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Lisa
May 8, 2020 at 5:57 am
Hey again. I did NC a bit more than 30 days, reached out with negative result, then repeated, also with him (not angry, just disciplined) saying we would never hang out ever again. In new NC now, not watching his SoMe activity but on instagram it popsup that he has added something to his story, thats how i know. But since its getting close to 3 months since the breakup i dont think he is posting to distract himself anymore, it has been such a long time im sure he doesnt hurt for that long? I think like you say its a habit now, which obiously meens he is over me and doing fine? And cant he be over me, completely done with me, and still keep his reactance up and never want contact?
EBR Team Member: Shaunna
May 13, 2020 at 9:09 am
Hey Lisa, it really depends on why you broke up and and how bad the actual break up. I would suggest that you spend more time just showing him you are living life and not sat waiting for him. Also your messages – if you were asking to hang out and see him then you are not following the process. We advise you to reach out with something you know he would be interested in talking about and from there develop a short conversation. That you end first. Then you work up the value ladder from there in quality of conversation. I suggest you read a few more articles on this website to help you fully understand the process here
zeban
May 4, 2020 at 6:48 am
my ex is posting sad Quotes about our break up and i don’t know what to say,im afraid that she is will be depressed.
EBR Team Member: Shaunna
May 6, 2020 at 8:42 pm
Hi Zeban it is a normal reaction that people post emotional things to their social media accounts when they are sad, its a way to relieve that grief they are feeling
Lisa
April 30, 2020 at 9:01 am
My ex never used to post on social media only once now and then. Right after we broke up he has been posting pretty much every day sometimes even more than once a day. Him and i have not spoken since we broke up around 2 months ago. At first i thought his posting was a reaction to breaking up with me because i know he still loved me but because our relationship was a bit turbulent, after another fight he felt he had to work on himself and had to cut me out of his life to do so. I hear it takes 66 days to form a habit and he has been keeping this posting up for longer than that. So now i am left here wondering if this behavior actually just means that he has healed, is over me and is just living his good life, like it looks like on some. I mean 2 months has passed, which is quite a long time (yes ive tried nc and reaching out but with no luck, he doesnt want anything to do with me). I mean his pain and need to show the world that he is okay cant last for that long?
EBR Team Member: Shaunna
May 2, 2020 at 2:44 pm
Hi Lisa, so where he changes his social media approach after the break up it, the change can last as they find it way to distract themselves then it becomes a habit that they spend more time online. No Contact, needs to be 30 days, where you do not watch their social media activity, reach out or reply to them. While you also work on your Holy Trinity and then you reach out with a text that Chris suggests in his articles and videos
Karen
April 4, 2020 at 4:21 pm
Hi. When my ex and I were together he would only post the occasional story or post on instagram, however after we broke up he started posting like crazy, some weeks several times a day and some weeks a few days would go before he posted. Nevertheless he posted often, and i saw it as a total change of behavior. I took into consideration all kinds of explanations for this, thinking maybe he needed the attention. Now however he has not posted in over a week, which is the first time since we broke up he has posted that little. I am scared it means he is all healed now, over me, doesnt feel the need for attention anymore, and that my chances of getting back together with him are gone, as he is over me. What does it mean? Is there any hope? And if he does feel better and is over me, does that mean i can never get him back?
For the contexts sake: he broke up with me, even though he said he still had feelings, but amongst other things he couldnt deal with the fact that i wasnt as invested as him. Its been two months and we have barely spoken since, as he has said we wont ever get back together and i have to stop trying to keep him as a part of my life. I tried NC but when i reached out two weeks ago he still said the same.
EBR Team Member: Shaunna
April 9, 2020 at 10:52 pm
Hi Karen, a change in social media activity is normal when someone is going through a break up it is their way of coping with their own emotions right now. If you want your ex back however, you need to start with NC where you are not watching their social media activity. Focus on yourself, your Holy Trinity and then plan your texting phase before the end of your NC
Carla
March 31, 2020 at 10:03 am
Hi, my ex posted my story posts aimed at me all last week. Now he just posted an ig story about our break up. Its been less than one month since he abandoned me and im having bad thoughts. He is very stubborn and left me without sayibg a word. I dont know what to think or do apart from living thrpugh this situation and maybe hoping that he will get back to me and our little baby.
EBR Team Member: Shaunna
April 6, 2020 at 10:41 pm
Hi Carla, it seems as if your ex is emotional and angry so for now I would continue with your NC as much as you can while being civil about your child
Kali
March 28, 2020 at 9:44 am
Hey, me and my ex broke up nearly 2 months ago and haven’t spoken for nearly 1. He ended things with me because he was very confused and needed time to work on himself.
He’s always being barely active on social media but this past week he has being posting constantly… including a prank I posted couples of days ago, and that today he also posted.
Why this sudden change of behaviour from him ?
EBR Team Member: Shaunna
March 28, 2020 at 3:30 pm
Hi Kali that can be a number of reasons. If they were usually quiet on social media and suddenly watching everythign you do they may be missing you or they may be trying to be on friendly terms with you
sana
March 6, 2020 at 3:43 pm
Hi Chris and Team,
So my ex broke up with me because his life is too “confusing” at the moment but he hasn’t deleted me on instagram snap or whatsapp. He has done this before and we got back together. He is constantly watching my insta story an snapchat story. There’s no activity from himself. But recently he posted something on snapchat he NEVER posts a story on snap. I don’t know if the no contact will work this time. He even insisted we should just be friends after a 1 yr and a half. I lied and told him my phone hasn’t been working so I’ve not seen any of his msgs I asked him if he msg me he said no..But then a week later I blew up and said to him that I had seen his break up msg and I was hurt. All he said was that it wasn’t his fault that I FELL for him. Everybody seems to be telling me to delete him off everything and my friends think he will defiantly come back once his head is cleared up but its not fair on myself. Would appreciate your advice
EBR Team Member: Shaunna
March 18, 2020 at 3:22 am
Hey Sana I would not delete him off things but you do need to go into a no contact for 30 days spending that time working on yourself and not watching what your ex is doing online
Jazz
February 1, 2020 at 9:51 am
Hey Chris, Im in a currently very confusing place with my Ex. We broke up nearly 2 months ago after a 3 year relationship. Suddenly he was posting everywhere: snapchat, Instagram and Facebook. Even today i had to see a bunch of snapchats of other girls.
At the moment we have been talking heaps, we called for over an hour the other day and it was really great. But then he suddenly goes back to rubbing it in my face how fine he is. Very annoying i dont know what to do, i really want him back but he is making it really hard for me
EBR Team Member: Shaunna
February 7, 2020 at 8:51 pm
Hey Jazz, so if he is hot and cold like this I would say that he is missing you and the other girls is his way of dealing with the emotions he is feeling. Have you done anything to work towards being Ungettable? Have you followed this process at all?