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Samantha
February 2, 2016 at 4:11 am
Hi chris
about a month and a half ago my boyfriend broke up with me. Things were amazing, we hadn’t dated for very long but we were inseperable. I had met his parents and his friends and he had met mine. A little back story, we reconnected last year (we actually went to highschool together) and had a bit of a flirting thing going on but he couldn’t act on it because he was with someone at the time. We ended up going our seperate ways because i was starting to have feelings for him. well almost a year to the day he messaged me again and we started dating. He had broken up with his gf about a month before and i had broken up with someone around the same time. Things happened quickly but neither of us minded. one night we were having a really lovely evening and we ended up having a fight over something that really isn’t very important. We are both very emotional and things got escalated quickly. Well he broke up with me 4 days later saying that he is messed up from his ex and does’t think he deserves being flipped out on (we were both emotional that night). He said he didn’t mind staying in contact and being friends and even hanging out but that we shouldn’t see each other intimately anymore. I told him I couldnt do that because i will always want more. A couple weeks after that he sent me a text saying that he hoped i will have a good trip (i was leaving for mexico) i said thank you etc and he said he wasn’t sure how to talk to me anymore because everything he says gets me upset (he tries to flirt, and it leads me on etc) so I asked if he wanted to start fresh and he replied with “why? so you can flip out on me again?” i didn’t reply to this and when i got back i got a text from him asking if i got in safely from my trip. I said i did, thank you for asking and asked about his day. we had a short conversation and now its been 2 weeks since i have heard from him. i’m wondering if he’s playing the martyr and thinking that hes not going to contact me because he can’t say anything right etc. I’m trying to do no contact but i feel like i’m losing him in the process. I care for him very much. i might also add that he still has some of my things and he hasn’t said a word about them.
Samantha
February 9, 2016 at 4:27 pm
So I guess that means that I will probably initiating contact for the next little while. right?
EBR Team Member: Amor
February 10, 2016 at 1:14 pm
Hmm yes..
Samantha
February 8, 2016 at 11:09 pm
I called him on being passive aggressive before, not during the conversation last week. The conversation last week was a nice light hearted one. No negativity at all. Will i have to initiate contact again to keep the communication open and to get him to open up again?
EBR Team Member: Amor
February 9, 2016 at 10:25 am
If hun opening up, make him more comfortable with you, then go ahead but if it only brings up negative emotions then its better to just maintain the positivity or calm or the fun before letting him going to that stage again.
Samantha
February 8, 2016 at 11:01 pm
The conversation was light hearted and nice. Not like how we used to be with flirting etc (think i’m just missing how we used to be etc). The thing is I didn’t see myself as “flipping out” He was being quite passive aggressive and I called him on it. I think he is still healing and that I need to give him more time, but at the same time I miss him more than ever and I am having a hard time being patient.
Samantha
February 7, 2016 at 9:44 pm
Well it’s been a few days since we talked and he hasn’t initiated anymore contact. The thing that is puzzling me is that he still has my things (i’m not really worried about it going missing or him throwing them out) it’s a substantial amount. So i’m pretty confused. is he just healing from his past very emotionally abusive relationship and still want me in his life? So very confused
EBR Team Member: Amor
February 8, 2016 at 8:00 am
From your last comment you said you had a nice short conversation but you wanted to keep in mind that he is still healing, does that mean that you didn’t get mad but you the conversation wasn’t fun also? or light hearted? Because if you were just serious, it doesn’t erase his image of you who flips out on him, he maybe just be thinking that “she’s not angry right now but she may by if the situation heats up.”
Samantha
February 4, 2016 at 5:35 am
Thank you for your advice. I texted him today and we ended up having a nice conversation. He asked how i was, told me he bumped into my cousin etc. it was a short conversation again, but I think he is still healing. I’m trying to let him see that I can be consistant and working on controlling my emotions. I hope I have a chance, he is very special to me. We broke up because of a fight so i’m hoping he sees all our good times and not just focus on the only bad memory.
EBR Team Member: Amor
February 3, 2016 at 12:39 pm
Hmm, it’s been two weeks so why not try to rebuild the friendship instead? When you’re texting, be positive. Change your image of being moody by being patient with him. If he raises that issue, don’t get mad but don’t ask right ahead about the relationship when you start texting.
Confused
February 1, 2016 at 10:53 am
Hello!
I have done no contact rule for 30 days and I did not get any response since two days now. We have been together almost two years. I moved from other Country to him. After few months of living together he said he is not ready for relationship, that he would like to travel and meet other Girls. I was heart broken, I left all my family and friends for him…I really love him. After a week when I moved out, I went to pick up the rest of the stuff in appartment and there were already clothes from other woman. I havent seen him since two months. I am still in the same town…hoping he will come back..I sent him small Clip from the concert I have been, knowing he really likes this Group. We have been once also together on this concert having really nice time. I also wrote some comment about how I know he likes them…but I got no reply. ..Shuld I still trying to get him back?..or should I move on… But I really miss him…and it hurts like crazy.
EBR Team Member: Amor
February 2, 2016 at 1:20 pm
Hi Confused,
Hmm.. why not try one last time next week? If he doesn’t reply, it can mean he’s not ready yet. During NC have you improved yourself and made you socual media accounts active?
Kimmy
January 31, 2016 at 9:50 pm
Hi Chris love your website and advice. My boyfriend of almost 4 years split up with me 6 months ago because I would not commit in marriage or to live together. He said he was heartbroken and that although he finished he just wanted me to call and tell him i wanted him and loved him. I had a lot of issues with health and work stress so basically took a few months to try and sort myself out. I did respond to his messages in the first few months but kept them very generic and didn’t really show my real feelings and how upset I was about the split. I have now got my life back on track and realise I’ve made the biggest mistake by letting him go. I have also recently found out that he has been seeing someone else from straight after we split. I don’t know anything about this girl or how serious they are. I’ve messaged him every couple of weeks but he didn’t respond right away or just responded with general reply. He called me just begore christmas (late night and drink taken) we talked and he asked why did you never call me and just walk away. When i told him i hadnt been with anyone else since we split he said he couldn’t believe it and thought I would have moved on. He told me he was seeing someone (I knew this but didn’t realise he was with her since we split) the next day he text to apologise for calling. I said that I still loved him and that I was upset by speaking to him that it brought back all my feelings I had tried to put behind me I told him that I didn’t want to interfere in his relationship and that for both our sakes I would not contact him again. I decided to implement no contact since then and did not respond to a birthday text and one he sent 2 weeks ago (late at night saying he hoped I was ok) after 30 days (last week) I sent him a jokey text as you advised and he responded almost instantly. I text once more and he replied and then I ended the conversation like you advised. I text him again yesterday about a memory we shared together but he hasn’t replied. Should I just give up hope or should I try to text again?
EBR Team Member: Amor
February 1, 2016 at 12:30 pm
Hi Kimmy,
It’s only been a day.. Maybe he’s busy.. Try once more but this time about a topic he loves talking about
Christina George
January 29, 2016 at 11:51 pm
Hi Amor!, I did no contact twice and the first time it went sooo great, but then i made an argument after a while of talking again, so i stopped talking again and he messaged two weeks later. I responded and stopped talking for 2.5 months.. yes long……. after and sent a great message. but no responce. I’m not sure if it’s different if you did it twice already.. or what to say now..
Christina George
January 30, 2016 at 10:40 pm
Thanx for replying!He’s not really on social media so i’m not sure if he’d see it.? I did make it positive, getting in shape and trying to change my attitude and be less of a crazy ex.. haha I have let emotion get the best of me before and got a bit over the top but he always forgave it and became friendly again, but maybe i waited too long and didn’t learn how to act one too many times.. i thought i was just getting over him but i think i was wrong.. he had blocked me for one day in the past and i could tell but i don’t know if thats the case again and can’t see..
EBR Team Member: Amor
January 31, 2016 at 4:39 am
Well, most of the time exes their exe’s profile. Especially if other sources(mutual friends) mention to him about your changes or recent activities.
EBR Team Member: Amor
January 30, 2016 at 2:36 pm
Hi Christina,
Actually the more you do no contact, the less it’s effect. So, now, it’s going to be harder. If he’s not responding, don’t flood him with texts. Have good timing in your texts or attempts. For example,this is just an example, okay?
He loves Star Wars so, post a rare Star Wars item (on your wall or social media profile NOT on his) and then caption it with, “Saw this limited item of star wars, and because it’s limited, just pm me on where to buy it, I’ll share it freely to you!) Now, he can ask a friend to ask you, so if you can limit the post that only him can see then better.
So you have to provide something of value for him. The text message must be something he’d like to talk about, your post must be something that he would like to comment on. Something like that.
When you did NC, did you make it productive?
Shayla
January 23, 2016 at 3:55 pm
I used the 21 day no contact rule and I didn’t talk to him at all. But he didn’t talk to me the whole time either, then after the no contact was over I don’t know what to say, and what if he doesn’t text back because I have tried the no contact rule with him before and it did not work. I am sure he hates me too much to respond. What is your advice?
EBR Team Member: Amor
January 24, 2016 at 12:47 pm
Hi Shayla,
This is your 2nd try of no contact? How did you know the first didn’t work?
Hmm, to give you an idea on what to say in your test text, think about what you did during no contact. How did you make it active? And what are the topics that he’s interested in?
Karoliina
January 21, 2016 at 10:42 am
Hey Chris!
Thanks for the great website. Me and my boyfriend of 4,5 years broke up in the beginning of December because he was a bit of a mess. It was his call and basically the only reason he gave me was that he just didn’t feel like being in a relationship even though he loves me still. We decided to remain friends because we used to be really close friends before we started dating. Now in the beginning of January he moved to a another country for 6 months and we saw each other before that. He has been the emotional one and he was really moved when we said goodbyes. But what we also talked about was the fact that we both feel that we need to be alone now nut never say never and maybe we will end up together?
So I told him that I need some time apart – no talking for a while. He was really upset about it and almost started to cry so I changed the subject. Then the next day he send me a message where he told me that he is stuck in a city where his connection flight was supposed to leave. I replied even though I asked him not to text me for a while (didn’t know about the NC rule then). So then he texted me again two days later that he is now there and this time I didn’t reply.
So now I’m trying to figure out also what I want – to get back together or not? I send him a message earlier today that I’m really happy for him that he really seems to enjoy his time over there. He hasn’t replied yet but now that I found your page should I start the NC from this day forward?
Thanks for the great tips again!
Karoliina
January 25, 2016 at 6:08 pm
Even though he is not in the same country? And there is no chance of us to see each other before June?
EBR Team Member: Amor
January 26, 2016 at 10:06 am
You’re the only one who can answer that. Are you willing to maintain a long distance relationship?
EBR Team Member: Amor
January 23, 2016 at 1:24 pm
Hi Karolina,
If your current connection is ready to put you back together, why not just continue rebuilding the relationship?
Lisa
January 16, 2016 at 9:22 am
Hey! First of all sorry for my bad english..
On 12th of August i’ve started dating with my classmate/friend (now ex) but our relationship wasn’t so good.. i scolded him for 3 months long and stuff and then after 3 months he wanted to break up with me for that. I mean i understand what i’ve done but i won’t do that anymore. so i have cried and begged to not to break up with me and then he didn’t but then after 2 days he broke up again and i begged again. I even went to his house to beg and i cried as well.. so our relationship went on and off again..
On the 16th December he wanted to break up and said let’s be friends i said oh.. i understand.. so we decided to be friends and then one day later we had a prom and he wanted me back out of nowhere.. So our relationship was on track again. And he said to me that he will forgive me for my bad behavior from the 3 months and that he will accept that i will do my best for him.
The first week of Christmas he was mad at me because he was thinking at the past again (not one time but several times) But i thought he would accept the past.. And that he knows i am not that person anymore. But then on 26th of December he broke up.. We didn’t talk till 2th of January and i begged and cried then but it was over i guess.. He said he couldn’t handle it anymore and then he blocked me on Whatsapp and Facebook and then school began and we didn’t talk for all.. (He is my classmate)
It’s been a week now and we still didn’t talk but my question is.. does he still love me or wants me back? He is looking at me several times but for short (said my friends to me) and he told the teacher that he doesn’t love me anymore and that i maybe don’t have the chance to get him back. So what should i do?
Lisa
January 19, 2016 at 5:37 pm
What to do if my ex blocked me at everything? Well i do see in him in my class.. If i have to face him (After i finished the no contact) for a convo how should i start? He doesn’t look at me and he only looks at me when i don’t look at him.. and he walks away when i am near him.. (While we are classmates of eachother) So what can i do about that?
EBR Team Member: Amor
January 21, 2016 at 11:26 am
That’s the magic of no contact. He looks when you’re not looking. So, don’t interact with him as much as you can for your chosen period of time. Since, your classmate, you only interact with him under uncontrolled circumstances.
Lisa
January 16, 2016 at 1:36 pm
Yes we didn’t talk for two weeks almost but what is bothering me i think i am sure he won’t contact me after the no contact rule and if it is over (the no contact rule) i don’t know how to begin a conversation with him
EBR Team Member: Amor
January 16, 2016 at 9:04 pm
Hi Lisa,
Well we can’t be sure if you don’t tey right. These posts might help you in what to text and what to do if he doesn’t reply.
Texting an ex boyfriend (the new rules)
What to do if you get the dreaded no response after contact
EBR Team Member: Amor
January 16, 2016 at 9:29 am
Hi Lisa,
First of all, you need to forgive yourself too and stop blaming yourself. That was done and if you asked for forgiveness, that’s it. It’s up to him to forgive and you but you don’t have to relive a mistake over and over again. It’s also hard to say if he loves you or not if it doesn’t come directly from him. Have you considered doing the no contact rule?
Maria
December 31, 2015 at 4:32 pm
Hi Chris. Thanks for all the great info you share here. I was hoping you could shed some of your light on my situation. I’ve felt terrible… I dated my ex for 14 months. We broke up bc the chemistry was off.. We were having less and less sex and i was feeling a bit depressed to change that. I did NC for 2 weeks and then reached out (i know i blew it) I then exposed my arguments as to why we were great together showed him a not depressed happy upbeat girl and told him the sex frecuency and sexual conection could be fixed. He agreed and we dated for 3 weeks. In those 3 weeks we had sex 3 times… (I started looking for a sex therapist but didnt tell him) And then all of a suden he said it was over that there was no chemistry no heat and that we behaved like good friends and that those past weeks were a confirmation of what he had felt on the previous breakup . I went into NC and it has been 2 weeks… He hasnt tried to contact me at all and those weeks included Christmas and well today, new years eve.. I think he is not seeing anyone else… I know i should do NC for 2 or 3 more weeks… Just wondering if it’s worth it… Do we have a chamce or should i move on?
EBR Team Member: Amor
January 18, 2016 at 9:43 am
Hi Maria
Moving on lies in your decision. Sometimes, if it feels better to stop and do other things than him, it’s a sign you should
Holding On
December 23, 2015 at 6:06 pm
He called 10 days and I didn’t answer then he texted me requiring someone’s email. I sent it througg. Does that mean i reinitiate no contact?
Erin
December 23, 2015 at 9:02 am
Hi Chris,
It’s helpful that I have found this website with wise advice but I’m not so sure about NC rule on my case.
First, we’re distant relationship. He is European and I’m Asian. We only dated 6 months whenever he or I had business trips and chances to meet. 6 weeks ago he said he doesn’t love me enough to continue this distant relationship and he felt I invested too high expectations on him and brought him pressure. So he asked to stop contact and deleted me from Facebook. (We rarely had fights and every meeting was enjoyable to both sides. The only fight we had was when he wanted breakup)
I stopped contacting him for 3 weeks, then texted again, his response wasn’t bad. He said he’d like to remain as friends but no frequent texts for now. I expressed my appreciation to him that he had treated me nicely and given me sweet memories.
After that time, I haven’t contacted him for 2 weeks till now. Neither has him.
My question is our birthday is coming next week. (we have same birthday) I’d like to send him my best wish for birthday, but it’ll break the NC rule again. Should I just pretend that I forgot his birthday and no texts at all?
BTW, he never texts me spontaneously after our breakup.
beth
December 22, 2015 at 11:05 pm
Hi Chris , my ex split up with me last week ,we were together for 12 weeks ,although we new eachother before ,he said last time when we first met he had spark butterflies and was besotted with me ,this time were together within four weeks he said no spark he didn’t feel like he did ,four weeks later he freaked out again and said I don’t yearn or ache for u I don’t miss u then last week I don’t love you I don’t have the feelings you had have for me , it’s now 3 days to Christmas and I have started the no contact rule , I have had a few texts like “hey how r u ?, ” also fb pic “saying I hope your ok” in my heart I’m devastated I miss him I love him completely .will the no contact rule work,? And what category does he fit in ,in the 12 weeks he only stayed 3 times, and the last time was a couple of days before we split, that night I was half asleep heard him say I love you , and just as I’m writing this I have just had a text he says no reply back well I won’t keep texting I care for you goodbye , which now I feel more devastated distraught is all hope lost ? Please help me Chris
Alli (Can't Lose Hope)
December 6, 2015 at 8:53 pm
Hi Chris, I successfully completed a 30 day no contact period. I took a slightly different approach for my first text, (he and I dated for 7 years so simply saying something random and funny didn’t seem appropriate), so I tweaked my first text to him, and simply said “Hey, I hope all is well, how is everything going with launching ____?” (his new business) and didn’t mention anything about myself.
Made sure the text was focused on him, as he’s stubborn and I’m a little nervous I won’t get a response. Should I try something that seems less genuine, like the “interesting text or a fake funny text” in a few days? He’ll read right though that though, so I wanted to be more sincere or genuine than simply trying to get a reaction out of him.
Chris Seiter
December 7, 2015 at 3:53 pm
I think that text will be ok.
Alli (Can't Lose Hope)
December 7, 2015 at 5:57 am
Update, he got back to me and was even nice and polite, said everything is good business-wise and that he hopes I”m doing well! It’s a tiny step, but at least it was positive!
Thank you for all the great advice Chris, the no contact rule definitely worked. Now time to move on to phase 2!
Meemoo
November 28, 2015 at 5:25 pm
Hey Chris. I completed my No Contact Rule and sent him a very interesting text but He saw my text and didn’t reply. I got very upset. During NC he texted me manyy times asking me where I am and how Ive been and put up sad statuses about me and saying I miss you etc but now he didnt reply at all. Please help me. What should I do? I would really really appreciate your reply. I didnt text him again. I will wait for a week now. Is that okay? Pls reply.
Chris Seiter
December 3, 2015 at 5:21 am
What was the text?
Thoroughly Confused
November 24, 2015 at 1:50 am
Hi Chris,
So I have followed the contact rule after my boyfriend broke up with me and have actually taken the time to get back to me and do the things I love doing. I feel I am in a good place emotonally and can think clearly. As much as I know I deserve someone who adores me and doesn have his own emotional difficulties of being torn by being in a relationship and wanting ‘freedom’ I do still miss just him as a person and being with him and the potential we did have together. I feel it is such a shame.
Anyway I followed your advice and planned the perfect first contact text and in fairness I did get a response and for each message I have sent I have had a response but they have been quite short and just not always him in them and cant seem to get a conversation going either because he takes hours to reply or just gives one sentence and nothing in it. I am just confused, is he being guarded or not. Anyway I seem to message a couple of times two days then wait a day or two due to lack of conversation and have done this a couple of times now and leaving it again for a few days now as otherwise I feel like I am annoying him. I only send a message if he has responded though. I just feel he is either not bothered by me at all or annpyed for me ignoring and cant get a conversation and just dont know what to say or do. When we broke up he wanted to be friends and couldnt understand why we couldnt hang out like we did when we were together and I told him I need time. Yet now I feel like I have donesomething when I know I havent. Please help.
anonymous
November 19, 2015 at 4:29 am
hi,im applying the nc rule,however we belong to the sams clum,cicle of friemds that have weekly svents,outings,etc,and we bumpinto each every week at one of these functions, its customary to hug everyone hello and goodbye……i dont want to miss my circle of events or friends…what do i do…..???
Lisa
November 15, 2015 at 1:06 pm
Hye Chris, first of all I am very gratetful to have found ur website. And forgive me for my broken English. 🙁
Me and my ex have been together only for 2months and a half. BTW, im 19 and this is my first time being so desperate to get my ex back. because this is also my first love. actually, ive been reading through ur articles starting a few weeks ago. i keep on reading until i seriously wanted to ask something specifically. especially about this no contact rule. ive counted from the first day till today tht its been more than 30 days already for my NC. during the NC, i didnt even text him at all. but he’s the one who did. like 3 times on 3 different days within big gaps. i replied. but not too much which means i didnt show any happiness or shock. overall, he was like kinda ask about my conditions, thts all. i felt appreaciated but on the same time very sad. feeling like 50% theres a chance for me to get him back and 50% no. and recently, i saw his status on whtsapp in japanese. when i asked my friends who learn japanese, his status stated tht he’s kinda found someone new. from tht moment, i feel so down. plus, its been more than 30 days of NC already and almost 40. no signs from him tht i could ever get him back. and..actually…the problem why i broke up with my ex was almost the same like Brandywine. i made some mistakes which makes him angry. sorry chris, my story was just too long and im worried if u wont have much time to read this. but if u did and u can, then thank u so much.
NickLisa. 🙂
Monica
November 6, 2015 at 6:51 pm
Chris!
I went 12 days of no contact. Got really drunk one night and reflowed him again on instagram…the next day i woke up and saw him in my newsfeed and instantly unfollowed him. I know he got the notification – I got no remark about it (NO CONTACT FROM HIM). I’m so stupid, no more booze for a while!!!!
Should I restart the no contact or just tack on another week? Please let me know so I don’t mess this up for good.
Thank you!
Tia
October 12, 2015 at 2:14 am
Hello Chris,
So I am currently applying the no contact rule on my ex, and my birthday is coming up. I know him like the back of my hand, and he’s going to text me Happy Birthhday. Should I reply or no? I don’t want to seem rude or anything of that nature. so confused on what to do please help Chris!
olivia
November 4, 2015 at 4:12 am
do not reply! Sorry am I allowed to answer?
Tee
October 27, 2015 at 2:56 pm
Publicly thank everyone on facebook for their birthday wishes, and don’t respond directly to him.
Forest
October 10, 2015 at 5:12 pm
Hello Chris, hope this finds you well. So my beloved pulled away to heal in August – past relationship issues surfaced because he never allowed himself to deal with them in the 1st place. We met while I was living abroad and fell strong and hard for one another. We emailed, texted, called and skyped everyday- sometimes skyping up to 9 hours a day. I know -crazy! We spoke about everything under the sun and shared everything with each other. I moved back to the States and at 1st it was great, but then I started to feel a distance in him. I knew something was bothering him, but he didnt want to talk about it -so I let it be. I moved to a town 200 miles away for work and we decided that the distance would be good for both of us since I needed to settle back into “American” life and he was starting a new career. We would communicate a lot and see each other when we could. He seemed to slowly be pulling away from me, I didn’t pester him as I know being a gnat is the most unattractive thing, so the few times we did communicate I was always super positive and funny. Then the day I was to visit him, he called and said he needed to pull away, wall himself off emotionally and physically and resolve these painful issues that had been surfacing for a few weeks now. I told him that I would support his healing, give him the space he needed to heal, but that I wasn’t going to close the door on “us” -that I knew that we were meant to be together. He said he couldn’t make me any promises but that he would come find me if the true/strong/real feelings we had shared were still there after he was done resolving these issues. We parted ways and I immediately started the NC period – I had already heard about it – it has now been 8 weeks (so hard not to contact him but I dove into making myself the goddess ?I know I can be and never once contacted him), I haven’t been contacted once by him. I decided to reach out 2 days ago via text: “Hi! I just ate at a new sushi restaurant and had a crazy good roll called the “Spicy Ben Franklin” (what?! I know – crazy name!) – it was spicy yet refreshing. And am now watching It’s Complicated. “You’ve gone native. I was into it.” Omg this movie is hilarious, my eyes won’t stop watering! Made me think about you and smile.” That movie is one of his favorites abd loved that I liked it too. Have yet to hear back. Any suggestions? This is a LDR but I do plan on having a non-LDR with him… Forever. Thanks for your time. ??
Meredith
October 4, 2015 at 6:13 am
I’ve come to a small hiccup in my NC and I’m not entirely sure how to deal with it as I’m pretty sure I will fall into this boat of “He won’t contact me during or after NC”
When we broke up, he moved out west, about 30mins from where we lived together. He still comes to this area a lot though to see friends.
Mutual friends.
Friends that got he and I to meet.
Because of this we both get invited out to the same events such as beach days. Today was one of those days. I rock up to the beach to hang with our friends and see his closest mates. They all say hi but everyone there then realized that he and I are at a group thing when not together.
Im keen on this NC thing so go off for a swim so we don’t see each other/to avoid him.
I get home after we finish the beach day and while I’m proud of myself for not letting myself see him I feel almost childish that I had to hide away?
I don’t even know if this is the right thread to post on (whoops)
We are both very stubborn people, so I don’t think he’ll be messaging me during the NC because anything he wants to know about me during our break up, he can ask friends…
I don’t want to have to miss out on hanging out with friends if it means he’ll be there, but I feel if I keep going, the whole “I miss her” thing won’t work as we’ll be catching glimpses of each other, overhear one another talk at times, and of course when there’s alcohol involved, things can happen.
How would you suggest dealing with this?
Chris Seiter
October 6, 2015 at 4:06 am
All that means is that you have to come up with a killer text message after NC.