What To Do If Your Ex Boyfriend Just Wants To Be Friends- Get Out Of The Friend Zone

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Brittany

March 24, 2014 at 12:39 am

So I first did the month of no contact, and got on good terms with my ex. Things were going good, but he has said he doesn’t want to be in a relationship right now, although he still calls on me to help him with things, and other relationship type stuff (from time to time he still calls me baby and such). He has also said that all he can offer right now is friendship but that attraction is there, he just really doesn’t want to be in a relationship with anyone right now.

Would going back into no contact, again, work?

admin

March 24, 2014 at 5:58 pm

It can work but it will be less effective this time around.
Brittany

March 26, 2014 at 7:35 am

So what would you’re suggestion be?

vicky

March 23, 2014 at 11:14 am

So:

For 1,5-2 months i could feel my bf being distant, this got me anxious and more demanding, the distance grew bigger,he tried not to feel it but in the end he told me he wants to break up.I took it very easy,smiling and cool and told him i was thinking about our problems too and that my solution to them was to change the form of the relationship. I proposed to change the story we play into. Like be more cool, see each other less and start again from having just fun and not having great expectations. He wasn’t that much into it but agreed. So after 2 days i went to his house and just told him that actually i’m not that into my plan, and that i don’t want to do this now, i prefer to break up. (We talked very cool, not akward at all)

After that, the same day i asked him on skype about my boots that his mother has to fix for me, we talked a bit and I ended the conversation by just leaving. The next week he tryed to connect with me on fb, but i hardly responded. I was either too concise or was just leaving by ‘g2g’ or even without saying sth.

So. 2 days ago i wanted to go out with our friends, i knew he would go out with them too, so i decided not to go in order not to feel uncomfortable (our friends told him about this and he said he was thinking about it too, and if he knew i want to go out with them, he wouldn’t in order not to make me and himself feel uncomfortable).
Yesterday in the afternoon i went to his house to hang out with his roommate (i knew he wouldn’t be there) but later he came, he said hi, we had some kind of very awkward small talk, he went in his room and when he saw i would leave he asked to have a cigarette with me. I said ok, and we had the most awkward talk ever. We just ”shared our news” but we both felt and talked so awkward. Anyway, so after that i left, and first thing in the morning he sent me sth on fb. I didn’t even open it and logged out from the fb chat.

OK. WTF am i supposed to do now? Here is where i need your help 🙂
heather

March 20, 2014 at 2:30 am

During no contact can you play online games like scrabble, words with friends and one on one games like that with the ex?

admin

March 20, 2014 at 5:46 pm

Nope can’t play it with your ex but your friends are fine.

Liz

March 19, 2014 at 9:41 am

I’ll sum this up as best as possible.

My ex broke up with me 6 months ago and has now been dating a girl for about 5 months now. At first he continued to talk to me daily, but as time passed he began distancing himself only talking to me every 4 days or so As of lately he says he only wants to be my friend, and refuses to call or text me because he does not want his new girl friend to see him talking to me. He says we can only talk through face book messaging. I do my best not to talk to him and when I refrain from talking to him he messages me via Facebook saying things like ” haven’t talked
To you in a while” or just casually says what he’s doing and asks what I am up to. If he has a girlfriend, says he only wants to be my friend , and says that he still cares about me and can possibly see a future with us but as of right now is dating someone else and is taking her seriously, what does all of that really mean? What steps can I take to take control?
dragongirl

March 15, 2014 at 5:56 pm

hey. i had broken up with my bf 5 months before..we stayed at nc for 4 months and we are talking for a month now..i dont know y he broke up exactly. we were very much in love but for the last few months he said he dint feel for me the same way, and that he talked to other girls and sometimes his ex, although he doesnt love her, so he dint want to continue as he couldnot give his 100% and dint want to be fake with me. after we became friends he said he he couldnt tske it if we lost our friendship . he doesnot admit any feelings for me now.he texts me daily only during exams he doesnot..he said we are better off as friends. also he sex texts me and stuff. dont really understand this situation,he says he doesnt want a relationship now(when i asked y dint he hook up with another girl). i know i love him, there is nobody i can think of being with after him. please help.

admin

March 18, 2014 at 4:47 pm

Are you doing anything to rebuild attraction? What are your text messages like?

Helena

March 1, 2014 at 3:17 pm

I have been dating a guy who I used to work with. We liked each other then,but I was married. I moved away,came back and we met up,his girlfriend that cheated on him all of the time and gave him three STD’s had died while I was gone. Anyway,he chased me and absolutely smothered me in the beginning. He blew up my phone,called me 32 times in a row at times when I didn’t answer cause he was being crazy. He wanted to get me a ring and get married etc. But then as time went by,his drinking and moodiness caused misunderstandings and fights,but we got along for the most part. All of his relationships in the past had been chaotic,and even people that knew him would tell me about the fights,but we never fought like that with all of the drama. It is also a good thing to know that he is the first guy I have been faithful to and I am the first gal he has been faithful to. We did “our things”, like hiking,camping at our Mississippi River valley get away,I got him interesting in fishing,we lifted weights together,riding bikes(he loves bikes),going for long drives,etc. We did things that he never did with his ex’s and we both love the same music and have the same interests. He’s very moody and complex and emotional. He is a Pisces if that gives you an idea. Lol Anyway,as time went by,I still refused to move in with him because he would relapse every so often and he gets mean. I retaliated by bashing him verbally because he had hurt me. I know you said logic runs low when emotion runs high and that is true. Over the years I have grown to love him. He did everything for me and to please me but the only thing I complained about was how he gets when he drinks. Over time and since he has this new third shift swing shift job he has become more distant. He will also be forty March 20th. I wanted as much sex as we used to have and do things and have fun. I look at the glass as half full,he sees it half empty. He’s grown rather sluggish,gained some stomachs weight and yes,he’s going a bit bald on top,but I don’t care. But…he said some things that hit home about three or four months ago and we were spending less time together and I was horny. So,I met a younger guy on Adult Friend Finder only with the purpose of having him mastebate for me while I watched and that is all. But he wanted something to look at and for me to text dirty. I made up a fantasy but it doomed turned into a conversation about how frustrated I was that my older boyfriend didn’t seem interested in me anymore and that I was lucky to get sex four or six times a month. Well,my ex and I had trouble communicating,but just as things were getting better and he began opening up to me again,and I’ve always trusted him,and we began to understand each other more,he snooped through my phone while I was in the shower and found the texts and the pic of my,well,you know,and he was hurt. I had forgotten about it because it didn’t do anything for me cause the whole time,my ex was on my mind,I felt guilty,but at the same time I said,hey,I’m in love for the first time in my life! This is wrong. The guy tried to call,I ignored the call,deleted my AFF account,changed my number and forgot about it,but forgot to delete the text. I have always been honest with him and told him everything. He’s always had trust issues because of his past relationships and I told him that not fair to me. Well,he broke up with me six weeks ago tomorrow and said he wants to be friends,that he misses me and stil cares about me. He won’t throw away our pictures,or the things I made him and bought him and he does not want me to throw my things away. Every time I tell him I don’t want to talk to him or see him again and he texts me or calls right away. How in the hell can he just sit in his apartment all of the time because he only had two friends,and not need me?! He just works,sleeps,watches tv,goes to the store,or visits his mom and two friends every now and then. We were each others lives for for years and we were comfortable that way. I was never controlling,smothering or needy,but he was,bad. Until recently. He accused me that I was and that’s insane. I think he’s crazy lol. He also said I bitch and nag but he is the one who does. He resents me because I didn’t want to live with him because he drinks,I need my space,and he’s lived with three women in the past and none of them went well. He turned the tables and said that if we lived together that I would be like them and call the police,lock him out,and ruin his belongings. I would never do that. I’m not like other girls. We talk everyday and text,but I have to initiate the contact and his text are short,and he don’t always answer calls or texts unless I tell him I don’t want to be friends or contact him anymore,then he texts. I’m do confused. He says he doesn’t want to give me mixed messages but he does. He still talks to me like when we were together,unless he is in one of his moods and our conversations are becoming more frequent. I did everything that you advised not to do because I had not discovered this site yet. His friends like me,except one,but he’s jealous of us,he even said so,and his family likes me,his aunt said I’m beautiful and that I’m a keeper cause his last girlfriend was very ugly and cheated on him a lot. He says that he doesn’t think he can forgive me but he forgave all of the chicks that really did cheat on him. He said that he probably would have let this slide if it wasn’t for the Facebook bashing. I told him that I didn’t love him then and that that was three years ago and to get over it. I have forgiven him so many times for his drunken episodes and moody behavior,and I do one thing and he dumps me. Wtf? I have hope. He’s so complex that even you might not be able to decipher his mind. He told me that he wasn’t punishing me when I asked and said that he had had enough,whatever that means and I was crying he laughed at me and mocked me and said,”You hurt me,I’m going to hurt you”. If anyone has had enough,it should be me. I always comforted him when he cried and was and still am there for him. He contradicts himself so much,my mind spins. Then he told me that he was happy for the most part and then told my brother that if we got back together that he is afraid that things will be the same,whatever that means. How can it be if we understand each other better and communicate better? Good grief. Give me advice.

admin

March 2, 2014 at 7:08 pm

Wait hold on…

He has 3 STD’s???
Helena

March 2, 2014 at 10:46 pm

No,no,no. Lol His last girlfriend had cheated on him and have him three STD’s and also got pregnant with another dudes baby,and blamed it on him. She ended up getting a tubal pregnancy from this from the scarring in her tubes.
admin

March 3, 2014 at 6:22 pm

Ok, but he has three STD’s… so, why would you want to date someone with 3 STD’s?
Helena

March 1, 2014 at 3:33 pm

Oh yeah,a few more things,he has only seen me in person one time in six weeks only because I waited for him to get home so that I could get my stuff. I asked him why he won’t see me but he will talk to me and he said that he’s not too happy with me at the time. He gets paranoid and says that I talk like we are getting back together. His moods go up and down. He’s always on the offense and says that if we were to hang out that I would think that we were going to get back together. He says that it’s going to take a long time to get over me and hopefully the next guy treats me better but I don’t know why he keeps me hanging on. I told him to forget about me,get rid of out album etc. and move on. He said why would I do that? I want to remember as he flipped through the pages of our album and the roses I got him are still on his table and he has out picture on his shelf and the plate I made him on his table. I just don’t understand. What should I do after I start going to the gym again and do not contact him for the thirty days? How much time will it take him to heal and let the wall down. He can’t just love me the last day we spent together when he found the texts,but yet he can handle not seeing me face to face and the sex was amazing! I don’t understand.

Jewell

February 28, 2014 at 4:27 pm

Hey Chris,

I hope you´re doing well. And I sure do hope I get a reply.
I´ve been friends with my ex for about 3 months now. We broke up in October after a relationship of 5 years. He says I´m his best friend and that he´ll always be there for me and all that kind of stuff. We talk daily and he calls me often.
I want him back, but I think it´s really strange if I ignore him for the NC.
We see each other quite often as well, because of mutual friends. I´m sure he´ll talk to me then.

The thing that worries me most is that he basically tells everyone that he´s over me and our relationship and how happy he is that we remained such good friends.
Please give me some good advice… I do not know what to do now…

Greetings,

Jewell

Judy

March 5, 2014 at 3:09 pm

mmmm…try to distance yourself from him as much as possible, care less,I’m pretty sure that you are still treating him the same way you used to when you were in a relationship, and I bet you don’t treat your “best friends” like that, so just keep a distance, and talk less.

K

February 27, 2014 at 10:10 pm

My ex of 10 yrs has been dating a girl for 10 months now. Do i stand any chance of getting him back?! He is my heart.

admin

February 28, 2014 at 10:40 pm

I think he is pretty serious about the girl if he has been dating her for 10 years.

K

February 27, 2014 at 8:03 pm

Hi I’ve been doing nc for 5 days as he said he did want to be friends and we have been talking. I’ve been implementing some text techniques from another program that were getting positive responses and he even suggested a meet up but on Sunday he texted me and I didn’t reply I went straight into nc. But I’m worried that he will forget about me as he said he wanted to be friends so what happens if by the end of nc he’s moved on and forgotten about me and has been pleased I didn’t contact him?
Riley

February 27, 2014 at 5:04 am

My ex and I dated for a year. We broke up this past Saturday due to fighting a lot. I kind of pressured him to make the decision when he had mentioned just taking a break and having some space I said I wanted an answer. He also had said he doesn’t see a future with me. Of course I begged and pleaded with him to change his mind and he said he wasn’t sure if things could be fixed and sometimes it’s too little too late. He can’t promise he can give me another chance? So I’m all over here like wtf. Since then he has been contacting me every single day asking how my day is and what I’m up to..making small talk with me. We even hung out just on Monday (my idea) and we cuddled on his couch bc I said I was cold? Tuesday he asked if I needed anything from the pharmacy (I have a cold) and he showed up with cough drops for me? 3 bags of them so I’d have 1 for home 1 for work and 1 for my classes at college? This doesn’t seen like typical friend behavior to me and I also made it clear I did not just want to be friends I wanna try to work things out. Is this his way of testing it to see if things can work out between us? Is he feeling guilty about the break up and just wants to be friends? What is going on here. There is no way I can just be friends with him. Like I said we both have made equal attempts to contact each other every day since the break up. Is it too late to go no contact? Would it even make a difference at this point or would it ruin my chances of getting him back if he is truly seeing how we get along before he slowly eases back into things? He always said he was a slow mover. Please help.
Judy

February 26, 2014 at 12:14 pm

Hi Chris,
first of all let me congratulate you on your FABULOUS website. It’s more than just helping women “and men occasionally” get their exes back, it also makes me feel better and hopeful about myself when I’m reading your articles. I stop crying and feeling sorry for myself, and become more determined when I’m browsing your website.
As you can tell from the title of the page, my ex and I are now “just friends”. It is IMPOSSIBLE to do a no-contact rule, and we are still talking in college and commuting together back and forth, however there is “coldness”. Which is natural I guess (in fact I would be kind of worried if when we decided to be friends and it felt normal, right?).
I am going to tell you about my attitude with him right now and you tell me if I am doing the right things.
1-I am NEVER contacting him via texts/facebook..etc unless it’s super important, and when he does contact me (usually asking me about some random subject), I just answer the question and that’s it.
2-When we are together alone, he tends to be so quiet and rarely looks me in the eye (he is still super mad), so I just talk about random things with a smile on my face and speak in a positive vibe. However, not always does he respond, sometimes he just says “mmm” and “yeah”, so I get a little bit irritated by that fact.
3-When we are together with our group of friends, I tend to laugh and talk to everyone happily and excitedly and just be fun and I notice him looking at me and LOLing at my remarks, and he would be standing next to me and I wouldn’t even look at him, and when he jokes, I do laugh but I never look at him.
4-when we are sitting next to each other, our knees are ALWAYS touching, ALWAYS. Should I avoid that?.
Also sometimes, unconsciously if we are crossing the street together, I link arms with him, and I feel him getting all weird. Should I avoid that as well?
5-We are both studying Software engineering, so now I’m showing him that I’m busy learning new programming languages, studying and just keeping myself busy. Is that a good thing?
6- (the last one I promise :P) I’m buying new scarves, earrings, shirts and adding them to the clothes I’m wearing and just taking care of the way I look.
So Please tell me if I’m doing the right things?
thanks in advance

admin

February 27, 2014 at 7:31 pm

If there is one goal I want for this website it’s to inspire women!

Is it possible to do a limited contact?
Judy

February 27, 2014 at 9:21 pm

yes a limited contact is exactly what I’m doing, thank you for your help ^_^

sarah

February 25, 2014 at 5:48 am

Hi Chris,
I’m at the end of my ropes…My boyfriend of almost one year broke up with me right before Halloween. He is 20 and I am 26…we broke up because a lot of things would come up about his life and the “experiences” he wanted to have. He used to tell me he loved me, we spent every minute together, and even would assure me that we might marry one day when I’d have doubts. It all started to change when he opened a business, a hookah lounge, where lots of single people party. Things were getting rocky, and I was giving pressure on what I wanted…so one day he broke up with me, while still living with me. We broke before, so I thought he would get over it but he didnt..however, I told him I couldnt stay friends, but he said he still wanted me in his life. So I stayed in his life, we slept together, cuddled, spent a lot if time together…but at night, when girls would make me jealous, I would fight more because of the insecurities and he would just say, “I’m not doing anything wrong because we’re not together.”…I had to live like this till we could move out in Feb (our lease being up)..and we said that we physically would not get with anyone else…come mid-january, i found out that he was going to sushi with another girl and then he took out another girl that week. I freaked out and even tried to rebel against him with two guys that I wasnt even interested in. Turns out, he just wanted to play them and ended things with them before they got too deep. Fast foward to no, we moved out and don’t sleep in the same bed…but we still hang out a lot and hook up when we can..there’s been one girl that pushed me away by getting close to him in front of me (at his business) and I told him I was done…he apologized and has said she’s “ugly” and whatever..she still comes in the lounge, but hasn’t made me uncomfortable since. I am on my way there now, and I know I should stop but it’s so hard because I still love him so much…and I know he still cares about me, he even brings me around his family still and I see him every day. He is very “cocky” and I’m afraid that if I stop, he will be fine and get over it. Tomorrow I have an interview to waitress at a dance club, it’s something I had wanted to do before meeting him, but he never allowed me to do it. I feel like when I start working on those weekends, he will talk to many girls just to upset me. Or maybe he will see the old me?? Idk, all I know is that we can’t stop, but he has disrespected me so much…please help. : (

Sarah
cindy

February 24, 2014 at 4:51 pm

Hi chris,
I did the no contact rule the first time my ex and I broke up but didn’t do it strictly. However I followed what you said with texting him and creating a better taste in his mouth. We got back together but I made the mistake of being too available to him. We were basically together everyday. We broke this time because he feels bad because he’s schedule is about to get busy and he fwels bad that he would not be spending as much time with me. He said he felt guilty when he spends time with his friends instead of me but I assured him it was alright. He hesitated on breaking up with me at first but in the end of the conversation we amicably decided to break up. I’m halfway of the no contact period and strictly this time. I posted pictures of going out with my cousin and family outings. Then he changed his relatiornship status to single (when it was still in a relationship with me) and now unfriended me and my cousin. I dunno what to think because the fist time we broke up he didn’t unfriend me. What does this mean? Is this bad sign?

Judy

February 27, 2014 at 4:04 pm

No, I think this is a good sign!. I think the reason you broke up again because you rushed back into getting back together, you should have took it slowly. He is mad and he thinks you moved on, I think this is one of the cases where a no contact rule doesn’t work, I bet he thinks you’re over him and that’s why you’re not contacting him.

Shania

February 24, 2014 at 4:04 am

My boyfriend said he loves me. We dated for almost 11 months and he has anger issues. We argue over some things including his ex because he brings his ex up very often but if I ever mentioned mine he got really mad. I want to know if he’s serious so I asked him what he has plans for the future. He says he wants to wait 10 years to get married. What the heck I’m not waiting that long for him to get serious. He’s scared of commitment and marriage. He broke up with me and says he doesn’t love me anymore he just likes me now. I told him he’s very selfish and no girl will put up with him like this if he argues and keeps bringing up his ex. He says he’s fed up with my nonsense. Wow “my nonsense” seriously?! It’s been 2 days and he called me so I picked up. He said he still cares and wants to be friends with me. I told him how much he hurt me and I feel like he used me. He said he totally understands my view too but he claims he never used me. I told him I still love him and just because his feelings changed doesn’t mean mine did. I said it hurts too much to just stay friends now. He said there’s no way he’s coming back because we r different but he wants to continue talking to me and keep our friendship. What’s the best thing to do?
I still love him a lot and if he’s saying he still cares and tries to talk then I feel like there’s a chance. Please help me.
Jacqui

February 23, 2014 at 10:32 pm

Hi chris my bf ended things after 6 months for 4 months then we got back together for 7 months he ended it a week ago and sent me this day after he ended it ….Hi jac i dont want you to be upset and i certainly wouldnt like you crying. We are still best friends and i do think lots about you. you are a wonderful and kind and Not forgetting how much fun you are to be around. . .and i dont want you to think i would ignore you or Not want to see you ever again. I do. I will try my best to get a Date for the graffiti for you this week. So please wipe those tears away and i want you to know that i am so lucky to have you in my life and i want to be there for you too. hope your day went well. Do hope your ok. X….,,,,,,,,,,,,not heard from him since 🙁 don’t really understand it or it doesn’t make sense to me any advice ? 🙂

Jacqui

February 24, 2014 at 8:04 pm

Could you answer please ??
admin

February 25, 2014 at 6:35 pm

Sorry, I lost our conversation. What do you need help with?

Louisa

February 21, 2014 at 9:22 pm

I was with my ex boyfriend for 2-3 years and for the last 1.5 years we have been working together very closely. We broke up nearly 6 months back. A good break up, there was no wrong doings. He is 6 years younger than me and began to feel the pressure (not that I want kids or to properly settle down, I am quite a spontaneous and free personality). Anyways there is always pressure from family friends society etc.. So he broke up with me and said he needs to get out and experience a bit more before he commits completely.
So it is almost impossible due to working to have no contact because as a team we work very intricately. He says he still loves me and is not over me but has decided to start dating again. Of course it bums me out and I over reacted. Can I have a come back and if yes what do I do. I would love to do a no contact to give both of us space but with work I can’t. Ideas?

admin

February 22, 2014 at 6:40 pm

guess you are going to have to do a limited contact rule.
Jacqui

February 24, 2014 at 3:04 pm

Why did you delete my question ?
admin

February 24, 2014 at 5:59 pm

What is it?
Jacqui

February 24, 2014 at 6:26 pm

I left a message last night saying I was with my bf for 6 mths he ended things then 4 months later we got back together and have been together for 7 months he ended things last Sunday and next day sent me this …..Hi jac i dont want you to be upset and i certainly wouldnt like you crying. We are still best friends and i do think lots about you. you are a wonderful and kind and Not forgetting how much fun you are to be around. . .and i dont want you to think i would ignore you or Not want to see you ever again. I do. I will try my best to get a Date for the graffiti for you this week. So please wipe those tears away and i want you to know that i am so lucky to have you in my life and i want to be there for you too. hope your day went well. Do hope your ok. X nit heard from him since need any advice or help please X
Jacqui

February 24, 2014 at 6:46 pm

Hi It’s just reappeared but with no reply ? Thanks 🙂

Sophia

February 21, 2014 at 8:00 pm

Hi…so I just finished with the “bonding good times” text and again got a positive response, however he seems to be dominating the texts by saying got to sleep now..He asks questions about my life and I just wait a day and then send him a text like your examples (not answering any questions). My next text will be the jealous one. During this texting phase is our goal to get the ex to call us? Or just keep engaging them with the texts? I know I should be patient but what are they thinking? “Oh I have got her now, she’s my friend?”
You Chris must have the patience of JOB to put up with all us crazy women 😉

admin

February 22, 2014 at 6:39 pm

Build attraction and yes get him to call.

I am actually working on something that you may find really helpful.

Sabrina

February 21, 2014 at 11:58 am

Hi Chris,
My boyfriend broke up with me yesterday after we have been dating for two months. I thought we were doing great. We never fought or anything. I just don’t know what happened. After everything he texted me this saying ” Hey, I’m sorry, but I don’t want a relationship right now. I know I told you I loved you, but I don’t want to fall in love with someone again, not yet anyways. We can still talk and I’ll still come over, but I don’t want any type of physical relationship with anyone right now, I just want to be friend for now. I’m sorry for telling you I loved you, but at the moment I felt like I did. I’m just not ready for a new relationship and no there is nobody else so please don’t think there is. I still like you, it’s just I don’t feel comfortable with a relationship with anyone right now besides friends. I’m sorry I’m doing this, but I don’t want to get farther in our relationship and break your heart because I know what it feels like. I’m still going to keep your necklace and I hope you keep yours, I’m just not ready for something new like I thought I was. I don’t want to use you as a rebound. Please don’t take this personally because it’s nothing personal. I’m just not ready.” I told him I really do love him and all I can do is hope that he wont forget about me when he’s ready to date. He replied ” Hope for the best and prepare for the worst. Bye for now.” I was like ” I thought we were still friends.” but he doesn’t want to talk constantly and lead me on. His brother and sister want me to come over still on the 28th, but I don’t know what to do. I love him so much and I want to be with him so bad. Please help me Chris, I don’t know what to do.
pablo

February 19, 2014 at 7:55 pm

hi there i’d you to help me here,i was in relationship with some girl for two years n we broke up last year because she cheated on me and we both move on,i got in a relationship with someone and she did too,my relationship didin’t work out,even her’s didnt work out and i realised that i still love my first ex girlfriend and i requested her to take me back and she said we can be friends with benefit bt my problm is that i still love her,i want her back but she’s pregnant of her ex boyfriend’ s baby,what should i do

admin

February 20, 2014 at 7:35 pm

I think you should move on. Shes pregnant with someones else’s kid. Don’t get involved in that.

Lauren

February 18, 2014 at 9:23 pm

Hi Chris,

Your article was very well put and it was interesting to read and gave me some new insight. It’s been a week now since my ex boyfriend broke up with me after 6 years and 1 month together. Niether of us followed the no contact rule though. In fact, we’ve hung out twice since the breakup; just getting dinner, shopping, talking, and we’ve also texted back and forth every day with a couple phone calls. He said he doesn’t know what he wants at the moment but he wants to see who else is out there because I am the only girl he’s ever been with. He’s interested in this girl at work and they’re going to be hanging out tonight actually, even though he said it would be awhile before he saw people. He’s not sure if she likes him back but he is intersted in her. He said she’s the exact opposite of me which is not someone I would have pictured him with because he doesn’t share those interests. I think I am going to try the no contact rule now though because I want him to come back and say he misses me and wants to start over. I’ve already been through the part where I apologize and tell him we deserve another chance and how different it can be. He says this is what he wants though. So even though he’s interested in another girl, if I try the no contact rule do you think I have a strong chance at getting him back? I really do love him so much. I just don’t want to lose him to someone else when we’ve always had such a comfortable relationship and I think we owe it tou ourselves to take another chance.

Sincerely,
Lauren

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February 19, 2014 at 7:17 pm

But you two are broken up right now.

I don’t think you have anything to lose with NC.

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