The Guide On What To Do On A Date With Your Ex Boyfriend- Ex Boyfriend Recovery

367 thoughts on “What To Do On A Date With Your Ex Boyfriend”

rach

November 4, 2013 at 1:30 am

After completing NC successfully he responded to my first contact message by saying “There are a lot of things that make me think of you!” I’m taking that as a positive response! Just wanted to let you and any other women like me who may have never heard from there ex during the NC period that it doesn’t necessarily mean anything bad. Also it took until the next morning for him to respond, so don’t freak out ladies if you don’t hear from him right away!

admin

November 4, 2013 at 5:32 pm

That is an awesome response.

And I really wish you would YELL that all across this site so some women can get the idea.
rach

November 4, 2013 at 7:49 pm

Haha! I’ve read a lot of the responses and questions that women post on here and I have to admit you are an extremely patient man! I just have to sit there and wonder if they actually read what you wrote? I man do they really expect you to say oh no sweet heart, you’re the exception to the rule? When you said “patience really is a virtue” you were 100% right because that one aspect alone can make or break everything when trying to repair a relationship. Also, it helps to look at it as a game, it’s almost entertaining to sit back and strategize a game plan and see if he goes on the offensive or defensive. And then next thing you know, you’re in full press mode and that’s just awesome! (Little basketball jargon there.)
admin

November 5, 2013 at 5:15 pm

…. finally someone understand my pain!

Its interesting when you talk about patience. I deal with this site every day so I have almost trained myself to be extra patient with women but most people don’t “train” the way I do so when I tell them that they have to be patient it doesn’t seem to click for them.

Except you, YOU understand!
mojojo

November 9, 2013 at 7:46 am

LOL ERMM i waas kinda afraid to give comment before cus its so tickling me not to asking him the same thing.. LOL THANKYOu for ur patient chris 🙂
admin

November 10, 2013 at 12:59 am

No problem

MOJOJOJO

Is that seriously a powerpuff girls reference?

Isabel

November 3, 2013 at 8:59 pm

Me and my ex have many mutual friends and I am in the beginning of texting him.

Is it a good or a bad thing to go out with my ex boyfriend together with mutual friends many times?

admin

November 4, 2013 at 5:10 pm

Yes it can be. It depends on what is comfortable for him and for you.

Ella

November 1, 2013 at 11:53 pm

Hi Chris,

Thank you for all your great insights. I have one question. For LDR, since it would take a lot of effort to commute to the meeting place, I should still go for a date that doesn’t last more than 2 hours?

Thanks

admin

November 2, 2013 at 6:41 pm

Yes I think in that case you can but that is a special case.

Eri

November 1, 2013 at 10:24 am

Hi chris, i just want to ask,what if it’s not a date, if it will only be a casual meeting?!..does this article works with that too?

admin

November 1, 2013 at 7:04 pm

Please… “guide” not article ;).

And yes it can work!
Eri

November 2, 2013 at 6:35 am

Sorry about that!!..:D..can you please explain more about the push/pull theory?..please give me an example
admin

November 2, 2013 at 7:23 pm

Sure, push pull.

So, if you show a ton of interest in me if we are on a date then I am less likely to show interest back to you. BUT if you don’t show interest in me that much then I am more likely to show interest in you.
Eri

November 4, 2013 at 5:31 am

Does that mean on a date i should disagree with most of his opinions wouldn’t that turn him off?..as u said to avoid argument!
Or do u mean i shouldn’t give him attention?..and how do i do that on a date too?..and wouldn’t that also turn him off?!
I’m sorry i’m finding trouble in understanding this :$
How exactly should i not show interest can you tell me exactly how not to show interest?!!
admin

November 4, 2013 at 5:47 pm

I don’t think you have to agree with everything he says BUT maybe instead of debating it just let it go for a while.

Stephanie

November 1, 2013 at 7:35 am

Great article. I love the insights into a male mind about what they think about dates. Interesting to know how much thinking guys put into the actual date.

I do have sympathy for men about the kiss moment. During the date, after the date, what if it doesn’t happen at all? It can be thought consuming. It is consuming for women as well. The best thing I have experienced is when a guy uses what I consider familiarity with touching. All too often when I am on a first date a guy will go from never touching me at all then just kinda pouncing for that first kiss. I know they had to build a lot of nerve, but it does feels awkward. The most effective moves are when a guy makes several innocent touches. In slowly breaks down the barrier and makes the first kiss less forced.

The best moves that have been put on me is a guy guided me by touching my back after he opened the door for me. Another guy would come up behind me and give me very short shoulder massages (less than a minute) he didn’t do it too frequently either. I went on a date with a guy and he sat on the same side of me a booth. The date was more comfortable than if he had sat on the opposite site. He then proceeded to point out things to me on the drink and dessert menu. Since there was only one menu I had to lean in to see what he was talking about. Clever guys, but the familiarity over time made it more comfortable and the first kiss easy.

admin

November 1, 2013 at 7:06 pm

Stephanie, what you said about kissing is soooo true. When a guy innocently touches you and makes you feel comfortable everything becomes so much easier. Of course, I have to write these guides for women.

And I may steal the sitting on the same side of the booth thing….
Stephanie

November 2, 2013 at 5:38 am

Haha, I stole the same move myself from him. It was clever. Eases nerves quickly.
admin

November 2, 2013 at 7:05 pm

It is very clever. I love hearing about stuff like that!

Samara

October 31, 2013 at 6:03 pm

Hey Great article it helps a lot but I was wondering after you go on your first date and the period between your first date and second is it okay to message your ex normally ? and then after the second should you message your ex?

admin

October 31, 2013 at 8:33 pm

I think it is but leave a day or two of NC in there.

Amies

October 30, 2013 at 8:15 pm

Hi Chris!

Thanks for you posting this guide. I can’t stress enough how helpful your website and your book has been in understanding the male mind.
I sent you an email in regards to this topic earlier this morning.

I hope you can help me out.

Much appreciated! 🙂

admin

October 30, 2013 at 11:13 pm

Ohhh which email did you send it to?
Amies

October 31, 2013 at 1:19 am

I sent it to [email protected]. The title is “Re: E book – and question about our first date yesterday”. Let me know if you can’t find it. Thanks so much!
admin

October 31, 2013 at 7:30 pm

Sorry didn’t get around to emails yesterday but I will today.
Amies

November 1, 2013 at 2:03 am

No worries Chris! 🙂 I understand how many emails you have to go through everyday
Looking forward to your response
admin

November 1, 2013 at 6:29 pm

I finally got to it. Sorry for the wait.
Amies

October 31, 2013 at 1:48 pm

Hi Chris!

I’ve just resent my email to you yesterday.
Please take a look! Thanks 🙂
admin

October 31, 2013 at 7:55 pm

I’m going to get around to it later today. Sorry for the late replies I am just trying to be smarter with my time.

rach

October 30, 2013 at 5:10 pm

I must admit I was pretty excited to see another addition to your “guides” today! (I honestly think I may have nerded out for a moment). I’ve been quite the avid reader of your site and your e-book since the beginning of October, obviously just after my breakup, and I have honestly found a lot of solace in what you have to say. I really think you are doing a wonderful thing here and honestly thank you for this! There is one thing that if you could shed a little light on in perhaps another guide I think it would be very beneficial to a lot of women. This is by no means is criticism, just a suggestion. I’ve read absolutely everything you’ve said, many things multiple times, and there is one thing that you touch base on here and there but never went into detail and that is what could it mean if you don’t hear from your ex during no contact? You have thrown out there a few times through various guides what the NC does to him during that time, but I think it would be nice if you compiled all of what he thinks plus the fact that he may not contact at all during that time. I have two days of NC left and haven’t heard from him once (or him hearing from me). I think that would be extremely disheartening had I not seen him a few times (we work together) and I caught him looking a few times and we “locked eyes” a few times. If that hadn’t happened about midway through NC I think I wouldn’t be as excited to see the light at the end of the tunnel. Your thoughts and words have given me a lot of hope, so I imagine you’ve done that for a lot of other women and that was honestly the only thing that has really bothered me (not that you haven’t said a lot about it, I only mean that he hasn’t sent me ANY texts) and I imagine I’m not the only one out there who has had the same thought. Again though, thank you so much for taking your time to do this. I find it funny really because my ex and I talked a lot about logic and he told me numerous times something along the lines of knowing something “because he’s a man” so all of that really sunk in reading your site. I could actually hear him sometimes telling me this stuff instead of you. I find that all the more credible in your end though! Thank you so much for what you’re doing here!

admin

October 30, 2013 at 11:16 pm

Thats a really great suggestion. Maybe I can touch on it in another “guide.” Maybe I can touch on it next.

But for you the short answer would be this:

He could be stubborn… He could be shy to answer… He could be scared of what you think…

Gosh there are so many possibilities… Maybe I should write about this.
rach

October 31, 2013 at 4:09 pm

Considering that he was the one to ask for the break up and I tried reasoning with him over it I honestly think that it may be due to pride/stubborness. Hopefully he can get past that though! I’m glad that you think this may be worthwhile to write about.
admin

October 31, 2013 at 8:36 pm

Of course!

abby

October 30, 2013 at 4:38 pm

it seems like you like Laura Vandervoort.. Ahem.. 😉
as usual,i like your articles!

admin

October 30, 2013 at 4:40 pm

“guides” that’s what I like to call em ;)!

As for Vandervoort… well, I have a bit of a crush hahaha.
abby

October 30, 2013 at 4:59 pm

oh okay..i like your guides!! oh no no. that’s not ‘a bit of a crush’.. its like you are wishing to have a girlfriend like her.. am i wrong? haha.. anyway, i have an idea for you.. would you make or create another guide about ‘how to be a good girlfriend’? even thought we could find it in other guides, it’s hard for us to understand it specifically.. thank you, chris!

your biggest fan, abby
admin

October 30, 2013 at 11:11 pm

A girlfriend like her… nahhh…

her as a girlfriend DEFINITELY… JK JK!

She is a beautiful woman that can illustrate my points.

How to be a good girlfriend. Be more specific for what you want for me?

anonymous

October 30, 2013 at 2:17 pm

Oh my! I wished i have read this earlier! I just got off frm NC with him. Been texting for quite a bit with neutral and positive replies from him So i took a risk and asked him if he would want to watch movie with me! Not the romantic one but THOR. Hahaha. Anyway he turned me down by saying he’s busy working even on weekends. He usually works full time on wkdays, studies part time and has a part time job on wkends and certain wkdays. I don’t know if i should ask him again? How soon? I’m worried that he just used work as an excuse to not see me.

Should i be texting him everyday though i keep initiating the contact first?

admin

October 30, 2013 at 11:07 pm

Man that is one hectic schedule he has.

Wait a few weeks and then ask him out to coffee or something. Then again, laser tag does seem pretty fun 😉
anonymous

October 31, 2013 at 12:42 am

Actually could you do a guide more into the male mind? Honestly i wanna know where i stand with my ex, if there is still a chance with him. why would he not chase me at all? But he does entertain my msgs if i text him. Also i know he has been dating ard despite his busy schedule. But he seems so mysterious abt it! He does not allow any of the tagged photos with the ladies to appear on his facebook. Though i have seen the photos myself by chance.

He’s 27, and i know he is ready for marriage. So i want to know if he does see me as a potential candidate and not just stringing me along.

I casually asked him before if i have a chance, he said 50/50. Also, will a man by any chance try to play hard to get? To see to what extend you will chase him?
admin

October 31, 2013 at 7:32 pm

I think I will talk more about the male mind during NC. There is just so much to cover and it takes forever to write these guides but I think i will get started on the NC male mind thingy today!

Tania

October 30, 2013 at 10:53 am

This is a really useful guide! I actually was waiting for something like this, though in my situation it will be more complicated. We will see each other every day before I leave again, so difficult to follow this dating process.

admin

October 30, 2013 at 11:06 pm

Yes I can see how it would be difficult. Maybe you can slowly but surely up the ante on each date.

LIM

October 30, 2013 at 4:40 am

Oh it’s about time for this. My exie is asking me out and i don’t have a clue on what are the things that I need to do. Thanks for this awesome post. Imma read this tonight. :3

admin

October 30, 2013 at 11:00 pm

Tell me what you think!

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