What To Do If Your Ex Boyfriend Blocks You On (The Phone, Facebook, WhatsApp, Etc)

2,562 thoughts on “What To Do If Your Ex Boyfriend Blocks You”

Sazzy

August 25, 2020 at 11:54 am

Hi
I’m on day 14 of no contact ..my boyfriend broke up with me about a month ago . We fell out and he says enough is enough ..we have broken up before and this wasn’t as bad at all..we both don’t communicate very well. He blocked me on WhatsApp ..this is our main way of contact..but he has sent txts and emailed..the latest email was asking if I could look after his dog while he goes on holiday and that his mum would be in touch to firm up the details. I haven’t replied to it ..I’m going to continue with my NC but I just do not know what to make of this situation at all.any advice? Thanks

EBR Team Member: Shaunna

August 27, 2020 at 4:15 pm

Hi Sazzy, ideally you would not have looked after his dog allowing his mother or someone else to take care of that for him. If you already said yes, try to make sure you communicate with his mother and not him so much

Emski

August 24, 2020 at 7:15 am

Hey!
Ive just Broke up with someone after 7 months of on and off dating. At the beginning he was the forward one and after a bit of time he confessed to not being ready and it was all going too fast so we split for a month but he contacted me and came back. It’s been up and down as he has never wanted to take the next step of commitment and has been honest that he struggles with that because of past relationships etc.
The problem with this is that when we are together it was perfect but when we spent time apart I did feel a bit “out of sight out of mind” because he didn’t always put the effort in.
We have never really argued And only had a bit of a disagreement about social media recently and it does seem to just work with him and I was happy eventhough it always seemed that he was not ready for the next step (I wasn’t in. A rush if it was the right person). A few days ago he messaged apologising for ‘messing me around and that it wasn’t working for him and he needed closure’ and before I could reply I have been blocked on WhatsApp and Instagram – but not Facebook Messenger.

I’m not sure what to do next – I don’t want to feel a fool or just played for convenience and timing but I do think there is a genuine connection here. Any advice? 🙂

EBR Team Member: Shaunna

September 5, 2020 at 10:02 pm

Hey Emski, you need to go into a No Contact – 45 days minimum because you are blocked and work on yourself in that time. Read about your holy trinity and being ungettable and apply this to yourself. Then reach out at the end of 45 days if possible and you are unblocked by that time.

june

August 11, 2020 at 5:42 pm

My ex blocked me recently some 2 days ago reason is I acted crazily. We communicated for 6 months before dating for 3 months. We had a strong connection together but I found out that he was also flirty with other girls. I honestly felt cheated cause of the messages I saw on his phone. I overreacted and broke his phone. He also broke mine claiming he was hurt cause he’s phone is way expensive but then he never cared that he broke mine cause it was cheaper than his. We really had a great connection and common interests, we were so much into each other. Even after he said he dint want anything to do with me he still paid for my uber, allowed me to sleep with him on the same bed though we dint sex. soon after I got home I called to apologise but he said he dint want anything to do with me and told me never to contact him. He later blocked me on his phone and Instagram. I still want him back but I doubt If he’s ever gonna want to hear from me again. Please respond

EBR Team Member: Shaunna

August 11, 2020 at 9:00 pm

Hi June, if you work on yourself during this time, sticking with a minimum of 45 days NC and work on your Holy Trinity. Stop the “Crazy” behavior and show how you are working on yourself to be positive person. I suggest that you also show that you are casually dating people without getting serious when you feel up to it so your ex thinks that you are no longer waiting around to be with him.

Shilpa

August 11, 2020 at 9:13 am

My ex boy friend has blocked me many times
, and i have forgiven him all the time. He keeps repeating hurting me and it pains alot. I tried blockinv him too but then i unblock again thinking he needs my help. I dont knw wat should i do.

EBR Team Member: Shaunna

August 11, 2020 at 1:53 pm

Hi Shilpa, I would suggest you block him and move on this sounds like immature behaviour to be blocking each other on and off. Cut it off and move one. You deserve better

Bre'Asia

August 6, 2020 at 9:51 am

Ok so my boyfriend recently broke up with me. About 4 days ago. The day before yesterday we talked but it wasn’t pleasant it was more so him trying to hurt me and make me feel sad on how he should block me and so on. Calling me crazy because I found who the girl he was interested in and basically left me for instagram page and looked. I mean I kinda did disrespect her and he found out. But at the end of that convo he blocked me so I decided to block him too. Now what’s weird is that I still kinda have contact with him because he only blocked me on instagram,not the other apps we communicated on like whatsapp,hangouts, and I still have his phone number. So I don’t know what that means. We were together 4 months. And he is still following my mom and my cousin on instagram and someone pointed out to me that maybe he wants to keep tabs on me or use me as a failsafe if this relationship goes wrong with the new girl. Now our relationship was also long distance.It also took him a few days after our break up for him to delete my pictures off his insta page(lazy probably) so idk if he hasnt realized if he hasnt completely blocked me yet,is just lazy ,or still wants to possibly have some sort of contact with me. Honestly,I dont really want to get back with him I just want to know if he will regret what he lost and feel guilty for how he treated me. So basically I want an unblock after not talking to him for a while but idk if that’s true because he already basically has a new girl. I’m not sure what to do,its pretty messy. Please respond back soon

EBR Team Member: Shaunna

August 8, 2020 at 11:31 pm

Hey Bre, I would say that you need to work on yourself esteem and confidence for some time. Where he has treated you badly and moved on quickly you need to show him what he lost! Read some articles about the holy trinity and being Ungettable. Stick to a 45 day NC before reaching out to him again and make sure that your focus is YOU right now.

Devi

August 6, 2020 at 8:06 am

Hi,
My ex bf and I broke off mid July when I asked for a discussion of what’s happening in our relationship. He seems so unhappy and uninterested with my presence but always wanted me to be around him. We have been fighting continuously, like every other week since our 1 year anniversary in May and I felt the distance between us was getting wider. I called for a discussion to understand what he is going through or if there’s anything that is bothering his mind. He flipped and left me to the bar only to get drunk. At 4am, he texted that we can’t be in this relationship anymore and that he deserves someone better, someone he wants. After a week, he texted me with anger and I choose to not reply knowing he is drunk. Again after a week, he told me tat he is recovering and will come to see me once he feels better. He said it is not advisable to start all over again, but he will come and meet me for the last time. It has already been a week ever since that text, and Im not sure if he said tat to just drag things or if he means it? He has blocked me everywhere (fb, insta, whatsapp) and my only source of communicating with him is through sms. It is ruining my mind so badly. What should I do?

EBR Team Member: Shaunna

August 22, 2020 at 4:29 pm

Hey Devi, you need to start following the program and especially focus on the Ungettable and Holy Trinity articles. Stick with a No Contact for at least 45 days

Kim

July 31, 2020 at 6:26 pm

Hi

So my ex and I broke up 6-7 months ago. In May I had unblocked him on WhatsApp to only realise he has a girlfriend (the third one since we broke up). I was really hurt i just deleted his number but didn’t block him. I unfollowed him of Instagram because I didn’t want to see things and get hurt and he unfollowed me as well. Since then we don’t have each other on any social media. Today (31 July) I realised he had blocked me on instagram and we dont even follow each other. What is the reason? I do want him back and I can’t really approach him because he will just make me a fool and boost his ego. I need him to realise his mistakes and contact me.

EBR Team Member: Shaunna

August 1, 2020 at 10:51 pm

Hi Kim you need to follow the Ungettable information and make sure that you use social media to show that you are doing so this is how your ex is going to see changes and his interest is going to grow in what is going on with you and make him want to speak with you. However you may find that you have to reach out to him and break the ice. Read an article about how Chris suggests that you reach out for the first time after you have completed your No Contact

Justine

July 25, 2020 at 4:10 am

Hi, I was dating this guy for 2 months. Last week we met and he told me he would prefer to stay friends. That i’m great but he just doesn’t feel he misses me enough despite loving so much our time together our laughs our conversations… We continued to talk and went for a walk after. He said he wanted to take me to the beach with his friends (i’ve never met them before and we don’t have mutual friends either). I told him I wasn’t sure if i wanted to be his friend and he said lets see on saturday how it goes. Two days later, I was on instagram and added some of the people from suggestions. Didn’t realize one of them was his friend. The word got to him and maybe 2 hours later he sent me a message that I shouldn’t be adding his friends especially if I have pictures with my boyfriend (he was referring to a picture with male friend with who I went out for an activity). He also immediately blocked me on instagram. I was kind of shocked because I didn’t even realize that it was his friend so I called him. He didn’t really want to listen to what I had to say and I told him it was only an accident and i wasn’t trying to target his friends to get to him. He answered that he didnmt want to get in the way of the possible relationship with “my guy” (my friend in the picture). I had my voice shaking over the phone not understanding. He called off the activity to the beach. He said I needed space and it was better like this (talking about the activity and the blocking). I’m still confused. I don’t like to leave things unresolved or on a fight. We don’t have mutual friends so I cannot rely on that to influence him. I’m not sure how to see my odds (beginning relationship, the fact he wants to be friends and after the blocking…)

EBR Team Member: Shaunna

August 11, 2020 at 1:43 pm

Hi Justine, so he seemed a bit annoyed that you were with a guy so soon – so this is showing that he clearly cares, for now you should be following a No Contact anyway. If you are blocked everywhere you have to just go until you are unblocked, but keep using your social media to show that you are living your life regardless of him. He will use his friends to spy on you, or unblock you to see what you are doing with yourself. Read the articles about the holy trinity and being ungettable and apply this. Keep posting things of you and your guy friends too, let him worry that you met someone else, but keep them photos where he can question it not have a definitive answer.

F

July 23, 2020 at 12:55 am

Hi, it has been several months since our unofficial breakups (since end of February). But even after the breakups, we still managed to have conersations as usual as before until the Movement Control Order was carried out. A few weeks after the MCO was carried out, he began ignoring me, not replying to my texts (maybe because he is busy as he is a frontliner). I wanted to show some support and care for him, but then he mad at me and say that I’m treating him like a child and being immature. He also suddenly blocked me on Whatsapp and unfriended me on Facebook. Upon discovering this, I panicked and had spammed him with so many texts through Facebook Messenger, SMS and even Telegram (which I shouldn’t have done..). I really loved and cared about him, but then at some times I’m afraid that my presence itself can cause harm and hurt him. When the MCO was loosened a bit, I attempted to go wait and meet him at his workplace. Fortunately, I’m able to have a sleep with him for only a night but he is still mad and cold at me. The following months and weeks, I re-attempted to meet him again, but he don’t want to see me and not to disturb him again as he don’t like what I had done when I met him previously. I had also secretly buy some snacks and drinks for him and leave it in front of his door. The last attempt I am trying to meet him face to face is also unsuccessful, I’m very worried about him but yet he dont want to meet me and mad at me. It has been 32 days since then, and I had not making any contact or texting him messages. Luckily he unblocked me on Whatsapp for the last 32 days. But as soon as I try to say Hi to him yesternight, he directly blocked me again. What action should I take now? I really care and love him. And I believe he still has some feelings for me. I want him to know that I will always love him and care for him. Should I continue not making any contacts? Or should I try leaving some messages to him that it is painful if he keep avoiding me like this and I wanna really make peace with him?

EBR Team Member: Shaunna

August 15, 2020 at 2:56 pm

Hey there, no you should not reach out telling him how it is painful not hearing from him. You want him to think that you have moved on with your life in that time. Use social media to appear Ungettable and that you have been living your life and do not reach out to him for at least 10 more days since he unblocked you, as you said he will just block you again. Read articles about how to reach out to your ex after a NC there are many on this website and there are also many videos to help you on Chris’ YouTube too

Susie

July 21, 2020 at 8:57 pm

My ex blocked me four days ago during a few days of heated arguing. A female friend had said to unfriend/unfollow/block him on social media to give us space. I just unfollowed but didn’t block. So he immediately blocked but kept texting. And arguing. Then blocked me on text. Is this the same as the blocking you’re referencing? It felt more retaliatory? And it has only been 4 days but I don’t know what to think.

EBR Team Member: Shaunna

July 25, 2020 at 8:03 pm

Hey Susie, this is the same idea as being in a hard block yes – giving that you have no other way of getting in touch with him now.

Casemira

July 16, 2020 at 8:10 pm

Hi, My ex and I broke up 3months ago. I did a 30 days NC, I still added a few more day, cause I didn’t know how to initiate a first text. We talked a few times, like we was cool, then I noticed I stopped seeing his WhatsApp status. Which I used to before. I opened another WhatsApp with my other line and discovered I could see his status. And the only other time when he has blocked me from seeing his status was in the weeks leading to his breakup when he wanted to make a post wishing his ex a happy birthday.
I’m confused as to why he would have blocked me this time around, considering the last 2conversations we had were cool, and casual. Now I don’t know what to do or say to him.
Bri

July 12, 2020 at 1:51 pm

It’s been a year since the breakup and we dont follow each other on twitter. He blocked me on twitter and on instagram but i got unblocked everntually last april. Note that we dont follow each other on twitter but last week, he liked my tweet and he blocked me the week after that. I’m just overall confused with what just happened.
melissa

July 4, 2020 at 11:45 pm

Hi
So I was talking to this guy.
Short story, some of my friends didn’t like him. When I spoke about him I said good things, they’d bash him and I defended him. He then blocked me and one of the friends that didn’t like him went off on him….I severed ties with her and also cut of ties with the other person. the only reason why I cut ties with them was bc they did me more harm. I know that saying of ‘don’t let a man make you cry, have your friends around’ but see my friends were the ones that made me cry, he didn’t. (I cried for him once due to what he told me on what has happened to him in the past) but what am I supposed to do?….I’ve been waiting patiently and don’t want to appear like a crazy chick to him. I’m so broke to buy any program. And I actually liked this person!!
Shell

June 30, 2020 at 6:09 pm

Hi my ex has unblocked me on everything after 5 weeks of being blocked.
What could this mean?What should I do? Do I wait & see if he reaches out?
Thanks.

EBR Team Member: Shaunna

July 3, 2020 at 11:30 pm

Hey Shell, I suggest that you take it slowly before reaching out make sure that you post to social media to see he if he reacts to anything – this may take a couple of weeks. Do not jump into contacting him as he may jump back into blocking you. Take it slow

Kay

June 26, 2020 at 10:35 pm

Hi, so me and my ex broke up 2momths ago. We had an argument and he said hurtful things about my family and insecurities, then we blocked each other on application and phone after some days. Then came the Facebook contact, where I pleaded and begged him but all to no avail but we talked at length on Facebook but in a passive aggressive way. I.had noticed he unblocked me May 7th but I didnt unblock him,3weeks later his mum called saying he was sick and I helped out. During the course of this I tried making us have a conversation because I miss him and still love him but it ended badly I then blocked him and swore to never have anything to do.with him but I couldn’t keep that promise then I contacted him and conversation was going nice. The following week I tried reaching out to him. He didn’t pick and noticed he used another number to call back, but I missed the call. I dialled the number back and noticed it was a girl asked who the person and she gave me the whole wrong number story but I knew there was a connection and I confronted him that his girlfriend reach out to me and his respond was “ok” well it didn’t end well and we blocked ourselves again 4days later he unblocked me and I tried reaching out but he keeps ignoring me. Reading through this article, I have seen my mistakes and I dont wanna make more. I want us back together but it seems like anything I say to him irritates him.
I need your advice. Also how do I go about the NC rule?
Thanks

EBR Team Member: Shaunna

July 15, 2020 at 8:38 pm

Hi Kay, so to follow a No Contact rule you would just not reach out or reply to him for at least 30 days but I would suggest after your last interaction you follow a 45 day one. Work on yourself and your Holy Trinity, and your insecurities that you mentioned. IF he is in a relationship with someone else this is another reason to follow the 45 day No Contact as you need them to pass their honeymoon phase, and you then need to follow the information about the being there method.

Jazmine Roland

June 11, 2020 at 11:58 am

My boyfriend & I broke up after 5 yrs the day my mom was rushed to the hospital a stroke put in ICU!! He wanted to go to a gathering hangout and not be supportive or be with me and my family. When I tried to talk to him he had nothing but excuses never apologized and said I was unreasonable. Then he blocked me.
The relationship ended from this. He blocks me thinks he is right and I’m wrong. But he is saying the gathering was more important than supporting me and being there when my mom was put in ICU!! Not right!!!
He was dead wrong.
Kate

June 8, 2020 at 10:33 pm

I’ve been dating a man for 6 months from another country. We have fallen in love and things have been good with a lot of open communication. He have had some fights and have been able to talk through them well. Last night we talked on the phone and things were good. This morning he woke me up with a phone call, telling me he needed to talk to me about something serious. Half asleep I listen as he told me that at the beginning of our relationship he was still flirting with another girl. He stated cheating, then said he was just flirting and it was for a couple of months. He told me he loved me very much and he’s only been with me since he stopped talking to her. I was shocked and didn’t know how to feel. I told him I needed to think. A couple hours later I was about to call him when he sent me a discord message. Basically telling me that he was sorry he didn’t make me happy and that or good and that he really really sorry for what he did. He said it was weighing heavy on his shoulders. That he’s a human being and needed to fix himself and be better than that. He said it wasn’t personal, he wanted me to be happy, told me not to be mad but he knows I will be but that seems like a good way to change himself. Signed it with all my love then blocked me, blocked me in the games we play together, then blocked some friends of his who play the same games. I have no way of contacting him except one game which I sent him messages asking to talk which he saw before blocking me there. I don’t know what to do or feel. I want to talk to him and fix thing if possible. I don’t know why he did this when he was the one who did something wrong. Not giving me a chance to have closure end breaking up with me in a message. Will he unblock me? He is breaking my heart right now and I know he still loves me very much.
Britt

June 1, 2020 at 1:57 am

So this is the third time he’s called off the relationship, he broke up with me and I was spending time with a mutual friend of ours and went to a nude beach with the mutual friend; well, after he said he didn’t want a relationship he comes running back again. So I was honest and told him what had happened. This was also after a relationship full of derogatory comments and threatening to hit me or actually choke me. Well he just recently blocked me after ending it again!! All I want is my happiness and life back!! I do still care about him and love him but I can’t handle the wishy washy or craziness!

EBR Team Member: Shaunna

June 1, 2020 at 10:09 am

Hey Britt, from reading what information you have given me I would suggest that you work on moving on from your ex as neither the relationship or him sound healthy which is not what you want to do if you want a happy life. The threats and abuse is not okay on any level!

Nancy

May 26, 2020 at 2:16 pm

Hey!
So my ex and i had been passive aggressive to each other for the last couple of days. He said something that upset me and i threatened to block him, he then proceeded to block me. He completely blocked me everywhere!! We don’t have mutual friends. I want to go over to his house and just talk to him about everything we had both been passive about. I know i made him upset when i threated to block him but i feel like if i went to talk to him we could just talk it through
Arlene

May 25, 2020 at 8:30 am

I did the NC right aftwe i begged and pleaded.. Then after 3 months i chat him on messenger just an inquiry if he’s okey.. Then he block me on messenger and facebook.. I was shock.. He was the one who cheated on me.. I dont stalk him but after he block me a mutual friend of ours sent me a screenshot of his post 2 days ago before i message him which says that the one he chose over me chose someone else. I dont mean to provoke him..

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