Why Did My Ex Unfollow Me On Social Media? (Facebook, Twitter, Whatsapp, Etc)

145 thoughts on “Why Did My Ex Boyfriend Unfollow Me On Social Media?”

Cheyann Barajas

April 24, 2018 at 12:18 pm

So, my ex deleted all of our pictures on his fb, but didn’t delete me. Well i posted a picture of me outside enjoying the weather and i noticed that he seen it. Well, a couple of hours later i noticed he unfollowed me too. But he still hasn’t deleted me. I’m doing the No contact also, its day 4 of no contact & 6 days ago is when we broke up (he was the one to break up with me)

Chris Seiter

April 24, 2018 at 2:57 pm

Hi Cheyann….it seems to me he is being a little passive aggressive in his reaction (unfollowing you). That is not unusual during this emotional period which can be filled with bouts of anger/resentment/uncertainty. You did pick up a copy of my ebook, right? It will help you immensely during this whole process. Just go to my website Menu/Products link to learn more. Having a blueprint you can follow and place to go to get answers can be really helpful. It acts kinda like a Companion Guide, helping people through their break up period and what to do to optimize their chances.

Dania

April 18, 2018 at 1:22 am

I managed to get my on and off ex to contact me again thru social media after months of no contact. Kept posting pictures of me moving on and having fun. But I took your advice and decided to be the UG instead of taking him back right away. He was active on my page for a while but then unfollowed me. Have I made a mistake? What can I do to get him back now? Keep doing what I’m doing with no contact? Will he be back on his own? He usually is… :/

Chris Seiter

April 18, 2018 at 5:17 am

Hi Dania…Just wait awhile….give it some time, then try another initial contact text. You have my ebook, right? The plans are laid out there!

Ash

April 17, 2018 at 9:08 pm

I would just really like to understand what is going through my ex’s mind at the moment. We’ve broken up and made up several times before. The last time we broke up was our third break up (5 months ago) He is always the one to break up with me, and always the one to come running back. I usually make it very easy for him to come back into my life, but this time I’m playing very “ungettable”. As soon as we broke up, I unfollowed him on Instagram, but he did not unfollow me and he has watched every single one of my Instagram stories for 5 months. There has been no contact for those 5 months but recently he messaged me on Instagram saying that I look like this model and saying that I look good and asked how I was doing. I didn’t give in to his sudden flirty compliment, but I did reply saying that I was doing well and asked how he was doing, to which he replied very coldly that he was also doing well (I’m guessing because I didn’t give in like I usually do). The conversation ended there, and after that he started liking my pictures throughout the next few weeks (I’m guessing to get my attention?), something he never usually does when we’re broken up. However today he unfollowed me, and I would just like to know why, after all this time? And is there a chance he might try to contact me again?

Chris Seiter

April 17, 2018 at 10:48 pm

Hi there Ash! It sounds like was interested and when he didn’t get the attention craved, he lashed out by unfollowing. Given there is history here and you guys have been thru 3 breakups, I can see why he is not ready to let go. I do think he will try to reach out again. If you have not already done so, you might want to take a look at some of the resources I offer on my Products Page (via the Menu link) as I go into a lot more detail of all the tactics you might employ and the kind of situations that might crop up.
Ash

April 18, 2018 at 1:02 am

Thanks for replying Chris. Your answer was very helpful. I’ve read several of your posts and they’ve also been helpful. I was thinking of following him again before he decided to unfollow me, so I figure that’s a no-no now. I keep my page public in case he ever snoops around. And I was planning on keeping the no contact going. I guess my last question to you is, do you think I’m taking the right approach at getting him back, or am I being too cold?
Chris Seiter

April 18, 2018 at 5:21 am

Hi Ash…Yeah…guys will snoop around. Trust me on that. She use that to your advantage during the NC period. Show him you are happy and find a quote or something that speaks to appreciating special people in your past life….leave him little breadcrumbs

Katie

April 2, 2018 at 11:17 pm

My boyfriend broke up with me after 7 months. I always thought we had a very happy relationship and he always told me he loved me more than anything. I instantly went no contact and less than a week later he deleted all of our photos together off of Facebook and Instagram? Is this just him trying to get a reaction out of me? Or is it too painful for him to look at the memories? I haven’t deleted any of mine, but should I?

Chris Seiter

April 3, 2018 at 2:10 am

I actually think more than anything this is standard breakup practice. You see, from a mans perspective I believe that it’s ok to delete photos after you breakup. Try not to take it personally.

Sarah

February 16, 2018 at 5:00 pm

My ex unfollowed me on instagram the day I left him, but he still kept me as a friend on facebook and did not block me on whatsapp where we used to talk. I am much more active on instagram than facebook. What does that mean?
Gem

January 29, 2018 at 7:07 am

Hi Amor

So are you saying in all instances even telling him about making his relationship status private so the whole world doesn’t see isn’t my business? What about having respect for each other’s privacy and feelings? Or is that not of my concern? Is your point if I tell him this, it may come across that I still care? And haven’t accepted leaving him alone?

EBR Team Member: Amor

January 31, 2018 at 12:09 pm

Yes, it would look like an excuse to talk to him and you would come across as nagging because you’ve already broken up. That’s his account,if he wants to make his relationship status public, that’s his call.

Genevieve

January 21, 2018 at 12:32 am

Wait, my best friend said that he followed her first, and she was surprised that he had an Instagram but she followed him back because she wondered why he had one, and why would he follow her when they only met each other twice during my relationship with him. That’s when she started suspecting him of keeping tabs on me

EBR Team Member: Amor

January 21, 2018 at 11:35 am

Hi Genevieve
Yes, she can be right.. So just keep your accpunt public and post more pics of you looking great

Genevieve

January 20, 2018 at 11:47 pm

My ex created an Instagram account a week ago, and this shocked me because I know for a fact that he hates taking pictures and thinks Instagram is a waste of time. I love Instagram and used to be on it a lot when we were together, and he would tell me it’s a ridiculous app, how he would never get one, and encouraged me to get useful apps that he also uses. He and I were kind of long distance (different colleges 45 min apart) and been together for 2 1/2 years, until he out of the blue broke up with me almost 2 months ago, and we haven’t spoken since around the beginning of December even though he wants us to be friendly. Then I get this Instagram notification that my Facebook Friend (my ex) created an account, but he hasn’t posted anything yet. I do want him back, but I don’t want to follow him first on the app, especially since I’ve been feeling way better than back when he left me. My best friend started following him and vice versa, and the other day she suggested that he might be watching my account since my pictures are public. It sounds a little crazy to me, but could she be right?
Gem

December 16, 2017 at 2:53 pm

Usually a relationship status you can make seem by only you on Facebook privacy settings – do you think it’s fair of me to ask him to make it private ? I never changed my status but it wasn’t being seen really by anyone coz it was always hidden?

I feel hurt but I feel I should request him to hide it our close friends know but we all have 100s of acquaintances on Facebook and I didn’t want them all knowing?

EBR Team Member: Amor

December 20, 2017 at 12:27 pm

Hi Gem,

it would be better not to ask him to do that

Gem

December 16, 2017 at 12:26 pm

I never realized how changing Facebook status and relationship updates would hurt – both of us have clearly stayed off social media on our breakup phase but since it has been months he finally went to edit the cover pic of two of us to just be of him and changed his status to ‘single’.

Somehow he also limited any of his posts to me (I’m not sure how) because before I could see say his bday messages from earlier this year but now it’s no longer there – he hasn’t unfriended me but he has limited his past posts that don’t include me so I can’t see it only him and his friends that posted can.

I know it irks me but I’m just blown away and hurt and I know you going to tell me that the best thing is to stop regressing and going back but I am hurt that now fine he changed pics and relationship status but why would he want to hide all his other new feeds from me? Like why is it so easy that he just wants to wipe everything about me off his life ?

Is that wot person who does the breaking up wants? That is is so easy for them they just want to forget so not interested in you or don’t want you to even seeing anything they are doing anymore ?

Maybe it’s because Iv never broken up with someone before is that I don’t know how this works I don’t know what’s in their minds? I just don’t get how easy it is for man to move on:( and just not care one bit or rather that they feel so hurt by you they want to wipe everything u did together away? Like just forget ? And yet they broke up with you, you so hurt but we are the ones who can’t seem to be treating them how they treat us ? It should be us that must ingore them and hate them yet they ignore and hate us but all we want to do is run after them!! 🙁 I hate that it hurts so much and i hate that it makes us want them more 🙁
Olive

December 3, 2017 at 9:26 am

Hello. I f*cked up. He unfollowed me on instagram and I unfollowed him too. I try to use no contact, but I feel like I failed when I unfollowed him. Ugh… Is this a disaster?
I initiated no contact a little over 2 weeks ago.

EBR Team Member: Amor

December 5, 2017 at 1:46 am

Hi Oliver,

just make your account your public, so that he can see your posts if he checks it.. do less of instagram stories.. do posts that just stays there unless you remove them.

Jessica

November 28, 2017 at 1:51 pm

Hi I’m Jessica again, We decided to be friends by the number of friends in common, the contact 0 ended from that day but you can tell that he is still a bit annoyed or resentful, anyway, even he liked my photos and I saw my stories in ig, until this happened btw I post twice a month, I want him as a friend he was a great friend before the relationship and he is pretty inmature though , also I don’t want to fell rejected like I was the one that wants him back or something. Thanks

EBR Team Member: Amor

November 29, 2017 at 2:30 pm

Sorry, I’m confused.. How long have you been doing nc, how active are you in improving yourself and did you mean you just want to be friends and not to get back together?

Jessica

November 25, 2017 at 5:11 pm

Hi, my ex unfollowed me on IG also unlike and like some pictures, so I didn’t do anything but how much time I have to wait to unfollow him or talk to him or anything? BTW his birthday its this Friday.. So I don’t know what to do.

EBR Team Member: Amor

November 27, 2017 at 5:05 pm

Hi Jessica,
You dont have to unfollow him..are you in the nc period? If yes, how long have you been and how much are you improving yourself and how active are you in posting/

Cat

November 15, 2017 at 11:10 pm

My ex followed me on Instagram and got angry at me when I contacted him(no contact for 20 days) what does this mean?

EBR Team Member: Amor

November 18, 2017 at 2:18 am

HI Cat,

what did you say to him? It can mean he doesn’t want you to chase him…

Bethany

November 13, 2017 at 9:07 pm

Hi, my ex and I dated for almost 2 years. I initiated the break up and later regretted it. I apologized about a month later after on-and-off contact and asked if he wanted to try again and he said no. He told me he wanted to move on and then he deleted me from social media. Did he do this because he hates me? Why did he wait to unfollow me after one month? He is acting as if I am stalking him on social media, which I definitely was not. Does this mean he still has feelings for me?

EBR Team Member: Amor

November 17, 2017 at 8:28 pm

HI Bethany,
more likely because he’s still angry.

Jess

November 13, 2017 at 6:50 pm

Hi, my ex broke up with me about 2 weeks ago. I last spoke to him 3 days ago (short chat just general how you doing) I ended the conversation and have been posting a lot of positive stuff and photos of me out and about meeting new people. I’ve been going out with a guy friend and I’ve been putting photos of us on and my ex recently unfollowed me. Should I unfollow him too? He only uses one social media that I use too. Should I keep posting? What does it mean that he’s unfollowed me?

EBR Team Member: Amor

November 17, 2017 at 8:20 pm

Hi Jess,

It’s not a no contact period if you keep talking to him or replying to him.. If he unfollowed you, it probably means he’s still affected with your posts.. You don’t have to unfolllow him but you have to restart the count of nc.

Abbza

October 26, 2017 at 11:18 am

Hello,
Please help! I previously wrote on another article in regards to my ex. We’re long distance. We broke it off on January of this year, I did the no contact and initiated contact and we got back together in March. However, we took a trip to Madrid and I obviously had not given myself enough time and acted horribly, still holding on to stuff about our past. Anyways, he broke it off in the end of March and met someone first days of April. We spoke for a bit in May and I completely went silent. We haven’t spoken for about 5 months and I just reached out to him the other day and we talked over the phone last night. He told me he has a new girlfriend! But I sort of already knew because she posts tons of pictures of them traveling and stuff. Sad sad day! I’m trying to figure out if I should give it more time or if I should even bother trying to get him back. His mom messages me now and then, which is probably nothing.

So our conversation went well. He asked me where I was moving to and I told him nothing. He told me about his new girlfriend and he asked me if I was seeing someone and I told him nothing. I asked him if he was happy and he said yes. They are both in the same country and I’m miles away! 🙁 help! I think I screwed up and had skype XXX with him. I don’t want to over think it but have I lost any chance of possibly fixing things? We laughed, talked and the conversation went well for more than an hour.

What can I do? What shall I do? He’s obviously moved on and like you said in the episode, don’t want to be someone’s second choice but then again, we were very serious and he bought me a ring. (He immediately asked me if I sold the ring, which obviously I didn’t!)

It’s October now and the last we spoke was end of September. I got drunk and called him and after that he blocked me on all social media. I can see why but I wasn’t begging him back, I was just asking him for help. I’m sure I sounded ridiculous. He’s been with this new girl since the week after we broke off and it hurts.

What to do? 🙁

Help help!

Thanks!

EBR Team Member: Amor

October 29, 2017 at 11:05 am

HI Abbza,

are you going to do the no contact rule?

Olivia

October 10, 2017 at 1:29 am

Okay, my boyfriend did not unfollow me, but this is social media related. I dated my ex for 4 years before breaking up due to long distance/arguing mostly due to the distance and no plan to move closer to one another. After a year apart, we are now dating again thanks to your advice. (officially for 4 months now). In the past, my boyfriend has been rather conservative in his social media posts. He rarely posts about anything. Over the years, I have asked him to post pictures of me, and explained that it bothered me that he never put pictures of us up. I would say in the 4 years we dated, he posted about 4 photos of us. Now that we are back together, this issue still exists. He is completely okay with me posting any pictures of us, but if I send him a cute pic and offer it up for him to post, he will deny me. If I get upset, he freaks out and explains that he will never discuss social media with me or argue over social media because he thinks it is stupid and has no affect on our relationship. While I agree to some degree, it does seem odd that he gets so angry and defensive when it comes to posting photos of us together. If you were to look at his facebook, everything is in private mode, and there is 1 photo of me on his instagram from about 2 years ago. Otherwise, he seems completely single. Is this odd, or am I overthinking things? I want to be with someone who is proud to show me off, and in public he is very open about the fact that he is my boyfriend, arrives to parties, gatherings, etc with me regularly. But, I just find it so weird that he wants to appear single on social media. What do I do?

Olivia

October 10, 2017 at 3:15 pm

What do you mean they would ask ehy? Can you please elaborate on that? I have asked him about it, but have since stopped since he told me he doesnt want to argue about social media and I don’t want to sound crazy like i am checking his tagged photos. I am trying to focus on the fact that our real life relationship is great but the social media thing does still bother me…. i feel like he is keeping me a secret on social media sometimes for some reason?
EBR Team Member: Amor

October 11, 2017 at 9:19 am

Sorry that was a typo..I mean they would ask him why he wouldn’t want them to tag him..so, to avoid that, he just lets them but if he himself is active in posting but doesn’t include then that’s different..I think he’s just not that into social media posting
Olivia

October 10, 2017 at 3:14 pm

What do you mean they would ask ehy? Can you please elaborate on that? I have asked him about it, but have since stopped since he told me he doesnt want to argue about social media and I don’t want to sound crazy like i am checking his tagged photos. I am trying to focus on the fact that our real life relationship is great but the social media thing does still bother me….
Olivia

October 10, 2017 at 1:32 am

I also noticed that when I post something on instagram, he does not allow it to be added to his tagged photos tab….but he allows everyone else’s tagged photos of him to appear there. (including a few pics of us together in groups with our families). Odd.
EBR Team Member: Amor

October 10, 2017 at 3:08 pm

Maybe he just knows that if he did that to his friends, they would ask ehy..

Stephanie

September 25, 2017 at 6:40 am

Hi, my ex boyfriend and I were together for 4 years and broke up about 2 months ago because he lied to me about something that made me feel betrayed. I ended the relationship, and after a few days of me ignoring his calls and messages, I finally cooled down and attempted to talk things out. When I was read to talk, my ex boyfriend said he needed space to figure out what he wants. I the midst of this, my ex boyfriend created an instagram and wouldn’t let me follow him on it even after I requested him. After a month of me continuing to nag trying to understand why my ex boyfriend is asking for space after a breakup, I finally agreed to give him the space he was asking for. My ex said that although he wanted space, he wanted to talk every now and then and see each other once a week to catchup- this lasted for one week. My ex randomly initiated what seems to be no contact for about 25 days now. He just randomly did not respond to a text that I sent him. As of today, my ex boyfriend deleted me on facebook and snapchat, and still has never accepted my instagram request to follow him. Why would he block/delete me at this point during the no contact phase? Did he start no contact with me? I am not sure if he blocked me on the phone too because I have no reached out to him. Do I text him to ask him why he randomly blocked me? I would like this relationship to work but I don’t understand my ex boyfriends actions.

EBR Team Member: Amor

September 28, 2017 at 8:28 pm

Hi Stephanie,

he probably didn’t start a nc period with you, because if he did, that means he would initiate contact and start building rapport to get you back.. but it looks like he just ghosted you. You should start the no contact period if you want to raise your chances of getting him back.

Rick

September 7, 2017 at 5:52 am

So if they unfollow you do you unfollow them back?

EBR Team Member: Amor

September 7, 2017 at 9:31 pm

HI Rick,

Nope..

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145 thoughts on “Why Did My Ex Boyfriend Unfollow Me On Social Media?”