What To Do If Your Ex Boyfriend Moves On To A New Girl (Video)

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babs

March 4, 2016 at 9:08 am

Hello all, my brother and I were in a relationship for 9 years. We broke up 5 months ago and have not spoken since. I found out three months ago he was seeing someone else on the job where we used to wk together. He talks to his daughter about our relationship and make it seems like it was all my fault. I have not tried to call him and he has not tried to call me. I know he’s moved on. I was getting private number calls until I changed my number and now I don’t get them anymore. Will he try another way of contacting me.

EBR Team Member: Amor

March 5, 2016 at 5:02 am

Hi Bab,

is that a typo error? or he’s really your brother? no judgment here.. I just want to confirm first

Sabrina

March 4, 2016 at 12:46 am

Hi amor,
My ex and I broke up two months ago. I did NC and I text him every now and then and he responds fine it’s just that he never ever texts me first. He hasn’t since the breakup. I want to talk to him but I don’t want to annoy him, and I don’t want to seem like I’m just texting him any random thing just for him to talk to me. His best friend told me to start seeing other people and moving on and my friends tell me the same but it’s been difficult. I feel like if he really didn’t care at all he’d delete our pictures (which he hasn’t) or ignore me… Is there something or someway I can text him where I don’t feel like I’m annoying. I saw him briefly last weekend at his game and I texted him after saying “good game” & he said “thanks it was nice seeing you there” but I didn’t respond after, I don’t want to pressure or rude things. Also I see him liking other girls pictures but and comments but I know he isn’t actively dating someone else. How do I get him to text me first and interested again????

babs

March 4, 2016 at 9:22 am

Hi sabrina, my ex and i broke up 5 months ago and we never spoke again. He started seeing someoneelse after our break up
EBR Team Member: Amor

March 4, 2016 at 7:16 am

actually what matters more is how the convo went and how you ended it, also the purpose of texts is to build enough rapport that would lead to calls.. If it has been two months of just getting him to text you then that means you may appear to be chasing him and everybody also knows you are…

rest for two weeks, and then during those two weeks of course don’t text him and focus again on you.. to balance everything out.. once you start to text again keep in mind that it’s just a casual text, being friendly and all.. make it short.. use the tide theory, if in that week the texta doesn’t progress then it’s time to move on

Melanie

March 4, 2016 at 12:25 am

Hi 🙂

I have finished NC and I’m now into day 11 of texting him. So far he’s contacted me every other day. Replying to my messages with a fairly long text. Yet no matter what I say to him, I can’t get him to have a phone conversation with me, or send me more than one message a day.
I’m up beat, happy and everyone tells him how well I’m currently doing etc. I’ve been sweet, and even tried light flirting but I can’t get him to reciprocate at all. He’s said he misses me and thinks about me all the time and was quite happy and smiley in his first few messages, but now he’s not even bothering to ask me questions despite me being vague, or telling him hints of what i’m doing. I just feel as though I’ve hit a road block.
I also had a presentation in front of 200+ people and it was really important to me. He didn’t even ask how it went, he simply went on about what he’d been doing. I’ve told jokes and sent funny photos, and he just agrees that it’s funny. I talk about topics we both find interesting, yet it doesn’t seem to pull him into any sort of conversation with me.
I just feel as though trying to make conversation with him, is like trying to pull teeth at the moment. His replies are mostly complaining about his life, there’s no flirting or sweet messages. I feel as though he’s simply replying for the sake of replying to me.
He’s quite introverted, and I know he’s currently stressed out with work and trying to buy his first house. But I’m concerned because this is exactly the way he treated me that caused me to break up with him. I’m thinking of backing off for a few days and ignoring his messages. Is this the right thing to do? Also is there any way of getting him to talk to me on the phone? The story text doesn’t work because I can’t get him to ever reply to the first message I send until 7 hours later, or the next day.

Any help would be great! x

EBR Team Member: Amor

March 4, 2016 at 7:05 am

Hi Melanie,

yes rest for a few days from texting.. Actually ,if you really want a convo, the topic either has to be about him or interesting for him because that’s how humans are.. We like talking about ourselves… we’re not fond of hearing other people’s life stories unless we cabln relate or there is value in that for us..

Transition his text to calls like when he complains or tells you about his day, tell him, I’ll call you coz I don’t quite understand… or can I call you, I want to hear more from that story

M.

March 3, 2016 at 9:56 pm

My ex boyfriend and I broke up at the end of october,actually he dumped me for another girl…which was his ex… To be clear he s younger than me..a lot! Hes 15 while im 24… We started kind of seeing each other last summer when i was in my village for vacations but actually i quite knew he liked me cause last year he wanted me to come to his party while we didnt really know each other then,and before i came to my village he was asking me and my cousin,as he told me, when i would come.. So ok at first it was just a game but then i think i developed greater feelings..he told me that he liked me indeed since last year and that i was the pretiest girl he was with and that if he did someting ‘more’ with someone that would be me.. So after a while we really moved our relantionship to the next level..i even bought him a present for his birthday,2 bracelets so we can both have one ,he was really moved,started crying and said he would wear it always.We were together close to 2 months.then i needed to return home and i had in mind we would broke up but then he said he wants to stay together and talk,skype etc. And that he didn t want me to find another guy and he seemed so honest i really beleived him.we were good for a while..talking everyday,but soon we started fighting because he was jealous and i was later jealous too ,i started complaining because he seemed more distand.we almost break up like two times but then we were together again,until one day he didn t answer my phone and said stupid things,then when i pointed that out said he wanted to break up with me,that he wanted another girl,that he didn t love me anymore and he made a mistake and other hurtful things..i tried to change his mind but nothing..i stoped talking to him..later i found out by his sister who is my friend that the girl was his ex..she tried manybrimes times to talk to him but he wouldnt listen.. After some weeks he texted me,i replied but he wouldn t say what he wanted so instopped the convo,after some weeks the same..i closed my profile on fb for some days and then when inreopened it he asked me why,then atnxmas day he sends me happy xmas, i reply after hours as always, the same then he reads it in a second and press like at hia girlfriend photo from yesterday..i deleted him..he hasn t talked to me ever since but after a while he broke up,tjen he was asking a common friend if we go out a lot and who do i like.. I decided to visit my village and to my great luck or misfortune while i walk with his sister we come across him and his friend who waves at us but when i come closer i see my ex sitting with his head down,not saying a word,not even looking at me. His sister said he was asking if i would come again but then he said he didn t care..a week later i come back,nothing,the next week again i bump into him,he was like why you don t talk to me and why we cant be be friends,and asking me about things,then says i need to go home if its ok with you…unfortunately i go to his house too and there he doesn talk to me again,he avoids looking at me,his father who knows about us tries to make him talk to me but he gets anry and says it s finished and stuff like that..i was very disappointed..i came one more time and he didnt even stepped out of his room to say hi..i waa very dissapointed..his sister told me she tried again talk to him but he was like, i don t care,i dont want her anymore,i talk with some other girl… I really dont know what to do..if i even stand a chance, can you please help??

M.

March 11, 2016 at 2:52 pm

Actually i don t know if it s worth,if i stand a chance or not… I just don t want another rejection..now i m dating a guy but i don t know if i should tell his sister or not? Would it help me or make things worse
EBR Team Member: Amor

March 12, 2016 at 10:22 am

nope, let him just see it or hear it naturally from others.. if you tell it to his sister, it’s like you’re purposely making him jealous.. unless she asks of course..
M.

March 6, 2016 at 10:07 pm

Ι m just disappointed.. I don t know if i should try someting or not..and what that would be..he s stubborn,shellfish and shy as well, many times i felt like he wanted to say sth but he couldn t . still i dont of im right..or if that is what happening or he really doesn t care .because i feel like that…and i don t know how to change that and bring him back..
EBR Team Member: Amor

March 9, 2016 at 11:02 am

If you’re still sad…and you’re emotionally unstable..don’t initiate yet.. focus on healing first because you will juat channel your frustration to him
M.

March 4, 2016 at 9:05 pm

I dont know if he s angry, i don t think he is cause when he talked to me he seemed calm and indifferent and nervous as well..he was angry when his father was trying to make him talk to me but thats quite normal i guess.. I am angry with him actually cause he says these things that hurt and even though he said he wants to be friends he doesn t text me and says he doesn t care about me.. So really i dont know if talking to him would help or he just mean it..
EBR Team Member: Amor

March 4, 2016 at 6:21 am

Hi M,

better not to push it, if he’s really angry now.. you have to give space and time.. I don’t think now is the right time to try.. it may take months but it won’t help if you keep appearing and his family that keeps on trying to talk to him will just make him more annoyed with you because you appear to be chasing him

Ria

March 2, 2016 at 11:49 pm

My ex boyfriend and I been together for three years and within those three years we broke up like 4 times. The first time it was because we fought a lot. Second because I didn’t trust him and the third because he didn’t love me anymore and was not excited about the relationship. I thought it was over between us after he said those harsh words that he didn’t love me anymore but two weeks later he begs me to take him back because he realized he made a huge mistake. I was scared at first because I didn’t want to go through that repeating cycle of him dumping me every time he felt like it. But he reassure me that I was the one that didn’t want to mess this up again. I fell for it and decided to take him back. One week was great and then the next week he started to distant himself because of school work. I let him be because I didn’t want to stress him out but then I get a call from him last weekend, him saying that he didn’t think we should be together anymore because our past ruins everything. He thinks he can find someone better to love him and says that if he spends his life with me, it would be completely hell. I don’t understand this, this is the man who recently gave me an expensive gift as forgiveness and did everything to prove me that he wanted me in his life, to now him saying that I can be the worst for him and that it’s best that we break up?

EBR Team Member: Amor

March 3, 2016 at 11:57 am

Hi Ria,

it can be because he missed you during the breakuo because he was used to having you in his life and now he has you again, the same problem arises.. he got you back but he’s still bored. It’s not your fault.. sometimes it’s because it’s not the right time for one of you to have a relationship, sometimes the variety is just gone.. but this time, stick with nc so you have a kind of reset

Heartbroken

March 2, 2016 at 10:57 pm

So I was a total text gnat before NC. I even visited his house a couple of times. Then I went NC and on day 30 I messaged him and he got his mom to tell me to leave him alone.

EBR Team Member: Amor

March 3, 2016 at 11:42 am

Oh.. . 🙁 that means he really doesn’t wamt to get back together, he even sees you’re text an effort to do it.. It means you have to move on

Rina

March 2, 2016 at 6:30 pm

Hello! I started NC yesterday. My best friend texted me and told me that my ex added her in Facebook. What does it mean? Is he trying to get my whereabouts through her? I was in a long distance relationship with my ex and he never met my BFF before, only hear about her or saw her photos in Facebook.

Rina

March 4, 2016 at 6:14 pm

My friend said he deleted the request. He is starting to get really weird.
EBR Team Member: Amor

March 3, 2016 at 10:34 am

Hi Rina,

if they’re not really friends then yes, that can mean that’s his way of checking up with you

Erin R.

March 2, 2016 at 5:34 pm

Hi guys,
I’m so glad my friend told me about this site. Here is my story: My now ex and I have been on and off for a few years- I believe that we both really love each other. In the fall, I found out he was at an event with another woman, so we got into a huge fight and broke up. We didn’t talk for two months. Before the holidays, we reconnected – he told me he did not want to be exclusive, but I made the HUGE mistake of giving him everything that comes with the relationship. It turns out, that he’s casually seeing the woman he was at the event with. I know I messed up by allowing him back in my life, but I’m so sad now. We ended things, but I’m wondering if he will come around again. How can I take him back, knowing he is interested in someone else? 🙁

EBR Team Member: Amor

March 3, 2016 at 5:15 am

Hi Erin R,

Well you shouldn’t take him if he still with her..when did you last talked and do you consider doing nc?

Sheila

March 2, 2016 at 4:53 pm

Hello. Not sure what to think. My ex contacted me and we chatted for couple of days and now there is silence. What should be my next step?

Sheila

March 3, 2016 at 7:38 am

After the NC.
EBR Team Member: Amor

March 3, 2016 at 9:42 am

I’m not sure why too.. maybe he was testing the water, or he’s just trying to be friendly again
Sheila

March 2, 2016 at 5:55 pm

Yes, after NC. I actually deleted his number so kinda gave up on getting him back.
EBR Team Member: Amor

March 2, 2016 at 5:11 pm

Hi Sheila,
is this after nc? or he just suddenly contacted you?

Rebel

February 29, 2016 at 9:15 pm

Hi Chris and the EBR team!

It’s been over four months since my e broke up with me. I did 30 days no contact, and it worked well. He and I began texting every day, and we’ve seen each other around campus a bit. I haven’t managed to get him to spend time with me (only me, we’ve hung out in a group a few times). He has gotten very close to his group of friends, and close to a new girl. They aren’t officially together, and I have no way of knowing the extent of their feelings for each other, but my gut tells me that there is something there. My ex doesn’t put much effort into talking to me, and he’s constantly on the defense, as if he’s afraid that I’m going to say or do something regarding the breakup and our old 2-year relationship.

I feel so lost: I thought I would be a lot further by now. I’ve worked on becoming the UG, followed your instructions regarding texting to a T, and I’m stuck. I don’t know how to proceed. How can I make him fall in love with me again if he’s not willing to open up to me at all?

Rebel

March 2, 2016 at 8:18 pm

I have tried, but maybe not good enough. I’ll give that another go.
Rebel

March 2, 2016 at 2:47 am

I wasn’t friendzoned. I’m sure of that. Uhm… It could be that he knows I want him back. When we were together, we had a conversation about what if we broke up, and I told him I would try to win him back if that ever happens. I don’t know if he is thinking back to that conversation, or what. My conversations went well for the first month or so, but then he stopped texting back, and I don’t want to look desperate by double or triple texting him. I know that he has noticed some of my changes (increased self-confidence, less depression, more responsible, lost weight, more social, etc.), because he has commented on them.
EBR Team Member: Amor

March 2, 2016 at 4:17 pm

yeah..he is probably thinking you’re in this to get him back.. why not tey the jealousy tactic?
Rebel

March 1, 2016 at 1:35 pm

So what can I do to fix things?
EBR Team Member: Amor

March 1, 2016 at 4:45 pm

First you have to identify the reason so you can work on it.. Do you agree in any in the list or you have one in mind?
EBR Team Member: Amor

March 1, 2016 at 8:52 am

Hi Rebel,

it means the rapport and attraction is not growing..either he knows you’re trying to get him back,.you were friendzoned, the topic were not that intereatig during texting ti build rapport or he didn’t notice your improvement… It can be one of those reasons

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