748 thoughts on “When NOT To Use The No Contact Rule On Your Ex Boyfriend”

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   Jack

   August 28, 2016 at 2:39 pm

   So I’m currently doing the. I contact period with my ex. We both decided it was best not to contact each other. It’s been 12 days. I posted a picture of a place I went to that apparently got her attention. She texts me saying “you went?” Because it was supposed to be a place that me and her were going I go to. I didn’t answer of course. A half hour later she messages me back “why aren’t you answering me?” What do I do here? Would it be bad if I don’t answer? Would it annoy her, since it already looks like it is? Would this be a good time to break the mo contact rule to try to avoid negative emotion?

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   EBR Team Member: Amor

   August 30, 2016 at 5:15 pm

   Hi Jack,

   why are you doing the no contact rule?

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   Lindsay

   August 24, 2016 at 3:07 pm

   Hi Chris

   Please please please can someone help me – my boyfriend and I broke up after nearly seven years all of which have not been plain sailing. He won’t commit, doesn’t want to get engaged to me, won’t marry me, won’t buy a home together so that we could call it our home but instead I used to live with him in his ex-marital home. His ex-wife lives around the corner with their 2 children (14 & 20 years) as does his mother! His children are ill mannered, talk to me like I was a piece of dirt and have absolutely no respect for either me or anyone else actually both older or younger. I am in my mid fifties and he is 51. I had a disagreement whilst on holiday with his son and the way he spoke to me was horrid and to make things worse my boyfriend just defended his son’s actions and said that I got all the respect my behaviour deserved. It kind of blew over and when we returned from holiday, I had to go back to work and he didn’t so the following morning I went to work and started talking to my work colleague who knows the situation but unbeknown to me I had accidentally redialed his number on my cell phone and he heard everything and I mean everything. I spoke the truth and he heard everything that I had already said to him many times before so it couldn’t have been a shock but oh my gosh he exploded! Ended our relationship, dumped all my possessions at my new house (where I had moved to several months previously after a split) and proceeded to say his final goodbye and have a good life! We exchanged a few texts (very plain and to the point) because of a mutual friend that has terminal cancer. It was his birthday the other day so I dropped off his present (which I had purchased several months previously) and left it on his door step as I didn’t want to see him as our last words were very nasty from him. He received the present later that day and tried calling and I didn’t answer. He then sent a text to which I never replied and of course a few nasty texts were sent but I ignored them. I didn’t call, text or message him a few days later when it was his actual birthday as I was trying to do the no contact rule, however he knocked on my door last night with a book that had been accidently delivered to his address. He just said hello and that he didn’t know that I was expecting another delivery from Amazon. He then saw some flowers which he said were nice and then asked who they were from (which was given to me by a guy that I had met up with for a drink.). I replied that I had received them from a secret admirer or maybe I had just bought them myself!! He then just mattered something and left. Thinking about it, it probably wasn’t the best reply. He looked really well and I had just come from work so I looked tired and not my best. I was understandably upset after he had left and then when he didn’t even message me later or contact me at all, my heart was broken. It has been 14 days since we broke up yet he has not even tried to contact me once after the birthday present thanks text which he ended with his initials and one kiss. I just don’t know what to do and hence I am really seeking your advice here.

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   EBR Team Member: Amor

   August 28, 2016 at 3:48 pm

   Hi Lindsay,

   maybe he didnt want to marry because he thought there was no need for it and your relationship with his children may be a factor.. I’m not saying that they’re not wrong for being disrespectful, but of course they’re still his children..

   but he’s human.. he’ll think about that part too and not put the blame all on you

   for now, restart the count from the day he went to your house and do 45 days of just improving yourself and having a new routine

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   Hopeful but confused

   July 12, 2016 at 3:59 pm

   Hello,
   I just have a question of whether or not NC will work for me. My ex boyfriend broke up with me 2 months ago, and since then we have kept in touch since he said he wanted to be friends with me and have me in his life. He was still very conflicted, because he wanted to be with me but was not sure he could get past our previous relationship and couldn’t trust that things would be different. We hung out once and it was the most amazing time. After that he seemed reluctant to meet in person again. I feel now that I may have been a bit pushy, which came across to him and caused conflict. 4 days ago he txted me saying that we cannot be friends like he had hoped because there are underlying intentions and miscommunications that end up in one of us getting upset and he cannot be friends with me after the emotional connection we shared and wants to let go. I txted him back saying that I hope he doesn’t do this and he txted saying that if I really needed to talk to chat once in a while he was there, but he cannot be friends with me as ‘intimately’ as he thought possible. I then msged him saying I respect what he said and agree that in order for there to be a fresh start, there needs to be time and space to heal, and I hope that he doesn’t become a stranger. He did not respond. It’s been 4 days that I’m doing NC, but it doesn’t seem like it will matter since he is the one who no longer wants to communicate with me. Is it too late for me to do NC and give it time and then try to reconnect?
   Thanks so much.

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   Hopeful but confused

   July 13, 2016 at 12:21 pm

   Thank you!
   It seems to me like he has his mind made up that he wants to move on and have nothing to do with me. Is this something I can overcome? Or does improvement and good NC only work when your ex still has doubts about the breakup?

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   EBR Team Member: Amor

   July 13, 2016 at 6:09 pm

   nope..nc is supposed to help you make him see you in a new light..like a restart

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   EBR Team Member: Amor

   July 12, 2016 at 7:10 pm

   Hi hopeful but confused,

   nope..it will depend more on how much you improve during nc

4. 

   Bea

   July 6, 2016 at 4:01 am

   Hi Chris,
   My husband & I had been married for 22 years already. We have two kids. Problem is he work overseas. Physically we had been together 3-5 years straight. Then yearly when he comes home for vacation. Years 2010-2014 he did not come home due to problems at work. We had been through tough times especially with finances. Last year, I found out he had been having an affair for 7 years already and they are living together. I went overseas to check him out. He promised to resign and go back home but he never did. We stayed in communication and I thought the affair was over, until he finally came home last summer and found out he is still seeing his mistress, though not living with her anymore. So I just manged my expectations and did my best to let him experience the greatest vacation ever. We had good times and when he left he told me that he wants to fix our marriage already. That was last May. Last month, I managed to find out that he went to see his mistress again and told him that I messaged her on facebook and said bad things about her. Which I really never did, but I did message her something else, but not bad words. This made my husband upset again. We never talked/messaged each other since then. That’s when I decided to apply the No Contact Rule. I am on my 3rd week now and he has not contact me since then, but he keeps on liking and reacting in my facebook posts and asks my children from time to time how am I doing. I still think he is still seeing his mistress up to now. I want him back , i really do. I am willing to give up my career to join him overseas. We are also trying to convince him to come home, but it is best for me to just go with him since opportunities will be better overseas for the family. I just do not know what to do, since we are in this kind of situation. Should I just hold on?

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   EBR Team Member: Amor

   July 6, 2016 at 9:50 am

   Hi Bea,

   You should do 45 days or maybe more…You need to massively improve yourself and have your own life first and really mean it.. so that he won’t think you’re just doing it to get him back

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   Shay

   July 5, 2016 at 12:50 pm

   I have a doubt, because when my ex broke up with me I agreed to be “in good terms” with him. So, I’ve tried the NC rule, but he wrote me a week ago, to say he misses me and he wanted to know how I was, just that, but I didn’t ignore him, because if not he would have thought I was angry with him. I just was cold and answered I was fine and I didn’t have time to talk, I said we’d talk other day and then he said ok and goodbye and just that it wasn’t even a conversation, but I don’t know if just having told him that of not having time and to talk other day instead of just ignoring him is a way of breaking NC. And if it is, should I start from scratch NC or do I break it when the 30 days period ends as if it hadn’t happened?

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   anonymous

   July 5, 2016 at 4:50 am

   Hi — I’m staying strong in my NC, 15 days! But this weekend have to have surgery and am staying at ex’s Grandmother’s. He moved 2 hours away pre-breakup, I was supposed to go too, and no local doctors would take me (insurance), so I ended up getting a doctor there since his mother said she would help me… and it was the closest available. We were together for four years and engaged. Up and down throughout the relationship but plenty of good memories, and in the 1.5 months (didn’t find out about this program ’til later 🙁 ) since we’ve broken up, I’ve had some great epiphanies and made some big changes for the better… truly working on me. If he tries to see me this weekend, should I let him?

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   anonymous

   July 12, 2016 at 2:13 am

   ok — no visit or text, but his family was taking care of me, so he knew how I was doing… which kind of sucks. Had to break no contact to arrange plan for the dogs we acquired and shared together (he took one I took two) while I go out of state for 3 weeks to finish my MFA. Talked only about dogs, stayed civil and unemotional and made no low blows or snide remarks. He was pissy about having to be an adult and take care of dogs and girlfriend came (and left when she saw my car) while I was picking up his dog from parents — he was not there. But ultimately, he did right thing and agreed on plan with dogs. All this in text. … Today is day 21 of NC … do I need to start over? He’s going on vacation without girl next week which would be perfect timing for thanks for taking care of dogs/end of NC text. Help! Overall, I’m feeling very confident and happy with changes I’m making in life, but still see big picture with him.

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   EBR Team Member: Amor

   July 12, 2016 at 4:23 pm

   the more.important thing is you continuously improve yourself even after nc.. it has to be a lifestyle..you have to have your own life..
   I think it’s better to let him be in his vacay before slowly rebuilding rapport

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   anonymous

   July 7, 2016 at 5:55 pm

   Thank you!!! Just trying to be prepared for the whole spectrum of possibilities — not seeing him at all to rekindling. Thanks again!

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   anonymous

   July 6, 2016 at 4:19 pm

   I don’t even know if he’s at a point where he can be willing to want me back, but if he says — I made a mistake, I want you back, what do I do? He does have a rebound and lives two hours away — is that a scenario where I take things slowly or say yes?

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   EBR Team Member: Amor

   July 7, 2016 at 2:45 pm

   ask him first what happens to his reboubd, if he says they’re broken up then say yes but if he says he’s going to break up with her then tell him to sort that out first

6. 

   anonymous

   July 5, 2016 at 2:24 pm

   Thanks! That was the route I was thinking. What if he gets emotional?

7. 

   EBR Team Member: Amor

   July 6, 2016 at 7:36 am

   stay calm if he gets emotional

8. 

   EBR Team Member: Amor

   July 5, 2016 at 6:16 am

   Hi Anonymous,
   yes, just be civil with him

7. 

   Sarah

   June 22, 2016 at 7:48 pm

   Hello, just wanted to share…

   My ex and I split up after 6 years (on and off) together. I’m currently on day 14 of no contact. I did well, no crying or begging, just straight into no contact. I’m finding it ok – been easier times and tough times.

   Usually, when we’ve split up before, after a couple of days I’d come up with a new thing for us to try, and he’d reluctantly agree. And this cycle would go round and round.

   Instead, I’m doing no contact. I’m looking after myself, getting on with work, and trying to be strong.

   This time round, I want him to be the one to step forward. At day 14, I’ve almost given up hope that I’ll ever hear from him again. I don’t hold much hope that he’d come to me.

   After 30 days, should I accept he’s gone?

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   EBR Team Member: Amor

   June 27, 2016 at 10:19 am

   HI Sarah,

   Stay strong and active in no contact.. He will really probably not contact you because he expects you to come back like before.

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   Sad Wife

   June 16, 2016 at 3:24 pm

   My husband and I have been together for 16 years, married for 6. He told me he wants a divorce and is moving out. He doesn’t think things can change between us and is done trying. We have 2 young kids. Right now he still lives with us in the family home while he is looking for an apartment but he is rarely there and when he is he sleeps on the couch and we do not interact or speak with one another. At first I texted him like crazy, apologized and begged him to take me back but obviously that did not work. I started No contact yesterday. If he texts me about the kids do I have to reply? He knows he can see them anytime and technically still lives with us so I don’t feel I should have to. If he texts me about dividing assets should I wait to respond until after the no contact period since there is no rush on dividing things? Does the fact that he still lives with me hurt my chances of getting him back even though we see eachother maybe 30 seconds a day?

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   EBR Team Member: Amor

   June 18, 2016 at 12:57 pm

   Hi Sad wife,

   you will di a limited contact.. that means you can speak about important matters and the kidsand you remain civil but don’t initiate a relationship or feelings talk and you focus on improving yourself, going out more with friends and the kids and having a new routine

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   Anonymous

   June 3, 2016 at 12:26 pm

   Hi,
   So my situation is quite unique. I dated my ex boyfriend for over a year (we were exclusive) and then we became officially committed and dated for two more years. He’s in my batch in my college and we also live in the college residential campus. We spent a considerable amount of time together while we were dating. My ex was completely devoted to me. He had proposed me for marriage several times during that time but I always refused citing family issues. But I loved him. We were extremely compatible. We are two really different individuals with different tastes but we were the most perfect thing ever. We hardly fought like say 4-5 times in three years. But then I did something wrong. I cheated on him with this guy who I found really attractive during a college fest from some other college. I never really spoke to him in person but I chatted/sexted/sent semi nude pictures to him for over a month and neglected by ex-boyfriend slightly. He knew that I found this guy attractive but when he found about the cheating bit, he broke up with me. But he wanted me to win him back. While I completely stopped contact with the new guy, I did not try to win my ex back, me being the biggest fool on this planet because I thought that I wasn’t as much into him as much he’s into me. Then we went on a vacation for a month and we would occasionally call/text each-other. Then after coming back we had sex once. We hooked up once or twice over a period of two months and occasionally talked/called/texted each-other. He was still kind of into me but I never asked him to come back. Then one fine day, around 20 days back, he said that he cannot continue talking to me because I really affect him. Also, there’s this chic in my batch who was constantly pursuing him throughout our relationship but I wasn’t insecure about her at all because my ex loved me thoroughly. This chic used to constantly send him messages about she is into him/pictures etc but my ex never responded to it. However, ever since he stopped talking to me, I got insanely jealous of the two of them. I became absolutely paranoid. I desperately want him back now. I realized that I was knee deep in love with him, but I just took him for granted. So, I constantly started pestering him with like 20 drunk texts/5-10 normal texts/calls etc. I told him that seeing him with that chic/getting close to her kills me. He continued doing it out of spite. I went completely mad and told him to stop. He realized that I was getting insanely affected so he started maintaining a little distance but they are still really good friends and spend time together everyday but he sits apart in class atleast so I don’t have to see them but the thought of them being together kills me 🙁 He also said quite a few times when I was being desperate for him that he has moved on and that I should move on too. I begged, pleaded and did everything that I shouldn’t have. He started being more cold and told me that I am on my own. He even sent me the worst text that he has ever sent to me in three years in which he even abused me. I tried doing no contact but with that girl being around him, trying to touch him etc. infront of me everyday in class, I just couldn’t do no-contact. So, finally, I toned down my demands a little and told him that I don’t want him back but we must atleast continue our friendship because throughout my college life, we have been best friends. Now, he has agreed to talk to me every three days like friends but nothing more than that. We are about to break for vacations for three weeks after five days. I am thoroughly confused if I should go on a no-contact or not? I want him back for sure. What to do now? Oh! also he said that he wouldn’t take me back as a girlfriend because he takes cheating really seriously. It’s a big deal for him and he gave me the opportunity to get back but I never made use of it. Now, he has moved on and I should move on too. But I know for a fact that he is the one for me and I want him back forever and that I would never even dare hurt him again. Help! please!!

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   EBR Team Member: Amor

   June 12, 2016 at 10:42 am

   Hi Anonymous,

   if he cheating is a big deal but he gave you a chance right after it, right after when he was hurt, then I think you still have a chance if he really sees you have changed and if his relationship with the other girl doesn’t progress. You should click this post and follow Chris advice. It matches your situation.
   EBR 020- How To Get Your Ex Boyfriend Back If YOU Cheated

10. 

    Kassie

    May 30, 2016 at 6:31 pm

    One more thing I’m concerned about is that we’ve been talking almost everyday. And then suddenly I cut him off and ignore him when he texts. He might do the same to me or think that I’m doing it on purpose. Should I just keep ignoring? Or should I reply in a nice way telling him I was busy that’s why I didn’t get to text him back right away?

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   EBR Team Member: Amor

   May 31, 2016 at 5:37 pm

   HI Kassie,

   Try to tell him that you need space right now because you can’t do being friends with benefits.. and then restart count with nc.

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    lalahony

    May 26, 2016 at 1:49 pm

    Hello Chris

    My ex and I decided to break up or take a break(in my eyes we’re broken up) so I started the NC rule yesterday. I don’t believe i will have a problem ignoring him for 30 days, but the issue is that his birthday is in 5 days. Do I send a Happy Birthday text?

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   EBR Team Member: Amor

   May 29, 2016 at 2:26 pm

   Hi Lalahony,

   why did you break up? and how long have you been together? if you’re still in nc by then and he didn’t positively contact you.. nope don’t greet him

12. 

    Britney

    May 5, 2016 at 1:16 am

    Hi, I’m in high school and I have been dating my boyfriend for over 2 years. I recently had A LOT of drama with my family, to the point where i had to pick sides. It caused us to argue a lot because we had different opinions on what was happening and he started saying that I was changing and i wasn’t the same person i was and neither was he. I suggested we take space and then see if we felt the same after a while and decided to come back or move on. He was very indecisive. He didn’t know if he wanted to be with me but he also didn’t know if he wanted to be without me. I kept insisting on an answer and unfortunately even performed that needy behavior you guys talk about for a little less than a month. I was insisting because we were still together but he didn’t treat me like a girlfriend, he became more distant. And I soon realized what my behavior looked like (needy and desperate). And I decided I couldn’t be like that, so I took in into my own hands and broke up with him. It was very painful because I didn’t want the relationship to end but I knew it was what I had to do. I love him and yes, even after everything I want him back, solely because when we were together we were mostly happy and we were best friends and there is just much more that i could explain, but no, it’s not a “stupid high school romance,” it was serious. I started NC immediately after the breakup. Unfortunately, we have classes together and we are partners for projects. Class is the only time we talk, but it’s only about the project itself, I avoid any other topic. We have texted maybe once or twice, because we had to for school; but it was only a few messages long and I was the one to cut the conversation short. My prom is coming soon, and of course I invited him but he just recently came up to me to tell me that he won’t be going because it’s too soon and it’s hard for him. So I assured him that I understood and I didn’t pressure him to go and I told him that I believe he is a strong person and that I cared for him and loved him and I would be there as a friend. And I let him know I’d find somebody else to take and he reacted a little weird. I’m 15 days into NC. It was very difficult the first week, but it has become easier and I’m working on myself along the way. I’m planning on reaching out to him in 15-20 days and build up the attraction again. And there’s a school dance shortly after where girls invite guys and I wanted to invite him to that, which is 23 days from now. Would asking him to go with me be too soon? Have I done anything wrong thus far? One of my main fears/concerns is that NC won’t work to get him back or maybe he will hold on to the past and not even think about getting back together with me. He is loving and understanding but sometimes his stubbornness overshadows those qualities. I want him to remember the good things about me and let go of the past but I don’t know how to make him let go of my mistakes (though I have never done anything as bad as cheating). Any advice would be appreciated, thank you!

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   EBR Team Member: Amor

   May 8, 2016 at 3:03 am

   Hi Britney,

   you have to restart count from the day you asked him to the dance.. continue with how you talk to him regarding to school but don’t ask him to the next dance.. start to do new activities that will improve yourself, have a make over, excel in your current activities and make new friends..in short he has to see you’re moving on because the talk after nc should be like a restart, not a continuation of what you had.. you should do 21 days-30..

   remember it’s a restart, so it’s starting as friends again, rebuild rapport and attraction slowly.

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    Lisa

    April 29, 2016 at 9:03 pm

    Hi Chris,
    What are the rules on close friends (who used to get on well with your ex) speaking to your ex during the NC period? After 2 days of NC, my ex (who I lived with for 2 years) sent a text to a very close friend of mine with a cryptic message saying that he is going through a lot (he has depression which I think is the reason for him withdrawing from the relationship over the last 3 months) and he wishes he could have a conversation with her and tell her exactly what’s up, but he knows that she has my best interests at heart and he respects that, and then ends the text with “Take care and all the best” which sounds quite final. I’m a bit concerned about his mental state as he’s under a lot of stress, and think that maybe it would help him to talk to someone who knows us both. On the other hand, if my friend replies to his text or calls him to talk about the situation, will this be detrimental to the NC period (which I have only just begun after texting way too much), as he may feel that he’s had some contact with me indirectly (i.e. through my friend)?

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   EBR Team Member: Amor

   May 1, 2016 at 12:05 pm

   Hi Lisa,

   it’s ok of he talks with your friend.. just ask yiur friend not to say that you’re in nc

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    KCE

    April 27, 2016 at 5:59 am

    It has been 11 days of NC. On the 2nd day, my ex has been consistently texting me everyday, “Good morning” & “How are you”. I am trying to be vigilant because I know that if he really wants to talk to me, he would pick up the phone and call, instead of a single message every morning. What are his motives? I haven’t responded at all and would like to know how to approach it. It also my birthday at the end of the NC phase, should I remind him? (I blocked him on Facebook) I feel completely clueless.

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   EBR Team Member: Amor

   April 27, 2016 at 9:43 am

   HI KCE,

   nope don’t remind him.. just ignore him.. unless he literally says he wants you back.

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    Faith

    April 19, 2016 at 2:21 pm

    Hi Chris,

    I’m in the NC for 2 weeks now. I have seen my ex because we work together but it has been strictly bussiness.
    But today at work he said that he thinks of asking me to hang out, but not to a romantic date a “friendly date”. He also said that he wants to be able to be with me again.
    What should I do ? Can I break the NC period ?

    Thanks

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   EBR Team Member: Amor

   April 21, 2016 at 10:27 am

   Hi Faith,

   nope.. especially because he said it will be just being friends..

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    carolina

    April 18, 2016 at 5:49 pm

    Hi,
    My ex has been the mid caller after I implemented the NC rule (like 3 times already). I made the mistake of thinking… I really don’t have a clue what I was thinking, like you said “I wear my heart on my sleeve”. Now, my birthday is coming up in about 3weeks and of course he being the polite guy he is will whatsapp me. Should I reply with at least a thank you or hard-core NC rule? Believe me I’m ready!!!!

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   EBR Team Member: Amor

   April 18, 2016 at 7:32 pm

   hahaha.. that’s good that you’re ready.. but if you’re still nc, it’s better to thank him after it

17. 

    Marissa

    April 14, 2016 at 8:44 am

    I only took essentials when I moved out of exes house. Still have clothes and TV shows and knick knacks there. Does it hurt my chances to make him miss me if he sees my stuff all the time? We’ve only been apart for a week. Ideally I want him back but if sees my crap lying around will that make it worse?

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   EBR Team Member: Amor

   April 14, 2016 at 12:59 pm

   Hi Marissa,

   nope it will help him miss you…because it will remind him of you

18. 

    Sarah

    April 6, 2016 at 1:11 pm

    Hi Chris ,
    my ex broke up with me after 8 months.
    It is a complicate situation as i have two sons and a very horrible relationship with their father.
    when we first started the relationship was beautiful, we thought we were really happy, then life got into the way , work ,study and he got too much involved with my circumstances, he trying to help me with my children , more problems started with their abusive and jealous father and my partner blew up.
    After the break up we kept being in touch every day for almost a month, we saw each others , slept together and we have been miserable because we kept talking over and over about the same thing.He has always reached me out though, even though he was the one deciding to leave me and instead of not contacting him i have always been there because i was so scared of loosing him.
    few days ago he decided that he had to stop what we were doing because it was not healthy , so i stopped responding to him for the first time and he panicked ,he texted me all day and called , i did not answer but i got to a point in which i felt i wanted to talk to him and i answered at night time, i asked him what he wanted and he told me he was only sorry about making me feel bad.
    i am so heart broken because i feel i am going through break up and being close again for weeks.
    I am devastated and angry with my self because I have not been strong enough to raise my standards and i have nurtured so far his confusions. People say he is acting like a boy and we should both move on which hurts me even more.
    yesterday me and my ex carried on the conversation from the day before until late and he kept saying he was just apologising and he said he was really sorry for holding on to us and for hurting me, that he miss me and thinks about me but its normal, i could not sleep all night ,he says he does not have any intenton to be with anyone else right now and he does not like the thought of me being someoen else,we kept talking all night until we fell asleep.
    today is my first day of no contact , i feel devastated , i think i have ruined my chances because i have never stop interacting with him , i know i have to focus on my self mow, i have lots going on for me right now. I just thought our connection and love would have gone past the stuff that at the moment are going on in my life.he says it not a problem of not loving me, but the whole situation.Still he has never has been without me in all this time
    Sorry for the long comment,
    I hope my name or email doe not show up .
    looking forward to hear from you

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   EBR Team Member: Amor

   April 8, 2016 at 12:53 pm

   Hi,

   Your name will show but the email won’t..I think it’s not too late yet.. it’s your first time to do nc, so I think there is a chance

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    Sarah

    April 5, 2016 at 7:37 am

    My ex is with me at college, and I ignore him like he doesn’t exist, is that NC?

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   EBR Team Member: Amor

   April 5, 2016 at 10:51 am

   HI Sarah,

   Yeah, but if he approaches you, you can reply directly polite and then excuse yourself. As long as you don’t initiate the talk and you don’t talk about feelings and relationships, it’s okay to talk about things that really needed to talk about.

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    bbman

    March 20, 2016 at 7:00 pm

    My ex and I have been broken up for a month and a half. For 2 weeks directly following our break-up, I went no contact. After that 2 week period, we decided to be friends. This has been going on for about a month. It is basically a texting friendship. I have realized that I still have expectations of him, and I still care for him, so being friends is proving difficult for me. Can I go no contact on him now, even though we had decided to be friends a month ago? If so, should I tell him why I’m going no contact? Thank you for your help with this!

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   EBR Team Member: Amor

   March 21, 2016 at 8:33 am

   Hi Bb man,

   It’s better if you don’t or just tell him you’re going to be busy but don’t tell him why and until when you would do no contact