Will He Come Back If You Stop Chasing Him? Yes, Here's Why

320 thoughts on “Will He Come Back If I Stop Chasing Him?”

Babs

December 12, 2017 at 10:18 pm

We broke up because he was “not ready” A few weeks of N/C and he contacted me, it took 4 days for me to get back to him, I mirrored his text. He asked me how my dance lessons were going. I told him they were going great. Then he another text of a song.. two of those. Finally I wrote him back and we texted a bit. Then, the last text was him asking to see videos of how I have progressed in my dancing. I think we both know what he really meant- he wants to see me again– physically. I have not responded because HELL-O we have broken up. Now what? I am just over this game.

EBR Team Member: Amor

December 14, 2017 at 2:44 pm

Hi babs,

How long was the relationship and how many weeks did you do nc? How much did you improve yourself and how active were you in posting?

Rakhee

December 12, 2017 at 9:10 pm

Hi.. so my ex and I were only together for 3 months. But they were so intense. He initially messaged me on instagram and that’s how we got talking. He said he’s never done that before and I gave him the benefit of the doubt. We went on our first date and he said it was the best date he had ever been on in his life (I agree). After that he chased me, he would always call and text and meet me regularly and we were so besotted with each other. After a few weeks he even asked me to be his girlfrjend officially. He spoke about wanting to marry me and have children and where we would go on holiday together. We’re both 26 so I thought we were working towards that anyway. Our families also knew and I spoke to his mum on the phone occasionally. Things were going great. But I have anxiety and depression and in hindsight I think I depended on him a little too much. He got offered a job away from home and wanted to decide without factoring me in as to wether he was going to take it or not. During the last few weeks of our relationship he was always busy working long hours and came home to spend time with his mum, and I would get mad that he never had time for me (big mistake on my part – I’m aware I was being needy but couldn’t see it at the time). Anyway, a day after the job offer we argued about the lack of time again and then he broke up with me. We tried to stay friends for the first month – he would message me a few times a week and I would reply. He would keep the conversation flowing and if it did fizzle out he would start the next one after a few days. I was going crazy watching his social media and eventually decided I couldn’t be friends and needed closure. I deleted him off my Snapchat and I deleted my Facebook and instagram accounts altogether. (He would continue to like girls pictures and it would upset me because I felt like he would start talking to one of them eventually just like he did with me). When we broke up he told me he’s being selfish and putting himself first. He was nice about it and still spoke to me all the time (just messages, he refused to meet or call). After I asked for closure and he let me ask him everything I wanted, he answered all my questions and said that having a gf you have to consider stuff, and he didn’t want that. He only wants to think about himself, go places and do things on his own. He also said he thinks we shouldn’t speak for a while and would understand if I delete him off everything. He said he didn’t know what love was but I showed it to him, and that maybe he still doesn’t know what it is, but he said he’s more inclined to say yes he did love me. But then He seemed so standoffish and cold. Like he never even cared. Anyway. We broke up 2 months ago, and it’s now been 1 month of NC and he hasn’t reached out once. His friends continue to watch my snapchat and one told me he just needs time and space to think. It’s been 2 months since he said that and now my ex seems further than ever. Do I stand any chance of getting him back, and if so how?! I genuinely feel as if he is the one for me. And I miss him so much it hurts. But I’ve stuck to the NC – I guess I had to considering how badly things ended the last time we spoke.

EBR Team Member: Amor

December 14, 2017 at 2:41 pm

Hi Rakhee,

It was a short relationship so, it’s a small chance.. And also, being active in posting during nc means doing posts that doesn’t disappear after 24 hours.
How much did you do that and how much did you improve yourself?

Luna

December 12, 2017 at 7:23 pm

Hi Amor

Surface level – means we greet say hellos – discuss kids and then odd how is work me work and that’s it.

The same goes for texting – don’t discuss much other than practical logistical stuff.

I guess that is ok even for NC but my point was I couldn’t understand how NC will work if he’s the one asking me to let go and to continue with the distance – like it’s all about if you Practise NC then usually the ex doesn’t expect it so now they miss you:

Are you saying even if he’s asked me for it and even if it doesn’t make him miss me it’s still better I do it and create even more space and even stop the odd kids logistical stuff because he’s asked for it and now I have to do it to respect his wishes ?

I guess I have to seek even more space if not to want him back purely to respect his wishes.
Rachel

December 11, 2017 at 8:37 pm

Hey EBR,
My ex-boyfriend ended things in June after 8 years together. For age reference, we began dating in high school. His reason being he needed to work on himself and he was freaking out about life. During that time I did a lot of soul-searching, got in great shape through diet and exercise, bought a car, and moved into an apartment with roommates in the city. For awhile we were distant but had the same friend group so we would run into each other often and, full disclosure, would occasionally hook up. We stayed in contact through October, at which point I actually thought things were improving as we were hanging out more and speaking more often, I was even going to his rec sports games, when he told me he was moving to a different city for a job.

I was obviously devastated but at that point I had been reading your posts for a few months and decided to start a period of no-contact. I told him I cared for him, would miss him, and wished him all the best, but I needed some time to focus on myself. He said he understood and we went a month without speaking. He eventually reached out to me a month later, asked if we could have a phone call (which we did) and we started to talk more frequently; however, I made it a goal not to give off signs of over-eagerness and I was very casual. I never mentioned getting back together but at one point I said I needed to find a date for a friend’s wedding I’m going to in May and he said ‘a lot can happen in 6 months (referring to our relationship). He came home for Thanksgiving and asked to get together for a drink, which I did. We had a great time and it was obvious how happy he was to see me. He spent the night telling me how much he missed me, all the things we would do “when” I came to visit him in his new city, how he told his friends he wanted to marry me someday, how he wants to start something new together, I’m the most amazing person he’s ever met, and that all he needs is more time to figure himself out and that he’s so terrified of commitment because of his parent’s tumultuous relationship. At one point he got choked up talking about it. He even started mentioning things he would do differently if we got back together. We did end up sleeping together (I know this is a big no-no and I know I shouldn’t have), and after the weekend ended he flew back to his current state. I should note that I still keep in touch with his mom as we are very close. She keeps asking me if I will be attending Christmas Eve.

At this point we are still talking, but it’s clear he’s still not ready for anything committed and that we will not be spending Christmas Eve together (for the first time in 7 years). At this point I don’t know if he’s completely stringing me along with all of these things he is saying, means what he says but is dragging his feet because he can, or if I need to make something happen to move this forward for the future. This is a frivolous detail, but he is also following a lot of new girls on Instagram and there is always a chance he is having a fling with someone down there.

That said, when he comes home for Christmas and possibly asks me to hang out: Do I say no? Do I start no-contact again? Do I agree but keep it strictly to a cup of coffee? Do I start no-contact again now?

EBR Team Member: Amor

December 13, 2017 at 4:27 am

Hi Rachel,

If you didn’t sleep with him, would he still be around? If you put yourself in his shoes, does it look like you’re chasing hoping for him to come back?

Lisa

December 11, 2017 at 7:39 pm

I was dating this guy for almost 2 year, we are both 27, it was the prefect realtionship he was my best friend we did everything together and have never fought, talked about the further, we were even a month away from living together. Then bam he breaks up with me out of no where with no signs either!!!…saying he’s needs to be single, thought he was ready but isn’t, only wish’s we met 2 years later… it has been a month and half. At the begging I begged for him back and asking for us to try. I noticed he was getting frustrated with that so i then just tried casual conversations.. I tried nc for a week but since I’m crazy in love with him and scared he will move on or forget about me I broke down and texted him.. which only made me sadder since he was still not seaming to have missed me … he says he can see us getting back together one day but not for a long time (ps I know he has been hooking up with different people since the break up)… do I have a change of getting him back!?? He is the love on my life

EBR Team Member: Amor

December 12, 2017 at 2:13 am

Hi Lisa,

check this one:
How To Get Your Boyfriend Back If He’s “A Player”

Renee

December 11, 2017 at 5:18 pm

Need some advice

Was dating my mate for about 4 mons and 2 mons in i made a mistake and lied to him just to see the outcome of him carrying and it back fired on me he believe If i can lye about something petty that can lye about something else so for about 2 months we’re been goin back in forward one day he’s cool the next he’s a new person one minute we moving forward next feel like we took 10 steps back so i kept pursuing hoping to get him back on the same page . Now it came a time when it seem like we were back to it i started to complain abt seeing him and about him giving me 100 cause i don’t want nothing less . I started to notice more i complain too him how i felt the more distant he became . He started ignoring my texts texts when he wanted also called when he wanted to the point i was upset cause it seem like he was dragging me i tol him he’s grown he should know what he want he like he don’t know from that conversation i didn’t hear frm him i just went cold turkey i wanted to see if he would contact me nothing after 3 days i Gave in i text him like how u act like i don’t exist he say i could say the same thing which made no sense cause he haven’t reached out so how u can say the same ? He later tells me he can’t do it my mind isn’t where it’s supposed to be which has me clueless because I’ve been nothing but on him . So i left him alone NC he contacts me 2 days later texting me lol I text back hours later wats funny he tells me he will call me i said ok . All of sudden he mentions he’s been sick i wish him well he calls few later acting like nothing happend asking me how me and daughter been , so i asked wat was the lol about he tells i seen you on fb seen ya picture i wouldn’t care if Yu had a million likes i end up telling him i was only on there to make him jealous smh he tells me what i did was wack so he’s being wack he needed to show me he wasn’t playing after hearing that i started to pour all my feelings out told him my mission is only to be with him make things better he go i hear you , only thing he says we will see moving forward seem dull to me convo ended regular he tells me to text him in the morning for him to leave me on seen while texting the next morning i thought we were good i was confused til i text him like hey mr petty he tells me i don’t get it i asked you gonna be like this forever no reply but i text he need to stop he says i don’t kno why we talking about this we talked about this already .so i try to change the convo he didn’t even reply i was hurt . So i told myself NC about 5 days later he texts me 4 am randomly we’re not fb friends so u can log back on , which was stupid cause my page was disactivated i didn’t even reply back cause i new he was tryna get to me he text few hours later saying now I’m back to my setting kinda upset me so i text briefly til he came and said if it wasn’t snowing he would tol me to come see him i replied cause he never talked that way he never text back what do i do please help

EBR Team Member: Amor

December 13, 2017 at 1:15 am

Hi Renee,
Restart the count, stick to at least 30 days because the more you restart it, the less it can help you..

K.

December 11, 2017 at 9:33 am

Hi again. Since I didn’t receive any message from him during the NC period, I decided to extend it by 15 days. I do know that the more I do NC, the less effective it is, but I made this decision based on his recent behavior and my knowledge about his personality (he’s not the one to make the first move). So last week, right after 30 days had passed, he started approaching me and talking to me (still very awkwardly) about some minor stuff. I kept being friendly and even made him follow me right after I finished talking to him and went to chat with someone else. However, he’s been acting weird this week – two days ago he just stormed out of the room after the lecture was over, but then started to walk very slowly towards the exit, as if he wanted me to catch up with him (which I didn’t). Today he ignored me completely (there was a seat next to me and he hesitated to sit down for so long that another person came in and sat there – it looked ridiculous) and, what’s worse, as I was walking out of the building, he pretended he hadn’t noticed me and didn’t say ANYTHING. What to do now? I’m confused by his fluctuating attitude. I’ve made a lot of friends since we broke up, improved myself to the point everyone has started noticing all the positive changes, and become extra active on social media.
Thanks,
K.

EBR Team Member: Amor

December 12, 2017 at 5:24 pm

Hi K,
You have to initiate conversations so, you can slowly build rapport..

Ari

December 11, 2017 at 8:52 am

Ex’s mum told us to break up because we were too close too young, refusing to let us see eachother. She doesn’t want him to have a girlfriend. He told me that he would always love me and we would try to keep close, to get me to agree with her demands. That if we were friends we would be able to see eachother. However 2 weeks later he now likes another girl (a friend who had been constantly around him during our relationship, he knows I dislike her because of this- and she likes him) Naturally I thought he had been cheating on me. After several arguments over her and the situation, he has now told me to leave him alone, and that he likes her and he has moved on, she is his new best friend and that he doesn’t like me the way he used to and things have changed. It’s been a month since we broke up, and we agreed to keep in contact with eachother every day, as he is my best friend, but recently he wants me to go away, however last week before the argument, we had planned to see eachother and when we saw eachother last week he kissed me. I’m very upset that our memories are being replaced. I really do love him. He said that he wouldn’t do any of this. Now he’s went back on everything. The other girl and my ex have said that they don’t want to start anything for now because they know what it looks like. What can I do? He said that he didn’t want to let me think that in time all this would be resolved. However I believe that we were truely meant to be together.

EBR Team Member: Amor

December 12, 2017 at 6:33 am

Hi Ari,
Check this one:
How To Win Back An Ex Who Is With Someone Else

Luna

December 11, 2017 at 6:47 am

Hi Tara

Good article – the problem is how does this work if;

1. Your ex keeps telling you he doesn’t miss you because he moved out and knows he is at peace because he feels through all your past baggage you have broken his heart and can’t trust you enough to let you back in?

2. Wants you to let him go and tells you this because he wants to ‘give you advice’ on how to move on which is the space and letting go – it’s like he won’t fold on NC because he wants me to give it to him so perhaps he can feel less guilty about me hanging on to him?

3. I can try and do this but I’m sure it will make him happy.

4. Finally we share 2 kids together so he will message to check in how they are or when he comes to fetch them for his weekend I see him and we do a bit of surface level communication – during the NC how do I avoid this? I am actually thinking of moving to another city because it’s hard doing this with him around in the same city 🙁

EBR Team Member: Amor

December 12, 2017 at 6:31 am

Hi Luna,

What do you mean about surface level communication? If it’s only about that kids that’s ok. Would you rather have him think you’re not changing and will continue to chase?

Olivia

December 11, 2017 at 12:18 am

Hi, Thanks for a great post! My boyfriend and I arent broken up yet , but we are at a “limbo stage” where he is not sure about his feelings for me anymore and we are thinking about breaking up.Would the advice from this post help? Instead of me convincing him to stay with me —- to just continue to have a lot of activities outside of him? Thanks!
Shortie Spice

December 10, 2017 at 4:08 pm

Hi Team,
We started to be friends a little more than a year ago. I just went through an ugly break-up in the middle of last July and afterwards we started to talk. He pursued me quite a lot. I was very much hesitant, because a friend of mine had a one night fling with him, but she then fell for him also. So the months went on and we met every now and then…shared long walks after work and had long hours of genuinely great conversations. One day we talked and decided to watch a movie together at my place, where the whole thing started. In the end he stayed over, but in the morning I cried with resentment because I slept with a guy my friend used to like (she then had a relationship going on with a guy for a year), but still I felt insanely crap. We agreed not to meet, but then a company Christmas party came..he begged to sleep together, I refused, but a couple of weeks later, we ended up together again, when I discovered I still was not ready for a relationship.. We talked a lot and he understood. Somehow, though, in the middle of January, he reached out to me to spend the evening together, casually. That`s when everything changed. I respected that he kept my boundaries, but at the same time I saw how he just wanted to be happy with me – and we started dating for real. I asked not to be blunt about it at work, because my used-to-be-friend made it very hard. Screamed at me and then started spreading disgusting gossip never leaving us to rest. I still was hesitant and wanted to take things very slow because of my past breakup and feeling generally afraid. I fell ill over the spring – I was in bed for 3 weeks after which we had a rough fight that ended in a panicky break-up. We both regretted it, but he had an ideology not to go back, no second chances. But we did it still and it was awesome for months, we met each others` parents and it was true bliss. Then in September a rough patch came to his life.. he started to feel out of place, he did not like his job and felt genuinely out of touch with his life. See… he is coming from a wealthy family, he has his own apartment that he got from his parents, they have a weekend house at the lake, they like to go kayaking and they have their own boat they enjoy. That`s where he spends all his summer weekends. There was a problem, though. I have a severe fear of water, I fell in deep water when I was a child and could not swim. So I asked if it was possible for the two of us to go and swim together so I can get accustomed to it in our home town, without anyone else. I was very much afraid of `not performing` well in front of his parents. After our first weekend there with his parents, his mom told me how beautiful and wealthy his last girlfriend was. I was so afraid to meet them again, especially going on a boat with a fear for my life…But when I started to overcome this, my grandmother was feeling worse and worse, we were in the midst of selling their house and moving the objects out of it. It took us four weekends with my parents. He started to feel unwell because I never joined him over the weekend to the lake, and I started to feel afraid, because he was feeling more and more tired and anxious. All I could see was he was working 10-12 hours a day, barely getting home to sleep and then immediately running to the lake just to come back even more tired. So the last weekend, I told him that it`s not okay. We need some time on our own to relax, to chill, to do –our- thing, because he by this time was totally giving up on work. There were lots of misunderstandings between us at the time, because he kept things to himself and was not really able to open up.. See, they do not really talk about hardships. Hardship is not very much known to him in terms of finances or private life. They live very freely and have everything. Then my grandmother died, my family collapsed. The sale of the apartments was still going on, my mother moved to my apartment for the working days, and I was already paying rent for my father in my apartment also. So this was a time, when he got tired of my family issues and his work issues. I tried asking him to spend time, like we did in the beginning to chill, to relax, to refresh ourselves, but we never had time .. it was a hard period for the both of us at work. But this also put stress on him once again. He felt he needed to perform in another field – in the relationship, too. And he lost it, he got overwhelmed… and so he broke up.
We work at the same company a few metres away from each other. In the first few weeks we did not talk much, then a few weeks ago we started to talk. Finally. We went through everything that caused hurt for either of us. He opened up about how he wanted me to go with him on the weekends, I opened up about my insecurities, we gained a lot of understanding. We talked about why we did not move together… he wanted me to move to his place but he never mentioned, because he felt it would be futile having my mom and dad living with me temporarily.
Then I told him I was preparing for this, my dad would be able to move.. but since he never asked me, we stayed. We talked a lot about how communication should have been better between us. And I honestly feel we have a clean slate ahead of us. Both of us know what matters for the other person now – so we can do it for the other. He is very much hesitant. He is very direct and stubborn. He says he has made a decision back then and he is defending that decision with rationalizing everything. In the past few days he has been trying to come increasingly closer to me. He comes out after me in the kitchen every time I am out. He tries to talk in person.. he even asked me out for a walk the other day. He said he wanted to kiss me, but his decision…and his parents are keeping him. He has an issue with his parents: he really wants to make up for everything he got from them and he does not want them to feel their son makes mistakes, so he is unable to stand in front of them and say just that: Okay, I gave up too early, I need this girl. We just had a Christmas party at the company yesterday. He was looking at me so much in love.. we danced, he raised me up in the air and held me, told me he knows I was right in everything and he has a lot to think of, because he made that decision for a reason back then. I asked him how much are his parents weighing in his reluctance? He said out of a scale of 10 – 25. He knows I am right, he knows there is a vision for us, but he is afraid we would break it once again. He is trying to console himself on tinder, I don`t know if he has any luck there. But I saw love and resentment in his eyes yesterday.
What can I do now? I shared the story in completeness, so you can see all our difficulties..I really love this guy. He is just hitting 30 in January. How can I help him make this final step between knowing and finally acting against the fear of his parents disapproval?I am on good terms with his friends, they all are flabbergasted, they all keep telling him this was the greatest mistake he has ever made. Do you have any suggestion? I feel he is very close, he is just very stubborn. And we cannot really do no contact since we work in the same office.Please can you help? What is my gameplan if I love this boy and have serious belief in this?
Shortie Spice

December 10, 2017 at 4:07 pm

Is it okay if I do not see the comment I posted? 🙂
Shortie Spice

December 10, 2017 at 3:52 pm

Hello there,
We started to be friends a little more than a year ago. I just went through an ugly break-up in the middle of last July and afterwards we started to talk. He pursued me quite a lot. I was very much hesitant, because a friend of mine had a one night fling with him, but she then fell for him also. So the months went on and we met every now and then…shared long walks after work and had long hours of genuinely great conversations. One day we talked and decided to watch a movie together at my place, where the whole thing started. In the end he stayed over, but in the morning I cried with resentment because I slept with a guy my friend used to like (she then had a relationship going on with a guy for a year), but still I felt insanely crap. We agreed not to meet, but then a company Christmas party came..he begged to sleep together, I refused, but a couple of weeks later, we ended up together again, when I discovered I still was not ready for a relationship.. We talked a lot and he understood. Somehow, though, in the middle of January, he reached out to me to spend the evening together, casually. That`s when everything changed. I respected that he kept my boundaries, but at the same time I saw how he just wanted to be happy with me – and we started dating for real. I asked not to be blunt about it at work, because my used-to-be-friend made it very hard. Screamed at me and then started spreading disgusting gossip never leaving us to rest. I still was hesitant and wanted to take things very slow because of my past breakup and feeling generally afraid. I fell ill over the spring – I was in bed for 3 weeks after which we had a rough fight that ended in a panicky break-up. We both regretted it, but he had an ideology not to go back, no second chances. But we did it still and it was awesome for months, we met each others` parents and it was true bliss. Then in September a rough patch came to his life.. he started to feel out of place, he did not like his job and felt genuinely out of touch with his life. See… he is coming from a wealthy family, he has his own apartment that he got from his parents, they have a weekend house at the lake, they like to go kayaking and they have their own boat they enjoy. That`s where he spends all his summer weekends. There was a problem, though. I have a severe fear of water, I fell in deep water when I was a child and could not swim. So I asked if it was possible for the two of us to go and swim together so I can get accustomed to it in our home town, without anyone else. I was very much afraid of `not performing` well in front of his parents. After our first weekend there with his parents, his mom told me how beautiful and wealthy his last girlfriend was. I was so afraid to meet them again, especially going on a boat with a fear for my life…But when I started to overcome this, my grandmother was feeling worse and worse, we were in the midst of selling their house and moving the objects out of it. It took us four weekends with my parents. He started to feel unwell because I never joined him over the weekend to the lake, and I started to feel afraid, because he was feeling more and more tired and anxious. All I could see was he was working 10-12 hours a day, barely getting home to sleep and then immediately running to the lake just to come back even more tired. So the last weekend, I told him that it`s not okay. We need some time on our own to relax, to chill, to do –our- thing, because he by this time was totally giving up on work. There were lots of misunderstandings between us at the time, because he kept things to himself and was not really able to open up.. See, they do not really talk about hardships. Hardship is not very much known to him in terms of finances or private life. They live very freely and have everything. Then my grandmother died, my family collapsed. The sale of the apartments was still going on, my mother moved to my apartment for the working days, and I was already paying rent for my father in my apartment also. So this was a time, when he got tired of my family issues and his work issues. I tried asking him to spend time, like we did in the beginning to chill, to relax, to refresh ourselves, but we never had time .. it was a hard period for the both of us at work. But this also put stress on him once again. He felt he needed to perform in another field – in the relationship, too. And he lost it, he got overwhelmed… and so he broke up.
We work at the same company a few metres away from each other. In the first few weeks we did not talk much, then a few weeks ago we started to talk. Finally. We went through everything that caused hurt for either of us. He opened up about how he wanted me to go with him on the weekends, I opened up about my insecurities, we gained a lot of understanding. We talked about why we did not move together… he wanted me to move to his place but he never mentioned, because he felt it would be futile having my mom and dad living with me temporarily.
Then I told him I was preparing for this, my dad would be able to move.. but since he never asked me, we stayed. We talked a lot about how communication should have been better between us. And I honestly feel we have a clean slate ahead of us. Both of us know what matters for the other person now – so we can do it for the other. He is very much hesitant. He is very direct and stubborn. He says he has made a decision back then and he is defending that decision with rationalizing everything. In the past few days he has been trying to come increasingly closer to me. He comes out after me in the kitchen every time I am out. He tries to talk in person.. he even asked me out for a walk the other day. He said he wanted to kiss me, but his decision…and his parents are keeping him. He has an issue with his parents: he really wants to make up for everything he got from them and he does not want them to feel their son makes mistakes, so he is unable to stand in front of them and say just that: Okay, I gave up too early, I need this girl. We just had a Christmas party at the company yesterday. He was looking at me so much in love.. we danced, he raised me up in the air and held me, told me he knows I was right in everything and he has a lot to think of, because he made that decision for a reason back then. I asked him how much are his parents weighing in his reluctance? He said out of a scale of 10 – 25. He knows I am right, he knows there is a vision for us, but he is afraid we would break it once again. He is trying to console himself on tinder, I don`t know if he has any luck there. But I saw love and resentment in his eyes yesterday.

What can I do now? I shared the story in completeness, so you can see all our difficulties..I really love this guy. He is just hitting 30 in January. How can I help him make this final step between knowing and finally acting against the fear of his parents disapproval?
I am on good terms with his friends, they all are flabbergasted, they all keep telling him this was the greatest mistake he has ever made. Do you have any suggestion? I feel he is very close, he is just very stubborn. And we cannot really do no contact since we work in the same office.
Please can you help? What is my gameplan if I love this boy and have serious belief in this?
Rishika Sinha

December 10, 2017 at 7:43 am

Hello!!
So i was dumped a month and a half ago. We both wanted to be together forever and it felt like true love. However I started arguing a lot and he didn’t like it, he eventually said he couldn’t take it anymore.

For two weeks since the breakup I texted him and he replied, he did miss me a lot. I decided to do no contact and told him I’ll be busy for a while. I did no contact for two weeks then it was broken cause I stupidly decided to follow some girls he was following on Instagram. He called and told me not to. I still did it and he said I annoyed him and he blocked me on Instagram, the last social media platform I wasn’t blocked on. He still kept my number. I called and apologised and acted desperate promising to change etc. Didn’t work. I realised that the reason for the breakup was due to my depression. So I started improving myself, I texted him to call me so we could discuss about me going to church for the first time. He is Christian and I used to be a non-believer. He helped me out a lot and immediately called me. We texted a bit afterwards and then I again implemented no contact. 2 days in, i get an ‘accidental’ text from him which I know is faked as he said he meant to send it to his brother, who has a completely different name than mine and also has a picture of him next to his name on my ex’s phone. I replied saying “sorry what?” And he said it was for his bro, I knew I shouldn’t talk long so I said alguds and ended it there with it. It’s been 5 days since that and I haven’t got anything else.
Since I am not on his social media I know he’ll really miss me now. After the breakup he talked to me everyday and liked my posts. I am going out and having fun, getting over my depression that stemmed from some childhood bullying. I made a new public Instagram so anyone can see that and am putting happy motivating pics there encouraging people to be happy and healthy. Which I know he’ll love. I plan to wish him merry Christmas and on 2nd jan happy New Years on instagram message so he’ll see my new public account.

EBR Team Member: Amor

December 12, 2017 at 4:35 am

Hi Rishika,

if he texts again, don’t reply because that means you’ll have to restart the count again.

Susan

December 10, 2017 at 1:58 am

My ex of 3 yrs and I have had a rough year, in the spring he decided to be “the dad to his cousins baby” (sperm donor via aspiration behind his vasectomy.) He told me his plan, I got no input. I was not agreeable to it. We broke up got back together & have gotten through it. Now 8 months later I asked him for clarity on where our relationship is headed. The plan has always to have a future together. Now he can’t see himself married to me. He has cheated on me before and is showing similar signs he is again but I have no proof. We mutually agreed to break up. This is not what I want. From the day I met him I have felt I would take care of him & we would be together until death. This is a bit of our story but missing a lot of details. I do not know what to do at this point.

EBR Team Member: Amor

December 12, 2017 at 2:14 am

Hi Susan,

check this one:
EBR 056: My Ex Boyfriend Cheated On Me Multiple Times… What Do I Do?

lisa

December 10, 2017 at 1:06 am

I was in a two year relationship (both in our late 20’s), prefect relationship no fighting we were best of friends. Talkin about the future and a month away from living together. Then out of no where, bam! Broke up with me! Told me he wasn’t ready for a serious relationship and needed to be single for a few years… I already know he Is back to his player life style..I was destroyed. I begged for us to try. He got frustrated, then went to small talk because I was scared he would forget about me! .. I am now a week into no contact, but it’s killing me! Do I have a shot of getting him back?!

EBR Team Member: Amor

December 12, 2017 at 2:13 am

Hi Lisa,

check this one:
How To Get Your Boyfriend Back If He’s “A Player”

Melissa

December 9, 2017 at 9:46 pm

My ex and I split about 2 months ago after 4 years. This is after being separated for 13 years. Yes, we were together before and we have a son who is 17. My ex never gave up on getting me back, not even when he was married for 7 years. That being said, we got back together 4 years ago. Now been apart for 2 months after he got extremely intoxicated and violent one night. This isn’t like him. Needless to say, he ended up in jail and is now going through court stuff. He blames me for it all. We weren’t allowed to even talk for a month and now we can have contact by text. A few weeks ago he told me that I forced him to make a decision about us although I didn’t. At that point he told me that he needs to move on. I never wanted it to end. I just wanted him to get help for his drinking problem. I love him so much and I’m not the same without him. I seriously feel like I’m dying from a broken heart. We text every now and then just casual. Is it really that easy for him to walk away after all the time he spent to bring me back in his life?? Does he really feel nothing at all?

EBR Team Member: Amor

December 12, 2017 at 2:07 am

Hi Melissa,

is he still in jail? If not, where is he now? Do you still see him when he sees his son?

Mia

December 9, 2017 at 9:20 pm

Before we broke up almost 2 weeks ago, I had preordered a new phone and had it shipped to his apartment since deliveries are signed for at the leasing office.i forgot all about it. i just got notification yesterday that the order was shipped. I asked my friend to contact him about bringing the phone to her. She did but she also added on (which I did not say) that I wanted anything else that might be at his place. Should I just let her get my items or should I contact him directly especially because it’s a brand new cell phone? Not sure what to do and if having her contact was the best thing. He broke up with me (2nd time in a year)because he felt he couldn’t make me happy, I should find someone else, and he’s not emotionally available like I deserve.

EBR Team Member: Amor

December 12, 2017 at 2:09 am

Hi Mia,

did you talk to him?

Michelle

December 9, 2017 at 3:24 pm

I saw my ex at a friend’s wedding during no contact. I chose to not care about it and was having fun with my friends. Suddenly he came and asked me what’s up. I kept it casual and said I’m good. He came few minutes later and said why are you ignoring me are you angry with me or something? I said why would I be angry and went subtly tp talk to other friends. He then tried talking again and again and I kept the conversation very short. Does that mean no contact is working? I was very calm and confident the whole time.
He seems to be a little upset after a while..

EBR Team Member: Amor

December 12, 2017 at 2:01 am

Hi Michelle,

yup, it is..

Kellie

December 9, 2017 at 3:02 pm

My ex got into school me we started fighting more and he became interested in other girls he broke up with me but said he was still hopeful about us in the future, I became very depressed and begged and tried to show him how much I loved him for 2 months and now he has moved on and hates me, he told me to talk to someone else and get over him bc he doesn’t care anymore

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