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79 thoughts on “Why An Ex Boyfriend Won’t Make Your Relationship On Facebook Official”

  1. Juvenile Profundity

    January 26, 2015 at 4:41 pm

    can you pls make an article on how to keep your bf from being fling by other girls?? and how to make your bf LOYAL.

    1. admin

      January 27, 2015 at 2:19 pm

      Ok, ill write one!

    2. Juvenile Profundity

      January 28, 2015 at 4:30 pm

      Thank you so much! I’m looking forward to that. My boyfriend seems to love attention from other girls, and it’s really bothering me. I really want to tell him that, but I’m afraid it would just start off a fight between us. Of course as his girlfriend, all I ask is his full loyalty, and for his not to look sideways… I hope you get what I mean.

    3. admin

      January 29, 2015 at 2:21 pm

      He loves attention from other girls huh?

      Does he have a bad flirting problem?

      Have you ever caught him doing something he shouldnt?

    4. Juvenile Profundity

      February 2, 2015 at 3:46 pm

      Yes he does. And we always get into an argument everytime I tell him that I get jealous of this and that person.

      He told me that he’s helping a girl who just broke up with her bf. And then I got really mad cuz I saw that their texts were really sweet. And he even has a picture of them together! Don’t you think I have the right to be jealous? I’m so afraid that he will do the same mistake that he did before.

      Last year we broke up because he cheated on me with another girl..and his reason was I was too controlling and needy. But we got reunited after 5months (thanks to your helpful articles). I changed some part of me so that I can fit in his world.

      Today he is trying to break up with me (again), for the reason that he claims to be unhappy during our relationship. He says that he loves me so much but he is not happy anymore. He said that he tried to figure out what was “missing” in our relationship. He told me there was something missing in me… What could it be? He told me that I changed a lot and I’m not anymore the girl he fell in love with.

      I’m doing everything I can to save our relationship.. I’ve been a very faithful and dedicated gf to him ever since.. but he doesn’t seem to cooperate. What should I do Chris? I really love my boyfriend and I want us to last for a very long time. We’ve been together for 2 years now, but we are having the same problem over and over.

      Please help.

      2 years in this relationship and our problems

    5. Juvenile Profundity

      February 5, 2015 at 11:41 pm

      Please respond… 🙁

    6. admin

      February 6, 2015 at 2:14 pm

      Honestly you have been a faithful girlfriend and HE is getting away with murder….

      I think you need a stronger position… He looks at you like a pushover and that is why he is doing these questionable things.

  2. Lynn

    January 25, 2015 at 1:59 am

    8 days into no contact. It’s been VERY hard but I’m determined to make it the full 30. I do see in my case where I think giving him and myself some space is the ONLY way we have any hope of getting back together. Reading a lot and crossing my fingers!

    1. admin

      January 26, 2015 at 3:35 pm

      Keep me updated Lynn!

  3. Sophie

    January 19, 2015 at 3:35 pm

    Hi Chris, I need your intelligent point of view once again. You must be used to to hear all kind of crazy stories, but, my ex did something over the top, and I really wanted to get him back before this happened: he posted my phone number online so I’d get harrassed. I’ve had 4 days of panic until I could finally get a new one.
    I’m so confused and heartbroken about why he would do something like this. What’s your point of view on this situation? Why would an ex seek revenge? Is he worth to fight for?

    Congrats on your wedding btw!!

    1. admin

      January 20, 2015 at 3:16 pm

      WHAT?

      He seriously did that.

      He did it probably because he really is angry with you over the breakup. What happened during the breakup?

  4. Elsie

    January 18, 2015 at 4:57 am

    Hi Chris,

    So I completed no contact and didn’t hear a word from my ex the entire time. A bit disheartening, but I continued nevertheless. Rather than starting with texting my ex, I chose to test the waters by re-friending him on Facebook. Yup. I made the mistake of unfriending him the night he broke up with me. I sent him the friend request on Thursday night. He accepted it at approximately 1 AM on Saturday morning.

    Then he did something rather surprising. He called me at 1:30 in the morning. Of course I was asleep, so I didn’t answer. My ex did not leave me a message, nor did he text me. I called him at 11:30 on Saturday morning, he did not answer and I did not leave a voicemail. And that’s all I did. No texting, no more calls, no Facebook messages, no smoke signals, nothing. One attempt at a phone call and that was it. He hasn’t contacted me again – and now I’m wondering what I should be doing.

    Should I leave him alone – and for how long, a few days, a week, two weeks? Should I ask him if he needed/wanted anything or assume it was a drunk call and ignore it from this point on?

    1. admin

      January 19, 2015 at 3:45 pm

      A week!

    2. Elsie

      January 21, 2015 at 8:04 pm

      Thanks, Chris!

      What are your thoughts on drunk dials from ex-boyfriends? Specifically – are they just looking for sex when they call, or is there more to it than that?

    3. admin

      January 22, 2015 at 4:47 pm

      Maybe a little more than that. However, a drunk dial is never really that thrilling.

  5. Pam

    January 17, 2015 at 6:00 am

    I’m really confused because my ex pushed me away, then appeared to be stalking my Twitter, and posting about me on his own Twitter. He also joined Tinder for the sole purpose of finding me on there. It was really weird. Could you have any idea why he’s doing this?

    We’ve talked and said we’d leave it up to timing, and that we both weren’t ruling out the chances of us getting back together, which I feel is a good direction, but I’d love to have your second opinion on that!

  6. Olga

    January 12, 2015 at 1:18 am

    Hey Chris! It’s Olga again… Turns out I’ll be moving to the city where my ex and all of my friends live, I’ll get a job there cause there is no way I could keep my sanity living in this little town where I’ve absolutely no one and nothing to do. Anyways, I’m on day 20 of no contact and I’m thinking of extending it until I’ve moved, which will probably be on 01/02. I just think I will truly be able to follow your instructions and become the ungettable girl. I also don’t want him to know about my plans so that he doesn’t think I’m doing it for him. Anyways, the question is if it is possible for him to move on/forget about me if I wait some extra time? May be a stupid one but this is my concern right now haha

    1. admin

      January 19, 2015 at 3:32 pm

      Sure, its possible. Anything like that is possible.

      However, I think the fact that your moving there might make that harder for him.

    2. Olga

      January 19, 2015 at 7:25 pm

      Thanks for replying! But really? Could 10 days make such a difference? Thanks for telling me, cause I was even thinking of not contacting him until after his exams (I thought since I was a stage 5 clinger, that would be a smart thing to do).

    3. admin

      January 20, 2015 at 3:35 pm

      WEll, it will be a step in the right direction.

      Ten days can make all the difference in the world.

  7. Janet

    January 8, 2015 at 9:08 pm

    I’ll tell you something…
    I remember getting into this debate with my now ex boyfriend and it was something that I took to heart. All I wanted him to do was put ‘in a relationship’, not link me or put my picture up! It turned into a full blown row.

    He eventually went back to his ex girlfriend and told me that he felt that he moved on too quickly. So his refusal to update his status was symptomatic of his feelings, I guess. Reluctance.

    Can’t say that all men are like this, but honestly, this should have been a red flag to me. Facebook is not a big deal, who cares if you’re dating… Unless you want to date “privately” – it doesn’t make sense. You can have a private relationship without keeping your relationship a secret.

    That’s only my little opinion though lol

    1. Mars

      April 16, 2015 at 4:37 am

      “Facebook really isn’t a big deal when it comes to this. I honestly don’t understand why people get so freaked out about a little status update.”

      You don’t have to understand it. It just is. It’s not insecurity. It’s not validation. It’s like women asking why men loves football or don’t show their emotions easily. If it’s not a “big deal” then why make it as a big deal? It JUST matters to some people who are relationship oriented. Period. It may sound crazy to you (Chris) and to some other guys/gals but to some women/men they just like that. Does it honestly hurt to change a Facebook status even if you/they don’t see the importance in it? Love is not about “Well I FEEL like what you NEED is stupid/crazy/weird,etc…. Are men really that insecure and fearful to lose control when a woman request something (so simple) that will make HER happy? (would you rather want something that requires…YOU)? Is it really about what YOU think when it comes to other people needs in a relationship…even if it’s “crazy”? Yeah those who say “what’s the big deal”…they worry me.

    2. admin

      January 19, 2015 at 3:15 pm

      Facebook really isnt a big deal when it comes to this. I honestly don’t understand why people get so freaked out about a litle status update.

  8. Stalked by his friends

    January 8, 2015 at 8:36 pm

    I think you forgot the part where jealous friends can hit on your girlfriend or boyfriend. We both are (honestly) attractive and I deal with his friends who have a crush on me. Some people don’t care about their friend who is taken by the one they have a crush on. And my girl friends think he is hot and said they want to date him. I think it would complicate things for us if we do set the relationship status.

    1. admin

      January 19, 2015 at 3:14 pm

      Ah yes, that happens too.

      Nice pick up.

      I think in these cases a strong relationship where you tell eachother stuff like this builds trust.

    2. Stalked by his friends

      January 8, 2015 at 8:40 pm

      Because setting your relationship gives your bf or gf the spotlight and make him or her searchable. All his friends who have a crush on me know that I am his gf and he even tell them that I am his gf.

  9. Tiffanie

    January 8, 2015 at 5:46 pm

    Chris, when you get your ex back but are stuck in the awkward period afterwards, how long do you think that fallout period normally lasts before things start being more comfortable and normal? I don’t know how long I should wait through the dark part before I should start giving up.

    1. admin

      January 19, 2015 at 3:11 pm

      Probably a week to a month…

      It really depends on the couple.

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