When You Should Stop Trying To Get An Ex Boyfriend Back- Ex Boyfriend Recovery

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Katy

December 3, 2013 at 8:26 pm

Hi Chris. I hope you can help me. I am not sure if it’s time to give up… The signals are so… MIXED! Men just aren’t like women, you know? They’re perfectly capable of carrying on with you without feeling a darn thing, and that’s frustrating.

So here’s the situation.

I got engaged to my wonderful boyfriend in May 2009. In June, we found out I was pregnant. I was very sick and hormonal and our relationship started to deteriorate. I was worried about his commitment to taking care of me, my son, and our new baby. I admit I have trouble with control — I don’t like giving it up. So when he tried to bully me into naming the baby after him or his mother, I rebelled and snapped and told him I needed a break, and stopped talking to him. Completely. We didn’t live together, so it was pretty easy. I stopped taking his calls, emails, texts and IMs and cut him out cold turkey. I’m still hurt that he never even showed up at my door to try to talk to me. I think I wanted him to prove that he loved me, because I was insecure and wasn’t sure /I/ loved him.

Six weeks later when I came out of the first trimester of pregnancy and the dust had settled, I realized I’d been a complete nutcase to dump my fiance and called him up. Unfortunately, he’d already started dating another girl. He told me if things didn’t work out with her, he’d come back to me. Disgusted, I told him to eff himself and continued on with my life, all the while just waiting for his new girlfriend to drop like the rebound I knew she was. Except she didn’t. For three years. Ironically, it was our daughter that drove her off. She hated my daughter, and hated that she hated a little girl, so she split. Small victories. (And this isn’t because I’m petty. I have an excellent relationship with my son’s step-mother. I just honestly didn’t like this chick, and neither did any of his family.)

Anyway. They broke up last May. After that, he had one very brief thing with a coworker before realizing he wasn’t ready. I should tell you, we slept together every summer when they were together and a couple times since they broke up. I know that’s stupid and not healthy to sleep with him and a lot of my friends keep saying he’s a cheater and why do I want a cheater? The thing is, I don’t feel like he was cheating, since he was sorta mine first and it was like… he was just coming back to me. He’s never cheated before and he didn’t cheat on her with anyone but me so I think that sort of absolves him of cheating… And I guess that was stupid, either way. I was hoping he’d get back together with me. Men need sex to feel connected, and I hoped we’d connect. I don’t know how much that has worked, honestly. It’s maddening. I feel something THERE but he won’t admit to it. The last time we slept together he wouldn’t even kiss me. Basically like ‘Pretty Woman’. He said it wasn’t me, he’d just decided that was how it was, because he doesn’t want to get hurt. He doesn’t want to hurt me, either. Afterwards he held my hand and told me we couldn’t do this anymore (he says that every time) because it wasn’t fair to lead me on and give me hope when there wasn’t any. He’s made that really clear.

He says if anyone treated our daughter the way he treats me, he’d kill him. And our daughter really hates us being split. She’s always saying things like ‘Mommy, you should come with me to Daddy’s house’ and ‘But I want you to be with me both!’ and that’s so hard. My son doesn’t do that stuff, he’s always been very well adjusted to a separate household.

As if all this wasn’t enough… his family loves me. They still call me their daughter-in-law even though their son and I never got married. I love all of them, they are the best people. So it’s what’s right for my daughter, and his family.

I’ve asked myself a lot if I still love him or if I’m just obsessed. But we are just honestly very compatible and support each other even now. We talk a lot and rarely fight, we just have a lot in common and he is just…My One. I know that’s a silly western idea but I feel like fate was trying so hard to get us together. He was dating the girl I always sat beside on the bus to school before I met him. We had tons of mutual friends, it was really strange.

I guess I’m just trying to lead up to…is it there? He cares for me and loves our daughter, but says he doesn’t want me back, and he’s been really adamant about that he just doesn’t have feelings for me anymore. It hurts so much to hear that.

I’ve never tried no contact officially but we’ve had plenty of time, months, where we don’t talk except about the girl. Every time we start talking, we end up in bed together and then it turns into another ‘no contact’ zone again. What do I /say/ to him? I’m leaving next summer to finish my degree at a different university, so time’s ticking.

I’m whining. That’s awful. LOL.

I hope you can reply!

admin

December 5, 2013 at 12:36 am

The problem is that you are too available to him. There is no chase. He knows he can have you any time he wants.
Katy

December 5, 2013 at 5:20 am

How do you suggest I proceed? Ignore him? He’s one of your ‘clueless’ boys, the rare kind who’d have NO CLUE I was ignoring him. I’m working on the Ungettable Girl thing.

We just found out yesterday that our daughter likely has a form of muscular dystrophy (we’re doing the diagnostic test in a few weeks). I am hoping this will bring us closer. Obviously it’s awful but I have to make lemonade out of my lemons somehow.

I’m really going to think about how to make him chase me…
admin

December 5, 2013 at 6:52 pm

I think in this case you have to do more outreach and push pull stuff.
Katy

December 5, 2013 at 8:33 pm

Oh, and thank you very much for your help! 🙂
Katy

December 5, 2013 at 8:32 pm

I’m sorry, can you expand upon that, or point me to the right article? I’m working through all of your articles but I am a little confused as to what exactly I need to do. I’ve seen other girls referring to ‘pull and push.’ Isn’t pushing bad? LOL.
admin

December 6, 2013 at 7:27 pm

Hahahahahah I think that has to do with the push pull theory. I can’t remember which one I talked about that on but its one of the more recent guides.
Katy

December 7, 2013 at 4:15 am

I found it on the ‘dating’ post, which I hadn’t read yet, since I don’t have a date with my ex.

Or maybe I do?

When I dropped my daughter off tonight I causally mentioned that the girl wanted him to come ice skating with us. He immediately said ‘I would love to go ice skating!’ which is weird since I have…invited him to many a thing that I was doing with the kids with very lukewarm results that always turn into ‘no thanks.’ And then he launched into telling me all about the first time he’d gone ice skating and I noticed how much he talked! I really had to do very little work to keep the conversation going, and I’d mention something and he’d actually remember a past conversation and clarify details (“We got the grant for the project I’m working on.” “Oh, isn’t that the one you were waiting on that 12 year old for? You’ve been working on that a long time!” etc…)

Mind. Blown.

I don’t want to screw this up, he’ll never want to do anything else with me/us again. No pressure, right? 😉

I’ll let you know how it goes! We’re supposed to meet on Monday evening.
admin

December 7, 2013 at 8:01 pm

Definitely do! hahaha.

Naomi

December 3, 2013 at 3:08 pm

Chris, nice guides.. thank you

Now I’m in my NC 15th days….be4 I started my NC, I texted him many times. Till now he didn’t answer those message. Hope after the half NC, can get some positive response.

admin

December 3, 2013 at 8:07 pm

Good luck! Keep us updated.

Tabi

December 3, 2013 at 4:27 am

Well its been little over 4 months since my bu. Small recap lol. 1.5 years, someone meddled and caused issues. We work together so nc almost im possible, did lc took about 2-3 months of umm finding ground at that point i felt him “let go” if that makes sence heh. From then till now he almost compleatly avoided me. Not a hard feeling bu no one hated etc but he was very set on it. Well he moved in with the meddlers. And now that seems to be blowing up. He sought me out and had some heart to heart. Not about us or the bu but mostly about him. This is where he told me about his move (something that was secret from me lol but i knew before he did :p meddler was meddling even after). He was very concerned that i was going to be upset. I confessed that i had known lol but that i wasnt upset, as he diserved to live his life. He thought another friend had told me but i told him who had but not how was a bitch move on their part. He asked why i never said anything and i had told him because you didnt want me to know so I didn’t. He laughed said that was a bit silly.

I am really at a bit of a loss though I dont want to toss him out but the situation is very umm volitile on his end, people are all on high emotion stress and they are feeding it to each other. So Im trying to keep distance from the situation as i dont want to be in the fall out, but I also fear a little of being in the friend zone. Not that that is the worst cause its not but how can i really be there for him and still keep the idea we can work out? Right now i am mostly just his vent person, he said he trusts me. I feel a bit umm deceitful because i do love and deeply wish him to return it, but at this time its a factor that doesnt matter. I guess im just second guessing my own actions lol. Ill do my best to support him as long as I am not getting used by it. But i think i cant trust myself I caught myself thinking of solutions to help him that would be less than ideal lol.

admin

December 3, 2013 at 7:52 pm

Have you been able to do any type of no contact or limited contact?
Tabi

December 5, 2013 at 7:02 pm

Only limited, almost no contact outside of work, but recently that had changed and there is a little comunication starting outside of work just text. Nothing substantial but I guess its a start. But at work his contact has increased massively, no talk toward much with us other than some sub text… ( i wont go there without him DIRECTLY opening it) He honestly is not in a place where he can deal with more complications(me) coming into his life. Lol its complicated is an understatement. But i like most delusional idiots i still think theres some hope, and eitherway I wouldnt be disheartened if all I am is a friend.
Tabi

December 6, 2013 at 8:14 pm

Well lol, we’ve decided to work things out but slowly as things are too messy. Not so much between us as all the outside factors. So here goes toward something better.

anonymous

December 3, 2013 at 3:45 am

Hi chris! Thanks again for this useful guide 🙂 I’m sure you know my story by now. Been 5wks since i contacted him after NC. He cancelled on a date with me last wkend. To which i decided to not reply his “sorry msg”

The next day i posted in facebook. My status “gd morning/gd night msgs goes a long way to making my day”

And i texted him With a photo of him on his birthday last yr and said “i’ve always loved your smile :)” to which he only replied “so, got your morning msg today?” I think this is with reference to my facebook status! And he didn text me gd morning on that day. So i guess he could be implying that someone else texted me.

Anyway i didn reply him till a few hrs later and said “huh? What are you talking abt?” (I didn wanna assume he read my facebook status)

He didn reply my text. And today, i texted him “gd morning!” To which he did not reply.

Is that a sign that i should just give up? What should i do next?

admin

December 3, 2013 at 7:49 pm

Lay off a little bit I think. A week or so of not talking to him and then try again. He is not responding so thats not great but it doesn’t mean the word is ending.
anonymous

December 3, 2013 at 11:20 pm

I find it weird that lately he has the tendency to not reply my whatsapp msgs. But at times i post a photo or facebook status which is lovey dovey etc. He’d comment in facebook or send me random whatsapp msgs which could mean that he stalks my facebook. Like what on earth is he thinking? Sigh.
anonymous

December 3, 2013 at 11:26 pm

Oh! Once i posted a photo in facebook. Some quote saying “if she’s still loyal, she’s a keeper.” Somewhere along that line. 10mins later, he whatsapp me saying “i know that photo was meant for me, good night”

weird right? Hahaha. Or am i just reading too much into it. Oh wells.
admin

December 5, 2013 at 12:55 am

Hmm… I think you are reading too much into it.
anonymous

December 5, 2013 at 1:30 am

I’ve been thinking and going through your guide here. And part of me thinks the best is to let things go btwn me and him 🙁 i still love him very much though. But its draining to do the chasing. And i know for a fact that he’s keeping his options open with other ladies. When we broke up back then. He used to say “lets just let things go btwn us, i will contact you again when the time is right” “if its meant to be, it’ll happen eventually” which i think is a nice way of saying i dont think its going anywhere btwn us and i dont see a future with you.

But well. I still perservered thinking there’s hope. Did NC for a mth and reached out to him. He was giving positive replies till he decided on not replying me anymore after 5wks. 🙁

He said though he used to consider taking me as his wife, at the same time he didn wanna give me hope. Again, i think he’s just trying to spare my feelings.

I’m feeling miserable actually. I really wanna try to rekindle his feelings for me. But i just dont know how to. Or where to start anymore. If i were to do NC again for say, a week. What should my first text be? Since i already did the memory text before etc.

And it has been 5wks since i contacted him after NC. Its too soon to be giving up no? :/
admin

December 5, 2013 at 6:32 pm

How did your first contact after NC actually go? What did you text him?
anonymous

December 6, 2013 at 12:06 am

I texted him a photo frm one of our museum dates back then saying “do you remmeber this etc?” Replies i got from him were positive for at least 3wks after NC. We met twice during the first 3wks. I continued to send him memory texts and compliment texts till he stopped replying me completely. He started being distant again recently.

I have a feeling there’s other ladies he may wish to focus his attention on. But what bugged me was that he still gave me hope and only recently he seemed to have changed his mind completely. I admit that i was a call/text gnat when he started ignoring me all over again the past 2wks. then after a few days of NC. Was when i asked him the qns. If he still had feelings for me or is there hope to reconcile. And he said no.
anonymous

December 6, 2013 at 12:30 am

From your expert point of view, when a man says all of that, he means it right? So i should just let it go?
admin

December 6, 2013 at 7:42 pm

Depends on a number of factors really… b/c if he was upset emotionally he may not have meant it deep down but if he was thinking logically then he may have meant it.
anonymous

December 5, 2013 at 6:17 pm

I’ve gathered the courage to text him today asking if he still has feelings for me. After 1-2days of NC. He replied saying no. I asked if there’s any chance of reconcile. He said “i dont think so”. Which comes a bit of a shock to me since a few wks ago. He said we do stand a chance. Anyway he then said “thanks for the 2yrs plus. I’m sorry i have to be honest with you”

Sigh. I suppose there is really no more hope now 🙁
admin

December 6, 2013 at 7:05 pm

… you did a lot wrong actually. You can’t just ask a question like that until you have him properly primed.
anonymous

December 6, 2013 at 8:04 pm

Yeah i admit i did lots of mistakes which may lead to that. i suppose the qns is now if he was thinking logically when he said that. It sounded like he has alrdy thought things through. I dont suppose its possible to rekindle a man’s feelings for you when he said the feelings are no longer there? Will going back to NC help?
admin

December 7, 2013 at 7:26 pm

It depends on a lot of factors. But I think NC this time around should be more about you than about him.
anonymous

December 7, 2013 at 12:40 pm

Also. He mentioned that he has been dating ard. Though he says he’s not in love. It sucks knowing he’s on the chase for someone new. Even if i started NC again. Will that change his feelings for me? Since he claims he no longer has feelings for me? I fear if i start NC again, he’d be clueless this time and wont care since he afterall has someone new.
admin

December 7, 2013 at 8:08 pm

How long was your NC the first time around? Did you make it through the 30 days?
anonymous

December 3, 2013 at 9:58 am

OH btw. I actually deleted my facebook status after less than 15mins. So i’m even more surprised that he saw it. Haha.
admin

December 3, 2013 at 8:01 pm

Someone is spying on you hahaha.
anonymous

December 3, 2013 at 10:17 am

Sorry for being a gnat here! But i deleted my status after 15mins and in the evening was when i texted him the photo frm his birthday. So its at least 10hrs since the fb status.

sorry if i’m overanalyzing every detail! I suppose we all have the tendency to do that esp when it comes to exs we’re trying to win back :/
anonymous

December 3, 2013 at 4:36 am

I didn wanna start being a text gnat. But 5hrs after my gd morning msg to which he didn reply to. I send another msg saying “are you by any chance annoyed at me?” Still no reply! 🙁

Damn the whatsapp last seens. Cause i can see him being online and ignoring my texts. What should i do now? 🙁

Sabrina

December 3, 2013 at 12:04 am

Hi chris just read your new article. I dunno where i stand here hehehe! When i tried to fix things, he would bring up the past bad things I’ve done, but he gives me assurance “give me time, not serious about new girl, not into her” and when i asked if he still loves me, i caught him unguarded, he muttered and finally said no. Is that a good sign? and he has a gf already after we broke up so i understand whys he isn’t contacting me often, Is this a bad break up?

admin

December 3, 2013 at 7:40 pm

Sounds a little bad but nowhere near a breakup I had so I think its worth a shot still haha.

The love you thing though is not good… But just give it a shot and expect nothing and I think youll be pleasantly surprised.
Sabrina

December 3, 2013 at 10:06 pm

He hesistated to answer that question when i asked him, because he was not expecting that im going to asked that question. Still worth a shot even he has a gf at the moment?
admin

December 5, 2013 at 12:52 am

I have something planned for you later this week so just be patient right now haha.
Sabrina

December 5, 2013 at 11:55 am

What do you mean, a new article? Hahaha. I added you on facebook 🙂 thanks for the accept
admin

December 5, 2013 at 7:05 pm

I have something new coming out that I am working on.
Sabrina

December 6, 2013 at 6:35 am

Cant wait thanks chris!
Sabrina

December 6, 2013 at 11:02 am

Im on Day 30 on NC, I texted my ex, and his gf is the one reading my messages, and texting me back, she does this even its her bf mom. Do guys like this, gf sniffing around your privacy? I never ever did this to him. She even changed my bf profile pic on Facebook with the one shes in it.. Shes being possessive and they are just dating for a whole month.
admin

December 6, 2013 at 8:05 pm

Thats a good sign. Eventually itll annoy him.
Sabrina

December 7, 2013 at 8:40 am

And she even told my ex that im not allowed to come by their house. Im close to my ex parents thats why im still visiting them, Im just afraid that he will be caught in a situation that he can no longer get out of.
Sabrina

December 6, 2013 at 10:19 pm

She even called me up just to say stay away from my ex, shes doing everything just to get me out of the picture. And my ex keeps on asking me to his mom, cause we are close, is that a good sign? His mom is asking me to come and join them for dinner because it is youngest son birthday, should i come? Even my ex will be there?
admin

December 7, 2013 at 7:39 pm

Whether to go or not is completely your decision.

Anonymous

December 2, 2013 at 8:52 pm

I have been waiting for something like this for ages!!! because you only have one guide for getting over an ex boyfriend … kudos to you 🙂

Tbf I agree a little about the first part saying how you shouldn’t give up but I think for many people they probably already sense it won’t work and don’t really want to prolong the healing process. Trying to get back an ex when you know deep down it won’t work out will only get someone’s hope up and cause more pain and stuff. This is kind of advice to the other readers (although am not really qualified to give advice).

I am a noob when it comes to relationships and broke up with my first bf so that’s how I came across this site really because I always had to search up everything to do with relationships. The thing is it’s not about trying your best to get back an ex, it’s more like some things you suggested may not be possible like becoming an ungettable girl or making new friends/taking up new hobbies (especially if you are an introvert) :p

But the rest of your guide is really useful!! Especially the last part about thinking of the future, because some breakups are caused by that too. And I hope you do more guides like this because previously you’ve only focused on getting back an ex but not the recovery process. Although the NC rule does kind of help with the recovery too. Chris, you put a lot of effort in helping a lot of women which is admirable, so I hope you end up in a happy long lasting relationship yourself because you deserve it ^_^

Also it would be interesting if all the advice you give could be used for LGBT relationships too although that probably isn’t you forte haha.

admin

December 3, 2013 at 7:27 pm

I think I put this off b/c I know its a touchy subject and people get kind of upset reading about it but this is something I feel that needs to be talked about.

The key to getting someone to chase you is to not need them. That is where most people fail. So many women “need” their ex boyfriends.

Cookie

December 2, 2013 at 3:24 pm

Hey Chris 🙂

I’m sure you’re sick of me lol, but here goes nothing.

You know my story. But something happened today and I am trying to fake convince myself to maybe let it all go. He has been pursuing me the last 2 months that we’ve been broken up. Everytime I go into NC, he comes back and is sweet and then things mess up again. He has been telling me he loves me and will be back with me again one day, but then today something happened..

For the first time ever, after a very eventful day that included me, him and his new gf or whatever she is, and after a lot of crying and drama, he told me that he is no longer in love with me, but still loves me. That he wants to be with me again one day, but just doesn’t see it happening anymore. & even though he is saying all of this, he still wants to spend all day Friday with me! I don’t even know what to think or do anymore. I have been trying to fake it till you make it, and telling myself to let it go, but only because deep down I always KNEW he would come back one day, but after hearing all of this today, I don’t even know what to do anymore.

I need him to fall in love with me again. I NEED him to. & once that is accomplished, I need a serious gameplan on getting him back once and for all. I am too exhausted from everything that has been happening the last 2.5 months. I don’t want to be second choice (you know what I am talking about). He isn’t a man that I just decided to love. I loved him for my future that I have always wanted. The father for my kids one day, and my husband, my guardian.

He has a very negative image of our relationship, and always says the bad outweighed the good, and I know everything I did wrong, but even after I have fixed it all, he is still hesitant.

It’s terrifying me to know that the day has come where he is finally admitting that he is getting over me day by day, but of course he is! He sees me all the time, and talks to me all the time, but every single time, it ends up in a fight.

So I guess my question is, after knowing my story, and basically being updated every step and being the ever so sweet Princess Jasmin :p and helping every step of the way, do you think I can make him fall in love with me again after everything he said to me today? I don’t even know what to do anymore or how to make it work. There is too much water under bridge right now. Should I still see him Friday, have an amazing day, and then go complete NC for 15 days on him? That way his last memory of me will be good.. I DON’T KNOW ANYMORE, just please help me Chris 🙁

admin

December 2, 2013 at 7:33 pm

Sick of you? What are you talking about.

Go the complete 15 days on him.

HotLilTeacher

December 2, 2013 at 2:52 pm

P.S. he did tell me he loved me and thinks about us being married but worries about certain things.
HotLilTeacher

December 2, 2013 at 2:49 pm

Great guide Chris! Thank you.
I am not seeing any of these resistance behaviors, but there is a lot of withdrawl. You said he maybe having second thoughts in another thread. What does one do when he is having second thoughts? My instinct tells me to not chase right now and just give him space. Any advice?

admin

December 2, 2013 at 7:31 pm

Gosh dangit I knew I left something out. Withdrawl ahhh.. Well, its not a good sign BUT its not the end. I think your instincts are spot on.
HotLilTeacher

December 2, 2013 at 9:28 pm

P.S. he did tell me he loved me and thinks about us being married but worries about certain things.

rach

December 2, 2013 at 1:52 pm

I love this one so much! It really lets me know that I have a good chance of things since everything positive you talked about I have going for me. You really made my day, thanks!

admin

December 2, 2013 at 7:28 pm

Wow! You just made my day haha.

Jane

December 2, 2013 at 8:54 am

Chris do you think I should email him to tell him that I know I wasn’t the best girlfriend, that I have learned a lot from my mistakes and that I am sorry to have put him through a lot, that I regret everything and indeed worked on improving my attitude. What do you think about this, b/c honestly I feel guilty inside.

admin

December 2, 2013 at 7:23 pm

I think if that will make you feel beter then go for it.

Jane

December 2, 2013 at 8:37 am

Hi Chris, at least now one can know if we are fighting a winning or loosing battle. Thanks for this guide.
Personally I think its time for me to move on, although its so hard. Most of the negatives on this guide is what I get from him.

1)After my 1st NC I texted him and got a very negative response.
2)After my 2nd NC I started texting him and up to now he has never responded.
3)Up to now he still hates me so much(four months of hating me). Am not sure whether he even loves me at all.
4)We had a great relationship but we still had plenty of fights especially towards the breakup.
5)I wasn’t the very best girlfriend to him, I just wouldn’t let go when we were fighting.I think he gets the bad feeling in his gut when he thinks about getting back with me.

I do think about my future with him and I know for a fact that we can have a great future together, that I can count on him and because I have really learned some important lessons regarding relationships and marriage, and for the fact I have a changed my attitude too.
I am not sure whether I have exhausted all the means of getting him back but I kinda feel like its an already lost battle. I hear he is happy in his current relationship and life is going well for him. I think the only miracle left is if this relationship he’s in is a rebound and it ends up falling apart(immediately after our breakup in Feb he dated a “perfect” girl and dumped her after 5months and started chasing after me in July, but I wasn’t ready to date him, his current relationship is 4months old as from August). But with all these negative things going through my mind, I still have hope left.

Still Chris with all these, what do you think, should I give up or I should keep trying, your the expert in this field. 😉

admin

December 2, 2013 at 7:22 pm

If you want my advice as a happy go luck ex boyfriend recovery guy I say its worth a try.

But if you want my personal opinion.. I think its time to take your business elsewhere…

Tracy

December 2, 2013 at 3:36 am

HELP HAVE QUESTION —- My boyfriend and I broke up a month and half ago. It ended badly and I have recently seen where him breaking up with me was my fault. He immediately moved in with another girl. I know that was a jerky move, but he needed me for several months and I wasnt there for him. He’s always been there for me and I know I really hurt him. He found someone who would be there. I’m devastated even more so since I realized I pushed him to this. We had an argument when we went our separate ways because i begged and pleaded for him not to. We have a child together and two weeks after the break up and I had not spoken to him, he sent me a text message asking for idea’s for Christmas presents for our child. I responded to the text with the few things i had in mind and told him if I thought of something else I would let him know. I did about a week later think of some other stuff and sent him an email telling him. He responded and said that he thought it was a good idea and asked a question with specifics. I answered he then sent another email asking when i thought he should send it. I wondered why he asked #1, (seems common sense to me) #2 when he sent the email it was early November. I’ve never known him to Christmas shop that early. I wondered if since i had no contact with him if he had thought of an excuse to contact me. But that’s as far as our conversation went. He thanked me for the idea and I didn’t hear from him again. I then sent him a text day after Thanksgiving saying I hope he had a good one and what I had done, and in a round about way reminded him of what we had done together. He said he hoped my Thanksgiving was good as well. Since, nothing. Is anything positive or am I just wishful thinking. i really hate this!

admin

December 2, 2013 at 7:01 pm

Sure does sound like he thought up an excuse to talk to you doesn’t it?

abby

December 2, 2013 at 2:32 am

Chris, nice guides.. thank you.. 🙂

admin

December 2, 2013 at 6:57 pm

No problem!

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