so dumb after my spilled guts, that I finally got the patience to do a full NC. During this NC, I got the idea that he didn’t need to see all my FB posts “for free,” so I set them for friends only. About a week after my NC, HE RE-FRIENDED ME. I’m still playing it cool. Now I have to work on reeling him on in. PRAYER WORKS! THANK YOU CHRIS!

admin

May 22, 2014 at 4:05 pm

Your welcome.

Nicole

May 20, 2014 at 4:31 am

Hi chris! I been on here months ago talking about my situation that happened in October (I tried to contact you on google plus) but I have an interesting situation. So back in jan was the last time me and my ex talked, I don’t have Facebook and I unfollowed him on Instagram so I don’t see anything of us. So last week my ex liked this one photo of mine on Instagram that I posted weeks ago and this is what it said since it was a quote photo: “she moved on and I feel sorry for you. Because she thought you were the most amazing boy ever, if she could have any guy in the world she would have picked you, now your just another part of her past, a memory faded everyday and someday she’ll find the one she deserves and he will make her the happiest girl in the world.” Then right after he liked it he unfollowed me. I would understand if he did it right after the break up like I did but it’s been 7 months later and I know he was looking at my page. My page is still on public though. So what does that even mean if he has done that?? It’s not like the break up was fresh or anything. Could it be he’s sad on looking at my stuff now? I been posting fun photos of me with friends and pictures of me enjoying life in vet school too. What do you think??

Nicole

May 23, 2014 at 3:43 pm

Anything on what you think? It’s been bothering me since it happened.
Kandy

June 2, 2014 at 4:39 pm

That happened to me too, he suddenly deleted me on Facebook and Instagram after 7 months it happened….it might be him getting pissed off with all my happy (in your face) pictures or his new girlfriend forced him? He hadn’t blocked me on whatsapp etc so I guess he’s just sick of seeing my updates or his girlfriend can see I’m on those list (and not whatsapp)?

Ah no point losing sleep over this!
Let’s continue living our happy life 🙂
admin

June 5, 2014 at 4:59 pm

Either way I would look at it as a good sign.

If his new gf forced him to then that means she feels threatened and that insecurity will shine through.
If he blocked you/deleted you then that means you are still on his mind and seeing your pictures bugs him b/c he is a little jealous.

Sally

May 11, 2014 at 12:22 pm

Hey Chris! I have followed your advice. Finished the 30day NC and got unblocked.

Today we managed to get into an argument because of my mutual friend. Amidst the argument, I said I never wanted to be with him. Then he said that he actually wanted to get together again and said that I should never have grouped him and the mutual friend together.

Then he came over and we made up except that I gave him a BJ. Then after that he says he really regrets what he had done. He also says that he has let me go even though he loves me and feels terrible that he had done what he did. Do you have any idea what he means?

Should I use NC for a week or should I continue talking to him again? A

admin

May 12, 2014 at 6:34 pm

You shouldn’t have gotten that physical with him….
Sally

May 12, 2014 at 11:57 pm

I know. Should I do NC or continue talking?

macki

May 11, 2014 at 9:15 am

We communicate via Wechat and Whatsapp, it was him who insisted that i add him on Facebook when we first met. When he decided to let me go which i dont know why, i didnt go all gaga about it. There wasnt really a proper goodbye or anything he just disappeared. after a month i texted via whatsapp and told him that he look great on his profile pic (i didnt like his pic on fb). and he said that he missed me. but no communication after that. then after a month there was this MERS scare so i texted via whatsapp for him to be safe but with no reply, i know i wasnt blocked coz i can still see his time stamp and occasionally caught him being online but out of curiosity i checked his wechat and found out that he deleted me but not blocked. i was quite upset and a little drunk and so i texted and ask why he did it, but he didnt reply. then one day i just wanted to check his facebook and found out that he blocked me, between the two of us, it was him who constantly liked my pics on facebook but i didnt do the same thing. but when he blocked me on facebook i felt really bad. instanly, i delete his contact number. i dont want to feel bad again one day that he blocked me on whatsapp and i wanted to avoid on texting him. but i dont know why, after all the promises he did, why would someone be invisible. when i was the one who initially wanted to let go because i know i wasnt part of his plan, it was him who kept on promising, now i dont know. I trusted him too much and now it hurts big time.
Blessed

May 10, 2014 at 4:29 am

Great website thank you

My story is my ex and i fought alot about my son and how he could be more kinder, he has 3 kids i have 2. i have a baby and a toddler and his are much older. We always said i love you to one another, and we always made time at night for each other.

He would stay the night here but i could not there because he lived at home with his parents and my kids couldtn stay anywhere. He had to live their due to his divorce 3 years ago and filing bankruptcy.

Anyways, long story short, we fought a bit towards the end i was always tired and snappy i know i had my fair share in what went wrong. But when he told me he wasnt happy and couldtn make me happy it blew my mind i knew we were fighting, but in the beginning when i told him not to date me based on XYZ he said its why i love you and i want to be the best man for you, and then those were the reasons why we broke up because he said we had different parenting styles.

We met up and gave each others things back we talked, i didnt argue or lecture i thank him, i said kind words and i heard what he had to say and i apologized for my doing, we hugged i said im going to miss you, he said nothing back.

Now a week later he removed me from his facebook and is back on POF, his family still has me on their profiles and its been 2 weeks now, i havent contacted him, i did notice he removed me because i no longer saw him online, sorry i know we arent supposed to look at their profiles. And thats it he didnt say thank you for his kids bday gifts or easter gifts i gave him for them.

That was a short brief summary of what happened to not bore you, my question is, is their still a chance to get him back and be better than before, with him removing me from his profile, and what should i do when the 30 days are up?? especially since he didnt contact me or say he would miss me. April 17 he said i love you see you soon, april 20th he wanted out of the relationship.

I really need some advice my gfs just say move on, and seriously hes the first man ive ever respected to love and work on being a positive person. I messed up by not appreciating him more or being kinder more and vice versa. But i want to fix it,

So after this lengthy letter, is this possible?? has the battle been lost or should i keep trying? Also should i be looking at dating right now or at least speaking with other men or just keep trying after 30 days??

thank you for your time

Naomi~

admin

May 12, 2014 at 6:15 pm

You should be looking at dating and speaking to other man. You might get some jealous flowing that wya.

Cee

May 9, 2014 at 2:38 am

hi. so basically im on my second try of the NC. i tried the first time but there was no response from him…i gave it another month which is now…please help me on what should i tell him this time? on my first NC i tried recalling one of our happy moments and I didnt get any response. Now im so scared that i dont know a good one to say to him. Any suggestions? thank you

admin

May 9, 2014 at 3:41 pm

How long did you last the first time? Days wise?
Cee

May 12, 2014 at 1:38 am

a month ago…and i want to try again. is that okay?

abi

May 6, 2014 at 12:01 pm

Which is better in your opinion and why:

Blocked on whatsapp
Whatsapp App deleted

admin

May 6, 2014 at 7:14 pm

Blocked b/c you still have the option of being unblocked.

Mary

May 6, 2014 at 12:07 am

Hello. my ex and I were in a long distance relationship so he spends some weeks here, i go there to his country and the initial speech he used when he said he wanted to be my boyfriend was that he has everything planned to move to my country soon , I never consider possible to be with him due to the distance even though i was falling for hi even before he made his final move and i saw a possibility when he mention the moving, and that is why i accepted being in a relationship. It stared beautifully, and we both were into each other and in love. But then we broke up in march 24 when i left him. I was visiting him in his country and i was supposed to stay 3 months but left after 5 weeks as i didnt feel comfortable and a series of things happened including him being very temperamental, saying a lot of bad words and even asking me to leave….and next day asking me to stay..he goes up and down like nothing. I cant say i had an argument w him coz i am not the type of person who like fights, i was only crying. Before i left, we made out and fix things,we went all over every thing that bothered me and that upset him and clarify everything to the point that we even talked about getting married, and me moving with him in a few months but just temporarily until he finishes something personal and he is able to move to my country. When we say good bye, it was very emotional, he was crying i was crying…u can imagine. anyways, , when i was back to my country we exchanged some messages through facebook but i noticed he was distant and cold…. a few days later he blocked me in facebook after saying he was broken, sad, depress because i left him. BUt he can sees all my activity because her mom is on my contact list. I sent him an email expressing how sorry i was for everything that happened and apologizing for my part of contribution to it. He never responded. I know he went to thailand for 2 weeks, when he was back he replied my old email, that was on april 2rd, and the first communication was like…oh i feel broken, sad, because of u , you left me, i cry when i hear something that reminds me of u etc etc. I never got involved in giving hi an explanation or justifying my actions as i didn´t want his anger to grow, and most important i didn´want him to feel more sad or depress. In the latest emails he just tells me how his day was, and asks how my day was and i just try all the time to be positive in my emails. He hasn´t unblocked me yet but as i said he doesn´t need to do it in order to satisfy his curiosity about me as he can see all my moves from his mom´s facebook. He says he realizes his mistakes and that he should have handle many things differently but i believe he is hurt and still upset. it is so easy for me to get him upset. I know this is not a game but i cant win with him. I think he has strong feelings for me yet, and that is why he emails me and he didn´t block me also on his mom account. What do you think should be my attitude towards him, or my next move??? should i deactivate my facebook account? i don´t want to block his mom because i believe it can be taken as I don´t respect her or as a bad thing for sure. I know he has feelings for me, but i want him to regret letting me go and to ask me to be back. Any advise??? I am willing to provide any information in private. Today is the first time i visit this site, but i certainly have followed some of your break up rules just by common sense. We never used mobile texts or whatssup to communicate, not even email, just facebook or phone. and he is not a person who likes computers at all or savy on interent or web…so i can say he is doing a lot by opening his email to read my emails and reply. sometimes he sends a few lines in one email and one hour later or more sends a continuation, of previous email. and he has said he misses me very much…..

admin

May 6, 2014 at 7:08 pm

Have you read my LDR post?

Was there ever a plan in place to get closer together?

Wendy

April 29, 2014 at 12:20 am

Well I tried no contact with my ex for a month then I started to talk to him again. well tried to. It was just persuasion back and forth. Then I found out he asked a girl to prom when he knew I wanted to go with him since we got together(2 years ago) and well i lashed out on him and told him how hurt I was and I practically argued back adn forth with him intensely for a week or so. And he told me that he can’t believe he actually considered getting back with me but he wants to take it back now since I lashed out on him. So i tried to argue and tell him to get back with me, but he got really mad at me and yelled(put in caps) many hurtful things. For example he told me that im lucky he hasnt blocked me yet, that he wants me to leave him alone so he can live his life, that he cringes each time he sees my texts to him, that im annoying etc. I got so hurt so I cussed a few times because I was so emotional(I dont usually cuss and he knows that). But I now like last time we broke up he kept trying to move on and I’m scared he will this time since I annoyed him. Well I stopped talking to him since the day he hurt me. But I don’t know what to do noe! I want him to regret this adn get back with me (hopefully). He always checks my snapchat stories constantly. And even started a fight with me right after he broke up with me when I posted a snapchat of my walls free from his posters. But I feel like I may have went too far to make him come back. I dont know what to do cause im tired of being that desperate ex girlfriend but I really want him back. But people always tell me to stop hurting myself because I always go back into a weak state of mind and argue with him to get back and then get hurt when he gets emotional.
Clary

April 28, 2014 at 10:08 am

What if my ex unblocked me on whatsapp after one month of no contact but is still blocking me on other social networks? Does it mean that he has moved on?
Cee

April 25, 2014 at 8:14 am

can i use his birthday to do my second NC attempt? I tried talking to him last march for the first talk after NC he didn’t responded so I did another NC and I will try doing it on his birthday. Can I do that?

Cee

April 29, 2014 at 3:09 pm

what will i try for a week? greet him on his birthday?
admin

April 28, 2014 at 3:58 pm

Try again in about a week…

Taylor Ohlendorf

April 24, 2014 at 12:55 pm

Hi!
I’m going to fill you in on my situation and hopefully you can help me out.. Me and my ex boyfriend are both 20 years old. We met in college and because great friends. For months we would hangout in groups of friends, talked all the time, did everything together but I knew he was a player (always talking and dating 4 or more girls). As his friend, I would laugh it off and continue being friends with him. Around Christmas time las year (2013) I called him drunk and confessed that I had feelings for him. Then next day he came over and said he did too but never was going to act on them because he didn’t knew I felt the same way. Well for Christmas Break we were apart for a month but talked constantly, all day everyday. When we both returned to school at the beginning of this year, we started dating. It was amazing.. Best friends who now could kiss and cuddle. He always used to say that he couldn’t like one girl, that he didn’t cuddle, that he didn’t have feelings, etc. and I thought I changed him. He was always faithful to me and he would act so silly around me, telling me he’s never been able to be so relaxed around anyone. We fell into the spend 24/7 time together and I was staying with him or vice versa every night. We dated for 4 months and we always had little fights but we always said it meant we cared about each other more. He was always calm in a fight while I was the one who blew up. He said he’d never lay a hand on a woman, never would say disrespectful things towards me. He said he could see himself with me forever and I know we are meant to be. Well I had always said I would leave him if he started doing hard drugs (cocaine, crack, etc) and he always said he would never. So one day I see him texting and telling someone he snorted coke the night before.. I get upset and ask him about it. He looks me in the eye and says that he’s lying to his friends to sound cool and he wouldnt do it because he didn’t want to lose me. Well I believed him. So after a couple days I find out he DID do that and other times too so I tell him I’m done and can’t go on like this. He starts begging and drops the L bomb.. Says I can’t go because he loves me. Says he’s never told another girl, can’t see himself loving anyone else, blah blah. I fall right into it and after that things are perfect. We’re so lovey dovey and happy for about 2 weeks. Then one day we get in a small fight (like always) and he snaps.. Starts cursing at me, calling me names, telling me he’s done, all for no reason. I leave and he gives me a hug and says he loves me and we’ll talk soon. So after a day I try to call him and find out he blocked my number.. Then come to find out he blocked me on all social media. So I’m heartbroken and crying, of course. So after a day he sends me a snapchat that says “I love you so much” so the next morning I try to call him and he curses me telling me not to effing call him.. So then he reblocks me on everything. Later that day he unblocks me to tell me about his haircut (I always ragged on him about getting a haircut). So I reply and then get no reply and get blocked again. That was over a week ago and I’ll admit I kept trying to make contact but he has kept me blocked and has been posting about all the new girls he has.. I believed him when he said he loved me, I know he tried to be good for me. Months ago, when he said he didn’t know how to care about people.. Did that mean something? I’m going crazy, I miss him and I know we both had something amazing. Everyone says try the no contact rule but I dont see him contacting me, he’s great at being able to turn off his feelings and be cold. What do I do?
lisa

April 23, 2014 at 12:54 am

hey chris, this is a great guide and definitely very useful btw!

I have a few things that have been on my mind lately and i was wondering if you would be able to help give me some sort of answer to them. So first off i’ve sort of befriended my ex’s friend (a pretty good friend of my ex) un intentionally we just happened to start talking and got along well when we were hanging out with a bunch of friends one time. Anyways we only became friends quite recently so i was wondering if i became even better friends with my ex’s friend would it make my ex jealous in any way that he would realise what he has lost -and as you said ”men always want what they cant have” do you think this would be true in my case…? Also my ex messaged me a few weeks ago asking me if i had any guys in my life lately…. but he was trying to act all friendly like we were friends or something but we hadnt spoken in atleast 3 months lol.. And i dont even know why he asked me this..

admin

April 23, 2014 at 3:58 pm

It would definitely make him jealous.

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