Will He Come Back If You Stop Chasing Him? Yes, Here's Why

320 thoughts on “Will He Come Back If I Stop Chasing Him?”

Steph

January 30, 2019 at 6:51 pm

So I have been best friends with this guy for about 6 months. At around month 2 of our friendship, I started to like him as more than friends. I ended up telling him and the great thing was that he said it back! But, he said he was in no place to be in a relationship and didn’t want to start one with me because “it wouldn’t be fair to “. So, I accepted that the only thing that we were going to be was friends, and he ended up being “my person” .
So we continued to stay in contact. We would text him for hours a day and constantly snapchat him when I was free. I would stop by his room (in the dorm) on my way back to my room or he would stop by my room almost everyday. I started getting confused because he started to treat us like we were in a relationship. I think I was chasing because I continued to respond to his text and snapchats all the time thinking that one day he would change his mind about not wanting a relationship. When he needed to talk I would immediately come to talk to him. We used each other for emotional support as if we were in a relationship and flirted as if we were in one.
So I decided that I needed to take some space and stop talking to him, stop chasing him. He treated me as if we were in a relationship without the label and I didn’t want that kind of friendship anymore. If I stop chasing, stop responding, will it make a difference in our friendship? What will go through his mind? Will he finally ask for a relationship or just let me go?
Anon

January 15, 2019 at 4:21 am

We weren’t actually in a relationship but he had been staying at my house every night for three weeks straight. I would cook him dinner every night, I let his dog live at my house, he took me and my kids fishing plus got them fishing rods each, did cute little gestures. I was really falling for this guy and then he said he need to go to his mothers (an hour down the road) we left on good terms and then he started avoiding my messages then he finally answered me and said that my insecurities were to much for him and that we were two different people (which is a lie cause we had so much in common and we had fun the whole time and got on so well, I was happy and I could tell he was happy) and then after that he wouldn’t answer any of my texts and calls and of course I kept calling and texting cause he was ignoring me so I thought if I kept doing it he will eventually answer me but obviously that didn’t work plus he has some of my stuff so I wanted to know when i was getting it back he reckons he will give it back but won’t tell me when and now it makes me look like a crazy psycho (as his sister answered his phone at one point and called me that haha cause I kept contacting him over and over again) now his family hates me and well I ran into him at gym and asked if we could talk and then I found out his dog had been bitten by a snake while he was out at his mums and that he just wanted space and didn’t care for anyone or anything and told me not to do this here and well I told him over and over again that I cared for him and not to shut me out and why invest so much into me just to shut me out like this..so I think I may have screwed things up big time with him and really wish I could take it all back and now I’m so upset and angry with myself and disappointed that I screwed up something that was so good.. I just don’t know what to do now :’(

Chris Seiter

January 17, 2019 at 1:43 am

Hi Anon!

Lots going on here. Have you though about NC? Sometimes giving each other some space and time and quiet down all of the emotions and clarify what one should do going forward.

Ashleigh

January 4, 2019 at 3:49 am

My ex broke up with me after a year relationship. He said that he didn’t want to be with anymore. I begged and begged for him to come back and he told me to leave him alone and we were never getting back together. Fast forward to a week ago, he said he was so in love with me and of course wanted me back but we can’t be together. Two days later he follows a girl who caused a couple problems for us while we were together. I texted him today about our dog and if I could see him well we started talking and I asked him if about us and he said he doesn’t see himself getting back with me. I asked would he try to see this through and give us a chance and he said not any time soon. Please help I do not want to lose him :(.
Lynn

November 3, 2018 at 5:04 pm

Hi Chris,

I have been with my ex for 4.5 years. Every few months if we get into an argument my ex breaks up with me and gives me the silent treatment and even blocks my phone number. I’m always the one apologizing, emailing and going to his house to get back together. Our arguments are over petty things that end in name calling and hurtful things being said. Instead of talking about the argument he always runs and when we do get back together he always puts the blame on me even though we both try to win the argument equally saying nasty things. He broke up with me 2.5 weeks ago after leaving my house and texted me that he will never bother me again and that he never wants to see my face again. I never responded and went into NC immediately. After 10 days NC I did sent him a link to a newspaper article that I knew he would be interested in but did not say anything. He has not reached out to me at all. He’s extremely stubborn and never reaches out to me after an argument. Also he does not use any social media. What’s going on in his mind? I fear he will never reach out and he’s waiting on me to apologize like always but I’m done with the games. What’s the next step?

Chris Seiter

November 4, 2018 at 1:01 am

Hi Lynn!

4.5 years is meaningful and can help as an invisible force. It still might be early so stay with NC. Guys can be stubborn. But be sure to follow the NC in the way I teach it in my program. In fact, I wrote a specific eBook (247 pages long) just for that principle…called the “No Contact Rule Book”.

Jennifer Fisher

September 30, 2018 at 9:32 pm

Hi,

I’ve been dating a guy for just over two months, so still in the “honeymoon” phase. We became intimate from very early on, and spent the entire summer together. It was great. He is the shy, introverted type, but he opened up to me. He told me he hadn’t dated anyone for a year, since his ex broke up with him – I have my suspicions she cheated on him. Recently, for the last month, he started getting moodier toward me, and we had a couple of “arguments” – mainly him getting frustrated with me over something minuscule and storming out of my house. I also noticed a shift in the way he communicated with me, he adopted a rude manner and I started to feel undermined. When I went away for work, and this was when I noticed he wasn’t bothered about communicating with me – and he expressed I’m “needy” and expressed he’s got anxiety and depression. After this ordeal, he apologized and told me how excited he is to see me and he misses me. Upon returning, he had various “anxiety” attacks (so he says) and stayed over less, spending more time at his, failing to keep in touch and becoming quite aggressive when I questioned this shift of behavior. I didn’t hear from him so I went round to his house to see if he’s ok and he wouldn’t open the door. He later told me “he doesn’t need help” in a very hostile tone. With no effort to be nice to me, I was so upset and distraught I called on a break – I had to initiate over text because he wouldn’t pick up the phone. He sent a reply two days later, confirming my request to speak next week. Please tell me that I’m wasting my time? It’s sad because we were so close had did so many fun things in the summer.

Chris Seiter

October 1, 2018 at 3:25 am

Hi Jennifer!

He sure his acting immaturely. Unclear to me what is going on in his mind. Perhaps he just needs some time alone to put things in proper perspective or get whatever help is needed to manage his emotions.

Victoria

September 24, 2018 at 8:47 pm

Hi Chris,

I am not feeling this I have to say. I have been reading your articles since the break up. The break up happened 9 weeks ago now. Sadly I did not take any of your advice and I made all the mistakes you can make. The pleading and begging and the chasing in many various ways. I went through a few made stages. He wanted to chat to me as friends. When I questioned why he wanted to keep me in his life. I mean, he was sending the most random text messages and what’s app just out the blue, 2-3 a day! I was ever confused. So I asked why he wants to chat to me every day as he dumped me 6 weeks prior. He said just for gossip and chat. I was devastated again and I told him so. Ignored him for a week or so and we ended up saying some horrible things to each other and he asked me to delete his number. On the 15th of this month it came to a head with me. I sent him an apology email, regarding the way I have taken the break up and my crazy emotional behaviour since. I did not expect anything back from him and had it in my head it’s time to move forward. That day about 4 hours later he texted me, saying “got your email, thank you. No reply just now as I am at a tournament and then we have end is session celebration. I’m so tired.” I replied saying “sounds like you’ve had a great day. Have a fun night.” And I’ve not heard since. I’ve been in no contact since that day. I miss him so much but have given up hope the he will even notice I have stopped texting him. I don’t even think he will care that I am not contacting him at all. So after 8 weeks of chasing him, so long after the break up is there any chance with no contact? He doesn’t have me on his social media either so I think it will be hard to use those skills you suggest for sending little UG moved on vibes. We were together a short time. Only 10 months. He ran when I asked for more commitment and hid some things from me. Then dumped me when I got upset about it. He was very mean at the onset of the break up and I went into an emotional mess trying to get answers. We never argued or fell out throughout the break up. It was sudden, I thought we were on same page and moving forward. So can the no contact rule work on this situation?

Chris Seiter

September 25, 2018 at 2:53 am

Hi Victoria!

We all make mistakes Victoria and as long as you are taking lessons from the past….then you are making the past work for you. Guys will run sometimes when they feel confined and a sense of looming commitment can scare them. Looks like NC would be good for you. Pick up on of my eBooks and move forward with your ex recovery plan!

CPL

August 13, 2018 at 2:12 am

So my situation is a bit different in that this guy isn’t my ex boyfriend. Three years ago I went in to get a new phone and he happened to work there. I walked in and thought he was cute and eventually he wanted my number, added me on Facebook and knew I was leaving for Miami the next day and was texting me almost everyday. Somewhere we lost touch and we had each other on Snapchat and would sometimes reply to each other’s stories if they were funny, etc. during the time we lost touch he was in a relationship and so was I. Weirdly, we seemed to have our relationships end around the same time. Now fast forward to about 3 weeks ago or so and we happened to bump into each other at jury duty. He was with his mom and I was wI h my dad but he texted me asking what I was doing there and we started talking and his mom was there. He was dressed nicely and so I told him “aww u look so nice!” And after being there for hours, he texted me and we figured out we both have to go back August 18th. When I said that he was like “lunch date?!” And the convo didn’t end. In fact he seemed to keep it going over days. My dads in real estate and he’s 25 getting into the same thing. He knows my dads successful, down to earth and funny esp because of some of my snapchats in the past. At work, he would text me multiple times like up to 18 messages once and I responded on my own time. Another time he texted me 10:14am and I was sleeping and got another text at 10:40 saying “someone’s still sleeping I miss those days.” I guess he though I was ignoring him. I went over his house and I said I have to watch the bachelorette lol and he was down to watch it. The most I did with him was make out with him. No sex nothing more. I thought he’d never text me after. He told me at the beginning I was hard to get. I assumed it was partly manipulative to see how far I’d go but I stood my ground and still he wanted to see me and at a reasonable hour. After I left (I tried to end the night first), he gave me a kiss goodbye walked me out told me to get home safe. The next day around 2:00 he texted me “whatcha doing?” He saw a snap video of my dad that wasn’t individually sent to him and chatted me saying I LOVE ur dad I’d do that too lol. He makes comments about my dad a lot and that I’d like his mom because I met her and said she was funny. He snaps me AND texts me and replies relatively quick. However, he snap chatted me a video and since the snapchF disappears often I decided to text him instead and said lmfao ur a psycho bc he’s always telling me he “drives like an asshole” (he loves cars). And he responded with “because I didn’t answer? Lol right I said no I was responding to ur video omg jeeZ and he was like I didn’t know! I’m sorry busy day at work I’m getting pissed. And I tried to not just let it go bc I don’t want ppl to walk all over me and so I said this ha happened twice, I don’t think I deserve that so please don’t let it happen again and he says lmao u gotta chill and I said don’t tell me to chill and when I responded he goes “lmao bye” and started ignoring me. Oh and the day at court he put me on his snap story and told me so many ppl contacted him that they knew me or that I was hot. He storied ln Snapchat so many times that night and that doesn’t happen so often. Also when we hung out we discovered we knew a mutual guy and he started asking me “did you like hookup with Chris?” Like he was bothered. He also randomly asked me if my best friend knew I was with him idk why or if that’s because girls usually tell their best friends about guys and he’d feel important? So anyway ik he was purposely ignoring me so o didn’t blow up his phone even tho he claimed I did yet he’s the one who sent so many texts to me all the time and tagged me in a meme etc. he started calling me psycho and got all angry and when I said let’s just drop it bc it so wasn’t a big deal he couldn’t do it. He didn’t delete me on Snapchat but I noticed when I put up a story he viewed the first two and I didn’t view any of his story and after that he stopped looking at mine. I don’t know if I’m reading into it but he was always viewing my story and replying to it days before. I don’t know if he was doing that to get my attention. I like him a lot and fee like I ruined things and he thinks I’m dramatic. I haven’t contacted him but I will see him on the 18th I think and while I hope that reconcilies things I don’t always know what to do to help myself in the situation. A part of me feels he feels I’m not that into him idk why but I’m so confused. Any help would be great!
Sav

August 12, 2018 at 11:54 am

I met my boyfriend on match.com almost 2 years ago. I moved in with him after 9 months of being together. We have 1 year living together now.

When i moved in with him I noticed he wasnt being as intimate with me as much as i wanted. I went through his phone and saw a lot of porn. I confronted him about it and he was being very defensive about the porn. He now deletes his browsing history and carries his phone everywhere.

We argue once a month over this and i always beg him and ask him to stop with the pornography since this is affecting our sex life.

I even try to ask him for us to watch porn together he says no. We tried to go to a couples therapist and he stopped going when the therapist asked him how often he watches porn (during an individual session of course).

He is blaming his lack of sexual desire or erectile dysfunctiom on the relationship. Telling me that he doesnt love me right now. He told me he loves me but is not in love “right now”. I begged him to not break up witj me. Its been over a month now and he wouldnt want to be intimate witj me anymore he doesnt even want to make out with me.

A couple of weeks ago he told me that this relationship will work out if i move out of his apartment and we only see each other on the weekends to bring a spark back into our relationship. I told him that if i move out its over for good but changed my mind later and told him I want to work it out.

At this point its been a month now and he still holds on to resentment and tells me that this is all my fault and he lost respect for me because i reached out to his mother and friends.

However, he still texts me throughout the day to ask how my day is, cooks me dinner and still being there for me, but when it comes to sex or intimacy or being open with me, hes not there. He told me he is not going to open up. I dont know what to do anynore. I feel like he is punishing me.

Yesterday i did move out of his apartment but Im not sure now if i should still do NC even though we are still “together”??? Or is this his way of breaking up with me??? Idk what to do at this point.

Please help.
Sav

August 12, 2018 at 11:47 am

Hello
Sav

August 12, 2018 at 11:45 am

Hello. Met my ex? Online 2 years ago, I moved into his apartment a year after dating. We have been having issues and arguing once a month due to his lack of initmacy and addiction to porn. He asked me to move out of his apartment in July. I kept begging and pleading and calling his friends and family to have him change his mind. At one point he kept saying that he wasnt happy with the constant arguments and needed a break. He said that we can still be together and see each other on the weekends to bring excitement back in the relationship. He kept telling me that he hasnt seen a change in me because every week I have been talling about the situation and wanting to work it out. He was not being intimate with me anymore and he would not make out with me either. However, he would text me while i was at work asking about my day amd making dinner for me every night. Which led me to more confusion and more wanting clarification of what all of this means. He kept telling me he wants me to move out. I finally (after a month) moved out and im currently living with a friend. Even though he says we are not broken up, do I still apply NC? I feel like I lost the opportunity for him to change his mind about me because i kept pushing and pressuring him and chasing him. I did so much damage and im not even sure if we are really still together at this point?

Please help
Nicky

August 10, 2018 at 1:46 am

Hi Chris,
My boyfriend and I have been dating for four years and a couple of months. We have been in a distance relationship due to college. He would come home every six months and we would be together the whole summer. The first year was rough for he was adapting and feeling home sick so we broke up for a couple of months, but then got back together. This year I went to USA to be with him for two weeks since he was graduating. I left and then he case back to our country a couple of days later. We had been hanging out and everything as a normal couple until we got into a huge fight one day. I was just very stressed because he had stop being sweet with his words and had suddenly stopped flirting with me. After that fight everything went down. Since I started the fight I was mature and went to his house to apologize and he said that I had to work on myself so that things could workout. I had notice that he had been talking to a girl, but since we have records of jealousy and tried to put that aside, besides I met the girl when I went to his university. Anyway days later he went to another city to a concert that we had planned to go to together. He went on his own and I thought it was okay because I was trying to give him space. The day after the concert he was acting strange and told me that sometimes he did not felt like talking to me. So I called him and found out that he had feelings for the girl he had been texting. We didn’t speak that whole day or the day after that became back. Three days later we decided to talk and he broke it of because he said that he could not be thinking on two women at the same time. I was crushed.I was expecting him to apologize and say that he wanted to be with me but that did not happen.We both cried for we had talked previously about marriage and leaving together. We kissed and it was all a little messed up. He told me to stop looking for him because that is the only way he comes back to me. Given the brake up of the first year. He left and we kept talking. We never really stopped , hanging out kissing and various times we were intimate. Days later I found out that the girl he was pursuing did not really wanted to have a relationship with him. I read some text messages between him and his best friend were he told her that he was going to keep trying to a certain point with this other girl. He also had talked to her about how he had plans with her, plans that he originally had with me. This really broke my heart. He still kept hanging or but most
of the time I asked him to since he was teaching me how to drive. Every time we kissed and we were trying to figure things out. He said that we are trying to work things out, but he’s still talking to that other girl. I confront him every time and he tells me that it is not what I think. That he does not talk to her like that. One time he confess to me that he still liked her so it bothers me that he talks to her obviously. Even though we are trying to work things out I feel like this damage or relationship. He tells me that he loves me, but barely calls me love or any of the sweet words he used to call me. I feel as if he’s not really there. I have tried to be sweet with him, but I do not get his same reactions as before this whole cheating happened. I know this website is to recover your ex, but I really want to recover my boyfriend. I might sometimes be needy because I feel him distant and I do not know if that is affecting him. I want him to chase me again, flirt with me and be cute with me. How do I recover that? Do you think he might be thinking of this other person? Please let me know your thoughts.
Mel

August 9, 2018 at 7:47 pm

Hi, so this guy is not on social media and we do not have the same circle of friends. He is from 3 hours away and was a contractor at my work,He has left now
and gone to a new job. He said from the beginning he did not want a relationship, just fun as he was so hurt in his last one with the mother of his children, who was an alcoholic and he is sensitive. Over the two months we really connected physically and emotionally and he said he got feelings and went from being cold to really nice. He said he would stay in touch as it was the best time he had in years but on the last night before he left he said there would be no contact. I text him twice and after the second time he replied he missed me and thought of me but the longer we text the more it hurts and that it was really hurting, but he had been honest it was not going to be a relationship. We did have great sex but he really opened up to me. He just was not ready, I know to be involved he said he just wanted to concentrate on his children who he had all weekend as he worked away all week, all the time in different parts of the country. He was emotionally unavailable but did open up and have feelings and was quite vulnerable underneath. I text twice more saying ignore me and just talked about general stuff, on the second text I sent a good picture and just said I am giving up now and just wanted him to remember me – he ignored me. it has now been 4 days and i will give up. In a complicated situation like this distance, the ex, will no contact work. we got on so well and i was very lovely to him but he did say i was clingy ( as I liked him) but it was him asking to meet every night in his last two weeks which i could not do. I defn adored him and he said he loved that and waking up every morning to my late night texts he said he loved getting at the time and when he was here not to stop sending them. He is only on whats app not snap chat, instagram or FB. Can no contact work in this situation or do i give up and realise he wont come back it been three weeks and he has replied but then ignored the last two but I always said ignore me and the last one was I am giving up with the picture three days ago. I know its all silly and desperate and I am not hoping we will have a relationship I would have just liked to know he was happy and said that, although he prob did not believe me, and let it all end naturally and fizzle out rather than being so cold – he did apologize for being so cold on his last text. Thank you
Mar

July 28, 2018 at 5:19 pm

My and my boyfriend were together almost two years. Recently i found out he cheated almost a year ago with his ex. He had also been messaging alot of girls. One thing is when i first gor with him i wasnt really inlove so i would message guys. I will admite in our relationship we lacked communication. When i first got with him i wasnt into him, but i stayed. I treated him like crap. At first he was jelous and controlling, and then i took over. I deleted girls off his instagram, and when he follows girls i get mad. When he goes with his friends i dont trust him. We took road trips together. It took him to say he needs space for me to realise i love him. Now i want him back now that he needs space and is so tired if me and didrespects me. Im hurting what should i do? Do you think hell come back if he says he loves me, is close to my family and needs to work on himself?

Chris Seiter

July 29, 2018 at 1:45 am

Hi Mar!

Sometimes having space is good for you both. You focus should be on “you” and your healing. Certainly having a plan that can help you with that and also help you with getting him back is part of the the same thing. Find your emotional balance first, then make use of an ex recovery plan which you can go to my home page and learn all about how to accomplish that with some of the resources I offer!

Ellen

May 1, 2018 at 8:49 pm

6 years together,, 5 living together, was mutual breakup and turn nasty, talked for 2 months normally, loving and angry. Wanted 1 more week to think about it as he didn’t want to get back together, then wanted another week. I was begging, crying and tried no NC on/off. Ask for my post today and he said to leave him alone. Have deleted his number and blocked him on everything. Even his own family. Do you think he notice ??

Chris Seiter

May 1, 2018 at 9:40 pm

Hi Ellen…thanks for dropping by! 6 years is alot of history, so I sense that there are more Chapters to be written. But do yourself a favor and take a look at my ebook, Ex Boyfriend Recovery Pro (at my website Menu/Products link) as it has considerable information that should help you through this process. There is just so much for you to learn about. But i want you to remember, it is important you spend some time focusing on your needs and goals and seeking to be the best version of yourself. Much of this can be accomplished in a pure NC period. But read up on it and my ebooks will get you there faster.

Lucy

April 25, 2018 at 10:42 am

Was only with my ex boyfriend for 6 weeks but the emotionally dependent foundation was built straight away to the point he still rings me if he has trauma and he pursued me relentlessly .. but about 3 week ago he started pulling away at first I didn’t say anything but would constantly ring and text to check in eventually I asked what was going on and he said he didn’t know what he wanted and needed space .. I initially was hurt and lashed out we argued and he told me he had never cared about me and never felt a spark so I didn’t speak to him at all and did my own thing about 5 days later he messaged me saying he hadn’t meant what he said and he was just bad at pushing people away when he was feeling pressure so I apologised and asked him what he wanted to do from there he said he needed some time to himself to sort his stuff out then he would try again with me but then asked me to stop over thinking about him all the time and said he would ring me when he’s ready to start again … since then I’ve been still ringing and texting him I get the urge every 3-5 days do you think I should go into no contact now to let him initiate more chasing ?

Chris Seiter

April 26, 2018 at 12:11 am

Hi Lucy…he said mean things because he was angry, but that is no excuse. I think NC would be of benefit in order to create more balance in the relationship as he seems to want to control everything.

pat

April 16, 2018 at 12:44 am

Hi, my boyfriend of over a year just broke up with me to chase another girl. Is it possible to get him back? Should I use NC following the break up given that he will be chasing someone else?
(not sure if relevant but he says he misses me and its possible to get back together but he wants to break up and chase her for now)

thank you so much for your help, it just happened yesterday but i’ve found some comfort in your words.

Chris Seiter

April 18, 2018 at 3:40 am

Hey there Pat! I think employing No Contact Principle would be helpful. You should take the time to heal from this rash like decision for him to go chasing after some girl. Its unclear how this will all shake out, but right now, you should be focused on your needs and goals and becoming the best version of You. Meanwhile, let the No Contact Process do its thing. Take a look, if you haven’t already at any of my ebooks that can give you much greater detail on what to do and how during this whole breakup process (click Menu/Products link). You may discover you don’t want him after how he has behaved.
pat

April 18, 2018 at 9:59 am

thank you very much for your reply! your posts have been really helpful 🙂
Chris Seiter

April 18, 2018 at 11:05 pm

Hello again Pat…thank you and keep me informed as to how things develop for you. And if you need a Companion Guide to help you through this whole process, you know where to go on my site.

noel

April 11, 2018 at 11:22 pm

Hi Chris, so my ex and I had an extremely tumultuous break-up. Background info: it was a fairytale start and we were madly in love and lived together for two years. I left a life in S.F. to be with him in London then we both moved to NYC. The last time I saw him he was supposed to be in London and I just so happened to run into him and we was with another woman at a bar. He wouldn’t even look at me and sent my nasty f-u texts and gave me 5 days to get out of the apt. This was Feb. 5th. We were done though in December and I was in denial and begged, pleaded did everything I could to save our relationship. His mind was made up. Leading up to seeing him with another woman (I think they’re currently dating) he was supposed to come home but then had a “business dinner” last minute–he showed at 4am smashed out of his mind and yelled at me said horrible things and left. I have sent emails recently, some drunk, some begging, some wanting closure. But he told me he doesn’t want to see me for the “foreseeable” future. He told me to stop harassing me and basically threatened a restraining order. So, in this case does he think about me, will he ever come back. He told me he loved me more than any other woman he’s been with. When it was good it was good. Is it hopeless. I am 6 days NC.
Thank you!
Noel

Chris Seiter

April 11, 2018 at 11:26 pm

Hi Noel…it could be a rebound. Two years with you is not insignificant. I think NC was a good choice. I know it hurts right now. But things will get better for you in time, no matter how it all shakes out. I have a Private Facebook Group which helps a lot of folks. You can learn more about it if you go to my website Menu/Product section. Lots of great resources there to help you get through all this.

Destiny

April 9, 2018 at 11:25 pm

So this guy I’ve been seeing for a little over 6 months broke things off with me. He said I was clingy and although I treated him well he left me and I believe he is seeing someone else. So l did no contact for about 2 weeks. He contacted me after seeing it was an a relatives birthday and told me to tell them happy birthday. I responded very brief and said thanks. Being that he’s seeing someone else I wonder does he truly miss me even if I did chase him and do anything and everything he wanted because someone else now feels that void. After I responded thanks I haven’t heard from him and wonder if I will again

Chris Seiter

April 11, 2018 at 12:11 am

Hi Destiny. There are always options. Some time ago I created what I think is an awesome resource. It’s called Ex Recovery Pro. Full of ideas and clever strategies. Take a look. You might just need an informed blueprint to get you to the finish line. Click on my website’s Menu and pull up the “Products” Page. Explore and see if this fits your needs.
Chris Seiter

April 11, 2018 at 12:11 am

Hi Destiny. There are always options. Some time ago I created what I think is an awesome resource. It’s called Ex Recovery Pro. Full of ideas and clever strategies. Take a look. You might just need an informed blueprint to get you to the finish line. Click on my website’s Menu and pull up the “Products” Page. Explore and see if this fits your needs.

Maria

April 5, 2018 at 8:02 am

After 5 weeks of our break up, he texted me and said me that he is sorry for his behaviour and he still feel for me but dose not want me to go back to him as he know that he is not good enough for me . I send a very simple reply text. But since then he did not contacted yet. I am just thinking what is in his mind actually .

Chris Seiter

April 5, 2018 at 11:55 pm

Do you mind telling me what you texted him back exactly?
Maria

April 6, 2018 at 8:46 am

I just mentioned that I also have same feelings for him and then I wished him to be happy and positive .. that’s all
Chris Seiter

April 7, 2018 at 4:49 am

So, you essentially told him that you still have deep feelings for him and basically validated what he was reaching out for.

You’ll find men will do these reach outs to validate themselves or make themselves feel better.

Almost like a test and you basically just gave him what he was looking for.

Anon

April 3, 2018 at 2:03 am

I did 38 days of NC then he finally reached out to me last week positively and I replied quite friendly but kept it cool but he hasn’t texted since. I’m becoming the UG. If I start initiating text with tide theory, doesn’t it look like I’m chasing him? I want him to be chasing me as he’s the one who dumped me. I feel as though if he wants me back, he should be the one trying

Chris Seiter

April 4, 2018 at 12:44 am

Do you mind if I ask the exact text that you sent him.

(Give me some context too when you send it.)

Like remind me I asked you for the text b/c I will totally forget without the reminder. Answering comments is a tough business on the memory.
Anon

April 4, 2018 at 12:39 pm

Hi, so he dumped me and I did 38 days no contact. I was aiming for 45 as he’s stubborn. On day 38 he texted me saying “Did you pass your exam? Did you have a good time at hadrians wall? Congrats on employee of the month.” He must have seen all this on my Facebook even though we’re not friends. My profile is now public and I’m becoming the UG. I texted him the next day saying “Hi, I haven’t got my results yet. I didn’t get round to walking Hadrian’s Wall but I’m planning on going back :-)” he didn’t reply. And neither of us have messaged each other again. Shall I do no contact again or should I be initiating messages? I want him to be chasing me, not the other way round 🙂
Chris Seiter

April 5, 2018 at 11:03 pm

Love how you guys still find that UG post somehow.

No, I feel like you should initiate some. Remember, it doesn’t matter who starts the conversation it matters who ends them 🙂
Anon

April 6, 2018 at 5:15 am

Thank you very much for your reply. I find your messages very comforting and I’ve read so many of your articles. I’ll keep you updated 🙂
Chris Seiter

April 7, 2018 at 4:52 am

I am glad you read a lot of my articles!

Someone is still out there reading my stuff YAY!

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