What To Do If Your Ex Boyfriend Blocks You On (The Phone, Facebook, WhatsApp, Etc)

2,564 thoughts on “What To Do If Your Ex Boyfriend Blocks You”

Nancy

May 26, 2020 at 2:16 pm

Hey!
So my ex and i had been passive aggressive to each other for the last couple of days. He said something that upset me and i threatened to block him, he then proceeded to block me. He completely blocked me everywhere!! We don’t have mutual friends. I want to go over to his house and just talk to him about everything we had both been passive about. I know i made him upset when i threated to block him but i feel like if i went to talk to him we could just talk it through
Arlene

May 25, 2020 at 8:30 am

I did the NC right aftwe i begged and pleaded.. Then after 3 months i chat him on messenger just an inquiry if he’s okey.. Then he block me on messenger and facebook.. I was shock.. He was the one who cheated on me.. I dont stalk him but after he block me a mutual friend of ours sent me a screenshot of his post 2 days ago before i message him which says that the one he chose over me chose someone else. I dont mean to provoke him..
Gray

May 24, 2020 at 8:16 pm

I broke up with my ex 5 days ago, I feel I might have made the decision so soon… I miss him so much and I really do love him. We were going to be 3 years on the 26th of this month. We got into an argument, it was a very little issue but he said a lot of hurtful things about I, my family, he’s insecurities and my past. I was so hurt I broke it off. I just noticed he blocked me on all his social media application. What do I do? I really do miss him

EBR Team Member: Shaunna

June 1, 2020 at 11:25 pm

Hey Gray, you are forced to do NC while you are in a hard block, but you need to complete a 45 day NC where you work on yourself in that time. Then prepare for your reach out at the end of your NC hopefully by then you are unblocked, or you are going to have to try an alternative method of reaching out

Leila

May 22, 2020 at 7:13 am

I broke up with my boyfriend about 2 weeks now, I even changed my number. I must admit I do miss him even though the breakup was really bad. I still don’t understand and don’t know why since it was really from one day to the next things just changed. Anyway I tried reaching out through Facebook but message got delivered but not read. A couple days later I had a few drinks to where it led me to text him! I was very upset at myself when I sent the text and said to myself “why the hell you changed your number for”?. Of course he didn’t even reply so I left it alone, later the same night I endup checking the messages on Facebook just to see if the messages were read unfortunately is when I noticed I’ve been blocked!! Sad to say that even tho this isn’t the first time we break up I feel that now is really over between us. Everyone tells me he doesn’t deserve a woman like me because I’ve done so much for the relationship to work and he doesn’t make any effort so why bother to keep trying. Should I just let things be and move on?!!

EBR Team Member: Shaunna

June 1, 2020 at 10:47 am

Hi Leila so no one can tell you to move on or keep trying, apart from yourself. If you want him back then I would suggest that you start following the program but also look at your relationship and ask yourself were you happy and felt loved. As you say you did so much to make the relationship work. Try and pro and cons list regarding your ex and the past relationship. If there are more cons than pros then consider if you want to be in that relationship with this person again. Take some time to think about what you want in a relationship and a partner and if he meets those expectations

Shell

May 16, 2020 at 10:22 pm

He told me he was done, to move on & that I was crazy as i told him I think his talking to another girl as I saw something suspicious.
I replied back with yeah your probably right I will move on as I can’t deal with this hot & cold behavior it’s not fair on me Iv stood by you and you know it.
I then went to sleep and he tried to call me I didn’t hear it. I then noticed he blocked me on WhatsApp and Instagram BUT hasn’t blocked me on Snapchat and has viewed my story why has he done that? I haven’t reached out as I’m still pretty upset by everything.
Carla

May 14, 2020 at 5:23 pm

My ex and I broke up almost 2 months ago.
It was mostly initiated by him, but he was passive so I pulled the trigger.
It ended very kindly and respectfully, both acknowledging our part.
We exchanged some nice text messages the following day, alluding that we would check in on each other at some point.
We’ve had no absolutely contact in 8 weeks. I wanted to give both of us space, and he indicated that he wasn’t in a good place, so all the more reason to give it time.
I notice that it looks like he blocked me on what app. We never used that as a platform for communication.
Needless to say, I’m perplexed, especially given the way things ended and the fact that neither of us have chased the other person.
Thoughts?

EBR Team Member: Shaunna

May 20, 2020 at 5:49 pm

Hi Carla, if you want to try and get your ex back then I do suggest you read some articles about the texting stage, while also working on your Holy Trinity. Him blocking you on Whatsapp may have been a way to stop seeing your activity on there, as with the recent changes he could see your image and your stories etc. Or he got into the dreaded habit of checking your last active.

I would suggest that you attempt to reach out with the style of texts that Chris explains through his articles to try and open a form of communication

Nokuthula

May 2, 2020 at 6:18 am

Hey Chris thank you so much for taking time and unlock this am one of the people who’s facing a challenge my boyfriend blocked me after an misunderstanding and it’s been three weeks in hell for me, am not a person who goes to his apartment without his invitation so I tried.using another number to text him.but he never responded. Am hurting but I try to be strong.
Aly

April 27, 2020 at 12:39 am

My boyfriend of 6 years ended things with me at the end of February. A few weeks went by of him still telling me he loved me and that it was hard on him but then about a month ago he started dating someone new. I’ve tried my best to not contact him but unfortunately we lived together and had a dog and two cats so it’s very complicated. I need to reach out in order to get my things and it’s been difficult trying to clear it all out because of the pandemic. He’s been very kind throughout most of this. He deleted me off Snapchat about two weeks ago but still answers when texted or called. I watched our cats over this past weekend because he was away. He’s frustrated that I haven’t gotten all my things out (and I get it, I just want to be done too) and I am officially getting it all tomorrow and will no longer be talking to him. Today he blocked me on Facebook, I’m assuming because he’s angry from our convo and that I haven’t been able to get everything and cut ties yet. Do you think there is any hope at all…

EBR Team Member: Shaunna

May 2, 2020 at 1:36 pm

Hi Aly, I would say that if you want to get this guy back that when you have removed all your items that you stop all contact, following a full 45 day NC and then start following the being there method. If anything I assume his frustration is that you are still around when he is trying to have a new relationship with this other woman. This is hard for you to be around so following a no contact is going to give him a change to pass the honeymoon phase and you a chance to work on your holy trinity and become ungettable before reaching out to him again

Anonymous

April 25, 2020 at 4:05 pm

We have been dating for almost 3 years and he has blocked me everywhere except mail. I chatted with a guy I knew from class. It was just a friendly chat but I didn’t tell my boyfriend about it. He often feels insecure because he thinks he isn’t enough for me. He said he didn’t like the fact that I hid things from him. So we had an argument that lasted for 20 days after which he broke up with me via chatting on Facebook and blocked me everywhere else. When I asked a mutual friend about him he said that he has a new crush on someone (which is a total lie to get back at me I know). He has access to my social accounts because he has my passwords. Should I change my passwords? Or keep letting him stalk my account? I know that he still cares and my instincts are not letting me give up on him yet because we’ve been with through a lot of hardships together. What should I do now? Should I let him go or keep waiting?

EBR Team Member: Shaunna

May 2, 2020 at 11:21 am

Hi there, first YES you need to change your accounts thats one thing you do not want him to have. He can view your accounts if you post things publicly, he can view them that way. You do not want to give your ex access to social media accounts where he can essentially post what he wants with your name. If you have not started yet, start following the advice for the No Contact Rule, – Holy trinity work, becoming Ungettable, working to be the best version of yourself. Do not attempt to look at any of his social media, or email him for at least 45 days.

Marie

April 21, 2020 at 2:46 am

My boyfriend and I have been arguing a lot lately. It was a lot for me to handle so I needed space from him. I went back to my parents’ house and didn’t tell him. We were on the video call all lovey-dovey and notices I’m not home, he hangs up, tells me to stay at my parents’. I apologized to him saying I didn’t tell him because I was scared he’d get mad, but he blocked me on everything.

Its not the first time he’s used the blocking tactic, but this is the first time he’s gone full-out on everything. It’s been 4 days of being blocked and I’m scared that this is the end.

He’ll usually say he wants to break up, but then a couple hours later will act like he didn’t do it. Before he blocked me, he was “breaking up” with me for at least three days in a row. I don’t know what to do and I just want him back.

EBR Team Member: Shaunna

April 21, 2020 at 11:11 pm

Hi Marie, it sounds as if your ex is in control of the situation where you need to change that. You need to then follow a 45 NC and an active one at that. Where you are working on your Holy Trinity and when your ex unblocks you and reaches out again like nothing has happened you do not reply unless it has passed your 45 day mark. This behavior is not acceptable to anyone and you should realise you deserve to be treated better than this

Shell

April 16, 2020 at 4:28 pm

Im feeling pretty down in the dumps right now and would love some advice.
My ex has just gone and blocked me on WhatsApp.
My ex text me out of nowhere and basically from what I red it didn’t sound too great at all and thought that was us done so I removed him off my Instagram didn’t block just removed. He got upset that I removed him and said that he was trying to say he wanted to try work on things. I honest didn’t know this I mis red the message completely I asked if we could have a phone conversation and he didn’t take me up on that offer. I left it 9 day before I reached out again and I apologized for the honest mistake I had made and that I hope him and his family were happy, healthy & that I saddly have lost my grandad due to covid / dementia.
He red that message then few hours later decided to block me on WhatsApp. I really wasn’t expecting that at all. I feel his holding a big grudge against me and not sure what to do?
He hasn’t blocked me on Instagram I have checked. Not sure sending him a message on there would be much good?

EBR Team Member: Shaunna

April 23, 2020 at 6:44 pm

Hi Shell it sounds to me that hes used this as a way to pass guilt for ending the relationship. The fact he blocked you after you asking how he is seems that he is not ready to speak to you civilly yet. Stick to a 30 day NC and then attempt to reach out again

Kay

April 15, 2020 at 10:40 am

Breakup took place on March 20th. Didn’t contact him again the 23rd. (The day he gave me back my stuff) The 23rd felt like the true breakup day. I was sobbing horribly and somehow got him on the phone and talked for an HOUR to get some reasons out of him. However, each relationship I’ve been in I never made it my SO’s responsibility to be in charge of my happiness and they are NOT my life. Men are not my PLAN A, they are an OPTIONAL plan. Each breakup I usually go through some physical transformation and sometimes learn from it. This is my first time I want an ex back. I did a no contact 22 day period (21 day orginally we had a short-term relationship and scored above average when I took the test. Wasn’t sure if the 30 day for me) On the 23rd of March I did sadly black out and send TONS of text messages that day. I didn’t call his phone off the hook or send more texts or reach out to him any shape way or form during the no contact, I even woke up in some days feeling like I really didn’t need him, but breaking the contact on April 14th I called and learned my number was blocked so I used the *67 rule and he picked up instantly gave him a quick 7 minute call and he actually cared if I was safe or not and heard what I had to say because the problems we found I saw were fixable. We have nothing but good memories and only had 1 “argument”. The argument didn’t have any yelling, name-calling, physical abuse, interruptions when one is speaking. It was his first relationship so I can’t bash him much. But learning he blocked my number though not on social media… I do think I maybe made the grave mistake of calling him asking “I want to get back together.” and the classic “Come back to me with an answer soon.”, instead of easing in first by contacting him with my unblocked area (Instagram). Of course I will respect if he never get’s back to me, men have selective hearing after all who knows if he listened to me and I loaded alot on him during that quick 7 minute here are the resolves to those problems we had. Though I’m worried…is there any way of saving this shot gun to the chest “Accept me or..well nothing is going to happen to you it would just be cool if you did?” Do I try to contact him via social media and try to test the waters with texting?

EBR Team Member: Shaunna

April 24, 2020 at 7:07 pm

Hi Kay after contacting him and being emotional I would suggest that you take a 45 day no contact where you focus on your emotional control. And then yes reach out with texts that are about his interests, not emotional at all and definitely not about getting back together. Just try to open the window of communication

Carley

April 7, 2020 at 9:54 am

Hi,
My boyfriend aged (50) has split up with me for the 2nd time in 2 years because I hung up on him one night when he was paralytic, he text me in the morning which I replied back and in the evening I missed a call from him. He then blocked me on WhatsApp, so I sent him a messenger message asking why he has blocked me and he replied saying he isn’t playing my games anymore and then blocked me on Facebook and messenger. He is a heavy drinker so I’m actually not sure why he got so mad for me missing his call. I still have his key and he has stuff of mine at his house. I feel very upset and angry that he has done this. I don’t understand it and he always said he loved and idolised me to be then treated like this. I should move on shouldn’t I? But it hurts and I miss him. What should I do? I can’t contact him at all.

EBR Team Member: Shaunna

April 13, 2020 at 3:31 pm

Hi Carley, I would say this is very erratic reaction to someone not answering a call and then to end the relationship too is over reacting. I would suggest that you go with your gut instincts here, listen to your head not your heart as I think this behaviour is not going to change with this man

Norah

April 2, 2020 at 2:28 pm

Hy Chris, my boyfriend broke up with me infront of his friends and new gf and told me there’s no way we getting back together, we have a 2 and a half yrs daughter and im pregnant with his son, he knows about it and he told me i should terminate coz he won’t be involved in our son’s life, i last spoke to him the day he dumped me i haven’t contacted him yet but yesterday he blocked me on Facebook and i don’t know why, i love him so much we’ve been together for 5years, please help me

EBR Team Member: Shaunna

April 2, 2020 at 10:30 pm

Hi Norah as hard as these times are going to be for you, honestly, why would you want a man back who is treating you so badly, no respect and clearly doesnt care about his children either!! Heal from the heartache sweetie and look after you and your two babies they are all that matter. He will regret his decision one day but he sounds very selfish and immature

A.T

April 2, 2020 at 4:53 am

Hi,

So, my boyfriend of 7 years ended things with me about two months ago because of my attitude. I Was all depressed because I’m about to turn 30, he felt I was judgmental, lost my drive to do things, and am not emotionally mature. Mind you I still live with my parents and he feels I want to be just like them which I don’t. So after the breakup I kept begging him telling him that I’ll change and that I’ll do my work and I even emailed him and he’s blocked me on everything and has been so cold towards me saying that he’s “moved on and has accepted it”, which I don’t believe at all. I truly love this guy and really would love to have another chance at our relationship.

EBR Team Member: Shaunna

April 9, 2020 at 8:50 pm

Hi AT so I would say that you need to work on your Holy Trinity, and then reach out to your ex after 30 days NC

Jane

March 29, 2020 at 3:48 pm

So, my bf and i have argued about something and he blocked me on fb. A week after i texted him and i asked for a break up. He refused and unblocked me after.
It’s been 3 days since we started talking again and he’s acting like nothing really happend. But we are no longer friends on fb and he haven’t added me yet and it really bothers me .. I don’t know what’s on his mind..

EBR Team Member: Shaunna

March 29, 2020 at 4:45 pm

Hi Jane if you and your boyfriend are still together and he isnt adding you back on social media etc. I wouldnt over thing it took much. I know many people who do not list that they are in a relationship on social media as it is unimportant. As long as you are both communicating positively in person and through text, and you are getting better I would not let it effect how you rekindle your relationship after the argument

Lien

March 27, 2020 at 12:16 pm

Dear Chris, Dear Shaunna,

So I have been dating this guy for 8 months. We are both from different countries and both have completely different cultures. He is a Muslim as well, where I am a Christian. Despite our different religions and cultures, we have fallen in love with each other.

The relationship was great. We respected each other’s culture and we were willing to learn from one another about our differences. Everything was exciting and new for both of us and we really fell deeply in love with each other.

His family is traditional, and he knew that they will not accept the relationship. However, he continued the relationship with me in the hope that they will accept us. I have never met his family as we are staying and working in a different country. He respects his mother a lot and she is his everything. He has told me this countless times and I valued and respected the love that he has for his mother. He told his mother about me, at first she thought it wasn’t going to be serious and later our relationship got more and more serious to the point where he started talking about marriage with me.

His mother did not want to accept our relationship because I was not from their country, or had their cultures and I was not a Muslim. His father and the rest of the family was willing to accept me but not his mother. She forced him to end our relationship with me or she will neglect him.

I was very sad and I tried everything to keep him, but I didn’t want to put him in a position to choose between me and his mother. I told him that I will accept his choice, even if it breaks me and I am losing the love of my life.

I have followed your advice on the NC rule and it’s been 17 days now. I have been very active on social media showing him on my status that I am enjoying life and having fun. About two days ago, he unfollowed my account and muted me on WhatsApp.

I thought if I didn’t contact him and made him jealous through social media that he would come back to me, but now that he has unfollowed me, I feel he has completely cut me out of his life and there is no chance for us being together ever again.

I don’t know what to do. Should I just let him go, do I still have a chance with him or should I just forget about him and continue with my life even if I know I am losing the love of my life.

Please can you help me?

EBR Team Member: Shaunna

March 29, 2020 at 11:05 pm

Hi Lien it is difficult when someone who has a family who are strict with what they will accept into the family. Where he has told you that he respects and love his mother the most and she is against him being with a woman who is Christian it is unlikely he is going to go against her. So you could start focusing on moving on and making sure you are happy without him. Unless he decides to go against her wishes he is not likely to come back as he knows there is no future

Noemi Anaya

March 24, 2020 at 10:23 pm

I have been dating a guy (not officially yet still dating) for five months. When we first met he was crazy about me, obsessed in a good way, super into me, sweet, caring, loving and wanted me so bad. He tried really hard with me, and eventually when he told me he wanted something serious and build a meaningful relationship with him I trusted him and gave him a real chance. A week or two after that he went back home to Canada (we went to school in Florida) for Xmas break. Things changed, he said he felt as we weren’t on the same page and only wanted to be friends (said he told me that when in reality he didn’t), he even unfriended me off Facebook and unfollowed me on Instagram. When he came back we talked about it twice, and it was clear that the feelings and connection was still there and very strong. He wanted to push me away but at the same time he didn’t. So in January we kept texting here and there. We started seeing each other again in February until this month, and things were great, we got really close again and it was undeniable that we both liked being with each other. All of a sudden about 2-3 weeks ago, he started acting different again, after we had dinner together one night he wasn’t as responsive towards me anymore, would ignore me, and wouldn’t make the effort to see me while I tried. There were things I wanted to talk to him about and that’s why I wanted to see him. I didn’t understand why he would keep treating me so poorly all of a sudden again when things were amazing. So all of a sudden because of The corona virus school were cancelled, sports were cancelled and he played baseball and I worked for the team, so that was done. Everyone started leaving and going home, and we both lived in the same apartment complex off campus. So I didn’t know if he would stay until his lease was over. He agreed to see me last Saturday and we both needed to talk to each other. He was packing and told me he needed surgery on his arm, and after the surgery he would leave back to Canada and never come back. At that point I knew I would probably never see him again, unless of course we tried to stay in contact. I then told him how I felt really weird about his behavior the past two weeks and was confused as to why I was being treated like shit, I told him that he knew I cared for him, trussed him, liked him and was crazy about him so all I wanted in return was for him to respect him as I respected him. He apologized for his behavior and said he knew he treated me like shit and did asshole things to me, and that I deserved better that I deserved for him to treat me better. So I told him I’d like to see him or spend time with him as much as we could before he left especially since everyone by that time had left and we’d both be alone. He said he wasn’t sure maybe once or twice but he’d definitely say goodbye to me before he left. After that we were texting on and off during the week, and I had planned to move back home since I knew it would hurt too much to stay after he was gone and had also gotten him a goodbye gift which was a canvas of a picture I took during his last game. I told him about it and he said thank you but didn’t want it even though he didn’t know what it was, to which I said it was just a goodbye thought I wanted him to have before he left. He said he couldn’t do that night because his roommate was leaving the next day. Later in the weeks he told me he found out when his surgery was going to be, and I asked if he planned to stay here until then and he said he’s. I also said to him he could come over anytime or i could visit him just to pass the time as I knew that he was all alone and there was nothing to do. The next day I had started bringing home some stuff, and I texted him if I could stop by his place later, he ignored me the whole day and then later that night I just said to him “let me know whenever you’re at the apartment thank you” he then called me a while later, it was a long call but to summarize he said he was going to say goodbye before he left but now he’s not going to anymore that he had told me he wasn’t going to really hang out anymore until then so no point of me asking, I asked if he cared about me he said no not really, and didn’t even care to say goodbye to me or for our friendship as well. He said he was going home and never coming back so there was no point and we both needed to move on, that’s the healthy thing for both of us” he was also kinda getting angry about certain things, he really was t himself at all, he said mean things that really hurt. He then said goodbye over the phone and that he didn’t want to have this conversation again” he then blocked me off every social media and phone #. Two days later I decided to move out officially and packed my whole car, before I left I still had the canvas with me and couldn’t bring myself to throw it. I then saw him from my balcony and knew he was home so I decided I would walk there and leave it outside his door without even facing him and the leave. When I walked up I didn’t expect him to see him outside, he was packing his car. He saw me and came up to me, I said “I’m leaving today my whole car is packed and I had this still in my room and could t bring myself to Throw it. This is my way of moving on, just leaving it outside your door I wasn’t expecting to see you out here (I looked so ugly no makeup, super messy hair). I said to him I didn’t hate him and wished him the beat and that his arm recovers and the surgery goes well. (I didn’t ask if he was leaving right now, what’s the new plans with his surgery, what he’s planning on doing, or even mentioned him blocking me or wishing he hadn’t done that). He said he didn’t hate me either and wished nothing but the best for me, he then looked at the canvas and really loved it and was really grateful, he made a joke about his signature cheeks in it. He then grabbed me and gave me a hug which I didn’t expect at all. He said goodbye to me, and I walked away.
It’s been two days since then, I’m living at home and have no clue if he left already (which I’m guessing he did since he was packing his car, and with this whole corona virus I’m worried about him driving to Canada especially worrying about his surgery as well) it doesn’t make it any easier that he blocked me off everything and I have no way to contact him, and wondering if he’ll ever unblock me. In a way I’m glad we had a positive last encounter so his last memory of me wouldn’t be that awful phone call (I was never rude to him or pointed fingers at). I hope he will eventually regret treating me like that or the way he handled things, and maybe even miss me or want to know what’s going on in my life. I hope we will be in contact again and that our face to face goodbye was a sign that our friendship could somewhat be saved. I’m miserable right now and any advice would help.
Alayaisia

March 21, 2020 at 3:58 pm

What do I do if he dumped me over something stupid?

EBR Team Member: Shaunna

March 23, 2020 at 11:36 pm

Give it time and complete No Contact

Tamika

March 20, 2020 at 9:49 am

March 20th 2020 at 12.37pm
We broke with my boyfriend about a month ago,so I told his friend to contact him and tell him how I missed him but I am afraid of talking to him once more because he is going to hurt me once more,so that day that her friend texted her,he said that he didn’t want that story and told his friend to just assume that story,the guy also said having broken up with me that I’ll come to thank him later,the guy told her friend who happens to be our friend to tell me that,the guy went on ahead and said that also he didn’t want to force issues with me,so I went on ahead and texted the guy that which issues was he forcing which of there was no issues that he was forcing,so the guy told me to stop all that am saying and he laughed and said that he would hate bitching out to me,I told the guy that I wasn’t afraid of anything in this world,and he can blow it out if he wants the guy laughed and said goodbye or okay with the WhatsApp emoji,I went on ahead and told the guy that I am always real because I am not afraid to make enemies after that the guy didn’t respond to the last text that I texted,then after a day he blocked me on Whatsapp.But I haven’t contacted him after the block via normal message.

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