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923 thoughts on “You Desperately Begged For Him Back And Failed… I’m Here To Fix That”

  1. Katherine

    May 31, 2016 at 7:06 pm

    Hi so we have been broken up for 3 months and it was a bad break up mostly because I never saw it coming. It literally was the last thing me and everyone who knew us saw. He just decided he didn’t want to do long distance so my begging was more just saying how we could make the long distance work. We talked throughout the last three months because he wanted to and so did I. We did fight often but always moved on and still talked greatly and he would tell me he missed me. I brought something up to him last week and he got mad at me and was kinda mean and so I said some desperate things because I didn’t know how to react to him. Anyways, our relationship was great and he always said how perfect I was and how happy I made him. He even told me we would stay together so as you can understand why I was completely blind sided, because he basically told me he would never do it. I feel like Ive completely blown it and I am so mad at myself but throughout the break up he gave me so many mixed signals I thought us talking would help not hinder. I haven’t reached out to him since our little fight last week and don’t plan to until he wants to talk to me. He told me he wish the circumstances were different so we didnt have to break up and nice things like that to where I think its understandable why I thought begging would be ok because it seemed like he just needed that little push because the break up obviously was really hard on him to. He seems a lot better now and I think he may be over me and its probably because I was desperate a few times. I just am hoping that since he seemed to miss me because he said he did and what not, that I haven’t completely scared him away. We were together 2 + years. He said if we were ever in the same city again he would be ok with dating but that was a few weeks after our break up and so I may have messed up after that.

    1. EBR Team Member: Amor

      June 1, 2016 at 12:59 am

      Hi Katherine,

      so you’ve tried to like show him that it will work by staying to talk but there was no attraction because you were like, always begging during the three months. It’s time to try nc now, tell him you need space to heal and hope that he understands and then do nc.

  2. Lila

    May 27, 2016 at 5:54 am

    please help me, I’ve been with this guy for a year and a half, we lived together. he broke up with me and said he doesn’t love me anymore.I begged toooo much. he is seeing someone else. what should I do. I can’t stand it I’m going crazy

    1. EBR Team Member: Amor

      May 30, 2016 at 4:36 am

      Hi Lila,

      when did you broke up? and are you in nc now?

  3. Alexis

    May 25, 2016 at 5:38 pm

    Hi, so last year at the end of may I went on a date with a guy from my home town that I knew of but never really thought about until after I graduated from high school. We hit it off immediately, my family loved him and I was beginning to fall in love with him too. Sometimes we would get into arguments about silly things such as communicating a bit more. Nothing to extreme that would make us want to break up. Then he finally got a dream job that he had been wanting for a long time…but the job required for him to move to another state away and he would be 3 hrs away from me. I was scared and nervous, but I knew I had to support him so that way he could succeed with his new job. It was hard because instead of him being 10 mins away he was not 3 hours. But we made the best of it as we could, so days were a bit more challenging then others. I’m in college and so I was already trying to juggle school, family, work and having my relationship. 2 weeks before our 1 year anniversary he dumped me over Skype…my heart was torn because I had no idea why he wanted to break up, when we were just talking about our anniversary plans and even having the summer together with me to visit. Sadly I did not make it better by begging him to reconsider, and texting him every other day just to get him to talk to me. So I finally decided to try to find a way to get him back..because we were really in love, and he would always just look at me in this way that makes a woman feel beautiful and amazing inside. It has been a month since he dumped me…and I found you guys while I was looking for a solution, I couldn’t believe that there was something I could do to get him back…So I decided to buy the book and begin the NC rule so far it has only been 5 days…and I am hoping that it will get easier…i have not texted in any shape or form…it’s just sometimes its hard when I have had all of that contact with a “good morning” text and a “goodnight” text every single day. I also have been taking into advice on working on myself, I brush my teeth more, working on controlling the acne thanks to the break and stress of college lol. I even been going to the gym, just to feel good again about my body. I just wanted to say thank you helping me get started because I was really depressed and could’t eat or sleep right because I missed him so much. But now I am ready to get myself back the one he feel in love with…the strong and independent girl who intimidated him in high school. I don’t I just feel like everyone else around me is so negative about this break up…and they all want me to be angry and hate him…but I can’t because I know him and I know the person he is right now is not the person i fell in love with. I just want to be the strong me again, and to also have the one person who truly made me happy in this world again back into my life.

    1. EBR Team Member: Amor

      May 27, 2016 at 1:14 pm

      Hi Alexis,

      thank you for purchasing the books. I’m happy you’re feeling better. You’re still early in the no contact period so stay strong. Let’s hope he misses you after it or messages you during it to get back with you. Try to do new things to meet new people.

  4. ANNE

    May 24, 2016 at 7:24 am

    Hi! My boyfriend and I broke up a month ago. He said that I’m too demanding and he doesn’t want to be with me anymore. I begged him to come back to me multiple times but he just told me to stop and would just ignore my messages. He blocked me on all Social Networking Sites and also blocked my number on his phone. I tried NC for a week but I texted him when I learned that he is already flirting with other girls. But I really want him back. Do I still have a chance?

    1. EBR Team Member: Amor

      May 27, 2016 at 6:32 am

      Hi Anne,

      one week is too short, try 45 days and be sure to aim to be the ungettable girl, let him see that you’re moving on so that he would be open to talking again.

  5. Sonja

    May 23, 2016 at 11:24 am

    Give up forever? How can I convince him of the contrary? Go long no contact and move on without movingo on.
    What do u think?

    1. EBR Team Member: Amor

      May 26, 2016 at 6:29 pm

      You can try that if you want.. but be sure to reallg improve yourself during no contact and maintain hat after

  6. Cosmo

    May 11, 2016 at 12:38 am

    Kindly help me, I have been with a guy for four months who loves his mom so much, this guy doesn’t like communicating at all. He broke up with me then begged for him for a week. He kept me hanging on a bridge for 1week already, when he learned that i went Out of town, he kept pushing me to other guys and told me that he hopes that I could find his replacement. We rarely text but we still use our endearment.. when I ask him if he loves me, he doesnt like to answer it because he said that I might misinterpret it. He doesn’t really know what to do. He still remains in contact and updates me where he is in the morning.. I don’t know if I should give up this guy.. His birthday is soon, i dont even know if i should greet him. I want him back but I think I’ve done a lot of begging. His last text to me is he agrees that we need to distant ourselves from each other.

    1. EBR Team Member: Amor

      May 15, 2016 at 12:46 am

      Hi Cosmo,

      Honestly, he sounds like he doesn’t love you.. If I were you I’ll move on.. but if you really want to try.. at least do no contact first and focus on yourself only so you can heal and reflect and improve.

  7. Sonja

    May 10, 2016 at 7:39 am

    Hi.

    I did no contact for 6 weeks, I send him a text message and told me that for now he didnt want any contact with him. He also told me not to think about him anymore and that maybe after some time we could be friends. Should I give up?

    1. EBR Team Member: Amor

      May 10, 2016 at 10:26 am

      Hi Sonja,

      it’s better if you do.. he sees your moves as you wanting to get him back..

  8. Mireia

    May 9, 2016 at 9:04 am

    Hi, my boyfriend brokeup with me 3 months ago, we was together for almost 3 years always together, we travel and work together around the world.
    We had fights one of the reasons i become gelous.
    We didnt went back to our countries for all this time so when we decide to get back ( he is from france i am from spain) after a month in France he brokeup with me.
    I was so down i couldnt sleep or eat, after 20 days i told him to meet and he agree and we spend an amazing weekend together but he still firm in not going back together.
    It was so hard for me so i decide to leave to thailand. We didnt talk for the first weeks after he contact me he was very sad missing me and he start thinking to come thailand to see me, but when i started to be nice to him he was gone, he tell me to leave him alone so for 3 weeks i didnt texted him, after this i ask him how are u? He told me he doesnt love me anymore.
    Do i have a chance to have him back? He doesnt have facebook or anything like that so your book can work on my situation?
    Thanks a lot!

    1. EBR Team Member: Amor

      May 9, 2016 at 4:59 pm

      Hi Mireia,

      he can still your account even if he doesn’t have a social media account, so take that chance.. but other than that, if you’re going to do nc.. don’t take him right back ahead after it… make him work for it so, that he’ll value more..

  9. Mary

    May 7, 2016 at 2:02 am

    Hi there.
    My boyfriend told me I was “needy” and I had “unhealthy expectations of him.” I responded angrily and he kept saying he loved me and wanted to fix it and work on it so we could “be better together.” He started ignoring me and then the next day called and broke up with me over the phone. We skyped that night (he lives an hour away) and he cried as I spoke and he spoke. I asked if I had a chance in hell of ever being with him again and he said no. Our one year is in two weeks. That morning, before he said all of that, he surprised me with a date and flowers before work. Everything was great. I messaged him a few times, and only today have started No Contact. He ignores me a lot. When he replies, it’s either really nice (referring to inside jokes we once had, “I don’t hate you, I promise that.” “I miss my best friend, too.”) or it’s really cold (“I care and love about you but I don’t want to be with you.” “My life doesn’t revolve around you and our relationship anymore.”) His reasons for the break-up were: 1. You’re controlling and manipulative. 2. I can’t be your rock anymore. 3. I need to find myself. I keep asking if he’s ready to talk (we need to exchange things) but he always says, “I’m not ready to talk and I’m sorry I’m not. I need time to heal and I can’t do that if we’re talking.” We’re young-both 21. There’s been some drama with his parents putting ideas into his head- specifically reason 1 & 2. We were going to move in together and I’m left being very confused. One day I was so desperate for someone to talk to, I texted him. He replied, “Sorry… I’m at work.” But each time he was on break he responded. I feel like he’s sending me a lot of mixed signals. Today on Skype he posted a new status message, “happy for summer fun and relaxation!” It broke my heart. He said, “I’ll have answers for you eventually, I promise that.” I’ve begged him time and time again to talk to me, to give me a chance to fix it. I can relax. I can take care of myself. I can give him more space. The first time he actually ever said anything was that night.

    Should I continue with NC? It’s so hard… What do you think of the situation?

    1. Mary

      May 7, 2016 at 2:03 am

      I once asked if things were easy for him. He said, “I still love and care about you. That’s what makes this hard for me. But I don’t want to be with you.”

    2. EBR Team Member: Amor

      May 8, 2016 at 6:12 pm

      Hi Mary,

      instead of asking him or telling him, show him.. do nc and work on being independent and having your own life.. aim to be the ungettable girl. Do it for at least 30 days.. and after that continue with the activities you’ve started and the new routine you’ve made while rebuilding rapport with him.

  10. Mari

    April 25, 2016 at 7:38 pm

    My bf and I just broke up officially yesterday. He has been cheating on me. We have a slightly long distance relationship and he still lives with his parents. They hate me so they refuse to let me come visit him.

    He has been cheating with his ex this last month and lying about it. I’m sure this is the first time he has cheated on me, even his best friend is shocked.

    I understand she lives closer to him and he told me he needed sexual gratification since we have been fighting a lot lately and can’t see each other because of his parents.

    So this ex he is cheating with contacted me, telling me to leave him alone, she loves him. He told me they weren’t dating yet and it’s just about sex for him.

    We are still kind of talking, he doesn’t know how he feels and she is still in his life. He hasn’t slept with her again so far but that’s only because he feels a bit sick. He probably will continue doing it.

    I am hurting really badly. I can’t stop crying, I can’t eat or sleep. I don’t have a job yet to keep me busy. I have nothing now.

    I really want him back. I really do love him. But I don’t know what to do. I’ve thought about changing my number and doing the no contact rule.

    I’m just afraid he’ll completely move on with her if I do NC, if he hasn’t already completely moved on from me.

    I want him back, he is my first real bf and I thought he was the love of my life. I gave EVERYTHING to him. I’m only 20, he’s 32, we’ve been together 2 years. He’s been a part of my day for 2 years.

    Please help me.

    1. EBR Team Member: Amor

      April 27, 2016 at 6:10 am

      Hi Mari,

      you’re young.. you should be more focus in improving yourself and growing aspects in your life.. He’s old enough to stand up for himself and yet he’s being irresponsible.. You should level up your standards. You deserve better than him.

  11. Virginia

    April 24, 2016 at 10:22 pm

    Hi,

    My boyfriend of a year and a half broke up with me over text almost a month ago. I begged him to reconsider but he said that while he still loves me, he isn’t in love with me anymore. He said that he had been lying about trying to make it work between us. We lived together for a year, and I think things might have gotten a little lazy and complacent. He hasn’t explained much of what about living with me he didn’t like, but we are supposed to meet for a talk soon. I’m thinking of asking him to reconsider starting over then, even though he seems like he doesn’t want to be with me anymore. He explained that he wasn’t happy with himself or in the relationship, and needed time to work on himself, without me there. I’m not sure what else I can do to remind him of how much we loved each other. He wanted to marry me at one point and we talked about our future together. We work together so the no contact thing is a little too hard to do without directly ignoring him. He hasn’t blocked me or anything.

    1. EBR Team Member: Amor

      April 26, 2016 at 6:01 pm

      Hi Virginia,

      you live together and work together? Looks like, you’re always around each other so there was no “me” time am I right? When you talk look your best and be calm.. try to propose solutions but be prepared if he doesn’t want to get back.

  12. Elisa

    April 19, 2016 at 9:38 pm

    Hi,
    My ex boyfriend broke up with me 4 months ago because he didn’t have strong love feelings for me anymore (we were together for 4 years) during the last months together it felt like we didn’t have that strong connection anymore but I thought it would come back. He slowly distanced himself during the last months and told me he thought about it for about a month and realized he didn’t love me anymore but liked me a lot and that I was very important to him. Now we still talk as friends but he is still distant. I told him I respect his decision because it would be egoist to keep him in a relationship that doesn’t make him happy. I miss that connection we had in the beginning when we were so cute together and had fun. Now I feel like he won’t open to me very much.

    1. Elisa

      June 1, 2016 at 5:49 pm

      Thanks for the link, the article was very helpful. Since we are not together anymore, we probably won’t see eachother more than once or twice a year because we only go back to our home town during holidays and my parents don’t live there anymore, so I just go back to visit my friends once or twice a year. When I left the town he told me we can text and skype to stay in touch. So should I just do 30 days NC and then text him back?

    2. EBR Team Member: Amor

      June 11, 2016 at 2:22 pm

      try 30 days and if you feel you need to extend to 45 that’s ok.

    3. Elisa

      May 27, 2016 at 11:17 am

      On vacation we talked a lot and he really opened to me the whole time. We even spent a few days just the two of us sightseeing and it felt like we were good old friends. One night, after a few drinks we slept together and agreed later not to tell anyone even though we don’t regret it. After that we kept behaving like normal good friends and didn’t bring the topic anymore. What should I do now that we are both in our own cities (we study far away from each other but still text or write emails) ?

    4. EBR Team Member: Amor

      May 30, 2016 at 6:05 am

      ok.. when would be the next probable time that you would neet again?
      I think you should read this post
      EBR 018: I Hooked Up With My Ex… Now What?

    5. Elisa

      April 23, 2016 at 3:25 am

      I didn’t realize it before but maybe it got boring, we both stopped flirting together or having cute attentions for each other. For no contact, we are going on a vacation with common friends in 2 weeks. Should I do no contact after the vacation? I don’t want to ruin everyone’s vacation because I’m not talking to him. Or will it be too late?
      About taking care of me, I’ve been doing it for the last 2 months and spending a lot of time with new friends.

    6. EBR Team Member: Amor

      April 23, 2016 at 2:42 pm

      HI Elisa,

      I think it’s better if you start after it but for now, keep your distance, don’t initiate but since you’re not in nc yet, try to take the opportunity to build rapport if he texts..

    7. EBR Team Member: Amor

      April 21, 2016 at 2:05 pm

      Hi Elisa,

      Did the relationship got boring? Do you want to try no contact? If you do, focus on doing new things by yourself and with friends.. do what you’ve always been putting off and improve yourself physically and emotionally.

  13. Tanya

    April 18, 2016 at 11:48 am

    Hi, we met on tinder, talked for a month, agreed exclusivity and met in person. We dated for another month. We both had trust issues with other but didn’t let know each other. We didn’t talk much between the dates but had lovely time every time and spoke about potential future. I wasn’t his gf as we didn’t have sex (his explanation). For 3 weeks we were both on tinder while dating, then one day I pointed out he was more time online there than talking to me. He said he deleted it thereafter. I didn’t delete mine as I didn’t believe he deleted his and wanted to find a way to check him there. So I just changed mine to ‘looking for friends’ and I indeed was thinking to have just general chats there (as in the previous 3 weeks as I didn’t look for replacement). I had major stress going on though and merely checked it few times, couldn’t figure out how to check him there, and altogether forgot to delete it. A day after our last date he texted me if I had chatted to other guys. I answered I let guys know about my bf. He was angry and stated I was on tinder still. I explained it was all for general, social chats, friendly chats without intention to date plus I meant I said to my male friends about him. He didn’t want to talk further. Then I made major mistake of sending him sorry card, explanations, song on the very next day. Finally asked him are we going to talk or that was it. He didn’t reply for more than a day, I felt unwanted, panicked and I was sure it was over so I sent him good bye letter, unfriended him on fb and went back on tinder to push myself to forget all the pain. He didn’t reply to the good bye too. Then after nearly a day I asked him was there a chance to fix. He said no as I ‘wasn’t loyal’ and I was again on tinder. He said I was lying as nobody is on tinder for just general chats. I promised I would never do it again, he responded to move on and go back on tinder as guys would be happy to date me. I replied I didn’t want men and would focus on myself. He didn’t say anything. Few days later sent him a letter feedback on our ‘non relationship’ that it was lovely but we needed to talk more plus I confronted him too about single girls on his fb added after me. Then few days later sent him apology for everything, positive note that we were a lovely couple and that I never meant to break up with him but felt insecure and unwanted. He read it, no response. Now is 2 weeks since the break up and my 2nd day of no contact. I’m not sure if I have to ever contact him as I was so much rejected. What do you think I should do? I like him but he seems quite stubborn to forgive. Thanks

    1. EBR Team Member: Amor

      April 18, 2016 at 4:18 pm

      Hi Tanya,

      I don’t know if you message before but you sound familiar.. for me you should move on..because you don’t even know him personally.. there are better guys

  14. Melissa

    April 17, 2016 at 5:22 pm

    Hi,

    me and my boyfriend met at college and moved in together for the final 2 years. we were together for 3 and a half years however he has always made stupid mistakes like texting other girls and lying about it then getting caught. After every time he apologized and said they were just friends every time. His lying made me insecure where I would not trust him with certain people (every time he went out with his best mate who was a childhood friend he would do stupid things and get drunk getting a girls number). So he stopped doing certain things and going out with certain people because he knew I didnt like it as he always made me feel insecure by the lies but i was never controlling at the start. Recently we have been planning a future together and him moving close to me as he lives 3 hours away and every time in person it is perfect with us. However one weekend after he lied again i needed space and he met a new girl then dumped me 3 days later. He said he hasnt been happy for long as he feels too controlled and restricted which has made him want a new girl. After this I begged for another chance and we spoke about trust and clearing boundaries and we were back together. The day after, we were perfect he kept telling me he loved me and im beautiful and we had amazing sex where he kept telling me he loves me. he also said how his dream is to move closer to me and be with me and no one will ever replace me. He then dumped me once he left on text because i questioned where he was because I know he was with the girl he met that weekend and now we havent spoken since as I did not respond. I dont understand why he said those things to me if he was still going to see that girl once he left me and continue to lie after I gave all my trust again. I know he is really easily manipulated and is always getting bad advice which may have encouraged him to finish with me. What do I do I love him so much and I know he felt it too but I dont understand why and I just want him back. Please help how I can do this as it is also a long distance relationship.

    1. EBR Team Member: Amor

      April 18, 2016 at 1:35 pm

      Hi Melissa,

      it’s easy to say things but what’s more important is what he does.. if he really loves you he wouldn’t go out with the both of you.. he’s a grown up man.. if he really loves you he should stand by you only

  15. Catherine

    April 15, 2016 at 7:57 am

    Hi,

    Me and my ex were together for nearly 3 years and split up 3 months ago. We mainly split up because when we were together we would argue a lot about stupid stuff and I guess that arguing got to him because one night he moved out but there was never any cheating. At first I tried to keep busy but we would keep in contact and kept meeting up. He kept saying he would move back in but then at the last minute he would change his mind. This was mostly as a result of arguments over a new work friend who my ex decided he didn’t like simply because it was a guy, but my work friend is just a friend and nothing else, he was someone also going through a break up and we would just support each other. After 2 months of my ex coming and going and messing me about I decided enough was enough and ignored him for a few weeks. I really missed him so I got in touch with him but he said that all he wanted was friendship and wanted to move on and that I had waited too long to try and get back with him. So I made the usual mistakes started begging for him back etc. He would arrange to meet me and then cancel at the last minuted which drove me crazy. I still really love him and don’t know what to do.

    1. EBR Team Member: Amor

      April 18, 2016 at 2:26 am

      Hi Catherine,

      do you want to try no contact as a last resort?

  16. Nadia Wille

    April 12, 2016 at 6:39 am

    Hey. So about a month ago I cheated on my boyfriend with 3 people while I was drunk. He studies in a different country and I am still in school so it ldr. We were dating for a year and 9months. Post the break up we talked everyday and majority of the conversation involved me begging him back. I asked him if we could try and fix things and he said yes but he needs time to trust me. Yesterday I Made a joke about cheating on him and he said wow you actually cheated on me. He got very upset and said he still can’t believe it. Then he said he needs time to think. I panicked and begged him back again. He hasn’t read the messages yet. But what do I do? He was my first and I really do not want to lose him. He is different than other guys. Please help me. I’m desperate

    1. EBR Team Member: Amor

      April 13, 2016 at 8:42 pm

      Hi Nadia,

      When a person has trust issues, never ever play with it because in the first place he doesn’t trust you, he will believe the worse part of it. You have to be patient and you can’t make any move that will make him jealous because he will use that to justify that he right not trusting you.. Give him time. Check this blog post out, it’s more appropriate for you.

      EBR 020- How To Get Your Ex Boyfriend Back If YOU Cheated

  17. squ4l1

    April 9, 2016 at 1:35 am

    Hi Chris,

    I texted my ex after 30 days no contact, “I miss you. you suck.” They replied back “I’ve thought about you a million and one times. I’ve texted you and then deleted them. How are you?”

    What steps do I take from here? I don’t know what to say since I got a positive response from a pretty negative initial contact on my part.

    I’ve done a lot in my no contact period, been doing fun things with friends, got a new job, been working out, and really improving myself.

    I still want them back though.

    Thanks for listening.

    1. EBR Team Member: Amor

      April 9, 2016 at 1:50 pm

      Hi squ4l1,

      actually you’re message was positive because you said you missed him..

  18. lauren

    April 8, 2016 at 8:36 pm

    hi so my boyfriend broke up with me march 1st, we dated for about 11 months and it was good until maybe 7/8 months in. we began to fight a lot over stupid things and never resolved our problems. he broke up with me because he said he was losing feelings. I was stupid and contacted him 3 times since we broke up. I wished him luck on his game, I tried to act normal like we were friends but it just ended into another argument about our relationship and the last time was a few days ago. I sent him a long message about my feelings and stuff and he replied saying that he doesn’t think were meant to be and that his feelings weren’t going to come back to what they were like. today is my birthday so he texted me saying happy birthday but I ignored it. should I stay out of contact for 30 or 45 days? or am I out of luck? thank you.

    1. Lauren

      April 16, 2016 at 8:21 pm

      Also I have been improving on myself, with my school work, I joined a gym, and I’ve become more positive about life

    2. EBR Team Member: Amor

      April 18, 2016 at 6:41 am

      it’s ok to initiate after no contact, even if he didn’t message you during it.

    3. Lauren

      April 16, 2016 at 8:11 pm

      Okay thank you. What if I get no contact from him in these 30 days? Do I take the initiative and contact him or just continue no contact ?

    4. EBR Team Member: Amor

      April 9, 2016 at 9:34 am

      Hi Lauren,

      if you want try 30 days, but be active..don’t just not contact him focus on yourself to improve and be more emotionally independent

  19. Kait

    April 8, 2016 at 12:13 pm

    Hi, me and my ex split up Sunday after a stupid row. I said some things I didn’t mean, I admit I was out of order, but he said horrible things too. He said he doesn’t love me and hasn’t in months and he hates the person I am. He looked me in the eyes and said he doesn’t love me and he also said he doesn’t want me there, so I went home in tears. Saturday(the day before we broke up) we slept together and when I asked him why he’d slept with me if he didn’t love me he said because it feels good. I was on this website back in November after we broke up and I managed to get him back the next month. He didn’t text me as all, he’d ignore my texts and he’d avoid any place he know i’d be. He’s doing exactly that all over again 🙁 Do I stand a chance at getting him back again? or have I completely blown it. I haven’t heard from him at all since the break up and I haven’t text him either. We usually see each other weekends (we live 2 hours apart) and this is the first weekend in months I haven’t seen him for. I didn’t want to text him today incase he thought I was doing it just so I can see him.. He’s been non stop gaming with his guy friends since the break up. He’s said before he doesn’t love me and hasn’t in months and also said he only got back with me because I made him. When I said to him why don’t you just block me if you feel that way, he just said why would I go to that much effort and how any normal person would just accept it and move on, but he’s really confusing as he does things that make me think he does love me. Last time we split in November he brought me something on one of my favourite games. Also for Christmas he brought me a pandora bracelet with a teddy bear charm which said I love you on it. And recently about two weeks ago we both started playing a game together and he brought membership on there for me. Why would he do that if he didn’t love me? I’m just so confused and don’t know what to believe. Someone please help me.. I’m scared I’ve completely blown my chances and that he won’t reply if I text him and if I do he’ll say his minds made up. I love this guy more than anything 🙁

    1. Kait

      April 9, 2016 at 3:21 pm

      Thanks for reply.. he rang me this morning and it rang once and then it ended. I made the mistake of texting him back saying ‘sorry I missed your call, was it important?’ but he hasn’t replied.. I’m confused why he’d rang me. Do you think it was an accident or he wanted to say something but chickened out?

    2. EBR Team Member: Amor

      April 10, 2016 at 5:26 am

      it’s hard to tell but if it’s really important, he would text it.

    3. EBR Team Member: Amor

      April 9, 2016 at 7:12 am

      Hi Kait,

      lookw like you’re a young couple and that means you’re still emotionally immature.. Maybe he said that out of emotion too.. this time, try to aim.to be more independent.. it’s really hard but if he said you only made him come back, then it’s better to just move on because he will just think you’re chasing him again if you contact him

  20. Au

    April 5, 2016 at 8:35 am

    Hello,
    Today is 2nd day after our break up. My ex and I have been together for almost 11months.We fought quite a lot for the past 2 months. He wanted to break up with me but he didn’t have the guts to do it therefore he asked for it 2 days ago.

    Before we broke up,we met almost everyday.We would meet during lunch or after school and we would accompany each other at work. We have not been separated for more than 3 days until he went for his Taiwan trip. He went on this school trip for 1 week and 3 of his classmates followed him too. He was close to this girl during the trip and this girl is his current classmate and his future classmate too. When he came back from Taiwan,we haven’t met at all. I found out that he was close to this girl and we argue quite a lot. I forced him to unfollow her on social media etc but he wouldn’t give in. He keeps repeating that he treats this girl as a friend.

    On that night,he want to break up with me cause he wanna stop his temptations and addictions.(He feels guilty every time he hug/kiss me etc and he feels that its the right moment to break up). We’ve been trying to stop that habit since day 1 however it failed. He broke up with me because of that and im not sure if there are other reasons(I really hope its not because of the girl).
    The next day,we coincidentally met and I could feel that he still loves me. The way he look at me,the way he touches my sleeves etc. He said that he still cares for me and still love me however he want to stop touching me and he thinks the only solution is to break up. He said that even though we are friends now,he will hang out,study together,eat etc with me when he can.

    I’ve came across this website today and I haven’t tried the NC. I’ll do it once we are done with our chalet.

    I tried to convince him to come back and its just a small problem etc but he still insist on breaking up with me because he wants to stop touching me and he did it for the sake of my happiness.

    He said that he will get jealous if he sees other guy hanging out with me etc and we were talking about getting married in another 9 years and we promise each other not to break up.

    What should i do? Do I have chance even though he may have feelings for this girl?

    1. Au

      April 6, 2016 at 2:07 am

      But what if the real reason is because he don’t wanna touch me again therefore he have to stay away from me to stop himself from touching me?

      He said that he don’t hate me/dislike me. We don’t mind meeting up in the future but he is not sure if we can be together again in the future.

    2. EBR Team Member: Amor

      April 5, 2016 at 11:10 am

      Hi Au,

      if the real reason is the girl, it .ay be harder..but him going to be jealous is a good sign

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