Why Do Men Always Seem To Come Back Once They Think You Have Moved On?

178 thoughts on “Why Do Men Come Back After You Ignore Them”

Louise

January 2, 2019 at 5:30 pm

Hi. So I was dating a guy just for a few months. He started it, he chased me all the time and eventually I gave in because I did really like him. Everything was going well, he would tell me the sweetest things, do really nice things for me, we would talk everyday and I really fell for him. Then one day, out of the blue, he stopped talking to me. He would ignore all my messages, ignore me at work (we work together, but not always on the same shift so occasionally see each other but not every day). He would even ignore me about work related matters. I was quite hurt and confused and left him alone for a week, didn’t message, didn’t bother him at all. Then I thought it would be best to ask him to talk about it as it was impacting our work lives. We met and he said that he knows he lead me on but he’s doesn’t want a relationship right now, he wants to be alone but we should be civil at work. I was really hurt but accepted his decision, and I haven’t spoken to him since. I have deleted his contact details and now, sometimes he does nice things for me at work like brings me coffee/lunch, takes some of my tasks if I am stressed etc. But if I try to talk to him he ignores me completely. I really have feelings for him. Is there any way to get him to come back, is this advice in this article likely to work in my situation?
Maria

September 21, 2018 at 2:50 am

A friend of mine found out that I liked him because I vented my feelings for him to a common friend. This common friend of ours mistreated him because he thought that he was stringing me along. The guy that I liked blamed me for all the stress that he went through. A year later, he came back to my life and we reconciled. However, just recently i wasn’t in the mood and I accidentally lashed out on him. I know it was my fault for arguing and things became escalated when we argued. I tried to call and apologize the next day but he doesn’t want to take my apologies. He said it’s over. He is tired of me. He said that I easily gave up on myself, I don’t trust him and I make conclusions that doesn’t even exist. He blamed me for everything thinking it’s all my fault because according to him he kept giving me chances yet I kept clawing to foundation until nothing is left. I was devastated and begged for him to come back. My last message to him was accepting his decision but still reinforcing that I want to explain my side. He did not respond to my messages. He blocked me right away to every portal of communication including social media. He also blocked my sister on social media. I don’t know what to do. My heart is broken. It’s been 2 months and I haven’t heard anything from him. Do I even stand a chance to win him back?

Chris Seiter

September 21, 2018 at 4:25 pm

Hi Maria!

I know all this is tough on you. You don’t have to go thru it alone. Its best to have some kind of program to follow and you can go to my home page and explore the tools and resources I offer. But right now, your focus should be on your healing and recovery. Take a look at this resource
Chris Seiter

September 21, 2018 at 4:25 pm

Hi Maria!

I know all this is tough on you. You don’t have to go thru it alone. Its best to have some kind of program to follow and you can go to my home page and explore the tools and resources I offer. But right now, your focus should be on your healing and recovery. Take a look at this resource

Vanessa Lara

August 15, 2018 at 6:56 pm

Hello,
My Boyfriend or ex boyfriend, broke up with me a week and a half because I was his first everything and he wanted to meet more women. He also mentioned that he doesnt really know what he wants. We have been together for 4 years (1 yr of long distance relationship). He also told me that he couldnt handle long distance. I am heart broken!!

Chris Seiter

August 17, 2018 at 2:33 pm

Give it some time Vanessa. You both have a lot invested in each other and perhaps he has not figured that out yet. Utilize the program I discuss and the resources found on my home page!

Joanna

August 10, 2018 at 9:34 pm

My boyfriend broke up with me after 2 + years together. We started dating in 2016, and I met his parents during the holidays. I have two boys, divorced, and am 10 years older than him. He’s 27. He ended it about two weeks ago saying he is not happy where he is in life right now, and wasn’t happy in our relationship for a while. He said he couldn’t bond with my kids, as much as he tried, although I know he could’ve done more. And said he realized he’s not ready to be a stepdad or move forward in our relationship, we had made plans to buy a house and get married in about 2 years. Right now he’s waiting to start the police academy and he said he’s overwhelmed about not being where he wants to be in life. I told him I’m setting him free, because I love him. The rational mind knows this is the right thing to do, but my emotional side doesn’t understand why he’s doing this. He says he wants to focus on himself and maybe someday we can reunite again. The last time I saw him it was hard for both of us to let go of each other, he kept on hugging me and kissing me and we even had dinner. While we were eating, he kept on looking at me and smiling, I was acting like I didn’t see him.
Then we had sex for one last time 🙁 and it was really nice. But then he left and I haven’t talked to him since, and I’ve been crying and going through the grieving pain. I want him back so bad, I don’t know why he’s acting this way. We had such a good relationship, we worked through problems together, we went through a lot of things together. I can’t accept that he just threw all of that away.
His family loves me and they always welcomed me in their family gatherings, they gave me cards for special occasions etc. We were very involved in each other’s lives. I miss everything about our relationship, the calling, the messages, time spent together. I can’t even think straight sometimes and
I feel like my head is gonna explode from thinking so much. It hurts so much
I want to move on and get over this pain, but I know it’s gonna take time. Do you think we have a chance of getting back together in the future? I know I can’t love waiting, but that does give me some kind of relief.
Amy

August 8, 2018 at 3:17 pm

Hi, so I’ve been talking to a guy I met online.. for 9 months we spoke nearly every other night.. And messaged everyday.. we still haven’t met.. even tho he lives in the next city.. hes now just ignoring me I did make the mistake of messaging and messaging him and calling him, someone passed away and he also hurt his head and got a fracture to his skull.. I messaged asking if he wants me to leave him alone and never message again but he comes out with everything but the answer to what I’m asking.. I think I’ve been very selfish and not considered his feelings.. but it wasn’t like he personally told me about what was going on.. I message my goodbyes and wishing him luck.. will i still here from him?
Biba

August 8, 2018 at 10:19 am

My ex said he couldn’t be with me because he couldn’t “get serious”. We were high school sweet hearts and very close friends. I first talked to him and requested him to come back then we tried friendship and when I tried no contact he called me up on the 9th day three times just “as a friend” and told me to call him once in a while since I was his friend.
Marta

July 29, 2018 at 12:21 am

So I met a guy in a party, we ended up sleeping together, then I blocked him on social media because I Was embarassed but later on Instagram I unblocked him and then we met up again and slept together and we talked all night long and I felt a connection and I think he did too.. The Next day he texted me and stopped answering.
A few days later I texted him but he was taking a long period of time to answer but he said he wanted to be with me again. So I stopped answering him because we Was taking too long.. Before This I saw that he unliked my pictures and wasn’t watching my instastories anymore. But The second I jumped his instastories he started to Watch them again. In This time he posted a picture of a girl’s body on The beach. He has a lot of female “friends” wich is annoying and It’s confusing. It’s been two weeks and he still hasn’t said anything. I feel sad because I really liked him and I know I shouldn’t have slept with Him but we had chemistry.. Should I still ignore him or he just isn’t going to talk to me anymore?

Chris Seiter

July 29, 2018 at 1:34 am

Probably best to give it some time, employing your own no contact, then follow my teachings covered here on my site on how to initiate contact

Varinda

May 13, 2018 at 3:40 am

We were in a four years of relationship. Always almost together, the whole day. And also he used to be a stubborn guy before but transformed throughout the four years. He really cared for me, always used to come around running when I needed any help, and even supported me emotionally. We always discussed the future and thought we would end up together. His parents were opposed to this, thought i wasn’t that pretty and was short. But hr always took a stand for me. And also I was very possessive and always loved his company.
Lately, he thought that he wasn’t getting any space, he didn’t have any friends and that he didn’t have identity as his own for we were always together. He said he changed alot for me and isn’t happy with what he has become. So he broke up involving all my and his friends and told them that he had to do it forcefully since i won’t let him go. Now he talks to my friends and say that he’s happy without me and feel confident about the breakup.
Here I want to get him back, because i truly loved him. I realise what I did wrong on my part, ready to change. But he is so adamant that he doesn’t want to give a chance. He has blocked me from every portal of communication. Its been 12days since the breakup. I tried to contact him before, but stopped later.
I really want him back, because I believed what we had was wonderful and very few people have it. But I’m in constant fear because he is very stubborn and I don’t think he’ll give our relation one try. And also his friends say that he is very sure of what he has done ans doesnt want to give a chance ans is very adamant. He also said to my friend that he knows I wont be able to change for him, also that he doesnt want to ruin his future just for few good days in present.

Chris Seiter

May 13, 2018 at 5:05 am

Hello Varinda….Unless I am missing something, it sounds like your ex was having a bit of an identity crisis and his approach in breaking it off with you seems heavy handed which would suggest a certain lack of experience or maturity or both. The talk coming from him could be just that…talk, mixed in with some bravado. Four years with a person is not insignificant and creates some traction. Its not easy at all for someone to just wipe that all clear. They can try in their mind, but often they are deluding themselves. So I suspect this story…this situation has more chapters before its clear what is going down. This may not be over yet! You just need a blueprint of some kind to help you along. Consider my ebook, “Ex Recovery Pro” which you can find in this website’s “Product” section. Just click on my Menu to find your way there! It is chalk full of strategies and tactics!

Ioana

April 22, 2018 at 5:16 pm

Hi! We were together for 1 year and and we had a fight about him talking to other girls on instagram. I told him that it is not what I want and we should go our separate ways. He promised to not do it again and he insisted to be together, wanted to kiss me and hug me and said he loved me. But I insisted to break up. I was angry. However, the next day I said I gave it a thought and we should go on with our relationship. But he said “maybe you are right.. we should go our separate ways. I want you to be happy and maye you were unconfortable with me.” So I simply agreed, because I knew there was not much I could do, I could not convince him, right? But I knew I wanted him back, and I had to do something. I new about your advice and went no contact. no texting no calling, nothing. 2 weeks later my birthday came and he texted me thoughtful message, saying he is sorry for not being able to tell me in person and he signed it “Yours, R”. This made me hope that he had second thoughts and I suggested to meet. He seemed hesitant at first, he even said “we could meet, but only so I can tell you happy birthday in person, ok?” but I knew he was just playing games. He called me the next day to set up the meeting. He bought me flowers and a gift. The meeting was more like we were friends. He did not bring up the relationship or the problem we had, nor the future (if we still have one). And he did not text me after at all.. What should I do? I really love this guy and I want him back.

Chris Seiter

April 22, 2018 at 10:35 pm

Hi Loana…perhaps he is testing you and is still “smarting” from the breakup you initiated. Sometimes it takes a while for those resentments to wash away. I think you have done a lot of good things thus far. Stay the course and remember not to rush things. Just as my ebooks talk about, you want to continue to build value in yourself and let the attraction build slowly such that he is making more of the little moves.
Ioana

April 23, 2018 at 3:51 am

Thank you for your answer!
Chris Seiter

April 23, 2018 at 5:01 am

Your welcome Ioana…let me know how it goes for you and check out any of the resources I have here at the website if you need further assistance!

Sarah

April 18, 2018 at 1:25 pm

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Sarah

April 18, 2018 at 1:23 pm

Hi everyone,

I was in a relationship with my ex for 5 months after 3 months dating. We went to travel together and I moved in to his place as a permanent living place for 3 months because something wrong with my rental contract. We were all fine and happy and we never even had one argument. After that one day he suddenly told me he has to breakup with me because he felt we went to fast and he felt trapped. So we broke up but he kept sending me messages everyday. I replied but with a neutral tone. After 2 weeks of breakup, he dropped me stuff off to my place. He said he missed me and we chatted just like before. We kissed and even had sex. But he didn’t mention anything about getting back. Two days later he started seeing other girls by using online dating app. I found out and deleted him on my social media. He asked me if I deleted him. I didn’t reply. He kept silent now. I’m so confused atm I don’t know what he wants and what I should do. Pleas give me a hint and help me.

Chris Seiter

April 18, 2018 at 10:46 pm

Hi Sarah! Thanks for stopping by. You would really benefit by having a Companion Guide….sort of a blueprint to help you through this breakup process as it is indeed a process of dealing with your own emotions and tactically what you can do (e.g. No Contact). So check into my ebook (website Menu/Products) to learn more about some of different resources available. I think there is upside here. He is probably going through a little angry stage about being deleted, but obviously he is the instigator of the relationship breaking up.
Sarah

April 21, 2018 at 1:54 am

Hi Chris, thank you for your reply. I’m reading your book and trying to implement no contact rule right now. And you are absolutely right about he is the instigator of the breakup. Does this mean there’s no chance to get him back and he made his decision already?
Chris Seiter

April 21, 2018 at 2:42 am

Oh no, Sarah. Just because he initiated the breakup doesn’t always mean things are doomed. People do all sorts of things everyday that are against their best interests. Emotions can get in our way. Our judgement can change over time. There are endless variables that control the knobs that tune our emotions, needs, wants.

Daniella Liranzo

April 12, 2018 at 5:52 am

Hi everyone, I was in a long distance relationship with my ex for a year and 3 months and he broke up with me about a month ago. He said he was confused and didn’t know what he wanted. He says at times he felt like he wanted to be with me and was super happy with me and he had other times that he would wake up and feel like he just wanted to be alone and I guess single ? It hurt him a lot to let me go because him and I never argued everything was going well and I was about to move to NY in a couple months so we could be together. He told me to not think about what I did wrong because he said I did nothing wrong if anything I did everything right and that is sounds cliche but it really was him. I asked him if feelings he had for me faded in that way and he told me no that he still loved me but he just wasn’t sure if he wanted to be in a committed relationship right now that their was other priorities on his mind. While asking him multiple questions one stood out the most to me and hurt so much but I feel like he only said this because he’s confused himself and he said that sometimes he just felt that I might have loved him a little bit more than he loved me and that blindsided me because he was an angel to be prior to him feeling these feelings he showed me through actions that he loved me and wanted to be with me and now all of a sudden he’s confused so that makes me confused. I don’t know what to do I tried to make it work during for like 3 days but once he told me I think it’s best if I just stay by myself right now I never initiated contact with him again. During the first 3 weeks of us being separated he reached out about 4 times and the last time I kinda of told him “ look I respect your decision but I need time to heal, I care about you but I need to take care of me to.” He’s 31 and has a different mentality so I know he would only respect the decision I had made. That same day he did apologize and just said he’s sorry for putting me through this and it wasn’t his intentions. Anyways ever since then he hasn’t initiated contact I’ve only heard of him through my sister and her boyfriend because I probably should have mentioned that my sisters boyfriend and him are best friends. And he would basically bring me up in conversation whenever around my sister or with his best friend I found out that he called him saying he wanted to be with me but he doesn’t know why he wakes up and feel like he wants to be alone and that he hates that he feels that way because he knows how good of a girl I am. Anyways I have not reached out but he has also not reached out to me and it concerns me because it makes me feel like I was worth nothing to be and he didn’t see the value in me when I KNOW what I brought to the table. I’m still in no contact but it’s their any hope? I’d love to hear some feed back I’ve really been struggling with this.

Chris Seiter

April 12, 2018 at 5:08 pm

Hi Daniella…it seems you are in the throes of a breakup situation and it certainly can turn and twist you inside out. Consider taking a look at my ebook, Ex Boyfriend Recovery Pro. It is designed to provide folks like yourself a comprehensive blueprint on what to do given lots of situations. You can learn more about it in Product Section of my website Menu.
Daniella Liranzo

April 13, 2018 at 1:32 am

I already purchased your texting bible I’m still reading that but I wanted a guess another persons expert perspective on what they believe is happening during this time of no contact or if he will even realize that he’s making a mistake. Idk what to do, thanks for the fast reply I really appreciate it.
Chris Seiter

April 13, 2018 at 3:41 am

Daniella…thanks for dropping by! Yes, the book is comprehensive and covers a lot of topics. There is a psychology at work behind the No Contact Period. Both for you and him. You want raise yourself up, set goals, improve your confidence and gain a greater perspective of what is truly important in your life. For the guy, it facilitates a process in which he will slowly begin to appreciate you and value you. Some of the fun and fulfilling things you did together come to his mind. Some men realize they erred. They can start to miss you. Others don’t and don’t learn. But those are the ones you don’t want anyway. Better to learn that earlier than later. As to what will happen in your case, it is so difficult to predict given all of the variables. The best you can do is to formulate your plan and move forward with it. But the most important part of ex recovery, is YOU…your recovery. Because it is you that will assuredly go forward with or without him.

Ineke

April 7, 2018 at 10:55 am

Hi, my ex and I were together for a year and a half. We are both in our first your of college and he is more the hard partyer kind of person. At firtst he broke up with me because he was having doubts about us, but still telling me it was possible to work it out, telling me he was cryig over the valentine letters I wrote him last year and saying over text he wanted to kiss me when I dropt his stuff of. After a week not talking to eachother he told me he just wasn’t ready for a relationship, he wanted freedom and not settle yet. It came as a big shock to me but I’m not ready to let him go. He is at the moment always partying and i fear he will just forget me and find someone new. Please help me. My score said 43 but it’s not clear to me whats that means.
Thank you

Chris Seiter

April 9, 2018 at 11:33 am

Hey there, so first off I want to apologize for being a bit late to get back to you.

It’s a bit hectic getting everything done by yourself!

Hopefully you understand.

I have a hard time buying that he will just forget you. If anything it looks like he is looking for ways to not deal with the pain of thinking of you.

Ivette

March 4, 2018 at 6:06 am

Hi so, here’s my story… We’ve been together for 15 months, today I saw he was talking to another woman for over a couple of week and he send her kisses, I confronted him about it and said he wasn’t sure about what he wanted to do with his life, including he didn’t knew if he still wanted to be with me. He asked me what I wanted and said “I want to be with you but I don’t want to be with someone that’s isn’t sure about being with me”. Anyways, when I left his house I hugged him and he hugged me back and i cried like I’ve never cried before I felt something I’ve never felt before, broken and disappointing. I felt like I was worth nothing to him, like all the love I gave him was in vain. This day I have him a gift, his favorite action figure to keep on his car chain, when I left it was on his key. Anyways… This happened exactly today I haven’t talked to him since, I’m devastated. But one thing I told him was, that I deserve more than that (meaning the text to that girl) and that I was worth so much more than what he did. My friends told me I acted really mature, but I’m destroyed. A plus to this story, we work in the same office.

Please help, I just feel so sad

EBR Team Member: Amor

March 8, 2018 at 11:53 am

Hi Ivette,

I think it’s a grass is greener case and check the link below too:
EBR 009: The No Contact Rule If You Work With Your Ex

6years

March 3, 2018 at 10:25 pm

Hello, I have been reading up on this website a lot lately! My ex and I were together for almost 6 years. We did two years home together two years long distance when I went to college and he was home working and now have been up at school(he came here to try to get in to the university and finally did it this last fall, his first semester of college and joined a fraternity, we are both 23…) and living together. When we came back this spring semester he started to act distant. He said he wanted to take a break. I freaked out cause this is the person who has loved me unconditionally for almost 6 years and we have both planned a life together. I’m not sure if he freaked out because all of his family was asking him when we were getting engaged over Christmas break and I know he wants to wait till after college and has a job. Probably two more years. Anyway, we took a break then a week passed he came back wanted to try to work things out, started acting weird again. I planned a date night the following g Friday and he came home from class saying he wanted to break up and is tired of the ups and downs of our relationship, really caused by a lack of honest communication. That’s really been the only fault in our relationship. Until this year when he joined a fraternity and I saw younger college girls acting desperate with him I acted jealous. Even though I know he would never do anything I compared myself to these girls. The day after he broke up with me he came back and said he hated the way things went and he wanted to just take a couple weeks to figure things out but not have a label on our relationship right now. I texted a couple of the girl friends in the fraternity asking for advice on how they handle their relationship with someone so busy in the fraternity. They told him I reached out and a couple days later he came back passed that I “disrespected his space” by reaching out to them and decided to officially break things off. It was aweful I cried and he cried and he was angry and said things he didn’t mean. We didn’t talk for two weeks until I told him we need to figure out what we are doing with the apartment. A day after he responded and we met up on that following Monday. When he came over I told him in order for me to make my decision with our apartment I needed him to look me in the eyes and say he didn’t love me anymore and that he didn’t see his future with me. He broke down to me and started crying saying how uneasy he has felt these last two weeks and how he has missed me. He was balling and wanting to hug and kiss me. I wiped his tears and I was calm and collected unlike previous times. He couldn’t stop saying he loved me. He then asked if he could have a week to find a solution on how we can make this work. He ended up staying the night and we had great conversations catching up on the last couple of weeks and we had sex twice that night. He told me he wanted to see me
Thursday for dinner before he left for a trip with his fraternity over the weekend. He also told me he wanted me to text him goodnight each night. Week went along I would text him tell him goodnight and I love him only he would respond but all of a sudden without I love you. Thursday came along and he forgot he signed up to volunteer at a school fundraiser. I told him I understood. We would see eachother Sunday to talk. I sent him a message saying I was confused why all of a sudden he couldn’t tell me he loved me and that if he changed his mind to let me know now and not wait till Sunday and if he changed his mind tell me if not we would talk Sunday. Never heard from him. Saturday at the bar his friend approached me asking how I was. Told him I have been better. He said that my ex is just confused right now but to give him his space and he will come back and that he has cried to him about us a couple of times. Sunday came along and he got back too late and had a meeting that didn’t end till 10 and I had to be up too early so we decided to meet Monday night after he got out of class. He came over and I made him dinner. He told me he can’t tell me he doesn’t love me and can’t tell me he doesn’t see a future with me but can’t think of an ideal situation for us right now and doesn’t want to break my heart any more or lead me on so to end things. I started balling. He held me and hugged me and brought me water and tissues for three hours. I told him I knew this wasn’t what his heart wanted and he started crying and saying he was sorry but he made up his mind. Even though he doesn’t want to lead me on I mentioned how I didn’t want to be alone on our anniversary(2 months away) and all he could say was that’s 2 months away let’s not worry about that far we don’t know what would happen. He also said that if we get back together it would be best not to live with eachother right away. All sending me mixed signals and leading me on in my opinion. He said he didn’t want to hold me back I told him he wasn’t that I’m capabale of making my own decisions and that I left to come to college without him 4 years ago why would I let him hold me back now. He understood. When he left he asked me if I wanted one more hug I said yes and he hugged me and gave me a kiss on the forehead. I asked him not to text any of my friends but he texted my best friend to check on me. He said he would check on me but hasn’t yet. He has a lot of responsibilities with fraternity now and is a terrible student but taking hard science classes and I know he wants to pass and focus on that and I know it’s stressing him out. His mom has cancer and that’s another stressor. He has a lot going on and I think he is overwhelmed and doesn’t know how to focus and fix our relationship with everything going on. What do you think about what’s going on? Do you think he will come back if I keep no contact? His stuff is still at our place and he still pays rent while he has been sleeping on the couch at his fraternity. I love him and I know he loves me but I don’t know what to think. He also said he has no interest in being or Pershing anything with anyone else right now but he wants me to learn to be happy without him.

EBR Team Member: Amor

March 7, 2018 at 1:56 pm

He’s right that you should be happy without him.. The nc rule is more for you, not for a guy to comeback.. Do nc so you can think and be more rational and to improve yourself and to heal..

Ellie Wrake

February 22, 2018 at 1:09 am

I started talking to this guy— [he asked me for my number, and pursued me]and were going perfectly fine. About three weeks in he told me that he had something to tell me but he was REALLY nervous that I’d be sad and upset and cut things off w us. NEWS: a girl from the past states that she’s pregnant and the baby is his. He says he doesn’t believe it’s his but he doesn’t want to tell her that in case it is, and that he doesn’t want to be w her if it is true, but he does want to be a part of the baby’s life! So I told him I wouldn’t break things off bc of that. He expressed that he didn’t know how to think or feel about the situation. And I told him if he needs space I’d understand, but that I’d also be there for him and try to help him figure it out if he wanted.
Time goes on and maybe a week later I text him to tell him I was feeling like something was off w us, and I asked for reassurance. He told me that he understands and that he admits he hadn’t made building a relationship w me a priority bc he was focused on his goals and that news made him realize he isn’t ready to take care of a wife or child. He assured me that him pulling away wasn’t about me, and that he does like me. I asked if he sees something w us in the future or if this is temporary, and I got no direct answer. So I told him that I want to be respectful and that he can go along, and if he decides to intentionally pursue me in the future, then we would see what happens. So we text a bit more in the days following and he asked me if I don’t want to hangout w him anymore and I said I do and I asked him and he said the same, but that he doubts we could hang as just friends. So I’m the weeks to come I would ask to hangout and it never worked out, so I asked him if I was wasting my time by asking bc if he knows the answer would always be no, then I’d stop— and he assured me that I’m not wasting my time. So I haven’t hangout with him in nearly a month now, and of course I miss him. When I told him that I felt like I was getting the short end of the stick, he assured me that “it’s nothing personal so don’t worry” and that “I know you might think that I’m being like this bc I don’t like you or bc I’m mad at you, but that really not it. Just please believe me”. But what am I supposed to do with statements like that?! So out of irrational emotions I text him something that made him upset and he told me he was blocking my number and I told him he didn’t have to bc I wouldn’t text him anymore, and I deleted his number. BUT he still watches my Snapchat story, and I’ve talked to him once or twice in Snapchat and he responded. So this past Monday I text him (at least I think it was his number), and the message was delivered, but I NEVER got a respond, but he definitely watched my snap story again today! What should I do?! Also, should I stop watching his Snapchat story— you know people can tell if you watched theirs it not..?!
A little background info- he was in a 3year relationship with a girl who was physically abusive to him, and then the girl that claims she is pregnant with his baby— he said she has low self esteems and she was a liar, and that she hasn’t shown him a doctors note, or photo or anything at all in regards to her pregnancy.
PS- all of this has happened within a month and a half.

EBR Team Member: Amor

February 26, 2018 at 11:36 am

Hi Ellie,

They’ve been together for 3 years, but you and him have been seeing each other for month right? When did they broke up? And if you’re doing the nc rule, that means you can’t watch his snaps.

Lu

February 21, 2018 at 11:52 pm

My ex boyfriend broke up with me 4 weeks ago and said he can’t do it anymore the stress is too much, first he said he wanted a break then cos I pesterd he ended it. He says I argue with him too much, says he’s happy on his own now. But I begged for 3 weeks and he rejected me every time. He’s usually a really sensitive guy and cries all the time. He got really angry at one point said he doesn’t love or care for me and there’s no relationship left but he did cry whilst he told me even tho I wasn’t crying. I still sent a few messages after saying I was sad and he said if I have to stop contacting now. We left it as a nice message I said sorry for pestering I was in a low place. He said he understands and it won’t be easy for either of us and he wishes me luck but I won’t need it as I’m a credit. And since that text I havnt said anything else I’m now doing no contact! Throughout our relationship nothing was wrong it was only 10 months we loved eachother we couldnt leave eachother alone , always laughing and joking .. I was just immature with the way I handled arguments. And cause he’s sensitive he couldn’t deal with it. Do u think he will ever regret his decision?

EBR Team Member: Amor

February 26, 2018 at 11:25 am

Hi Lu,

Yes, I think there’s still a chance.. Have you tried our quiz?

Anne

February 14, 2018 at 12:09 am

what if u just block him?

EBR Team Member: Amor

February 18, 2018 at 1:39 pm

Hi Anne,

You can unblock him, just dont add him back yet if you’re doing nc

samantha

February 11, 2018 at 10:38 am

firs of all sorry for my english…
after break up he called me every time when he was drunk and he said he loved me but we could not be togwther ….I complished my no contact and after 2 month I dont say happy bithday and he called me on his bithday night to hear from me best wishes, after no contact i reach out and he was glad he said wanted to try again and started from new we were together 1.5 month everything was ok but ones i guess that he met one girl after that i ask him why didn’t say that he met someone … he said if he met someone else it means he doesn”t love me any more… he said that he wanted to be with me but he doeasn loves me anymore… i love him and i dont know what to do… we had plans about valentins day and had plans about next weekend to have romantic weekend , im realy shoked 🙁 i think his family doesnt like me and it is a big reason why we are not togethar….what can i do i love him very much 🙁

EBR Team Member: Amor

February 15, 2018 at 1:08 pm

HI Samantha,

YOu mean you were back together for more than a month and then he left you for another girl?

Sarah Holloway

February 9, 2018 at 6:39 pm

Thanks Amor, the thing is I haven’t seen him in three weeks and it seems he just now doesn’t want to talk to me. I don’t even know if he’s left me or just needs space as he won’t tell me. I told him when he called that he needs to tell me where I stand, and that he has my front door key but he avoided the subject. One minute he’s texting and the next he’s ignoring me. I just don’t know what to do 🙁

EBR Team Member: Amor

February 15, 2018 at 12:25 pm

that means he’s starting to ghost you because the relationship is going to fast for him.. Follow the advice on this one:
How To Prevent A Breakup With Your Boyfriend When You Know It’s Coming

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